10 Must Know Style Tips to Hide a Tummy *WITHOUT Shapewear* (Dressing Over 40/Over 50)

[@jozefbols4386]

I'm 63 now and just started to love myself when I was older, not when I was young. I'm still plus size but I do not care anymore, I now love to play with clothing and feeling good at it. I wish there was internet when I was younger, people like you who could learn me how to feel beter about myself. You rock and are loveable!!! Thanks for al your tips, Erin!! LOTS OF LOVE TO ALL!!! Pinkie (wife of Jozef)

[@hawleygirl]

I clicked for the tummy tricks and got a message I didn’t know I needed. Thanks so much for addressing the issue of feeling like not deserving love and how worth it I really am, despite what my childhood and family trauma made me feel. Thank you for letting us fellow women know how awesome we are. You’re amazing. Have a blessed day! ❤️

[@BusbeeStyle]

You are so welcome, Carla! This is why I decided to share such a personal story. I know I'm not alone. So glad this was helpful. xo

[@bteachout47]

Loved your video, thanks

[@kieraethan]

Just started this video, and regardless of the styling info to come, I am so grateful for Erin's transparency & courage. I was raised by a narcissistic mom & absent dad & have never felt (will never feel, at this point) worthy of love. Yet hearing from others is such an encouragement. Thank you!

[@ItsBetterOnU]

The first 2.5 minutes fo your video were the most valuable to me. Even when you know it, sometimes you need to hear it.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, That's so sweet. xo

[@lisathurlow3178]

I am realizing that at the age of 55 and I have no idea how old you are nor my asking that we all have to build our self-worth especially when you hit menopause which has been videoed a lot on KZbin. Please let me know how I can contact you simply maybe just interject some thoughts and thank you for your wisdom I don’t know really how to build a KZbin channel and from the generation that probably didn’t do this initially but I certainly am on the social networks all the time thank you Erin

[@AnnaRios89]

I really needed to hear this ❤️ Thank you

[@TheFvtampa]

I am with you. My dad was not around and I find that when guys started getting what I think is clingy I get claustrophobic. Love means distance and sparse meaningful contact. It is what my dad gave. It is all I deserve. Sad. I know.

[@feymreichmanostenrn8751]

Completely agree with all uou and she said. It's a powerful mechanism to hear someone else say it - you do fully realize that there is so much similar pain 'out there' - a great motivator to be more tolerant and compassionate to those around us and to strangers.

[@blueyucca011]

I just about cried when watching the first part of your video! I thought there was something wrong with me when I started to gain weight when I was about 42. I gained the weight right where you showed. Thanks for your story and helping me getting back to loving my body again (or maybe the way I should have in the first place).

[@BusbeeStyle]

You are so welcome, Christine! You are certainly not alone! xo

[@adrienneroxanne9833]

I'm 44 and here now. ☹️

[@Empress77_7]

I was very heavy around my adolescence and struggled alot buying clothes. It was very depressing in tears all the time in dressing rooms with my mom. My father was body shamed when he was going through puberty he was a little heavy as well. He did it to me as well. I continue to struggle yo-yo with my weight never happy with my shape. Now going through menopause after a histerectomy 🤦struggling with a fupa!!

[@cestmarrant1]

I've only watched up to 1:57, and I just want to thank you for your honesty. I think so many of us can relate, and it helps me feel a bit less alone.

[@cSsm65]

Yes!!!

[@debbieparthe9934]

I wish u showed longer tops.....my weight is in my lower tummy! I spend too much time thinking about it.

[@raganaregnbue6838]

This was the first video from any fashion KZbinr I ever saw that acknowledges that there are different kinds of tummies and that that makes a difference. Thanks for that! Perhaps you could do a video like the one you did with your friend but with someone who actually has a tummy. I didn't think this gorgeous lady had anything to hide.

[@BusbeeStyle]

You're so welcome, Ragana! xo

[@FourJaysFour]

Busbee Style Kelly was a different size & body shape which is super helpful. Erin, is it possible to have models occasionally?

[@mariayuan]

@@BusbeeStyle what size are you in the Amanda Uprichard top? I’m trying to figure out what size to buy online!

[@Katrn30]

I am plus sized and have used your tips to make me look better...thank you! The front tuck, not wearing loud prints, etc all helped me look my best, and I would not have known what to do if not for your videos. Now I am excited to shop my own closet! Btw I am 62.

[@BusbeeStyle]

That's amazing, Kat! Thank you so much for sharing! xo

[@leewilliams3834]

Thank you, for your honesty it helps heal others. Like me,,,🌹💕 68 and a half years of age.🌹

[@melanieknight8179]

It would be a lot more realistic if you actually used a model who had a tummy or pooch. Anything looks good on someone whose slim...

[@jenburns6265]

I was thinking the same thing.

[@haileydaisy76]

I love you videos but I agree that you are actually very slim and have a beautiful shape. Perhaps some of your examples would be even better, for those of us who are larger on women, on models who are larger. Thanks so much for your videos. You personal stories and tips help me as a woman. God bless!

[@deborahlewis5964]

Plus someone that has a bigger/ large bust…

[@carolinesmith7390]

And what if you have gigantic breasts with menopause? The last thing you need is a top that is fitting just under your bust.

[@jenniewinchester8792]

Enjoy your videos. But I think using a heavier model is a great idea. We can't tell how it'd be on a thin woman. I'm short and fat. So I can't imagine these on me. But I get what you're saying.

[@marymary4093]

That therapy has certainly paid off. I just loved watching you share part of your story with grace & eloquence. I particularly enjoyed seeing you be able to allow a few tears without the urge to hide or apologize or drawing attention to it either. To just let tears/sadness be there without apology or self-comment is powerful. You really own it, comfortable with your emotions, it's lovely to see.

[@BusbeeStyle]

You are so sweet Mary! xo

[@junekeating7431]

I became invisible, even to myself. I knew these tips when I was younger but lost them over time. Thank you so much for your gentle way of helping me find my way back. x

[@BusbeeStyle]

You're so welcome, June! Glad it was helpful! xo

[@elizabethmccombs9311]

I'm 44 and cant believe all the body changes. It is so hard! I feel so bad about myself & I'm so glad to hear your message. I needed you right now😘

[@carolinesmith7390]

I needed her right now too❤️

[@adrienneroxanne9833]

Same ☹️

[@tammyyoung2640]

I needed this so much. I hit 50 last Sept. and have always been very small but 50 has been an eye opener that weight gain is REAL. Please continue this series. Your great and I appreciate the time you put into these videos. Take care

[@BusbeeStyle]

I'm so glad this was helpful, Tammy! Thank you! xo

[@Lashlove16]

Thank you for sharing your personal issues . I too suffer as I was abused verbally by a parent as a child and into adulthood. Unfortunately ppl don’t understand that we all suffer from our childhood issues severely . It’s not easy , May God help us all get through the pain

[@BusbeeStyle]

I'm so sorry to hear that, but you are right...it affects us long after that abuse stops. Thank you for sharing! xo

[@kelligray1848]

I’m with you dear

[@Jacqueline_R]

Thank you so much!! This belly fat is frustrating! I'm 54 and going through menopause. The struggle is real

[@mothermayi7832]

I am hearing you and as a 68 year old , I have given up trying to lose weight and I enjoy life. I have dieted all my life and now I just eat when I am hungry . I try to just eat cooked veggies instead of meat all the time and that helps. I am going to try to excessive ,but it is hard at my age. .

[@mothermayi7832]

I meant exercise not excessive

[@eachandeverything9068]

🙋🏼‍♀️ I’m w/ya! I’ve gained SO MUCH weight over the last 2 years w/all the hormonal, menopausal crap! I’ve always had a big mouth and ass 😂 but I’ve never had this gut issue I have now. I’m so disgusted w/myself …… I just don’t have the energy, confidence (which I always had both) now. I want to look and feel better but always end up depressed and crying! YES THE STRUGGLE IS WAY REAL …… I’m 54 as well!

[@lovealways2158]

You're a beautiful person! It was so sweet of you to not only address the sad comment but the way you spoke about it, with such understanding and relatability made my heart happy and cry a little. The way we feel about parts of our body is not just vanity, it has a lot to do with our experiences.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you so much! Our experiences shape so much about who we are and how we look at ourselves and the world. xo

[@curlgirl4265]

My waist was one of my best features until menopause hit. I was like "what happened?!" Just not fair. These tips are priceless. Thank you!

[@BusbeeStyle]

I'm so glad this was helpful! xo

[@leslieperry4006]

Curl Girl , the same thing happened to me. It sucks, but I know it could be worse...

[@alisonnevil7141]

I was always the thin one... until the last year. I don't know this body now. Not liking 60 too much - except mentally, I'm in the best place.

[@33lorie]

Erin, I just love you! You were in my dream last night advising me on how to make a great coffee & decorate my house! 😂 Then I open up my laptop & there you are speaking right to my heart. I am going to be 50 in a couple of months and am still battling my weight & my mindset about my body daily. Your words are always so thoughtful & inspiring. I think you have created a space here for women to lift each other up and for that I am truly thankful. I also wanted to mention that I found inspiration in a woman named Joan Macdonald. She is a 73 year old body builder. Her story is very inspiring & she has a KZbin channel and an instagram page. ❤️

[@maria319]

Alright, I just paused the video right before you start your actual styling tips... I'm 27 and I'm religiously watching you for the last 2 years, Erin you are so professional in this channel, omg! The journalist experience you have definitely shows and I think you have created a very good team 😊 you are always getting better in my opinion, but I wanted to tell you that you approach style with both a perfect professional way (the outfit examples are great!) but you also seem so real, you touch us with a very emotional way 💕 you show us your thoughts, fears.. when you are in some cases tearing up it really touches me! I wish you the best, please continue being here for us and I hope I'll look and dress like you in my 40s. Ps: congrats for losing those pounds, I'm really happy for you! You re so strong and stubborn (in a good way). Greetings from Greece

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you so much, Mary! I appreciate you sharing this with me! xo

[@aeiou5757]

Dear Erin, you are such a brave woman. I wish I have the guts to share privacy as you have done. After those first ten minutes of your video I have to tell you that you are an example for many women. Much LOVE to you from us.💖

[@BusbeeStyle]

You are SO sweet, Estela! Thank you! xo

[@jojobtrcook1808]

I heard you talking to many “me” women. Yes, I am almost 68 & somewhat overweight. I also came from a similar background. So there are more of us hanging around. Everything you advised and said was spot on. At my age, I am trying to not look frumpy. I don’t want to look young, but more current. These tips are wonderful. Thank you. I am also starting back to sewing my own clothes and am choosing styles of fabric and patterns (online) so that I can have even more control of my style. I have so many vlogs of excellent sewers that I follow, so if I run into a problem, they are right there to help me. You are so right- if you look frumpy, you will feel frumpy. Alternatively, as you said, if you look better you will feel better. And, accept your bodytype and love yourself! ❤️

[@bonitajordan6825]

I’m 70 but feel 20. I stripped my wardrobe of frumpy, unflattering clothes based on your recommendations. There’s not much left!

[@MizLaFrance]

Bonita Jordan you go girl! 💕

[@guinevereshort3811]

Love this.

[@grayced3761]

Good for you👍

[@wyominghome4857]

@@MizLaFrance Go for it, Girl!

[@bluemoon472]

Yup! If it makes me feel bad in any way, it’s gone. I’d rather wear the same things I love than 1 thing that brings me down.

[@TravelPhotoWriter]

I haven't even gotten to the tops - paused to say your SHARING that it's about more than tops - the impact of your own past - THAT'S GOOD STUFF. I am sure some women will view this and pause, and wonder about their own negative feelings toward themselves... And you created a bit of possible freedom from bad feelings... While helping us to look better thus feel better. 🥰

[@BusbeeStyle]

You are so sweet...thank you! xo

[@maryokeefe5351]

@@BusbeeStyle I had a similar father and know how that hurt really sticks. Thank you for being so open. You have obviously done some great work on yourself. Hugs from Canada.

[@cupcakepaper9411]

The more you share, the more I love you! Many abandon kids think ghee if my own father didn’t love me and left, why would anyone else? Knowing it, you can change it! Love it!!!

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! So true! xo

[@cassieblack1776]

I’m recovering from an eating disorder . An I’m “ normal weight “ but it’s been a struggle to get dressed I feel gross ! This simple video really motivated me to feel better about myself!

[@leotard673]

i can feel your love kindness and honesty which is rare in our times.. if you had not survive and learnt those hardships in your life ... you would not be able to be as beautiful as you are and still reach people that are hurting

[@BusbeeStyle]

That is so sweet of you to say! ~Team Busbee

[@sonyasylvester100]

Thankyou for talking about about the power of feeling that we DESERVE TO LOOK GOOD...there is such truth in that..💕such a struggle for many Erin

[@BusbeeStyle]

You're so welcome, Sonya! xo

[@allythewriter]

Wow, wow, wow! This resonates with me so much, as I’m laying in bed watching this, not wanting to get up. Whew, the tears are falling. Been through therapy also. Not a good childhood and then abused 17 years by my ex-husband, who used to call me names like, “Cow,” etc. I’ve always had low self-esteem. I needed this video today, thank you!❤️❤️❤️

[@palomapolemica7019]

💖💗💓

[@jettsetgirl]

Alisa first off you are BEAUTIFUL! I relate to the bad childhood, one day my friend said to me YOU are that little girl that was hurt ( I was feeling angry & resentful ) She said you are still hurting her by not taking care of her TODAY 😔. ..you deserve to be loved to feel safe and nurtured 🙏 and sometimes it starts with doing all those things for yourself

[@BusbeeStyle]

I'm so sorry that you have been through all of this. I can relate in so many ways! xo

[@allythewriter]

Jettsetgirl Thank you so much for your kind words, I really appreciate it! You’re right, I need to take care of that girl/woman right now.💗💗💗

[@allythewriter]

Busbee Style Thank you so much, and thank you for sharing all of your wonderful videos, they really brighten my day!💕

[@yogagirlification]

Thank you for being brave and vulnerable. Your sharing will allow others to thrive

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you so much! xo

[@amberzable5608]

Erin I’ve been watching you for years and just wanna tell you I love how your channel has evolved and love how much you share of yourself. Thank you for the work you do.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you so much, Amber! That means so much to me! xo

[@ElizabethScottStress]

Erin, I'm not even to the clothes yet, but what you have to say has already put tears in my eyes! I've really loved your videos (you're one of my top 3 favorite KZbinrs), but sharing this from the heart is a real gift. And I think you make a good point that many of us need to hear--everything looks better when you feel love for the body you're in RIGHT NOW, even if you're working on getting in better shape. This advice goes beyond fashion and even beyond our bodies (and into the realm of true self-acceptance), and is SO nice to hear when I wasn't expecting it. Also, the biology info helps to know! I'm glad you're doing what you're doing!

[@karathomas5746]

Erin! I wasn’t expecting to cry watching this video! You are so lovely and inspiring! Thank-you or sharing your personal story and your talents with us.

[@BusbeeStyle]

You are so sweet, Kara! Thank you! xo

[@Jfly50]

Your outlook is so uplifting. Thank you for being vulnerable in sharing a bit of your journey to wholeness.

[@BusbeeStyle]

You are so welcome, Janice! Thank you! xo

[@kham7571]

Thank you Erin. You did a great job. I am also 5'4", with a belly. Its soooo hard to be short! You gave me tips to use. I think I am also a rectangle. Now that I am post menopause, it is kind of a struggle. No one would call me "fat", but I remember my younger shape. At age 55, it has changed. I eat well and exercise, but again, I am thankful to be here and in good health. We are our own worse critics. You are also very thoughtful on how you address having a belly. I imagine one wrong word, and you are attacked for body shaming.

[@thefairyqueen369]

What a breath of fresh air you are....you are more beautiful by telling your truth...women have carried these negative views for so long.....and then menopause arrives and at 56 it has been with me for 6 years and it is very tricky! Thank you for helping us....I love your vibe and your content....I have subscribed!

[@BusbeeStyle]

You are SO sweet! Thank you, Marisa! Welcome! I do have a menopause playlist that you may find helpful. I'll link it here for you: kzbin.info/aero/PL6xMaBj8Zyg-e1nCUMJP2jAm6V53kmn2q

[@ayeshakale6637]

Erin it's really nice of u to be honest about ur feelings. N best part is u have overcome ur past n moved on. It makes a person stronger mentally. It's really brave of u to speak so much about ur life.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Ayesha! xo

[@karenallen7656]

Hi Erin, This is the first time I have watched your video - I was just so moved by how honest and genuine you are, it really shines through. Your advice and tips are great too! Thank you 😊

[@joannewong4688]

Greetings from HK. Thank you for your open sharing. It is not just a "fashion" video. This video gives all the audience more than we expected...... very encouraging. Thank you Erin. God bless.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you so much, Joanne! That is so sweet of you! xo

[@12Sanguine]

Like Erin, I am slim (nearly underweight), I exercise, eat nutritious foods, am still young, etc. But the lower tummy has always been a thing. My mother and sister share the same shape, it's just how we are built. These tips are extremely helpful, and the relatable intro was very important too. Thank you.

[@valeriewilliams9335]

Love your transparency about your Dad and how you feel about yourself. Grabbed my attention even before learning to hide my tummy!

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Valerie! xo

[@rosanever]

I just found your blog and channel two days ago and I feel SO lucky and happy! I'm turning 48 next month and already be in menopause, also. I've seen all the changes in my body (in the tummy area) and I can surely say that you. are a wonderful person and a great help for answering all of my possible questions. I love your channel and I wish you all the best! ❤️

[@cindy133]

That's why I love your channel dear. You are REAL! You have come a long way and you are successful, beautiful and kind. Hugs to you and keep those great videos coming! Cindy from Virginia!

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you so much, Cindy! xo

[@heatherwillis8930]

You're such a beautiful human inside and out, truly Erin. I'm LOVING the look of the puff sleeve but being 6' and broad shouldered I look like a linebacker. The deeper neck is definitely something I can pull off. Thank you SO much for ALL you have done for us for SO many years!!

[@BusbeeStyle]

You're so welcome, Heather! xo

[@nii_yuhh]

I'm in my late teens and Erin's channel is my recent new fav!! I feel like an early bird because so many of her videos are going to be helping me so much when I grow up. I especially love the video on tips on travel backpacking 😋♥️

[@BusbeeStyle]

I love that! I'm so glad that even at your age you are able to use my tips. xo

[@rpadilla72]

In 2 minutes you’ve explained more to me about my issues than my GP! I’ve cried to him so many times about the changes of my body and instead of explaining things he pushes medications for EVERYTHING! Thank you so much 🙏🏽.

[@BusbeeStyle]

I’m so glad this was so helpful for you, Rachel! xo

[@lioness7582]

I first heard that saying in highschool speech class,' If you look good you feel good' has carried me all these years but 64 is hard, having a hard time feeling good lately, I'm so glad I found your videos Erin!

[@BusbeeStyle]

Love that! Glad this was helpful, Sherri! ~Team Busbee

[@lynettelaroche8868]

Omg this video is right up my alley...so I’ve been thin my whole life, I’m now 43 & have a lot of health issues, I had surgery 4 years ago and literally gained 40 pounds! Most of the weight went right to my belly & I’m so self conscious about it all the time. I can’t wear jeans anymore because I look horrible so I mainly wear leggings with oversized shirts. Your videos give me a lot of great ideas & your such a lovely person. Thanks for the help! I am now a subscriber!😉💕

[@kellk6160]

Ditto, almost exactly

[@miyeko79]

I have a very similar situation. Had a nice healthy figure up until my mid 30's. Then BAM...I gained 50lbs just like that! I don't even eat a lot of unhealthy foods. No one believed me which sucked, but now I HATE MY BODY. I'm with you girl and wish you the best❤️

[@alimakingmyway3006]

Went into this looking to hide my future mummy tummy when my baby gets here in October but came out with an emotional connection 😢 I think everyone has their own struggles and every little bit of understanding helps. Thank you for both forms of content.

[@mermaidx9386]

Hope you and your baby are doing okay! 💕

[@laurat6057]

Erin...thank you for sharing your journey with us. You are helping countless women by opening up about your struggles . hugs

[@BusbeeStyle]

You are so welcome, Laura! I'm just glad it is helpful! xo

[@cf6468]

I just came across this video and thought you were speaking directly to me! Go to Dr. in 2 days for HRT. I am so excited. Been dealing with terrible hot flashes and weight gain for 4 years. Finally someone listened to me and referred me. You hit the nail on the head on how I am feeling! Thank you! And love your tips!

[@BusbeeStyle]

I'm SO glad you are being heard! Good luck with your appointment and I hope that you find a therapy that will make you feel more like you! You got this! xo

[@ceceliawhite9257]

@Busbee Style I have just recently found your videos and I am so glad I did. I am 59 years ol d, but feel and look younger. My best friends are all 10 years younger so they keep me feeling young. Finding your videos has been a god send. I now feel better about my clothing choices, and have made some modifications. I feel more confident in what I wear, because I am now thinking I don't have to give up fashion just because I am going to be 60. You are a breath of fresh air and I thank you.

[@BusbeeStyle]

You are so welcome, Cecelia! I really believe that if you look good...you feel good! xo

[@amarz7452]

I’ve always loved your channel because you are so relatable, but now I love it even more! Thank you for sharing the difficulties in your life & the importance of moving forward in a positive way!😊

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you so much! xo

[@estherwalton6418]

Thankyou for sharing your style tips and personal struggles.🥰

[@tinalulumack378]

May I say how much I appreciate you! Your candor kindness and care helps more than you will ever know. You help so many of us with so much more than our style challenges! But make no mistake I love your style Erin!💞💕💞💞💕 You truly inspire me!

[@karengervais7093]

Erin, really appreciate your transparency and relatability on issues lots of women (including myself) struggle with. I’m glad I stumbled on your channel, I could use some tips on updating my wardrobe.

[@katmc5799]

I'm 55 and your advice is spot on. Discovered some tips you presented by trial and error. After watching you and a few other style icons( yes you're an icon!) I never buy anything anymore that does not flatter my body. Thank you .

[@BusbeeStyle]

You're so welcome! xo

[@brendaloyd907]

That you for the encouraging words. We need them. It’s so true when we have our closet with items that fit and we learn ways to help us feel better ~look better ~ our best, it helps our confidence. When our closet just has pieces it doesn’t have the tools to help us be our best.

[@nancyharris9909]

Erin, thanks for sharing these great styling suggestions. I also appreciate that you address the changes that can occur during perimenopause and menopause. I'm starting to see some of these changes and I'm really trying to be kind to myself! I am also taking action by working with a naturopathic doctor that specializes in hormones + nutrition and working out. Thanks again!!

[@cherizeaustin0816]

I saw Kelly video I liked it ,that’s my body with big boned boobsbutandbelly any dressing hints are always enjoyed !

[@srhsings]

Thank you for your vulnerability and for the inspiration you provide. We've all got battles to fight, and it's good to know we're not alone and that we can fight looking good in our clothes no matter our size 💜

[@veramats]

Thank you for sharing your personal experience. It helps a lot. I’m going through perimenopause now and am about 25 lbs heavier. I’ve definitely had a lot of moments of just wanting to give up.

[@jakkistaatmcdonald4555]

I exploded with large boobs post menopause. I hate it. I've never had that issue before. The styles that are hood for tummy cover emphasize my boobs. I hate it@ tips please??

[@carmenlopez4054]

I have been enjoying your videos for about a year or a year and a half. I've learned so much from you! But today I just heard your personal story. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing with us. You always look so perfect that I wouldn't have known you've been through something like most of us. I pray you have a beautiful day and keep up with your healing journey. Thank you again for all you do for women through your channel!!! Blessings!!!

[@BusbeeStyle]

You are SO sweet, Carmen! Thank you for your kind words! xo

[@physiotherapistpaulina9340]

Erin, you are such an authentic person. You never cease to impress me with how willing you are to share with thousands of strangers your most difficult personal struggles. What you do by sharing with this with us, is make us feel like we are "ok", and you help to unite women from all over the map and socioeconomic places............. you are a treasure on KZbin. I too have been through so many difficult things and I am now 48 and it doesn't seem to get easier until you hear someone like you share information that can be very tough to discuss, physical and emotional................ Thanks for being open and honest, and most of all generous about so many things............... blessings to you.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you so much, Paulina! xo

[@cheried9390]

Great tips! I’m going through menopause now(I’m 53) and never had a tummy problem before and feel so frustrated. I’m petite so it really shows. Thanks for helping. 👍😊

[@BusbeeStyle]

I can relate, Cherie! I'm so glad that this was helpful! xo

[@pamelaandpabloortiz6250]

Spectacular! That’s what you are Erin , just SPECTACULAR! I can’t express how appreciative I am for not only your next level fashion advice but even more importantly the thoughtful , kind and understanding way you deliver this advice and guidance . Thank you from the bottom of my heart ! 👏👏❤️Pam

[@BusbeeStyle]

Wow, thank you, Pamela! That's so sweet! xo

[@annlatham]

Yes! So true. Makeup gives me confidence! Fashion is just a plus! Love this video. We all have a story and cannot let things get to us and drag us down. We deserve better! LOVED this video ! Yesterday I wore a long sleeve button up with my boyfriend jeans and red pumps. 💋🤍💙

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Ann! xo

[@milliemathison5744]

You hit the nail on the head in the first few minutes.very few have had the so called “Perfect Life” a lot of Instagram is portrayed as a perfect life, perfect looks, perfect figure bla bla bla even when it’s not. We are SO HARD in ourselves, set impossible standards, and don’t see the good and the true beauty in ourselves! Thank you for all you share and your advice. PS - love the looks on your face, and your body language in the “What not to do” side. Always gives me a chuckle

[@andreasalas3759]

Hi I wanted to thank you for being open and honest, I appreciate it. I have been abused by 90% of the people in my life from family to strangers. I noticed that when I gained weight or didn't wear make up they still treated me bad even though I let myself go thinking that they might not envy me or compar me to them. Even after loosing 1/3 of my hair after covid and having 8 surgeries for abdominal issues they still treat me the same . So I decided I want to be unapologetically me and be happy for the way God has made me no matter how others treat me.

[@BusbeeStyle]

I'm SO sorry, Andrea! That is all you can do, be unapologetically YOU! Have you seen this week's video yet? I think you may find it helpful and/or interesting. Here is the link: kzbin.info/www/bejne/h4Wmmatrn8uBj9U I talk a lot about my own personal trauma and how I have began to heal. Sending you a big hug! You got this! xo

[@LorraineinPNW]

Oh, Erin...thanks so much for this video! These tips are extremely helpful! Due to extreme stress, menopause, laziness, and chronic pain, I "let myself go". Well, at 55, that's a really bad thing to do medically. I now have a cardio issue and am borderline diabetic (both are genetic). So, I've started planning my daily food intake and exercising daily. Within a week, I've put on clothes that I have not fit in for 2 years. I'm not focusing on my weight number, but rather how I FEEL (energetic and healthy). I spent a bit a $ on cute and comfy athletic wear to amp the fun factor :-) Thanks again and bless you!

[@BusbeeStyle]

Starting is the hardest part, Lorraine. I love that you are focussed on how you feel and not necessarily the number. Such a good mindset. xo

[@patlee8925]

Lorraine - good for you; keep going ...you can do it and you’re worth every minute & penny you invest in yourself!

[@FourJaysFour]

Way to go!!! I'm right there with you!

[@matthewcollins4599]

Well you don't look that bad for your age Lorraine your husband is a lucky man 😉

[@monicaturner3365]

you just explained "me" to a "t" ..Thank You for sharing , I don't feel so alone now.

[@AnnAndNala]

Thank you SO much for this! This totally resonated with me. I had an extremely tough last five years (I escaped an extremely abusive relationship). I am starting the second half of my life now in my early 50's, and also gained some weight around the middle during a very difficult time. I've never had issues with it until this last year, but am getting healthy again. Thank you for these great style tips! :)

[@BusbeeStyle]

So glad this was helpful, and so happy that you are in a better place now. xo

[@mtanyaw]

Omg your personal story at the beginning hit me hard as it’s my story too, but I’d never thought about it in the way you explained - abandonment = don’t feel you can’t be loved 💡😮

[@BusbeeStyle]

I'm sorry that you can relate. It has taken me a long time for me to get to this place, but I thought it was important to share. xo

[@patsysnell1496]

What an awesome video. Thank you so very much. Three years ago I had surgery on my right shoulder (I'm an ultrasound technologist) & hasn't been the same since then and I can no longer do ultrasounds. I'm 52 and over the last 3 years I have gained around 15 pounds & when I look in the mirror I'm just discussed with the way I look. Your videos are very inspiring & plan to watch your menopause videos for any tips & tricks I can get out of them. Take care💝🌻

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! I'm so glad that you found this helpful, Patsy! Just take it one step at a time! xo

[@cathleens.5468]

I just came across this video and want to say thank you for all you shared!! So validating and informative!. I'm 67, felt many of the things you described and also suspected childhood events. Three days ago I reached out to begin working with a therapist so your message is empowering and still timely! Your talk about visceral fat was also timely. Due to breast cancer treatment in 2020 I'm taking an estrogen blocker. I assumed that it contributed to my weight redistribution and now I get why there's this thickness around the back of my waist and why my pants no longer fit the same. Thanks for what you do 🙏

[@BusbeeStyle]

Cathleen, I am wishing you the very best on this journey...It's tough to deal with past traumas, but I can tell you are SO strong just from this comment. I'm so glad that you're finding my videos helpful in this time! Thank you for sharing a little bit of your own story with me! xo

[@renelittle913]

You're so beautiful Erin, inside and outside!! I look forward to your Wednesday and Sunday videos! Keep 'em coming and know you are helping me and others get a break from today's sad news. Much love from this Kentucky girl! 👏👏👏💕

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Rene! I look forward to reading all the comments on Wednesdays and Sundays! xo

[@suejones9004]

Wish you could have used a model that had a pooch or any kind of belly. A flat stomach will look flat in any style. I USE to have one. 🤪🤣😬😭

[@mitchrc3]

You still have pretty eyes and a little food baby is adorable. : )

[@janschildkamp3779]

Sue Jones exactly

[@janschildkamp3779]

Yeah... She is perfect.

[@tara5742]

I hear you guys. But can you imagine being the friends she asks to come be her model on how to hide a tummy? Unless she had someone that openly talks about it or complains about having a tummy, that would be awful.

[@isaacdogkeith9230]

Totally agree! ..." Oh, here's how I hide my size 6 discomfort" but i love her.

[@o3434-p5m]

This pink shade is one of the best ever! You look luminous and your eye color look very bright and shiney. Don't discard beause you look amazing on you! Anyways, I love my love handles. lol

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! xo

[@lisamitchell7997]

Wow!! You hit the nail on the head regarding weight gain and menopause. I have never had a weight problem until menopause...I've gained over 40lbs, my whole structure of my body has changed, joint pain...etc. i have read everything regarding menopause and how to loose the weight and its depressing because menopause weight is the hardest weight to get off. So thank you for doing this video. I have enjoyed it very much.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thanks for sharing, Lisa! I'm so glad that you found this video helpful. That's why I do them. xo

[@kims.7110]

This is the most honest video I have watched in a long time. This is so important. You are brave to share and I want to thank you!

[@BusbeeStyle]

So glad you found this one helpful, Kim! ~Team Busbee

[@sonianunez2916]

Beautiful Erin, you’re such an inspiration to all of us! Your videos are full of positive energy, love, care, and soooo much more, Thank you so much! Blessings to you and your family! ❤️❤️❤️XOXO

[@Catherine3385]

Good video, great tips Took me a few years to get on the high waist jean kick and now love it. I have a bousy blouse that is so pretty but it overwhelms me. I was going to donate it, but now I'll try the short jacket idea in the fall. The beautiful print will still be seen, but less combersome Thanks

[@BusbeeStyle]

You're so welcome, Catherine! If you love it, try it with a jacket before getting rid of it! xo

[@skhaertling]

Erin, you are so genuine, caring, and talented...I can’t even!

[@BusbeeStyle]

You are so sweet...thank you! xo

[@AsianPoshDorene]

Agreed. You can’t fake it.

[@rachaelrobertson5698]

Thank you for this video! I always try helping my mom find things to make her feel confident in her clothes. She avoids shopping for years at a time and I see it on her face that she’s upset when she tries things on. I’m trying to get her to watch this video today and go shopping even to just try these on. I have this problem postpartum so I’m taking notes too! Thank you for being a supportive outlet for so many ❤️

[@wendyglennon4149]

Thank you so much Erin. I just subscribed and am finding so many of your videos helpful. I am almost 61 and have been in menopause for 10 years. I am not able to take HRT because I had a "heart event" several years back and my doctors do not think it is safe for me. Just hearing the options of how to look better in my clothes is very inspiring and I appreciate your caring attitude to us menopausal women. Thank you.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Welcome! I'm SO glad you're enjoying my videos, Wendy! Thanks for your comment. xo

[@rosiepetals8488]

I was also abandoned by my father and I also feel like I don’t deserve to be loved. I have a difficult time taking care of my own personal needs because I don’t feel worthy of loving my own self. I’m working on myself emotionally and I’m 43 years old it took me this long to figure it out that I needed to take care of myself. Thank you for opening up about your personal life 💖

[@chicalertng]

Rosie Petals 🤗🤗🤗💕

[@rosiepetals8488]

Caroline Awaritefe Thank You 🤗🤗🤗

[@Christie-gp2cy]

Hi Erin! I am a new subscriber and love your fashion advice. Bless your heart for sharing your personal story. You touched my heart, as my own daughter (also Erin) shares many similarities with you, appearance, body type,personality, and sadly was also abandoned by her father. Goodbye sadness. On a happier note,, your advice is great, look forward to your videos! Thank you for sharing :)

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you so much, Christie! I'm so glad that you found my channel. Wishing you and your daughter all of the best...You deserve it! xo

[@bridkelleher53]

Your sincerity about showing how clothes are a tool for making one feel good rather than the hauls that promote spending without thought for their purpose in improving self-esteem is so admirable. It's such a pity that influencers like you are in the minority.Keep up the outstanding work you're doing.xx

[@charlottejglaze]

I didn’t expect a heart felt video when I clicked on this and I really enjoyed what you said at the start. Thank you for being real and helpful too.

[@beverlyramsahai8503]

You’re such a darling. Hormones or a lack of it can affect your life your emotions and our body image. It’s a struggle but I’m enjoying your attitude towards it and I’m learning a lot and taking notes. Love yr videos

[@BusbeeStyle]

You're so right, Beverly! Thank you! xo

[@r.i.t.i.k.a]

You don't look like someone who has had menopause. Your eyes, your hair.. they are so bright and shiny. And your skin is so gorgeous 😍 PS: I'm new to your channel 😅

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Ritika! Welcome! Happy to have you here. I have done several videos on the topic and even discussed what I do for my skin and hair. Here is a link to some of them: kzbin.info/www/bejne/i52TnXyljN-kgLs , kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z3yWdIaOpauqpac , and kzbin.info/www/bejne/qqrWdmanqKigrK8

[@r.i.t.i.k.a]

@@BusbeeStyle thank you ❤️

[@pralc8703]

Yes! I’m turning 46 in a few months and have been battling the bulge in my gut for the past 3 years. I finally have a doctor that understands this and put me back on hormones to help with the weight gain and all the other annoying side effects of lower estrogen levels. What a difference after only a month. Hang in there, ladies! Pester your doctors. Peri menopause isn’t for wimps!

[@marthaduncan7694]

I just subbed based solely on the first 4 minutes of honest speak. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

[@maggieramirez1284]

I just ran into this video, I love what you said. Love what you're doing to help ladies who feel uncomfortable or unhappy about themselves.

[@ddwm_mua]

For you and anyone who needs to see it: You deserve to be loved and to love. 100%. I recently gained weight. Now that I'm older, I learned how to get comfortable in my own skin. Which is great, considering I had anorexia. I'm starting to get my weight back down but I have different fashion rules for when I'm bigger. Thank you for sharing your own experiences and these very useful tips. Love it! Most importantly, we must practice more self-acceptance.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Than you SO much for your kind words! xo

[@ddwm_mua]

@@BusbeeStyle I'm so glad I came across your post!!

[@shailyy3202]

Hey Erin hw r u doing? The tips you shared are really helpful. It would be a great help if you could invite someone who has more of belly fat n then incorporate these tips to help her. Thnx🤓 Be Blessed Be Happy Everyone 😘🤗

[@debbiegibson3604]

Just remember that everyone who writes a comment loves you! You help so many of us feel better about ourselves and look better. Thank you.

[@BusbeeStyle]

You are so sweet, Debbie...Thank you! xo

[@dawson1ize]

Love these jeans!

[@maureenfloralpark9510]

Yes!

[@ruthstockman11]

AGREE!!!!! ENOUGH rambling!!!!!!!

[@andreaevola184]

is this the debbie gibson? im sorry i f you are not the song writer singing star of 80s? if u are I am your biggest fan!!!!!! born in 68......loved you!!!

[@esgwat]

Thank you for this video! I'm heading straight to my closet to get rid of several boxy blouses, haha!

[@BusbeeStyle]

You're so welcome, Elizabeth! I'm so glad it was helpful! xo

[@tamicoates1195]

I just found your channel and fell in love with you and your videos! I’m 61 yrs old and was always little 105-110 lbs until 5 years ago. I’ve gained 55 lbs and have a sugar addiction that is outrageous. It’s been so hard to diet or quit eating so much sugar and carbs but your videos are helping me learn how to dress for my current body type while I struggle to diet. Thank you for helping me!

[@BusbeeStyle]

I'm so glad this video resonates with you, Tami! Thanks for watching! xo

[@rhondaglatting8890]

Everything you said is so true. Some days I don’t even want to get up and shower and dress. I do feel fat, depressed and unfashionable. Thanks for the pep talk. Love your videos.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Anytime...it is not always easy, but sometimes when we love how we look it can boost our mood. xo

[@mc23243]

I’m 25 and I have had tummy all my life (while being slim) even when I’m really skinny. High rise jeans/skirts are a big help. And having a little tummy is not the end pf the word

[@BusbeeStyle]

I hope these tips were helpful! xo

[@katherinea.williams3044]

Me too! I’m slim, I’m not wide, but am flabby in certain places. Unfortunately, not much can be done re: my tummy. I take Subxone as treatment for an Oxy addiction I developed in college. I haven’t gone to the bathroom for about 2 weeks- and that’s actually good. I can go a month w/o going. Thank you for these great tips! I see you wearing jeans- it’s IMPOSSIBLE to wear nothing but a tank top and shorts where I live. Is there any way you can please do a video for the same topic, but for those who live in the absolutely oppressive heat in Miami (and other places that it’s 95 degrees and almost 100% humidity)? I, for one, would greatly appreciate it! *Confession* - I shed a big fat tear at the beginning of the video re: how brave you are to share about your circumstances on your father. You are loved! But I’m pleased to see that it seems you have dealt with it. Love & Light from Miami✨✌🏼 Stay safe everyone🌎

[@alannahopkins2041]

Wow I am thin with a belly and been going through menopause, love this video

[@ErinCRN]

Love this video as I have a tummy for the first time ever at 46 (other than pregnancy and postpartum). Erin, I love the top at 6:18 but couldn’t find it linked. Is it available? It’s right up my alley.

[@SaucerJess]

EMDR therapy has been so incredibly helpful. Thank you for sharing part of your story 💜

[@BusbeeStyle]

That's so great to hear! Thank you for sharing! xo

[@barbiec4312]

Yes! It helped me immensely.

[@FourJaysFour]

I started EMDR last year. It has been so helpful.

[@MizLaFrance]

I just started EMDR a couple of months ago, it’s been amazing.

[@MissSunnieBunnie]

Thanks for the insights at the beginning of the video. You do not look old enough to have gone through menopause. You look amazing and I appreciate your depth of character.

[@tanyaansley8606]

Oh my gosh! I am so happy I found you. I'm skimming thorugh your vlogs and this one spoke to me. I am about to turn 52 and just feeling yuck. Feeling old and having empty nest issues. So please allow me to say, thank you. Thank you for serving others and doing good in the world.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Well I am SO happy you are here, Tanya! This journey through life can be a tough one, but we're here together! Thank you so much for your comment...xo