10 Rules that Changed my Life: From a Total Hot Mess to a Lukewarm Mess

[@jenniferharrington4694]

My husband’s grandma had a quote that stuck with me: “if you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”. This is a rule I live by because it has made me a much more positive person looking for the silver lining all the time…

[@andrem9813]

So true! It's my favourite quote too! It belongs to Wayne Dyer and its fantastic 🥳🥳🥳

[@OlafsonN]

@@andrem9813 I believe most of Wayne Dyer’s quotes predated him.

[@rosieposie8059]

I'm gonna write that and put it up somewhere I'll see it everyday ❤️ Thanks for sharing

[@Julie-si3hi]

That is lovely

[@bethdoesitmatter2967]

What a great saying! Thank you for posting!

[@sheenachante]

I swear a form of my procrastinating is watching these type of videos and thinking “I already know all this” but normally they don’t work to push me to move and get things done 🫠🙃but this one here…I’m in the middle of actually starting what I been dreading. I’m the “I’ll start Monday” person & im changing that now. It’s 12 noon on a Wednesday and I’m starting ❤

[@cactusqueen6417]

YEAH!!! 🎉

[@patshel4002]

I like sporty cars that why I love suvs. Can a mini van go fast? My suv can.

[@nancylopez4720]

Love your ten rules. I remember my mom saying - in Spanish - "Tell me who you walk (hang) with, and I'll tell you who you are." Sounds like what your dad said to you. And we can't forget the biggest rule of all, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you". The world would be such a better place. Thanks for all you are and do.

[@patriciachicco9763]

My mom till this seat says that to me.

[@puertotexan]

Dime con quién andas y te diré quién eres. Classic!

[@matemahe]

I hate that comment bc I learned as I got older that we are not one dimensional.

[@anyat686]

My Irish mother said the same thing ! 😂

[@nancylopez4720]

@@anyat686 I guess it's universal.

[@phlebotnum]

"I've got to pay $20K more to OPEN MY OWN DOOR." Cas - you are a treasure. I actually laughed out loud at that one.

[@Sparkly333]

😂me too

[@conniejenice]

This is true , it’s so nice you walk up to it and doors unlock , are open it as your walking to it . I put my keys on a lanyard so when I check around my neck they go and I can open up the latch as I get close, great when it’s raining! Love it!

[@BrandiLaShay]

Cas.. Your "5 minutes matters" mantra is one of the rules that has changed my life.. I am such a perfectionist, which used to cause me to procrastinate so often because if I couldn't do it "correctly" I wasn't going to start until I could.. now I always tell myself, "5 minutes matters.. just get started." It has flowed all throughout my life, and I tell myself that all the time!! Thank you!! 😊

[@despicabledavidshort3806]

Omg!! I'm the same, if I can't do it perfectly I'm not going to start, which means there's lots of things I just put off. I've learned it doesn't have to be perfect

[@dellnichols4625]

I’m 70 years old and your rules are so spot on! My rule, you are never too old to learn from someone else! And us old folks LOVE our mini van with stow and go!

[@Clutterbug]

#MINIVANSARECOOL

[@barbarapahl3245]

My husband & I both are retired now and we love our mini van with stow n go! We bought it used to be able to get our six grandchildren all in. So much easier than taking two vehicles!

[@jessadame6303]

@@Clutterbug you should check out the swagger wagon song on KZbin. kzbin.info/www/bejne/oGnYY6uDm6qFirc Minivan's are the best! :)

[@tracywaring3769]

70 isn't old its the new 60 xx

[@irmaiz133]

@Dell Nichols you sound wise so I will ask you. Left my half eaten pastry under the counter at my part-time job. Later realized, the next person purposefully threw it out when he could have handed it to me. Now I am beating myself for being naive. Though it taught me to be cautious next time, it infuriates me!!! Ughhh!!! 😂😂😂. Anybody? Advanced thanks!!!

[@laurayoder3553]

"I procrastinate like it's my life's mission." Oh my goodness, Cass! That made me laugh. I can so relate to that. Thanks for all you do.

[@SunshineMomma0510]

That's exactly how I am!

[@alinaloder8700]

Can't do family. Luckily I'm not a reacher outer

[@idid138]

I'm procrastinating some stuff so hard right now...

[@ragauerk9310]

Hospitals are purposefully kept chilly bcs it helps control the spread of disease, which sick ppl bring to the hospital to be healed from. It's part of the design to help us that feels less comfortable. It's probably worth it.

[@ThKiwi]

Your story about dropping the rope with stressful people reminded me of a similar time in my life that reshaped how I saw my friends and where I put in my time and effort. While I was going through IVF I experienced a side effect to a medication that made me extremely sick for weeks and could have become lethal. In that time I didn’t have the energy to reach out to people and for the entire time I was sick, only two friends checked in to see how I was doing. My so-called best friend didn’t even text me. No way she could have disappeared for weeks without me worrying and checking in. It hurt SO MUCH, but I’ve reinvested my time and energy into the friends who were there for me and making new friends, and I’m so much happier now.

[@alison5009]

This comment is also really important. It’s also helped me realize who are true friends through depression and anxiety.

[@Julie-si3hi]

I hear you! Not ivf ,but my partner got cancer and its a whirlwind of appointments...I have some friends that check on us,say good luck for appts... friends like gold xx

[@natalieatkinson8602]

"If it's not worth praying about, it's not worth worry about". Awesome book - the art of not giving a f**k. "Don't let the weeds grow round your feet because one day they'll be so high, you won't be able to see yourself." "There's always a way"- this one got me around travelling overseas!

[@christineashby4003]

When you were talking about not wasting energy on certain relationships even if they’re family, I totally wanted to high-five you! It doesn’t mean there's anything wrong with you, or even with them - it’s just that somehow together you don’t work. Many years ago, before ‘toxic relationships’ really became a thing talked about, my brother and I went separate ways. I got SOOO much flack from certain family members, including our mom! (and still do). But it was one of the best decisions EVER, right up there with my marriage, kids, career, and house :) And I'm sure for it has been great for him and his family as well. Does it mean I wish him anything bad? Certainly not! But do I HAVE to have a relationship with him, when it only caused both of us pain? Nope :) It’s part of MY number one rule: Live my life in a way that works for ME, even if it looks totally weird to someone else. That other person doesn’t have the same strengths and weaknesses I do, and they don’t have to live with me everyday, but I do, so why not give myself a break? 😁

[@sherylclements2846]

Thank you for this!! It is helping me validate giving up on relatives who only reached out to me for $$, and yet months and years of loving them so very much, but they couldn't be bothered to even reply to a text saying 2 words like Merry Christmas. I don't feel so guilty giving up the hope of being close to or wanted by them anymore.

[@slcspomer]

Yes to the mini van movement!! I tell everyone I waited a long time to have kids and be able to drive a mom van. I'm not giving it up now! It's paid for, it hauls all our crap and we have plenty of room on our road trips! Love, love, love my mini van!!! Oh...and loved your 10 rules. Super inspiring. Thanks :)

[@SorrensSorrow]

No worries the minivan isn't going anywhere as boomers get older we need them to get their wheelchairs, rollators,walkers and canes in as well as the people lol

[@ElizabethChronis]

I love my minivan!

[@EmilyHercamp17]

Yes, LOVE my minivan! ❤💙💚💛💜

[@daisybuchanan5378]

I drove mine long past the time we needed it, because it was paid for. 300k miles. Then paid cash for my next car because the van gave me time to save up.

[@katie7748]

My ex's sister adamantly refused to have anything to do with stuff that made her look like a mom. Like...why did you have kids??

[@3dchick]

I've been surrounding myself with you, Minimal Mom and a couple of very positive How-To-KZbinrs, and I think I've become a happier, more positive person because it. Thank you! ☺️

[@Clutterbug]

I love watching positive KZbinrs too!

[@maybeme8]

Same! So inspiring and because of this video, I went and put on a load of laundry I didn't want to do lol.

[@lrhudy93]

Same here! They are awesome!

[@lisao.4075]

@@maybeme8 Good for You!

[@sherbear2016]

3DChick, what other KZbinrs do you like to listen to? I like the ones Cas mentioned and have been watching them for years. But I’d love to the others. Have you listened to “Brittany Vasseur”? She is funny and has all kinds of great tips and helpful advice. Apps and gadgets to try, that she tries first, etc. “But First, Coffee” is another good one. Thanks!

[@kathleen9812]

I swear Cas. You get me every time. I'm only 2 minutes in and I am feeling like you are speaking to my soul. My neighbor asked me to come over for coffee 2 weeks ago, I still haven't gone, because social anxiety. Well now I have to go...lol. Do the scary things.

[@kathleen9812]

I also wanted to say YES to the minivan. I never had one until my business partner had one and we would take that thing everywhere! We loaded it up with furniture, kids, animals ...everything fits! I was like, whoa...I gotta get one of these. And I don't have kids at home anymore. 🙃

[@deniseabdale2568]

Oh yes I’ve had social anxiety my whole life. I also have a deep fear of getting lost when out. I don’t know where it came from but something must have happened when I was very young that I don’t remember & I must have been scolded/ scared to death. If I lose my sense of direction, I start panicking.

[@tboucher8134]

Cass, you are in my five people that I hang around with. Whenever I’m needing positive energy motivation or a smile your channel is where I go and you bring a light to my life that I really appreciate thank you so much

[@paulagbt]

Yes! Me too!

[@cactusqueen6417]

Me too! I love her!

[@PARoth2011]

Me too ❤️

[@JoDee4Rolf]

Agreed! :)

[@dianneweihrauch7414]

Cass, you are one of my favorite organizers. When I am down, I tune in to one of your videos, and it always picks me up. I feel like I am connecting with a friend. Love your energy and enthusiasm. Don't ever worry about comparing yourself to others. You have your own unique style. Just keep on doing what you are doing.

[@rosanne7804]

RULE # 1: Be KIND! It’s FREE & you may just make a difference in someone’s life who may be struggling. ❤

[@janetmajor1152]

Love this! Always makes me feel good!

[@brittany2755]

This is so funny! I spent my whole life swearing I'd never be "that" mom who drives a minivan until...... baby #3 came. Got a minivan (reluctantly!) and I LOVE MY MINIVAN!! I can't even imagine not having it!! DVD player, automatic door opening, EVERYONE is comfortable on a roadtrip! It is the BEST most underrated car out there!!! #minivansarecool all day 😎

[@vondrabejot9851]

My husband still drives a minivan because they have the largest capacity when you do fold everything out of the way. He does comic book conventions and they carry the most, they fit in a regular parking spot and a height that can fit in parking garages. We outgrew the soccer team age but he picked up the hobby age that still needs a minivan. Love your channel Cass!

[@jacquigrainger9605]

Cas, you should count yourself as one of the people who is positive and inspires so many people. I just found you recently and love your down to earth organisational tutorials. Thank you! Keep doing what you do, and I'm just about to start my organisational journey as I am now setting up on my own. So now is the time for my way, my home, back to being me, after years of being wife, mum, then partner. Wish me luck! Best wishes from the 🇬🇧

[@cactusqueen6417]

She’s great! ❤

[@AlexisChavivaAndrei]

I have ADHD and have been stuck in paralysis for awhile and I found your channel two days ago. Finally started organizing my life. Ty for being you, you are so inspiring!

[@debbiev.1311]

Healthy Boundaries ("Say NO to toxic people") changed my life...dramatically!! 😉❤🤗

[@bettyknutson4105]

You are awesome. I consider you, Dawn from the minimal mom and Dana K White the perfect trio for decluttering and organizing my home and a lot of others. Don't compare yourself because you are one of a kind.

[@oatssettle846]

Absolutely❣ Cas...you are the best Cas ever❣❣

[@Clutterbug]

Thanks!

[@livingdivanized]

My number one rule is to always be polite, respectful, and nice. These behaviors/attitudes make day to day life so much more pleasant and enjoyable and easier. Rule number two be grateful and share your gratitude when you can. I truly believe that with gratitude comes happiness.

[@g_willow]

I support you in your effort to make mini vans cool. Fyi fanny packs are in so, go mini van. I have a freiend, her old man got het a mini van. She drove it to work and took me outside to see it. She showed off the moving seats and auto doors. She was so happy and said " This is the coolest car I've ever owned, Im gonna look like such a cool mom!"

[@cactusqueen6417]

I wear a Fanny pack at work all the time. Where others can’t seem to remember a pen, or post-it’s, a bandaid, tape, etc., etc. Well, NEVER FEAR FOR MY FANNY PACK IS NEAR, and ready, willing and able to help in just about ANY situation! Safety pins and all. Bob Barker would be proud! 👍

[@workinprogressjess1099]

🤣🤣🤣 the Fanny pack of vehicles 👏🏻👏🏻 that killed me! But dude, we would LOVE a mini van! My husband turned me on to the awesomeness of mini vans and I was like WHAT?! But you are right and now we wish we could afford one (my dream would be a Pacifica 😆) so I’m with you Cas!

[@jilliebean2574]

I love your husband's viewpoint about comparing the mini van to a fanny pack. He is spot on!!!

[@ronnieb.hudson2604]

Totally! But I wear a Fanny pack whenever I am outside my house, sometimes I wear it inside my house to keep my phone in.

[@kb1236]

I got my fanny pack out today to go hiking, I did not have on cargo pants and needed something to carry a few items.

[@verikeri2849]

Cass you are my absolute favorite!! I started implementing Rule #7- Don't Waste Energy on Things You Can't Control a little over a year ago and it has worked wonders for my mental health. I love all of your rules. I am currently working on Rule #1- Say yes to scary things. Thanks for your amazing content.

[@aloha_element]

Yasss! Go Keri! 👏🏼 Do you feel more empowered by implementing this boundary?

[@lisao.4075]

Me too! Going to a Festival this weekend without panic attacks! I am wearing my Cowgirl Hat; even if it is "fantasy clutter"!

[@loriz.5771]

Wise Advice ! Letting go of people who don't value your efforts is hurtful, but freeing. My husband reminded me once: Roads and phones run both ways. Value the people who value you. 🌹

[@mkathrynblacker5960]

Haha, great rules Cass!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts - your ADHD experience has helped us so much to realize we are not crazy, just need to work within our limitations! 💕 For what it's worth, I do take issue with the "smarter not harder" mentality, which is so popular these days. I love how your key point was: "if you get the SAME results" - not similar or marginal results. Living a life of shortcuts can actually exacerbate our anxiety and ADHD because the quicker we get things done, the more we feel compelled to do. So many young people today have strong feelings about issues, but they don't know WHY and they don't take the time to get the information they need to make a sound decision. They take the first thing they hear as truth and don't have the ability to think it through logically. Teaching our kids to do short cuts in Math is great in theory, but scientific research has shown that doing long math actually teaches your brain to slow down, focus and understand WHY it works - thereby understanding math better, not just the functions. Teaching short math should only be done AFTER teaching long math. It's all about creating proper neuropathways. Pen & pencil and actually writing out lists, papers, etc does the same thing. Don't get me wrong, sometimes shortcuts are absolutely necessary but it should not be our daily life. BTW, I'm using voice text as I speak this so I can ride the treadmill. LOL 😂 A good way to get more things done, for sure, but I realize; I AM sacrificing my brain health and my anxiety to do so. One of my ADHD rules is: "More often than not, take the long way home." Do the job well and make sure it's done right because going back to fix something ultimately wastes time. If you have ADHD, did you make it to the end of this post? 😂😂😂

[@ephemeraphilesbytomi]

I do and I did! 😂

[@rachelcunningham6519]

Me too😂

[@PARoth2011]

Yes, I made it to the end because as much as I have read about my ADHD I did not know this…but I do it instinctually! Thank you for the post!

[@jillsipocz3582]

"Comparison is the thief of joy". ABSOLUTELY.

[@richardcope9803]

Listening to you feels like a warm hug. I really envy your family having such a cool, positive person in their lives. Thanks for being so relatable.

[@louisevessey3839]

LOL Dad Rules! My Dad always used to say "Life is like a sewer, you get out of it, what you put into it". Also I really needed to hear about putting myself first and getting toxic people out of my life!

[@Studio344]

Thanks for sharing your ‘rules’. My guiding rules that keep me going in good directions is my slogan “God, friends and exercise”. Basically having spiritual practices, being social with friends and family, and moving my body someway. It is a great flexible 3-step way that keeps things really balanced and groovin’. Thanks Cas! :)

[@mylittlerebornlove8851]

Love this!

[@natalia1045]

That can actually easily translate to: spirit, mind and body which some see as a holy trinity

[@intuitive_duck]

Money doesn’t equal happiness but it can equal safety. That peaceful feeling of financial safety is so underrated. I shopped & ate out so much when I was broke. Then it hit me, “What am I doing? Stop that.”

[@jennifersimpson6385]

Love this video! Some of my rules are similar. One significant rule for me is "touch it once" - it translates as handling the mail immediately, putting the dishes away instead of in the sink, taking the thing up the stairs, etc.

[@cactusqueen6417]

The touch it once theory is so AWESOME! I’ve used that so many times. Why have a duplication of effort, if you can do, or touch it once, and done! I love using this strategy! 👍👍👏👏👏

[@louisevessey3839]

I loved having a minivan when I had younger kids! It was awesome! Now I drive a station wagon. They used to be VERY 'SQUARE' but now they are cool again. Or maybe that's just me! Girl! You are ROCKIN' that minivan life!!

[@MrsAlmaTrumble]

I needed this. Agree with #5. I lost my father in August. We didn't talk for years because he physically, mentally, and sexually abused me. He never accepted that he did it. TEAM MINI VAN!! We got our mini van a few years ago and love it. We only got it because our pitbull is getting older and he loves to go for rides so we wanted something he could get in without jumping and hurting himself His back legs are giving me lots of trouble the past few years. We'll keep it even after he's gone because it carries our family around. We just welcomed our newest grandson and its easy to get him in and out of it.

[@brg2743]

So sorry for wbat happened.

[@casualdrifter5226]

Consider a pet ramp for the puparoo

[@genevievepeters1502]

My dad used to say when I got frustrated with people (specifically my family), look past people’s action…you never know what they are going through. Be gracious❤

[@Clutterbug]

I love that! Well said.

[@andrem9813]

We just bought a mini van 2 months ago and we can't believe how cool, functional and good it is for our family of 4. It's amazing! ❤️ 7 seats?! Yes please!!!!! I agree, the mini van movement shall start!!!! Thank you so much Cas!!!! ❤️ 🥳 💫 🤗 👏

[@shelbyfortin9183]

I love that you called yourself a "lukewarm mess!" That is so good and so sweet!

[@karenkunesch]

You’re very inspiring and keep it light and fun - I do lol. I now feel as a “butterfly” that I have ADHD. Now I’m retired (60) I notice it more than ever without any real structure and I squirrel all day. I, like you, am a terrible procrastinator. I did actually do a video workout today even though I didn’t feel like it - and yup feel better for it. Thanks for all your wonderful motivation.

[@LAppleDumpling]

So proud of YOU!!! 🥰🥰

[@taraschmidheini4674]

Thanks Karen, you just motivated me to get on my stationary bike today!!! 😇

[@loriz.5771]

Wow you sound just like me ! I have a black belt in procrastination. Just turned 60 last week and highly suspect I have ADD. It's very hard to stick with things.

[@aloha_element]

So awesome to hear that you feel seen! 🤗 Cas has a magical ✨ way of doing this for me too. Thanks for your vulnerability and sharing. 🙏🏼

[@xannaz9226]

YES I can so relate, 63 here, recently retired, recently realized I have ADHD by listening to declutterers on KZbin who were diagnosed with same!

[@sandygarcia8972]

Mini vans are great! Don't go with the flow go with what you LOVE! my brother has 2... one is his work van, mobile mechanic. The other 1 is his recreational.... he is a confirmed bachelor! Never married and no children... and his super cool, he's a drummer for fun💖

[@miarenee6703]

#5 and #10 -those are the ones I need to apply more to my life. All 10 actually. I am 56, and YOU inspire me, Cas! And you and Dawn both motivate me. ❤Thanks for this! I missed Dawn’s 10 Rules. I’m going there now to check it out.

[@axthelmsr]

Loved your rules!! And as far as minivans go…I’m 49 years old…have no children at home…have ONE grandchild…and I WILL NOT surrender my minivan!! It is the coolest vehicle ever! I’m with you!

[@missushoneybee]

I LOVE MY MINI VAN! My used old minivan! Those foldaway seats and smuggler compartments are GOLD. I remember seeing commercials for the Montana minivan way back in the day, when they first started putting two doors in the passenger section. There were these two cowboys fighting and the owner of the van opened both doors so the cowboys could roll through without damaging the van or breaking up the fight. We need more commercials like that!

[@elisabethbobrow3264]

I love your rules but your minivan rant is what made me comment 🤣. I am 100% team minivan! For all the reasons you mentioned! Nevermind not having to worry about the doors in the back opening into another car in a tight space. They are so useful and like you I cannot fathom paying more to not be able to open the doors from a distance, with a button, for me or my kids 🤣

[@prettylittleinvestor]

I love #5, saying no toxic people 👍 I’ve been starved for a friendship with my sister and then I got a taste of what a friendship with her is like, and she’s a user 💡 now that I’ve seen what I’m missing, I don’t feel bad about us not being friends, we are just sisters, and that’s ok.

[@ksk881]

Throughout this entire video, I was nodding and/or saying "preachers it, sister!" I am going to respond to something you said at the very end about low rise jeans making a comeback. I am here to tell you that for many of us, low rise jeans are the bane of our existence! I finally found a pair of high rise jeans that are also long enough for my very long legs...so I bought three pair! The same thing can happen to the mini van if enough people feel about mini vans as I do about high rise jeans! Start a revolution, Cas! Bring back high rise jeans and mini vans!! 🤣🤣

[@triciac1019]

Yes to high rise jeans. Boy are they comfy and more flattering.

[@hesherette]

i have good news for you- high rise, looser fitting jeans have been back in for awhile! i live by a high school + all of the kids nowadays wear mom jeans or totally loose fitting higher rise jeans. generally worn with a crop top like dancers did in the 90s but hey it's a start! lol mini vans might be next!

[@tamramckee4150]

AMEN to mini vans being the most functional car ever!!!!!! EVER!!!!

[@kimberlyreiter3213]

@@hesherette Exactly! My 16 year old and all of her friends primarily wear high waist baggy jeans!

[@DianaLynn45]

@@kimberlyreiter3213 My two teenage daughters do too. My older one, who is 19, actually bought a pair of high rise, baggy jeans that look identical to one's I wore in high school in the 80s/early 90s. Reminds me of the Fly Girls on the show In Living Color and on rap videos back in the day. Ugh, gosh I feel old 😅😕

[@sherbear2016]

Cas, I agree with you 100% about minivans, for all the reasons you listed. I have loved all of mine. I’m on my third Honda Odyssey because we kept upgrading for different features. I’ve had this current one for 10 years now. One thing that you didn’t list, and it’s a huge benefit for me, is the fact that they’re easier to get in and out of. I recently had my hip replaced and have had other surgeries and a minivan is so easy because you don’t have to bend clear down to get in and out of it. You can just open the door and slide right in! I love all the cargo space and the automatic doors. It definitely makes my life easier. Long live the minivan!!😃

[@misstoniscreations8683]

Since I’ve discovered your channel a few weeks ago I’ve been uplifted, entertained and informed to the fullest ❤ Thank- you so much for what you do; sharing your knowledge, truths, self and so much more! You are most definitely enriching lives. With much love, Toni ❤❤❤❤

[@taraschmidheini4674]

❤️ Two minutes in & you motivated me. I didn't feel so bad when I heard that YOU, Cass, procrastinate! And have to occasionally force yourself to do something. This is why I watch you & love you. You truly impact my life in such a great way. Thank you!❤️❤️

[@brianneharrell9108]

I am so glad I found your channel! I've always felt so intimdated by other organizers becasue their houses always looked "perfect." I feel much more confident seeing a house that looks lived in, even after it's organized. I love, love, love your content!

[@stephanievega4734]

I loved this video!!! Amazing tips that are so easy but get lost a lot of the time in life. Thank you for reminding me. I also adore my 20 year old mini van!!! We call her Nana and she is part of the family. I also have an SUV but every time I get into Nana I'm so grateful for how comfortable she is, how smooth she drives and how well she takes care of my family. I think she's the best!!!!❤️

[@carrie-lynnsnee1675]

I’m with ya sister! I have ALWAYS been a fan of the mini van! Thanks for giving it some much well deserved props!! We also caved in and got an SUV once- worst mistake of our lives! Can anyone say “3 point turn” just to get in a Costco parking spot!!!! Long live the mini van!!!❤❤❤

[@saltbae1789]

"I'm gonna be broke tomorrow but today is gonna be awesome!" THIS WAS SPOKEN FROM MY SOUL 😂

[@TheLovelyMissBeans]

Love your rules! I have started some rules for myself, just to remind myself of how I deserve to be treated. Here's a couple: I am not disposable. Love does not come with conditions. You have value because you are YOU. No one else has to recognize that for it to be true. So glad you mentioned Mel Robbins. She is amazing and inspires me so much! And check it out...She is interviewing ME on her podcast today! (10/6)

[@lawrente]

OK Cass, where do we send the check? These words of wisdom are incrediblely helpful. I've spent time with therapists who taught me the same things. I've been pondering doing that exercise with not reaching out to people and see who reaches out to me. I have a good idea what's going to happen. And it will be disappointing and will make me sad for sometime. Hope I'm wrong. Will be happier in the long run.

[@Tiram13]

It all boils down to mindset! Love to listen to Mel's podcast while decluttering and cleaning- or doing "nothing". Remember - there is success enough for evryone, so instead of competing eachother, let's lift eachother instead ❤️

[@bakerfritz4681]

I’ll see your minivan and raise you an ‘80s model station wagon like my Grandma had. It was a tank, it was a truck, it was a like riding in a boat, (if you were older it was a party wagon). It fit you, your spouse, your kids, their friends, the picnic supplies… AND you could reach the top to strap things down even if you were short, AND they had some of that sweet, sweet faux woodgrain panel inside. And sometimes outside. Nothing but winning.

[@JaneH3675]

Hahahaha love it!

[@donnasnuggs910]

You are ABSOLUTELY right about minivans. The sliding doors, the extra seating, plenty of cargo space, the ease of creating more space with the stow and go seats. You can’t beat it. I’m 5’3” and I like that a minivan allows me to sit high - sedans are too low that I have to drop down into the seat. SUVs are too high. I have to hoist my 59-year old self into place or require a step stool to get in! And now that grandchildren are completing our family, it’s back to the reliable minivan. No other option serves a person better

[@Naomily]

I've heard so many times about surrounding myself with the right people, but kind of didn't have hope because I lacked the actual people in my life. Thanks for the pointer about virtual options - I follow Mel Robbins, I'll start watching more. It's time to shop for a new (used) car, and you've convinced me to look at minivans too, not just SUVs.

[@christineashby4003]

Yes, the virtual thing helps a lot! I’ve never had a lot of friends, especially since I moved to a much bigger city 9 years ago (after spending most of my life in the previous one where I had built everything around). With you-tubers and a couple of virtual support groups, I don’t feel as lonely as I used to :)

[@saskia777]

Personally I like Cass channel most out of all organizing youtubers that I've ever seen. I guess I see myself most in her videos, and I love her enthoustic ways. It's motiving, inspiring, helpful, and original. And just a good fit, often I'm like: hey I'm like that too, or I have that situation too.

[@tamimartine8441]

She's the only one that I know of that teaches how to organize in different ways according to how your brain works. Traditional organizers teach one method fits all.

[@cactusqueen6417]

She truly has a unique gift, and a very special down home, nonsensical approach to communications with us. I enjoy most organizing videos, books, shows, etc., but this woman right here, is my ALL TIME FAVORITE! She’s special in a way that just outshines! Love her! ❤

[@robynspersonaltraining3593]

You inspire me, Cass! I started listening to ‘The Miracle Morning’ because of you. I am still listening to audio books. I love your stories and always stay to the end. You’ve done amazing things with your life. I’m thankful to have found you💜

[@suedredge1678]

I LOVE my minivan! I have a painting business and it fits everything I need: ladders, paint trays, drop cloths, etc. We use it like a truck and stow the seats so we can haul things to the dump and move furniture. My minivan is old and rusty and just keeps on going. When I was a Cub Scout leader, we took the boys on a field trip. As they got in my van, one of them commented, "Wow, this van is really old." My reply was, "Yeah, if it was new, I wouldn't be letting Cub Scouts in it." Boom!

[@Rosie-6]

Thanks for explaining the difference between Minivans and SUV's. I have been wanting a minivan, without the having to climb up high into the front seat. But be able to take my 58" piano case to play it away from home. The seats going flat is exactly what I need.

[@april6363]

I totally get the comparison thing. But there is only one YOU, and that's why you are so great!! Your personality is so fun and relatable, and I love your videos and inspiration!! And your stories 🤣 Also, I LOVE my minivan!! You are so right about their awesomeness 😎 😂 I will drive a minivan forever!!!

[@NikiLivi5]

I love this video and can relate to this so so much! After some traumatic life events I’ve allowed my adhd to take over and I’ve found excuses to put off doing anything and everything. I have ocd & adhd which I used to my advantage to always keep a spotless organized home and I was so proud of it. Now I’ve added lupus, RA, and an epidural lipoma (benign spinal tumor that at the moment is stable. If it grows and presses on the spine it will need removing but there’s a chance it might not need removing. It’s a wait and see kinda thing but for right now sounds worse than it is.) So when the extreme fatigue & joint pain came then came an affair, lost my MIL I adored, and lost my grandma all back to back. Oh & we had to have our English bulldog put down due to cancer. And that’s just the big stuff. So the rug was jerked out from under me and all that I had based my life around, my husband & our little family, was no longer a constant. I just stopped doing anything. Then my youngest daughter after a year and a half of homeschooling due to bullying decided she missed being around other kids and went back to public school. I loved our time together and learning with her. So I was very lost. I felt everyone had a purpose but me. I finally decided that if God allows me to wake up each morning I still have a purpose. I may not know what it is but I have one. So I’ll get up and try to do what I can and if an opportunity knocks I’ll listen. If nothing else, this is a biggie, I have a much closer relationship with God. I truly believe I’d replaced my relationship with Him with my marriage. It says he is a jealous God. And if what happened hadn’t happened I probably wouldn’t have gone to Him the way I did. We are working on our marriage and family so all is not lost. But I also have always been a procrastinator and I learned at age 27 that I have adhd. I’ve always wondered if I’d had meds in college if I would have finished my bachelors degree because as soon as it got really hard I’d quit. I did that many many times. I did finish my junior year with a 3.833gpa. But I had one teacher & student that for whatever reason decided they didn’t like me. I had to take 2 classes under that teacher and I just couldn’t handle it. But now that I’m disabled I did get to become a stay at home mom which is all I ever wanted anyway. It’s just my youngest 2 are now 14 and I don’t know what I’ll do next. I’m sure something will come to me. I have bought a few online classes I haven’t done yet that I need to do. And I’ve bought 2 cricut machines to hopefully learn a hobby that I can make some spending money doing. Now I’ve just got to get this darn house I’ve neglected in shape and trust me it’s almost a hoarders mess! We have a tiny home that has way too many people and their stuff. I’m almost ready to burn it all to the ground and start over. 😂 But once it’s clean then I get to decorate and design my craft space which has me excited. So I’m using that to motivate me to clean. And I bought a tineco floor one S5 pro2. I’m so excited about it because mopping was hurting me too much to do and I can handle this. Our entire home is tile. And we are redoing the entire house one room at a time plus painting. It’s been 12 years since it’s be redone and everything is old, outdated, and nicked up. I want it redone. I just don’t want to do it but I’ll have to. Can you tell I have adhd. 😂 Sorry I didn’t mean to give you my life story or go all over the world and back. 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️

[@lindamast2766]

Reading your story has caused me some tears for you, such a heartfelt and caring person as you are and had so much to bear. Your post was so many months ago and I hope things have improved over the time that has passed. You sound really talented and gifted with insight also, I wish you many blessings, sometimes they're hard to come by, but hold onto yourself with the love and compassion that you've had for others. Best to you...❤

[@abetterlife5120]

Bahaha! “Mini vans are the Fanny pack of cars.” Love it!! And the advice to pay yourself first is such a smart way to think about saving. I’m doing that today. As alway, love you and your channel!!❤️😘

[@lisabean809]

Oh I so agree with you about a minivan. I am 57 years old and I drove a minivan for over 30 years. In 2018, I bought the minivan of my dreams. The color I wanted inside and out and all the bells and whistles. Unfortunately it ended up being a lemon…big time. My husband kept nagging me to get rid of it, so I finally did this past January and bought an SUV and I have missed it EVERY SINGLE DAY! I could just stick my foot under the side doors as well as the back door and they would open automatically. I absolutely loved it and miss it so much. 😭😭😭😭😭😭 Keep your van!!

[@taylorann7431]

Minimalism in our relationships is so key! Declutter friends... no one wants to say it but its so important for our mental health!

[@scatherall4866]

Hi Cas! I loved watching your show “Hot Mess.” It was unlike ANY other how to home show-so you see you have a SPECIAL gift of communicating, not just about what to do but also assuring people that they need not feel shame for allowing their homes to overwhelm them. I love the Take Back My Home group and your place in it. Thanks SO much for being so AUTHENTIC and helpful🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@julielee4331]

I love your rules and absolutely your content!! Also, I was always anti-minivan, until I became a mom and now I have such minivan envy. Lol. I'll get one one day! Automatic sliding doors, who can say no to that?!?! Ironically, fanny packs or 'belt bags' are all the rage right now, I wonder if this is the start to making minivans cool, Cass! Haha

[@terribrannan1427]

I love the minivan! I’m retired, so I ended up in this fancy little SUV (because it’s cool). I am now a caretaker for my 2 grandkids and I long for this automatic door, awesome headroom and actual 3rd row seats every time I have to fight with those car seats. I’m with ya sister! Let’s bring back the minivan!!!! I love your videos. They are helping me on my journey to a more organized, productive life. Keep up the good work. You have no idea how many lives you are improving❤ Oma Terri from Boise

[@kathrynmckinney7530]

I love your 10 rules as well as your minivan "movement"! I too own an older minivan and I am no longer cool...But I love my minivan. It does everything I need and is easy to get in and out of. It is the BEST for travel on long trips, you can carry so much stuff, and everyone rides in comfort. Who would not want a minivan???

[@brittanyk3241]

Back when I was a kid, I used to be so jealous of the kids who’s mom’s had mini-vans. Maybe I was just weird, but I always thought they were super cool and always looked forward to riding in my friends van’s. Mind you, this was the 90’s when mini-vans were mostly square and had no automatic opening doors and oftentimes had wood paneled sides. My parents only had cars (and one time an 80’s station wagon with reverse seats in the back- can those be brought back too??😂)...smooshing 3 kids in the backside was rough. I drive an SUV with a toddler now, but maybe I could personally rock a mini-van someday 😂

[@8evanesse]

Wow, I resonated with everything you said in this video. I also have social anxiety and automatically say no to social events because I just know I’m going to say or do something stupid and then ruminate about it for days afterwards. Like you said, that has made my life safe, but very small and friend-less. You really seem like someone I wouldn’t be too freaked out to hang out with. Thank you for these rules, I’m going to try to implement them in my own life, and see what happens.

[@seenasunil4432]

Hi Cass, I'm in a process of changing myself. I didn't know the meaning of ADHD, but after seeing your video on ADHD, I realised that I have most of them. And the hacks what you provided was amazing. I see hundreds of organising videos. But none changed me, some say that they were messy blah blah... but after seeing your video it just clicked, it was so geniune, it just motivates me to change myself because I see myself in you. Your videos does not give me a guilty feeling that I'm unable to do things. On the contrary, it just tells me that it's Ok take it easy if I can why can't you.... Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️... It's hard but I will do it...

[@LovinLifesJourney]

Such good rules Cass. I struggle with comparing myself to other KZbinrs and I have to continually remind myself that I also have a full time job and can't do everything that they do. I like your rule about saying yes to scary things but another good rule is to know when to acknowledge that you can't take on anymore and be able to say no. Thanks for sharing. - Chantel

[@ktodd037]

I'm with you on the mini van, I love them. I used to have a mini van and I clearly remember having to use my mini van to bring home an 8' piece of sheet rock so it wouldn't get snowed on in a truck. Mini vanners unite!

[@michellebiggerstaff6841]

I LOVED my minivans, or "Mommy Mobile." I packed all kinds of "just in case" things in there. Had to get rid of mine, because my oldest got too tall for it. His legs didn't fit between the seats, and he was miserable for the last 2 years, before he started driving. Taking the mini-van to a drive-in was awesome too... Pile everything in, get there, put all the seats down, laid out blankets, we were set until time to go home. Mini-Vans for the win!!!!

[@jwjordan]

Thank you for sharing! I am so thankful that you take the time to share and encourage so many people. You are so appreciated! And yes! I agree, the mini van RULES!

[@stacyalbarran7022]

You are the one some of us compare ourselves to...😁 These are all great, thank you. As a therapist..with ADHD...watching and learning from you is part of my self -care💖

[@BeingNancy]

There goes my career in cat hair braiding.😉 But seriously, love your words of wisdom. 💜💜💜

[@carrieanneatreides6240]

It’s so wild to me that you would compare yourself to others! You are the only organizer I follow. You speak to me!!! It was a joy to buy your book and materials. You are you and I’m grateful.

[@uvatech]

LOL on minivans! Today’s minivans are absolutely versatile and way more gadgety than when I had one. My mom had one at 74 because she loved the versatility and packing room for travel. They aren’t anything I need or want these days - our kids are grown and the 3rd seat is usually folded down in our MDX, and I can park this easier than my minivan or the XL SUV I used to drive (post minivan).

[@SecillyJonesandKids]

Perfect timing! I so needed this! And I like minivans! Don't have one but I love how functional they are! Thank you Cas for another awesome video!

[@crystal5419]

I love Mel too! But I have to say Cass, you are right there next to her as one of my favorite positive people I go to. Thank you for sharing your ideas and fun stories with all of us crazy unorganized strangers who love you.

[@tinahamilton5328]

This video is EVERYTHING!!!! I took notes for every rule. I needed these reminders, thank you so much Cas! You are such an amazing woman and I'm so grateful I came across your videos a long time ago. I'm not sure when or where but I'm so thankful I did. 🙏🏼 💜 I appreciate you.

[@anitamorrison5426]

Mid Van is YES YES, I am 75 and it's my truck my tent when it rains. LOVE love my Van.

[@jerishull1860]

You have become one of my favorite YTrs. I didn't know I could like you more untill you started in about mini Vans. I'M IN. I keep thinking I need a truck, but a minivan is perfect. Is there a mini van that can haul a small camper AND fit a full sheet of plywood? I bet there is. May the search begin.

[@josephdaly2015]

Omg those 10 rules are absolutely fantastic. I need to start using them asap. Oh I’m also a procrastinator with everything 🤫🤭🤣 I love how you always keep it real. Stay safe and healthy. Mary, Joes wife 👏🙏👍💪💐

[@MamaInTheMitten]

Great rules. I couldn't help but agree to all of them. Also, a family of 7 here, who has basically reached capacity because after sports and season changes there's just no room haha so I'm waiting for the day I get my transit van😁. Just like the fanny pack (which I also currently rock), the mini van is a timeless accessory for any mom! And yeah we look cool doing it too 😎

[@RosieCarl]

I love you Cas! I learn from you, and you always seem to confirm how I think and how I feel. Your videos are always a pick-me-up in my day, and I always watch to the end! I am with you 100% on minivans. When the first minivans came out, I knew that they had been designed 100% for me. A couple of weeks ago, a friend backed into the front driver's side fender of our 22-year old minivan. It already had a dent in that fender because we had hit a large living room chair that was left in the middle of a dark road out in the country. But now we are getting it fixed. The headliner is falling down all over- the WalMart grocery guy now recognizes me by the condition of the headliner in my van. So, we are working on getting that fixed too. We prefer to keep our minivan going because it is practical and reliable transportation. My husband maintains it, so I don't worry about driving it anywhere. I have never understood the idea of an SUV as a status symbol. So count me in- minivan owners unite! The people who think minivans are not cool are the ones who are missing out!

[@Karen19820]

Haha! The minivan promo at the end made my day. I never owned one myself but my sister sold her “elderly” minivan to a young single guy with a toddler and he LOVES it. 🥰

[@MyFocusVaries]

Great rules. My dad gave me a good one. Never say mean things about yourself. He would always jokingly add, "There's always someone else who's willing to do it for you." But it's true. Kind self talk is a good goal.

[@paulinegagne-bertrand9871]

You have such a good sense of humour Cass. I love your 10 rules to follow. I realized some I already follow. Thanks for the inspiration. Have a good day ❤😊

[@miarenee6703]

Her “thanks for staying till the end” stories are an extra bonus, every time ❤

[@terrieaves1682]

Cass, I so look forward to your videos! I have learned so much from you! Don't ever second guess yourself. We all love you and we love your personality. It helps us to overcome things that hold us back because you encourage us to move outside the comfort zone. We love and appreciate you! ❤

[@debbiemize2269]

Love your ten rules! I work as a beauty consultant and my company’s motto is God First, Family Second, Career Third. I was a teacher when I started this, and schools did not believe they came third! But since I started implementing this slogan, my life has greatly improved! Another motto I got from a fellow consultant is “If it doesn’t bring joy or doesn’t make me money, then I’m not doing it!” That, too, had helped me make a lot of decisions. I am now retired from teaching (6 years!) and another teacher reached out needing judges for an academic fair. I said yes! That will bring me joy!

[@katie7748]

We learned the JOY acronym growing up: Jesus Others You

[@debbiemize2269]

@@katie7748 I like that acronym!

[@seemaprasad6677]

I love the quote from Joyce Meyer when a friend said “Do it afraid”. Great, helps me so much.

[@Bonita20us]

My faves- Taking short cuts! Say no to toxic people!