Help me understand how anxiety is your friend. Because I hate it. I have been struggling with it for years.

I feel like people know they are hurt u u don’t need to forgive … they showed who they are

The level of abuse

I can't wait to get this book, read it, and do the Bible Study this summer. I get so tired of being the "strong one"....the one that everyone comes to when there's a problem....Go ask Rachel - she has the answers. No, she doesn't. But deep down she wants to have the answers because she wants to fix things ... All the things. Some days my brain hurts and my heart aches. Some days I want to lay in the bed with the covers pulled over my head and pretend I'm not there. Thank you for this honest discussion.

Jim's journey of overcoming his fear of flying is truly inspiring! 🙌 It's a great reminder that with the right mindset and strategies, we can conquer our fears and live more fully. Thanks for sharing your story, Jim!

More of this topic please.

Amen!!! 🙌 I've found "take every thought captive" works when the anxious thoughts start. I lay all my burdens, anxiety, strongholds down at the foot of the cross. Thank you Jim for mentioning carbs. When I'm anxious and don't know why, I rethink, what have I been consuming.....sugar, pastries, carbs or caffeine. I'm very sensitive to caffeine. Protein helps keep my anxiety levels down.

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Well now I won't be going in c store alone or to bathroom that is multiple use. Tks for that Lys😅😂

its interesting the analogy to dust (which makes us feel insignificant, small and even dirty) vs God's breath (which gives us meaning, purpose and a future). I sometimes still struggle with self-condemnation, and carrying the weight of shame, and it's still a journey reminding myself that God created me in His image, and came to redeem and restore me.

This would be helpful. I wish someone would have done this for me or even now. It gives me what I can do for someone in the future.

What video/podcast episode is this from?

Amen

I so understand this!!!!!!!

God sent, His timing is always perfect. Your message was directly on point❤ God bless you & yours❤ Thank you for being the channels for the Lord’s blessing to me - I love that!

How about father and mother wounds?

I wouldn’t go to the church. They often support the narcissistic/abusive man. Go to a woman’s center or a “trusted counselor” that you have interviewed & feel comfortable with. I am a born-again, Bible-believing, sold out for Jesus person

I wish you would address the adult child and parent dynamics.

Is there a specific verse that talks to consequence being built into sin?

1 corinthians 7:5 during seperation what would be the process and what is concidered mutual consent? At what point should a married couple that is seperated be coming back together for intimacy? Therapy and theology could you unpack what consent should look like and please explain what does coming together look like, what should we know and how should we address the text about coming back together so the devil doesnt tempt you? Confusing.

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I am approaching my 50th birthday, and this is my biggest struggle. I am sad whenever I think about this, angry and sometimes bitter. I get angry with myself for not being able to accept this, and I get angry with God for not allowing me to conceive. I pray for the day when I can just accept being childless, but for now, this is still a challenge for me. I guess for me in the bible, all the women in the bible conceived after a season of barreness. I might have missed it but all the women in the bible conceived in the end. No mention of an alternative outcome

Lysa I never had a name for the holy pause. But I have done this for years with my husband because I didn't want to say anything that makes our conversation more emotional and cause damage that might not be overcome quickly

I get it.

How do we get pastors & churches educated on this topic & skills to walk in it?

Thank you! This describes what I am going through right now. I needed to hear this again today.

This was sooo timely and good

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Thank you, sincerely thank you

Thank you. 7 years since I caught my ex cheating and then him turning on me... trying to please God through it had been confusing. This has brought me a lot of clarity ✝️💕🌻

Im reading a book, "It's Not You" by Dr.Ramani its an amazing book. She talks about how to deal with them when you cannot leave. Not everyone can just pack up and leave depending on their situations, culture, and others.

Thanks for the ANXIETY acronym. I’ve used it 3 times today and it brought me such peace!

I have also opened up to my pastor about mental abuse. I regret it. I attend a reformed fellowship. After opening up, I stopped attending service.

Thank you for talking about this. You are really helping people.❤️

The old school era of christian men in Australia need this teaching! Unfortunately alot of rigit stubborn submit submit teaching in the regional churches Australia wide. Jesus we need this liberating teaching for men to grasp the gift you have given us in our lives. I really laughed when Lysa said "i really love doing laundry i really do" 😂😂 such a serious topic and then such a light and joyous comment of laundry love it, Lysa i love doing laundry too funny enough

My wife is a narcissistic control freak. Everything that happens and goes wrong is my fault. And our children's fault, she claims none of it. She accepts none of it being her fault. She calls me every name in the book in front of our kids. She says very horrible things to our kids. And she won't accept the fact that she needs help, because she doesn't believe anything is wrong with her. It's all us that have the problem

One of the most painful things I hear is “well there’s two sides of the story.” Maybe if he punched me in my face, they would have believed me. It would have hurt less, but maybe they would have believed me.

We have to take our thoughts captive as Gods word says. Yes is yes no is no. We over process our thoughts. 💯❤️🙏

I love this and I know that I am going to be studying these steps but I think that many people will have trouble with the Share step. Not everyone has safe, godly people who are close enough to share deep emotions and not everyone can afford a counselor. 😢

Beautifully said. The fruit of your ministry says it all to me. You have blessed me greatly with your teachings. I genuinely love the three of you. God bless yaz

Lu.7:37-50 [47] Wherefore I say unto thee, Her sins, which are many, are forgiven; for she loved much: but to whom little is forgiven, the same loveth little. --- With whom do I identify in this account...the woman...or Simon? Do I KNOW I have been FORGIVEN MUCH?!?

Repentance and Forgiveness are GIFTS from God IN ORDER TO protect us from evil and help us MASTER SIN when tempted???!!!???

Breaking news men can be victims of emotional abuse too this is not a gender specific topic

I am a covert narcissist. Looking back at my past and even now, it makes so much sense. I'm not sure if it's helpful to identify yourself with reductive labels of modern psychology, but nevertheless the symptoms of extreme insecurity, unstable identity, envy and intense shame persist and affect every aspect of my life, my faith and the way I treat others. Sometimes the voice in your head tells you you're too far gone. I know I need to turn to Christ but it's as if my ego, as fragile as it is, is preventing me from humbling myself to God because I feel hopelessly irredeemable. Please pray for narcissists. I cannot change on my own. But it feels like everything I do is self-motivated and I fear that I'm just turning to Him and the church for narcissistic supply. I also highly suspect myself of committing Hebrews 6 sin of apostasy. I obviously can't change on my own, or with a secular psychologist, but it feels like God may have also given up on me, which I don't blame. Or maybe am I just projecting? I know lots of idle talk my mind just isn't thinking straight.

My first husband emotionally abused me for 16 years and later laid hands on me. My second husband says that I have a great character and an excellent wife but I am not his cup of tea because he wants a skinnier woman (I'm 5.4 and 130 and had 4 kids from my 1st marriage).... I am starting to think that something is truly wrong with me for making these kind of choices 😶‍🌫️ maybe I am just too nice but then why be together just to give nasty attitudes to each other..... I think people lost what truly respect and cherish means in a relationship 😢

Praise God that the responsibility of changing people does not rest on me! I therefore bind to hell every idea any human being can change another human being in my life, the lives of my family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquitances, opponents and the body of Christ while binding one to know God can change human beings, binding to hell every unequal yoke and common share with any human being thinking to be able to change another human being while lacking to know God is the one that can change people, in accordance with this word and nehemiah 6:3, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah, glory to God ❤!

This is so good! Thank you so much from someone who has been desperate to seek counseling but does not feel comfortable because I can’t find the right counselor. This is a true blessing Lisa!

The sixth sense or the sense of discernment is not only exclusive to women. God has also granted His discerning spirit to men.