All I know is that I like laying in bed with my blanket wrapped around me, as I watch a KZbin video
@jelli3zКүн бұрын
I like Christmas but it's a social nightmare 😭 but I'm going up to my dad this Christmas with my sister and there will be way less people there and we probably will just hang out at home so that will be better:)
@dn3305Күн бұрын
Ough I am so afraid of fireworks 😖😖 I don't trust people with that - especially drunk people .....and those flashing lights 😵 I can't imagine how someone could love them and not be irritated by them. I would like to live in a "bird saving space" because lights and noises would be banned there :'D mehehe
@jelli3zКүн бұрын
WHAT'S A BIRD SAVING PLACE THAT SOUNDS AWESOME
@dn330513 сағат бұрын
@jelli3z haha :'D I don't know, how to call it in english...bird sanctuary? :'D a place where many or special/ rare birds live or hunt and to protect them and let them live in peace, some things are not allowed to do. But sadly mostly those are in the woods and landscapes not in cities... :')
@jelli3z9 сағат бұрын
@ that's cool omg!! ^^
@LateDiagnosedAutism2 күн бұрын
I realize that I am not a big fan of the business of Christmas. I don't like to shop during the Christmas season. So all my shopping is done online. I keep my Christmas light decoration to static.
@HollywoodHRAКүн бұрын
@@LateDiagnosedAutism online shopping is a great idea! Why didn’t I think of that 😂
@openthearmoury7 күн бұрын
Well written, performed, produced and edited.
@fishinabox8 күн бұрын
Good activity for you to do.
@LateDiagnosedAutism9 күн бұрын
You look like your packing for a trip with all the things. Always travel light.
@HollywoodHRA9 күн бұрын
I didn’t want to be cold - most of it was just layers of clothes haha 😂
@starcatcher56549 күн бұрын
From my experience I think it's better to have too many warm things than not enough when camping, because being too cold all night can make you sick and take you out of action for a few days. Great work Holly. Seems like a really good fundraiser and you're awesome to participate in it.
@HollywoodHRA9 күн бұрын
@@starcatcher5654 so true!! I didn’t end up wearing all of them anyway but I would regret it if I was cold and I hadn’t brought them 🥰
@anabelsama9 күн бұрын
I'm working in a supermarket as an autistic person, having to mask all day long, omfg, I'm so tired, and I have to walk my dogs too... I should have adopted cats😅
@HollywoodHRA9 күн бұрын
@@anabelsama make sure you take time to look after yourself! 💛
@Inbaroush10 күн бұрын
You did wonderfully.
@Ela_at_Midnight10 күн бұрын
Thank you, very helpful❤
@joshhoman11 күн бұрын
That is wonderful!
@weiry_16 күн бұрын
I was around 11 days ago I was diagnosed (in my early 30s). I related to many of the things you mentioned in the video as things I had done then beat myself up about being rude or not engaged with people as much as I should be. Lots of work to do on my own self compassion.
@OlivierOlivemann19 күн бұрын
I like really too to see you 🥰😍😘❤️
@rachelparco75119 күн бұрын
I love that your keyboard is yellow. ❤ Also, your voice sounds amazing. As usual. :)
@Jamie_says_weirding_is_real22 күн бұрын
This is you...❤❤❤
@NecromancerSloth22 күн бұрын
I'm excited to see what this project is. Looks like an album, perhaps? The expression you're making in these clips I find very relatable
@LateDiagnosedAutism22 күн бұрын
I had no idea that there are Autism and ADHD memes out there. 2 months ago I found out through a therapist that I have Autism and ADHD @ 54. I like the 1st meme that is my life😂😂.
@duncanhewitt655722 күн бұрын
I don't think a lot of the public know anything about autism.
@fishinabox22 күн бұрын
I had a job where they wanted to get rid of me as it was hard to fill in forms. Even though I later wrote essays on stuff.
@LateDiagnosedAutism22 күн бұрын
I'm sorry that you were having issues from a company.
@fishinabox22 күн бұрын
I had to give up a job in a tool factory as a teenager as I was having nightmares at night because of the noise,
@LateDiagnosedAutism22 күн бұрын
I'm sorry you are having nightmare and giving up on your job.
@fishinabox21 күн бұрын
Thanks. It was in the 70s. I ended up doing volunteer work of different types. Did different types of education but hard to apply it in the real world. Later did Web design and development for charities then teaching old people computer skills.
@LateDiagnosedAutism21 күн бұрын
@@fishinabox I'm glad that you were able to find a career that makes you happy.
@fishinabox22 күн бұрын
Hi yes it is not being lazy. I had a flashback today which was I felt like some kind of sick substance because I lacked basic skills. I have developed skills in an alternative way over time.
@MarieFüchschen22 күн бұрын
2:54 me too, I barely can do anything planned. Since a few weeks, though, I really got into Tarot and Lenormand, and it helpeth visualize a task: I shuffle the cards and decide for a shade, e.g. pentagram or diamond, and “read the picture” (with the description), thence I write an “essay”/story why, how, and with what mindset I should do it. It’s lengthy, but it doth the job; especially now as I wanna work again (I hate the whole searching and applying), as a warehouse worker; I love sorting and driving the forklift /gen I always fell then like a character in my two favorite games: Sumire, and Lost words , beyond pages (both for Nintendo Switch).
@MarieFüchschen22 күн бұрын
12:40 I am just lucky my aunt hath at least SPS, so she understandeth, and understood, how disorienting cloths can be…
@ambervictoria1123 күн бұрын
This is extremely on point for me too
@gmlpc713223 күн бұрын
I agree that these terms can cause confusion, not least some people believing that someone with "high functioning autism" is actually a high achiever when they are often still struggling. It would be more accurate to use terms such as "higher functioning" and "lower functioning" simply to suggest that some autistic people can manage better than others but even those terms can still be misleading. I prefer to use the terms "verbal autism" and "classic (or non-verbal) autism" as the key difference is between those autists who can communicate fluently and those who cannot. Just because an autistic person is verbal though doesn't mean they don't have many difficulties and they will often still need support and accommodations.
@naofg27 күн бұрын
I relate to this so much. I've been diagnosed with ADHD, and I have some autistic traits that don't fit ADHD, but I don't know whether I'm really autistic as well. Either way, it might just be the ADHD that causes me to have so much less mental energy than neurotypical people. I also feel that ever since I had a pretty bad burnout 2 years ago I've neven been able to go back to my old normal. Nowadays I hit a limit of being able to do things so much faster than I was able to handle when I was younger. Adult life is so exhausting and the older I get the harder it is to keep trying to keep up with it.
@gmlpc713227 күн бұрын
I tend to obsess a lot over what words I will say to someone as I'm worried I might unintentionally say the wrong thing but overlook the fact that it's the tone that usually matters more. Much of the time people aren't listening much at all to the words but to things like tone of voice, emotion and body language and this is where I really struggle. Maybe it's like being an actor where we can learn the script but still get the performance wrong (in other people's view anyway).
@MichaelDavis-zu2koАй бұрын
I've noticed that unexpected human interactions trigger strong emotional reactions in me. I won't show it, but even small, positive exchanges, like swapping a shopping cart with a stranger for a quarter, can send my mood and thoughts spiraling for many hours or even days. If I find myself in a conversation that seems pleasant to the other person, I often feel overwhelmed afterward, as if I'm in panic mode. That's true even if I also felt like it went well. It's almost as if the better the interaction was, the more passionate I felt about it, the more I felt like I was actually making a connection with someone, the worse I feel immediately afterward. It's like my brain isn't used to being happy and passionate, and making personal connections, so it's overstimulating when it happens. Then, when its over, my brain doesn't know what to do with itself, so it defaults to anxiety and panic. I usually feel like I just can't deal with it, so I end up drinking and isolating.
@cogs777711 күн бұрын
at the beginning of the interaction, we're so used to protecting our feelings that there is anxiety to watch if something goes wrong. i'm slowly learning to let myself be hurt, or slighted. i try to be humble and let the other person have the ability to hurt me. i try to let any hurt pass through me, even if it takes time. also, i focus on anything positive happening. if the interaction goes well then i can share kindness with a stranger. i have faith that i will recover my heart soon.
@cogs777711 күн бұрын
i will say, i haven't learned to keep looking people in the eye, lol.
@taylora8845Ай бұрын
Interesting! As a hsp (high sensitive person) on the spectrum, I def struggle with fatigue, as well as auto immune issues. (I eventually was diagnosed with having Lyme &mold exposure. I think what isn't talked about much, is how so many of us start out as hsp's & being on the spectrum, which makes me think having such constant anxiety must lead to "burnout" & weakens the body to all these other things later in life. It's just a theory, but I certainly heard it from others as well! But thanks so much for the vid!
@HarryYTMАй бұрын
Another Ludovico Einaudi music I like is Nuvole Bainche and I sometime put it on repeat for hours as background music.
@HollywoodHRAАй бұрын
@@HarryYTM I’ve played that one too! 🥰
@nullifye7816Ай бұрын
*thank you*! :D
@GLORYSURFERАй бұрын
You are wonderful, thank you for sharing and being brave to do so.
@HollywoodHRAАй бұрын
@@GLORYSURFER thank you so much! I will not stop talking about it until people listen and understand! 💛🥰
@daintydalmatianАй бұрын
You have beautiful natural hair! ❤
@SakichiiАй бұрын
From what I’ve heard, rejection sensitive dysphoria is a trauma response, which can stem from frequent misunderstandings that occur due to autism. It sounds like it is a common experience for many neurodivergent people who disproportionately experience/develop trauma from social experiences.
@PhilBurns-oc2vgАй бұрын
I know all about this.I was diagnosed late in life and what i have said as a joke has often been misunderstood as being rude
@not_earsАй бұрын
lovely. really enjoyed the celebratory YES!
@SakichiiАй бұрын
Mmm, yeah I don't drink much of anything outside of water, and milk+milo - sometimes lemonade or lemon squash on rare occasions - and that I drink very slowly with only small sips at a time. I might have hot chocolate sometimes, but I realised I don't usually enjoy it much because it is never the right amount of sweetness or temperature - I guess it could just be an inconsistency problem with me not preparing it the same every time. I don't know a lot of people who mostly only drink water. Strong smells can be be bad but even faint smells can be a problem depending on the smell - it can smell a lot worse than it seems to others or just be kind of irritating or sickening. Definitely hold my breath when there is a strong smell of perfume. I really like citrusy lemon smells though.
@fishinaboxАй бұрын
I love Ludovico Einaudi. Thanks for making me feel dreamy and peaceful at 10.10pm this evening. You play it with beauty.
@BiggieChungulusАй бұрын
This looks very difficult
@LateDiagnosedAutismАй бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ it's beautiful
@fatballsakagrandpa3697Ай бұрын
great job 👏🏻 you should learn some Zeppelin 😬🫶🏻
@Goldun-nahАй бұрын
I just take everyone at the words. Words should be people’s bond. Unless they verbally communicate to me something directly, I don’t assume their thoughts or emotions. I tell neurotypical people it’s on them to use their words, I’m not going to read passive body language. Also I don’t assume malice if I’m not sure what they mean, I just ask for clarification but I make clear that I havnt taken them one way or the other I just need clarification. I’m not autistic but I am neurodivergent. A lot of neurotypical people find me exhaustive in my communication skills bc I’m very technical and concise as to avoid misunderstanding. Also grew up with a lot of gaslighting so I’m hyper-vigilant in removing any opportunity to be genuinely or disingenuously misconstrued.
@sierramares05Ай бұрын
being misunderstood then having to clarify the intention of what you said, all while being sensitive to how you made the other person feel is an odd experience. i only became aware of this happening in conversations recently! I'm so glad to have found this video. this makes me feel understood and less alone, hahah.
@HollywoodHRAАй бұрын
@@sierramares05 I’m so glad!! 🥰
@PoptartParasolАй бұрын
I've never heard it described like that, but it's spot on to what happens to me. No wonder i get too anxious to talk to people as a result, i feel so terrible when what i say is taken badlt
@___vlc___5730Ай бұрын
Omg I really feel you! I work as a sale person in a vintage shop. But since I did a lot of therapy, I can handle rejection, and also being a service worker, you learn fast that people are just mean ! But luckily fashion is my special interest 🥰 But I still miss understand people, and it's mostly just minor things. But when People try to do jokes, they fly over my head and Im like, what is happing? :O 😅
@pnkhazrdАй бұрын
I've been thinking about possibly getting assessed for autism this past year. A lot of the things I've heard about it I resonate with, but this might be the biggest one. Even dealing with ADHD, getting misunderstood is something that has affected me my entire life. I always end up overexplaining myself to prevent this and even then the words never seem to come out right 😣 thank you for this video, it was comforting to know we're not alone
@HollywoodHRAАй бұрын
@@pnkhazrd I’m so glad it helped! For me personally having the diagnosis was very reassuring 🥰
@PhilBurns-oc2vgАй бұрын
Do it as soon as possible because it takes ages to get a referral
@PoptartParasolАй бұрын
I also think i have autism and I've already been diagnosed with adhd as a kid. It seems those two go hand in hand with women
@BiggieChungulusАй бұрын
Well, awareness precedes control, or something. I've opted out of any personal attachments to the fake and dumb games people play personally.
@danielledavis2039Ай бұрын
I think I've been going through the cycle of burnout for years and not known it. I'm literally down to just going to work and sleeping.
@HollywoodHRAАй бұрын
@@danielledavis2039 take care of yourself 💛
@HispanocelАй бұрын
I'm having issues with a autistic friend of mine he doesn't seem to understand many of the societal norms and when I explain to em he doesn't get it, anybody have tips for that sort of things?
@HollywoodHRAАй бұрын
@@Hispanocel hey thanks so much for this comment. What I would say first and foremost is educate yourself on what autism is like for a person and try to better understand why he may struggle to interpret these things. It’s also helpful then to work out how you can be clearer about what he should be doing (and convey that in a calm and caring manner) so that he can try to be better at it. But also bear in mind that sometimes autistic people no matter how hard they try just won’t be able to do certain things. It’s about finding compromise (like for example would be be able to have a conversation if you met in a quiet cafe compared to a pub? Or would he not get so overwhelmed if he wasn’t made to feel embarrassed for having a fidget toy with him?), and also showing that you’re there to support him in these things, but most importantly show that you’re not trying to change him. I hope this helps! 🥰
@HispanocelАй бұрын
@@HollywoodHRA ok thank you very much I will try this
@magicalsp3llsАй бұрын
first question whether or not the social norms are nessecary like does it make him awkward or flat out mean? that’s smth i’d pick my battles with and only call out stuff that could actually hurt people
@magicalsp3llsАй бұрын
otherwise let him be himself w you masking is tiring for a lot of us
@HispanocelАй бұрын
@@magicalsp3lls not akwqrd or flat out mean it makes people mock him
@LateDiagnosedAutismАй бұрын
I can completely relate how you feel it's frustrating.