This was such a great, informative video! I loved Inside Out 2, thank you for diving deeper into the movie in a clear and concise way :)

The world around us is non-binary.

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There's no such thing as "intergenerational trauma". It's an absurd construct.

It takes courage to confess to our "cultural blindness", you are inching closer to the actual reconciliation of our learnt view of the world with the real, unjust one. It's in our hands to make it just.

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Brilliant information for parents who try to better understand and support their boys

Amazing video Dr.Gagarin..

One last thing. Make sure that you reach out to Emergency services if needed. US/Canada 911 for emergencies and 988 for mental health crisis. UK 999 and 111 (NHS) respectively

Thanks for the list! It's really helpful

Is it common for people to have several psychiatric disorders at the same time?

It’s hard to imagine what is going on in anyone’s mind at any point and time. Mothers love us no doubt but their attitude sometimes is so overpowering that it can take away the feeling of love seeing through child’s eyes. Thanks for the videos

Thank you for another such an interesting video, Dr. Gagarin! The first part of its name - ''A Tale of Two Mothers'' - immediately reminded me of ''A Tale of Two Cities'', a masterpiece by Charles Dickens, which I, to my own tremendous shame, still haven't read. Happy Mother's Day, and wishing you a wonderful week ahead! We'll be waiting with eager for your new videos)

Dr. Gagarin, thank you very much for the long-awaited new video! It's been extremely interesting and fascinating, as always. The way you explain the genesis of the mental health issues is so exciting. I do hope that Jeff is now OK and not experiencing those painful traumatic conditions he used to. I guess, DID may sometimes be the case with the criminal issues as well. If a person develops a tendency or a lust for killing, for instance, but is not, so to say, quite happy with it, because he/she has some moral code, some principles which judge his/her criminal behavior, then, maybe, DID becomes some kind of a coping mechanism when a person can blame another identity for committing crimes. Once again, thanks a lot for this video, and we'll be eagerly looking forward to the new ones:)

Squirrels go nuts about losing their nuts:) I'm sorry, Dr. Gagarin, that was just an awkward and clumsy effort of mine to joke... I've got no sense of humor at all) OK, leaving the jokes aside. I'd like to sincerely thank you for another informative, interesting, and exciting video. Thanks for such a thorough description of these different kinds of overthinking. I guess that it's a mental phenomenon that may be a symptom... or, maybe, it's better to say that it may accompany different disorders. Just like PTSD that you've mentioned in this video. Maybe, OCD and Borderline Personal Disorder as well? Like, for instance, when overthinking comes under the guise of some ritualized formulas that a person uses in their mind as a reply to certain outward factors that cause his/her anxiety. I guess, maybe, in such cases religious upbringing is also a factor that brings into being this type of a mind pattern. And here the overthinking becomes some kind of a ritualized rumination of certain words or spells that become sort of a coping strategy to deal with this constant anxiety or irritation a person senses inside themselves... But a pretty lame coping strategy, since it eats away so much time, depriving him/her of the ability to concentrate on either work or pleasure, or anything else. I'm sorry for another terribly lengthy and, I guess, incoherent comment, but your videos always give food for my thought, they kinda ignite that spark that starts a certain thinking process... I'm sorry if it's all inappropriate. Wishing you an awesome weekend!:)

Thank you very much for the new exciting video, Dr. Gagarin! I guess Maria's story is what's called a "co-morbid" case in psychiatry? In real life, I believe, professionals like you rarely meet with the "pure" cases of people whose mental problems confine to the framework of only one diagnosis. Most patients suffer from several mental disorders at the same time, with the symptoms intertwined in the clinical picture of their psychic dysfunction. So you have to prioritize what is more and what is less important, in order to understand the right continuity of treatment, and that may sometimes be a tough task... Let's hope that Maria's treatment proceeds successfully and she's gonna get into the condition of a stable remission. Wishing you a nice week ahead, Dr. Gagarin, and awaiting your new videos🙂

Thanks a lot for this video, Dr. Gagarin. Thirty years together is quite a long term. I believe it really is the sign of stability of a long-lasting relationship. Although sometimes there are sad cases when people decide to separate ways with their partner even after being quite a remarkable number of years together with him/her. You know, recently the world famous rock star James Hetfield has decided to divorce his wife, even though they'd been maried for 30+ years, if I'm not mistaken, and have several kids together. But smth. has gone wrong... Of course, I truly believe that you and your beautiful wife will not repeat such a lamentable case, and I sincerely wish you to live together happily married for another thirty years or even more. Thank you for sharing your personal experience. Tomorrow's gonna be the birthday of Kurt Cobain, one of the crucial figures in the history of modern American culture, who (accoring to the official version, at least) took his own life at the age of only 27... I may be mistaken, but I believe you've made already some video about coping with the suicidal thoughts? I guess I should check more attentively the content of your channel. If you haven't made such a video yet, it would be very interesting to listen to your words on this topic. Wishing you a great week ahead!

Happy Valentine's Day, Dr. Gagarin! ❤

Thanks so much for the positive charge this morning which came with your video, Dr. Gagarin! May I please make one slight correction to the historical part? I am not an expert in the history of ancient Rome, but I believe the very first Claudius reigned from 41 AD (succeeding Caligula as the Roman emperor) until 54 AD (when he, in his turn, was succeeded by Nero, after being poisoned by his relatives or smth. like that). I may be mistaken. But, if it's true, then, I guess, that Claudius whom you've mentioned first in the video was not actually the first, but, as a minimum, the second one:) I remember another version of the legend about the priest named Valentine executed by the order of the emperor. It has a somewhat more romantic strain to it, stating that, while in jail, awaiting for his execution, that priest fell in love with the daughter of the prison warden. The daughter's name was Julia. And the priest started writing love letters to her (don't know if she read them or not), hence the tradition of the modern days' Valentines... A pretty romantic and funny fairy-tale, isn't it? Just like the tales of healing the blind by the Christian saints. Where is at least one officially registered case of such miracles since the time when the modern means of photo and video registration appeared, right? Where's the proof? But that's another story. You know, having turned forty, I really don't suffer much anymore because of being single on Valentine's day or any other day of the year. Maybe, it's because I have other problems, maybe, it's smth. that has to do with the reduction of the hormone secretion? As far as I understand your approach, you propose to substitute the missing elements of the '''love triangle'' with ''re-directing'' the psychic energy to certain other activities, with changing the focus of your love, so to say. The tips you give are truly very useful. Once again, pardon me for such a lengthy comment (I guess I should have tried writing novels, but, unfortunately, I don't have any literary talent☺), Happy Valentine's Day to you and all your close ones, and eagerly anticipating the new videos on your channel!

Love this video. So nice to hear about your own life experiences on the subject. Whilst I've had several long term relationships, looking back I think the main component lacking was perhaps intimacy. My current relationship of a little over 2 years has been mainly remote, having only spent a month together. However, we will be living together in about 10 weeks to start our life together, which as we're both now in our fifties, I guess it goes to show that it's never too late to plan a future together. Once again, some very good advice, thank you for sharing!

Such excellent advice! A fascinating history as well. Thank you for sharing.

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Thank you for another such an interesting video, Dr. Gagarin!

Ruben, what an amazing video! You know I'm your biggest fan! "Keep swimming"! ... You know what motion picture I'm referring to 😊

Thank you so much for the recommendation. One thing that struck me more than anything, is that sometimes when we are dealing with our own problems, we fail to see that others around us are also dealing with theirs. Sometimes, often in unlikely situations in our lives, it is possible to form connections with others, share insights and help one another, finding true humanity, which is often seemingly absent in the world around us. Thank you so much.

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Awesome video

Thank you for another informative and instructive video, Dr. Gagarin! Matthew Perry was truly a remarkable actor, and, though never knowing him personally, I also sensed grief when I heard of his demise. You know, I haven't even known that he'd released a book on his addictions and mental health issues. I believe it's truly a fascinating read, though maybe quite sad at times. Addictions have destroyed the lives and careers of so many people... Though sometimes there are such exceptional and curious cases, like the one of Charles Bukowski who was a heavy drinker and consumed enormous amounts of alcohol and at the same time became quite a successful and popular writer, having died only at the of 74 because of leukemia (don't know whether his alcoholism had had any influence on the development of his fatal illness). R.I.P. to Mr. Perry and thank him for all his wonderful roles. Right now I recall a romantic and adventurous comedy in which he co-starred with Elizabeth Hurley, but unfortunately the name of the film escapes my memory. Thank you once again for this narrative, Dr. Gagarin, and we'll be eagerly anticipating the new ones!

Thank you so much for this new interesting video, Dr. Gagarin! Hope that Sofia is doing fine now. Choosing your future career, your professional path can be a pretty tough decision to make. What if Sofia probably gets disappointed with computer science after a couple of years of studying it and, for instance, decides to switch to the art studies? That would be another challenge for her to take. And sometimes such cases do happen: when young people feel very much inclined to some branch of knowledge, but when they start to study it deeply, to indulge in it, they realize it's not the vocation to which they want to dedicate their lives. I guess that can also be pretty traumatizing, for they have to switch to some other path, to find for themselves another field where they can get education and build a career.

Thank you so very much for this video, Dr. Gagarin! I can't speak for others, but for me personally your videos always do help to understand better not only certain theoretical psychological and psychiatric subjects, but my own personal struggles. That is very helpful, and I'm so grateful to you for that. That's such an interesting problem of this intertwining of grief and addictions. The way you explain it, that getting high on alcohol or drugs is also a kind of a coping strategy for grief (though quite destructive for the person who tends to use such a strategy), was so revealing for me. Truly, when one takes intoxicating substances, he/she does so in a futile attempt to run away from his/her problems. But thus a person rids himself from the necessity of going through the second stage and jumps straight to anger... A kind of a shortened way of processing grief, but it may also drastically shorten a person's life because of the addiction to such a method of solving problems. Thank you once again, hope you're having a nice week-end, and I'll be eagerly waiting for your new videos!

Dr. Gagarin, thank you very much for this video and for all the other videos you publish on your channel. They always appeal to me, and I always find smth. that calls up to my spirit, that makes me ask myself questions about why what is happening to me takes place the way it does to me... I haven't studied the question of everyday grief so far, haven't made any survey into it, but now I think I must. Because it's smth. that has been haunting me for many years, that psychic condition intermingled with depression, rage, violent attacks and so many other things...

Thanks a lot for the new video, Dr. Gagarin. As always, it is so informative and so interesting to watch. The concrete examples, the cases you share with us help realize the origin of the disorders better. Hope that John is doing fine now, and his communication with the substance counsellor has helped him just as your treatment had done. And we'll be eagerly awaiting for the new videos:) Wishing all the best to you, all your relatives and close ones, and the further successful development to your KZbin channel!

Thank you for the new inspiring video, Dr. Gagarin. Your reels are always so interesting to watch. Over 50,000 Americans committed suicide last year... It's really an alarming and awful number. You know, I have a friend who's been suffering from mental disorders for many years. Luckily, she's still alive, though she's tried suicide many times. I love and cherish her, but sometimes I get kinda frightened in communication with her because I cannot predict what possible effect some of my words may have. Because the human beings with a fragile psyche can sometimes misinterpret certain things, for instance, they can find in your words the meaning you didn't intend. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother, Dr. Gagarin. Please accept my sincere condolences. Maybe, your mum is now in some better world... And how well I understand Simon... I feel so compassionate about him because I've gone through such experience myself. When you are young, when you are romantically involved with someone, when you encounter another person who really seems to be your soulmate... Sometimes it can be exactly as you've described: this person may become the center of your attention, that one psychological island on which you concentrate your affection, your love the most. And then, if the relationship ends, it can be like an overwhelming crisis for a young and inexperienced personality. With age you somehow learn to live through this, maybe sometimes becoming more cynical and desensitized, to some extent, but that's the mechanism your psyche uses to protect you from pain. But the younger people, they just haven't developed yet these coping strategies, these protective mechanisms which help to survive broken relationships. That's why they suffer so much... And it's all so sad... Let's hope that at least this year the rate of the suicides in the US won't be so high, in particular thanks to the specialists like you who help dealing with the trauma and help prevent possible suicide acts of people suffering from different breakdowns.

Thanks a lot, Mr. Gagarin! I guess I've said it before, but I shall repeat that your videos do have an excellent therapeutic effect. I watch them always with such great pleasure, and they kinda calm me down. I've especially liked how you've put some philosophical basis to the themes you've analyzed in this video. Albert Camus was truly an eminent writer, playwright, and philosopher. Sort of makes me sad that we're gonna remember his tragic demise in just four days. Although he was suffering from tuberculosis, I believe he was far from desiring his own death at the moment that fatal car crash happened... Though who knows. Yeah, I know about the conception of the ''flow'', and thank you for mentioning it. I believe it was an American psychologist of Hungarian descent Mikhay Chiksentmikhayi (never sure if I spell his name correctly, so pardon me if I've made some mistake in it) who's written a book entitled ''The Flow'' and dedicated to the analysis of this concept. Chiksentmikhayi seems to have passed away not so long ago, in 2020 or smth., and has lived quite a long life. By the way, I don't think that you have any overweight. In no way. You're in a pretty good shape. And your cap's awesome. All the best in the coming 2024 to you, my favorite psychologist and psychiatrist!

Thank you for some excellent tips and advice. Good luck with the channel, new sub 😊

Thank you so very much, Dr. Gagarin! It's really quite a useful set of tips for people like me dealing with depression. I really appreciate it personally, and I think it's so noble of you to try to help others in pain. I wish you a joyous holiday season as well. I believe in periods like these there are more cases of mental crashes, even suicide attempts sometimes, from the people suffering from mental disorders, so professionals like you have more work at the festive season. Stay strong and hold on! Thank you once again, and I wish a rapid growth and development to your channel and success in everything you do!

Hello everyone. Thank you for watching. Here are the links I mentioned in the video. Free Online MBSR: palousemindfulness.com Bounceback Ontario: bouncebackontario.ca Feel free to subscribe to this channel and leave a comment about this video or the topics you'd like to explore in the future videos.

Great info!

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It's pretty cool to connect with you during a live premiere!

Boredom (04:45)! It feels so bad in ADHD because of dysfunction of Default Mode Network (DMN) of the brain (kzbin.info/www/bejne/rWmtn3eepZ1mnaMsi=SYt9efBZ9MAy9OOO&t=32). In ADHD boredom = brain death because DMN fails Some meds like bupropion can help (off-label) keep the brain awake without over the board excitement. Check out Part 2

What a good summary, explained in simple words. Look forward to the Part 2!