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How can i be emotionally available to someone when im not even emotionally available for myself? I can't give what i dont have

and if they don't allow it

Great points

idk i need help or not, i swear my mom really make me hate her so much, it hurting my heart, idk how to explain. every time i try to talk to my mom, my heart feel like got stab and wanna cry, its been a years i feel like im going crazy

He talks too loud and long with his college girlfriends that i couldn't focus on my study when i want to

I was orphaned at 12 years old. I had a best friend since I was 5 years old. I went to live with relatives who had a child my age who poached my best friend. My friend was at the relatives house one day and I was so excited to go out with her. She said “ I’m not here for you “. And that was it. We were never friends again 😢. It breaks my heart over and over whenever I know they are doing life as friends and I’m completely left out. My former best friend is now her good friend. I have not made any other Best friend… it’s been 40 years

I'm gone

And they violated it by touching you and they're not welcome in your personal space pushing those boundaries to have power over you what then? You might have to threaten them the consequences to come if they continue. Tell them they have no right to cross a certain boundary or let's say touch you hit on you won't work they know they don't have a right they just don't care unless it affects them in their other relationships or their personal life and their freedom. Or their own safety.

Thank You for this

they dont care. they keep violating you until you get them out of your life. they justify what they do with excuses. they are never accountable. they keep doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. that is why they never stop violating your bounderies. thy dont read signs. they dont listen to reason. they have no long term memory. they bearly have any short term memory. they live in the now. there is no tomorrow. they cant be reasoned with. they will explode easly. they will have rage outburst by themselves unprovoked.

I thought it was unintentionally but ever since I've known her like maybe for 2 yrs 🤔 she's copied everything I do then gossiped and stole my clothes denies it, dumped her kids on me while I was asleep no one was home.

I recommend setting boundaries and taking breaks.

I've found its best to be by urself n not bother with anyone as everyone betrays u no matter who wen why or wot!

very grounded advice. thank you.

I am so tired of these coworkers- who are passive-aggressive undermining. I’m in a temporary classroom helping a teacher who can make negative unnecessary comments. Since it’s a temp job- il just do my job.

These fucking roommates 🤬 god i just need a good sleep..😭

acknowledging bullies being in pain is great! Could we comment something along the lines of.... 'ahh I'm sorry to see you unhappy, that can't feel good! I hope your mood perks up and you are feeling much better tomorrow' because you would be so much more fun to work with if you where happy'.

Or stop being a " terminal victim"

Very wisely put!

He always complains about money and talks about all these bright ideas… but then doesn’t wanna get up in the morning and WORK! He won’t shower , he won’t brush his teeth . I’m over it

This guy is LAZY and aloof !! I’m leaving next week lol

This psycho brought a cat , won’t clean the litterbox , it’s not even vaccinated , and she doesn’t even want it , she closes the cat in a dark room all day and leaves it alone

It was actually my boss and mentor that stole my idea. So, it's just sorry for myself at this point.😂

Unfortunately, nothing works with narcissists or avoidants. No amount of modeling good communication skills, like active listening or positive reinforcement, encouragement, validation, etc helps this type of man understand & apply. They simply don't care - IF they're even aware that other people & perspectives exist.

She always gets angry, no matter what for like literally no reason

This is all completely out of the question she doesn’t pay rent. She leaves all kinds of messes in the bathroom in the kitchen and sometimes smokes in the bathroom, which is against the rules.

the complainers TELL THEM TO STOP

Irrelevant content becuz:- Reasonable ppl end up negotiating without help. Example- globally ppl are mostly driving and sharing space while driving by simply being reasonable . No talking just a sensible overall approach . Cuz they al have similar goals. Problem arises when the goals are geometrically opposing . Atleast one person enjoys bothering the other atleast covertly. Room mates can be criminals who trap ppl to live with them purely for narcissistic supply. Negotiations do not work with cluster b personality types. They will use the info they gather about u to harass u. Ur only escape is to leave and they will not make leaving easy. The fact that u r decent, have a professional tone , are neat , are well organized will make a cluster b personality type more excited about harassing u cuz it’s more fun for them to harass decent goal oriented ppl .plus they will have their secret network of psychos to help them , a white team of flying monkeys. I don’t think anyone needs advice on how to deal with normal , reasonable ppl.

My heart is sore for all the "other children". We are the silent soldiers. Learning how to survive our own stories, it can make or break us .... Choose to be strong maybe that our life's lesson? ❤ to all who have plasters on their heart.

I don't agree!! This just breeds unnecessary behavior

Its just a pity toxic people ruin everything including contracts, and the business altogether in some cases.

Also my bf he is amazing at making me feel loved except for expressing his opinion to other women he knew or knows by saying they r attractive while in a relationship with me and so many key details we had a conversation and he genuinely didn’t know it would upset me in other countries expectations in relationships can be different than in America

😮 what filter did you use

A good one is you got this you are strong and you will pass through.

Vemco

Me too

Your dad was ignorant and had poor parenting skills. I’m glad you got to grow up kind. That so beautiful. We need you here.

Lol I literally said "you bitch!" at the end of the video 😅 yes this lady has me all figured out and I am the embodiment of emotional unavailability

1. Ask yourself about your own thoughts or feellings, make sure it is detailed. 2. Try talking to them about your problems, and if you think you can't do that.. just write it all out on a paper 3. Setting boundaries, give some personal space 4. Forgive ourselves, not them. Not everyone had the same mutual feelings as you do. 5. Refocus on yourself. Note: please watch the entire video, because if you're really struggle with relationship between you and your parents... there's a higher chance that you can find a solution.

Amish do this all the time

Volunteering can also be a situation where that person is also undermining you which is ridiculous because there’s no pay or promotion just the desire to help others

not entirely true, but those could be part of the signs, which in many circumstances have nothing to do with emotional unavailability!! Everybody, in one way or another, experiences them anyway, does that make everybody emotionally unavailable?

Thank you so much for your encouragement and support around learning to stop resenting your parents and how to process through those hurts, really great tips and steps. I really appreciate this 🙏🏼

I always say, 'I'm just bitchin'

I have a roommate who talks really loud on the phone, like she’s the only one in the house. I told her multiple times, but she still doesn’t listen.

idk how people can just be so messy, its so frustrating since no matter what i could say to them they themselves seem to not mind the mess except me.

been living in a house been they rarely clean after themselves and i have to keep consistently ask them to. loud and have to keep telling them to be quiet and been worse with the amount of school i also have to manage. Now i been called for being selfish for not doing their laundry. idk how it got to this.

I'd like to add that most bullies are about manipulating and playing the power game. Also most bullies don't have to verbally say anything to you in order to be a bully either. For example, my bully at work is indirectly playing a power move in taking my parking spot all of a sudden when I had been parking in the same spot since day 1. She's a team lead and has been with the company for 10 years while I've been with the company for 6 months, so she thinks that she can label me as a pushover and force me to park somewhere else so she can have top spot. Which is extremely f***** up cuz with her being a team lead, that's not how a team leader should act towards a co-worker. Makes it even more difficult when she treats me like crap and is completely dismissive of me like as if I'm not even there, and turns around and treats everyone else like gold. Those are also the type of bullies that are not being mentioned commonly.

Wow I'm not going to kiss the game playing passive aggressive people's butt's or give them any chances to shoot zingers at me sorry they are TOXIC