I am going through this now. Recovering from trauma, experiencing physical and emotional transformation. It is only 6 weeks and I have changed in every aspect. No TV, no news. Extensive work with my mind and body. Podcasts, youtube, books, meditation, moon calender. Swimming pool, excersises, new habits of eating. I love the process of coming towards my new self. I should have continued self analysis in faraway 2009 but I was affraid he might be stripped from my list. I thought that forgiveness and unconditional love could change him. Now I realize I have completed 2 full narcissistic abuse cycles with him until my daughter told what if he is a narcissist. And bingo!

🙋 here 3yeRs later in 2024

Yes narcissistic man will use silent treatment and unable to have a constructive conversation

I don't know what's a big deal for men here. Girls too get distant after sex to take a rest.

Thank you Alex!!!

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Be hard to get. He must declare himself.

Don’t chase the man.

My bf goes silent from time to time he said he won't go silent next time but again he is silent, he gifted me some gift also last time but again he goes silent I followed your tips last time what does it mean and what to do?

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All red flags missed and here we are indeed as described😮

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I'm going through this at this moment, and I'm not sure what to do or how to handle it. I try talking to him about it and all he says is that I'm nagging and bitching.

Make sense for an avoidant. I definitely have one! Ok I want to be the next one too!

Question: We both are recently divorced. We met at a conference, hit it off, nice chat & talk. I gave him my # & didnt expect him to text me, but he did. He mentioned he needed to go slow...I respect that. All week we went back & forth light texting. He asked me to lunch on sat. we had a nice lunch. 1.5hr talking, laughing good convo. Even said we should get together again. Next day he sent a long message that he tried but isnt ready and has things to work on, he said he cant give me what I deserve and wants to be friends. 😞 I truly thought I felt something and maybe he did too and it scared him. I respect him & appreciate the communication but I dont know what to do.

Yes you will see their true identity after a about 2 months yes it is difficult the figure them out they are man that like to work in patterns to hide themselves from you it's a survival techs they use in a relationship the best thing to do with advodiant man is to give them time and space and they love admiration you will get him to commit to you he is looking for something unique and different about you than others he have been with he observe you alot to know if you are the one for him patients is also key with an Advodiant

How does a French man show he's interested?

These kind of men like to be in total control of the relationship because they are so insecure and fearful. You have to sacrifice yourself to have love with these types of men... I am with one, but I keep breaking up with him because I want him to change. He said he won't change. Maybe if I stay away long enough he will.

I don't have patience for this anymore. When a guy likes a woman he'll do everything in this world. If he doesn't.. well, he doesn't.

He's very difficult to deeply connect with. He wants to come forward to get close but he always stops himself at the 11th hour. His fears are emmense. But he does have a good heart locked inside him. He's also.... gorgeous. Haha

the cycle of narcissistic abuse

They are just waaay too much trouble. After two years, more discards (for no real reason) than I can count, an engagement (ring) and finally a fourth runaway, up and out of bed at midnight, (because I asked about his toothbrush), I'M DONE. The games, the angst, the nonsensical psychosis makes a happy life with them IMPOSSIBLE.

Thanks coach Alex. You're amazing!!!

Really, don’t waste your time on avoidant people. It is a push-and-pull cycle that takes years to figure out that your partner is a deeply damaged person and using your credulity not to change. This will seriously compromise your own sanity and mental health. After years of building this relationship, they will monkey branch to another relationship right after you get fed up with the distance, lack of intimacy, sex and you will finally break up! They move on like nothing happened in the past and you have never existed.

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When he talks about his problems, “therapists” how do we get out of that? Or how do we tell him we don’t want to hear about it? Is there anyway we can change it if we made a few of these mistakes and he still reaches out?

Its true we both are struggling too much to know what we want. I do consider and I do want to benefit from it

Men must hate your advice Alex😊. However, I love it and appreciate you. Thank you for all the knowledge.

I met a man at work. We are both in our 50's we have so many things in common, which I suppose by our age you would. He said he's happy to finally have a friend at work to talk to because he gets lonely and works in a secluded area. So, he approaches me, comes to talk to me at lunch, got me lunch and a Birthday gift. Talked to me the other day for my ENTIRE lunch break...in the hallway! Then when he leaves, it's like his demeanor changes and it's like we're just buddies again (so annoying and confusing) When we first had each other's phone number, he talked to me all night, ut was a great conversation! But only the first night though. Then he went silent and only responds to my texts after work but not on the weekends AND I have asked him to call me, he hasn't. He also said he just started to see someone and "they're taking it slow" now i barely get anything..but he still talks to me like he did before at work total eye contact! Big smile etc. One time we were talking about going scuba diving..he said "let's do it!" Now nothing! I feel like he was flirting before and now I get nothing and this other girl and I do mean girl..is playing him you know the older man getting attention from the big busted young heavy set girl (total daddy issues, heavy makeup, the works!) I don't know what to do!

My man is feeling so down lately and he is feeling he is not complete and I am sacrificing my plan and life for him. But the problem is not that from my side.I have been facing many issues and wrongly brought them into the relationship.Now I am afraid to lose him, he is always there for me and I am feeling how he is feeling down everyday and still is there for me for my problems. I want to create memories with him. Adventure and new experience together. We are doing those stuff mostly organized by him that he is not happy of that. He wants me to have plans too.I just started to be distance to make some spaces for myself and all I want to know and have time to think. But is this normal ? I mean we are dating 6 month but we are so connected and we always talk about our fears and the communication is very well

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After 2.5 years he said I’m not his girlfriend he doesn’t like labels or expectations. I’ve been silent 🤫 not answered his calls but my heart broke so what could I even say? Nothing to say to him.

Is easy listening to you to because your to the point and gentleman when someone is confused and hurting and I don’t want him anymore.

Plz Alex if possible then reply me on Wednesday session after a long distance he started to text me but I am replying him formally...but I don't understand should I reply him ..or block him..plz Alex help me...after 2 year he came back..so it's really important to know

He is taking me for granted for last 1 and half month. We have 7 years relationship.he cheated on me several times but i always forget about his past actions.he gives pririority other women over me.he always find me defected.he says you have small breasts.i was trying to work on my this defect but he discouraged me u canot do it.he mskes fun of me.he says u are aged.i am 33 and he is 35.but he looks young and he is is very handdome.girls are attracted towards him.there are many girls after him because of his looks. I did not marry yet because i just wanted to marry him.i have 7 years relation .i cant imagine my life without him.i have done everything for him.he always says he will marry me but did not. Now he again changed .again busy with another girl on fon hours and hours.he is not giving me time.he is ignoring me and not doing my care not giving me value.plzzzz tell me what do i do to get him and his love? I want to marry him.i called him but he do not respond nor he call me back.plzzzzz tell me what should i do? I left try to big my breasts because he discouraged me.

Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didn't go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isn't always Rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is, to have me, we compliment each other

U a the best boy

How do you pull away if you stay with them sometimes? I used to live with him but moved out 4 months ago. We are working on our relationship. Everything you day he wants me to do for him. It's like he's the woman, ugghh

Thank you Sir

Such great tips! I will apply them 😅