Gosh, SO good!!

Seems exhausting 😢

Can a person, woman or man get married for a second time? How?

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This channel has been such a blessing thank you 🙏🏽

Very helpful thank you

Is thought spiraling the result of having been abused and silenced? Years of being poorly loved, disregarded, ignored, threatened, will train a body to spike into adrenaline and cortisol, creating an ADHD of sorts. Trying to get your bearings and take responsibility when others are not is a good thing. I don’t think being teased, shamed, embarrassed about it is helpful.

Wow! This is exactly what I deal with and I’ve never heard it explained like this.. This was so incredibly helpful and to know I’m not alone..🥲😌 I will definitely be re-watching this..♥️

Jim Cress is amazing. He is such a good therapist. He said Lysa is her own therapist because that's what a good therapist does, he provides clarity (with the Word of God). I would like to know if there is a network of conservative Christian counselors like Jim Cress. I would like to find one near me.

I'm on a spiritual journey and would like to know how many of you conceived after praying for years and watching this video?

@24:34 i am marking this so i can revise it later

So sorry you all are going through this! My heart breaks with you!

This was incredibly helpful for me!! ❤

It came to me as Lisa began to bring her experience in, that something to remember about people in destructive relationships are made to feel crazy (as she’s stated), & often, there’s months or years of this programming & tearing down of. More often than not, they don’t know how to determine who is wise council because they no longer trust THEMSELVES & their own judgment! So they stay quiet & alone. Idk if we’ll get there in this episode but wanted to type it out.

This is gold!!! I will be watching this when I need counsel.

😭😭Lord this is what I’m going through! Thank you!

He didn’t care how it impacted me.

Two of my favorite ladies.. very sound

Yes ! This is what I’m learning through breast cancer , I can’t control anything , just find scriptures to rest in . When we go down a rabbit hole, the thoughts we think , never ever happen “ the worst thing “ never happens , catastrophize Ing, can destroy us all the time . Be still , surrender “ . Watch the birds of the air .

I read a quote that said " if we are not spoon fed love as a child, we will lick it off of knives as adults" and unfortunately, I feel that I have allowed those close to me, especially with my adult children, I have fallen into that quote.

Thank you for this. I tend to do the same thing at night. Yes, I usually journal it all out in prayer to GOD. Counsel with myself....love this. Thank you for sharing this.

Journaling! For the spiral. It helps me a lot. I do The Daily Practice.

Thank you, ladies. God bless you both. ❤❤❤

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A Godly Women does absolutely want to keep her/and Her Godly family Safe from harm. And God has absolutely protected me/my Godly family Always :) And He has also helped me to let go of the past/And release everything about the past into His Hands Completely/ Indefinitely :) And He Promises that He will always deal with it that :) And He has helped me to move on with my life into the exciting future that He has for me:) And I can’t wait :) And i’m on a Christian dating/Marriage App And I’m Always Praying for my Future 2nd husband:)@Proverbs 31 Ministries With Lysa TerKeurst

Sounds like the serenity prayer is needed. “take counsel with yourself,” such a good word.

I liked this reminder counsel oneself

I just love your honesty and transparency Lysa, I think there are a lot of woman who can identify with the thought spiral

So if you confront you husband about the porn you saw on his phone, will he not become secretive about it, because it is so addictive?

People tend to think this need ends after a couple months. Yes, the need changes. But everyone has pretty much disappeared, and you are left completely on your own. If you have lost someone close to you, you know grief is life long.

When I lost people in my immediate family, I couldn't think how to spell my own name. Don't ask people to call if they need anything. They can't think that far.

Lord, HELP

Is watching porn infidelity?

How do I get rid of bitter anger towards my sister in law for not taking care of her mother who has dementia? My anger always stims from when I feel like people are not doing what is morally right. I know it is MY issue, but I get so angry when I hear her voice that I start shaking.

Lysa, can a person participate in on-line counselling? I have been in counselling before (un finished, un resolved) because I moved provinces (from Johannesburg to the Cape - South Africa) . When I wanted to bring my husband in to the counselling sessions with me, my facilitator said that my situation was complex and I wasn't ready. Now that I have moved, the relationship has become stale (worse than ever). I am very lonely and spend most of my time in my room (the office) and my family have suggested that I complete my counselling, however completing means starting over with a new facilitator. So stressful

My ex and I had a short marriage (8 years). I feel that the entire relationship was around him, what he wanted and didn't want/like to happen. After a long, exhausting relationship, even adopting a child (ultimately l would have preferred to have my own even through a donor sperm, he refused). I left him and went back home, he asked my parents to send me back, I went back. I was extremely unhappy and looked for happiness else where. (the story of my life) I was unfaithful (secretly) he suspected and he divorced me. I am in an unhappy marriage now and am so afraid when a single man shows any kind of kindness or affection toward me (I'm thinking that this person loves me. It absolutely terrifies me. Is this normal? My family want me to go for counselling

Could yall make a video on unwanted singleness and childless

Timestamps of importance 4:28- 6:26 The conflation of God‘s covenants with mankind and the covenant of marriage (between two imperfect humans) - unilateral versus bilateral 17:46 / 22:02 understanding true signs of repentance (and what repentance does NOT look like) 19:39 - sometimes separation can prove to be healthy if it’s done for the sake of pursuing reconciliation, even if reconciliation never truly occurs. 23:21 - forgiveness & separation 24:31 - 28:39 “hardness of heart” as it relates to the offender

Loved this discussion! Thank you for your insight. I struggle with trust, especially after failed 2 marriages which I fault...despite the red flags of the relationship. Cannot wait to read this book. Btw you are correct, LOVE ANNA MAE' fashion choices. Both of you are beautiful inside and out

I recently discovered my husband was unfaithful. It is the MOST dreadful, most painful, and heart breaking experience of my life. 💔 I hate the thoughts that come to me daily throughout the day. I wish this was all a horrible dream, but it's for real and i can't believe it. Never thought in a million years the man who had always preached the importance of protecting our marriage, damaged it. I know God heals, delivers, restores, ...I get it and I believe it. I don't mean to have a "pity party" but my gosh, the oh so many pieces my heart is in right now is not easy to deal with. I've decided to stay and I hope for better days and a stronger healthier marriage, but I feel like my husband had his cake and ate it too. He had his fun when he traveled out of the country for work...(he was gone for almost 3 months) so much fun after he met a girl young enough to be his daughter that he planned his own trip to go back & see her again during thanksgiving week. All the while, he had agreed to work things out for our marriage and yet lied saying he had another assignment somewhere else out of the country. 😢 Not only was my heart broken the first trip, but it shattered more when he flew across the world to see her again. I found out on my own when I was able to check his location. Worst discovery ever! 😢😭💔 So now he's back home, he finally cut ties with her, and how convenient that his wife (me) has forgiven him and is still intimate with him, and has decided to get therapy with him (even though he says he doesn't need it, only I do. ) So yeah, it sure seems like he had his cake and ate it too. God says "revenge is mine" and I do love my husband regardless of how he betrayed me in the worst way. I don't wish him harm. It just seems he's forgotten what has happened, and he's simply loving life. I don't get it, but I'm so curious if he will ever stop blaming me and the devil for what he's done. I want to know...Will he get any divine revelation? Will there ever be any consequences for what he's done? I know my focus is on me and my relationship with God... but I still wonder...

I can’t thank you enough for this. Along with clinging to the Lord , you three have helped me walk through a very devastating season in my life. While I am still in the grieving process of the death of my marriage, having you all to sit and explain and autopsy every emotion I have had has been beyond helpful. I know the Lord led me to Therapy and Theology. Lysa, thank you for having the courage to share your story. God has used you in ways that have helped to save lives. I pray that I will have the opportunity to see a sermon live one day. God bless you all!!

Forgiveness makes you vulnerable. Vulnerability isn't comfortable. We're afraid of vulnerability because we've already been hurt, so why would we want to further risk more by doing something uncomfortable?

Realizing that this chronic lying is emotional abuse is eye opening 😢

This was a wonderful discussion that so many people can relate to.

Lady by the well "sexually addicted"??! Don't think so! Mostly it is wounreble wemen being taken advantage of! What husbands are complaining about in marriages with someone abused is the OPPOSITE than addiction, that she doesn't WANT any more of it!

So good. And such the right time.

I am so thankful for this channel. I am getting such good insight, helping me answer questions I have. I'm connecting to all you are saying Lysa. At 62 and supportive wife, a 39-year marriage, my husband has had major health issues but still has cognition ability, manipulates, and is emotionally abusive. I have been separated for 1 year and still feel i need more time. I would divorce but i am still feeling guilty over my situation with my husband. The biblical text is so important to me, and I'm on the road to healing. Thank you, and God Bless you all!❤

The Hidden Peace was a phenomenal read. I plan on reading again soon!