10 Fading Tips for leaving the Jehovah's Witnesses (EXJW 102)

A video for all the PIMO's trying to convert to POMO's. Here's 10 fading tips that will hopefully make your transition to freedom a little bit easier and less risky.
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[@asapstan]

Faded." Best life ever!"

[@exjwdiaries]

The REAL best life ever! 😂

[@allanu6416]

You are spot on with Facts! Great practical (and loving) advice. I was a JW from age 5-40. I disassociated 22 years ago. Though I miss my only son due to shunning, I must say, life is great outside the cult! PIMOs- leave soon. LIFE IS SHORT.

[@exjwdiaries]

Life definitely gets better when you reach POMO stage! The first few months you don’t even know what to do with all of that extra time!

[@gennaropannelli7138]

@@exjwdiaries Si e vero ed e meraviglioso sono due anni che sono uscito ,a parte i primi mesi per riprendermi del tutto .Ora ho tanto di quel tempo che mi godo la vita dolcemente ,le ore le gionate e le settimane ,senza il peso della Watchtower lei dava le disposizioni (ordini )e gli anziani ci contattavano in modi diversi sia dal podio sia in privato ,manutenzione sale del regno, sale assemblee predicazione contribuzioni assistenza eccetera ,vivere con la fine è vicina, gli ultimi giorni con ARMAGHETON alla porta ,queste notizie di continuo ,mi dicevo io credo che ARMAGHETON e alle porte e vicina ,ma ce bisogno di dirlo in continuazione? In questo modo mettono ansia sulle personi , e poi ti dicevano come vivere una vita felice ,da L'ITALIA SALUTI

[@akatheheretic3014]

INDEED‼️😐

[@yogi19581]

I just walked away about 25 years ago, just stopped going to meetings just completely stopped, and when I see my old jw friends we have a chat ,some ask if I'm coming back and I always say no. But I have to say I'm the lucky one, I've never been shunned, it wouldn't bother me either way, I chat to them and they chat to me! Great video thank you.

[@minusdagroove]

I did a Hard Fade from the watchtower organization. My landlord and next door neighbor is the coordinating elder of my former congregation and I have faded since 2016.

[@exjwdiaries]

Dang that’s brave! Good for you!

[@omarren]

They never had power over me, never showed up for the Judicial Meeting, never answered there phone call and when they caught me outside once and told me I was getting disfellowshipped I was like ok and kept it pushing

[@exjwdiaries]

😂😂😂 I love that response!

[@omarren]

@@exjwdiaries lol yea look on their face was priceless Funny thing is how they caught me outside, was walking to the train station they rolled up in a black Car parked crazy jumped out like they Feds and told me I was been disfellowshipped

[@exjwdiaries]

Damn! You had the elder feds jump out on you 😂😂😂! They were probably tracking you for a while. I’ve heard a lot of stories of elders following and spying on people.

[@omarren]

@@exjwdiaries lol my mom set me up, she was asking which direction I was going to go little did I know she was asking to let them know where to find me

[@exjwdiaries]

Soooooo cold! I can’t stand how the JWs turn your own family against you. Glad you got out of that.

[@4CardsMan]

I was 17. I shared my concerns with a school teacher, not anyone at the kingdom hall. She encourage me to go to college, which I did.

[@raysamuels9791]

Long time PIMO elder here.. You're basically right and your advice is spot on. The MS and elder procedure when moving is actually basically identical except elders will generally be used for parts before the official announcement. Both MS and elder need CO approval (which can occur between visits). So if you move and tell the elders you don't want to serve, you won't be appointed. Regardless of MS or elder, tell the new elders ASAP. However, be prepared for a guilt inducing shepherding call.

[@exjwdiaries]

Thank you so much!!! Glad that’s more clear.

[@desiramos3639]

Ray. Know any more pimo elders? Been out since 09. I wonder with all the KZbin and internet info if majority actually follow the line of not doing research. Or a lot doing it in secret ? Same with rank and file. What is it you see among people especially young folks

[@YamosDad]

I just woke up a few days ago after 35 years. Mark my words, one day Im gonna make a Netflix documentary to help good honest people wake up, and i want you to do this very section. I just need to work on going full POMO first. I cant believe, this organisation i dedicated my life to, could be so evil and i was so blind, but i thought I was smart

[@phil6740]

I faded in the 90s - unintentionally. Here is what works, if your in a hall for a long time switch halls locally such as across town . After a period of time move to another part of the country but do not move your card. You just move no advanced warning. If you miss the area you are from after a year or more , return but not in the same congregation territory.

[@exjwdiaries]

That’s a good idea! Thanks for sharing

[@TikiLemon]

yes, i abruptly moved to another state. the other cong members assumed I had transferred things over.

[@Kat-eo4pm]

Great video, and lots of good advice in the comments!! I woke up during the pandemic and faded before meetings went back to in-person. I must admit that fading has been challenging because I have 3 children (18,14 and 7 yrs) with my POMI ex husband who is DF. Our 18 is DF as well, and is POMO. I also rent a house from an elder. I 100% would have formally disassociated myself if it weren’t for those two factors . My children only know JW’s, and I’m trying to make this as easy as possible for them. They’ve been homeschooled their whole lives. A few things I did to help them meet non witness friends was, I put them in sports teams and put our youngest in public school . I’m attempting to desensitize their JW consciences. They do know where I stand. I am completely honest with them. I know it’s only a matter of time before the elders show up at my door, but thankfully my elder landlord is super chill and just believes that we are all traumatized from the divorce which has worked to my advantage so far.

[@exjwdiaries]

Wow that’s a tough situation! Good on you for even being able to wake up with all of that going on. Please stay strong! Hopefully your kids are able to get out soon.

[@justinthyme5382]

If you are confronted by the Elders, tell them that you have a PERSONAL PRIVATE CONSCIENCE ISSUE. Tell them NO MORE .If they continue to question you ask them WHAT PART OF PERSONAL PRIVATE CONSCIENCE ISSUE DON'T YOU UNDERSTAND? you must say no more. It worked for Jesus when he was bullied by the scribes and Pharisees. So silence is GOLDEN. I've done this and been totally inactive for 4 years now and have not been shunned by family and friends. I realise that age can be a problem, but remember they are obliged to respect your CONSCIENCE. best of LUCK ha ha (naughty word)for the future.....

[@yogi19581]

Hope things work out fine for you xx

[@yurizhivago4591]

I pretty much just quit cold turkey. The Cobe stated to me that "they" would have to meet with me. I asked him why? He just said, "Because we have to." In retrospect , I should have absolutely refused. To me it has been one of the best decisions that I've made in my life. To be free of WT's manipulative insanity is the "best life ever."

[@exjwdiaries]

I fully agree! Freedom is the true best life ever!

[@justinthyme5382]

The best example ever is of Jesus when he was bullied by the scribes and Pharisees, SILENCE, first step is to become TOTALLY INACTIVE and if questioned by anyone including the elders, tell them that you have a PERSONAL PRIVATE CONSCIENCE ISSUE, tell them NO MORE if they continue to ask questions say to them WHAT PART OF PERSONAL, PRIVATE CONSCIENCE ISSUE DON'T YOU UNDERSTAND? You must remain SILENT. All the best for the future.

[@FishOuttaWater26]

I left at the beginning of the pandemic, divorced my very controlling abusive exhusband, changed my phone number and moved several times. I still have contact with a close friend thats PIMI and ive never been announced or anything. We chat every day, but never bring up religion or my current personal life, although im sure she knows ive moved on with a “worldly man” (just got remarried in September!) we have an unspoken “Dont ask, Dont tell” thing so we can keep our friendship going. Pandemic made it swift and easy to fade out and move on. I also was never prominent in any sort of way to begin with so they never really cared about me anyway to chase me down or interrogate me or anything like that.

[@exjwdiaries]

You bring up a very good point. If you have a successful fade and you still talk to family, don’t bring up the religion or anything going on in your personal life. Thanks for sharing! Don’t ask don’t tell is a good rule for faders.

[@FishOuttaWater26]

Thank you! I hope my story can help people. I have had a crazy life, both in and outside of JW. My husband thinks i should write a book haha. I should note: I did not grow up JW, but my mother was religiously abusive in her own right and similarly to JWs. I was taken advantage of by JWs as a young adult at a very vulnerable time, so thats how i got suckered in.

[@tc64]

FishOuttaWater .. your story sounds quite similar to mine!

[@paulinestamp2628]

Interesting perspective. I faded by changing my address. No one knew where I went. I disappeared

[@exjwdiaries]

😂😂😂 very smart! Short and simple!

[@zip6404]

Amen ,SIS

[@shaunnkosana6893]

Great advice, Especially for appointment men! I couldn't do the slow fading process though. I was so done with it. I just stopped abruptly. Fortunately for me I had already lost my privileges for dating outside the organization.

[@carlosalejandro5471]

I think the biggest part about fading is your mental health. You are entering into a spiritual and mentally draining war over your own mind and common sense. Be ready to accept the fact that you WILL be alone on this journey. What helped me a lot was writing my action plan down and sticking to it. It's easier if you were just one of the friends. Putting your social networks on lockdown is an absolute must. A hight demanding job is a great idea to become unavailable. Taking on odd shift hours are also a great excuse why you didn't make it to the meeting. Becoming unavailable more an more until eventually nobody will want to even ask where you have been. I found that fading from the newly moved to congregation was fairly easy as long as you stuck with the "I'm just really tied up with work". Family on the other hand is a whole nother level of manipulation you will have to address. The I'm too busy excuse will only work for so long. The biggest thing for me was to NOT get dragged into a spiritual conversation with family. I always leave it at I am having some personal doubts and am working on it. As harsh as it may sound but you will have to master their own theocratic warfare and fight fire with fire. If they are not entitled to the truth then they won't hear the truth coming from my lips. It's a helluva lot easier if you are married to a worldly person. I use my wife for a bunch of excuses. She is fine with that lol. I got an American flag flying and celebrate every holiday under the sun. Even if the question ever arose my wife is more than happy to step in and tell my family that she was the one that bought the Christmas tree and put up the flag pole. Lol....there is a reason they are so against marrying an unbeliever.

[@exjwdiaries]

Sheesh!!! That was fantastic! Thank you so much for writing all of that out! Soooo much good insight in there. Fading definitely is a fight and a mental war. Hopefully people who are PIMO will see this. Thanks again!

[@jessicanerpio-cauldwell4987]

Lucky you !!!...having a Wife who wasn't a JW...so many JW's marriages never survive when one decides to leave the WT ORG Cult... it's Such a Joke when they say JW's are the Happiest people !!!

[@carlosalejandro5471]

@@jessicanerpio-cauldwell4987 well to make a long story short I married my now wife to be able to get reinstated just to perfect my fade lol. It's a crazy story but I had to fight fire with fire. I did it all for my kids sake so they could have somewhat of a relationship with their grandparents. I got married and then WITH the support of my wife got reinstated just for an announcement to be made at the hall. Recorded the announcement sent it off to my parents in a text and that was the last time these clowns saw me at the hall. My parents live in another state so keeping tabs on me it pretty much impossible. Nobody really knows my address and my parents know better than to talk to me about the truth lol. Mainly they enjoy their time with the kids and that's about it. My wife is pretty vocal about how we are raising our kids and believe me there is no Kaleb and Sophia shit in our house lol. Even when they spend time with the grandparents. Being married to an unbeliever is a must in my book for attempting a fade.

[@jessicanerpio-cauldwell4987]

@@carlosalejandro5471 Even tho I Disassociate never D'Fd or Reproved my parents never Shun me when I had Kids they loved them too...but I was Shun by two Siblings got along with my other three ...We were Born-in JW's...My parents was not Born-in ... Still WT ORG Cult destroys Families... I hope to see the Demise of the WT ORG Cult Go down in my lifetime...👍😊👍

[@stordagidag]

😂😂Cuantos Buenos consejos e ideas! Eres todo un estratega! Yo hago lo mismo! ❤

[@user-TheTruth]

Good advice, typically your family that’s in will just see you as being spiritually weak but they won’t completely shun you . But eventually they will ! By then you’ll have developed a new social network hopefully...

[@andromedan301]

I'm about to leave JW in a few days

[@exjwdiaries]

Congratulations!! Take it easy

[@andromedan301]

@@exjwdiaries definitely will

[@mattmurdock2868]

Best decision you will ever make..

[@gennaropannelli7138]

Da L'italia saluti ,vivi la tua vita in buona coscenza, sarai libera ,il tuo prezioso tempo lo gestirai a tuo piacimento ,ritornerai in posesso della tua vita ,non i primi mesi ,dopo inparerai a gestirti a tuo piacimento secondo la tua volonta ,e sara semplicemente meraviglio ,buona vita con moderazione .

[@paulwilliams6436]

I disassociated in 1994- it’s just surreal how nothing has changed. These tips are spot on.

[@latinamericapreparedness2479]

Great advice for fading. Relocating to another congregation should be the initial step to fading. You are very unlikely to be disfellowshipped by elders in another congregation that do not really know you. I was able to successfully fade by relocating to a congregation several states away (Nebraska to Washington). I was able to fade more quickly getting the congregation to believe I was just visiting.

[@exjwdiaries]

Yeah changing congregations makes things much easier. Even if it’s just a neighboring city.

[@JJL-pr4gl]

But what about your publisher card??

[@dancingnature]

Use another address that’s not actually yours or no one you know

[@beautyRest1]

I did most of the things when I decided to fade. Covid and zoom meeting really helped. When everything opened up I knew I couldn’t go back. So I changed hall and it was perfect, because this hall is much closer. I remain under the radar and show up every two weeks. So far it works perfectly.

[@exjwdiaries]

Stay strong in your fade! Don’t be afraid to reach out if you ever need to talk about it.

[@beautyRest1]

@@exjwdiaries you are so kind, thank you I will!!

[@beautyRest1]

@@exjwdiaries how can I reach out to you? Do you have an e mail?

[@exjwdiaries]

It’s at the very end of every video. Right when it looks like the video is over. Kind of hidden in plain sight 😂

[@beautyRest1]

I saw it…..thanks.

[@exjwdiaries]

Please add to this list with your fading tips. Hopefully these help! Also for those wondering about timing: My fade from PIMO to POMO took around 3 months after switching congregations. The Elders still tried to contact me for about 6 months after (mostly about service hours).

[@mtjjjjj193]

I recently reached out to a jw woman that i had known. I wanted to get their Take on COVID restrictions . I thought that people who claim to NOT BE PART OF THIS SYSTEM would react. They are very much a Part of this system. Governing Body is in with World Governing Council... Satanism.

[@Alansworstnight]

Changing your phone number is a good idea, I did it, have no idea if they ever tried to reach me

[@john.premose]

In my case nobody ever even bothered to reach me. The most they ever did was sometimes ask my mom about me. It's actually kind of hurtful that they never even thought enough of me to care. My experience was different from most that I see here. I never felt that anybody cared if I went or not.

[@symone3113]

It is very freeing when the FOG lifts…when my ex husband and I were going through our divorce, I chose to leave and go to a different hall.. that was the beginning of my fading but didn’t know it at the time… I hadn’t started researching The Borg yet, and I didn’t until I completely faded… I did get calls from the Elders and text from so called “friends” but I wasn’t shaken at all..…..I’m so glad to be free from the “enemy of happiness” KH Borg..😊

[@tc64]

"Enemy of happiness"... 1st time I've thought of it this way! Basically, it's preached that we're supposed to be "happy" bc our God is... hmmm.. k?!! Actually, the ONLY times I remember being truly "happy" whenever I was active... was when we'd have fun get-togethers!! Even then, there was ALWAYS the air of that feeling that we had to watch everything we said or did! Though I would... it wasn't ever without stressing! Going home, in my home... I could basically relax! It got to the point, where I didn't even want to go out anywhere that I might run into another jw! Esp...if I'd missed a previous mtg! 😔

[@davidespinal700]

Very very very interesting,,,,,, awesome strategy,,,, I feel like even after you leave the organization some of it still stick's to you for a while, great video

[@ifeanyiezugworie413]

Truth is: leaving requires preparation. I mean thorough planning. It's slightly easier if you are single, but if you are married and/or have grown-up children, it will take much more careful planning. Top on my list of pre-exit plans are: 1. Acquire a high value skill. You don't want to depend on anyone when you eventually leave. 2. Build friendships with respectable non-JWs, (or, if possible, reconnect with old friends) considering that you probably gave up all your friends when you joined (for those who weren't born in). You'd need a lot of contacts when you are out.

[@exjwdiaries]

So well put! Thank you!

[@enriquemartinez6510]

I'm the opposite of the Jehovah witness, I have confronted them few times. They go out and testify WHAT FOR? They act like atheists, and they are cruel, no God in them.

[@rafaelsanfernando8152]

Tip #4 is true, you will begin to feel you can't stand to put up with everything they do, everything will feel so unlivable.

[@scottwrasse9596]

My fading story seems uneventful compared to some. I had been inactive concerning field service for a couple of years before I phased out meetings (working nights is a great excuse) when I met a non-Jw woman and married her. I moved when I got married. Different address, different phone number. I disappeared, except the new house was across the street and down a couple of houses down from one of the elders (one I never really cared for). Again, working nights were great because people don't bug you during the day. As far as I know, there was no effort to make shepherding calls or otherwise contact me. I got divorced after a couple of years and moved again and drifted spiritually for a few years but finally decided that life is not for me. I am now properly baptized in the Lutheran Church (Missouri Synod). Sola Gratia, Sola Fide, Sola Scriptura, Sola Christos, Sola Gloria Deo.

[@jbone2345]

🔥🔥🔥🔥 video! Thanks so much for this!!!

[@exjwdiaries]

The thanks goes to you for your support! Thank you!

[@Estee.Ar.6869]

Great tips! I faded and blocked all JW contacts. Elders stalked me at my home, but I never opened/answered the door.

[@karenmoody2763]

Damn you have to admit they are dedicated to the congregation and the god of war 😂

[@MG007.]

My man dropping solid info here

[@kyleesgiftcottage4708]

Good video. Thank you

[@JWAtheist]

Hence the reason why i would rather get DF'd or DA. Fading is just too much trouble. I am a cold turkey type

[@exjwdiaries]

Yeah fading is a serious headache sometimes but for some people that’s the only option. If you do it the right way, you may be shunned by your friends but you might still be able to keep a relationship with family.

[@JWAtheist]

@@exjwdiaries yeah that i get. I understand that for some is family all they have. I know also some who would rather have no family then family with conditional love. This cult is distgusting for making people succumb to take these type of actions.

[@deconstruct.with.raejene]

See, I faded but I cut a few corners bc I COULD NOT fake that I was buying into it when I really wasn’t. I told friends and that backfired BIG TIME 😫 but I did change halls and then just never went. They reached out, I blocked their numbers, and eventually changed numbers. Moved to a new state. Bye bye JWs! 😂

[@exjwdiaries]

Yeah the faking it part is pretty tough. Almost broke me a few times. Blocking and changing numbers is a good idea!

[@Jeron_Benton]

Kudos to you girl! Im about to do the same! Once your awake and done with the BS it’s a wrap for the organization…. Stay focused, stay awake stand firm and grow mighty !! Lol 😂

[@deconstruct.with.raejene]

@@Jeron_Benton not the Stay Awake and Stay Firm. I’m so dead 😂

[@Jeron_Benton]

@@deconstruct.with.raejene lmbo 😂🤦🏾‍♂️

[@paulwilliams6436]

Oh, the elders came to my workplace. Imagine that. Men in suits showed up to the hospital I worked at.

[@akatheheretic3014]

Good Job , Young Man ! 👍 This Information . . is Sorely Needed. 😉👌

[@exjwdiaries]

Thank you! Hopefully it helps some people out there!

[@Lulu-oi9ue]

My friend who also is an ex jw said I left throwing grenades because I didn’t leave quietly. It shocked everyone. I wrote a letter of DA after two sheparding calls with elders. I don’t have any family in the cult except my husband and hound child and he left with me.

[@tc64]

Thank you! This, is the 1st time I've felt like I could comment on an exjw video. Your words are calm, collected, precise and caring.. that's how I see and feel it anyway. Again, thnx so much! I'll continue watching... I definitely, could use the support! 🫂

[@tc64]

Oh, so... I'm actually PO but MI (believe.. what's ACTUALLY biblical)!! My story is a very long one so... I won't go into it so much here in the comments. Lol. But, I will, most likely email you sometime. I would, actually like to see that elders book?!! Whenever, I realized there was such a thing.. and it's supposed to be some sort of "secret"??? This, was truly, the beginning to, much more questioning in my mind! Coming from a religion that's supposed to be an "open book"?!?! Hmmm... 🙄

[@toddhayes3506]

Great Job

[@haan3549]

Great points ❤️

[@tastycomestible]

Thanks!

[@michaelmaston4702]

Tip #2

[@stordagidag]

That,s what I call fading with style! 😂 It,s not easy for a man....Thank you Justin!!! We are still 40,% on zoom meetings and that, s helps so much!!! ❤

[@reginaldedison6518]

And don’t show up to a judicial meeting

[@MrChinchilla_hn]

Any channel anti WT is welcomed by many in this growing ex-jw community.

[@exjwdiaries]

Thank you!

[@SayinXJW]

They don’t have my number any more...whoop!❤

[@n.b.johanson4732]

Moving to another state works

[@exjwdiaries]

It sure does! Although even moving to a new city (or saying that you did) will work too.

[@n.b.johanson4732]

@@exjwdiaries I did and it helps! Don’t get me wrong Critical Thinkers and your platform has helped me heal so much. No matter what or where you go there will be emotional baggage of this religion we all carry when we leave. Thank you so much for your platform

[@exjwdiaries]

And that needs to be a subject that is covered more often: Recovery and healing from the baggage that the organization leaves you with. I’ve got some videos lined up that will talk about some things I did to recover deeper and faster.

[@n.b.johanson4732]

@@exjwdiaries If you need to interview believe me the stories I could share, lol

[@exjwdiaries]

Shoot me an email. I think it’s about time I start opening things up and have some guest.

[@jacquij3831]

Nice one , but what about the going out in service how would a fader navigate that

[@exjwdiaries]

Good question! I suppose it’s different for everyone and every area. In my area, we did a LOT of return visits so service while fading was pretty easy. If you do have to go door to door, knock lightly or cover the doorbell with your thumb but DON’T press. Make every house a “Not at home”. Also if you switch congregations, you may be able to skip service altogether. Just turn in a few hours each month while you are fading and then once you get to the POMO stage, stop all contact with any elder. Once you get past the inactive milestone (I believe it’s 6 months), they should leave you alone.

[@zip6404]

Just go out ,occasionally plants seeds USING THE BIBLE ONLY!!! in street work that would hide you as a fader ,Word of caution do not place Jw literature,and continue to fade thats what work for me ,also DONT PUT ANY MONEY IN THOSE CONTRIBUTION BOXES. Matt 7:6

[@eabay2102]

Earth to Justin!!! we need new video. Don't make me have to come searching for you 😂

[@exjwdiaries]

😂😂😂 it’s coming! Had to make sure it hits hard!

[@TheCookingRat]

The elders gave me scriptures and encourages me to do more answers in the congregation... After that I stop answering... I'm slowing fading but I will be disfellowshipped I don't care

[@zip6404]

They cant df you for fading ,if you have not did or said anything ,they will just put you on the inactive list.Matt 7:6

[@DoseofDoriJ]

True, regardless you will be SHUNNED….you should just leave cold Turkey 😂

[@exjwdiaries]

Depends how you do it. If it’s done in a smart way, you might be shunned by friends but you could save your relationship with your family. For a lot of people saving those family ties is worth it.

[@DoseofDoriJ]

@@exjwdiaries That’s tough, because I faded, but I wasn’t really conscience of what I was doing at the time that I did it which was a looooong time ago, before fading was even a thing or even spoken about by the ex-jw community 🤔It was just the way I moved, but I didn’t PLAN on doing it that way it just sort of happened.

[@exjwdiaries]

Wow you were ahead of the game then! I would love to hear more about your story. Sounds interesting!

[@DoseofDoriJ]

I’m going to probably do a video on how I did it to see if it could help others. You gave some excellent tips btw… and this is a interesting topic amongst the Ex-Jw community. Please keep up the good activism!!!!❤️

[@exjwdiaries]

Looking forward to it!

[@RichelleH]

I faded out. When I was 19 I was DFed. I didn’t really follow anymore and I was living in sin but they really didn’t know that. My boyfriend/ future hubby was also DFed. We moved cross country to be closer to his parents. I was 20 years old freshly married and over 3,000 miles away from my family and friends. His parent who are JWs were going and after a while I ended up going back and so did my hubby. I tried to be a good little witness girl but I’ve never really felt comfortable with witnessing and pretending to be good. I faded and so did my hubby. I at this time completely disagree with the organization. I’m a spiritual person but I don’t agree with any organized religion. My hubby still go occasionally and his family is still completely devoted. My mother is still active ima assuming because she hasn’t spoken to me in I think 3 or 4 years. My dad is wonderful and he and my grandma faded. We all feel the same way. I’m still 3,000 miles away though. I love my life and my purpose. I’m the owner of a wellness facility that helps people heal themselves through mind, body and spirit. We have been able to help so many.

[@janespitfire9884]

Fading is the best way to leave JW. I know 2 gay active JW at KH but say left lifestyle alone. Umm ok yeah. But you owe no one an explanation you have right to change your mind on anything in your life. This is good video...just leave JW by fading tell them nothing. My family thinks I am mentally unstable only cause went to college AND NOT a JW. I think they are confused cause in the JW social club where someone tells you what to do. Nice tips and you have nice voice too

[@AzzBackwards]

Or just block all the elders moved to a different state and ghost em. But these are good tips if you want to do it more subtle

[@zip6404]

What about taking up a foreign language ,then go to a foreign language congregation ,and then FADE!!! Matthew 7:6

[@aj7009]

And what do you do when you're assigned a talk😳

[@exjwdiaries]

I’d say go ahead and give the talk. The less red flags you raise, the better. Sometimes you just have to put on that Oscar worthy performance if you want to fade without getting caught.

[@thiemhoang2312]

Did Jesus and disciples ever say Jehovah or Jehovah god?

[@Jeron_Benton]

Bro I love your videos I been watching them all, do you have an email I can reach you at?

[@exjwdiaries]

Thank you!! Much appreciated! My email is at the end of every video. I’d love to hear from you.