10 Micro Tips: How To Be More Feminine When Dating Or In A Relationship

[@nazikanazika4510]

I love this video so much. It's about how to love yourself, so the man can love you for yourself. Especially, as the oldest daughter, I was raised to be independent and never ask for help. So, I also have the problem of being uncomfortable when receiving help from anyone. But lately, I made friends who are so much in their feminine energy that they don't even try to open a door. Thus, right now, I am "training" myself to receive help and trying to ask for help when I need.

[@ayanime_edem]

Well said! And I love that for you.

[@ezikechidinma8564]

This is me Till now I feel uncomfortable and ashamed to ask help,I rather die in silence than ask. I fear disappointment

[@Nyakato-v3t]

​❤😊@@ezikechidinma8564

[@salmindapandula5826]

This is me as well I don't accept help or even ask help from people. But I really want to adjust 😢

[@OneciaBarclay]

​@@ezikechidinma8564same here

[@florencengozi9919]

Be generous with compliments

[@treluvstrees999]

Yes!! I make it a habit to compliment a woman I see when she is out and it’s amazing how her mate/date will turn and smile at her even more! Kindness is contagious!

[@LIGHTEDHEALTH]

The energy of "with you, I am fine, without you I am even better". The one that resonates with me so well is having a life outside your relationship. This has worked alot for me

[@ttct9035]

Ive watched so many videos about femininity but the way you break it down is so much healthier than the other content that pushes women to be manipulative. Your focus on teaching women to emphasize personal growth and development is top tier. ❤

[@ayanime_edem]

Your words mean the world! Thank you so much 🎉

[@onlyme3668]

Honestly she breakdown every point which I admire about her videos a lot.

[@beldinaotiso5214]

You just made me understand why I attract a certain type of men😢😢I have already messed up in all of these 😢 Being a firstborn is tough am too masculine for goodness sake that I show" independence"😢..I just need to start all over again,be kind to myself ,be feminine,so that I attract the right kind of men to my life.Thank you alot for this❤❤

[@Bigbadgurl]

I feeel you sis. Being a first born child messes with my feminity. I’m a controller and authoritative. I don’t chase but I’ve discovered that my authoritative nature has chased off men. I’m trying to bask in my feminity. God help me

[@CynthiaShadrack]

We are in this together sis ❤

[@mercyemerald7892]

I used to always say " I'll always figure it by myself" to men.😂 Thought it was cute. But after watching this video, i won't do that again. Thanks for sharing these tips.❤

[@EkeminiAtauyo-ph9sq]

You're the senior sister I never had. Thank you. I have been doing the opposite of everything. So much masculinity! That's about to change right now. Thank you so much!

[@ayanime_edem]

My pleasure... 🤍

[@ijay_achinike]

I love tip 10 best... Your relationship CANNOT be the only good thing in your life💯💯

[@shalomakaelu]

My favourite girl is back!🥰

[@ayanime_edem]

Like she never left

[@jennagodson1889]

Thank you so much 😢 I never knew I have been masculine all this time. I am first daughter, this has really affected me.

[@florencengozi9919]

Have a life outside your relationship.

[@letterstojesus7879]

Just be yourself. There is no format. The right man will make it easy for you to just be a soft lady. Trust me. These teachings are good but stay true to you. BE A GOOD PERSON. Pray and wait.

[@abigailowusuahhagan]

In summary, that is what she is exactly what she is saying. Being you as a woman. Not everyone know thus so don't try making it feel this isn't educative.

[@antoniachukwu8960]

This color suits your skin sooo well❤️

[@ayanime_edem]

Oh thank you 🤍

[@lawrenciabaabamensah3658]

I love the way you speak, so mindful, so intentional, so Demure❤

[@talkswithesthertherapy]

Hahaha+😅🤣🤣 I tell you, very demureeeee!❤

[@yakubuagnes]

The way you speak is actually what I've been paying attention to 😊 i watched this video from the very start to the end but honestly i leaned nothing coz my attention was else where 😅😂 Your English is so clean that i couldn't help but admire all through 😊

[@ayanime_edem]

Lol 😂 thank you so much but please learn too okay? 😂😂

[@justinaafiapokuaa5430]

Same here buddy, her choice of colours , how she does her soft make up and how she speaks ooh . I love it ❤ My first time on her page too

[@ukamakajacintachukwu5262]

The 10th one is sooooooooo on point with me. Having no friends that stay around my city, and having just an online business made me clingy and available. I had so much time to give and I gave it all to him.

[@VeronicaPeterBullem-je2bd]

I just learned to desist from point 4&5. I feel so shy asking for help and accepting compliments.

[@ngoziamanze3897]

The first and last tip nearly killed meeee. Sooooooo guilty as charged😢 Thank so much for this deep words❤

[@yeukaihoromba4782]

Profound, this was so helpful. I am the one who always feels uncomfortable with asking for help from my boyfriend and I call it "being independent". I was wrong, starting from now own I will asking for assistance.

[@woodylove30]

This is a good video! Asking for help is very uncomfortable and also letting go of control! But I am slowly working on both because I notice when I try to be in control, it causes so much stress between us. I also noticed that when I ask for help, he doesn’t hesitate to help me. So I am striving to keep a balance between asking and doing for myself because sometimes I find myself going a long time without asking for help and doing it myself. Thank you for this video!! 💗

[@ehirimamaka4577]

Beautifully shared. Thanks so much for this. Reminds me of two guys I met at different times. They never chase or try to call as often as possible. Fortunately I am kinda blessed with this know how. I usually cant find myself calling a guy more often or doing the pushing. Am always too proud to do it. As for the ones I find attractive, I could think of him all day but will never call. so these guys just relax for a whole week and more without being bothered to call. And then when they call they begin to accuse me of not calling or trying to reach out. Many guys are becoming princesses. we just have to main our feminism until the right guy comes along.

[@mili_so_dope9578]

Found you last night and I have been BINGE watching. Thank you for being so kind and educating us on these things. May God bless you. ❤❤

[@MercyGyamfuaOkomeng]

I'll always appreciate you ma'am..I bless the day I found you ❤🥰😍

[@EbonyEyes00]

This is all great and I pray that more men are getting tips on how to date as well.

[@fiyinfoluwaawosika480]

Asking for help and receiving help is one that I can really relate to. I even prefer to manage than ask for help. Thank you.❤️👏

[@samanthadama5839]

What got to me is the asking for help part. Thats so me, I can't even ask my friends for help, just only very few. I'll try.

[@Nyakato-v3t]

😊❤

[@dorisnnenna6997]

I’m really putting no 6 and 10 into practice

[@lerekolory6629]

In a situation where your patner has grown to be in a world of his own due to trauma in his past He says he has been solving issues himself first to a very large extent that he dosnt even involve his family He has to try to solve that issues himself and the lady on the other part is the type that relates everything nd sees him as a support system that helps her fix any pressure as a team ,it makes the lady feel bad like he’s not communicating effectively ,what’s the best way to fix this nd help him come out to discuss anything with her and feel very comfortable sharing it and making him feel his not alone anymore because she is here to help him feel better….

[@bridgetajari297]

Girl it's not your job or task or heal a broken man. He should do that by himself and you are better off staying away from such relationships. Let him do his healing himself

[@Katrica670]

1. Allow him to pursue 2 don't control everything in the relationship, but you have a right to control stuff pertaining to yout body 3. Keep up with your personal appearance 4. Be comfortable asking for help from the man you are seeing 5. Be comfortable receiving things from him 6.

[@roseek8980]

One more 😂😂😂 keep your legs closed….No Sex Period until after you return from the alter.

[@thetasha1081]

Every one of these tips is a help for me it actually changes my mind concerning relationships , not just dating but to get married, and how to maintain that, and I know with what i already have spiritually + These tips= it's a great Outcome, may God keep blessing you a us you for my woman to be restored In there life... very profound tips. i love them

[@ima-abasirichard3980]

I love number 4. Thank you ma. I guess that's where the problem has always been considering how I was raised.

[@deborahoreoluwa9264]

Thank you so much much,i would implement everything.

[@oyetolaolajuwon960]

There is something about you and how you speak. It is genuinely soothing. Thanks for sharing

[@ayanime_edem]

Thank you ☺️🤍

[@carolinelorettapitse2337]

I really have to come to this video again ❤I really love how you break the points down Have to work on number 4,5 and strengthen much on the last point You really doing a great job ❤

[@paulineeboma5377]

I thought I was helping myself by ignoring number 4 and 5. Now I know better. Though I will scrutinize some help before accepting. Thank you.

[@mbahquinttafavour7895]

Thanks sis. Very interesting tips. I look forward to intergrate in my relationship. God bless you

[@je39981]

Sometimes, I don’t think it’s the lack of femininity but desperation that sometimes a women feels she has to take the lead. Personally, sit back and allow the man to do him and not over stepping by allowing him to prove interest.

[@sparklesuk.7835]

Awesome tips 11. Smile often 😊😊

[@charityokezie8334]

First time coming across your video, and I must confess you the mentor have been searching for all my life ❤❤. Glad I found you

[@Akolenne]

I just found u yesterday and I must say I’m glad I did. U are a big sis ❤️

[@ayanime_edem]

Yay! Glad to have you here!! 🎉🎉🤍

[@mindfulkento]

Thank you Ayanime for this video with really good advice. It will be part of my video playlist that I watch every day.

[@ayanime_edem]

That’s wonderful… I’m glad it resonated 🤍

[@LeticiaDelaliTettey]

Am learning to recieving help from men and not feeling bad

[@lindaigwemusic]

I love this video. I appreciate you ma’am. I will learn how to ask and receive help.

[@hidayahnampewo]

Just found your channel today, so relatable

[@adebiyihannah1980]

Me too

[@chinwendumary8936]

Thank you so much for these knowledge 🙏🏼... i am so guilty of number 4 😢

[@9jachic]

Maintain a life outside your relationship. So important to continue being grounded in the things that make up your core essence and what attracted him to you in the first place.

[@hoyinye_mayors]

I loved the video. I struggle with asking for help. I still don't know how to come out of it.

[@GraceAdobe]

Very educating, i like the way you speak 😊

[@pamelayuwun9770]

😂😂😂😂 I feeel God Whispered my Own to this Aunty Whattttttt Thank You for this Sisterly❤❤❤❤❤

[@ayanime_edem]

My pleasure 🤍

[@erhimatina]

I love number 9 and 10. And am presenting working on number 9. Your videos are so relatable and educating. Thank you.

[@deborahafful6602]

I love this wonderful lady. This is indeed a great masterpiece

[@MissTirarameG]

I met a guy who went around telling people that I asked for too many favors from him simply because I would occasionally ask for help and not be ashamed receiving it, I won’t lie it took me out of my feminine element💔

[@thevoiceofmercy]

He’s not into you. Return to your feminine energy. Your standards may be high but it will help you only stay with a man who loves you

[@Praiseirawaji]

This video came at the right time ❤. Thank you so much ☺️

[@chimezirimihebereme4153]

Having a life outside your relationship. "With you, I am fine. Without you, I am even better"

[@njodzekanangsing3579]

I don’t know how to ask for help but you see how to receive it, I have a degree in that lol. If you bring help even if i didn’t ask or I don’t need it, I will collect😂😂

[@agnessmwachiyaba6088]

I watch Atleast a video by you each day and am learning and my workmates appreciate my looks now though I still have a lot to work on.I pray that I will be able to join your class of leveling up

[@ayanime_edem]

Love that for you! The program will be here when you're ready... so take your time. No pressure 🤍

[@agnessmwachiyaba6088]

@@ayanime_edem thank you

[@francoise-lm7ex]

​​@@ayanime_edem I have a guy I'm talking to. I feel guilty of the second one....also the one of receiving.....but I'm really comfortable with my body

[@ijeomanwichi1242]

Every point resonated well.However quiet a number of men are not interested in being participatory in a relationship even when you ask them nicely to assist you get some things do.A know a number of cases where the man would say things like..'csnt you do it by yourself ' , 'I don't want stress', or they sit there laying about

[@BeatriceSonnieMulbah]

That uncomfortable feeling of asking for help from a man did ruin everything. Back then,I literally did everything for myself and even for him too and that made him so relaxed thus going out there to find someone he could be a hero to. Guess I've learnt my lessons ❤

[@Oluwaseun-m8q]

I love the part ask for help from your man.i am very alshy when it comes to asking for help from my man especially when i can afford it .When i was dating my guy now Ex though,He said ,you dont ask me to get u anything unlike the way others girls i have seen does,i replied most of the things i need i can buy it myself i dont want to disturb you .To him,he felt i was proud.After he heard the word disturb he said ok.The first time i told him i saw a clip on a ladies hair i will love to have something like that ,the following day i got a dozen of it jeez😂😂it was funny

[@Nyakato-v3t]

❤😂

[@kerryannburke]

Some don't like gold diggers asking for financial help.

[@LynnNyaliyen]

Very funny though 😊

[@bridgetajari297]

​@kerryannburke if a man thinks you are gold digger for asking for financial help then that's not a man

[@marvelousolubunmi7806]

I learnt no 4 and no 5 In a hard way, it's cost me my relationship...I miss him actually.

[@Empress_powei]

Thanks always for coming through ❤

[@princessihuoma9192]

Thank you,I will do better

[@OluebubeWrites]

Thank you so much, ma'am. I'm glad i came across your channel.❤

[@ubaolachi1688]

About letting him lead and the example you gave, I prefer choosing what to eat especially when I have a choice. I actually didn't feel good about a man that always chose what food to buy whenever we went out to buy food.

[@taiwoadebunkunola4742]

I think i messed up. The first time we went out . I paid for everything even when he offered to pay . He never asked for a date again. It's been 5months now. Just text messages

[@ayanime_edem]

Oh oh, I'm sorry to hear that. But you should forgive yourself and move on. And that includes cutting off communication except you're looking for a pen-pal. Promise yourself you'll do better with the next man. 🤍

[@d.nicole4332]

the sound is tooo echoey.

[@idamroseline2051]

Oh I was like this too thinking I was assisting him not until a male friend told me to stop that men enjoy when they provide and get stuff for their women, the woman doing all this, he will feel you want to be in competition with him and make him feel less. God will do it best for everyone dear

[@stellasamuel5299]

@@idamroseline2051 Amen

[@selma77190]

I'm sorry!

[@ukohfidelia9819]

This video is amazing. Asking for help is a big deal

[@PeterGlory-kk4zq]

Firstly thanks for the teachings ☺ secondly, are you saying it's wrong to know or ask a man what you guys are doing, maybe after being with him for maybe 3wrks or a month?

[@MercyGyamfuaOkomeng]

😂😂thi is me oo.. I really need to learn how to take good care of my self 🙈

[@bestsofyoutube]

Yellow looks good on you

[@ayanime_edem]

Oh thank you...

[@Super_Judith]

Sure it does 😊

[@tomilolaolajide3890]

Thanks dearly for this ❤❤the tenth point really spoke to me to make myself scarce 😅

[@elechilyneth4599]

Well said 👍 most women allow their lives to revolve around their relationships

[@sandrandum]

Thank you so much for this piece.. I never wanted it to end 😅❤

[@ayanime_edem]

Glad you like it!

[@flairstyles]

LEARNING TO RECEIVE HELP RESONATE WITH ME🙈🙈

[@godsblessingamaefule5329]

I really really really enjoyed this video, especially number 9...thank you so much ma❤😊

[@ayanime_edem]

My pleasure 🤍

[@karingalma5639]

Love your video girl , very informative ❤

[@nutritionistakosuaschannel.]

My 2nd video with you and I like them both. Very poised, valuable with your demure self 😀…

[@cynthiauzoka2291]

Im. Working on hiw to ask and receive. This video is very helpful. Thank you ❤

[@ayanime_edem]

One step at a time beautiful… Don’t be too hard on yourself 🤍

[@stephanieelormmensah4179]

All the tips resonate so well

[@daphnejezurura1140]

I allowed my man/ ex to take the lead and that was the most mistake I have ever made because he made me believe that he was a man enough only to realise that he was just a lazy man who knows how to talk only to manipulate me. I am glad I left and in a better place now.

[@ayanime_edem]

I’m sorry that happened to you… Allowing a man take the lead doesn’t mean you should not be a part of the process, you should! And when you meet a wholesome masculine man, you’ll see the difference 🤍

[@butterflyempress7726]

Imagine if u took the lead n went further into the relationship not realizing who he is. That’s no mistake he just wasn’t the right one. ❤

[@promiseikeogu5750]

Thank you for these tips🙏

[@TheChesterCakes]

Thank you. Just subscribed. Means it hit❤

[@JoelMatandiko]

Thank you so much i learn so many things in this video

[@marisemaxwell]

The last point really stood out for me.

[@imeifon8873]

I love, love, love this video. So true darling

[@JenniferJoel-w2r]

Nice one ma’am!😘 I need to work on number 10 though, when my bf ask to see me I’d make sure I make myself available if not he’ll start to think otherwise like, maybe I wonna go be with another man, he’s so full of insecurities 😢 What should I do??

[@ElizabethIsabu]

I find it hard to ask cos 1. I feel I'll be looked down on 2. If he says know I'll feel too bad

[@adeyemiolabisi9088]

For the fourth tip, learning how to ask for help. Can the help be financial too, with that I mean, you are stranded and needed money for upkeep or something?

[@joybaby5307]

Thank you i so much enjoyed and learn alot

[@jackieferrarimusic]

I feel like every time I try to be more feminine it feels inauthentic or I feel like I’m not feminine enough and I end up doing it wrong or messing it up or getting too in my head about how feminine I have to be to attract a man. I’ve always been a sporty person, I’m an only child, and I love entrepreneurship and pursuing things on my heart. I prefer pants over dresses. I’ll wear them but I don’t always feel the most comfortable in them. Whenever I think of being more feminine, I think of pretending to be something I’m not. I feel like I am feminine sometimes, and I definitely want to be in a relationship. Suggestions for how to get out of your head if you feel like you aren’t feminine enough?

[@starlightltd]

My favorite lady Ayanime❤❤❤

[@ayanime_edem]

Now I’m blushing 🤍😊

[@didilbikiri7021]

I messed up in my last relationship and 1,2,4,5

[@nabwiremaureen29]

I love tip number 10.

[@talkswithesthertherapy]

This is eye opening. But how do we draw a thin line between asking for help and begging a man fur virtually everything? How do you strike the balance between being an independent woman who has that self respect and financial independence and trying to be a feminine energy woman who asks for help from a man and lets him help her? These things are conflicting and some of us haven't experienced these dimensions of feminine energy. Please help clarify this.😢😢😢😢 Thank you ❤

[@ejiroekpokpobe7623]

To think that i and my friend talked about feminity yesterday only for this to pop today.

[@awurabenakumi9506]

Thank u

[@anitabisong2383]

Awesome tips. Weldone!

[@tomilolaolajide3890]

Someone like me i feel nothing from man is free and I have always had the mindset of being an independent woman who do not want to depend on my man for anything believing that if he actually loves me he will give me whatever he thinks i deserve rather than serving has a burden to him

[@maryjaneokon7934]

How do you allow the man take the lead especially in a relationship? Do you discuss it with him or simply take the back seat and watch things unfold?

[@ayanime_edem]

No, simply begin to let of the need to control and allow him to take the lead. It can be little things like where to have dinner, what places to go to etc., Observe and see how he handles it

[@maryjaneokon7934]

@@ayanime_edem Alright. Thanks for your response. I appreciate it

[@TheRekhia]

And if he doesn't take the lead. You know who & what you are dealing with.

[@titant2694]

@@ayanime_edemI like how you take time to read comments , understand and reply . This feature is what most Nigerian KZbinrs don’t have . Well done .

[@florencengozi9919]

Wow I'm really guilty of this part of asking for help and receiving help I'm really trying hard to get over them

[@ayanime_edem]

You’ll get there… keep at it and forgive yourself when you make a mistake 🤍

[@cynthiauzoka2291]

Me too. I've been on the journey for a long time. I still struggle with it.

[@essienfavour2471]

Please i need help. List all these ten, How do i go about it in a distant relationship i feel is healthy for me?