I had a similar thing happen and I started to realize how stupid Inhad been and a little panic set in. I said “hey do you want to go watch a movie l?” and being the pervert he was, said YES! and he took back off towards his room on base. Once there I made an excuse to leave the room (I need to go get dvds) and never went back. He came into my work a couple weeks later under the guise of needing help for his animal and I hid in the back. Thank God I got out of town shortly after that. Yuuuuuck my stomach does flips thinking about the whole scenario. Total manipulative creep!

Oh I feel for you. I understand that situation. I have been learning lately to move out of a masculine state and into a feminine one, I think especially as homeschool Mums we can get into a masculine energy because we are the boss of it all. Right now, there is no point in you pushing through the same way. My suggestion, in all empathy, is to sit down with your husband, tell him what's going on, that it's too much for you and hurting, ask him what to do, write notes, hold your tongue, then say ok, and when they start crying, shouting, fighting against me what should I do, get specifics, and then spend a week or a month if you can doing exactly what he said, if it doesn't work, call him, say I did what you said now this is happening what should I do? Men rise to the responsibility when we give it to them, but not before, at first he may give you unrealistic bad advice, but let it come crashing down on him and he will go "woah she's actually listening to me. She actually needs my help" and then he will engage, and he will step up and help you. His perspective will probably be helpful in the end. You have nothing to lose, right? I say this sister to sister, takes one to know one, I am learning all this myself. I pray it helps.

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Thank you. It worth giving your advice a try. I have talked to him about how it’s going and how the kids behave for me. He wants me to do drastic punishments. Like take all electronics away for a week for disrespectful behavior. That seems like too much to me but maybe he is right. Or for my son he would say to have him write something 20 times. Idk if using writing as a punishment is a good way to get them to like writing.

@_jillkay I am learning that there is something about getting things into God's order that puts other things into order. Try his way, it's not going to do any real harm to them to do either of those punishments, and like I said, it's more about shifting the responsibility to your husband than it it about him being right or having better ideas on how to handle it than you. Let him be the bad guy, let him fail at trying to help you and then rise up try again, it's important that we show him we genuinely need him, and to be weak before him. We all want a strong husband who takes the lead and takes initiative, especially with the children, but we don't actually give them much of a chance. Try his way, even if he is wrong. Your children will benefit from respecting their dad, and seeing you respect him more than they will benefit from homeschooling and not having respect for him will cause more damage than writing as punishment and any negative thought about writing.

That’s so so hard, mama! 10 page papers for a 7th grader is extreme; public schools don’t even require it. Extreme punishments often do more harm than good. I’d recommend seeing if your husband is open to reading education/homeschool books (with you or on his own) or reading parenting books. 10 days to a less defiant child has some helpful advice for kids that aren’t of a compliant temperament. My reluctant writer (middle school age) finally started doing well with IEW.. It’s hard to give good advice over a KZbin comment, and my ideas certainly could never be a miracle cure, so if this doesn’t feel helpful then please don’t bother with my suggestions ♥️♥️