NTA, but i can understand where the wife is coming from because i assume it is pretty hard to accept the fact that something you love and have raised can do harm. That's why most parents of criminals can not accept that their child has done wrong.

Wow im shocked men use DUFFs too. I was always told that men were nicer to each other and not petty and manipulative like women... seems like we are all the same animal.

Im not surprised that hes surprised. Idk if most guys know that their male friends might keep bigger guy friends because it makes them look better. Essentially this poor dude's friend is exactly like petty girls who befriend fat girls to look better. And he was upset that his chubby friend cleaned up and put in effort. Its interesting to see it from the other side.

Damn

Damn

Can’t believe they’d do that

DIVORCE:)

Good

Nahhh now this guy's wife is a crazy dog person

You gotta pay the cost to be the boss, and he can't pay the cost.

*With updates:* My friend Joel(20M) ask me(21M) to join him for a double date with Jean(20F) and her friend Sam(19F). Joel got a date with Jean but she wanted to make it a double date as she wanted to introduce Sam to the dating scene in a more friendly kinda way. I agreed to it but Sam wasn’t amused by the idea of me being her date but agreed because she was happy with just the experience. Why? Well me and Joel are two totally different types of guy, he is the charming and athletic guy while i am the chubby and more reserved one. Doesn’t help i am balding this early in life. The times i have met her at university has been while i am wearing the same clothes. I have a set of clothes only for university, sort of like a self imposed uniform. Every day is different but i repeat weekly. So, yesterday i got my hair cut as low as possible without going into shaving, fixed my beard and i have to say i was looking mighty fine. Got out my “brand new” clothes. Now, today we had our double date after 2pm, I arrived late but only by 5 minutes. Joel was texting me like crazy until I arrived holding a rose for Sam. I am a bit corny but I thought it would be a nice gesture. Joel wasn’t happy for some reason, Jean looked surprised but Sam, she smiled widely and her eyes sparkled a bit. We start our date and Sam and I are having a bit of a blast. We decided to go out bowling before going for ice cream in recommendation from Sam. We got along but not really enough to say i like her more than a friend. Maybe a second date, solo this time, would be nice. As we are hanging out I could feel glances from Joel and small smiles from Jean. I know Jean is smiling because Sam is having fun but I didn’t know why Joel was so angry with me. After the date Joel unloaded on me. How i was cringe for bringing Sam a rose, that i was there to entertain Sam not distract Jean from him. That i dressed too formal and too fancy. I was only wearing a white shirt, flannel over shirt and jeans with my converse. He also said i should have stayed at home if i was going to act like i did at the date. I just talked with Sam, shared a meal with her, and went to get her favorite ice cream from her favorite store. He was there, and Jean was 100% onboard with the ideas. I barely talked with Jean, he had all the playing field for himself. Not my fault Jean was more interested in seeing her friend happy. *RELEVANT COMMENTS* *reebsk* Sounds like he was annoyed that you showed him up on the date. He is probably used to attention and thought being next to you would make him look better. Think DUFF. Sorry, just going based off your description. Girls care way more about thoughts and effort than just "attractive", thats why you were getting the attention of both girls. *OOP replied* I knew from the start he was planning to use me to look better. But I wasn’t expecting him to be rude about his date with Jame and blaming it on me. *adios-bitchachos* Lol maybe the only reason Jean agreed to date your friend was so she'd have an excuse to get Sam out on a date with somebody and Joel is salty about it. Don't worry about it. Sounds like you and Sam had a nice time and Jean is happy that Sam enjoyed herself. Joel is just being insecure. You absolutely should ask Sam to go out solo. Even if you decide she's not for you romantically, it sounds like you guys get along well and could be great friends OOP replied I think i will ask her out, she mentioned she was into retro gaming and we have an old school arcade close to campus. *Update Sept 26, 2023* A lot of people wanted an update so here it is. Lets start with my friend Joel. I explained him what happened and how it made me feel and he apologized. A bit of a forced apology but its been two weeks and he has actually changed a bit. I explained that he should be more attentive with his dates and took it to heart. He is still the same guy but now he at least tries to actually connect with his date. Jean, well not much, we started hanging out but i don’t know much about what happened with her and Joel. Just that it didn’t worked out. I will take that. Now, Sam. Well, i asked her out for another date, this time a solo date and she said yes with a big grin on her face. We went to the arcade and we had a blast, maybe too much. That night I returned to my apartment at 3 am and exhausted. That was a night filled with firsts. With that said, we hit it off, I thought we wouldn’t click but after a few drinks at karaoke really made her loosen up a bit and we talked for about 3 hours in our second date. Had two more dates and now are officially dating. I showed her my last post and she was amused by all your replies.

When you come home its your shift to take care of the house and kids so he can relax. Stfu and be a mother!

So they are democrats

Poor dog

😂😂😂😂😂🎉

Damn the father be strapped

Reminds me of my grandma when she hit a deer

OP's friend is what girls look for in eyecandy date, but OP is what one wants in long term relationship.

That friend is insecure as hell. Great job OP you did great at upgrading yourself and boost your confidence and image

I can understand why she’s upset and in my opinion she has every right to be sad about the loss of a loved one but the father did the right thing. Grief can blur your logic and she wasn’t making a huge scene, she just needed space hence avoiding her husband.

at first it sounded like marriage and just met

I genuinely dont believe dogs shoul be allowed to be pets i have 2 i know done in by dogs 1 accident 1 on purpose either way its wrong

It missed the very end " but really its at the bottom of a ravine" i think i spelled it right

Girl he physically abused you and raped you, you need to run and never look back

You both are immture as hell, 1 its just a word it holds no power over you 2 make sure you adress what level of jokes people are ok with before going in deep. Just petite ass children here

Girl run, sounds like you have your dad and grandma for at the very least emotional support. Touching you while you sleep it NOT ok. Being physical with you while your arguing is NOT ok. Yes hes a stay at home parent and thats hard work. But if he is not willing to have a serious, healthy conversation about how overwhelmed your feeling than he doesn't care. Sounds like he doesn't care about your mental and emotional health. Google 'help for moms going through divorce'

joel sounds like he was hoping to bring along his "ugly best friend" to make himself look better, but not only did OP outshine him in looks he was also better in personality for sure. next time joel needs to communicate that "hey dude, i just need you to make me look good" instead of asking his friend on a double date. those are two completely different ideas.

L mother/wife... WTF

Your family is assholes. I've never heard of anything so ridiculous

This man is great. Honestly i would go no contact

I love that he knew he was his dad. kids are so smart

No. It’s not being forgetful. He deliberately took the device and put it in the car. He’s gaslighting you and your son. He is punishing you both. It’s very devious and well thought out. A normal person, when confronted with the loss of a phone, would cancel the contract because why waste the money? So many things can be bought using the phone and thus run up a massive bill. It’s like losing your credit card and not cancelling that. If you don’t believe me ask anyone. He kept the contract running for several reasons (1) he KNEW no-one could use it (b) he sort of looks like the good guy, should it turn up but the nastiest of them (3) your son KNOWS that if he had the phone he could use it, but he doesn’t, so he can’t. It’s akin to giving him a bar of chocolate that’s locked in a box that can’t be opened. It’s teasing but not in a pleasant way but in a vile and depraved way. It’s an insidious dirty trick that your husband absolutely loves playing. He’s telling you not to baby your son, exaggerating his progression because he wants you to step back and spend less time and emotion on him. I’ll bet that of you sit back and look at the interactions he’s had with and about your son you’ll see constant attempts to refocus you onto your husband.. You need to wake up and smell the coffee.

How is he your fiancé and you seem to be allowing him to control your life. This is not a good idea

No

It would be one thing if it were with his consent but it wasn't, therefore he handled it by making sure to KO the one-eyed boxer to a captive audience. That's hilarious, mom played FAAFO and boy did she ever find out!

W husband

1, you guys probably needed to have a proper conversation about roles as staying home with kids can be super full on as can a 9 to 5. 2. He R*ped you that is a line that shouldn't be crossed no matter what not to mention physical abuse. I would say seporate for now do some relationship work and see where it goes

He is a SAHF which means he does all the chores... Raising kids is NOT a chore. So, stop being an absent mother and take care of your g'damn kids.

He is a SAHF which means he does all the chores... Raising kids is NOT a chore. So, stop being an absent mother and take care of your g'damn kids.

Remember, yall raised that dog!! To do that!! TO YOUR KID!!

His absense somehow made you a better person and I believe that when you have kids in the future you will make sure that your kids will be treated equally. Don't sweat over it.

Cut contact and just try prioritize your well-being and your future

Best advice I can give you a prioritize yourself and you will be in cut contact with your father and sister and possibly take care of yourself and well-being

Best thing you can do for your wife is on the day of your sister's wedding you guys should take a nice vacation

OP needs to go no contact with ANYONE that takes the wife’s side since by doing so they are proving that they don’t have the child’s best interests at heart

It wouldn't kill either of them to be apart for 1 day to support his family. They are asking for 1 day. I think his response is fair, but now he cant expect things to be the same with his family.

Idgas

You are a married man now you should stand near your wife

Joel jealous cuz you out did him and he a jerk... 😀😕😆😄😃😃😁😆😆😄😄

Mans is gonna leave the sister for the next 18 year old most likely