Yes, all of this is true, I lived it. My Father told me that he was a con man and that once he got “All” that he could get out of me that he would throw me in a ditch, and he did 34 years later. Married 35 1/2 years, took 1 1/2 years to divorce him. I have devoted years to myself now to recover from being a codependent and a people pleaser, which were the tools that I used to be safe, to be enough, to be lovable, to be worthy, etc. Your inner child is waiting on you. Debbie

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Thank you so much for making this video. Great job explaining, you nailed it. Debbie

They use you for cover. Someone may see them with you and think, they must be ok if they’re with them.

So true

What if your therapist is also a narcissist. Debbie

100% correct and very hard to live with one or more of them. They just can't be pleased in any shape or form. Don't believe anything they say as they are just liars. Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde personalities. Insidious and envious of others. Energy vampires are what they are. They also like to sulk and give a lot of silent treatments to their partners, wanting to punish them for whatever reason that comes into their heads... Very draining to be around a covert narcissist...

But in their brain they are always mad & lustful

Yes my pet narcissist does this all the time

True, True, True.

Michele, you are the best. Thank you so much for making this video. Have a great day. Debbie

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What a wonderful way of putting it and what a loving gesture to contemplate this and put it out into the world! Thank you for spreading such gentle ideas!

Tbe covert narcissist is the master of the backhanded compliment. It took me a while to realize this. They never mean it when they do that backhanded compliment because it is the tight slap at the end of the sentence with their words.

Thank you, great job. Also, I didn't know until the marriage was ending. I did not know that people like this existed, but they do. Get out, heal yourself and never look back, they do no change.

I was living with a true covert narc for 15 years…

Beautifully explained!!😊

Great job explaining this. They want you to believe that you couldn’t achieve your goal without them. Yes, they encourage you but you did the work. It’s like they drove you to work but you went in and did your job.

Fantastic advice. First time I've heard someone use the name Paul in a positive light too. Thank you.

Presented the information very well🙌 Just asking out of curiosity do you have a team doing your post production part ?

The new wears off and their on to another and that new will also wear off. It had nothing to do with you.

I agree. We can rewire our brains but we have to be willing to do the work. You are worth doing the work to save yourself, you could never save them.

I thought narcissists was what men turned into when women ended relationships. I have met so many women who told me, “All my ex boyfriends were such narcissists.”

Sorry to be that person, but technically, that's not epigenetics that you described. it's learned behavior. Epigenetics is when genes turn on or off depending on ones environment, and this change may be passed down.

I believe there is a predisposition to this behavior in this family system where schizophrenia was somewhere in the bloodline. We don't know exactly what causes schizophrenia, but I believe that there is some direct corellation to this genetic influence. Perhaps a remnant of this person's generic code from generations ago. I have an adopted family member who has this, and I must say that if it isn't genetic, then the tolerance of a family member's reality in a psychosis state can't help but have a reaction to this self-absorbed preoccupation. My adopted mother changed from a kind person into a diagnosed histrionic disordered person. The stressors on a person can cause one to give into it. Ive seen this virus spread because it is tolerated and adapted to. Not a good standard to adapt to. Mental illnesses are serious business. In my opinion, if you aren't an educated parent in these areas, you should not adopt a mentally challenged child. No matter how much you try to love them. They're never wrong. And that is irrational.

Interesting to think about a gene for narcissism. I always considered it a product of the environment but hadn’t thought about the possibility of it being passed on (nature vs nurture). I’m interested to know more about the defining characteristics of narcissism and at what point someone can actually be deemed a narcissist vs. someone with narcissistic tendencies. I guess it’s a spectrum like most things.

Stay aware to stop the cycle ❤

never women's fault is it?

How to get beyond the anger 😡 That u became part of the rage doubting and love bomb game. Wow. 😵‍💫

True but I have met 3 generations named Dick. Senior Dick told me who all 3 generations are. 3 Dicks stood there with me. Yes this is a true real life experience. Dick #1 did not know I was raising #4 to be nothing like the first 3. While tearing #3 to shreads in front of #4 for neglecting his own children and acting like a 6 year old.

Happened to me. He told me the second week I knew him that he loved me. I suppose he eventually did love me but never enough to show me respect.

Man im fugged up!😂LBVVS

Thank you so much for making this video. I really wish I would have discovered your channel sooner. Please keep making videos. They are so helpful.

This is true except for where they have dumped all of their responsibilities on to the other person. Which then becomes back breaking exhausting.

My narc put me though a nightmare for almost three years. I always felt she was doing things behind my back, but I could never catch her or she'd just lie. "Shady" is what I called her behavior. For a long time, she was always one step ahead. I have never met a bigger liar in my life. It is astonishing, how she could lie with every breath and not even blink. I later, found out she'd been cheating and I ended it with her. Now, she's on Facebook with a new guy, all smiles. She messaged me a couple days ago, telling me how much she loved me and even loved this "new" guy. I blocked her. I have to say, I'm hurting and I hate that I am. Thank you for you video

Great job.

Thank you Michele for this talk. It is difficult to find information for us who are an extroverted HSP. Everything you said is spot on.

My older sister used to say that the only reason to talk to mom was to find out how the past had changed. I think they're first lying to themselves so they can sleep at night (sometimes this works) and when they can't convince themselves they need to threaten those around them into supporting their delusions. This happened in my family. Sometimes it happens in religious communities, like Jonestown. Sometimes it happens on a national scale as with Trump's GOP.

My sister always had this convenient memory issue and we fought a lot but at some point I just decided to not insist and let her gaslight and all be well. Better that way, I was getting nothing out of it, just made me feel worse and very stressed.

Got wind of an old rumor. From a 93 year old, old friend. From 1980. Evidently, I’ve had a learning disability for 45 years I wasn’t aware of. Needless to say, I had to cut off this relationship too. They make sure these rumors last forever and totally isolate you in this way. The real issue was my adopted mother’s son who had a severe mental disability no one took accountability for. I realized where this lie had come from and to me, this is a very negative energy a person who has no shame uses to keep the spotlight off of their serious problem. There usually a very shameful secret that has to be trumped with another persons problem. A diversion of attention to glorify the image of a poor widows pity. Please. I’d rather been adopted by a pack of wild dogs than these heartless people who live a lie.

That's what he was doing??? Women are JUST AS GULTY!

Seen it all my life what I did not see was the spiritual aspect to them. As I see many others have not come to the realization of the true purpose behind toxic relationships. People are so programmed on right/wrong and forget God does not judge or place labels on people only man does. God LOVES unconditionally as we are intended to but we have to unconditionally LOVE ourselves to see the truth.

Yup I've seen this happen with my grandma and my father. Deep down he knows his problems all root from her, but he never broke free. He unleashed his demons onto me growing up and ruined my life, just as his mother ruined his, but if anyone were to criticize her he will jump to her defense.

Thank you for making this video and explaining what is really going on with them, best to just end the conversation because there will be no closure on the subject issue.

May I ask a question. When I‘ve understood the narcissistic pattern of lying, why should I not handle it? I mean, I don’t have to be right, as long as I have my truth straight. Isn’t it? Why not letting them lie if it’s what they need to survive? In politics they lie all the time … and we don’t make a fuss. Which does not mean I would like it, but I can’t change the outer world.

Sounds like a politician

I heard a lot about future faking so I knew what it is and for what it is used. To make the person more invested etc. But, I never knew that future faking can be used to make you give information to the narcissist. For example: he used future faking with how he would travel to my country. And this made some kind of pressure on me and it made me to reveal this online man how I look like. Even when I never wanted to show him. He stressed me out with how he would come and so on. So I revealed how I look like and it later came to the point of sharing nudes. Since he was supposed to come to my country anyways and we would meet, it only seeemeed like okay thing. But now I realize he probably never intended to go to my country and only wanted to know how I look like and wanted my nudes... :ł

20 yrs married still to NPD/BDL 7 kids God help me! I can’t even use my own Name…I have quite a story! Most would not be able to listen….

Thank you Michele, great job explaining this topic. As for me “Hope was Dope” for my brain.