Do Narcissists Deserve Compassion? (+ How To Heal From Narcissistic Relationships)

[@debbie4062]

Great job explaining this, they are in a trap and we can’t help them. Thank you Michele. Debbie

[@michpara]

Thanks Debbie for your kind comments and great insight! In May I'm doing a masterclass about narcissism online where you can ask questions anonymously or ask a question in real time. If you can't make it, it will be recorded and you will receive a copy of the recording afterwards. Here is the link to the waitlist and I hope you can join me! 🙏🏻💖 findingparadise.me/narcissist-masterclass-waitlist

[@gikmdm2198]

Thank you Michele!!!!! ❤

[@michpara]

You are so welcome! In May I'm doing a masterclass about narcissism online where you can ask questions anonymously or ask a question in real time. If you can't make it, it will be recorded and you will receive a copy of the recording afterwards. Here is the link to the waitlist and I hope to see you there! 🙏🏻💖 findingparadise.me/narcissist-masterclass-waitlist

[@shawn2350]

Compassion, yes. Trust, no way. They are the scorpions, you are the frog. Awesome video, I can relate to every word!

[@michpara]

Thanks for your comments and wonderful metaphor, much appreicated! 🙏🏻💖 In May I'm doing an online masterclass on narcissism where you can ask your questions anonymously or ask the question in real time. Here is the link to the waiting list and I hope to see you there! 🙏🏻💖 findingparadise.me/narcissist-masterclass-waitlist

[@dianeclayton4936]

I left a 27 year marriage. Got into a relationship quickly. I didnt know there was such a thing as red flags. 😢 i do now. I was incredibly naive and unaware. It made his manipulations easy. Hook line and sinker.

[@michpara]

Thanks for sharing and I'm glad to hear that you woke up and got out! Please go easy on yourself because narcissists have been running this behavior since they were a small child and they've honed their skills. I was raised by a narcissistic father and then married one. You would think I would know better but my ex-husband's behavior felt normal and familiar because that is what I was exposed to for years. The most important person to forgive is yourself! Sending healing energy to you for a better future. ✨💖

[@michpara]

I forgot to mention that in May online I'm doing a narcissism masterclass where you can send your questions anonymously or ask the question in real time. Here is the link to the waiting list and I hope to see you there! 🙏🏻💖 findingparadise.me/narcissist-masterclass-waitlist

[@SuperBruins12]

Compassion enables their evil deeds. Stop being nice to evil people

[@michpara]

Thanks for your comments, much appreciated, but please don't confuse compassion for forgiveness. Compassion and understanding help us to realize that their behavior was not our fault or responsibility. It was from the environment they grew up in and they are very wounded children inside. I have compassion and understanding for their wounded child because they did not choose this path. The compassion and understanding is done from afar as I continue to walk away from the narcissistic abuse and that sets me free. 🙏🏻😊

[@michpara]

I forgot to mention that in May I'm doing an online masterclass on narcissism where you can send your questions anonymously or ask the question in real time. Here is the link to the waiting list and I hope to see you there! 🙏🏻💖 findingparadise.me/narcissist-masterclass-waitlist

[@indiebaby]

no. moving on.

[@nicholecornes1915]

No f ing way!

[@michpara]

In May I'm doing a masterclass about narcissism online where you can ask your questions anonymously or ask the question in real time. Here is the link to the waitlist and I hope to see you there! 🙏🏻💖 findingparadise.me/narcissist-masterclass-waitlist

[@cantonold7014]

no

[@tazanddo]

Don't blame them. Then you bypass the need to forgive them. Take your own life back.

[@michpara]

In May I'm doing a masterclass about narcissism online where you can ask questions anonymously or ask a question in real time. If you can't make it, it will be recorded and you will receive a copy of the recording afterwards. Here is the link to the waitlist and I hope you can join me! 🙏🏻💖 findingparadise.me/narcissist-masterclass-waitlist

[@RJ420NL]

I with you on one point, that narcissist deserve compassion. Everyone deserves compassion, but that doesn’t mean you trust the narcissist. It doesn’t mean you give them the power and control they crave. It’s best to wish them well and get far away. But I disagree that it’s the parents fault. There is a fad in modern society to blame everything on childhood trauma. I think that’s both a cop out so people do not have to take responsibility for their own behavior and it’s an insult to those people who really did suffer trauma. And I mean people who really did suffer Trauma. Not the ones who didn’t get the toy they wanted or weren’t allowed to eat bonbons every day, which is exactly what a narcissist would call “trauma.” I think narcissism is a version of psychopathy and psychopaths are born that way. It’s nature, not nurture.

[@michpara]

Thanks for your comments and perspective, much appreciated. I'm glad that you agree that the narcissist deserves compassion because that will benefit us and not the narcissist. It is always to be done from afar as you run, not walk away, from the relationship. I disagree with your comment that it's the parent's fault. I actually never said that and around the 10th minute, I made it very clear that I never blame the parents. It is not their fault. It is called legacy or generational trauma and our parents come into our lives with their own set of unresolved and unprocessed issues, which is not their fault. These are things that are passed down through generations because the people before us did not have access to or did not choose to get help or at least talk about it with someone who could help them make sense of it. I see it like a chain link necklace, every link is a person in the family and if we keep passing down the pain and unprocessed emotions, nothing changes. My goal is to raise awareness of your patterns and behaviors so that you can begin to help yourself to heal or work with someone who can help you do that so that you break the link in the chain and don't pass it down to your children or other family members. I was raised by a narcissistic father who experienced a lot of trauma as a child. For years I was angry and couldn't accept the way he treated me growing up but when I began to learn more about him, I saw that he was a wounded child in a man's body and had no agency to change things and didn't believe in asking for help. So nothing changed and that is when I developed compassion for him and his childhood. Unfortunately, narcissists rarely take responsibility for their behavior because in order to take responsibility, you would have to be aware and accepting that something is wrong and they rarely see that. So nothing changes. We can't change them but we can get away as far and as fast as we can. I hope that helps to understand what I meant in the video and I never blame parents at all. I am one and I know I've made mistakes and discuss them with my children so that they understand that I'm a human being with a life before I met them and don't always get things right. In May I'm doing a masterclass about narcissism online where you can ask questions anonymously or ask a question in real time. If you can't make it, it will be recorded and you will receive a copy of the recording afterwards. Here is the link to the waitlist and I hope you can join me! 🙏🏻💖 findingparadise.me/narcissist-masterclass-waitlist

[@sprint5099]

It's allways ugly people talking about them, obviously because thats the narcissistic's main target

[@michpara]

Not sure what you meant, tell me more... 🤔

[@jaydakine3405]

I agree. Thank you. I'm being love bombed right now.

[@michpara]

Thanks for your comments and I'm so sorry to hear that you are being love bombed at the moment and glad that you have awareness so that you can choose to get away from that relaitonship, which I know isn't easy. In May I'm doing a masterclass about narcissism online where you can ask questions anonymously or ask the question in real time. Here is the link to the waitlist and I hope to see you there! 🙏🏻💖 findingparadise.me/narcissist-masterclass-waitlist

[@jaydakine3405]

I could be wrong. She said she was avoidant. She also said she was a good person and she has feelings. I care, but I ll tread carefully. Thanks

[@joannbates8037]

No

[@MJ-qb5ph]

No