This is spot on, I recognize myself

I just recently got diagnosed with Quite BPD. I feel so scene with your experience

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let go all joy,too the fear of abandon. you are not it.you emotions signal to you what dont go for you.change or let go things that make you suffer pls

I still struggle with the FP thing. It kept me into a narcissistic relationship. Then it caused me to lash out in resentment. It didn't end well.

It's not ok. People love to dump their emotional trash on me and I'm sick of it.

after being love bombed and then rejected by the third guy I realized am meant to be forever alone with this disorder and Im not gonna fight that anymore I might become a nun and Im not even kidding about that

I don’t think Americans are suffering from anything accept narcissism created by horrible parenting and Lyme disease

"Lonely and exhausting" - the headline to the first 30 years of my life :D Really beautiful words and video. Thanks for getting the message out. I personally found healing in spirituality and the ability to be alone without judging myself so that I could learn how or who I am. I literally had no fckin clue about my own interests, needs, desires or how to treat myself when I am done (except for beating myself up or doing self harming/dangerous stuff). Learning to be alone and accepting yourself really is a total game changer and the direct cure for it. Best of luck everyone <3

I can’t thank you enough for making this video. This is an extremely vulnerable topic that spoke so verbosely on that I bet not only helped you, but also helped many others including myself. I am going to speak with my psychiatrist about this because almost all of the attributes that you’ve mentioned and which I’ve researched do line up with my life experience. Thank you again Kayla🙌🏻 This really meant a lot to me❤

Hi, obviously I don't know how to be in your shoes, but what I want to say. 1) you like 10/10 girl and basically nobody abandon or leave such a girl(like, yeah, men works like this, gross but true) without a reason 2) often bpd girls fall in love in glorious narcissists and, well, it's just impossible to build relationships with those type of men. You just can't. 3) living with bpd girl is exhausting. Constant emotional roller coaster, constant checks, tests, paranoia, validations of love and chaos and binary behaviour. Oh he will abandon me I need check, - make him crazy, he got completely mad, worst fear now real - I need fix situation - love and sex bombimg him. Return to point zero. Repeat So for me the best way of relationship for girls with bpd - lower expectations, choose guy in 7/10 league but who will happy to have 10/10 girl and will be extremely patient. And his patience will slowly cure your bpd. Honestly, for my opinion this is only thing that works And what else, you are beautiful and nice and smart and kind(probably) girl. I wish you good luck and happiness in your relationships!

Yes..i loathe myself when i realize i wear a false happy facade..when in reality when im alone,i cry sooo fucking hard. Im tired of it to be honest😮‍💨🥺😞

I am not diagnosed with BPD but i feel the same as you..i thought it was my attachment style 🥺 i struggle so much to love myself to the extent that i dont like to feel that way Thank you for sharing. You're not alone. 🙂

thank you so much for this video! i've known i wanted to be a therapist for a few years now, but have been thinking i'm too "messed up". this definitely gives me hope! best of luck to you <3

I’m going through it right now and it’s the worse it’s been

Hey, i feel you❤

I wish you all the best in life

She keeps saying BPD. This might be a dumb question, but is she talking about Borderline Personality Disorder or Bipolar Disorder?

I'm awful at accepting compliments or gifts. I've always felt unworthy and awkward when given one.

Does those with quiet BPD mask socially often?

Do you think one who has bordeline traits would find fullfilment in working in counselling or should stick to nursing?Which one is better for us?

F***! Thats me!!!😢😢😢

The high sensitivity is trauma. It is like if the skin is wounded , you’ll feel everything way too much. It is like a cable without any insulation

Oh em gee. This is me in a nutshell!!

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

I’m not bulimic but I binge food by chewing and spitting it out. However doctor says I don’t meet criteria for Ed or binge eating. Very frustrating and it happens at least 5 times a week.

You are way more appealing than the cluster b that fucked up my life . Cute cats too .

Thanks for covering this. I have CPTSD and a lot of it comes from a sibling with BPD.

Woman are emotional beings.

What about that age regression when you catch someone behaving like when they were 5-7 years old but in a positive manner? (seeking nurture, care and wanting to cuddle; talking in baby voice- specially seeking mother and doing anything to catch her attention)

It surely hurts to realise this, and we seek ways to find understanding in what the hell is wrong with us. The we will see this pattern: We put up a "high functioning mask" and live with it nearly every waking second, living in an unnatural and unhuman state. Then we wonder why everyone is so different and alive, and we can never be close to them. We have lost the sense of self behind this mask, and it will be a huge struggle to put it down without breaking down the person you were built up by the world to be. And this struggle, very few will even see it beneath your tired gaze. Even fewer will be prepared to face the void that has festered in you forever, when it occassionally leaks through your mask and destroys whatever is in the way. My best metaphor to describe this internallised and unstable mental state, is like standing alone on a single foot on an infinitely sharp blade and balancing yourself with a sword in each hand. You overlook an endless abyss and sky all around with no horizon in between. You are always figthing to keep yourself in balance, even if your foot hurts from the blade beneath cutting into it.

Make sure to add don’t cheat and lie to your partner lol

As a x4 bpd I know

How about a padded closet with a dorm fridge and a phone of course. One and Done!

Thank you so much for helping to explain this, it's such a defeating and sometimes devastating disorder. I'm grateful for people like you who give us a choice. I've been trying to do the same on IG but most people don't really listen

what do i do its getting worse i need help

I don’t think I have BPD, but I am Autistic with ADHD, & I really relate to some of this; especially the emotional masking. I don’t even think about it; I’ll be miserable & sad all day when I’m by myself, but as soon as I see other people, I’m immediately all smiles & high energy. I don’t know how to turn it off. Thank you for sharing this 💜

I ruined almost every relationship I had because of my bpd. Hurts.

just look at male female ratio in psychology classes, men are probably more likely to view psychology as pseudoscience being logically inclined and combined with splitting probably less likely to seek talking therapies due to seeing psychology as negative and a waste of time

hmm, mine is so bad I can't even watch the video because a blonde is looking at me. Sorry, wish I could even focus on the content. I'm too far gone.

For every "BPD" said I drink

Thank you!

Super helpful! I guess my question though would be how does someone with BPD get motivated to apply these practical tips? Have a family member who has been diagnosed but won’t do therapy, won’t exercise, won’t practice mindfulness…basically does not want to do anything described here. Where does she find the motivation and desire tl begin to practically apply this sort of advice?

You seem autistic...

Most people with quite BPD are misdiagnosed AUTISTICS!!!

Its really calming and heartwarming listening to you. I feel a lot like you and i was suspecting i had bpd already :'c Thank you for making this video ❤

I have quiet BPD. People assume my symptoms are less severe than they are and expect more of me than they should, and then when they realize I have a personality disorder they assume the absolute worst of me and shove me away really hard. The fear of abandonment comes from being abandoned. I get the worst of both worlds, too much expectation and not enough compassion. I seriously hate myself and wish I was someone else. Glad you're successful though good for you

You have undiagnosed autism. It's not anymore of a disorder than being gay or trans. It's just a different neurotype. Unless someone is certified to diagnose ADULT autists, then they WILL misdiagnose you because of outdated training which only applies to cis white male children.

heard.