I recently developed really serious pneumonia, and I believe it was caused by being a mouth breather, which I have only just discovered at the age of 77. I now use mouth tape and try hard to breathe through my nose during the day as well, but I have heard that this is very common in people with ADHD. Changing my schedule would be difficult because I am like Cinderella, or the opposite, as without warning at midnight I find myself getting housework done and if I don’t do it then it will not be done !

Best thing ive heard in quite some time...especially the end quote. Validation, confirmation, and artillery for the battle of the dumb asses. First 2 comments are a perfect examples of the uphill battle...

I was diagnosed at 33 and now a year later I’m still learning about myself ❤

I have combined inattentive and hyperactive ADHD, I also suspect some autism, and I definitely relate to ARFID. The term was brought up to me by a friend who was starkly like me and got diagnosed by a doctor, even though I'm in the us, and they are in Ireland. We both have an issue with just forgetting to eat, maybe pairing eating with an activity and then getting consumed in the other task that we forget the food is sitting on the table next to us. I also have issues with texture occasionally, but I usually push through it (trying to distract myself from the texture/smell) and have been pressured by societal influences to "not be picky" but if I had it my way I'd be super picky! I'm not at all concerned with body shape, so I know it's not anorexia Nervosa, I've never identified with anorexia and always felt like a fraud when using it to describe my issues with food. I do not weigh a healthy amount for my age, I'm very underweight and always try and fail to gain weight. Sometimes ranging from 104 on Monday, 108 on Friday, and then 103 the next week, it's very frustrating. I suspect there is also something to do with my high metabolism, it's always been exceptionally high and I've tried to lean into more protein and grain rich foods to combat this issue, but it never truly works. I'm curious about how to get more research done for these very niche issues, is there a petition or something I can sign? Lol

I feel like I just walked into the middle of a 2-hour lecture for a course I never registered for.

Need a shorter explanation. Since this is the first comment, can we all pretend i said something clever worthy of a bunch of likes? Thanks.

I have this disability and it causes other kinds of issues in your life that aren’t related to just calculating math. Sequential motor memory is also affected. Remembering dance steps and other kinds of issues around organization. Time management.

38:15 - One of the most imparing outpatient disorders. Depression and anxiety don't cause impairment across multiple domains. I think this is important to take note of.

For the first time in my life I feel seen! 😊 finally someone understands my struggles, my pain and all that comes with being a mum with ADHD to ADHD and AS kids! ❤

It's difficult to take these suggested sleep hygiene interventions seriously because they require such dramatic limitations on what one can do in the evenings. Which of these measures are partially effective in smaller doses so that one can maintain a life outside of work and sleep? Are there alternatives that may be less effective but more practical?

What about the sugar and bread and fruit and stuff like that? This is not true, just because it’s unhealthy. Does not mean that it’s deadly to people with ADHD.

THANK YOU my adhd is severe I find this entire list so applicable and like it's coming from someone who actually understands adhd and efficiency as a goal is totally agreed with too

This was incredibly helpful!

I’m here procrastinating 😢

Ty for sharing this.

I politely disagree. ADHDer with an adhd daughter myself. Yes, defiance can get triggered if you demand. However, the "requests" don't make it urgent and therefore you'll end up having to remind over and over... that leads to feeling "nagged" and severe frustration in both parent and child. I talk to my daughter, over and over, about what she really wants: she's told me, it's independence and freedom plus some more specific goals. So, we have a system of making to-do lists each week/day. Top of her list is now being independent and self-motivated because she knows that's what she'll need to live the life she wants. The chores/requests get put on those, so she can mentally prepare and see it as urgent. I have seen that not everything gets done all the time. Then it gets done the next day etc.... eventually, a new habit is formed.

I think the most important thing is for the ADHD teen or adult to know this and be part of the conversation. I talk to my daughter about this all the time. Having been an ADHD teen myself, I didn't so much "mature" late in some obvious fashion. In fact, I was extremely successful in uni and early career. However, I was struggling with the emotional side of having to live a grown-up life and, in my case, essentially being abandoned by my parents. It's important to "warn off" ADHD teenagers from having very early serious relationships, they're just not ready and often end up emotionally dependant and used. That's the conversation in our household...

I commend the shame-free positive approach, but I do feel it's at least prone to some sugar coating in the understanding of the underlying mechanism. I don't find it helpful to re-frame my wandering mind as just not coping well with boredom, when in fact I can't hold my attention in a conversation with a loved one that I'm interested in. What the person (e.g. my wife) is saying is NOT boring, I don't perceive it as such when I tune in and out of our conversation. It's an inability on my end and I think facing this is more helpful to me than re-phrasing it in a positive way. As I said: you guys have all the best intentions and for some aspects I'm fine with it, but not for every aspect. Keep up the good fight!

Does ADHD get worse with increased hormones? My son is nearing puberty and his ADHD has been severe lately.

Love it! Or I use "Oh." a lot. I don't need to respond. But this one opens the conversation to educate people.

Excellent information. This all rings true, and can possibly make a huge improvement in all our lives, especially those of us with multiple ACEs. Some thoughts: 1. I wonder if eventually we'll begin to see that toxic masculinity is a problem with how boys are typically raised and socialized, which I've learned over time is so much more abusive than how girls are typically raised. And if, to heal our society, we'll have to learn to heal the brains of abusers and incorporate such healing into our daily lives. 2. There does seem to be a hormonal sex-linked physiological component of aggression which isn't touched on here. Our inner chimpanzees, so to speak. I wonder if that factor would be amenable to the kind of brain training you describe, or if we need something more to address it? 3. A big open question for me is how to impress upon the ones who bully the need to change or heal. In my experience, though being a bully is very painful and traumatic to the bully themselves, as you point out, and though they are hurting badly, they don't tend to see their own behavior as being a problem at all, and even very forcefully and powerfully act to protect themselves from any hint of belief in their own dysfunction. This is true especially of adult bullies, who are most important for us to change first. How can we heal people, adults and children alike, who are positive they aren't the problem? This seems especially true since the adults have to be the ones to initiate the change in schools and other environments. The adults, in my experience, almost 100% of the time side with the bully, and think the one being bullied is the problem that needs fixing. Until we shift this view, which is perpetuated by the adults' own traumas, we don't have a hope of helping the children. 4. Are there ways to grow and build our empathy as a whole? Any exercises that could be incorporated into our schools and daily lives that would address this? This framework of thought applies very well, it seems to me, to all kinds of societal problems like racism, sexism, hate crimes, race- and gender- based violence, anti-LGBTQ violence, anti-immigrant violence, and even class-based discrimination. Could these techniques improve our social fabric in a wide variety of ways?

Outstanding discussion! Thank you for bringing light to this important topic. ❤

I start reading and it does the trick

I'm waiting for testing an I've noticed this, how do I go about letting someone know I can see the traits without seeming you know

Very informational and specifically what I have been searching for. Thank you Mrs. Hamilton.

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So beautifully done

Great

Yes, I am spending a lot of time talking to my daughter about WHY certain things are important or she needs to do them properly or why they need to be done... she gets fed-up with me. But I've seen I need to repeat myself over and over until she gets it... I also need to remind her during the process if it's a bit longer.

so, it didn't say anything... only why? but not how...

I wanted to echo the potential issues with health class because I truly believe that health class in high school was where I developed my unhealthy relationship with food. We each did an individual project on a mental illness affecting teens and I was given eating disorders. The project was to discuss the risk factors, symptoms, impacts on health, and treatments. However, I ended up seeing so much propaganda for eating disorders, like pro-anorexia/bulemia websites and communities, that I ultimately was convinced that all these unhealthy methods of losing weight were the best/fastest approaches. However, I knew it wasnt socially acceptabl so I still gave a very convincing presentation painting eating disorders in a bad light. Nobody ever knew my struggle for years until I started talking about it.

Thanks for this talk, just bought your book :)

Sorry but I zoned out at about 15 mins because she doesn't seem to explain its impact of ADHD specifically. I am sure my binge eating is a direct result of needing to concentrate, hence why I mainly do it when I am working at the computer. I mouse with one hand and pop dried fruit and nuts with the other. Or if I am overwhelmed or in burnout or premenstrual, I will eat a whole pkt of lollies or a family sized block of chocolate, then feel so disgusted I eat a whole pkt of chips, so the salt cancels out the sweet taste. Then I feel even more guilty and eat a heap of fruit or multiple bowls of cereal and kid myself the relatively healthy choice will make me have less of a sugar hangover, even though I am completely aware of how much fructose is in ALL of that stuff so my glucose spike will be extreme. Occasionally I have purged after such a session, hoping I will get it out before all that sugar poisons me, but not since I understood it was an eating disorder. I am 53 and was diagnosed ADHD almost a year ago. Not by my GP, who diagnosed and medicated me for depression and anxiety for ten years, but by multiple colleagues. When I raised it, the GP didn't hesitate to refer me to a psych for ADHD assessment. He said he doesn't refer anyone unless he is 90% sure. I guess he was only 89% sure until I suggested it myself :/. Suddenly he's an expert, so when I told him I've struggled with my weight since having a baby 13 years ago, and I have always snacked to keep alert for computer work, he said "That's not how the brain works." I am looking for some proof that it's how MY brain works and it's because of my triple whammy of late motherhood, perimenopause and late diagnosed ADHD. Where can I find some scientific research to show him? I am tired of having my GP invalidate what I know to be true, especially as he is clearly no ADHD expert.

can this apply to people with ADD also?

A lot of our (autistics) behaviors are based on biological needs and discomforts. Autism is also something you are born with and the gut microbiome is due to differences in one's biochemistry (esp. in the brain). Then they just fuel each other's issues until you figure out how to manage it. Our autism will always be part of us, though. Alleviating our dysregulation in any way possible to increase our quality of life is definitely of utmost importance, though.

Amazing, love the book and holderness family. Thanks for this resource 😊

16:27 great info

33:53 - 1) Praise and reward appropriate compliance and ignore misbehavior ; 2) Immediate time-out for non-compliance or breaking a well-known rule

A lie is a lie and it has no color. A WHITE lie is so wrong.

I'm suspected to suffer from ADHD and would've liked to educate myself watching this presentation, but it's just too monotonous for me to keep focus. I'll have to find another source, more suitable to my way of digesting input. Nevertheless thank you. 🙏🏼✨

he's the best of them all!

What if i cant identify what I like because it changes day to day? As in, i feel like what im drawn to is constantly in status, i have and have had too many interests that i dip in an out of, from being entirely engulfed by them and spending 100s on them, to forgetting they even exist? How do i even begin to figure out what i can do in live if thats how i am with my own personal interests?

You can prepare all you want to enter a bear den but once you're inside you're on their territory and surrounded by dangerous animals. There's no stim or trick that'll change that

damn , when you talked about the whole "no , no YOU made me do this and ANYONE would react this way !!" i told my husband once that his reactions were not normal and guess who he used as a reference for "normal" ? his boomer mother who has adhd so bad she would have to BEG FOR FOOD MONEY because she spent her whole entire paycheck on craft supplies SHE NEVER USED. her oldest son is over 30 years old at this point , and she is STILL a horrible HORRIBLE person who actually WENT AND GOT BOOKS ABOUT ADULT ADHD TO USE AS EVIDENCE SHES NOT A BAD MOM. but she refuses to treat her adhd , and obvious attachment psychosis related to being adopted. (she stalked the poor woman who clearly didnt want her) im starting to wonder if the damage caused by mentally ill boomers can ever be recovered from. My husband once put a cutting board on a bad shelf , it fell and he literally TURNED AROUND SEVERAL TIMES until he found me in out tony home JUST TO YELL AT ME "WHY DID YOU PUT THAT FUCKING CUTTING BOARD THERE HUH ???" i spun around so fast and yelled back " NO WAY MOTHER FUCKER YOU DID NOT JUST GO FULL PSYCHO ON ME , RE EVALUTATE WHAT THE FUCK JUST HAPPENED" i stared him dead in the eye and it was like seeing a ghost leave his body , replaced by immense shame. to this day he has NEVER said sorry but if i ever bring it up as a dog whistle he gets really pissed off at me. i have to remind him alot that hes super mentally ill and just because his super mentally ill mother and drug addicted mentally ill brother, and small animal killing mentally ill OTHER brother think its normal , DOESNT MEAN IT IS.

I’m told to just move on yeah rite