10 Questions to Ask Him BEFORE Getting in a Relationship | Christian Perspective

[@mscottster444]

And as a guy who dealt with Pornography I agree with you 1000%. It is exactly cheating on you. I don’t struggle it with anymore so I hope I meet a girl that look past my past of dealing with it but if a girl can’t that is not a problem and within her rights to not want anything more than a friendship. Agree 100000%. It’s sad that having that view is controversial it really shouldn’t be. Porn is cheating. It’s so destructive.

[@NastasiaGrace]

such a great comment thank you!!

[@mscottster444]

@@NastasiaGrace no problem! 💪

[@ellenames5193]

This is ridiculous. It is not CHEATING!! Fine if that is your take, but if you don't know that a whole lot of couples use it to spice up their sex lives, you're doing a number on yourself. And it's not just for men, many woman use it too. This is usually something that a person just passes through to the real nuts and bolts of a relationship, a stopgap measure so they can emerge into their own. OK, so you might want to know what others do, or how they do it, but in the end it's the couple that will have to incorporate whatever they learn into their own lovemaking routines. Sex is ultimately not a spectator sport, and if you haven't come to that realization, you just might not EVER!!

[@toniamoronczyk1132]

Someday God will bring you someone you’ll look past that. If she’s okay with being more than friends but won’t want to let that go. Than it’s best to let her go because that shows lack of trust

[@mscottster444]

@@ellenames5193 I think you and me have two completely different world-views. I’ve never had sex but I would imagine that the better two people communicate the better it gets. Porn shouldn’t need to be involved. Wish you well though!

[@jgrace5274]

1) About his relationship with God 2) Observe or ask about his relationship with parents (especially mom) 3) Ask about his boundaries regarding intimacy. Does he respect your boundaries? 4) Ask about his past relationships 5) Political/ Social views 6) Is he friends with his exes? 7) How seriously does he take his role as the spiritual leader in the relationship? 8) Does he currently or has he in his past struggled with pornography? 9) Does he have a female best friend? Be aware of his boundaries regarding that 10) Is he pursuing you? Does he put in effort?

[@toniamoronczyk1132]

Thanks girl!

[@NastasiaGrace]

I'll be responding to all the comments posted in the first 30min-1hr of the video going live!!! :)

[@kiri_downbad7421]

How a guy treats his mom is essential but also you should look at the family dynamic between his mom and his father. In my experience that’s way more important especially if you are deciding to have kids with him. Does it mean he will turn into his father when he himself becomes a father? Not necessarily but it is the number one example(outside his relationship with God) he will use to inform his decisions as a husband/father. Especially if he hasn’t throughly thought about what it means to be a father yet, pass the romantic notions we have of parenthood before we actually have children. This is true for women as well vice versa. The admiration for a man’s mother is often coming from a child’s perspective. When he thinks of manhood in reference to womanhood he thinks of his father.

[@Allieredeemed]

You’re correct about paying attention to the dynamic between the parents. I dated someone who said he thinks he will cheat on his wife because his dad cheats on his mom and his mom still loves his dad. He also said that his dad is very proud of him for dating multiple women 🥴

[@hiscanvasofgrace3391]

Yes girl!! All the questions 🙌🏼 for me, I met my boyfriend online and a plus was not seeing eachother in person at first, for a month, and just asking all the awkward questions before attraction could build. I figured if that pushed him away, he wasnt for me 😂 in person often we fall for people who aren't safe and good to be attracted to or dating. It's best to get our minds involved as our hearts do, and make sure they are on a similar page with God. So true about porn, anyone whether guy or girl, needs to seek help with it and get accountability before pursuing a relationship. Otherwise it will destroy 🙏🏼

[@hiscanvasofgrace3391]

Ahh your hair, you're so beautiful sis! Can't wait to get your insights here 🤗

[@NastasiaGrace]

aww thank you!!

[@kingsdaughter9336]

I did take notes Found the points very useful. Is it possibly to do a video that addresses questions to ask on a first date. lol

[@william_hols]

Coming from a guy, I think these are all great points about what to look for in a man, especially knowing his take on being the Spiritual Leader! I believe that in order for any relationship to work out, it's a necessity for the man to take the role/responsibility of Leadership in growing his family towards Christ every single day as I believe they can make a tremendous impact! I appreciate you making this video as I feel it's helped me know myself a bit more and where I can improve on my Relationship with Jesus and my well-being.

[@hollyslager2883]

That's great! I hope you get closer to God and where he is leading you.

[@mandydreher7538]

I am called to a life of singleness, but solid questions, and will keep this in my back pocket for friends who have the desire! Great video for us leading friends to encouragement.

[@cjscjs1064]

How do you know you are called to a life of singleness?

[@ivanaracz]

Thank you for this tip. I would right it in my journal so that in my future relationship and soon to be my husband I will ask these question 😊

[@charlesbell5500]

Journaling is a very good habit. And I like how you spelled "write", that was cute. Hey, I'm a 24-year-old Christian looking for marriage. Are you interested? If so, I'll post my fake email here for up to 24 hours, when you email me, I'll redirect you to my real email, and we can see if we're compatible from there. We can also exchange pictures to see if we're actually attracted to each other, just clean ones obviously. If it goes well, we can exchange phone numbers/WhatsApp. This process protects me from the hackers and scammers that could be on KZbin. I'm a virgin because I'm doing marriage God's way, so we'd have to be celibate until marriage. I know it's a lot to digest, but what do you think, yes, no?

[@terrywilson8271]

Nastasia, i think that this will be so helpful to lots of Christian girls, young ladies. They probably are not confident enough to do this for themselves. Thinking they will put the guy off. But when they see a beautiful lady like you saying all these things, it will give them confidence. And the right questions to ask. And lets face it, it is so important to start off on the right foot. Skip these very important questions seems to be the easy way out. But things can turn very nasty, and you can be trapped with someone who is most unsuitable. Don't compromise on your beliefs in God, Unappropiate behaviour, the sanctity of life, chastity etc. This video is so wonderful to hear. Thank you. I will pray for you and all the young ladies out there. God bless you all. ♥️♥️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@jayce1654]

These are such good questions to ask! Some I would never even have thought to ask because I guess I just assume the best about people but it is so much better to know from the start before getting too close to the person! Thank you for sharing and I just wanted to let you know that your hair looks amazing in this video!

[@HHendo-qk2wy]

Agreed with everything you said Stas. Would love to see a video talking about what a spiritual leader looks like in a godly relationship! Great idea!

[@annie_4444.]

you look amazing in this! i hope all is going smoothly with your med transitions!

[@LouisaWatt]

Being twice-divorced myself… this is good advice 🙂

[@christinb1657]

Hey you repeat #6 about being friends with ex’s. Great video!

[@AvaCalhoun]

I love your hair!! And your MAKEUP. and the quality, and the video, ok, so I basically love it all 😂💗

[@NastasiaGrace]

hahaha aww you're so sweet thank you!!!

[@Storesdavidal]

Thanks Natasha Grace For All Your Informative Videos.

[@RASHASA1237]

I LOVED THIS AND I AGREE WITH EVERYTHING THANKS FOR LISTENING TO GOD AND WOULD LOVE PART TWO BE BLESSED!!!

[@livingthejesusway]

That was so interesting to watch! Thank you for this, for your opinions, thank God for you, precious sister in Christ! Whatever you do, may it please God and glorify Him! 😘

[@MartaVitto]

Thank you for this video! Waiting for a part 2😬

[@charlesbell5500]

And I'm waiting for my wife. Have you found your guy or are you still looking? This is gonna sound crazy but just listen. I'll post my fake email here, when you email me, I'll redirect you to my real email. From there we can determine if we're compatible or not, and you can ask me these question. I'll also send a pic of myself (a clean one obviously) because believe it or not, I'm actually not a wolf. If it goes well, we can exchange phone numbers. I have WhatsApp and Telegram also, but no social media, I don't do that. I'm a virgin because I'm doing marriage God's way, so my wife will have to be celibate before marriage. I'm dead serious to say the least. I'll give you a preview of my appearance here. So, I'm 24, white, 5'11", lean/athletic, short, brown hair and facial hair, no tattoos/piercings, etc. So, what do you say Marta? That's a cool name by the way, did your parents forget the "H"? Haha! Sorry, I laugh at my own jokes sometimes. But yeah, what do you think?

[@Katie-kf5pv]

GIRL you are so well spoken 💕✨ Loved this!!

[@9517]

Yay I missed you , i had to leave youtube for my exams, i am not done yet but I got the chance to come on here Love you 😊❤️

[@mariemae2774]

thank you for making these videos, I don't need some of them just yet but it's very nice to gain wisdom from someone to have just in case. God bless you!

[@NastasiaGrace]

awww thank you so much Marie!!!

[@noellenapier7668]

I have a question for you, Nastasia!❤️ Do you think you are closer to God and doing better as far as your spiritual walk goes with your husband rather than without him? I would love to get married someday, but I want to know if Paul talking about singleness being better means that in a general cultural sense or in a sense meaning that it depends on who you are. I hope that I can find someone who will love God more than me and genuinely help me put God first more and love Him more than when I was single.💕

[@NastasiaGrace]

Hey there! Great question and yes I feel that my husband and I push each other closer to Christ!

[@noemi_avila]

Thanks for the advice sis, will be using these questions once a guy comes around 😊

[@savannah8647]

Love these questions - these are all so important!! I would love a video on the man’s role of spiritual leadership that you mentioned!

[@murielbomfim5302]

Great video, Nas! Very helpful. Thank you ❤️

[@kateyybug3818]

thankful for your videos! they help me so much. thank you!

[@shirleydelva9982]

Love this video! Part two please!

[@tiffanyivanna7914]

I love you so much girly 💕 Your strength and love for Jesus is so inspiring. I really enjoy watching all your videos 🤗 I would appreciate it so much if you made a follow up video about what spiritual leadership looks like

[@tiffanyivanna7914]

PS: your cousin story was hilarious lol. I’m taking notes 📝😂

[@jordangarza4353]

I just building my own relationship with Jesus with me personally I am just getting to know Jesus it is important for me to get to know him every day I do my daily devotional my family it is different story for me because I really have no parents so that is where my struggle is for a long time for me my boundaries and balance is important also for me too because I want to meet a Christian woman one day and my struggles is very difficult to get along with someone because I never felt loved in my entire life but that is the reason why I came to christ because I want to know and how I can build my relationship and trust with Jesus so important that I hope one day my future Christian wife would understand my past difficulties and issues that some I want to repair for someone that cares enough and understands enough as long as I follow the similar path to Jesus its so important to me and those I want to get to know!

[@hopeking37]

God has someone for u , take those concerns to him. I personally love being single but not everyone is like me

[@koren-marietaylor1992]

Such good advice sis 🙏🏽

[@nonnnniss]

I love this video, thank you so much for sharing ❤️ I'm glad im not the only one who has these things in mind -May God bless you so so much in your relationship also, Can you do a video of how a leading man of God should look like, or what should a man of God should do as the leader/head of the house?

[@annatope1031]

love these! i agree with everything :)

[@NastasiaGrace]

thank you so much Anna!!

[@banana4320]

Thank you so much for your wisdom!🤍

[@madewithpurposeyt]

such a good video!! thank you!

[@leaenongene2499]

Please for part 2

[@alyssaprice5545]

Thank you for this!

[@NastasiaGrace]

thank you for watching Alyssa!!

[@sierrasteffen2573]

Part 2!

[@laFrancaise806]

I never date someone and I agree with your questions but how do we ask them ? How to make it natural ? because maybe he can hide things from you whitout you to know it. How to see that he really love God ? I know I am only 19 and It’s okey but I want to marry someday and I don’t know…I never really felt satisfied about the personnality of a man in my entourage, they are good people but I don’t know It’s about how we interact, I never felt close enough with a man to ask these questions. I know God has someone for me because I have this desire to build a strong, pure and loving relationship. I pray and hope God will make it easy. (Sorry for my english, It’s not my first language)

[@nitseybellefleur5717]

Woow so much great points definitely a whole series on such topic!!🤍🤍🤍🤍🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@sipsjuice6583]

she’s so gorgeous 😣🤎 very wonderfully made😜😜

[@viikase]

Very good advice👏🏽

[@SB-gn5nv]

This video is so good that i had to give like.

[@Tfouch09]

Vote for part2 :)

[@shaym7280]

I just feel that if you can’t forgive someone for their past sins (struggled w/ pornography or whatever the case may be) then you don’t really believe in the power that jesus made on the cross..he died for our sins. When you come to Christ your are made new. In other words, we all have a new identity in Christ. Obviously, if they have a current struggle and don’t have a problem with it or even want to change it...that’s a red flag for sure. Loved this video 💕 Great advice 😋

[@ysabethsweet3407]

Amen girly 🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@NastasiaGrace]

thanks girl!!!

[@toniamoronczyk1132]

You look gorgeous!

[@The_faithful_princess]

Did he ask you to be his girlfriend or propose to you in a special way?

[@NastasiaGrace]

he asked me to be his girlfriend on my mom's couch haha! but yes he proposed to me in a super cute way! I have a whole video about it that I made last year!

[@karengrace6890]

The idea that if a man treats his mother with respect and loves her, he will also do the same in a relationship with a woman.... is that biblical? I have known many men who loved and respected their mothers but did not treat their girlfriends well.

[@mscottster444]

What about financial standards? Like how much should a guy make before he is datable? I gross 36K but want to be at 40K first. Is that wrong? What would your number be? Is it wrong to have a number?

[@NastasiaGrace]

you can rest easy, most Jesus loving girls don't care how much a guys makes especially if he's a hard worker in general! There's no number!

[@mscottster444]

@@NastasiaGrace that’s what I thought. But I can’t help but worry about making enough. 😥 but thanks! Love your channel!

[@pamm2652]

Another girls perspective. For me it more about how they use their money, not how much they make. A person can make a million dollars in a year and still be paycheck to paycheck.

[@mscottster444]

@@pamm2652 to true. I only spend money on food and maybe golfing once a week. That’s about it usually. But I’ve always held off pursuing a girl because I don’t make a certain amount because I’m worried what I make right now may not be enough to provide for her if I ever actually lucked up and got married. But thank you for your insight!

[@tiffanyivanna7914]

I deal with the same thing. I’ve just graduate nursing school, am still living with my parents and haven’t started a nursing job yet. I worry about dating and him thinking I just want him for financial gains

[@Paras98895]

Eh I wasn't a fan of "if he was cheated on, he might have trust issues". Eek, that's quite an assumption to jump that somebody that is cheated on doesn't pursue healing before entering the dating scene. Just seems a bit unfair - but otherwise enjoyed!

[@NastasiaGrace]

Hence the "might" not "always".

[@AmberDennis001]

I wish I had a husband that was a good one. I’m 27, still single and a virgin. I wish I was you. Godhates me. If he really loves me pray Amber will be happily married in the next few years

[@Happyheart1532]

You're in a good place. God LOVES you. He is preserving you from unnecessary pain and hurt. Wait on Him. Let Proverbs 3:5,6 be your go-to Scripture. If you could see the future and what God has planned for you, you wouldn't want it any other way❤

[@TheSonOfGodWorshipsTheFather]

Q: What is the name of the Son of God? A: _______________________ If he can't answer it, just leave.

[@daniellekramer93]

What if their parents are dead??? I’m glad you care about abortion. I could have been an aborted baby so I’m glad you care. I’m friends with my last ex I had but that’s it. We are just friends now and I’m still single. My dad has been an alcoholic for years and he still drinks. My ex hardly ever texted first.

[@Patrick-l6p]

The how you treat your mother question is garbage cos every man treats themselves and ladies around them differently

[@hopeking37]

There is only one question I am asking . “ are you born again saved” if the answer is no. Bye!!!

[@TheSonOfGodWorshipsTheFather]

Q: What is the name of the Son of God? A: _________________________ If he can't answer it, just leave.