10 Lies Society Tells Young Women

[@leila_de_hautjardin]

Considering femininity as a bad thing or a weakness is misogynistic.

[@Concreteguard]

Is that you in your profile pic?

[@leila_de_hautjardin]

@@Concreteguard Yes it's me 😊

[@Concreteguard]

Leila what’s your IG?

[@leila_de_hautjardin]

@@Concreteguard I'm not on instagram or any other social media.

[@Concreteguard]

Leila that’s good, keep it that way. Social media is bad for your health anyway.

[@soonsims]

*Time stamps:* 1 - 1:19 - Femininity is weakness 2 - 2:46 - Career 3 - 3:52 - Not considering fertility window 4 - 6:38 - Marriage is a disaster 5 - 8:13 - Hedonistic lifestyle 6 - 10:38 - Being at home sucks 7 - 12:04 - Beauty standards 8 - 14:06 - Faith has no place in 2019 9 - 15:20 - Children are just a nuisance 10 - 16:29 - Debt is not a big deal

[@Ashwin-oq1xt]

I was scrolling down for this. I needed to make a 'post' on this

[@tashilhamu4510]

soonsims pls do so with all her videos

[@soonsims]

​@@tashilhamu4510 Anything with lists, will do! 😊 I always find time stamps very handy in this kind of videos.

[@thomasb.2506]

@@soonsims yes definitely! Thank you! ♡

[@BrightOrange17]

That 3rd has to be the BIGGEST lie they’ve told us!

[@taylorm1685]

I honestly believed that men would not be interested in me if I wanted marriage and children. If any man told me he wanted a traditional life, I thought it was a lie. As if it were a sort of manipulation to encourage me to sleep with them, or get some other benefit from me. I am grateful to say that The Lord lifted the veil obstructing my vision, which led me to a phenomenal husband, and a fulfilling life as a stay at home mom. Btw, Love your videos! Keep it up!

[@flowersparks4766]

Taylor Motes hi. This video might help you in your walk with the Lord kzbin.info/www/bejne/m4DFZ3p8oJ6bg9U

[@perretlaurent6665]

There is 2 kind of men. Those who want to fuck all women that they meet and those who want to settle and create something. Find the good one !

[@MR-og2nh]

just ask them if they are listening jordan peterson. if yes than you have a good chance for good traditional man :)

[@gaby5546]

I believed the same thing sadly, but like you I'm growing out of it. Glad you're now living your dream life! Success stories always inspire me and give my hope a boost.

[@너를위해-v1p]

iam a muslim ..here people wouldn't do something like sex out of marriage !!but iam still virgin and iam 32 years old and i can't accept some one i don't luv or in rightful meaning i didn't find what i search for

[@ilovethejonasbrot100]

As a young woman pursuing a career as a physician, I absolutely loved your point about fertility. There is no denying the fact of biology, there is a set period of time where women have optimum pregnancies!! That is definitely a desire of mine. I appreciate you mentioning planning rather than being fearful or hasty about it. I’m definitely making sure to value family over career....nice to hear someone speak about it so candidly. Love your videos and blog Mrs. Midwest!! Also love your hairstyle in this video ❤️❤️

[@saarahturtle]

Denise Nicole just wanted to say that it really inspires to me to see someone here who’s a physician. I’m still in high school but I’ll hopefully be a doctor in the future, but, while I totally respect homemakers, being a doctor is very intense in comparison and I sometimes question its place in having a family as it’s takes so much time in school. But as long as I have my priorities right I’ll hopefully be able to have a balance while using my potential to help people and having a family :)

[@ilovethejonasbrot100]

Saarah xxx Absolutely. Medicine does take a while, but there is always a way to make time for what is really important to you. Best wishes on your journey!

[@tdr.220]

Fertility actually varies from woman to woman depending on how healthy she is. If a woman takes care of her body and nourishes it, fertility can actually last for some women well into their 40's. The oldest woman to give birth naturally, without the help of fertility treatments, was well into her 60's. People are eating healthier, making health a priority, and therefore more people are having babies later in life-whether planned or unplanned. I know many women who had "surprise" babies in there 40's, and women who were of a much younger age, less than 25 who dealt with infertility issues. So, in short, it seems to vary.

[@catherinemurphy9726]

@She’s so Lucky I agree. I worked for a medical practice in which both of the female physicians had children. One actually had four, including a set of twins. Medical careers have changed for both men and women to allow for a better work/life balance.

[@agees924]

The part about fertility declining at 25 is garbage. I am a nurse and I have never once heard anybody say that, or seen any studies to back that up. You are in your prime throughout your 20’s, and then fertility starts to decline slowly after 30. More noticeable at 35.

[@aareeleann5746]

I honestly enjoy being at home, I believe God has been shaping me and preparing me for marriage in the last 6 months or so. I used to hate cleaning, now I find it therapeutic and satisfying. I used to be scared of the thought of children and now I can’t wait to be a mother. I feel like I’m going to meet my future husband soon and I’m excited 😊

[@simonas.3502]

Same here. I had never wanted to be a mother neither wife before. But something changed. I was pursued by this man and he seemed to be a total opposite of mine. He was talking about having family, children, home... I was triggered because all that I had wanted was a career! But then I realized it's not it and allowed myself to be vulnerable. I'm still in the process of unravelling my femininity. The world has changed somehow and I believe there are still men who are reliable, providers with a sense for the family. Because, hello I'm 23 and boys my age only want party and occasional sex. That's probably a reason why I feel more drown to an older group.

[@noelly2398]

I hope God blesses you with a wonderful husband that loves you and that you continue to grow inti your femininity ❤

[@aareeleann5746]

@Simona S. I used to feel the same way! Except I don’t have a career yet, I need to work on that 😅

[@aareeleann5746]

@Noelly Irias thank you so much! I pray blessings over you as well 😊💕

[@aareeleann5746]

@Arash Sadeghi I’m actually in Minnesota 😅

[@lindsaylogan9540]

I don’t get how pursuing a career is masculine at all,like I just want a job and be able to take care of myself,that doesn’t take any of my femininity away

[@tajziezu8820]

Thank u holy shit

[@shaaaairuuu]

No one says that it takes your femininity away. You can have a career and still be feminine. I assume your came from Jaclyn's video. That's why you're instantly biased. Girl, she mentions several times that you should go for a career if that's what you want. Her channel doesn't just focus on femininity it focuses on traditional femininity and traditionally homemaking was seen as more feminine than career women.

[@watercolourferns]

@@shaaaairuuu Then what does she mean by society not wanting women to be feminine?

[@shaaaairuuu]

@@watercolourferns because look at the way Jacklyn Glenn mocked her because she makes bread. And constantly judging her for staying at home all day. And look at media only showing women being 'badass' and showing manly attitude and no more women being strong in traditionally feminine characters. And have you seen the unisex clothing trend? Not many women actually like being in dresses anymore. Don't act like if your female friend likes dressing in dresses and other traditional feminine clothing and she wants to do a lot of homemaking you won't cringe even a little. Stop acting like you don't have any bias.

[@watercolourferns]

@@shaaaairuuu She didn't do that. She mocked her exaggerations and affectations. And I don't have that bias. I'm nonbinary trans, and I'm femme presenting. Everyone in my life compliments my femininity, even if I'm trans. My fiancee loves when I bake for her, I cook for the both of us. If we were binary I'd be the "wife" and everyone is proud of that BECAUSE IT WAS MY CHOICE. My best friends are VERY feminine, too, and my fiancee has a very feminine side as well. We wear vintage dresses based on Victorian and Rococo design, you can't get more feminine than that. Yet my fiancee can also wear biker jackets, boots and skinny jeans and be a beautiful badass. So is my daughter: she's a ballerina, she's sweet and graceful, and she's very feminine in her fashion style, but she can and will kick your butt if you deserve it. So shut up about a bias, there's no bias from anyone but the conservative side that think females NEED to dress in dresses.

[@JEHOVAH485]

I'm 59, master's degree, two adult sons (one is in heaven), two grandsons I've never met due to parental alienation with my other son, one divorce and one stalker of 15 years with NOTHING to show for all those years, but the knowledge I've gained in the last 4 years since "waking up". I lost my children, my home, my career, filed for bankruptcy and am currently looking for a job all due to my personality that allowed for others to walk all over me. My advice? Focus on self awareness-truly knowing who you are in light of the family of origin you came from. My family was narcissistic and I became the scapegoat and codependent. A pattern of being and relating that recreated the same destructive pattern in my own family by choosing the wrong mate. Who you marry, I would ague, is THE most important decision you ever make as an adult and there is no way to make a wise and educated choice when you don't know who you are. I believe this is part of the reason so many young women decide on a career-they think they will find themselves there not realizing it's an inside job. Knowing who you are begins with knowing whose you are. Only God gives us an accurate reflection. God bless.

[@phalynwilliams4119]

Excellent advice. I wish you well and it is not too late for God to turn things around for you. God bless you and your family.

[@naavajo]

Amen !!! Self awareness and healing in order to break the cycle s of abuse is key!

[@ItsyBitsyChelly]

I agree with this 100%.

[@flowersparks4766]

Lynn Holbrook yeah sis that’s why it’s wise to seek God who your spouse should be because he knows best! Had a man talk about marriage with me (Who I had a crush on for over a year) Had to decline because I continually received a no from the Lord And you can do the same or fir any other major decision in your life kzbin.info/www/bejne/m4DFZ3p8oJ6bg9U

[@saundrajohnson1571]

"Knowing who you are begins with knowing whose you are." Very nicely put. 🙏

[@elisabethreichstamm3840]

I think being at home and a homemaker is a luxury that is only possible today. When I listen to my grandmother, back then men and women were working equally hard on the fields, and it wasn't that easy bc they had no machines. Regual women were in many ways "masculine" in out modern definition. Sometimes they were working so hard on farms that they had no time to take care for their children, or there was child labour. The feminine women were usually the aristocrats or the rich, they could live that lifestyle because they had help, but that was just a very small portion of the society.

[@genresischance]

Elisabeth Reichstamm, your comment seemed very interesting to me. I'm from Venezuela and my maternal grandmother grew up in the countryside and she has told us that there women did male jobs such as cutting the lawn, cleaning the land, slaughtering poultry and other small animals for consumption. Men of that time did not like women to act very feminine or delicate (imitating women of European descent who lived in the capital and cities). Women who were at home and raised their children were valued, but who were also strong and knew how to use agricultural tools that I cannot name in English, but to work with them women had to have good muscle mass in their arms, because they were works of force. Today women are much more feminine due to European cultural influence, yet pejorative names are still used to refer to "very feminine" women, especially in the villages. And, on the other hand, being a homemaker would never be an option because it is financially unviable for most families. By the way, my grandmother is currently an incredibly healthy and vigorous 80-year-old woman, who when "stressed" takes one of these farm tools (I'm so sorry I can't name it in English) to cut the grass and plow the land.

[@schwester6523]

Feminie and ladylike is not the same tho.

[@genresischance]

@@schwester6523 Can you give a definition of each one? Because for Americans and Europeans, it seems to be the same. Although I may be wrong.

[@schwester6523]

@@genresischance idk. Being feminie is more deep i guess. I mean taking care of children is feminie but not ladylike. But of course they go hand in hand.

[@galaxy_rae]

im going to cry. i am on my journey to embrace my feminine desires while also starting my business. i can do both. i will be a great business woman and be a great spouse to an amazing man. thank you for the inspiration! 😍

[@isabelreyes2407]

Iam in the same journey sis, God bless you!!

[@nervousdog1]

if you do that please do a business model that does not need you there!

[@rijakunwar7655]

Same goal..im a med student

[@galaxy_rae]

@@nervousdog1 already on it! :)

[@galaxy_rae]

@@rijakunwar7655 yes! you got this

[@thymeandtenderness]

I love being a part of the feminine family!!!!

[@mn-bs4cv]

So do I🙋

[@matea2156]

When I went to my first career fair I looked at the Air Force with my friends and the guy asked me what I wanted to do when I was older. I said I wanted to be a stay at he mom and grow a big family! And he looked at me dead in the eye and said “don’t you want to do something greater and embrace your femininity?” And I felt as if my dream was invalidated because having a family and being a home maker seemed so wrong to this person. I’m so glad I found your channel because it feels like I’m finally not alone with my ideas about being feminine in a world so focused on the concept of “me me me” rather than “us.”

[@leenfira6821]

As a collage student I'm surrounded by a lot of ambitious young ladies who want to get great jobs after graduating. A lot of them judge women who decided to get married and stay home and not seeking any career, but I always tell them why judging a woman who decided to build a stable family and rising good people who could be successful and contributing in the society? Sometimes people talk about staying at home as a sin or something bad and forget that motherhoods is a full time job.

[@sarahd1706]

& what's more valuable, attaining temporary money or raising eternal souls.

[@inbb510]

@@sarahd1706 , that's a false dichotomy. A woman and a man can do both.

[@perspectiveofahelpmeet3864]

One of my husbands coworkers told him that me, as a stay at home wife/mom, was sad because i wasnt successful in my life. Ive had people criticize me and tell me that im leading a miserable life. My in laws all think im lazy because my husband and i chose for me to stay home and raise our children instead of me work

[@imanesemlali4668]

i understand you position, i respect women that choose to stay home and éducate they children , it's a choice , i believe that is a choice and there are women who like to stay home and do housework , BUT, those woman still all their lives dependant on there husband, they have no financial independance and therefore cannot be free in their choice , the financial independance in our society is essential to be "free" in making decisions . don't forget that statistics in the world shows that housewives are more exposed to domestic violence than woman who have a job. the last thing i want to say is that a woman can both rise their children and have a successful carrer , it's not impossible. In my opinion, honestly i encourage woman to have a career it's more important that just get married, it that's does not means that i am against marriage hhh but we can do the both and successfully, and men should contributed to that, the house work shouldn't be reserved to women!

[@soraya.e5482]

@@perspectiveofahelpmeet3864 trust me your avoiding the child care scam and aren't missing out on anything they are the real fools

[@raquelseguraberna8881]

Thank you for all that you've tought me so far. I'm 19 years old and your homemaking ,femeninity videos and your blog have helped me to accept me and love me a little more. Stay awesome !

[@Ashwin-oq1xt]

You go girl

[@npl5160]

really? that’s awesome! i’m younger (just turned 18💕) and i’m growing and developing my femininity from this channel too! it’s extremely difficult for me because i swear i’m the only feminine girl in my household. my mom and sister are diehard tomboys, and my other family members (7 others) are all boys. they tend to tease and look down on me for the way i am and i don’t have any friends similar to myself to spend time with😢💖

[@Ashwin-oq1xt]

@@npl5160 its sad to hear about loneliness even when you are such a gem. just remember, all of this will pay off in your husband-wife relationship. you will be busy chasing around little children at home and hearing complaints and compliments from your husband ( yes, good and bad, its the full dance of the family) ; but trust me, you will be contempt and satisfied and would never exchange that for those feminists who will be in their dull depressed cat piss smelling houses in their 40's with their 40 cats and four divorces after sometime.

[@npl5160]

Ashwin Arun aww! thank you all so much! very few people are ever this kind to me and it means a lot! at the school that i go to, the trend of “boss b****” is everywhere and practically inescapable. the girls value being rough and loud like the guys there. they hate on anything that’s even remotely feminine, and i get bullied almost every day (they call me weak, airheaded, and too soft) because i present myself as more girly and ladylike. as hard as it is being myself in the environment that i live in, i would never change myself for anything. i absolutely love being female and i love being feminine. i love this community because all of the girls and women here are so encouraging and kind💗💗

[@yanababinov6953]

I'm 24 and married and I couldn't be happier! I got married two years ago. Don't listen to people who say "that's so young" sometimes you just know. Yes marriage is hard but you know what if you really want to make it work you will.

[@Bugs_bunnie43]

Your hair is looking extra lovely in this video.

[@floralaura2543]

I just took a screen shot to show my hair stylist once things open up 😀

[@TeresaatHome]

I sooo agree to everything you said in this video! I am 53 years old, got married at 19 and became a mother at 25. I never had the feeling that I was missing something wile beeing at home raising my child. In fact it was the most amazing time in my life. I see so many 35 years old women living as if they wore 15. It is a pitty. Big kiss from Switzerland.

[@Sam__N_K]

Telling women that they shouldn't be in a relationship in their 20's because they will grow apart. Telling women that they don't know who they are yet in their 20's

[@AlphabetCookie]

"You can't be in love until 25." Ridiculous.

[@Sam__N_K]

Abc Abc i always heard that one!

[@Sam__N_K]

Twin Mommy YES. People don't realize that love requires you to be unseflish! That's why there is so much divorce nowadays. It's always "me me me me and me". Age has nothing to do with knowing HOW to be in a serious relationship. It's maturity. Sadly, a lot of people never acquire that 🤮

[@Sam__N_K]

Clara J Yessss. Also, when people do decide it's "time to settle down" they can't even behave like a good spouse because they were busy playing around. They aren't ready for it but they want to be

[@MyNameisDianaa]

This

[@ladymarie5431]

I love that you pointed out that you can delay a career, but you can’t delay your fertility window in marriage and family

[@nikolove2976]

Eating healthy taking care of your body while you're young

[@teodoraluksaite2238]

That is the worst thing she said in this video...

[@eisa_6185]

@@teodoraluksaite2238 fr

[@adenise__122]

@@teodoraluksaite2238 it is the truth, deal with it

[@Itsmeyourdad666]

Came here from Jaclyn Glen. Mrs. Midwest makes videos to help out women who are like her. And there's nothing wrong with it. There's nothing wrong with being a feminine, religious housewife. Me, I'm an atheist woman who has a career in the military and I can't see myself being a housewife. And she's right, there is a spectrum of femininity and femininity is not weak. As a woman who is in a career field with mostly men, it has made me embrace my femininity even more.

[@estherlong6464]

Helane Ruslan Thank you for your service

[@ellabasu5027]

Thx 4 ur service

[@mariianar9510]

Im 24, going on 3 years of marriage. Im a christian, Im a homemaker and Im happy! Im definitely not missing out on anything that is worthy! Instead of having a hungover sunday morning and drinking our money, I happily wake up next to a man that loves me! Instead of having to pay debt for expensive college.. hubby and I get to save and travel to visit my family. I would never trade my life, Im so blessed!

[@austindahn1155]

Mariia R God bless the both you and be good to each other’s.❤️

[@sophieb221]

Beeing a young feminine woman is actually not easy in our modern world. Many people think I am not very '' cool '' or they just think I am boring and prude because I want to make responsible decisions that are going to make my happy in the future. I sometimes even feel a little bit bad for some of my friends that are making those kind of decisions that they can never change. Seeing your videos just makes me feel like I am normal and helps me feel like I am doing the right thing .thank you so much for that 💛😊 Sorry for my English by the way.

[@someoneyouusedtoknow711]

Hello there! I am just starting to become more feminime and i am interested in those decisions that your friends do. (I am 16 and i dont want to do many mistakes)

[@missb9288]

I agree! It's hard to find friends who understand my choices and beliefs

[@sophieb221]

@@someoneyouusedtoknow711 They are making those typical teenager mistakes. Most of them lost there innocence before they have even had a relationship. And they don't take good care of their body's as much as I respect my friends I do believe that those are very bad decisions they make. I hope I could help ou with your question.

[@missybe3238]

These lies resulted in the rise major depression in women. Yet at the same time society blames men for their dissatisfaction at the end of their life. I am here for that 60k Q&A :D.

[@Southerngirl612]

I totally agree w you, spot on !

[@saramargretstegemann6960]

you do realize that she is, in fact, the one spewing out lies like there is no tomorrow

[@mimia.4810]

Sara Margret Stegemann How so?

[@phrodite3882]

@@saramargretstegemann6960 elaborate plz. Otherwise ur comment is nonsense .

[@saramargretstegemann6960]

@TheStonesSing dafuq...

[@irmalair1]

Wanting to feel motherhood is so underrated today...

[@ashlee7831]

irmalair1 is it? Our world is in shambles. Suicide rates for young people are higher than ever. I had such a shitty childhood with two parents who had no idea what to do with me or how to raise me and was suicidal for all of my teenage years and all of my twenties. Why would I ever want to put a child through that misery?

[@rubylace9963]

@@ashlee7831 Exactly! I also grew up with abusive parents. Parenthood didn't make them better people, it just made them miserable and they took it out on us. My boyfriend had the same experience. Also -- unless your family has a lot of money, your kids could have a very hard time affording anything. Nowdays it's very hard for young people to afford even an apartment while going to school or making minimum wage nevermind ever affording a house. It's getting worse and worse.

[@sweethomechicago]

@@ashlee7831 that example proves the point. Parenting and responsibility for your children is the most important job. Period. Full stop. I say that as a non mom physician, it's far too difficult to make it through the world when your parents underestimate the importance of their job. Parenting well is critical.

[@sirenenoire4091]

I beg to differ, respectfully. So many people harass women when they get married, with inquiries of them being pregnant. That’s so rude of them.

[@irmalair1]

@@ashlee7831 I also had a shitty childhood, full of emotional and mental abuse, sometimes even physical. It makes me want to be a good parent though

[@raesunshine3575]

I see the title and i'm thinkin, "just 10?"😛

[@19Hollisterchick90]

I see a lot of women I knew a decade or so who made fun of women who had kids in their early twenties or before their career now frightened by their struggle to become a mother or even a wife. They're listening to these celebrities who have had their kids in their forties not realizing twins are actually rare. They only became prevalent because of all the expensive treatments and surrogates people are using. Don't be fooled. Pregnancy isn't easy for every older woman. My mother had a healthy child at 37, but she already had four healthy pregnancies go to term.

[@nvaranavage]

I have to say that your channel is a wonderful combination of melding the "traditional" woman with the "modern" woman. Society has become so toxic to women because it is confusing. They tell us to empower ourselves, but when a woman says they actually want to stay home with their children, they turn around and say we are setting back women in society. But you just told me to decide for myself what I want! And that's what I want! Being a full time mom is a hard job, sometimes downright stressful, but so is a lifestyle of building a career, I could not do both......I say amen to women who are staying home, I say amen to women who have chosen a career, and I say amen to those women who I look up to who are able to do both.

[@superasper]

Your information on the fertility window is incorrect. The fertility window really starts declining only after 35 and seriously declining after 40. This is the science of the issue. And in general, I don’t see “society” trying to convince me of any of these ten things. At least not in France, it doesn’t. Actually, young women are allowed to do anything they want, if they are not breaking the law, destroying their lives or the lives of others. Which I totally agree with.

[@avocado3112]

As a nurse, I can confirm that fertility doesn't really start declining until 35. However, there's a greater risk of some genetic diseases (like Down syndrome) if you choose to have a baby after 30.

[@nikolove2976]

@@avocado3112 but the risks are not just increased with the female partner's age. Genetic disorders increase with both the man and the woman being over the age of 30-40. Men over a certain age have a higher chance of having a kid with autism. After 25 a man's sperm count will quickly decline. Sadly, there are not enough informative videos that will educate young men about these future fertility concerns.

[@marie6315]

Omg finally someone in the comments that I agree with NOONE IS TRYING TO FORCE ME INTO SOMETHING! The people I surround myself with believe that I’m smart enough to do what makes me happy and support me whatever it is.

[@legalet9627]

Yees! Hello french fellow, I completely agree 😊 I feel like today we see more and more options for us to choose freely without being push one side or the other. Or at least it is how it should be in my opinion 😊 As long as you don't hurt people on purpose or yourself why should people judge you?You do you 😁

[@veeehwk]

I’m 23 years old and your channel has truly transformed my mentality and outlook on life. Thank you so much for your wisdom and inspiration🙏🏼💗

[@jadecolagross4474]

Biggest lie I think is that being a “ bad bitch” has more value in being a good woman.

[@Anna-kr5zi]

THIS. 👏👏👏👏

[@fembot521]

This is so true! Society has told us that male behavior is better. Now if you do not have a career you are wasting your brain. I got pregnant first try with both my kids at 33 and 37. No issues, healthy pregnancy and natural childbirth. Why? I have never been on birth control which is so detrimental to female health.

[@SkurtavusGrodolfus]

As a boy I was taught girls are just as strong, fast and could throw balls just as well as boys. I believed it, until the girls in PE challenged the boys to Dodgeball. Not one boy was hit by a ball thrown by the girls, they had no chance to avoid ours. Us boys had a great time, it always feels good to dominate. After the game, however, we were scolded for not "playing nice". I asked the teacher why we should "play nice" if they are supposed to be as good as us at sports. She told me to shut up and walked out.

[@sklanguage589]

Doh!

[@Parcha64]

Wow gendered dodgeball. That's worse than senior strength class against freshman PE which gave the same result but none of the scolding.

[@trumpster635]

Lol!

[@Red0660]

Not letting boys lock horns and compete creates broken men. We need more men in early education.

[@MarlyT26]

I can understand where you come from. When I was in school I was told the same thing. However girls like me kept loosing games or missing our target. I wanted to be accepted too. However ours teachers forgot to mention and neglected to tell us the truth. Boys are physically stronger than women, girls have a completely different set of strengths men don't have. Being care takers and many of the the skills Mrs. Midwest explains. If children are properly taught the differences of their genders, than girls can thrive as girls. Rather than asking themselves why they aren't "good enough" to be on the sports teams like the boys. In my experience I tried my whole life to be a rough and tough Tom Boy. I wanted to be accepted where it wasn't really possible. Lots of girls experience this need for acceptance in a similar way, however teaching girls what their skills are from childhood can teach them they are fine how they are. Also that we shouldn't beat ourselves up by comparing ourselves to boys, who were built to protect just as women were built to nurture. We have roles our world should focus on equity more rather than equality, they sound similar but have different meanings, google those two words if that is confusing.

[@MrsAngloOrtho]

I'm 31 and one of those women who have a career and wishes I could stay home with my child (and have more children). I never would have thought I'd feel that way! I am a driven, ambitious, intellectual, educated, modern, liberal woman. But over time, I changed my mind. I no longer value intellectual stimulation above everything else. Embracing my femininity has been a big part of that. I'm running out of time for childbearing, but at least I'm now running in the right direction! So, here's a lie that society tells you: young people know exactly what they want XD It's not that young people know NOTHING, but young people today are SO SURE that they know what they want out of life. Give yourself time and space to change your mind. Being really sure you're right can make you blind to what you really want and need.

[@yasminwardak5724]

Ladies This is very good to hear

[@sohilaryous8584]

You are correct. I am 35, my AMH levels are low which means I have old eggs. I was not successful with IVF. I have not successfully gotten pregnant through any option. I thought I had all the time in the world......

[@MrsMidwest]

I am so sorry to read this. Thank you for sharing your story! There is still hope at 35, but we really appreciate that you are open about the realities. Sending you love and blessings my sister. Xx

[@Ajg97]

I'm so sorry to hear about that! Children are a blessing. May God bless you and possibly adoption is an option?

[@leejennifercorlewayres9193]

So sorry to hear. I woke up too late for my window, so I know the feeling. Hopefully God provides you a way to create a family anyhow, somehow.

[@gpg8204]

I am so sorry! I am praying for you. Send you love and tons of hugs.

[@jacquelinegriffin2954]

I know IVF can be rough. I hope it wasn’t too hard on you ❤️

[@hetty805]

I love your view on motherhood. Motherhood is made as a last choice, something you settle for instead of one of the greatest jobs a woman can have

[@rachelspohn]

Mother of 3 boys here (and hopefully a baby girl on the way:)...children do NOT suck the life out of you. They’re God’s most AMAZING gift to women and yes-while there can be exhausting times, so it is with every job worth doing. Attitude and Gratitude are everything. :) Also... they are much less exhausting when you are blessed to stay home and do the job as God intended giving your full attention to the home and the children. I’ve worked and stayed home and by far prefer staying home!!

[@marie6315]

Rachel Spohn well but why is it a gift for women? Many men would love to stay home and love their children just as much. I think that’s a big fat lie men aren’t able to ease kids. They are! Everyone should decide for themselves!

[@rachelspohn]

L L of course men are capable of staying home and raising kids while doing a fantastic job-just as women are as capable as men are at having a career or being primary earners. Each family definitely should decide for themselves what works best for their unique situation. However-•most masculine men lean towards being providers as their core need and *most women lean towards wanting to be the primary caretaker to their babies (biology). Women grow their babies inside of their bodies, give birth physically, and nurse their babies at their breast. That is why they are naturally given this beautiful gift to be caretakers of the children...and it is an equally important honor for men to provide. As the child grows the father becomes SO important in the parenting process. Both are blessed and parenthood is a gift no matter which gender you are! :) 💕

[@guinevererodriguez3807]

Rachel Spohn I suppose I could agree but not everyone likes Children, or was meant to parent .

[@g.4863]

Young women please listen to her. Too many older women don't have the guts or honesty to admit their lives were ruined by lies of the 1960s on. We were taught to look down on the lifestyles of our 1950/60s mothers -- even while they lavished us with love, time, and every good thing that only homemaking and family can bring. Homes, families, and communities fall apart while women run around chasing delusions. Don't wait until you are older to figure out what truly matters.

[@Hotshot1989]

You have wisdom from the lord

[@Lia_Scott]

I used to fantasize about being a wife and mother and everything I'd want to to to care for my family and make sure they all feel happy and loved. I also didn't have much guidance growing up and came from a messy family situation. I knew I was supposed to get a job so barely knowing what I was doing I just moved to a big city to pursue my dreams of being a singer. But it was hard and I needed to learn how to embrace more masculine energy so I could take care of myself and survive. I was being treated by society like my femininity was a problem and I thought something was deeply wrong with me. I grew very depressed and anxious and it was hard to find love in that state. My body started to break down eventually and I couldn't keep it up anymore. So I let it all go (the job, worries about money etc) and just trusted that God would take care of me. I started living more as my authentic self. Then I eventually gained perspective on what had happened. I stopped worrying about what others told me and started wearing nice long flow skirts, admiting I want to spread more hope and love in the world to people etc... I stopped hiding. My femininity came back. And came the opportunity to move in with my grandparents who are also amazing role models. I'm 31 now, and I never imagined I'd be single at my age. It's sometimes a bit scary that I havn't found love yet, especially as it's the most important thing to me. But again I just keep trusting that things will fall into place now when the time is right. As you mentioned society changed a lot. Many men no longer feel a sense of responsibility towards women so it can be difficult to date. So far I noticed most people who find love are part of a religion. My best friend is muslim, you are Christian.. I'm spiritual and follow many similar beliefs as various religions but don't consider myself religious, more spiritual. So I'm interested to see what God has in store for me in terms of future husband.. And I'm hoping it happens sooner than later.

[@juliebrownbelt4629]

I am 52 and the happiest and most fulfilling time of my life was when I was a full time homemaker raising my 4 children. I feel very blessed to have had that time to watch them grow. I delight in them now as they are adults. But I have those wonderful memories of fun busy hectic cuddly days when they were little. Children are truly a blessing from God and they teach us so much about life. And as mothers at home we can enjoy so many opportunities to nurture them. I now have a job. I eased onto the career path when my children were older. But I am grateful that I raised my children first. I am so very thankful for your willingness to present these ideas so wonderfully. I wish I had had a wise and gifted mentor like you when I was a teenager and young adult! But even now I learn from your insights and encouragement. May you continue to be an inspiration to young women....and actually women of all ages. God bless you, Mrs Midwest!

[@jhck3384]

As usual, I appreciate and agree with your words of Truth. I’m also a Christian and seek to saturate my heart and life with wisdom from Gods Word. I completely agree with the goal of getting married and having children as a young woman (early 20s). But, I want to encourage those women who are nearing the age of 30, who have not yet met the man God has for them. I believe God gives us the desires of our hearts as we surrender our hearts and will to His tender care. After a couple broken relationships, the Lord brought my husband and I together right before my 30th birthday. After two years of praying, he miraculously gave us our first baby girl. We have two little girls now, and still desire more children, although I’m over 35 years old. I don’t doubt His ability to bless my life with the incredible joy of continued motherhood and being a loving wife and homemaker. God gives good and perfect gifts. Just wanted to put a little encouragement out there to the ladies who didn’t get married in their early 20s and still desire to have a loving family of their own. 💕 Thank you, Caitlyn for your lovely video content.

[@sarahd1706]

Thank you. I always wanted to be a homemaker & mother, but at 39 am still single & waiting on the Lord.

[@tdr.220]

Fertility actually varies from woman to woman depending on how healthy she is. If a woman takes care of her body and nourishes it, fertility can actually last for some women well into their 40's. The oldest woman to give birth naturally, without the help of fertility treatments, was well into her 60's. People are eating healthier, making health a priority, and therefore more people are having babies later in life-whether planned or unplanned. I know many women who had "surprise" babies in there 40's, and women who were of a much younger age, less than 25 who dealt with infertility issues. So, in short, it seems to vary.

[@lizhindley]

My mum married in her late 30s and had my brother and I, at age 40 and me at 41.5. We are both healthy. Women's fertility isn't set in stone.

[@maureennomagugu3233]

As a 28 year old trusting God for a Godly husband, thank you for this. I'm hearing a lot of ridiculous advice like "just marry anyone that's available, they don't have to be godly, you're too old to be this picky"....In Africa you're considered too old for marriage if you're over 25 and at this stage im facing a lot of pressure and ridicule

[@chickenjoe7487]

I enjoy being feminine/girly (wearing dresses, makeup, etc.), but searching for a career can be more fulfilling to a woman than having children. That's just being human. Some women don't even want kids. Being a housewife sounds great for some, and I'm happy for those women. But...cmon. Not every woman is like that. Some are working with their passions and fully enjoy their time with it. Art is something some women explore, and their works are absolutely beautiful. Women are still being pressured in some ways to live a life they don't want. Some moms out there regret becoming parents (you can look that up.) The thing is, everybody's different. So setting any kind of standard like this is really bad, whether it be "you MUST get a career or you're a failure!" or "you MUST embrace your femininity or you're not truly a woman!"

[@irmalair1]

And also the more you curse, the louder you are, the more careless, that's when you're seen as a Strong Woman. I'll never understand how being a "bit**" is the right and cool thing to be.....

[@buffyfan666]

irmalair1 yes! And how "men like b****s" "men like strong women" is completely false, some men like that but good men don't!

[@UntakenNick]

The right and cool thing to do in the eyes of the angry bitter feminazis that promote that kind of behavior. For everyone else, following that advice would make you look like an impossible bitch that nobody wants to be around.

[@megatron6382]

@@buffyfan666, men love confident beautiful feminine good women with sexual energy..

[@WafflesOinc]

Tianruo Yang personally I don’t think it should be acceptable for both men and women to curse, be loud and uneducated. It’s sad that it is being seen as “cool”

[@guinevererodriguez3807]

Agreed.

[@mightymight24]

While being homemaker is great, please understand that there are some women who found their purpose by doing their jobs or career. Like a woman who wanted to be a lawyer because she wanted to help others etc. It isn't always about money, cars, houses or appraisal from the society on why these women wanted to pursue a career. It can be about their purpose in life. And I don't see anything wrong about that.

[@maddyG7414]

You are SO open minded. It's amazing. I watch your channel because I want to embrace my more feminine nature in a lot of aspects, but personally I intend to pursue a career because since I was little I've always dreamed of entering into research science for environmental causes. I like that you never say that all women should be stay at home, but you also allow women who aren't interested in some big career to feel okay with that decision. It's truly a refreshing thing to be able to disagree with someone on some points but also know that they aren't trying to force those points on me. Keep making videos lovely!

[@MotherMuse]

This topic is so important for girls and women Kaitlyn. Thank you for shining the light of awareness on it! 💐 It seems like a longtime view of stay home mothers that you are “just a mom” and I felt for many years that I had to defend this choice. This might be a more frivolous example but when my first daughter wanted to wear pink I resisted this and worried it was “too girly”. I wanted her to feel a sense of equality but really there’s this idea that she had to be more masculine to be valued. When my youngest daughter fancied pink (and unicorns and hearts and rainbows!) I not only fully approved this but allowed myself to get into the spirit and encouraged her interests. I actually really enjoyed getting into this and harkened back to my sparkly unicorn sticker collection in grade school! 🦄 💕💕xo

[@Lily-678]

I did a master degree and now that I'm with my fiance I m doing a part time job with my home office. I'm proud to take the time to take care of my house and fiance.

[@morganalexis6147]

I would have loved to have missed out on my 20's by being in love and married to someone. I also totally agree about the whole propaganda thing too. I'm a single female and I do work but it's not by desire honestly. I often find myself crying at work so, so often I wish this wasn't the position in life I'm in personally. I often dislike having to work just to survive. I'd much rather be at a comfortable home that's safe with a loving man and family. I notice that all of the ads and marketing seems to make me always feel subpar. I do hate the message of trading in femininity for more masculine characteristics. I know I'd be far happier having a man provide for me and our family. Your video made me stop and think with my female mind. It allowed me to experience the desire and how nice it'd be to have it without feeling sorrow and failure for not. It even made me want it now! I'm often so consumed with feeling the need to be responsible being a single female by providing for myself so no one else has to I guess. I think after this I will start making romantic love a priority for my life. Also, I often find myself feeling like i have to compromise investing in beauty for working. I hate that I feel this way. I work in a corporate office and i often feel unattractive and undesirable. My physical appearance suffers all of the time along with my care for it :( I didn't grow up having these parts of me being nurtured or cultivated and I'm learning these things now. However I often fall into self-destructive behaviors that make me believe I am just not loveable or worthy of a powerful loving masculine man loving me. Thank you so much for this video. I didn't grow up with female relationships and often struggle terribly for someone to feel connected to in feminine ways. It's really hard 😢. I intend to look for love as my priority right now.

[@tralaritralarajiju2652]

You are soo strong!💪💪 I started to learn about finances and the first book I read was Rich Dad, poor dad (Robert Kiyosaki) this book helped me a loooot to open my mind about money and be in charge of my life... I am not telling you what to do, I am only suggesting a material. Thanks for your comment! (English is not my native language, but I am trying! 🌺)

[@foxbodyblues6709]

Your openness and vulnerability are inspiring.

[@laurapalmer7759]

Someone once said to me that the best way to go it not to look for Mr right but to start being Mrs Right. I'm not saying don't look, but make sure you don't settle for less than someone who is complementary to your best self

[@rijakunwar7655]

My mother is a masculine workaholic nurse she used to be like that in our home too, not caring kind considerate soft nvr talked with friendliness .. i on the other hand am bcming a doctor ..my aim is to be a good professional doctor and a feminine wife /mother ..i lv doing household stuff and taking care of ppl ...pray fr me cz its difficult but not impossible! 💕💕

[@rijakunwar7655]

@@tashilhamu4510 im frm pakistan u idiot

[@celiazed7494]

Sending lots of love and courage. It is so amazing to take care of people. I wish I had more practic advices but please, always do what cas the most beneficits for your mental health and joy. I wish I did medschool.

[@rijakunwar7655]

@@celiazed7494 thank u so much fr ur kind wishes!

[@azucenabustos1078]

You need to split the housework with your future husband.. don't trick yourself into "doing it all" it's unfair.

[@rijakunwar7655]

@@azucenabustos1078 i get that alot but how to convince him

[@sarahd1706]

I know other people's choices arent my business but I try not to feel confused & hurt when my friends (in their 30's) find good husbands but go straight to birth control, & I always wanted to be a homemaker with tons of my own children & I'm nearly 40 & can't find my good match to marry. I know God pulls through though & He knows why, His timing is better than mine.

[@rndmkt]

I'm turning 35 in few months and trying hard to keep trusting Gods timing. Fingers crossed.

[@erikwade3668]

During WWII, my aunt was a WASP pilot rated to fly and ferry nearly anything with two or more engines. Her favorite was the B-25 MItchell. My uncle flew Corsairs in combat and remained in the USMC for 30 years, retiring in '72. Late in her life, after my uncle had passed away, I asked my aunt why she didn't keep flying after the 40's. She simply said "I'd done my part for the war effort and when Jack came home and I wanted to start our family."

[@ParadiseatHome]

I love your content. Women need this information so much. Many feel isolated like they’re “different” in the negative sense. Our society is so toxic toward women. Women are precious beings who are nurturers, strong, and powerful. Real men know this and treat their women in their life with respect and honor and love.

[@alphafish4756]

As a Muslim woman I absolutely appreciate your channel and views, it's refreshing!

[@audreyclack1410]

“Any message that is encouraging your immaturity or destruction is a message that doesn’t care about you.” THANK YOU MRS. MIDWEST 💖💖💖

[@fandoms5ever]

Hedonism is one of the greatest tragedies in society

[@Kenny-jz2so]

sOcieTy LieS

[@alexiatychkowsky641]

I’ll be a young wife. I’ve spent my childhood attempting to undercut and mask my femininity. Ever since becoming saved in Christ I’ve found an overwhelming desire to figure out what it means to be a Godly Woman, which means to understand that I was created DIFFERENTLY than men, I have a unique purpose and I have craved being a homemaker, a gentle, and nurturing person since I was young but haven’t been able to because the world told me I was not allowed to be feminine and strong in my femininity. Your videos have inspired me, and I thank you for all you do for the young women who find you.

[@brittcapmany]

In the middle of my craziest summer ever I met a man 3 years younger than me and he listed all the ways what you just said is so true. Especially about motherhood fertility window and how society expects us to focus on career. That was of course after I had a masters degree. I feel shafted bc I’m in so much debt. I was in my masculine energy and had the Mercedes really cool apartment in miami and was still unfulfilled in my career. I’ve since learned minimalism and had a baby with that man. We didn’t learn about relationships or the importance of everything you teach and we broke up while my son was 2 months. If I were a younger girl I WISH someone would’ve told me about these things. Instead I was told that men cheat, focus on your career. Etc. not one person taught me how to be a feminine desirable woman aside from being nice and pretty which are total lies. I gave too much of myself, putting guys on pedestals, lowering my value and my looks don’t matter when someone thinks why’re better than you. I have so much debt from my masters degree and I’m here to back you up because it’s the people who drive us to be consumers who in their own family, wouldn’t ever allow their daughters to be sleeping around or waiting until after they’re done being fertile to have children. They wouldn’t allow their daughters to go into debt yet they prey on the uniformed and push all of this stuff onto us. To the young ones: think about who you’re benefiting when you buy into the lies. Business owners get to pay everyone less when women flooded the work force and now some families can’t even make ends meet when both are working. Men get to take advantage of women and not offer them anything when they are on birth control and won’t be focused on their needs or starting a family. Also, birth control is really terrible for fertility and hormones. And you’re at a way higher risk for getting cancer ten years after you’ve stopped taking birth control. Ok I’m done with my rant. I just found your page 4 days ago and I’m so happy to be supporting you and liking your vids and sharing. The only thing that got my family back together was after a year of moving back into my feminine. And erasing years of this masculinity out of my repertoire.

[@gailism]

love this video! true feminism should celebrate femininity, not devalue it

[@_pitschool]

Abby Ollila YES!!!

[@guinevererodriguez3807]

Now THIS 😁

[@brittanyr9471]

It's actually much harder to delay a career than having kids. I have PCOS which means even when I was young and fertile it was hard to conceive. There's nothing wrong with waiting until you are financially secure and in a good place to have kids. That's not really a "lie" being pushed on women. It's just teaching them that it's their life and they have options.

[@hannibanani029]

As a 16 year old girl who is exploring choices for my future, I've found your channel and blog very informative! I like that you don't put non-feminine women down or discourage embracing masculinity; you simply encourage us to be who we are, even if we want to be feminine homemakers/housewifes. For as long as I can remember, all I've been told by school, my family, and the media is to go to a good college and get a good job. You're so right when you say that women working for a living is now the norm! While I think it's wonderful, and I would hate to live in a society where girls are kept at home and given no options beyond working as a secretary or elementary teacher, a career is not the path for everyone, and modern society truly will shame those of us who only dream of being a wife, a mother, and eventually a grandmother. Thank you so much!

[@fairyjackalope]

The majority of my friends in high have gone to university, but I was so burnt out from school and God led me to my husband at my first job out of high school. We both lost a few friends when we got married, most of them had gone to university. We lost a few more after God gave us our daughter. The friends who stuck around have been the most supportive of us and have been there to talk to me on my road to recovery from birth-related PTSD. I don't like admitting that I struggle with feeling fulfilled in my roles as a SAHM because I am still incredibly passionate about pursuing a career in midwifery but also wanting to homeschool our child and any other future children who come into our family. I love watching your videos because they speak so much positivity into my life where I feel heavy from losing some friends who were the nicest to me in high school but who left when I chose marriage over university. I'm sorry for the rambling comment, it's been a whirlwind emotional day. Anyways, thank you so much for creating the content that you do and helping feminine women not feel so weird or alone. God bless!!

[@fabulousannie012]

It’s so beautiful when someone has the truth that many people despise, and yet still boldly stands up for it and shares it with the world. I admire you.

[@bethanydorsey9028]

Before I found your channel, I was “brainwashed” into believing all these lies. I’m only a young teen but I think your channel could be helpful to anyone! I know you say you don’t expect younger girls to be feminine, I agree, but I think it’s also important to teach young girls how to be feminine, as you do, so they’ll be better prepared for adulthood. Because I was younger when I was brainwashed, I believe it’s easier to teach young children these things. Once you’ve been taught something from a young age, you’ll most likely stick to it when you’re older, no matter how crazy !! -i don’t expect young girls to be feminine, but they should be taught. I LOVE YOUR CHANNEL!!! YOURE SO HELPFUL 💕

[@ohdearkaroline]

Complete agree. Especially when you have a baby everyone is asking when do you plan go to work. I don’t want to go back to work I want to stay at home and take care of my family.

[@faith_life_travels8985]

Omg that point about going to University hits home for me so much. I am in debt and I have never had the opportunity to use what I learned in my University degree. I almost wish I hadn't wasted my time because now I feel forced to work to pay off this debt when I am realising more and more over the years that I just want to stay home, do ministry and be a home maker (if I get married). This video is such a blessing and there is so much truth to it. It is also why I do not understand feminism

[@cassieg5852]

I appreciate this video! My older sister in 30 and just had her first baby, and she was home from her job as a highschool teacher for a little over two months on maternity leave. She hated being home from work, she missed the social interaction with other adults (and young adults). I think this is why she could be someone that says “staying home sucks.” Being at home all day might truly, truly suck for some women. She lives in a different city from where we grew up and so some of her best friends are back home, and I just don’t feel like she would be around people enough for her personality if she wasn’t going to work. I know your husband worked different hours from you and that must’ve been a contributing factor when you both decided for you to stay home. I am curious if he’s with you more during the day, or how exactly you combat loneliness. Having a pet must help, but do you have lots of family and friends close too?

[@maryfairy1532]

I wish someone told me that there nothing wrong with being too kind or too selfless or too submissive. If you have any of these praiseworthy qualities do not try to change. You don’t need to be more harsh or selfish. The feminine nature in women should be cherished. Not changed.

[@hallemathues4840]

Your message is very important. Watching your videos this past year has provided a significantly positive impact on me striving to be a better wife, homemaker, and yes, even a better employee in my "corporate" job. I know your at the level where your attracting internet hate by people who are offended by the selfless ideas of "planning your life around your family and not your family around your life". Fear not, Caitlin. John 15:18 Blessings to you, your husband, your home.

[@deniseborges6293]

I'd also say choose your friends wisely, people who will help you become the person you want to be rather than pull you down, and prioritize family relationships. I regret that as a teenager, I spent so much time with friends. Looking back, I wish I had spent more time with my parents and brothers. Just saying, I think society makes us feel that we need to have a ton of friends and makes us think friends are more important than family relationships.

[@homemakerandglamour29victo29]

Love your hair in this video :) liked it before I even started watching it. Your video content is always point on love all your videos

[@MrsMidwest]

thank you! I’m always love second opinions about what looks best! 🥰

[@irmalair1]

Same!!!! Me tooo! I almost only clicked on the video for the hair 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@km-kl3lg]

@@MrsMidwest You should definitely consider doing a hair tutorial or even several. I adore your style in this video as well!

[@LauraP1324]

My boys are now 12 and 6. I have been a SAHM for 6 years. I have so much freedom now to explore my own artistic spirit. The first 4-5 years of any child’s life is a 24 hour 7 day a week job but you reap the rewards when your youngest goes to school full time. Have patience my lovely feminine friends. You will understand why it is all worth it when you can spend your summer reading by the pool while your children play.

[@auburnsunlight]

Thank you so much for mentioning the Hedonism aspect. Why is it that we are considered naive by our peers if we don‘t prioritize pleasure-seeking and instead care about building up their own intellectuality and spirituality?

[@eb6822]

I also say that having a kid late means that you won't be in your kids lives as long as you could have been which can also make the kid really sad.

[@ajoyfullsound]

Thank you for this, growing up i was made fun of for how i dressed, and how i was so girly. People always told me i was going to be some rich girl who had a perfect house. The lie has stayed with me and i am now very different, not " caring" if i wear a baggy Tshirt and bummy clothes. When i do want to dress nice and put effort into it, that memory always comes into my mind. Thank you for encouraging me to follow what i desire as a young woman❤😊 God bless!

[@kawaiistarfish1115]

Your videos are inspiring! I love this so much! I was married last year May 2018 and my mother actually told me not to get married, not to have children, to wait and go to college. So we snuck off to the justice of peace and got married! We don’t have any children but I want them! I work right now as a personal attendant for a boy with special needs where I make sure he eats and goes to the bathroom and I take him to do fun things! We bake cookies at Christmas and we do crafts and go to parks. Very much a companion job. Very much a womanly job. And I tried before to work my butt off so I’d bring in all this money and I was TIRED! I felt beat up all the time! But now I’m better! I just work with one kid and it’s 5 hours a day. I can take care of my house, my husband, my pets! I remember I use to hate being a girly girl. I resented when men would even bring up woman hood! (Because of my step dad) My youth pastor asked me what I thought the perfect family was and I said a family in the 40s and I was shocked to hear it come out of my mouth! I had been trying to fit in with the guys and when they spoke about woman make myself feel like it didn’t include me! But here I was seeing the perfect family as a woman being a homemaker! It was eye opening! Anyways, thank you! I love your video!

[@greengrapes3650]

I wish I had a role model like you when I was younger, it would of saved me alot of guilt and pain. I'm 27 years old home maker and stay at home mama and I absolutely love it. The exact opposite I thought I would be doing years ago. Keep doing what your doing ! ❤️

[@winstonsjulia5942]

You're doing great things with your channel, I'm happy you have such a big audience. You're literally saving lives from misery, unhappiness and insecurity.

[@annmiller2164]

Thank you so much for sharing this dear. For many years I believed lie #9 about children. Not just because society said it but I also noticed about 75% of the Moms in my life really disliked being a Mom and that scarred me. So when I had my first child 7months ago I was totally prepared to not like being Mom. I knew I would absolutely 100% love my child but I kinda excepted the fact that I would probably be miserable. But now that Iam a Mom it couldn’t be further from the truth.When I realized that I actually love being a Mom I almost felt guilty telling people that. Which is ridiculous! Yes being a Mom is challenging and stretching sometimes but it’s also one of the biggest blessings that God has given to my Husband and I. Thank again Mrs Midwest. ❤️

[@Hannahhcamillle]

I'm really about balance. I'm serious with my boyfriend, we will be getting married soon and have kids by the time I'm 30. Were monogamous. We go out together, we have our fun. I have a career and an education. I am a licensed cosmetologist and I have found a lot of my femeninity through my career of making people beautiful. I have a huge love for working, doing something I love and making money. I also have a huge love for being home on my days off, cooking, cleaning and caring for my home and animals. You don't have to choose a path. You are versatile. You're a strong woman. You can do both. Lol.

[@cdatechnician1435]

"There is a huge possibility you might not be very fertile after 35". That's not actually correct. Current stats in the UK (NHS) state that 90% of women under 40 actively trying to become pregnant do so within 2 years. It's the minority of women who have fertility problems 35-40, not the majority. For that 10% however it is heart breaking, difficult, expensive etc. and it's hard to know which percentage you'll be in (you can have whatever assessment is available but it's not 100% reliable). So the chances are you'll be ok, but it's whether you want to take that chance. There are also other advantages to having children younger than 35; less pressure to fit in more than one, for example, if you would like more than one (many people do), less likelihood of having health problems while still an active parent etc. There are also gradually rising (after 40 steeply rising) risks of fetal abnormalities. It's not a simple subject. The 35 "cliff" by the way came from a study based on French parish records from the 17-19th centuries.

[@foxbodyblues6709]

What percent of a woman’s eggs exist at age 35?

[@ashlaww]

This is amazing, thank you for the break down of societal myths. I’ve never been able to put my finger on it but I’ve always felt uncomfortable with these “norms”. You truly have a grounded perspective

[@madisonj5136]

Ashley Lawrence I felt the same way

[@celestialcircledance]

These days you often need a two income household just to afford rent and food on the table . Its okay to want children but very hard to juggle with two careers I would imagine ... .Having children isn't about perpetual diapers your right ( unless its a developmentally delayed child . Children are a gamble and health isn't always a given ) but its not like after that's over you can rest on your laurels . Every age has its own unique gifts as well as challenges and the teen years is one I'd be even less eager to tackle ....

[@megatron6382]

Two income household and still not enough and here one income household (men only) and everyone is married and have family..women don't need to take pressure on their brain.. One man earn and provide to whole family, wife, kids, younger brothers/sisters (if he don't earn) and many things.. I think, we are more rice.. Actually we are not rice but living concept is different.. West have concept of "earn, spend and consume".. We have concept of "earn, spend as least as you can and only if needed, save".. Real happiness come when we will separate us from materialistic life style.. That's why saints live more peacefully life.. I have seen and live three life style.. 1-comfortable life style in big city 2-less comfortable life style than big city in small city 3-life style with too little comfort in town/village.. I enjoyed living in village.. Life in village was fulfilled, satisfied.. No one had social anxiety, open atmosphere, trees were everywhere, fresh vegetables (which is not in fate of those who live in big city), whole village was like a family, no media manipulation because no one spend their time on front of TV, kids play physically with each other instead of spending time on playing video games, women had their own company and talk with each other and enjoy, men had their own company.. They sleep at 9pm and wake at 4am in summer and 5am in winter.. Actually village has every things which we can never get in big cities..of course most of work is physical but day is peaceful and night is relax..life in village is great..

[@Seffffffffff]

I'm never planning on having kids. I've got wayyyy too many health issues that can be passed on to my children and that would get worse should I get pregnant. I've known ever sine I was 16 that I didn't want to have kids. Now that doesn't mean I won't adopt a kid later down the line, but personally, I never want to have a kid naturally. My own childhood was riddled with Hospital visits and surgeries because of the Genetic Disease I have, I don't want to bring a life into this world that might have to go through what I did or worse.

[@lucilleli9529]

I think that's a compassionate choice! Lots of adopted kids need loving families too :)

[@caitlinhoffmann-herbert8569]

I’ve been watching you since your modesty video and I swear you’re the one that dragged me out of my first depressive episode. I just found myself again with your help and you are such an inspiration 💕

[@evakormuskin5378]

Wow. Why did I not find you sooner?!! I got married a year and half ago and seem to have an identity crisis every 6 months over what I should do about my future. Homemaker or career, children, studying, when? Because I don't hear enough of the truths you are saying in this video. I'm bombarded with other people's opinions or headlines in magazines or social media. So excited to explore your uplifting videos! Also, one thing you said completely struck me, "I admire the beauty of my uniqueness and the way God created me, even to the point of where my body stores fat, but I am also a responsible young woman who practices self-discipline in fitness and nutrition for the health of my body."

[@dulcecarismatica]

I married really young with a wonderful husband he worked outside and I was a happy homemaker. Everything was balanced and I was very happy but a lot of people started to critizise me for "doing nothing" and not bringing money to the home so I started to have doubts of staying at home that caused me stress and I cried a lot since I felt useless and with no value. I talked to my husband of my feelings and confusion and he is so supportive and loving so he told me that this was my life and that I didn't have to do what modern society tells me that I should choose what made me really happy after being miserable and confused I started to ask myself why did I validate all people's opinion but my opinion was the last one to have any value and how almost everyone was choosing what was "best for me" but not me so I stop listening to others and start listening to myself to my heart that's when I regained control of what made me happy and that was staying at home and giving my husband a warm loving home. Yes I love what I do and watching your channel makes me feel so happy and confident I feel that I don't have to hide my femeninity and embrace myself 💕 P.S Sorry for my bad english 😅

[@saundrajohnson1571]

When are we (women, men, humanity) going to learn??? NO ONE can tell anyone else how they should live their own lives. Every one of us is an individual, unique in every way. What's right for me will not be right for you, your neighbor, or the mail person down the street! It's time for everyone to repeat after me... "You just be you!" Seriously. Who else can you be? And there is no one out there who is better at being you, than you, yourself. It's simple, but true. 😉

[@mn-bs4cv]

Oh my goodness! The number of times I've heard these lies and extreme arguments for and against them is unbelievable. Thank you for taking such a rational and empathetic stand🙏 Love you loads❤

[@victorianaimushina]

Rarely leave comments, and you’re amazing! But agree and disagree. Not everyone going to get married due to different circumstances and not everyone would be able to be a housewife as well as not everyone would have an opportunity to have children in that window or have their own children at all. And not all the time it’s because a woman pursues a career, etc. Man proposes, God disposes. Was raised and lived in a quite traditional society, yet, what I saw that a lot of women mistakenly relied on the fact they’re going to be housewives, for many it didn’t work out at all, and they had to start all over again because, well, now they have to provide for themselves and kids too. On the other hand, had several good friends who were very concentrated on career (actual careers, talking big 4 companies, and six figures income while still under 30), and after marriage decided to be a stay at home wife, and it’s working out great for them! I believe in traditional marriage, but nowadays a woman needs to have a good education and profession anyways, and at least some type of work experience, unless you already have money, life is long, you don’t know what’s going to happen.

[@sweeteststar3882]

Thank you for this video ! Everything you stated I also whole heartedly believe in. I’m also glad you mentioned that not all women are meant to be homemakers. A few months ago I was distressed because I really wanted to be a homemaker someday, but I didn’t know if I should put off school and just wait to meet someone and get married. I was very stressed because I kept telling myself “what if you never meet anyone and you’re stuck working minimum wage your entire life?” One day at church as I was still thinking about all of that, an elderly man came up to me and said “Hi, I don’t know you but God told me to come and tell you that you don’t need to worry, he has a job for you.” I was so surprised, but when he said that to me I could tell it was God who gave him that message to give to me. When he said that it really lifted a weight off of my heart. Immediately I received the message and God let me know in my heart that I’m going to have a specific job someday because it’s going to have an impact on his kingdom. A few weeks after I was told that, I applied to a Christian university and got accepted only 3 days later ! I’m starting this September and I’m going to be studying to become a spiritual counselor, and hopefully work within a church someday. I know quite a few people who go to that school so I won’t be completely alone either ! I’m very excited, and now I look at a future job as a way to reach out to other hearts and tell people about the gospel, rather than just a job to make money from. I don’t see having a career as a way to “empower” myself, but I now see it as a way to become a part of the body of Christ, and do the job that God has for me ♥️

[@nellycious1692]

Wow this is not a career. This is it purpose which is to preach Jesus. I'm happy that your purpose is in alignment with Christ. God bless you richly as you go on this journey.

[@juliettezea9507]

sweet pea I hope to find my purpose

[@marlygnarly4186]

I love your message and the way you deliver it ❤️ sometimes I find myself struggling as a young married woman and between my faith as a Christian and societal pressures to ”enjoy my 20’s”. It’s nice to know I'm not alone or unwise for choosing a different path than what society promotes these days.

[@mo_7199]

There is both Yin and Yang energy inside a person. No side is stronger, no side is more important. Feminity is not weak, but only one side. Masculinity is beautiful, and so is feminity. No matter how you present yourself, you are beautiful!

[@lisaalicea2405]

Hi, I like to say I love this channel even though I have only recently started watching. I married at the age of 23 and traveled every year to someplace new. It was exiting but we both reach a point where we wanted the parent adventure, my daughter is now two years old and I'll turn 36, July 20. I have lived a traditional life throughout our marriage took on a part time job here and there depending on necessity. I have been lucky to cook well that I don't get critized for being a homemaker though many of my husband coworkers asking if he is ok with it and he loves it. He thinks it is the greatest feeling to get home and know that I am there to greet him and now he gets the best greeting of all our daughter running to him. I wish you many years of success on you channel and many blessings for your family. P.S. I am a heavy metal listening homemaker that loves the Kitchen, Jane Austen and Motherhood.

[@CrZY8650]

hedonistic behaviours generate mass consumerism. That's why the corporations wants women and men to be as hedonistic as possible. Wholesome intentional living doesn't create this consumerism pattern

[@EmmyHucker]

I'm 17 and I really respect your viewpoints. You've helped me become more open minded x

[@tashamac7300]

I’m 35. I really love your channel and your message about femininity. I am married and have two children. I do think women need to be aware of how to balance self care and being a mother. Being a wife and mother can make you feel like you are a shell of a person because it requires so much work and giving that you have to be mindful and remember the importance of giving to yourself so that you can be full enough to give to your family. I think the reality of having kids and all that it requires should be discussed so that mothers learn new ways of being holistically healthy with so much responsibility and so little time. Being a mom is something you really can’t speak on until you become one

[@azizikasi3671]

As 17 years old Young men I'm glad that you are role model to youngers womens whose wanna be feminine women and doesn't wanna listen to feminism lies . When I wanna marriage I wanna to teach my future wife the reality and to wake up from this coma . Sad thing is feminism has destroyed the 21th century womens , I know that there ares woke ppl in this planet I meant the teenagers in Scandinavia that's why I have a hope in America . God bless you Mrs. Midwest and I wanna thank Dr. Jordan Peterson , Ben Shapiro , Gavin , Carlson and all of ppl who fights the cancer " Feminism " . All of best wishes to your Husband and to you . 🎇

[@Mrsrchy17]

As a 40-year-old, I loved every single one of your points, 100%, but especially about taking responsibility over our fertility, finding balance in a healthy lifestyle, faith is not “out of style” or “obsolete,” and children do not suck the life out of you! Having children is a big pruning season and subsequent growth and fruit bearing season in a parent’s life! 🙌🏼♥️ I wish I had known when I was a teen and young adult that it was ok (& good!) to plan my life rather than have a lackadaisical position and think I had to just go with the flow and whatever happened in my life was what was supposed to happen. 🤦🏼‍♀️ Girls, take your life seriously because it goes by so fast. Make it count, especially if you’re a Christian- plan your life with the Lord’s opinion and will in mind.

[@madisondastrup584]

I love your videos so I don't want this to come across as rude, but I didn't really like how you talked about adoption and really just having kids. You made adoption sound like such a bad choice, and that we should strive to have biological children. In reality, for some people, getting pregnant is REALLY HARD. My mother tried for years to get pregnant before she adopted me. I feel like if she saw this video and how you talked about adoption and getting pregnant it would really hurt her. It took me almost a year to conceive and it's not as easy as just having sex. I feel like the pressure to have kids so young hurts those of us who are trying but can't seem to get pregnant.

[@acsaflores7644]

Hi there! I think she was talking about these post-modern majority case scenarios where women are putting everything as a priority in their lives except having a family and planning for it (not being aware of their biological timing) and women who plan to have kids so late because... career, money , etc, and when the time comes, can't get pregnant and the only option is adoption just because of them being careless about it. And i thing also, she is definitely not talking about women that are having difficulties with their fertility and finding really hard to get pregnant. That's just what I get from the video

[@camillefaith2005]

I actually plan on adopting before having my own biological children. it's always something I've wanted to do. 😊

[@_pitschool]

Madison Dastrup: So what, if she “made adoption sound bad.” It’s her channel, which means these are all her opinions. Plus, this is how YOU are interpreting it. Make your opinion “positive” sounding video about adoption since you have a need for some sort of positive affirmation. Geesh!

[@madisondastrup584]

@@_pitschool 😂😂😂

[@saundrajohnson1571]

I have to agree with the others I see here, Madison. It is not Caitlyn's way to insult or put down anyone, or the choices they make for their own lives. Nor does she expect others to live according to her beliefs. Excuse me for saying this, but you come off as a bit hyper-sensitive about the whole adoption issue. I can assure you, Caitlyn meant no harm.

[@noelschatz969]

Everything Mrs. Midwest says is somehow what I am already thinking AND what I need to hear at the moment. Even though I live a very different kind of life than her, i feel like she just Gets It. It goes to show that despite differences, womanhood really is a bond, something that connects a vast group of people, simply because we are women.

[@becky2969]

You give such amazing advice!💛You’ve helped me grow so much as a feminine woman especially in my relationship! Embracing my feminine side has allowed me and my fiancé to develop our love so much more✨

[@celiazed7494]

How please, may I ask?

[@Thepoetrycookervideo]

HuuuuNEEEEE...Wow. I'm glad you live in a world where every woman is blessed by God with fertility.

[@betaniacampos4757]

"Tradition is a set of solutions for which we have forgotten the problems. Throw away the solution and you get the problem back." Donald Kingsbury

[@ingridsmith7885]

Thank you Caitlin, your videos are so refreshing. You talk a lot about balance, and we should not forget that we live in a privileged part of the world where women can choose their own path in life. Many places marriage, children and homemaking is the only option for women. Think of Malala who won the Nobel Peace Prize. I thank God that I could learn a skill ( I am a doctor) AND have a husband and children. Women come in many shapes and sizes😍

[@Jdb63]

Wow, I love this quote! Thanks for sharing

[@burningheart2909]

I'm sad because this wonderful behavior is so rare 😢

[@azizikasi3671]

True.

[@lawangeen4440]

Well ,gems are rare and thus ,valuable . 😊