So much this. ❤

My husband originally started his addiction to pills, went to heroin.. got clean, relapsed after surgery with pills, went right back to heroin... then got clean a second time, got addicted to porn, then was on pills again then relapsed just on pills for a year and a half, came off for 7 months and Back on the pills again... he has injuries to his back and other chronic pain issues along with unresolved childhood trauma.... he's my high school sweat heart, married with 3 kids, after 30 years together and 13 years with his addictions, I'm walking away because he always thinks he can take the pills with no issue.... and always becomes an issue... he always spirals

I cant stop my 41 year old son from self sabotage. I tried every single day for almost 4 years and i couldn't even eat. I had to kick him out. He has burned every bridge ever. Its like hes got a death wish and him making me literally sick didn't wake him up. The thing everyone else says the hell with him, it still breaks me!!!!!

The two are to close to really tell the difference

Perfect timing!! Thank you!!🫶

My brother was kicked out by the police. Because he won’t stop drinking when he’s in the house. He gets paid by the job centre so he gets money for not working so even if we don’t give him money he will still have money to buy alcohol. He trashes the place and it stinks and he’s loud and horrible. He needs tough love. This is so hard but I have no other choice. If he doesn’t want help I can’t help him.

I think you might have described the “bargaining stage” by the new grey area term

Sounds like the door 😁 knockers to me, I seen it

Even having empathy and hating strife, their lies are most egregious! Relationships don't work well with no trust.

I have all of theses in my relationship. My partner uses meth everyday but I am addicted to fixing him but it has turned me crazy and I have lost myself completely i am addicted to him. I have been trying to leave for 6 years I am 26 and he is almost 40.

Just found your videos been to hell and back for 17 years

After my husbands relapse, I struggle with intimacy. He’s back in his program and doing well….but there has been trust broken. I have such a hard time being intimate. I hope and pray I can heal. I go to Alanon and have a sponsor and I watch your videos. I just still feel so angry and I didn’t want this to be our story .

I am on my way to rehab right now I am a heavy addict your very spot on…. I got sober when I was 19. ( was smoking marijuana) but my life was going great. I got hit on a motorcycle and got addicted to opioids and it’s been a living hell since I’m 27 now and this is the hardest thing I ever done I been trying to get sober for a year I have doctors writing me very strong opiods still and it is the hardest thing I ever had to do… Having natural pain plus doctors writing what I want is just putting fuel on the fire

Thank you for this subject. Honored to be featured. Minor correction- Chalene - no “R” but I loved the video and your channel !

Total right track. I wish I would’ve seen this video years ago.. I’m 100% sober now after 17 years of not knowing if I needed to really quit for good

So so SO SO SAD - how even now … these people - they will not mention GOD in any of this ! Do you not realize - we aren’t wrestling against flesh & Blood ? Pa leez read the KJV Bible #JOHN ❤

Yo Kyle wut up dawg ☺️❤

My husband of 39 years killed himself and left a note telling our kids and his friends it was 100% my fault

These people have a problem with escapism and self-discipline.

My ex gf Lies constantly Even about mundane subjects I catch her in lies all the time never once called her out on it I’ve been helping her out letting her clean my house for money For instance she was lying about her dad and his political stance I knew her dad really well , he was not interested in politics Also I went with her dad to buy his car, she told a different story , I didn’t tell her umm I went with that day idk , I’ll see if she is stealing from me , she looks like hell, her beautiful hair is dry out big time what is that ???

The worst is when there are small children involved😢

What happens when you see a friend that is hurting and relapsed but she seems on a self destructive path but is so selfish. Sleeping with men to have a place to stay. You are personally disgusted yet feel sorry at the same time. Do you help her or let her hit bottom.

So tired of all the nonsense 😮😢😅

When she drinks she gets worse,, grandiose, but even sober she has no selfreflection. She cannot will not see her own responsebility accountability

My Girlfriend has Drug and Alchohol problems. The anxiety and worry is becoming too much. She would disappear for Days early on in the Relationship she did it twice then it stopped for a while but I would still notice she would get antsy. Tonight she left said she had no pills did not hear from her. I love her but I can't no more the anxiety,worry,and not knowing what to expect next is becoming too overbearing.

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At the moment I am being accused of everything what my daughter does I want to help her she has suffered a lot but do not know how ur vedeos are helpful

My daughter is also going through depression as she has no job and she does not feel mentally right the addiction has taken everything away from her. A gastric sleeve surgery she went through has also effected her as she was a big girl and needed to loose weight. I have supported her all my life without realising it was not helping her but has ended in a situation now addiction has taken over her.

I live in uk and dealing with my daughter’ long time drug addiction. It was too late by the time I found about it. After my husband passed away I had a good family but the addiction of my 2 other sons has taken away everything. My daughter is leaving with me and has been treated in the hospital for over dosing and is so hard for me to deal with her. She refuses every treatment offered and Therapy. She agrees but backs out. Your vedeos are helpful to watch and I am trying to try a few of you approaches to get her around c things in a different way and being a mum sometimes get angry. When I cry she calls me a victim

It can also be laced with Phentanyl ending your life like that. Stop smoking!

Agrees to have dinner together. Comes home at dinner time and says “I’m going to lay down for a little bit”. Doesn’t get up until 10am the next day. He had eaten before he got home and only wanted to get high. But I was supposed to think this was just an off day and overly tired. Twisted thinking. Whatever they tell us is not based in truth, it’s based on what they want us to think and believe. And if we confront them we’re accused of lying or calling them a liar. The perpetual kid with the hand in the cookie jar. I have to have the cookie but I can’t have mama disown me because of it so I lie. She has to believe me. She has to give me the benefit of the doubt. If not, I can’t exist.

My son gifted us a bottle of wine for Christmas probably thinking we would open it for dinner. We didn’t because I don’t want to enable him to drink. He mentioned it because I said I was going to put it in the fridge. He asked if I put it in the freezer or fridge after dinner. I wasn’t sure if he thought I forgot to open it.

I had a more hard time quitting smoking.

How much is it to help for weight? Thank you! Stephanie, THANKS!

Is this what you normally refer to as the bargaining stage Amber?

Yip, I feel this 😢

Is it normal to feel suicidal when you can’t live without them and live with them?

Thank you, and this is very insightful… I now understand why my son wants to push me away. He is giving back his birthday present because he said he doesn’t deserve it. he even admits he is pushing me away. I think it’s also because he feels so much guilt and shame around me. It’s been a terrible Christmas for the most part. My heart is hurting all the time.

My guess is someone using “change talk” is what you would call someone in gray area thinking, weighing that they are considering changing but not yet committing to any action?

My daughter is 29. Shes schizophrenic and a meth addict. She was in a duo condition lock down, her choice, for 7 months. They set her up in a step down group home. She was looking for work and a studio apt. She found the studio and asked for $2,100 to get the apt. She was so excited. Then the woman backed out. (Probably a back ground check). She started using. She received SSI and I am her legal guardian. I am going to give up guardianship to the county because she got $2,100 from me and its gone. I don't think I qualify to oversee her funds. I feel like a failure. I am almost 70 and have another daughter with mental health issues that has me helping to raise my grandson. My meth daughter is in a shelter. She doesn't appear to be using but has no place to move into. Both daughter had a blood bath fight so they could not live with each other. I have 4 other children that are all very successful. What do you think about me giving up guardianship. How will she take that.

I'm an oldie who has been there, done that too many times to count, hence why I've opted out altogether! 🙂

Thank you for the great insight

Please do talk more about sex addiction, specifically what it is and how it impacts those of us that love the addict. Is it a real addiction? How is it all mixed in with substance abuse? Is it often a parallel?

What about the Mother and her adult child??