So relatable!!

Yes please 🫶🏻

I have to clean my ears after showering because I can't stand the sensation of the water drying in my ears 👀

I just received the diagnosis with 38. Thanks for sharing your experience.

Sounds just like my daughter when she was 3-4. She does this today with her LoL Dolls.. just love all this information. I worked with early childhood education and I have seen all of these beautiful characteristics. ❤❤❤ Thank you so much for sharing. 😊

Are these called 'naked necks'? Looks like a silkie mix. Cute!

I get what your saying by keep repeating "little white boy" stereotype, becuase it was a thing, and the diagnosis has become much more of a spectrum now because of it.. But its extremely disingenuous to many "little white boys" that have autism but dont fit into that stereotype either. So by you keep repeating it it just makes the small percentage of those white men who were over looked as a child and now over looked as an adult even probably feel even less understood and heard even in the autistic community..

You are my daughter in so many ways and I will cry when I see her in years to cone speak so calmly as you do. Well done you are so valuable and you are a survivor of bullying.

Gate keeping around physical diagnosis versus self diagnosis. Always been curious about this for sure.

"I'll take That!" 😊

Trauma around SA would be my vote, although I'm interested in the ladder video prospect as well, lol. I love Cosmos btw they're beautiful.

I have both

Put me immediately into tears when you mentioned being ahead of milestones as I was. That’s one piece of me that I couldn’t find any info on. I’m officially adhd, unofficially asd (therapist had me do all those online tests and another doctor has spent hours with me and believes I am.) Just waiting on official diagnosis and I’m still so scared I’ll get someone who doesn’t understand. My thing was language, drawing, books. Total language fascination. Unicorns! Thing is, my mom doesn’t remember a lot of details and to her it was normal mostly. Exception was my need for alone time all the time.

You’re talking about meeee 😲!!!! My collection of bouncy balls, I still have it, I have over 100…. And I spent as much time as I could hanging upside down .. I haven’t met anyone with this sort of quirks! And of course lots of other things, sounds so much like me! Wow it makes sense….

Wait a minute, you've been with your husband for 8 years , you're 24 and he has a 13 year old daughter?

I'm not a fan of my Aunt Cindy's blender😢.

Very concerned for my Granddaughter who is 5. She was in a kindergarten class and bit the teacher on the hand. She seems to be a very busy young girl. So concerned and live quite far away 😢

❤

Diagnosed with ADHD in my 50s, 3 years ago, and it explains so much about the previous half century. Having said that, ADHD, at least as described by professionals and in the literature, doesn't explain some problematic stuff (especially social / interpersonal) which makes me think that either I'm ADHD and ASD, or there's a much bigger overlap in presentations of the two conditions than is understood or acknowledged. On the subject of stimulant ADHD meds, here's my penny-worth: I've been on Elvanse (aka Vyvanse) for almost 3 years. Given that it's a stimulant the massive paradox is that it Calms My Head Down. It slows down the racing thoughts, and to some extent keeps intrusive / unwanted trains of thought at bay, which otherwise tend to take me to bad places. An unexpected result is a more stable mood for the time the stuff works most effectively (for me, around 6 hours - it differs for different people). On difficult days, when I know, as soon as I wake up, that it's going to be an uphill kind of day, I can sometimes feel the Elvanse kicking in, almost like a switch flipping, an hour or two after taking it. Then, my brain is suddenly no longer racing in neutral, 8000 revs and going nowhere. Instead it's cruising along at 50 in 5th and then, often, stuff just starts working.

Oh! The boing-ey door stops- I could not leave those things alone!!!

Fake

You've described me as a little girl. Like EVERYTHING 😮 and I don't know how to feel about it. I'm 47, just self diagnosed. The things I thought made me me are autistic traits. The rest is masking. Who am I then, what is left, do I even exist? Is it really a simulation, and we've given preset avatars? 🤯

Wtf you are not autistic. Relax lol

Thank you so much for this video. I realised I was autistic at 36, and have two young children. I had been looking to KZbin for videos on how to manage overwhelm as a neurodivergent parent and there is very little out there. I feel so overwhelmed at times - I have no family support to help raise my kids, just me and my Husband. So I’ve been having burnouts because I never get a break and I have realised how important my own alone time is to prevent me having meltdowns and burnouts. The more information out there on this kind of stuff, the less people will feel isolated and alone.

At no2 I thought about my wife and how wonderful she’s coping with her trauma-she asks our boys for 30 min alone time after work, and then they do stuff together- it’s has become “routine”. #3 - I don’t think we should worry about telling what we think is wrong, but how to do it without “bullying” people,and not to gaslight ourselves into oblivion afterwards. ❤

This is 100% my experience. I'm going to have your video in my back pocket when I'm trying to explain my experience to people. I am very recently in my self acceptance phase. Thank you for the video!

This is 100% my experience. I'm going to have your video in my back pocket when I'm trying to explain my experience to people. I am very recently in my self acceptance phase. Thank you for the video!

You’ve got 4 kids … is it easy for you to have eye contact with babies when you nurse/take care of THEM .. 🤔🤗

Thank you!

They weren't based on "white adolescent males"... they were based on "white adolescent males that fit some set of stereotypical presentations". I think the notion that females present differently is also a false premise. People that mask highly present differently, whether they're male or female, though more females certainly seem to fit that criteria than males... by a lot. If you look at all people that are diagnosed later in life, they're going to be in a similar boat. I wasn't diagnosed until my 40s. And I remember more things that I did as a child every day that seem like a big, "DUH!". I still have "imposter syndrome" with respect to my formal diagnosis, and then I get another slap in the face waking me up. I had some memories come back up this morning about a time when I was with some stranger (to me, but this person knew my mother), for some reason, and he had a car phone! So, I was compelled to count to 100 on the car phone... inputting all of the numbers. Fortunately, he was really patient and let me get all the way to 100 before saying it was probably a good idea to stop... which worked for me because it was a nice stopping place for my rigidity towards "completeness". I still don't know why my mother wanted him to give me a ride to the place we were all going to... nothing happened at all. Maybe she just thought it would be fun because he drove a convertible... or maybe I even mentioned something about never riding in one before... because I know to that point that I am not aware of riding in one before that. I think there were a few things that kept me under the radar. My grandparents mostly raised me until I was school-aged and they were very patient and proud of me (turns out, my grandfather was also likely autistic... and a couple of my cousins are... and my grandfather had a lot more affection for us than the other grandkids... 3 of us versus 17 in total... what a coincidence). Despite meltdowns and many ailments that are now considered highly comorbidties with autism (sleeping, digestive, etc.), it never was a problem for them because I was just me in their eyes. But, I had some tragedy happen shortly after entering Kindergarten and my behaviors were likely chalked up to the trauma... and then I think the masking started after my stepfather came into the picture because I wouldn't have survived in my own home without those skills, let alone the normal and routine issues experienced by autistics from peers at school. EDIT: I also worry that this lack of representation has been detrimental to everyone, considering that it is probably entirely genetic (I don't why people say, "mostly" genetic... whether it is inherited, epigenetic, a mutation, or a combinatorial set of inheritance from two parents of which neither are autistic... it is still "genetic"). My mother and aunt have some serious issues. I don't know that they're autistic, but I wouldn't be surprised if they are. My mother is a massive attention seeking narcissistic jerk. I don't think it is a misdiagnosis and that she could be autistic instead, but that if she is autistic, she is also a narcissist. If she is autistic... the narcissism is probably from the feedback she received and not having support and accommodation. And that absolutely ruined my relationship with her.... and not having a father around (the tragedy I experienced early was that he died in an accident), I could have really used a good relationship with my other parent. And when we see the cringe "autism moms" out there... how many of them are just other versions of my mother? Somebody that could likely be autistic and has had a lot of negative feedback that has horribly shaped them. And the cascading repercussions that their children and grandchildren have experienced is due to this horrible job of identifying autistic people of all types. It is a horrible shame.

I'm recognising all of this what I was like as a child tickling all the boxes reconiseing stuff that I didn't realise before. The bullying really effects what kind of adult you become

Fantastic synthesis, thank you. 🙏🏼💓

Two points: - the expression "This isn't a concrete science" is not true since this implies there is a lack of a large body of study and evidence. - Executive functioning includes emotional regulation & expression not just time blindness Please change these two parts on your explanations to avoid misrepresenting the science of neurodiversity We know A LOT about it but we can always know more. See Dr. Barkley for studies on executive functioning and comorbidities Other than that, I agree it is like a constant battle between two different brains

That salt lamp is not good to have around your cat, it’s poisonous. Especially, don’t allow kitty to lick it.

I am tired of people like this. She doesn't have autism. Speaks clearly with a bunch of tattoos on her body. NO autistic person can sit through the tattoo process. That would cause way too much sensory issues.

I wish I had realized in my 20’s. I didn’t get diagnosed until 35 with 3 kids when I had a major meltdown. :-(

I always wet the qtip before putting it in my ear, cant deal with a dry one, but when wet no sound and doesnt feel horrible

I did the exact same thing. Researched the crap outta autism and realizing I actually know absolutely nothing about it. And really nobody really knows anything about it except the doctors. Parents don't normally know the symptoms to look for and if their kids are not delayed then they think nothing is wrong. We could be geniuses lol. Nobody would ever think Austism and I am still not diagnosed but I'm seeing the signs in myself and my kids and my boyfriend even and my kids friends and literally everybody around me seems like they may be undiagnosed. It's insane.

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That about covers it. Two people on the inside and 10 on the outside. Yay...

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Good topic

You give me hope for may daughter to be independent when she grow up.

I love your tattoos. Thank you for sharing your experiences.

The toilet thing I remember I went through a phase for years where I'd have to run away from the toilet before it finished flushing so it didn't "get me". I have no idea why but there we are 😅

I was really into The Kinks for a while and I felt I needed a role model so I would dress the way The Kinks did on stage in 1964 and dress like Mick Avory in general because he's the member who resonated with me the most. That was 10 to 14 years ago. I don't do that anymore. Now I just wear whatever I want, no matter how strange I look.

Very helpfull thank you

Wow you stopped me cold with this video. I also had a bully at home. 😮

Thanks for the video

Excellent description thank you!