It was certainly not a "coincidence",that I found this.I can"t leave alcohol alone for very long.I never heard the term "Hyperindependence" before but,man is it me! Alway"s have an excuse not to be around people,total loner.I"m the only one who knows how to do things right,therefore,I don"t need your help.I learned back in the 80"s thru AA,that I was an "Ego maniac with an inferiority complex",that is the truth.I need to go back,its hard,it makes me feel like a loser but the way I"m "existing" now,makes me a loser.Thank you for these video"s.

I’m a widow who lives alone. My drinking alone has gotten worse in the past few years due to chronic arthritic pain than loneliness. I’m on Day 4 no drinking and dealing with the pain has been the hardest. Love the pod! 🫶

Thank you

I drink alone always

We're never gonna get what we want after a breakup. Backbiting, resentment, anomosity, bitterness. It's a crapshoot❤❤ Internal peace is the only way to go. Reclaim your energy and return back to yourself.

You have NO idea On real Alcoholics STOP ! your nonsense talk !

I'm 37 and have been drinking 2 bottles of wine a day for several years now, up until 2 months ago when I was diagnosed with ADHD. I'm now on medication and have been sober for 40 days. I wish I had been diagnosed earlier, it all makes so much sense, I was chasing dopamine

This is me right now! I was physically sober for 11 years. Have been drinking again for the last year. The emotional and mental pain is incredibly painful. Your description is me. I am looking for an addiction therapist

Appreciate the video, the key difference for me was zero withdrawal symptoms, physical or mental, not even within the first thirty days, after Steffon Barkload and what he suggested it's been 9 months now it's like it never was a problem, reading that last version goolging what he put up. Felt incredible I didn't need AA or meds either.

It's so odd when people repeatedly say the person's name they are speaking to in a conversation

Your a very genuine person.I"ve never felt comfortable in my own skin.I"ve alway"s managed to find the drinkers,I think we attract each other.Even in the 9 plus years that I was sober,the people I liked(I"d find out later),had a drinking problem or were in recovery,I think we can sense it in others,it"s like magnetic.I love the "band width" idea,never heard that term before.At 8am. I"d think,"I"m not going to drink today,by 11am.,maybe a couple later,by noon,GAME ON.Even tho I don"t think about it.Self loathing,probably is at the root of the problem.I"m so looking forward to sobriety.Thank you so much for what you do.

Hi, Colorado

I really like the idea of quitting for an entire year. I've abstained for several months at a time but never a year. Tomorrow it's 3 months for me and I'm committed to do the year. Get through all the holidays, anniversaries, birthdays etc. without a drink is a real accomplishment. And you might just realize a few things about yourself and others along the way.

It's the same with drugs

had lots of breaks in 2024 and its time to take a looooong break now, thanks

I am 73. I was 46 when I began questioning my habit. It took 24 years before I stopped completely. Beginning with dry January, sober October , up to 5 months sober. Then I came to realize that I was an impulsive, escalating, repetitive drinker. Life 's a lot easier. Thank you so much for your clear thinking .

You know your stuff and you obviously have been there.Got sober in 1984,picked up a drink in 93,been drinking off and on ever since.In those 9 plus years,I went to an AA meeting nearly everyday.That"s what it took and for ME,that"s what worked.I think I got bored and lost my gratitude for sobriety.I"m 65 now,retired and ok(I was a workaholic too).I don"t have the tolerance for meetings anymore.I know at least 4 people with 40 plus years sober,most don"t do meetings anymore.1 claims to be a social drinker,the others just don"t drink.I"ll be checking out your vids.

Ive been alone all my life so its how i drank. Been sober for 2 months today which is a milestone for me. Thing is. Ive gone into eating more than ever before. I have to deal with that now. But like u said. All these things are external ways of dealing with stress and emotions. Im trying to get sober because people around me dont give a ratz a$$ about anybody and our society is a complete sh!t show and i want no part if it.

I just cannot express how amazing this channel is and how much it has helped me. Thank you so much

"ONE way" number 1...I had to be READY! 99% "ready" didn't cut it! "ONE way" number 2...I had to be ready to listen to those with sobriety. No "IF's, ANDS, or BUT's"! (No arguing, no excuses, no bullshit.) "ONE way" number 3...I had to start showing up for life differently! For my parents, brothers, sisters, friends, employers, and society in general. All of that was NOT accomplished in a day, week, month, year, or decade...so let's not put a time frame on anything to do with recovery. What I TOTALLY agree with, is considering how much effort I put into recovery, compared to the effort I put into drinking. I will NEVER come close to matching those two efforts. The thought, time, and energy I put into using will ALWAYS WIN, but it doesn't matter now, because I am ready to live sober today! As I like to say, "Sobriety is not only possible, but probable...IF! Thanks for carrying the message Veronica, and all the best to you! Mark

Excellent video. Easy on the eye too. Just saying 😬

Thank you for this timely video! It was exactly what I needed to hear ❤

2 months sober today. A milestone for me. Been in a similar position before so vigilance is required. I was even tempted the other daym came out of nowhere. Ill have to make sobriety a priority again and not on the back burner! I cant afford to slip again.

Tnx, this is just pure blessing for the society. How to reach broader audience

Everything you said in this video is spot on. I pray that others will hear this and take back control of their lives. God Bless. And prayers for everyone still in the heat of the battle. You can do this. Never stop trying. !

Agreed.

It took up 80% of my head real estate…from planning ahead to having hair of the dog at 9 am, you are ONE HUNDRED % correct that you have to give it a whole year, I’ve finally realized that 30 days, is not enough for me, reading self help books, sobriety podcasts, etc is all part of it, I started my “30” dry days , Friday September 13,2024, and then I was going to do two months, then it turned into 100 days sober, it’s over that now and I’m now going for 150 dry days🙌🏼who knows? I’m tossing around the idea that I could do a year now

Today is Christmas. I got pretty drunk last night so I drank this morning. I know I want to get sober and this video really addressed my fears. Another fear is my job. I have a very stressful job and I don't want a stressful work day to send me back into another drinking spiral. Anyway, thank you for your videos.

Energy hooks 🪝

Never internalize others projections

I am 4 days sober today and I feel so fucking ugly. Alcohol made me less insecure and idk what to do

This is absolutely fantastic Thank You

I am 4 years Sober now and to tell you the truth I don't even have to think about staying sober, because now naturally I just don't think that's there is Alcohol in my world. I also go everywhere and I feel that we have crossed into a real life and these people still drinking may never experience what it feels to have sobriety. I embrace life and Alcohol is just a petty nuisance in the background which I could not care less about!!

Who?

Even when I was drinking with family members I felt I don't need to go along with there stupidity and advice which didn't align with my goals and aspirations. So to be sober now they find me mysterious!

viewing sobriety as a habit/practice v. a streak/number is a game changer

You are a beautiful person. I’ve just decided to go sober. I’m watching as many as your podcast as I can. Thinking of reaching out to you for help, 😢

This is so true. I’ve spent the last week convincing myself that a friend who has fibromyalgia is avoiding me. The guy spends days in pain and I think he’s avoiding me as he’s not visited for a brew. Another friend yesterday the phone went dead when I he tried to call me. Again I convinced myself he hung up on me then turned his phone off quick to avoid talking to me. This is just 2 typical examples of how my brain works. 42 days sober ODAAT

Hi, I'm Bob 😂 I'm an alcoholic 🤪 and it doesn't matter what anyone thinks of me, except God & me 😊

Ty so much for sharing ... this is so me .I'm working on it good to know I'm not alone .

It’s just easier to not drink alcohol at all,life is much much better without ingesting poison.

I had 109 days no alcohol … I caved yesterday and had two glasses of wine because I’m freaking exhausted and overwhelmed this month. I needed a moment of turning everything off so I went to a winery, it was my hubby’s birthday and I wanted to connect and block everything out. So today I’m bummed because it’s going to take 5 days to get all this shit out of my body but hubs is hitting the bottle tonight again because it’s “vacation” time. Why wasn’t last night enough? I’m pissed at myself now for drinking

Is it just me, or is worrying what other people think/"really mean" very British?

That’s what I’ve been trying to do. Think through the drink, one will lead to another and another and then I feel horrible and sluggish the next day or two. It is a good thing to try and do.

You certainly know what your talking about,I"ll be watching for sure.

Is it inability to spell or proofread?

Hit the nail on the head!

Thank you! This makes sense. It’s so true how I know I’ve looked at things, like this trip won’t be fun without alcohol or this concert won’t be fun without alcohol. It isn’t about the event it’s always about alcohol. It consumes our minds and thinking. I’ve done a couple dry Januarys and I’ve gone three month period no alcohol. After that three month stretch I felt amazing. I didnt even feel like drinking and I don’t know why but my husband and I went for dinner and I thought I’d just have one martini. Well that lead too a few more drinks that evening and then constant drinking after that again. Then I tell myself well I’ll just drink on Saturdays, just have a couple. Well that doesn’t work either. This past week my stomach has had a lot of pain and bloating and now on day six sober. I do also have sensitivity to gluten as well but the two combined is not working. I feel I’m done with alcohol and how it’s making me feel. Already after this week im feeling better. As you get older too it seems there many more side effects. I’m tired of feeling like crap. I have always been an active person and love working out and hiking and alcohol does not mix at all. This was a really good podcast to listen too.

Im 75 and 3 days sober! Christmas coming and it seemed a good time to go cold turkey!! I know what she meant - i was just planning to drink until i was too weak to lift a glass. I started watching these videos and decided I wanted to live.

Year and a half done for me. Its starting to get where I'm looking over the crest to the new land.😂 Love it and its so true. Its work. But its for you , no one else. Everything I did and still do , used to have alcohol. I've never stopped doing most everything except for maybe staying up really late and not noticing the time. Ha. I love your description hear. Right on point.