The Real Reason You're Struggling Getting Sober

[@lylemccomber9460]

I'm finding myself struggling a lot at the moment. The longest time of sobriety I had was 5 years and 11 months. Since the major relapse I been pulling together months at a time. Mostly between 4 to 6 months. Today in all honestly I'm hurting.

[@malkalazar1801]

I drink my whole life, it was really bad during the pandemic and i quit in 2021. After aprox one year exactly what you said happened to me, i convinced myself that everything was not that bad and i will be able to controle it. Well, one year after i was as addicted as i used to be. So i quit again and now it's my fifth sober week. This video is what i really need right now , so precise, so timely, thank you❤

[@EdimentalGardens]

Congratulations on 5 weeks sober

[@AppetiteforConstruction]

Nice work👍, I’m thinking it’s about time for me to put the effort in to cut it out…she makes a good case for sobriety…

[@PutTheShovelDown]

That's wonderful, Malkalazar! Recovery is a learning process, and it sounds like you're definitely figuring git out. Very impressive 🤩

[@Sunshine77746]

Thank you, Amber, for all of the free information you give us. I so appreciate your videos! I have learned a lot from you!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thank you so much for your kind words and support, Sunshine! ☀️☀️

[@chad4766]

Sounds like my sugar addiction. Who else is having trouble putting down the spoon full of sugar?

[@carlettesouthern-robert2992]

Awesome Information❣️

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thanks Carlettesouthern. I'm so glad this was helpful.

[@frankinla]

“What this lady is on about” is providing helpful information for addicts and families dealing with the massively destructive and difficult disease of addiction. Yes, it probably doesn’t apply to you at this time, because if it did, you wouldn’t be making flippant comments about it like it’s some kind of joke. I hope it never affects you or anyone close to you. It’s worse than you know.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Wow! Thanks for having my back Frankinla! 😛💖🙏🏻

[@baseballmomof8]

This was superb

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Wow, thanks Baseballmomof8! 🤩

[@carlettesouthern-robert2992]

✨️ThankYou for this ✨️Awesome ✨️Information✨️❣️ 💠One Day At A Time!💠✨️🫂👣

[@PutTheShovelDown]

My pleasure, Carlette. So glad you liked it 😁

[@everythingwillbeokay1]

yea i can normally stay clean for a good few weeks, but then i usually seem to reach a point where I convince myself that I don’t really want to stay sober anymore 😕 good video this amber 🙂 do you have any things on how to survive a slip?

[@CareBear007GL]

Did you NOT even LISTEN to the video, SMH 😑

[@oedeko3020]

This could work for some people. Get heavily drunk. Drive to the nearest police station. Go in and show yourself in that condition. In Germany, your driving licence will be taken away from you, for at least 18 months. You won't get it back until you have done a medical and psychological test. Within the 18 months, every month or every three months, you have to do an alcohol test, depending on which test you chose. There are two types: Urine or haar test. If you really need your licence back, you definitely will stop drinking alcohol with the 18 months. Before the 18 months are over, you will get used to sobriety. It worked for somebody whom I know. Something irresistible must happen, before some people give up being alcoholic.

[@Demon-pb5jm]

Please Recommend me an outreach program for people struggling with heroin and fentanyl so i can donate, please? I want to be sure i’m donating to a reputable place, and i used your videos for years dealing with my ex girlfriends heroin addiction

[@pixfan2008]

Question @puttheshoveldown. What if they've been in rehab numerous times, completed the programs numerous times, and within 24 hours of leaving, they are already drinking. The drinking goes on for a few weeks, and they either end up in ICU with a BAC of .30 (that number is correct) or begging to get into another rehab where the whole entire process continues. Any advice for that? Maybe dedicate a show about that? It's my child btw.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

This video might help with that question. It's about staying sober after rehab. kzbin.info/www/bejne/q4KUqaB4pKlrgcU

[@cherienemarshall1952]

Day 2 and 3 were awful!!!

[@srishtisuman8958]

My AH used to drink heavily everyday, then cut it down to once every 3 days, then once every 5 days, then 7, 10, 13. This gradual cut back went on for 6 months. I believe he was trying to get better as he had a lot of insight into the problem and everything about him felt different. But something changed a month back. Old habits creeped in. I feel he is trying again, but is using it every 3 days. Was 6 months phase just bargaining or can we call it early recovery?

[@Dean-pu6nb]

Hello Amber my name I Dean from the UK. I've watched a number of your videos and I believe they are actually the best videos on KZbin. I need help my mind has been taken over with my addiction. I'm ruined. I need help. I'm waiting for a day program rehab. I'm riddled with shame and guilt. I use on those feelings. Do you provide online support? Please. Kind regards Dean

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Hi Dean, I do some online recovery coaching. www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/strengths-based-assessment

[@moviemagicgillesdelage]

That's me exactly, but I just keep falling back after a week or two. I have been repeating this cycle for 40 years now. I am now 60, and I am scared of who I will be at seventy if I don't stop. Any advise for older users who are really in a long term cycle. This video does help a little to understand. I guess I fall in the category of I am just to addicted to be saved, that you mentioned.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

If you're getting two weeks sober at a time, you're almost there! That's definitely evidence that you can do it!

[@shareemalone3637]

I'm In land O lakes, fl and I shoot fent and have an even bigger crack addiction. I have ADhd and really bad anxiety. So you have any suggestions to which program would work best

[@Dean-pu6nb]

Someone please help me

[@rowan1739]

Nutrition😅

[@Starsky1413]

I’m not sure why I’m following this channel Here’s the thing I love my booze I have a whiskey that I really like I’m sober all day and if necessary I can be permanently sober So look I don’t know what this lady is on about Only to say Booze rocks in moderation and we don’t have a problem

[@iridescent.fluorescence]

I’ve seen you trolling this page on different videos, and I am not certain what your aim is ? You profess you don’t have an issue with alcohol (interestingly enough immediately coming to alcohol’s defense ?) and then dismiss helpful advice for others. It’s definitely fascinating to observe as someone who doesn’t struggle with addiction and watches these videos to better understand the minds of those in my life struggling with addiction… I don’t know why you follow the channel either, to be honest. If you don’t have anything helpful to contribute, why comment at all? (Unless, ofc, the alcohol you expressed your love for is fueling a false/deluded sense of bravado through some desperation for attention, pulling it away from helpful content to feel noticed/given attention yourself for a moment ? (which is a call for a need to give that attention to yourself.) Maybe focus on making your own content and/or self-actualizing instead of hopping onto other peoples’ content and criticizing it, especially inappropriate for a recovery community (acting like booze isn’t addictive and a professional with twenty years of experience doesn’t know what she’s talking about).

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thanks so much for having my back! 💖🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💖

[@iridescent.fluorescence]

@@PutTheShovelDown you are so welcome!! thank *you* for helping me process so much this year through your educational, practical, compassionate videos - and, for all that you do for this community!! 🤍🤍🤍

[@AMM3.]

"I can get sober and stay sober whenever I want " is classic addict talk. We all tell ourselves that in the beginning. The small part of you that realizes you have a problem is following the channel.