10 changes (you might not love) that TRANSFORMED our tantrums!

10 changes (you might not love) that TRANSFORMED our tantrums!
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00:00 Toddler Tantrums 10 chages
00:11 Hey Shayla Introduction
00:26 I am not a tantrum expert
00:42 2 MUST READ BOOKS
02:08 2 words to live by as a parent
03:00 No Sugar Multivitamin
03:16 I used to travel full time
03:40 How I explain Germs
04:31 10 tips that actually work for toddler tantrums
04:43 BE THE CALM
05:54 Learn what triggers you
06:41 They expect what you predictably do
07:24 Acknowledge their experience
08:41 CHOICES help minimize toddler tantrums
09:14 Say what you mean good or bad
09:46 Say Yes.
10:08 Ask them to help with the solution
10:32 VISUAL TIMERs help SO MUCH with tantrums
11:11 THE #1 tip for reducing tantrums
12:17 What happens if none of this works?
12:54 Some kids need space
13:25 SHARE WHAT HAS WORKED FOR TANTRUMS FOR YOUR FAMILY

[@noellerohovit5908]

Recently watched a video where the mom, in order to help her daughter take some deep breaths, said “Smell the flowers, then blow out the candles”. Implemented that with my toddler and it is crazy how it helps deescalate a tantrum💁🏽‍♀️

[@chelsichristensen]

Genius. My kid always detested when I would ask her to take a few breaths to try to calm down. I tried this method and she actually liked it. Very much appreciate the tip!

[@analiachyrnialisnichuk2125]

Brilliant!

[@FlaMarriotts]

This is almost creepy, I started telling my toddler the same thing recently and it really does work!

[@ashleysanchez7543]

The Pior Fam is amazing! That's where I saw this phrase

[@hayleykeyes5848]

Today I felt that I was getting triggered and I said, “I’m feeling frustrated.” Then my 2.9 year old sang me the song from Daniel Tiger “when you’re feeling frustrated take a step back and ask for help.” Then I asked HER for help and she WAS HAPPY TO HELP. Got that tip from the Angela Santomero book “Preschool Clues” she created Daniel Tiger’s neighborhood, blues clues, super why… those shows always ask the a audience for help. Little kids are natural helpers. My daughter has learned so much from Daniel Tiger and so have I, as a parent, modelling Mom and Dad Tiger. We play out the scripts often and sing the songs in relatable situations.

[@rubyrouge988]

My 2.5 year old toddler was whining and crying and screaming at me as I was trying to put away groceries and I took a breath, ready to lose my mind on him, and instead I asked “bud, do you need a hug?” And he said yes, my heart literally melted.

[@heyshayla]

👏👏👏👏

[@kristym1091]

My child is 2 1/2 and something that works when I start to feel frazzled is to softly sing one of her favorite songs. It helps keep me calm and I feel like it helps calm her because if Mom is calm enough to sing in the situation then it can’t be that bad!

[@anitarashidi8466]

Same!!!

[@anitarashidi8466]

Counting backwards or forwards 5,4,3,2,1 or 1,2,3,4,5 with deep breaths. I model it for my 2 year old son - helps regulate me and him. Also singing what we’re about to do like “baby put your shoes on, or pants on” (thanks ms Rachel hehe)

[@extrememinimalism]

This works for us too. For us we sing 'toot sweets' and its long enough to not be boring and to be joyful to sing.

[@sarahcameron320]

“I can see that you are feeling (insert feeling here, like frustrated/disappointed/upset/etc), let me know when you ready to talk about it” is a phrase we use A LOT. I find this phrase helps name and acknowledge the feeling, gives my 3 year old time to sit with that emotion and know that I am here to talk things through.

[@melodid5023]

Our daughter is almost 2 and she loves animals and has started to hate brushing her teeth. The ultimate game changer for us was acting like there are a ton of animals in her mouth that need to be cleaned out. „Oh I hear a Lion siting on the back side of your teeth. Where is he? Let me see?” She opens her mouth in a second and giggles. Then we roar when we got the lion. “What is else there?” “An elegant?” She laughs all the time and the 2 minutes go by in no time. And every time she doesn’t like to brush her teeth we start with the animal noises and she is happy to clean all the animals out 😂

[@nicolevdb6301]

My little trick with my 1.5year old is to set my alarm with a cool Disney song that means its time to get ready to leave for daycare/preschool. He loooves it, hes so into it he runs to get his shoes and jacket and bring me my shoes 😊. So nice to have all of your tips in one place! I have been practicing at least half of them 😁

[@weldonservicegroup6962]

This is a great idea! Our 2.5yo on 11/6 will be starting preschool soon and I think this could help with motivation! Thank you!! Going to find a song now!

[@doravalencia2214]

After a meltdown my daughter was still upset but enjoying a juice while resting.. and then started saying "**** I'm crying, ***** I'm crying" and all she wanted was people to say "I see you I know you're crying" all it took to get her to move on 😊 she's 3.. I also give her the option to take a break, which for her means to go into another room and scream, this is lnt enforced or a time out its just an option to go and have her moment away from people of she chooses too..

[@cuhdence9075]

🙌 🙌 Understanding your kids individual personality. There is so much merit behind the 4 general personality types! The toddler whisperer uses a different name for each, I am an advocate for the "4 temperaments" (Choleric, Sanguine, Melancholic, Phlegmatic). But in a nut shell, dated back several hundred years, personality can be characterized by these 4 different temperaments! Typically, every human is considered to have two of the 4, a primary and a secondary. Learn yours, learn your spouse's, and learn your children's, and 90% of conflict in a home can be resolved just by understanding each other!

[@amelalazani4264]

You had me until bag-gel 😂 my oldest is 27 months so we’re just starting this phase

[@samanthaterry7415]

2 years and some change over here. Acknowledging is so helpful with emotions, too. Naming the feeling for them, or now I ask if he is sad or upset, that gives them an idea of how to handle it. My boy actually came over to me one morning that I got frustrated and teary over being later than I wanted to be, he said, "Mama's sad, let's do bubble breaths and a hug." So cool to see him recognizing and having a strategy for those feelings. We role play with stuffed animals having different feelings to get more practice, too. And you definitely hit it with predictably. It sets up a comfortable space when they know what is most likely happening next.

[@storytimewithkay]

I don't comment on things often, but I just feel so validated in my parenting watching this video. These are all things I have done and help me and my toddler get along. And really enjoy our time together. Of course we have our moments of meltdowns because that's life. But I'm just glad to know I'm doing something right and doing something that's written in books and other people agree with. ❤️

[@staufferstories7931]

Just wanted to add as long as your kiddo is safe and loved.. you’re doing it “right” 😉💗

[@imperfectly_megan]

A book that has helped me so much is "good inside." It is a parenting book and the psychology helps you with any relationship too. (the most important tip is that everyone is good inside and that thought can change the way you approach other people)

[@sandysanchez7151]

Thank you for the 📚 recommendation, just got the audio book as a result 🫶🏼

[@nikkisweezea2388]

My kid is 2.5 and he is like your sister and has been his entire life. Biggest problem I have with it is when other people are around and want us to comfort him or not put him in his room to calm down. We get a lot of judgement from our family and friends who think every kid just needs a "time-in" or to be comforted when they're upset, and just, not every kid responds to that. He really needs his calm down time. It can sound like he is being tortured, but any acknowledgement of his behavoir, or attempts to comfort him in the moment just make it worse. We just have to be the eye of the storm and wait for it to pass, then he wants comfort.

[@madelinehelwig8409]

Same. My 3 year old is like this and when other people are around, they try to talk to her to calm her which just sets her off more. I know she'll grow out of it. We just try to be supportive in the meantime and sometimes that means take her to her room to calm down.

[@missycl9200]

Yup!! That hyper anger sometimes no touching, talking, etc. They just need to come found in their own time. They can be alone in a safe place and they will come around.

[@breestep9591]

Love these!!! So hard to be calm. Definitely involves taking care of ourselves first which is one of the hardest parts of being a mom.

[@startoverone]

I would like to add one that I find works very well with us. When denying them something they want, or trying to get them to do something that is needed (like not eating too much sugar, brushing their teeth etc.), say it calmly and explain the reason honestly. Sometimes I may even use words or concepts that they don't know yet, but it feels like they understand your intention is good and appreciate you took the time to explain. I have a 1 and a half and a 3 and a half and this helps a lot with the older one, not yet as much with the younger 😊

[@dawnforlife]

One thing you "totally missed" as you told me to say..is REPHRASING (better still, injecting playfulness with it) instead of INSTRUCTION that really helps my strong willed 3 year old. Instead of "Please put on your shoes.", "Your shoes are saying I'm hungry hungry! Give me your feet, feed me feed me!". From gently asking to meltdowns and FRUSTRATIONS when I try to "help her, when I do that, she smiles and almost runs to do things. More examples, "Shower head is saying, let me wash you!" "Toothbrush is saying I want to get into your mouth!". I think playfulness is underrated in parenthood. It's HARD when I'm tired and getting annoyed with whining but more often than not, it HELPS! I agree to say YES more but from people who are wondering, what if I REALLY CAN"T in the moment. "Mama, can you play with me?" while you are in the middle of cleaning up after lunch. Instead of "No.", "Yes! I can't wait to play with you after I finish cleaning!" then use the timer 😊 We do a lot of things similarly and I love to be reminded or all these things. You do SO well with staying calm. I find that the older she gets, the more I forget that she is actually still REALLY young and my patiences seem to be A LOT less. Just a reminder..our toddlers are still babies! Brains not fully developed! BIG hugs to all moms! You guys rock!

[@heyshayla]

Yes to all of this!!

[@carinen8119]

Being the calm is such a major (and tough) part of parenting!

[@kellymichele30]

My 14 month old laughs when I say the word "No" so...love that for me. 😂 Love these suggestions! 👏

[@youtubepremium2152]

😂

[@Briekowski]

One thing I discovered that works with my almost 2 year old for transitions is telling him to say “bye bye, see you later” to whatever he’s currently playing with. Sometimes he’ll even blow a kiss to it too. Instead of me just picking him up and taking him away from the toy / play area.

[@heyshayla]

Yes!!!!

[@taykdew]

I noticed that when my little isn’t well rested he’s extra tantrum prone. Great tips and I definitely need to slow down and allow more time more often!

[@freymank9037]

I have a 2 year old. What has been helpful and worked well for her is my husband and I remain as calm as possible. Almost robotic. We affirm her feelings but put up boundaries. We sit with her until she's ready to calm down. She doesn't do well with being by herself or ignored. Once she is ready to calm We hold her and let her cry and calm down. Once she is calm we acknowledge her feelings again and talk her through what happened. We hug and kiss and it's over. Just being there helps her knowing we are a calm safe space for her. I think you're number one tip is what is most helpful for us with her! She's a really emotional intense child. Thus has helped us to calm the storm as quickly as possible.

[@dannygoldsmithmagic]

Look up the "physiological sigh" and teach it to your kids. It's the fastest way to lower the heart rate and bring you back to a state of calm. Also an amazing tool for parents

[@linseyedwards6946]

I have a 2.5 year old and she definitely responds to different tactics depending on if it’s me or my husband there. With me, getting on her level, asking her if she wants a hug, affirming what she’s feeling and offering a solution to whatever is triggering the tantrum usually works. My husband can’t reason with her on the other hand. It never works because she won’t even listen to him lol. What he does that works (for now) is do a random silly thing-like break out in a silly dance-to get her to focus on him, this usually distracts her, she stops crying and then he can talk to her. 😅

[@CayleeMullins]

Love it!! You’re always giving the best practical advice Shayla!!

[@isabeldiaz398]

This is so helpful. Thank YOU!

[@breniedhammer4406]

Thank you for this video! So many helpful tips 🙏🙏🙏

[@xXCourtneyLee13Xx]

My daughter was the one that needed to be alone to have a tantrum and then she’d come back in a better mood. My son who is 2 is a whole different person. Sometimes he needs to be alone and sometimes he needs a hug and guided breathing. We’ve started using a visual timer for bedtime and it’s helped so much! He also has a picture chart to do list and at the end of the day he moves pictures from to-do to done if he did them. He likes doing that with dad.

[@teaganjoanparke]

Love your parenting book recommendations

[@macyakoon]

Say what you mean!!! 👏🏼👏🏼

[@ElmwoodHeather]

Loved, loved LOOOOVED this. ❤

[@user-vq9xj4vs6w]

Mine's almost 2. In addition to trying most of these, another thing that's worked for us is a short, easy explanation of why something is happening. For example, she refuses to take her shoes off. I'll say, "Shoes are for outside. We don't wear shoes in the house." Sometimes it's that easy. (Sometimes it's not, haha, but worth trying). One more, I find she's more likely to cooperate if I appeal for help. If she refuses to put her jacket on, I'll say, "I need help, I need to put your jacket on to keep you warm. How can I do that? Can you help me?"

[@heyshayla]

10000% with the explanations!!!

[@kirstygibson117]

This couldn't have come at a better time. Thank you ❤

[@dessiemason2365]

I love your videos ❤ I always take something away to try with my daughters and try to demonstrate to my husband. I would love if can you so a video about getting family on board... grandparents, spouses (older generation)

[@cristinaharding3764]

LOVE this video! Thank you! I have an almost 3.5 year old and I do most of these things but was a great reminder and seeing what works for someone else.

[@Jessie90ish]

Young 2 year old son here. Whenever he just skips to being frustrated and whiny trying to get my attention, I take a knee. And he stops complaining and almost laughs at how easy it was to get me to listen. And I explain on his level what the deal is (I’m cooking, maybe play with your legos?!?) and it’s like over. Usually. But getting eye to eye is huge. Staying calm cannot be overstated either.

[@dawnforlife]

Love this reminder! Thank you! I found it the same! My girl whines, I disconnect and try to finish what I am doing faster but the more I disconnect, the more the whine escalates. STOPPING and connecting just for 5 seconds, so worth it!!! 😊

[@poechristhemfitz]

THANK YOU! I have been pulling my hair out with my 2.5-year-old for months now! I started my motherhood journey out with all the best intentions and it was all going well until about two months before my second baby was born. I don't know what happened. It's like my son just changed from one day to another. At first I thought it might just be a transition and I dealt with it fine. But then birth and the post-partum phase and having a new born..... I have definitely lost my patience and screamed at him too many times 😢 For months now I have been running in circles trying to reel him in, all while having a baby attached to me in one way or another. He yells so much because that's what he's used to from me now 😢😢😢 I cry so much, wondering if I have ruined my relationship with him... I will try all of these because I want my sweet little big boy to know and feel that I love him! And I want to re-open our line of communication and be gentle and caring with him again!❤❤❤❤

[@heyshayla]

He’ll follow your lead mama! New baby and postpartum is hard on everyone. Sending you all the love

[@AS-tr9zx]

These are all good! I like saying "I'll wait until you're ready." This is more of a pre-tantrum strategy, but something about it works 9 times out of 10 in under a minute. Probably because they feel like they're in control then.

[@heyshayla]

Yes!!!! “No problem you don’t have to pick it up, but we’re not going to the park until you do. Let me know when you’re ready to and I can help” totally agree! Same when they re feeling shy “you can say hi when you’re ready”

[@jasminesellers8148]

Love this! My son is almost 2.5 and just starting to get into the thick of some tantrums and very sassy talk. There are often big shifts if I give him a hug and say I’m here what do you need from me. Hope that could be helpful!

[@gracehawes9185]

This was SO helpful. Thank you so much!! So true about the time thing- it is so much more difficult to remain calm & understanding for your babies when you are in a rush. We have an almost 2 year old & 2 week old and I have referred to your videos so many times this week lol. I was curious do you have any videos on what naps look like for your bed sharing babies? Thinking ahead already but my newborn bed shares & in a few months i’d love to get in a routine of her taking some naps by herself so I can spend one on one time with my toddler! Thanks shayla for all your motivating & supportive content! 💗✨

[@heyshayla]

She napped in the carrier until about 4 months then I’d lay with her and roll away while the other watched a show

[@chrissyfrederick3424]

I absolutely appreciate so much how you've been big on how we can work on OURSELVES to help our little beings and situations. Not constantly blaming the little person learning for "just being a toddler ". You're approach helps me much, and gives me ideas how look up other advices to guide me to guide my children ( 18 month, and almost 3 year old). Giving choices and giving myself ALOT time to get out the door helps me insanely . I do follow your other advices (when learning them from your podcast or was already doing them) but these 2 I would recommend to anyone... oh and SNACKS! My issue I'm having now, that no matter what I try to do, is when he wants to leave to go for a bike ride or walk, and I say no (because i need to do something outside) just keeps at it. I try choices , playing, involving and simply going back inside but he's so stuck on going he just runs towards the road or throws a tantrum. I don't usually seek advice like this on any social platform. But I'm so desperate for any ideas or advice. I'd be very thankful for some help from someone 🙏. Keep being such a positive ,amazing momma! Love your videos, huge hugs!❤

[@syotos03]

Have you tried saying something like "i know you want to go for a bike ride. We can go for a bike ride _____ (like: after lunch, or after i finish this)."

[@chrissyfrederick3424]

@@syotos03 I promise I have. He just keeps insisting then dashes for it. I'm trying to be so patient and understanding but the safety of it gets to me so I take ourselves out of the situation. Which then comes another tantrum, but i let him cool himself down and all is well. I really want to overcome this with him 😔 I just don't know how

[@thedesertdaydreamer]

Definitely watching this now while my son is 4 months old trying to prepare myself for when he’s a toddler 😂🙌 Great tips! I think Raising Good Humans is a really good book for this kind of thing too 😊

[@Marvillar]

Doing the same with my three month old :)

[@thedesertdaydreamer]

@@Marvillar love it! ☺️

[@valjo15]

Also love the book hunt gather parent and the book how to raise upright kids in an upside down world by dr. Ray

[@Love-144]

My first one is emotional 3 years old right now and it’s been really hard for me; my second is 1 and the determined and she’s so wild but the emotional is much harder for me

[@katiewallace2063]

We trued Hiya, my kis qill NOT eat them. Even tried the drink mix, nope. Its blue, i tried to tell him it qas blue berry water... Now he wont drink water from his blue cup. Ugh Most of thebother things do qork for us. I get worked up and i beed to be better about regulating that. Great tips!

[@user-fz7qh7sj6g]

I literally do all these things and they work 60% of the time 😅

[@vanessagomezgamboa7670]

First of all I want to say thank you very very much!!! I will try all of them. We are all having the toughest time of our lives with my 2 years and 3 months toddler, who is not just entering the terribles 2 but also became a big brother 3 months ago 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

[@BrendaP21]

We had some issues for a short bit when we made the transition from 1 kid to 2 also. But what helped me was asking for their help! Help with the baby, help with cleaning, and help with yard work. My oldest LOVES getting the diaper and wipes and throwing the diaper away, along with giving her sister some more food (along with stealing a few bites for herself). She puts her laundry away more than my husband does! Lol! Sometimes, giving them the option of helping so they don't feel left out helps a lot. And praise them like crazy when they do. I always tell my oldest she's a great big sister and a great helper!

[@madisonryanbrown2879]

Hiya is great! Started them in the summer before my first started kinder and he just now got sick instead of right away. I’m giving the credit to the vitamins because we’re hermits and aside from his therapies, we’re not around a ton of people lol. He’s picky about food, taste and texture and he loves these! They remind me of the old school flintston vitamins. By that I mean there’s a hint of a hint of the flavor in them lol. But they’re great, easy to chew compared to the hard gummies and got my 2 year old daughter to start taking them and she always signs more after eating hers🤣

[@dawnforlife]

Super strong willed 3 year old here. I second acknowledgement! That's the BIGGEST but currently as I stepped up, my challenge stepped up too. Currently having a rather hard time with almost zero time for myself due to my husband being on crutches and unwell. My girl wakes up upset most days. Then she screams to be carried but when I hold my hands out, she will run away and say no carry and when I walk away to do something she will scream and cry carry and it’s just very triggering and exhausting. When I try to carry, she will say “just one hand!” And then “the other hand!”, yes!, no!, I want a toy!, I want a toy!. And by then I am so frustrated, I will say “I’m counting till three and if you won’t let me carry, I will go make breakfast.” Followed by HUGE screaming meltdown. If I give her what she wants, a toy, 2nd toy, 3rd toy, somehow she calms down. I noticed if I become playful, it usually ends quite quickly and stop it before it begins but when I am ALREADY exhausted, it’s SO triggering. Anyone experienced/experiencing similar toddler? It ALSO helps that I STAY calm but IT'S. SO. HARD.

[@Umm-Umm-e-Abiha]

Not having your partner 100% in is very tough. I can only imagine how overwhelming it must be for you. I have a 2 year old who does something similar. I've noticed 9/10 times she's wanting to connect with me. She doesn't wake up upset, but some days she has a "bigger cup to be filled" in the morning for connection. If I try to do anything on my own it's an uphill battle. When I've had a tough night and I'm stressed with everything on my plate (I'm a medical student), I forget... it's hard to remember in the moment for me. So that's the struggle I'm trying to work through.... remembering to recenter myself emotionally, just stop and connect with her for 5-10 mins. It has worked every time... we will read books, or play, or music and dance, or cook breakfast together etc. Ah... mornings when I feel particularly short, I play music and we dance... may sound silly, but it totally expands my capacity....

[@KatieJane31]

The tantrums are going to happen regardless of what you do. It’s developmental. Set boundaries and say no to your child. Ignore and walk away.

[@AS-tr9zx]

Can you think of things to use as redirection? A special basket of toys for these moments and you can say I'll carry you or you can play with this toy. You're not giving in to her toy request demand but still helping her find fun and entertainment. Or, with mine, I'll have her help me cook which she is always excited to do and will change her mood.

[@dawnforlife]

@@AS-tr9zx Thanks for the suggestion. I just found out, she is having such a hard time because she wakes up REALLY hungry. Now I make sure I have something ready right away and she is fine 😆 Took me a long time, I figured out before but I forgot. 😂

[@dawnforlife]

@@Umm-Umm-e-Abiha Yes! I agree with connecting! Most of the time, if I just sit with her until she is ready to get up and do things, it's soooo much smoother but this time around, I realised she has been waking up extremely hungry and that is the reason. Thanks for sharing!

[@katharinaheier7603]

My advice to prevent tantrums is not to just say "don't do x,y,z", but to give an alternativ along. Because when they do something their mind is set to do this now and it is difficult to think of something else.

[@heyshayla]

Yes!!!!

[@BrendaP21]

I will say I have tried that on my 4 year old.. it works sometimes, but most times, it's met with "no, I don't want to!" So I suggest something different, and I get yelled at. So I say, "Okay, I understand you're mad right now. How can I help you?" And she usually will ask me to play or ask for a snack.

[@HudsonValleyFamilyDoulas]

My toddler LOVES Hiya!!! Fun fact ☝🏼 You can request what flavor you want in your bottle. Every month we only get pink because that’s the flavor my daughter loves the most. She happily chews them everyday 🎉❤!

[@heyshayla]

Same!!

[@midorisour2844]

What age can you start using a timer? These tips are so helpful, thank you!

[@heyshayla]

Every kid will be different but i think 2 ish is good it’s in the 31-33 Lovevery timer and they’re backed by science so maybe closer to that

[@midorisour2844]

@@heyshayla Wonderful, thank you so much!

[@karolinas6735]

Loved this video! Any advice on tantrums when I leave the room? My 13 month old is super clingy at home, when i move out of the room she will be hysterical. Will telling her mommy will be right back and validating her feelings help this stop?

[@AS-tr9zx]

I tell mine where I'm going and why before i leave because i know she gets upset. She usually follows, crying. But I'm hoping she'll learn as she understands more that I'll come back. It's hard to understand that other people have needs, like going to the bathroom. Not sure if it's advice but it's what we're trying.

[@heyshayla]

Yeah always tell them when you’re leaving so they know what to expect. You’re also in a clingy phase, I remember it vividly 😵‍💫

[@jenniferheller1453]

So my daughter is 22 months. And she’s in the stage of throwing everything. How do you handle that without losing your cool? Also, where can you get the visual timer at?

[@swathieswaramurthi603]

This is super helpful! My 2 year old daughter has a strong preference for me over my partner, and she has a meltdown when my partner wants to put her to bed or feed her(“I want mommy!”) and it’s like she cant hear or process any other thought till I come in and take over. Any tips on how to handle this?

[@heyshayla]

Either go for it and do bed time with her (I do bedtime every night) or run an errand for bed time and let your partner and her work it out 🫶 it’s tough

[@BrendaP21]

When my daughter has this problem, I explain to her that everyone has a different way of doing that thing, but the end result is the same. She still gets her snack, juice, tucked into bed, or whatever. But try to have him in the room to show him what/how you do it to maybe help. Or ask her to calmly tell Daddy how she wants something done.

[@fl3urry]

Random Q but where did you get your vest?!

[@heyshayla]

Amazon! It’s in my Amazon store heyshayla.com/Amazon august 2023 list

[@CM-up1lv]

Is telling your kid germs are bad guys going to cause them to have OCD around germs? Idk just thinking out loud here 😅

[@heyshayla]

Idkkkkkkk lol

[@tmscaran]

One of your best videos ever, so succinct, helpful, and absolutely true!! You rock so much for putting this good energy and information into the world! 🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵