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@WillBratt 7 күн бұрын

Too relatable 😅

@bebetterhalves 7 күн бұрын

@Dannterdom 14 күн бұрын

Cool

@bebetterhalves 12 күн бұрын

_You're_ cool, @Dannterdom! 😎

@WillBratt 21 күн бұрын

❤

@WillBratt 28 күн бұрын

Definitely felt like an imposter at the start of my career! 😅

@bebetterhalves 26 күн бұрын

This is so common!

@WillBratt Ай бұрын

So true, self love gets talked about like how people say you should just be happy when feeling depressed. “You just need to love yourself”. But having self compassion is super important to work on ❤

@WillBratt Ай бұрын

I’ll take this as an invitation to be waaaay more annoying about things that peeve me 😂

@flowergarden1426 Ай бұрын

I can’t take you seriously using Gods name in vain and all the rest of the unnecessary swearing.

@bebetterhalves Ай бұрын

I'm just glad you spoke up and didn't avoid the conflict! Keep using your voice, queen!

@WillBratt Ай бұрын

It’s funny, those were my favourite parts! 😂

@Terriw88 2 ай бұрын

This is so relatable! Thank you!!!!❤

@bebetterhalves 2 ай бұрын

Glad you found it helpful!

@sahanasai4332 4 ай бұрын

Great information! It felt ambiguous to me as well! Thank you!

@EnyaShello 4 ай бұрын

Watching this just confirmed to me that my anxiety is 100% a self esteem issue lol

@EnyaShello 4 ай бұрын

Watching this just confirmed to me that my anxiety is 100% a self esteem issue lol

@elixerprince_music 4 ай бұрын

Bro's eyebrows.↗↘ No hate but I just found it distracting😂

@bebetterhalves 4 ай бұрын

😂 Nothing a little Botox can't fix

@juliabrown148 5 ай бұрын

I wanna feel damn good about myself and no more guilt

@bebetterhalves 5 ай бұрын

We're here for that!

@WillBratt 5 ай бұрын

The things I tend to feel guilty about are pretty legit, but it’s the avoidant response that’s been hard to overcome

@laylascarlett2010 7 ай бұрын

Flashbacks, fears caused by association, sudden memories 😖

@MMumbles 8 ай бұрын

If you're so miserable, talk it out. Or get a divorce idk what you expect

@WillBratt 8 ай бұрын

You’re not wrong! 😅 The point is it’s about choosing how we communicate thoughtfully, rather than just letting our frustrations rip unfiltered

@ankahbello1327 9 ай бұрын

Can you recommend a good therapist?

@klanderkal 10 ай бұрын

I didn't ever want to retire because I Loved my job!, and felt so secure. All my friends, and workplace activities I look forward to....... then, a extremely stressful event happened,.. and I thought I had to retire because I wasn't thinking correctly. ( Cognitive Distortion thinking). I couldn't believe what I done!,.. I just want to go back to my job!, and my lifestyle!!... I went into shock!, and into depression with anxiety and insomnia. EVERYDAY, all I think about is going back, and all the coulda shouda wouldas!!... my health has gotten worse, I am unable to move on. I lost interest in all my hobbies and activities. I also don't keep in touch with family or friends. I ruminate all day over my mistake and how it shouldn't be this way. I didn't need to retire,... and it's all my fault.! I have self hate, lost desire to live, and don't appreciate life. This traumatic life altering event, took the life out of me..... and I cannot let go.

@lizcollinson2692 Жыл бұрын

For me I can manage fairly well but if i fell ignored or taken advantage of i can spiral pretty quickly. Large groups ate typically when it happens, I'm frequently overlooked or just used as a bag minder.

@Rjcgf-hk2ul Жыл бұрын

great video. Forgiveness, wash, rinse repeat ❤ Trauma is a life-long burden. Never goes away.....resurfaces and have to keep forgiving and forgetting...myself and others. I've had a lot of trauma and feel as though I'll never fully function properly. I've had therapy but at 60, I don't think I'm ever going to get much better than I am....... Just live the best I can each day.

@abdullaalteneiji6533 Жыл бұрын

What clinical psychology calls social anxiety disorder. I give it another name in how I understand it from psychology learned performance helplessness.

@swolfe9668 Жыл бұрын

Get bitter or get better its A CHOICE to be sad or happy, no one owes you anything in this world

@ogyanabear Жыл бұрын

i think i get your standpoint . ive had social anxiety all my life , & i would most definately say that while i wasnt always aware of it , it is rooted ( ? ) * in low self esteem & toxic shame . the feeling is associated with the subconscious idea that if i express ( or show 🫣 ) myself in any way people arent going to accept me , approve of me , scrutinize me , &/or worse .. why ? because i felt on a subconscious level that i was not a worthy ( or acceptable , likeable , etc . ) human being .. why ? ( & i think this is what youre getting at ) .. b|c of previous life circumstances which instilled this experience within me * . so i guess that would be the REAL root cause , & therefore , what we should really be looking at when it comes to healing .. either way , i do think the low self esteem still remains a connected factor .. but this video definately gives a different & possibly better way of looking at it 🤔

@lsonnenstaub3609 Жыл бұрын

I like myself when I am alone, but not around other people. They are so much better than me. I don't understand why I make bad experiences over and over again. It doesnt matter what I do and how I feel. It feels like I trigger people (especially women) to be mean and make me even smaller than I already am. Almost every contact to people worsens my social anxiety.

@lizcollinson2692 Жыл бұрын

They are not better than you. However they are not obliged to talk to you. Yes we can develop habits, or don't learn how to interact socially and create the response. Good luck, see if you can find someone to give you guidance and an outside perspective. Remember your value is not based on your social skill.

@Jhippo2679 Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@soumiamoujane3695 Жыл бұрын

I have learned that trauma keeps us at the age we experienced it.

@ronemtae3468 Жыл бұрын

It is getting harder and harder every day understanding how my childhood was stolen from me there’s no one to blame everyone is now dead😊

@mathews0618 Жыл бұрын

If you are dealing with a very defensive person, bounce. You are in for serious frustration and you will never reach them

@filippogino3583 Жыл бұрын

That is very true.

@andrewgross1758 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@noreallyihearyou837 2 жыл бұрын

Not a fan of this video. I understand that the video is on understanding *why* but without any resources as to what to do about it from a therapist, it is lame. Remarkably, I feel worse than before I saw this.

@unknownbrazilian1734 2 жыл бұрын

Is there any book that you recommend to help with social anxiety?

@cuntsneverdie-theysurvive 2 жыл бұрын

I was born with social anxiety I also feel like I have good confidence also

@mydreamsjourney 2 жыл бұрын

Great video. Thanks for sharing the information:) I would have to say that the age of the person who experienced trauma is relevant. As adults, our foundation has already been laid...in other words, our morals, values and beliefs about ourselves, our value, our self worth, sense of belonging & acceptance, our qualities & how we relate to others has been established. That in itself may affect how we respond to trauma as an adult. But as a child the traumatic experience will likely become part of the foundation which forms the fundamental beliefs of that individual . I believe this presents a unique challenge because that child may later learn that what they experienced isnt "the norm" and doesn't happen to everyone. But when you've experienced dysfunction or traumatic events as a child, changing your thoughts about it and "getting over it" is even more challenging if you've never experienced anything different.

@peterrobbins6691 2 жыл бұрын

36 years and still can't get over it. It was life changing mistake and it destoyed my life, but I keep trying.

@TheKaraqi4 2 жыл бұрын

But in the end, it still goes back to self-esteem being in danger, so you fear situations where you might get criticized and not manage to stand for yourself. Nobody likes that but you’d rather sacrifice all the good social experiences and avoid all social situations because your self esteem is so fragile and can’t survive one unpleasant interaction. My anxiety is definitely related to my self-esteem/confidence. External criticism brings me down and validation doesn’t even make me any proud, just “oh, good, I’m not so bad, thank you, but it could have been done better”. It’s exhausting…

@Melissa-nv7se 2 жыл бұрын

I mean I get what you say.. But I think social anxiety affects self confidence more than self steem , I talk from my experience , because even with my anxiety I found good friends and didn't stay in abusive relationships or friendships . It's true I avoided somethings even isolated myself but that never changed the way i saw myself as a person that deserves respect.

@knotler8341 2 жыл бұрын

My girlfriend tells me to bring up things that upset me in our relationship and every time she gets defensive and it causes an argument causes me to want to shut down again

@loraliecataldi1975 Жыл бұрын

I too will “shut down”….what happens to me is I start to feel flooded with hurt and pain and I need to then go on a long drive just to process and digest what happened. I grew up being gaslit for anything and everything I ever brought up when I was upset about anything and while I’m in what seems to be a shut down is me accessing if I was in fact in the wrong in some way as I begin to doubt my own perception of things and then I have to validate what it was that I said and that there was validity to it. After a period of time I can then come back after I’ve settled down and the depression I feel lifts to some degree to then discuss the altercation. I’ve come to accept that I won’t be validated by others of my own perceptions and still maintain true to my own experience. Usually these patterns repeat themselves until they are fully addressed and resolved. Until then we can expect repeat performances of the same. My quandary is the more I’m met with defensiveness the more caution and fear I develop of ever bringing anything up at all. In a way it has the effect of grooming me to not say anything or else be met with defensiveness, invalidation, being gaslit and if an apology is given it’s one that is communicated more in the spirit of “I’m sorry you feel that way” rather than “I’m sorry I got defensive and don’t want you to fear bringing your concerns or perceptions to me, so please forgive me for that”. The latter restores the trust, the former destroys it.

@knotler8341 Жыл бұрын

@@loraliecataldi1975 thank you for the response and the same thing happened I ended up just stopping bringing stuff up altogether, I later found out she had be sleeping with someone else for 6 months so I left that situation, I’m trying to learn to trust myself and my perception of a situation and not let myself be belittled into not trusting my instincts

@saibot293 3 жыл бұрын

Some of the s*** don't be realistic man.. feel anxious of a situation very very hard to stop and think all these things are you suggest. It sounds nice when you put it on a video but in real life it rarely works if at all.

@andysantana4055 9 ай бұрын

Changing the WAY YOUR MIND THINKS ISN'T EASY.... YOU ARE LITERALLY RE HARDWIRING YOUR BRAIN TO THINK DIFFRENTLY... THAT TAKES TIME DUDE

@raccuia1 3 жыл бұрын

Social anxiety does NOT always have to do with thinking negatively about yourself. Social anxiety can be about thinking about possibly receiving negative appraisal (askance) from other people or even having negative thoughts that not using all your social assets will lead to external negative appraisal from others. It is a learned behavior that at any time negative appraisal and thus a negative social outcome can occur. Anxiety starts to build and can spiral uncontrollably leading to more anxiety. The amygdala ( I have read ) is the part of the brain providing a fear response to real or perceived danger. Once the amygdala responds the response is difficult to reverse. The amygdala can also see danger that the fear response will lead to a negative outcome if noticed by others and responds by reacting with more anxiety.

@ziad_jkhan 2 жыл бұрын

Your response is dismissive of what's been exposed in the video however. It's more like arrogance instead.

@dinaclv3137 3 жыл бұрын

It really hepls, thank you 😍

@Comrade_Amin 3 жыл бұрын

🙂

@davee.4847 3 жыл бұрын

Can't stop looking at this guy's eyebrows

@okay9953 2 жыл бұрын

What eyebrows?

@ogyanabear Жыл бұрын

yall are weird

@davee.4847 Жыл бұрын

@@ogyanabear yo mama didn't think so last night

@michaelg9082 11 ай бұрын

@@davee.4847bro emerged after 2 years to make a yo momma joke

@reg8297 3 жыл бұрын

I respond defensively when my mother says I'm out of my mind I think that's normal and after I talk up son é C t she'll say It wasnt meant that way what other way does someome mean your out of your mind only that they are being abusive

@elMore1107 3 жыл бұрын

Malicious bitch cheating on me in my birthday

@robinlynn898 3 жыл бұрын

My husband had an affair 5 years ago...To this day, if I even mention the thought of him still wanting to be with her he gets super defensive and flies off the handle...I'm taking the defensiveness as only proving that I'm right.... Instead of trying to comfort me and reassure me all he does is get defensive and angry and to me, that's only proving my point, proving that I'm right..

@carladulaney7040 3 жыл бұрын

Does a trigger always mean you flight and leave a situation

@panedole 4 жыл бұрын

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@MrCoc07 4 жыл бұрын

I really love that video,it totally changed my perspective and does make sense

@itsmeee7 4 жыл бұрын

He misses the mark here....social anxiety is when you ASSUME the people around you are more smarter, more influential, more sophisticated, more masculine, more feminine, more assertive, more power full that you are. Drop those thoughts in the trash. You can stand up to any one. YOu are strong, you are smart, you are just as good as the other guy. The other guy that you put on a pedestal is often mis guided, and as lost as everyone else....NEVER NEVER NEVER down grade yourself.

@Melissa-nv7se 2 жыл бұрын

Actually that's low self-esteem my dear 😅.

@lizcollinson2692 Жыл бұрын

Not my experience, I'm great and I know it, but interacting with big groups leaves me feeling overwhelmed and excluded. I'm comfortable talking to total strangers than a large group I'm moderately familiar with.

@astrahl 4 ай бұрын

You are incorrect

@rashmiravindran53 4 жыл бұрын

I have been through all the experiences you mentioned in this video during my childhood. I was never allowed to believe that they were incidents that needed a second thought. Instead I was taught that I should have guarded myself better or perhaps dressed more plain or invisible so that I could have avoided these instances. Infact, today, years from these experiences, my family don't even remember or acknowledge they happened. I don't speak to them anymore but that was a tough call to make. I think childhood trauma can be initiated by lack of care or concern for the child from the caregiver. Sometimes people should just not have kids if they are not going to look after them. Unlike a pet, you can't give a child away. The parent has unresolved issues themselves which they are trying to pass on to their child.

@Puffie40 4 жыл бұрын

I went through some harsh workplace bullying last year, and both this, and your video about not being able to get over trauma, shed some much needed light on understanding my thoughts. Thank you.

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