I’m Afraid I’m Being Betrayed | Therapy & Theology with Lysa TerKeurst

[@ChandlerMorria]

As a man that has cheated on his spouse.. This was hard to listen too. But my wife asked me too.. I just want to encourage everyone that your marriage can survive infidelity.. It is a long road but your spouse is worth fighting for. Please keep me and my wife in your prayers

[@JustJada98]

Prayers for you guys! Be gentle and listen to her closely. Check in with her emotions frequently and try to understand her before trying to be understood. Remember healing takes much longer than you’d ever imagine. You have to feel her pain with her to become connected as one. Walk with God in this season and he will guide you through the hardest storms! Best of luck!

[@ChandlerMorria]

@@JustJada98 thank you for the encouragement.. and also thank you for the prayers

[@GemFitnessTraining]

You guys have no idea how this podcast has helped me on my journey to restoration. My trauma is so close to Lisa’s and her words resonate so much with what I thought. I felt so alone in the discovery, the trying to fix it, the process of dealing with it that it almost took my life and the enemy won for a moment because it robbed me of the most precious thing, my faith and trust in God. I blamed Him and couldn’t understand how a loving God could allow this, specially since I was doing God’s work when it took place and I was a devoted wife and mother. It has been 14 yrs since this took place and just last November 2023 I returned to the Lord. Found Lisa’s book How to forgive what you cannot forget and it helped forgive, it helped me realize the triggers didn’t mean I had not forgiven. Today I’m still walking and in the restoration process. I never went to therapy and this has been my therapy. Thank you ❤

[@OfficialProverbs31Ministries]

We’re glad you’re here!

[@michellemorkel5956]

The smear campain that happened worsened the betrayal, something i learned was that i saw who people are. Cs Lewis "if people show you who they are Believe them" its not easy the impact is significantly painful

[@shameekaedwards3727]

Thank you so much for sharing your experience and the wisdom of your team in these videos. I watch your videos on a regular basis and have read many of your books and can tell you that I feel seen, heard, and loved as I have walked through the hardest season of my life. So many of the questions I’ve asked God in prayer have been addressed in your videos. You have also touched on many topics that people who have never walked through a destructive and emotionally abusive marriage will not relate to or understand. While I’m sincerely sorry that you had to experience such a terrible betrayal, I’m absolutely grateful for your story and the way God is using you and your team to touch the lives and heal the hurt of so many women. May God continue to bless you and use your ministry to impact the lives of many. I’m sending you many thanks and lots of love! ❤️

[@OfficialProverbs31Ministries]

We’re glad you’re here!

[@Aliciabpd]

Thank you for sharing. There was a time I couldn’t even breathe when speaking about my betrayal. I felt so destroyed. I was angry at God. But little by little I was picked up by my sisters in Christ in my recovery group, my therapist, my family, my non-Christian friends and even my husband. I can’t say that I will trust him fully again, but I not longer feel pain when speaking about it and I am so grateful to God for the healing I received. I know what I will not tolerate and that I am valuable. God gave this to me and I know now that God was with me all along. ❤❤❤

[@JoyceSummers-f2b]

My shock that felt like a bomb going off was my husband's involvement in porn and 2 following ways he acted out toward people. The final confessed revelation happened while we both had covid and I told the Lord, If he isn't going to get delivered please take him home. The Lord did just that. In talking about the slow growth betrayal; you know something is wrong, but scripture says that love believes all things and hopes all things. The impact of it has been emotionally paralyzing. His ability to fall back into something he had had as a testimony of God saving him from. I question anyone's complete deliverance now. If he could be that self deceived, I fear that I could be self deceived, like walking a tight rope. I believe the Lord has been helping me and blessing me.

[@theultimatefoodie2666]

Thanks for this video. It was hard to listen because I’ve experienced the pain of infidelity in marriage but it was so encouraging because of the soothing balm of God’s Word. ❤

[@yuliyacoello5391]

I believe we as Christian made an idol out of the institution of marriage. We need to stop that. It's hurting many people. The LORD is our spouse first and foremost, he holds our heart and place #1 in our lives.

[@yuliyacoello5391]

Dr. Joe Muddamalle's biblical comments are what I am looking forward to and thoroughly enjoy each episode. I wish they had more of that.

[@tiffanyscariati4537]

3 years ago & I felt like we’ve made progress, but then I came across something revealing he is not being fully honest. I’ve gone from overreacting to numb, tears when discovering one more thing, to trying desperately not to care anymore. I am not sure it’s possible to ever heal in this relationship when he refuses to follow what should be the most basic rules to protect himself & me. I’m exhausted & it’s now causing me to question most areas of my life. I no longer talk to anyone about it because I’m so embarrassed and ashamed that I am still dealing with it. Im so tired

[@lindaharrison8709]

I too have been and am still reeling from the realization that my spouse of 13 years is not the man I thought he was. He have his life to the Lord in 2013 and he was indeed a new creature. Then enter 3 years ago and things started happening that has caused a domino effect of events that has brought me so much pain and loneliness and anger and bitterness. I have prayed and pleaded with God to touch and heal his heart and to help me. He has told so many lies that I now question everything he says and does. BUT GOD... I know He can heal my heart but the waiting is sooooo hard. I will be praying for you as well as myself and others who are going through this storm. I am holding on for dear life with all I have but I understand being tired because I am exhausted from the emotional turmoil and stress! God bless you and hold onto the hem of His garment! He heals the brokenhearted.

[@DanaD-er8dn]

Such an awesome explanation of the depths of betrayal. I experienced the discovery of 30 years of his double life while my mother was dying.

[@dionnejoseph]

Thank you all for these videos. It helps to pinpoint exactly what the emotions around the hurt are and exactly how to process it and WHO to go to with it all. Truly balanced “ commitment to reality at all costs”

[@kristalarrison1490]

Thank you for offering to be our friend through these videos. Not only did I lose the dream of family after an affair... i married a man with two kids because I could not conceive children on my own. I also lost my best friend of forty years and her mom, which was like my second mom because they were mad at me for going back to my husband multiple times.

[@shelleyd9910]

Thank you all. I am still not really over approaching and organising the elders to come and conduct a Matthew 18. Sure his swearing at me and threatening me with violence was wrong but I talked too much and needed to stop. NOT Matthew 18. God is good. Heb 11:6 When my new friends brought me to my new church, I saw the Pastor go up the front and spent the rest of that service in the foyer sobbing and ‘cursing every Minister to hell’. Not one person I encountered in their Ministry team told me off. I was held while I wrestled and left to deal with repentance for my words alone with God later. The betrayal of a Church has been the worst and hardest to deal with. And the concept of “Did I hear God correctly in who I approached?” Is a very haunting question.

[@jeanabarnett8914]

Cannot wait for more episodes and content of this topic. THANK YOU ALL 😇🙌🏼🙏🏻🫵🏼

[@deborahclavette879]

Thank you so much. In 2018 After 30 years of marriage, the earthquake of betrayal disclosure erupted in years of violent aftershocks. The resulting tremors continue to this day. I thank God for His faithfulness through it all as my life rebuilds & my heart restores.

[@michellemorkel5956]

The shock was literally and figuratively shook me, then the denial and betrayal from people close to me especially their gaslighting me was very hurtful it was the hardest experience and something i am still working through in therapy

[@janmargaret9311]

I was dependent on the approval of my sisters and got betrayed by them. God is the One I should have been dependent on for approval. Hard lesson to learn..

[@missmystery1212]

Thank you so much for starting this series. I love your vulnerability, wisdom and bible knowledge. Listening brings back the elephant in the room. I haven't thought about betraying my own self from lack of discernment, I think in ways, that's a fear of mine, moving on in the future with new relationships, just all around

[@DonnaYeldell]

This video was an answer to prayer for me today. My accountability partner keep pointing out how my trying yo fix, manage and control them. It happen again yesterday and I have wrestled with it all day. Thank you for leading g me to God's answers and God's best for me.❤

[@Ali76564]

It's spiritual warfare breaking up betrayal and many other issues

[@trinacox5135]

I can relate to all, but the impact of me being the one to break up the family if revealed the infidelity was such a huge thing for me. Especially in a faith based community that I needed support from

[@michellemorkel5956]

Thank you so much for this conversation

[@erinm.8395]

Great video!

[@natashacampbell3231]

The betrayal broke me. I cant even have a conversation with him. He was cheating with the same woman for years. She took out a harassment order against me. He decided he is also not opening up about the affairs. I feel I will never be able to trust, love or even respect him ever again.

[@michellemorkel5956]

I am learning to trust again its not easy, its something that i am struggling with please provide your insight and experience, having to learn to trust again

[@jennyeh]

Read: Dr. Henry Cloud’s book: Trust. I did not find anything in his book ‘boundaries’ but I tried ‘Trust’ it really makes things clear. Life changing for me and I highly recommend you get the audio version so you can repeat listen.

[@angelaanderson5360]

Looking forward to layer 5 and 6

[@SheilaBequette]

I will definitely be purchasing your book!

[@holyhikerpodcast]

Your content is so wholesome and practical, thank you so much for the work you do and might I say I love the interior design of the space you record in!!

[@catherinemiss6360]

I cannot tell you how much these help me. Thank you xxxx

[@michellemorkel5956]

How do you set boundaries with those who betrayed you especially if it was friends

[@darlenemcintyre9998]

Remember Absalom started off feeling betrayal from his father David because his sister being raped and David not doing anything about it afterwards before he started the campaign against his father.

[@Susan-oe7tr]

Good stuff. Thank you.

[@pamelapena9208]

Thank you so much

[@brennakohlhase4194]

Would Adam have needed the Lamb of God(slayed BEFORE the foundation of the world) before He disobeyed. I say yes, because man-having the ability to fail-WILL fail. God has always wanted one thing from mankind-relationship at ALL costs. Oh how HE loves us.❤

[@michellemorkel5956]

Where does one start with Forgiveness and what does it look like when you experienced such painful betrayal? This is something I'd love to get your insight on, its something that im struggling with 🙏🙏

[@dionnejoseph]

Lisa has a book called forgiving what u can’t forget. There r many of her messages and talks on the book right here on you tube. It has MINISTERED to me n this season of my life and IK it will bless u too. God Bless!

[@SheilaBequette]

Thank you so much for sharing this. My situation is that thensigns are very subtle, just slightly flirting, tipping the toe in the water and then saying it's nothing. And I have to apologize to you all.. I have made the 2-sides statement so many times... it's a pathetic perspective.

[@Ali76564]

Thanks

[@JuanCarbajal-oe5pj]

🙏❤

[@michellemorkel5956]

Great one Jim two sides, spuse Infidelity and my side fidelity

[@peoplelover2024]

Or when your 28 year old son comes to you and tells you he's been on estrogen for an entire year and is now a woman and has "killed that person you knew. They no longer exist and you are not allowed to say their name or have thoughts or memories of them because I have killed them and replaced them with this glorious creature before you". Yes. I quote.

[@darspe8831]

I am 63 and have been betrayed by my father who sexually abused me and then found out my mother encouraged it. God spoke to forgive them and i have. Over the years I have been married 4 times and 3 exes have betrayed me and my current marriage my husband I found out has an alcohol problem and I recently found out he was texting women and i have found sex toys. We've never had sex in our 11 year marriage but he has had it with his ex. This is so hard to get past. I've been praying for God to work this out and I'm getting so weak. I saw a counselor and she wasn't helping. I found another toy he bought and i am seeing that devastating day all over in my head all the time. I know this is all to break me down and I feel like a jack in the box being closed on all the time. My faith is so weak

[@lauriegast5425]

Is there somewhere you have your study with Joel on Genesis 1 & 2?

[@Gingersnaps50]

Thank you for recognizing the many types of betrayal and validating the healing that is required for all kinds of hurt in our lives.🤍

[@Ali76564]

People fail

[@psychemmm]

Please do this. Do sit. Have a reteeat. Do you say Haven Place?

[@saraabel8813]

Which book is this discussion based on? Is there a new book?

[@jennyeh]

It’s called: I want to trust you, but I don’t. *if you didn’t google it. It drops on October 8th.

[@mayrajoya530]

Is it possible the Lord won’t reveal the infidelity?

[@lowings848]

💔

[@jilllingenfelter4682]

Everyone Indefinite Permanent Divorce/No Reconciliation ever it’s not the worst thing that can happen to you and you can absolutely survive it with your amazing Godly family by your side your church families backing you up/praying for you around the ⏰ endlessly. And thank you Jesus for giving me Your Divine Peace/Indefinite Permanent Closure Everything:)@Proverbs 31 Ministries@Lysa TerKeurst