I never wanted Kids...now I'm 40 and I became a Father. When my Son looks at me and smiles I feel something I couldn't imagine. I respect everyones opinion...but damn you miss the best thing ever in Life❤

It's so interesting to see that people who have decided to not have a child, have put so much thought into that decision and can fully intellectualize the reasoning behind it. Contrary, people who say they want children usually rely on tradition, emotional reasoning, wishful thinking or friend and family testimonies. I frankly believe most of them never challenged the societal norm that having children=being fulfilled/happy etc.

I have a genetic syndrome, nothing life threatening but makes my life miserable, at least to me. Why should I give this curse to someone? Also this life is overrated, all I do is working, jerking off sometimes and that's it.

More men should see this and watch in full. DONT BE AFRAID TO MAKE YOUR OWN DECISIONS. Bless you Adrian you are saving a lot of men and women from stress. 🙏

To take care of kids means you have to live for something bigger than yourself, so I can see why this generation has a hard time doing that. Thankfully not everyone feels the same way or we would go extinct.

It's not that I don't want children, I don't want this economy where it's impossible to make enough money to raise them. I don't want children IN THIS ECONOMY! I'd love kids, but I'd have to have a bank account that's sagging from the money in it.

I'm in my 30's and I will never own a house, have kids or be married. Yet, I am happier than most people. People work themselves to death for 50-60 years of their life for a family and to have lots of money when they retire. Just to have bad health and die before they can spend it.

Me and my future partner are both gunna be Dinks. (Double income, no kids)

It's not a responsibility I want tbh.

You're a very wise man.

I want kids, but I just don't know that I could comfortably commit to providing for a family for over 18 years. I seem to be switching jobs every 6 months in this economy and doing unstable contract work. On top of that I'd need find extra time that I currently spend on staying competitive in the workplace to raise a child. Its just impossible to fathom adding a child when I'm burnt out and still not succeeding financially.

Red light helmets are no sure cure, overpriced hype for most people.

I am 27 years old and I was in my bed looking up at the ceiling one night and I was saying to myself "I am going to miss this freedom when the day comes for me to settle down" and I am not sure if it is a sad thing to say but when I see my friends married with kids they look sad or miserable as hell and these are young guys and they have grey hairs already. But for me, I am very selfish when it comes to ME, my finances, my time, peace and goals and if I can't have all of those together, I don't want a family/children.

Funny thing with me it's that I would recommend life based on my psychology but I can't recommend having kids because I can't guarantee the same for others.

I think world leaders have influenced modern society to reconsider having children because the Earth's population is growing rapidly These people are geniuses which is why they are world leaders To anyone reading this comment give your children a chance

this is so real, thanks for sharing this

The real problem is that all the people that have nothing to offer to their kids become parents. Unfortunatly those who understand the society and our world, who have ideals and wisdom to teach, decide against it. Seems to be equally a symptom and a cause of impending changes in our financial and political systems.

Suffering is guaranteed but happiness isn't

How can a person that has never have children, give you an advice about the downside of having children?

Low wages , unemployment, divorces , extra marital affairs, etc so many reasons to not get married or have kids, you can always be young and healthy if u r child-free, always be open to dating someone if u r unmarried, no financial burden to raise family, immense freedom to choose your way of life.

I can appreciate your opinion on not wanting kids. I have kids and never felt like I missed out on anything. I still have my hobbies, good shape, and great career. It’s all about perspective my friends. Find your calling

I felt every word on a cellular level!

Life’s too hard to have kids nowadays

As you said, the future is uncertain, and it's a normal biological response not to want children. It happens all the time in wildlife when the situation is not appropriate. So why would it be different for humans ?

Your all selfish , society has been way worse then this and it was the fact people had lots of kids why why America is free

I wouldn't recommend life - negatives outweighs the positive.

Another reason - I don't want to intentionally or unintentionally ruin and sabotage my potential child early and later years in life, by somehow getting in their way of their aspirations or goals. And then have my potential child hate and resent me as much as I do towards my parents. SIMPLY PUT I DON'T WANT TO GET IN THE WAY OF MY CHILDS INDIVIDUALITY.

I can barely afford to live as is. Having a child would be cruel and unfair to that kids quality of life. Im not doing that

money ✨

Natural selection at its finest

Honestly I’ve been fighting with this notion of not wanting kids with the factor motivating me to not completely say no is the loneliness factor. I don’t want kids though because at the end of the day if I’m not waking up thinking “I’m 24 right now but once I get married and …. how is this gonna help me with my future family.” I seen how much my Mom struggled as a Divorced Mom on one income without even a Bachelors Degree and yeah she made the right choice to have my sister and I, but if I could tweak my Mom’s timeline for her she wouldn’t have us until she was in a financially stable position. Because honestly it’s embarrassing for me to admit that I was raised by a single mother and fit the static of the black boy estranged from his Dad. Even more concerning is the mental torment that my Dad had to go through with getting ghosted by my sister and how he doesn’t have that relationship with my sister because my sister made a choice to remove him from her life for respectable reasons. Again, If I was my Dad I wouldn’t have children if I was still focused on my career goals and aspirations AND didn’t have a good relationship with my wife to begin with. Fast Forward ⏩ 25 years and here they are talking about family and if I’m seeing anyone. Honestly, I am not a selfish man and if I was blessed with being a Father I would pour my heart out into that role, but the facts remain that I am halfway to my Academic Goal, questioning my sexuality (so 50/50 chance the bloodline ends with me), have student loans, at the beginning of my military career (military life x married life = Veteran Difficultly ) so why forcefully drag my wife or husband into my demanding life on top of children? ALL because of parental expectations, religious expectations, and cultural expectations (I get why my Grandparents are always talking about family they grew up in a farming village in the mountains of Jamaica 🇯🇲 but come on like they had a choice). Right now I’m against having children but when I’m more financially stable and at a comfortable place in my career I would consider Adopting an orphan(s) at least 10 years old or older (because I don’t want to deal with infants years plus my son/daughter would still have some good years left of me instead of me retiring while they graduate High School. Overall it’s up to me and I’m not gonna be peer pressured into having children especially if I’m at a place where I would regret it or have them with someone I don’t want to spend my life with as well.

So are you going to abstain from sex ?

Idk if i want kids its 50/50 idfw society as of rn so prob not but i also didnt want to be born. Everything roo expensive. Rent to high. Im in my mid 20's and im sick it. I cant imagine having a kid rn. Maybe a pet

Life is a scam. Skip the parts the government will let you.

But then the history of you and your ancestors will end there. You won't go on with it. Maybe it's better this way... Don't know.

Very thoughtful take

Me either but I can never find men that think the same they all want children 😭

My fear of having kids is been not able to get them everything they need, my salary is enough just for me I can’t even imagine day care and feeding, however I see people with less $$$ making it work but I don’t want that life for any kid I bring into this life

As an African man, I have been told to get married since I was in my 20s , one thing is for sure you have to make sure you’re happy with yourself unless marriage won’t fulfill you.

37 y.o., never wanted kids. But my mother passed away and my dad is old and ill, I changed the country and consequently lost all my friends. I'm married since some years and I do money, I don't drink, neither I smoke. Like ten years ago I didn't want to have kids and would think it's the most stupid idea, since it requires your time and your money, you can't have fun anymore. You can't date different women, travel and so on. But in my situation I dated like a hundred if women and finally I'm happy with the one I live with. I travelled through all the europe and a little bit of asia. I have money, time, literally zero friends (never found real friends in a new place, even if I tried hard, I was in my 30s and in another country). So what I gonna do with my money and time? With my investments? No kidding, do I have to spent everything on women, alcohol and drugs? Nah, I already was there. Travelling? I visited 12 countries in past year. I don't know, I just feel like it is now or never. I don't feel that fear of loosing the freedom if I become a father anymore. I just think I'm ready, never imagined to be able to say it. My woman is pregnant and I was pretty happy to hear it.

Priceless vs Worthless but the appraisal is that of your very life or a life not yet given. I think many of the points made are very reductive of the human condition and the agency that life and “free will”/ consciousness possesses. I advocate life giving solely to keep the species going. If im just an animal ill do as animals do right? Some of the happiest people in this world only have that joy from family despite how downtrodden they may be. Selfish either way really

Only have kids if you feel passionate about it, and are willing to make all the necessary sacrifices to provide for them, spend quality time with them, educate them, discipline them, and be a good role model for them. Otherwise, do NOT have children!

As a farher of 4...its the greates blessing i could ask for. Would i recommend it? no...because the level of work responsibility and leadership needed is endless...if your not cut out for it avoid it. We as men shouldn't have to justify why or why not being a father. If you don't want kids just be that uncle that can drop a gem here and there on the people.

Thank God for being a Muslim. I can’t imagine how life would be like if we decided not to have kids

Children best part of life.

I’ve never wanted kids since I was just a kid myself. Now that I am an adult and can see what this world is really like, only reinforces my decision to never have kids.

Watched this straight after shaving my head bald this morning. My hair was all the way down to my spine in my 20s and looked perfect. Everyone loved it and women were even jealous haha. But over the last 3-4 years, it'd been noticeably falling out and couldn't keep my mind off it. No body has seen me this way yet, but all I care about right now is that I feel so much better now I'm bald and not 'balding'. I relate to everything you said in this video, and I hope it helps everyone who needs support crossing the bridge.

No affordable housing anymore,no jobs,expensive, corruption everywhere! Don t bring another slave kn the system

We already have enough humans

I have a daughter, i understand you, the few hours a day to do what you want is wrong, maybe a few hours a week; i will argue gainst even living with a woman, to much work, much less fun than being alone.