This video is actually a very good video and I belive it can be a blessing to so many, especially men. With all this situation I do understand both of you very much, the pain this rightfully is for you. But also and maybe more especially to your husband. It's an adiction and a sin so many men fall into, that is very dificult to have control over, and that includes very good Christians. He of course was in the wrong not to be honest about this, but it's also something dificult that I absolutely can understand him for for not speaking about with you in the first place. I don't say this as a defence for him but don't let this become a trust issue, cause from what I see in the video he is being very strong. And also most agree with many coments, this is very personal. Think carefully about however you do want to keep this video up. Really do think about remove it for your and his sake. But if this feels fine for both of you to keep up, then thank you for the video cause it can be inspiring and helpful for so many people

You can say that the reason you posted this is to share to help others but in fact exposing his sin isn’t something you should do. The only scenario that would be acceptable is if he got clean from the porn for 5 years and then told his story. But that isn’t what this is.

Congratulations!! I was not aware you can get certified in catechises.

I am an ex-muslim. After I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Saviour, I started reading the New Testament from the holy Bible. When I started reading the New Testament, I overcame all lustful temptations..👍👍👍👍

If you cooperate with your husband, your husband doesn't need pornography 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂

Masturbation is a sin in the Catholic Church! He could have asked you the same question! You were the one with the high libido!

You'll know how successful he is being if he comes to you for intimacy in a few months. Especially if he is consistently doing so from then on.

I suppose part of your healing is to shame your husband to a bunch of strangers?

God bless your courage. It looks like you're up there on the Cross with Jesus right now. I wish there was something I could do to help. I know you're of course not sharing everything publicly, as you shouldn't, but from what you've shared it's obvious that right now, every day you're choosing to love like Jesus, that you're becoming more and more of a Saint every day. These videos are full of grace, they're definitely going to help people heal, and save marriages. These videos are probably like a punch in the face to satan haha. I'm so glad to hear you're on a trajectory of hope and healing. I'm so glad to see you're able to laugh and smile. Me and many other people I know are praying for you. That's a great idea, I'd love to hear more about what counseling and what books are better than others. I've been working on a video people can watch when tempted to sin to help motivate them to choose not to, and you've inspired me to try and finish and get that out tonight.

I'm so sorry to hear that, that sounds like hell. Your anger is 100% justified, it's holy to be angry over this. I won't tell you there's an easy answer. The best resource I've found, if you want the opportunity to check it out, is Doctor Mark Kolodziej. He's a Catholic Psychiatrist who specializes in recovery from this who offers counseling remotely. Of course you're 100% free to completely ignore that if you want, I just wish you the best and wanted you to know about him so you can have the autonomy to decide for yourself. I wish I could bear your pain for you. I wish I had something better to say to you. I'm praying for you, and I asked a ton of other people to pray for you too.

You are super brave for sharing this. It is hard and vulnerable to share, but SO many people are going through this. And so many only share their stories once they're either 1) divorced or 2) reconciled and healed. It's brave to say "we don't have this figured out but this is our struggle". Be careful of the advice you listen to - prioritize therapists, priests, and those in your life who not only know you both but are wise and experienced in healing hurts like these. Don't listen to comments that try to bring you down or accuse you of shaming your husband - no offence, but he shamed himself by choosing shameful behavior. Part of healing from this form of infidelity is learning how to take accountability for the first time, and he's doing that here. That's a first step.

I know that wjat he did was SO wrong, I've had an ex boyfriend whom had the same exact issues. Please don't leave him just yet. You both made a vow to be with each other in sickness in health, this is an addiction he's struggling with. Help him find some resources to get better. Be there for him as his wife

Fr. Dan Reehil (look him up) said a consecration to St. Joseph helps break the pornography addiction. (Don’t shoot the messenger)

Would appreciate any book reviews or reviews of programs you've taken to heal.

Use Qustodio etc to block perversion on his phone (and laptop if there is one) from your phone (Block Settings app too during process) Contact state reps to make porn literally illegal to access til age 25. Obviously he’s probably older but helps society as a whole 💯 Read a chapter of Gospels daily 📖 (5 min) either on your own - or together if agree not turning into preaching session afterwards Mary Ark of New Covenant 👩 👑 🌹 so one rosary daily (20 min) when ready ❤️ 🗡️ Lk 2: 35 Avoid Satan’s Divine Mercy Vortex (Mt 24: 26; not infallible) Crucifix above door 🚪 for daily Thanksgiving & humility (1 Cor 1: 23; Gal 3) Novus UhOh Mass (1970) might have valid Sacraments but seek Traditional (2 Thes 2: 15) if nearby Marcel Lefebvre a good bishop wrongfully persecuted in 1988

I used to enjoy this channel years ago when it was wholesome Catholic content, but... what happened? This is NOT the sort of thing you should be posting online, period. It's just a matter of basic decency: you don't hang out the dirty laundry of your loved ones on a global scale, no matter the reason. I'm unsubscribing from this channel.

Ali-Marie, I am a long-term fan of yours, but I have some concerns about all of this for you to consider. Did you make the stakes for your husband to be honest too high? You have said that ALL ejaculations have to be unprotected vaginal sex. There is a huge risk of pregnancies in that. Given that reality, there is very little sex that he can safely have with you. I have also heard it said that Catholics are not really supposed to consciously practise the rhythm method. Is your husband really consenting to all this public shaming or does he feel that he has to go along to stay with you? Would this be considered domestic abuse if the public shaming was in the reverse? Is there a vindictive quality to this? Is more compassion and less self-focus required here? Have you made your husband a pariah and humiliated in the community and at high risk of not being hired, esp. if he applies for a job where he has to meet the public, if he ever needs to apply for a job? Addictions tap into the pleasure chemical in the brain and lots of us have them. Alec just happens to have one that offends you. What about a wife who has a food addiction and eats herself fat when she knows her husband likes women and she promised to stay thin? She should she be divorced for deliberate betrayal? I think the draw of visual sexual stimulation is beyond what most women can even imagine. Please be empathic about this. I worry that calling this abuse against you is over the top. I mean no offence by anything that I am saying here. Please let your husband know that there are many of us viewing this who feel for him.

Sister Lucia from Fatima said satans last battle on earth will be against marriage and the family. Stay strong. Redemption is coming.

Plus the Bible says fornicators will go to hell

To be completely honest it does not seem like this video was something that both of you came together and decided to do, it seems like something you made him do, and not to help people but to humiliate and shame him and maybe even grow your following. I don't think you two are at a level of growth and understanding to really come out and speak on this topic yet. My heart aches for both of you. Lust and impurity are disgusting sins that deeply offend our Lord. I know that has to hurt a lot, but you're crying without tears and it feels very performative. It's a beautiful prayer to share and maybe that's all that should have been shared on your channel. Maybe you should consider deleting this and privately focusing on your marriage and then if your husband decides that it's something that needs to be shared try again with more revelation to share.

Damn. I love being a lesbian. My marriage is so much healthier than this, but yeah sure I’m the one Satan got to 😂

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. So sorry. 🫂 Sending love

I cannot imagine being a child of this marriage and knowing the entire world was privy to such a deeply personal & intimate part of my parents lives. My friends, their parents, their siblings. Your potential employers, your family. I understand you are trying to help other families, but your testimony can be shared in private amongst other couples who seek out help for the same struggles. Please take this video down. You’re underestimating the potential damage this will do to an already brittle family dynamic.

Wow, I am a new viewer and recovering porn addict. I am mesmerized. This is exactly the type of Christian outreach that really helps people. Porn is something we all have to come to terms with. In the last video, the first I had seen, I thought WTH, Ali-Marie is beautiful. I was attracted to my ex-fiance, but that didn't stop me from using porn, which played a major role in the failure of that relationship. I think the people that say it's not Christian to post these videos are clueless. This is exactly the type of faith, repentance, and guidance of wayward souls that good Christians can share. While it is a big burden to be so public, you can also document where you are very definitively, and mark your progress. It took me years and several attempts to overcome addiction on a consistent basis. It's a daily reprieve from that desperation and slavery. I've had to attack it all; the alcohol, drugs, porn, even shopping. I had many issues, and as a recovering addict, I know that a slip could take me down hard. Alec, good work installing Covenant Eyes. You are saying many good things, but that is the easy part for addicts. Now that you are caught, it's easy to apologize and acknowledge you are wrong. Soon thereafter the resentments and rationalizations will creep in and you are likely to consider ways to again use porn. Dealing with the anger that comes with overcoming addiction is perhaps the toughest part. Counseling can really help to work through all the negative thinking. 12 step meetings also can be beneficial. Alec, you need to take concrete steps to remove any reservations in your program of recovery. You can make it easier by removing all opportunites and means to slip. Using a flip phone may help. Moving a computer to the living room. Sharing your browsing history with your wife. Getting counseling for intimacy. Reading up on the various aspects of issues with porn and intimacy in marriage. You can look into Christian counseling for these issues and for your marriage. Pursue 12-step help like SAA, and work steps with a sponsor. You can really benefit from attacking your addiction from every possible angle. Alec, it sounds like you are taking this seriously. You should now take these real steps to move forward, and break your cycle of porn use. This is what worked for me. Take it seriously like your life depends upon it, do every possible thing you can to figure out how you can get past it for good. Good on you both for sharing your struggle so openly. You are honoring the Catholic Faith with this outreach. Good Luck Online and local in-person Sex Addicts Anonymous meetings saa-recovery.org/meetings/

The one thing I see mostly in this video is that you can see he feels your pain and that it’s hurting him to see you hurt. I can see in his eyes that he does truly love you. I can imagine the hurt your going through as I am a women who would feel the same way as you if I found out. But from my husband to my brother in law to my another man I know I can see 3 different addiction that they have struggled with, gambling, drug use, alcohol addiction and being adultery. What I get from this is that these are all sins and each one is there particular sin that there struggling with. Now to look at myself I see I have a list of my own sins that I have been for yrs struggling with. I know it’s hard and painful, I’m not trying to take that away from you, because my heart breaks for you. But I think we have to see view others and ourselves that our own personal cross in life is our own personal sin. I know there’s different levels of sin but if we humble ourselves we can see that big or small sin is still sin and none of us is perfect and we are all fighting our own sin. 😢

He seems to love you so much , help him support him and you will see , he will be able to overcome it

Seriously you are beautiful. Will u marry me?

Umm Ali, you are dream girl beautiful. If you have a husband that isn't in to you sexually, then it was never meant to be. I know that as a Catholic that is tough to deal with. It is common to enter into relationships; only to find out later that you were blinded by a combination of wishful thinking, lust, and desperation. Many discover they don't actually even LIKE the person they committed to. Addiction is a real MF. Overcoming it is very difficult, relapse is always a risk and is commonly a part of the recovery journey. Maintaining a relationship while dealing with recovery, from the addiction's identification, acknowledgment, then through treatment and beyond; is often even tougher than doing it alone. In some sense, it is more important for him to overcome addiction, than to preserve the marriage. He'll never be much use to anyone, even himself, without closing the door on porn forever. I am all for commitment, but it will be tough to overcome addiction when he has all the positive reinforcement he could ask for, having you as his wife standing by him. Try this, take him to a place that is very special to you both, or just a very beautiful place. Make a big dramatic scene giving him a hard line ultimatum, not one more time ever ever again, and he must begin to figure out his issues with physical intimacy ASAP. Ask him sincerely whether he wants it for real. If he does, have him invest in a fund so you can take that and start over with, if he relapses and chooses the porn again over you. Share each other's browsing history, keep no secrets, encourage interrogations and insist that he responds to the questioning willingly and without anger. If there is nothing to hide, then there should be no issues and it can be a pleasant conversation that demonstrates your mutual commitment to each other forever. Install porn accountability software like Covenant Eyes, with notifications to designated individuals with consent. Get him a flip phone. Move the computer to the living room. Removing the access and opportunity is helpful. Tell him to go to Sex Addicts Anonymous and work the steps with a sponsor. That hard line gives you both the respect you deserve. If he CHOOSES to use porn again one more time, you can walk away with your dignity intact. The ultimatum gives him the opportunity to truly face his demons and make his choice, knowing the REAL consequences. On the other hand, any man that only wants to be physically intimate with you 7 times a year is beyond repair. You f'd up choosing him. Happens to the best of us. I hate going against love, vows, even God; but that just is not right. He should be embarrassed and apologetic at a minimum. What could possibly be the excuse? I am not into my beautiful wife I chose to spend the rest of my life with? Clearly there is more to be revealed, or this a fake story. If you aren't into divorce under any circumstances, I understand. I believe love only happens once. So, if he slips, just make him leave the house. You don't have to divorce, you can figure it out separately, no need to pretend or to hope for a miracle while going through the motions. Have him build up some clean time, demonstrate some real progress, and commit to a lifetime of recovery from porn addiction while learning to appreciate real intimacy, before he can return. Remaining physically together, sends your porn-addicted husband the message that he really doesn't have to change. Firm physical boundaries sends your porn-addicted husband the strong message about your expectations, that he will need to break the cycle. Ali, you are wise to recognize the evil of porn. It is a real problem. He'll never be a husband, or even an adult, while he continues to use his addiction as a pacifier. To deal with life, and as protection against the real intimacy that you offer him. Good Luck

This video will save many marriages! You both need to be commended.

Thank you for your vulnerability. No persons marriage is perfect and God knows I struggle in my marriage. I’m glad to know I’m not alone. Sending lots of love your way❤

Zero tolerance is the best stance. Also, spouse’s understanding the marital debt is key.

It’s easier to be a woman than a man, so women get their ego stroked while men get their confidence shot down. Hence why you learned and turned out so dominant, while most men get stepped on by society which makes it impossible to make a marriage work where you are the “ hero” of your own home. If the whole thing isn’t revolving around the man he’ll use his phone

You need to be submissive to him and literally let him do what he wants when he wants, if you don’t wanna be submissive to him then find a more dominant husband. Because from what I’m seeing here you are way too dominant for this man, he needs someone who will be submissive to him, by nature. There is no cure, he just needs his needs met, and you obviously control the sex life in your marriage, so unless he wants to jump through your hoops 24/7 for sex when YOU choose, he uses porn so he can have “sex” whenever the mood strikes him.

Ok. This was a mess. Couples shouldn’t post their partners sins for the whole world to see. Totally not Christian.

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I think both of you are brave for putting yourself out there and showing your brokenness. I know this will help some relationship out there. This is definitely our generations struggle and the evil one is out there to destroy families but especially men.

It doesn’t feel like he’s fully there yet in understanding why it is wrong but is doing it out of obligation. Look at her expression and his. Idk feels like she’s also happy to have him in the doghouse for once too, more to this story for sure.

May God take you through this especially with a focus on emotional healing as a start! Brain dumping and journaling at this time is helpful and in adoration, tell Jesus everything!🙏

You are asking for your husband total faithfullness when you werent at the begining of your marriage. You want to be married and still be dating other man. That's not a marriage but polygamy. I feel pity for your husband, the humilliation he must have gome to see his wife going out with other men.Since you.made this public , Why did you dated this other guy at the begining of your marriage? Would you have taken it to a physical level if the other didnt break it up?. You are no victim here, you commited adultery.

Sorry ali, but your are acting like a hypocrite here. You just admited to cheating at the begining of your marriage. You were emotionally involved with other man and would have take it to the physical level if it wasnt for the other guys refusal to go further. You are no telling the whole truth.

The last thing we need to do is point fingers.. We need to be supportive, and help them both through these difficult times. Don't let evil thrive by keeping things a secret. Nobody would be able to overcome these battles. It's a huge reason why marriages don't make it, because there is no communication. Ali, I love you. I know and understand everything you're going through. Please don't feel unworthy of this man's love. This addiction has him trapped mentally, and it would continue to happen no matter what relationship he's in. I pray for both of you, your pain and his battle with addiction. It's from the devil, designed to break people apart. Keep talking things out, keep praying and loving one another. Strengthen the very thing which brought you both together, always with God in it. :Hugs: <3

I will pray for you and your family.

Now that his problem is out in the open he can defeat it.

This is interesting considering her latest two videos about her husband.

This is not the whole story, there's more to this in her video before this one. She is not the only victim in this relationship, Alec is too. You will hear what I'm talking about in the first video at the 20:20 thru 21:26. kzbin.info/www/bejne/aHOaamiqpNl2nqcsi=SN8kzag2rle4Af9p&t=1220

I'm sorry it felt wrong to watch even 20 mins of this level of imprudence, but @JesseMM1873 made a good point in saying you went on dates with another man and you were mad because he didn't say anything or wasn't jealous. This is complete narcissism, Catholics can be narcissists too. Becoming emotionally involved with another man is very much in the same sphere as being addicted to pornography, if not worse as it is in relationship with someone else, another soul. When speaking about this you show no level of remorse - you said "dishonesty" is the one thing you can't deal with from your husband, when you were literally cheating on him. I'm sorry, in my other comments I tried to approach you with common ground in the hopes that you would read it and take my advice by taking this and all the other imprudent videos down. Your actions are absolutely reprehensible, you're claiming the moral high ground because you were so called "transparent" with your cheating? How awful, I cannot express enough how bad I feel for your husband that he entered into a marriage with a woman who was this unserious about keeping her commitment to love, cherish and HONOUR him.

I hope and pray that he was not coerced into this through some kind of subconscious passive-aggressive power game.

I have a lot of compassion for you both. You’re in a battle for your marriage right now. You both deserve some privacy. This was a deeply damaging thing to make your husband do. Although you said he agreed to it, he possibly did it in an effort to appease you. He shared his struggles with intimacy and pornography front of the world. Your children might see this one day. Their friends. Your parents and siblings. His employer and future employers. I really think you should remove this video and your other one and take a break from filming. Why do you need to share this with the world? What validation are you seeking? I say this with love and charity, because you have helped me with your past videos. You’re just too close to this issue to see how damaging it is to share someone else’s struggle.

The lies and emotional neglect are even bigger than viewing pornography, which I do agree is a big problem. Yes, work on things. But don't be afraid to divorce if it comes to that, because you have one life and your kids observe all of this. If he doesn't stop neglecting you, it is ok to end your marriage. God doesn't want you abused like that. You have been abused over these 8.5 years. This is domestic abuse, the neglect and lies.

Wait, wait...you were going out on dates after you were married with another guy that you had interest in, why? You say the other guy had respect for marriage, which makes it sound like you wanted to advance things further, but he said no. Sounds also like you were using this other guy to make your husband jealous instead of talking to your husband about whatever was going on with you, that's pretty cold. Saying you were transparent and let Alec know you were seeing this guy makes you seem very manipulative. Maybe Alec trusted you, from what you say maybe he shouldn't have. I feel bad for both of you, but it seems like you're not the only victim here. Seems like some of your own infidelity/almost infidelity may have provoked Alec's addiction even further, I think you are both to blame for this. Interesting that you have ZERO TOLERANCE with your husband's addiction, but seem okay and almost justified with your own infidelity/almost infidelity. Would you want Alec to post a video about you and this "other guy"? Also, you smoked pot...seems like that may be an addiction of your own. It's called the, "Devil's Lettuce" for a reason. The HYPOCRISY is overwhelming in this video. You do know that there are a lot of women that have porn addictions as well? Do you think your husband felt like you cared or desired him when you were going out on dates with this other guy? Did you think of the embarrassment he must have felt knowing that everyone in town knew and seen that you were, "dating" another man? He may have been scared to protest against it for fear that you would get mad and say he just being a jealous jerk and then you leave him, so he tolerated it. I hope you're not going to try to make it impossible for him to repair the damage because deep down you want him to leave you so that you're not the one to leave and look like the, "bad guy" in this situation. There's way more to this story that KZbin DOES NOT need to know. I think you need to take these two new videos down and work on your marriage. You and your husband need to talk to a Catholic therapist and or Catholic priest. I hope you both figure out how to repair your marriage.