For real if someone doesn’t smile back at you, your gut reaction is that they’re being rude? There can be so many other reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with you. (Not judging you, I just find it interesting that that’s what you think.)

@jennifers5560 Yeah, I know that now, but growing up it was one of those arbitrary social rules you're supposed to follow and I'm trying to shed that in my adulthood.

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"don’t force your opinion on others", you mean like you just did? -----> "(self) oppression is a state of mind as just what you believe"?! Pretty sure gaslighting isn't "polite" nor kind.

I do think you didn't watch the video and don't know what she is talking about. If that doesn't interest you, you should have went your way instead of exposing your uninformed opinion. You're gonna see more of her videos in your feed now because of the algorythm, and that might not be what you want

Did you actually watch the video or are you just reacting to the title?

As a parent, I think question why you want to teach them things, and look at how you want that to be taught to them. Beyond that, my humble opinion is that most women I meet have low confidence/self esteem. So my primary goal for my daughter is to nurture that with her. I would look at common social pressures in your local culture, and try to counteract them where you can? Otherwise: honesty and mutual respect go a long way in parenting IME! 💜

Obviously I don't know your specific situation so this may be a miss, also I'm not trying to be mean here. Anyway my first question to you is have you raised this issue with the school? Because the way I see it it's the job of parents to make sure their childrens needs are met. At the same time the purpose of the public education system is largely to instill conformity. I mean it's not as obvious as it was on Roger Water's day but The Wall pt. 2 isn't that far off. So in regards to your daughter directly I'd concentrate on helping them process their feelings on the neglect they're experiencing in school. The best result from this is not a child who learns to police themself to appease others, the best result is a child who learns to assert themself and not back down when others try to tonepolice them. Preferably also with the trust that the people in their life will back them up when they need it, as this will make them expect it and do wonders to what kind of relationships they will build/get into in their life. And yes I know these are lofty goals and you're not a terrible mom if you don't live up to them. The goal isn't perfection it's an honest effort. Also I'm really sorry if you live under a school system where you don't feel safe to advocate for your child.

@@mikkosaarinen3225 definitely not mean, fantastic advice and thank you as I feel like that's what I'm trying to do for the most part. Both my girls are ebd and have/had IEPs and one of the things that we work on together is understanding 1 how tone can be unintentionally hurtful and 2 to listen to people's words and not their tone as default. That's also partly because I have chronic pain and apparently pain and anger sound the same out of my mouth. As for the school 😆 I've gotten 3 teachers and two administrators fired, half a dozen sent for retraining, got a new training program instated and the school board hears from me often. I'm just dealing with a lot right now and besides this and a culture of Christianity and maga in general everyone's really good and a replacement would probably be worse. Though I have recently gone off a few times over staff telling my crying child to "smile" etc. There's only so many battles one can fight at a time ya know?

Do it!!

idk the answer to this but there are lots of vids with her in them left on youtube, just her channel is removed. people delete their channels but their collabs and fan uploads are still there

HOLY SHIT YOU'RE RIGHT WTF

Ally is okay, just deleted social media.

@@stevie oh okay, thank you

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