When the Person Who Hurt You Wasn't Held Accountable | With Lysa TerKeurst

[@PattiMcGinnis-l4j]

This was a wonderful discussion that so many people can relate to.

[@karenkalar7892]

I so needed this. God is my defender. God is trustworthy. God loves me.

[@audreycoggins1652]

Lysa you really know how to hit the nail on the head when you talk about betrayal of an ex and how you grapple with emotions and trauma and healing and indignation. Thank you.

[@sj_carri]

My christian husband filed for divorce because i tried to get church input for domestic abuse & wrong/deceptive accusations that have been going on for years. He's still in the church & thriving. I left after having a breakdown & moving home to my parents hundreds of miles away. I now see narcissistic traits throughout the marriage. There's no compassion no accountability. Only cold rejection & divorce papers. I feel so angry & misunderstood. I've since discovered his church is a cult. My faith is hanging by a thread. I had a relationship with God before i slowly lost myself over 5 years with this man. I need to somehow rebuild myself. Thankyou for your ministry Lysa. ❤

[@tierrabaranowski7945]

Don't get up o n Jesus because of those misrepresentations of him

[@marilynmiller874]

This was very soul, encouraging as I’ve just walked through some disappointment that is affecting me deeply. My husband of 50+ years is not owning any of the hurt he has caused me, and the church seems to be taking his side and not listening to the deeper issues.

[@michellebiland5163]

Thank you, ladies. God bless you both. ❤❤❤

[@MelissaSage-q3b]

This is so timely! I’ve been through church hurt. I have been obsessed with justice and at times, get frustrated with God for not acting when I expect. I started to feel seeds of bitterness. The Holy Spirit has been working through this work me. Looks like I have a book to read

[@gianinaroa]

I’d love to have an episode talking about the problems of people pleasing and the biblical view of it!

[@marthalubars6015]

Loved this discussion! Thank you for your insight. I struggle with trust, especially after failed 2 marriages which I fault...despite the red flags of the relationship. Cannot wait to read this book. Btw you are correct, LOVE ANNA MAE' fashion choices. Both of you are beautiful inside and out

[@sheilaives1195]

My ex and I had a short marriage (8 years). I feel that the entire relationship was around him, what he wanted and didn't want/like to happen. After a long, exhausting relationship, even adopting a child (ultimately l would have preferred to have my own even through a donor sperm, he refused). I left him and went back home, he asked my parents to send me back, I went back. I was extremely unhappy and looked for happiness else where. (the story of my life) I was unfaithful (secretly) he suspected and he divorced me. I am in an unhappy marriage now and am so afraid when a single man shows any kind of kindness or affection toward me (I'm thinking that this person loves me. It absolutely terrifies me. Is this normal? My family want me to go for counselling

[@desormais22]

So good. I’m learning to even just trust in myself as when I was growing up, I was implicitly being taught to not trust myself so then I trusted so many people who were unsafe for me because I looked to others to define my reality for me. As a significant relationship is ending, I’m also having to learn when I feel frustrated or like a victim for not being able to do something that the significant other used to do for me (while demeaning me at the same time, years on end), I have to slow down, breathe and remind myself “you can learn and try. Failing is a great way to learn.” I became so codependent on the other person to help me thru life, but it wasn’t even really helping - it was more of like, yeah I’ll help you while I remind you of what a nitwit and incapable lowlife you are, or that I was this incredible burden to even deal with). But I did realize eventually that’s how he treats himself, so there was no way he was gonna be able to treat me with care and respect. No one can speak into my identity except for my Father!!

[@jblue01]

Great discussion! Spot on! 🎯 Thank you ladies for sharing what you have learned from these experiences.

[@saeintrests]

Always a good reminder to grow from your experiences ❤.

[@kimberlyrobinson2926]

Great discussion. It all helps 🙏🙏 Thank you so much. Healing from molestation as a small child also divorced after 19 years of marriage due to infidelity from ex husband.

[@daphnekivinen9482]

My husband had "lady" friends?! We divorced and he went on his merry way. His life appeared to me and others that he didn't ever acknowledge that he did wrong. I couldn't ever trust him again and I am not married to him anymore. We were married for 20 years. I was left with money problems, no child support sometimes and raising children as they started their tough teen years without a father in the home. I went to two churches where both long time ministers had affairs. I almost wanted to quit going to church because it happened when I was very vulnerable. I know it wasn't my fault, but why was this happening when I had just started getting back with the Lord? Thankfully I stayed at my church!

[@donnabauerofbrilliancebyde1178]

Are you kidding me? I am 66 and my entire life I have been let down, abandoned over n over from my dad was a drunk and mom was abused by him, he beat me on a regular basis too and then I chose men who did the same for 20 some years. Now I have a son who disrespects n dishonors me over n over also for the last 5 years. Good news, I became a drunk and now I am sober 33 years, love Jesus! I have no one with skin on, that I can trust.

[@michellebiland5163]

Trust Jesus. He gave his life for you. Praying 🙏 for blessings for you. ❤

[@persephone_GreekMyth]

Two of my favorite people 🎉

[@nkj.123]

Good stuff🙏🏽

[@dmix2263]

I walked after 35 years.