10 rules that changed my life

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Matt D'Avella

Matt D'Avella

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@mattdavella
@mattdavella 2 жыл бұрын
If you could add one rule to this list what would it be? 🤔
@rainquill_4772
@rainquill_4772 2 жыл бұрын
50lb of bacon a day 😳🥵
@finntheheathen
@finntheheathen 2 жыл бұрын
Done is better than perfect. Comparable with microhabits.
@theocollins4696
@theocollins4696 2 жыл бұрын
pray to the rock every day
@nitzangly13
@nitzangly13 2 жыл бұрын
Take a deep breath before answering difficult questions ☺️
@jessoliveira9572
@jessoliveira9572 2 жыл бұрын
I will definitely take in all the rules and work on it, do laugh at myself a lot, it is hilarious 😅 I will take all in consideration 100%, thank you for the awesome videos
@SMSBJM1981
@SMSBJM1981 2 жыл бұрын
Here is a rule: leave every situation or environment better than you found it. Whether that's really listening to someone, being a courteous driver, or picking up a piece of litter. Edit: I am a bit blown away with the number of people this post resonated with.
@lchaconxo7932
@lchaconxo7932 2 жыл бұрын
100%
@denisetymensky8922
@denisetymensky8922 2 жыл бұрын
My fella uses this whenever he borrows something. He returns it in better condition than it was when he borrowed it. This is his way of being respectful and giving thanks. Great habit.
@natasabroit6520
@natasabroit6520 2 жыл бұрын
This hit me. Thank you 👌🏻
@Sophie-knows-it
@Sophie-knows-it 2 жыл бұрын
Love this!
@Sophie-knows-it
@Sophie-knows-it 2 жыл бұрын
What if I’m sick or kids sick- I’ve missed work now for 3 weeks- my own business 🙈
@Ninaninaninaninaninaninanina
@Ninaninaninaninaninaninanina 2 жыл бұрын
The one rule I’d add: Treat yourself like you‘d treat a friend - more positive affirmations and less negative self talk 😉 I love the idea of the 3 year rule🙏
@deszczak
@deszczak 2 жыл бұрын
yes!!!
@krishnasingh69
@krishnasingh69 2 жыл бұрын
I don't treat my friends tbh
@publiclandarcheryallies7404
@publiclandarcheryallies7404 2 жыл бұрын
This is a rule in Jordan Peterson’s 12 rules of life
@vpambs1pt
@vpambs1pt 2 жыл бұрын
This is awesome!!!! Tysm
@CuJixBeatZ
@CuJixBeatZ 2 жыл бұрын
Especially when it comes to health and visiting the doctor
@ShawnThings
@ShawnThings 2 жыл бұрын
0:13 It's better to be an hour early than a minute late 1:06 Move before you're motivated 2:08 If it won't matter in 5 years, don't spend more than 5 min worrying about it 3:02 Never go to bed angry 4:19 Never use two words when one will do 6:29 Learn to laugh at yourself 7:18 Give yourself three years to reach big goals 8:08 You are responsible for everything 8:42 Never skip a workout two days in a row 9:41 Assume the best in people
@HannahMarieee
@HannahMarieee 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you ☺️
@eclowe6594
@eclowe6594 2 жыл бұрын
The 4:19 of "never use two words when one will do" gave me major Kevin from the office "Why waste time say lot word, when few word do trick?" vibes 😂
@2u841r
@2u841r 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks
@anggadi1564
@anggadi1564 2 жыл бұрын
Hero?? Is that you??
@djpeterabreu
@djpeterabreu 2 жыл бұрын
aka common sense
@luluraheem8487
@luluraheem8487 2 жыл бұрын
One rule that I have, which maybe isn't quite a rule as much as a mindset, is to romanticize life as much as you can, especially the little things. As someone who struggles a lot with fluctuating depression, often times the only way that I am ever able to get out of a depressive episode is to start romanticizing little things. If you can't live for the big things, like family, friends, etc, then live for the little things. Everyday, the things I look forward to the most are drinking tea, taking a walk in nature, cuddling my dog, looking at the trees in the wind, looking at art, listening to music, eating a yummy meal, sitting down to read a book, etc. It's these things that truly make life enjoyable, so don't forget to immerse yourself in them whenever you can! Also, this is especially helpful when I have to do something that I don't particularly want to do, such as housework or an assignment. My little trick to get me through it is to pretend that I'm in a Studio Ghibli movie montage of someone cleaning their house or working. I'll play soft music in the background as though it were the movie soundtrack, and it really helps. It helps me feel as though these boring/unpleasant activities are being romanticized, and a bit less unpleasant.
@abhinavgarg0077
@abhinavgarg0077 2 жыл бұрын
amazingg
@dominikhofbaur
@dominikhofbaur 2 жыл бұрын
@Kathryn721
@Kathryn721 2 жыл бұрын
Love that!
@luzandreafloresr.4189
@luzandreafloresr.4189 2 жыл бұрын
Girl you just gave me the best idea ever. I love Studio Ghibli Movies actually my safe place is Spirited away, literally is probably the movie I have watched more in my entire life but I never thought in thinking in me as a character in a scene when I don't want to do something. Oh you're amazing thank you so much 🤩✨
@luluraheem8487
@luluraheem8487 2 жыл бұрын
@@luzandreafloresr.4189 I'm so glad my silly little trick is helpful to you! I hope you find it useful :)
@JennyMarsala
@JennyMarsala 2 жыл бұрын
My rule: try to be as honest as you can, with people but also with yourself. If you lie, you make things complicated. If someone asks you a question, ask yourself first before you answer.
@yashark1893
@yashark1893 2 жыл бұрын
Jenny, I agree with you. Honesty should be at the top of the Rules. However, These days It is difficult to be completely honest. Why? Being honest means, telling people about their narcissism, passive aggression, grandiosity, Rationality and so on. You may approach as a compassionate friend with the intention of truly wanting to help, but It comes right back at your face. I think these days, its best to learn the rules of human nature, in order to decode what is going on behind the mask and avoid ending up hurting ourselves or others. I truly hope and imagine a future where we can actually be honest with one another without first trying to use the truth the hurt the other and secondly a positive response from the receiver of the truth. But according to history, we have been as such for hundreds of years. It's all engraved in our DNA.
@izabelakowalik351
@izabelakowalik351 2 жыл бұрын
Yes!!!! Honesty seems to be so rare these days.
@Rushikesh.Lahoti
@Rushikesh.Lahoti 2 жыл бұрын
OMG! Are you that famous singer🤩
@zlatan_2197
@zlatan_2197 2 жыл бұрын
One rule I think it's most important for mental health is - don't think that you're late to achieve something. Media is full of very young people who achieved a lot already, and it's very easy to start comparing yourself and thinking that you're too old for achieving anything. But that's so wrong, if you're a college student and lose 2-3 years because of certain life circumstances, that's OK, just move on, in the grand scheme of life those 3 years will turn out to be irrelevant, what is important is that you keep working on what you believe is best for you. That also applies to situations when people realise that they are in the wrong place at, for example 35 or 40 years of age. If you feel you found something new you're very passionate about, don't talk yourself out of it just because you're not in your early 20's anymore. It's never too late.
@CuJixBeatZ
@CuJixBeatZ 2 жыл бұрын
That one is so important. I always catch myself with those thoughts and i am only 24 years old!! Its as simple as this old saying goes: Better late than never. Youre 64 years old and you realize you want to start your own business? Do it! Better late than never!
@RikkeGade
@RikkeGade 2 жыл бұрын
This is so true! I was supposed to graduate January 2021 but here I am at 28, still fighting a severe depression and being on sick since I got diagnosed. I can't wait until I can move on from this!
@paulasolnieto7247
@paulasolnieto7247 2 жыл бұрын
Totally agree!
@ahmedsalafap5898
@ahmedsalafap5898 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@aiden_zae
@aiden_zae 2 жыл бұрын
Im 26 and i have passion is music but recently that passion dies down bcuz my self is telling me theres no chance for me anymore.
@ErikStenbakken
@ErikStenbakken 2 жыл бұрын
Rule 11: Allow yourself - and others - the permission to change. Change your mind. Change your beliefs. Change your assumptions. Change your health. Even change your rules :-)
@CristinaAllegra
@CristinaAllegra 2 жыл бұрын
Super important and I feel like underrated. I hate when people are shocked or dissappointed you changed your mind, but you might have learned new information on the topic or just changed innerly, which is also not a negative thing at all. Other people even tell you that they like you as you are, so you should not ever change. Not changing feels very limiting to me. Not changing is synonimous with not learning.
@artos1955
@artos1955 2 жыл бұрын
“The Only Constant in Life is Change.” - Heraclitus
@deveraux6472
@deveraux6472 2 жыл бұрын
and Change leads to Growth
@nemekSI
@nemekSI 2 жыл бұрын
Love this one, I never understood why ppl would hold it against someone for changing their opinions. I am always adapting to new info and changing opinions all the time!
@PurpleFlowers73
@PurpleFlowers73 2 жыл бұрын
@@CristinaAllegra Thank you for sharing this. Definitely needed to hear it today!
@wfk2757
@wfk2757 2 жыл бұрын
My favourite mindset quote to live by is 'it's a bad day, not a bad life' and it reassures me when I become overwhelmed
@elizamartin4263
@elizamartin4263 2 жыл бұрын
Love this one!
@RachelLPapka
@RachelLPapka 2 жыл бұрын
I have three life rules for myself: be kind (to others and yourself), be smart (educated, informed, and common sense), and be strong (mentally, physically, emotionally). I have never come across a circumstance where these three rules don't apply and generally give a positive outcome.
@LK-ob5jc
@LK-ob5jc 2 жыл бұрын
I love that!
@Noor-bj7bl
@Noor-bj7bl 2 жыл бұрын
This is honestly great
@Noor-bj7bl
@Noor-bj7bl 2 жыл бұрын
I ended up listing down about 23 rules, 10 from the video and 11 from the comments and 2 of my own. Here they are if you are interested: 11. Romanticize your life as much as possible 12. Don’t think you’re late to achieve something 13. Be kind (to yourself, to others), be smart (educated, informed, have common sense), be strong (physically, emotionally, mentally) 14. Always discover new music 15. Try to be as honest as you can 16. Pour into yourself first 17. Date yourself 18. Allow yourself to be bad at certain things 19. Cut out toxic people immediately 20. Show gratitude 21. Celebrate small steps properly 22. It’s easier the second time around 23. You’re not the first person in this situation and you won’t be the last
@Sugam098
@Sugam098 Жыл бұрын
Very useful. Thanks 😊
@AndrixBer
@AndrixBer Жыл бұрын
Looks like you've turned a '10 rules' video into a '23 rules' manifesto! Who knows, maybe you'll end up writing a book on '101 rules that changed my life' next!
@shravangubbi5670
@shravangubbi5670 Жыл бұрын
I have some : 1. Text as if someone is spying on your chats. This way I never text anything harmful. Even if I had to say something strong I say it in a way which is not demeaning. Keeps things professional too.
@17Kiki
@17Kiki 2 жыл бұрын
“How you do one thing is how you do everything” this quote helped me to form the habit of being present in every thing I do. Anything from working to relaxing, I make sure that I’m fully immersed in the task.
@hollymead6406
@hollymead6406 2 жыл бұрын
There are no shoulds, only coulds! Whenever I find myself feeling like I ‘should’ be doing something I remind myself that shoulds don’t really exist. Instead there is a long list of coulds to choose from. Just because someone else would choose one option, doesn’t mean I ‘should’ choose that option too. Life changing!
@dezen0007
@dezen0007 2 жыл бұрын
My productivity has increased gradually along the years watching your videos man . Started my second year of college and i graduated last month. These videos are great ☺️
@garryopimo
@garryopimo 2 жыл бұрын
One of my rule is small things counts. If you neglect things because of how small or insignificant it is you are leaving a hole in a big picture. So try not to neglect things coz sometimes small things matter the most. 😊
@SamMartinPeakPerformance
@SamMartinPeakPerformance 2 жыл бұрын
“Small things count” - try telling my girlfriend that
@raapyna8544
@raapyna8544 2 жыл бұрын
@@SamMartinPeakPerformance I guess you should try telling your girlfriend that because you're the person who knows your girlfriend
@storypathy
@storypathy 2 жыл бұрын
The biggest rule that has helped me and others whenever we feel we have lost our purpose, remember our grander purpose is always to help each other. We all have gifts, talents and energy to share to help others love a better life.
@saramarkowicz
@saramarkowicz 2 жыл бұрын
GREAT VIDEO !! I would add something that changed my life : being interested in how my body works and learning about natural medicine so I can get rid of hard medication at 100% unless something urgent happens (because it can save life of course). Eating healthy, learning about food, natural foods, etc... Game changer for a good health and a good mind !
@goji5887
@goji5887 8 күн бұрын
"It's better to be an hour early than a minute late." This is probably one of the most valuable ones for me. I should remind myself of this more. I'm late more often than not and it makes you feel out of control. Being early more often will make me feel a little more in control of myself again.
@ferris194
@ferris194 2 жыл бұрын
08:45 my "workout" is actually studying and applying this rule to not skip studying 2 days in a row made me very productive.
@sanzen7489
@sanzen7489 2 жыл бұрын
One of my rule is to allow yourself to be bad at certain things. You don't have to achieve perfection every time at every thing, it limits the idea of even trying to improve. By allowing myself to be bad at certain things, I give myself space. As a perfectionist myself, this helped me a lot to start a new task or goal, as I don't try to do it perfectly but just enough.
@carinoscacho7731
@carinoscacho7731 2 жыл бұрын
Having the mindset of taking a 100% of responsibility for my actions and my outcomes was a life changing rule for me too. It's very empowering. I would add: consider yourself as your main competitor. Do not compare yourself to others.
@FranksCreativeCorner
@FranksCreativeCorner 2 жыл бұрын
I have a rule idea: Celebrate your small steps. I find difficult to appreciate the importance of common, everyday tasks towards my goals, so "forcing" me to say "HECK YEAH!" when I do them has improved my motivation, and therefore, my likelihood of keep doing them.
@Veltree
@Veltree 2 жыл бұрын
Another one: Make learning a priority. In good situations and bad situations if you learn something it’s usually a success. But like Dwight said, not everything is a lesson… sometimes you just fail. That’s important to remember too especially if you’re too hard on yourself.
@louisratatoulielinson
@louisratatoulielinson 2 жыл бұрын
Ooh I love this.
@Logiafruit
@Logiafruit 2 жыл бұрын
Asuming the best in people is one of the rules that has improved my happiness the most. Once you stop taking things personnaly, or misinterpreting, and belive in the good side of people, life gets so much easier and you become such a positive person.
@azaleaforest2702
@azaleaforest2702 2 жыл бұрын
Summary 1) it's better to be an hour early to be a minute late 2) move before you motivated 3) if it won't matter in 5 years, dont spend more than 5 min worrying about it 4) never go to bed angry 5) never use two words when one will do 6) learn to laugh at yourself 7) give yourself 3 years to reach big goals 8) you are responsible for everything 9) never skip a workout two days in a row (actually for every habit) 10) assume the best in people
@va1445
@va1445 2 жыл бұрын
Great tips! One thing hubby & I tried that doesn't work for us during out 29+ yr marriage is the "never go to bed angry" thing. Our hottest, most destructive fights are in the middle of the night when we are both tired and sensitive. If we find ourselves going in circles or escalating to an unreasonable level, we take a pause and sleep on it. After sleeping and stepping back, the perspective is so much more productive and reasonable. It doesn't work for everyone, but it does for us. Our tempers are too hot and we are both too stubborn I guess.
@aiden_zae
@aiden_zae 2 жыл бұрын
Same
@msamios.321
@msamios.321 2 жыл бұрын
I can verify the truth of this statement. Was about to write the same thing, truth be told. My husband has a hot temper, and I'm the sort that "borrows" other people's emotions. So we are definitely better off parking the argument, and then addressing it later, when it can be a discussion, not a fight. I think the folks that can hold to "don't go bed angry" don't have hot tempers. Hot tempers need time to cool off before they can be in a place to settle an argument.
@vinucete
@vinucete Жыл бұрын
Same here, and I get cranky when I’m tired or sleepy 😂 thanks for mentioning this
@JoshMathewsofficial
@JoshMathewsofficial 2 жыл бұрын
I feel there’s a million rules a person could follow to get ahead. Videos like this are great but they used to feel a little overwhelming. However, I’m now seeing as I learn more that it’s more based on selecting the rules that work with you and building your own character.
@omarafunitv
@omarafunitv 2 жыл бұрын
Hi Matt! I love every video you upload, but this one is my favorite that you've uploaded in a while. It's going to be so helpful to so many people. Thank you.
@HannahMarieee
@HannahMarieee 2 жыл бұрын
Agreed!
@marelizedutoit6320
@marelizedutoit6320 2 жыл бұрын
The one that made a difference to me and is still making a difference I heard on the channel struthless. If it takes less than 2 mins do it immediately. It helps me daily with procrastinating the small stuff, which always then pile up and becomes a bigger problem.
@Gigusx
@Gigusx 2 жыл бұрын
That's how you want to approach your habits as well. You want to create a routine for your habit that takes less than 2 minutes to get started, after that you're technically done for the day if you want to. The idea is that once you get started you'll keep going anyway, but making it easy to get started is how you actually get into a habit.
@Bill.R.124
@Bill.R.124 2 жыл бұрын
Awesome. As a writer/research/nursing professor, I'm obsessed with good writing and a common remark when grading students' papers is, "EDIT, EDIT, EDIT." Finally, I find that putting off writing my manuscripts is so easy to do. Just start moving (e.g., writing), leads to motivation (in my writing) is something I will remember. Finally, the work-out rule rings true. I always say, I'm too tired after a long hard day at work and "reward" myself (quite the antithesis) by not working, and then feel guilty the next day.
@naturejelisabeth
@naturejelisabeth 2 жыл бұрын
Inspirational as so often! :) I would add three: 1) Trust your gut 2) walk your tempo 3) be kind+respectful - to yourself and others 💜
@susan5661
@susan5661 2 жыл бұрын
Very thought provoking. Two rules I have are to have lights out at 9pm, I love early mornings. I also weigh myself each day. Then I quickly know if I’m on course, or if I need to lighten up u til I am back at my goal weight. Very helpful for me
@FranksCreativeCorner
@FranksCreativeCorner 2 жыл бұрын
I've recently recovered from being sick, and during that time I had to stop doing as much as I was doing before. A week ago I was ready to get back to my habits, but instead I found myself tending to chaos and procrastination, so reminding the importance of having a set of rules in my life made me realise that I should bring them back. Thank you Matt!
@izabelakowalik351
@izabelakowalik351 2 жыл бұрын
I completely understand! Feeling the same way after spending 7 weeks in a hospital and having heart surgery. Just give yourself time. 🙂
@nadiag.2943
@nadiag.2943 2 ай бұрын
I always find myself coming back to your videos, especially when I'm in need of some inspiration ! Really inspiring, thank you Matt for your work throughout the years ✨
@dcoughla681
@dcoughla681 2 жыл бұрын
Great, Matt! Thanks. Another rule I have is “You are not the first person to be in this situation & you won’t be the last.” It gives one a sense of perspective.
@emomz
@emomz 2 жыл бұрын
As someone running a household of four: when you are done with something put it right away straight away. Don’t put it half way away, don’t wait, put it away where it lives now. I don’t manage it all the time but it really helps!
@eclowe6594
@eclowe6594 2 жыл бұрын
I was about to be real mad at you with the "it's really not that difficult to show up on time". I have ADHD. and one of the ways my ADHD manifests is being HORRIBLE at estimating how much time something is going to take. But that solution of 'double the amount of time you think it will take' is actually something that might be helpful for me. The other thing I have started learning is to start timing how long it takes me to do something so I can actually have a realistic idea... so if I combine that with your tip of doubling time I definitely would be better at getting places on time even if I get off track (which is the other reason I often end up late. I realize oh shoot I forgot to do xyz and next thing I know I've forgotten I was supposed to be leaving and shoot that was 5 minutes ago I was supposed to leave...). Appreciate the idea. Will have to track how using that helps me get places on time!
@StarlineHodge
@StarlineHodge 2 жыл бұрын
Whew same here lol. "doubling the time" is worth a shot
@CreativeTies_
@CreativeTies_ 2 жыл бұрын
What impresses me the most about this video is the depth of your own stock library and how well you use it. The one thing I'd add is less of a rule and more of a reminder: It's always easier the second time around - This helps me tackle big projects or re-record a video if it wasn't good enough
@SuryaMarthen
@SuryaMarthen 2 жыл бұрын
Broo, I think is the best advices and rules and not advices to encourage toxic productivity or hustle culture! Definitely writing this down.
@michaelawuthrichkramer3653
@michaelawuthrichkramer3653 2 жыл бұрын
This is one I love for both singles and couples! The 2x2x2 rule. Every 2 weeks go on a date. Every 2 months get away for a weekend. Every 2 years take a vacation. I included singles because I think it’s important to date yourself. You can go with a friend or travel solo!
@Usayyy9295
@Usayyy9295 2 жыл бұрын
This Video just saved a relationship of mine which was about to explode. Thank you so much 😊
@DnAMcD
@DnAMcD 2 жыл бұрын
The rule I'd add: Do the things that your future self will thank you for.
@TraceB
@TraceB 2 жыл бұрын
I definitely need to remind myself of these! The one I’d add is if it takes less than 5 minutes to do I do it now. I have more time after work to relax & spend time outside by doing little things during the day. It adds up & I am less stressed.
@KiranKumarYT
@KiranKumarYT 2 жыл бұрын
My rule is: Watch 1 Matt D'avella Video a Week. This is changing my life since 2020.
@sofia_palmeiro
@sofia_palmeiro 2 жыл бұрын
These are some rules I try to stick up to: 1. to live in the moment, taking day by day; having goals but not worrying too much about the future... and never think resentfully about the past 2. be comprehensive, forgiving and calm with everyone around me (always having boundaries for myself tho) 3. trying not to be angry by things I simply cannot control, because it's a waste of my time and energy 4. go outside every single day, for a walk or a run 5. feed myself with good and nutritious food 6. love the people around me and letting love in - this is what i live for amazing video, as always. keep up with the good work!!
@aljazgorsek2627
@aljazgorsek2627 2 жыл бұрын
Great list, love the first one - life is so much easier if you are present!
@austinbsimms
@austinbsimms 2 жыл бұрын
One of my biggest rules to communicate when someone has made a big impact on my life. Speaking of, every time I feel overwhelmed or hopeless, I turn to Matt's videos. Give everything going on in the world and US politics in particular, I've really felt depressed. This video reminded me to take on what I can and I still have autonomy over my own life. It's nice to feel an ounce more hopeful. Thanks, Matt.
@PatrickSeabird
@PatrickSeabird 2 жыл бұрын
That was really helpful, thank you. One of the best rules I have learned so far: Only ask people for advice who are already where you want to be! Or, as Naval says: "If you want to make the wrong decision, ask everyone!" We all to often ask for advice and receive advice from people who have never done what we want to do and who don't have any clue about the topic.
@ThrottleDownunder
@ThrottleDownunder 2 жыл бұрын
Matty I love seeing footage of you when you were in Sydney. I've lived here my whole life and great to see it showcased
@RyanRyan-Ryan
@RyanRyan-Ryan 2 жыл бұрын
Over the years of reading self help books and listening to high level performers I have adopted many rules you mentioned. I am not perfect and I will have to adopt the don't miss a habit 2 days in a row, this will be a big one for me as I tend to beat myself up when I lose a "streak"
@hyperintrovert
@hyperintrovert 2 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR YOUR WORK MATT, YOU ARE THE BEST!
@pradeepvincentmusic
@pradeepvincentmusic 2 жыл бұрын
Matt, you're just good man. Just fucking good. Information + Comedy + Cinematography! 🙌🏽
@AKV_Abhishek
@AKV_Abhishek 2 жыл бұрын
Even though squarespace sponsored a lot of Matt's videos...Each sponsor segments gets more and more creative without boring us with same repetitive sentences 😅... MATT is a True creative professional hands down 😅💯
@kellyheeralall8361
@kellyheeralall8361 Жыл бұрын
"being angry at someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to suffer."
@mihaidumnicai
@mihaidumnicai 2 жыл бұрын
I am in alignment with what you are saying. It is better to get early somewhere than to be 1 minute late, we are responsible for our results, exercise. Love it. ❤️
@TedPatrickBaird
@TedPatrickBaird 2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely love the 8-Mile reference. Such a strong point about learning to embrace our flaws.
@thattannerguy856
@thattannerguy856 2 жыл бұрын
I do agree with the "assume the best in people" rule. I've been around my friends, parents, or even my fiancee when they make a snap negative judgement out loud and I've literally said to them things along the lines of "what if that person just lost their job. What if they just found out their grandma died. What if that person just went through a break up" You truly don't know. I'll give people a free pass and the benefit of the doubt more often than not. Even in working customer service jobs in the past I've done this and have received several apologies from people who then tell me their real story. Classic honey vs vinegar. Just be the best person you can be, if others still suck, at least you know it's not because of you
@HannahMarieee
@HannahMarieee 2 жыл бұрын
Wow this video is so good Matt! Many of these rules are exactly what I need to hear right now. And also the film making is en point as always, thank you for your work!
@jessoliveira9572
@jessoliveira9572 2 жыл бұрын
I am currently binging all your videos, I miss watching it😎 Love from UK and I am excited for this video 🙌💯
@ClintThrust-e8r
@ClintThrust-e8r 2 жыл бұрын
Rule 8 was the most important philosophy I have adopted in my life. I find the feeling of being powerless and stagnant inaction, are a recipe for depression and nihilism. Rule 8 forces you to find ways to help yourself and not be a victim of circumstance.
@Subzero3-n7r
@Subzero3-n7r Жыл бұрын
I don't remember where this is originally from, but a rule that I follow is: "Surround yourself with the people you want to be." Whether that be joining a new study group to get smarter or going to the gym to become more fit, this rule really helps me out a lot. :)
@nicolejulie3461
@nicolejulie3461 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Matt for always being insightful! My mindset has drastically changed for the better because of your videos:)
@DanEager
@DanEager 2 жыл бұрын
I started watching Married at first sight Australia during lockdown and now I'm hooked 😅
@lavishresale7280
@lavishresale7280 2 жыл бұрын
The 2 day rule is genuinely life changing it and if you stick to it for long enough then it really allows you to see the profound affect of compounding.
@hiromikkopanguito6213
@hiromikkopanguito6213 Жыл бұрын
Very helpful sir. Matt D'Avella Thankyou for sharing from the Phillipines🇵🇭
@constantinoszarbalas4066
@constantinoszarbalas4066 2 жыл бұрын
Stellar video and super helpful!! 🤘🏻🤘🏻 If I HAD to add one more rule, I’d say to speak well to yourself. Positive self talk is an invaluable catalyst to positive change ✌🏻
@hunter.hardin
@hunter.hardin 2 жыл бұрын
Hes truly an inspiration, hes the reason I started making my own videos! It would mean a ton if you could give me some feedback on mine.
@cookingfordads
@cookingfordads Жыл бұрын
Thanks, great video. I would add, always look for ways to encourage people. Telling people they are awesome or how that are good at something cheers you both up. It's a win/win. Thanks again. Keep up the good work.
@mitziarciga3094
@mitziarciga3094 2 жыл бұрын
Great video, as always! I'm especially motivated with the three year rule. Yay! Giving myself permission to suck at something for 3 years, here I go!
@fearlesslionmedia4232
@fearlesslionmedia4232 2 жыл бұрын
My biggest takeaway is the 3 year rule. I think that helps to give me a bigger window of opportunity to achieve a goal. I feel like everything needs to be conquered and finished by the end of the year, and it's unrealistic. I'm implementing that in my goals 👌🏾
@marwamidhat2961
@marwamidhat2961 2 жыл бұрын
If person can make words as practical workable life habits that is the one video that actually did , Thank you Matt
@kaiokevprod
@kaiokevprod 2 жыл бұрын
this content is always so relevant and useful, thank you for your advice and wisdom 💯
@Iggy0612
@Iggy0612 2 жыл бұрын
Appreciate Matt telling me exactly how much to fast forward during the add break
@astro__1
@astro__1 2 жыл бұрын
This video clarified so much things to me. It was like a short podcast and I watched it between exercises during my workout, I appreciate that
@hunter.hardin
@hunter.hardin 2 жыл бұрын
Hes truly an inspiration! Hes the reason I started making my own videos! It would mean a ton if you could give me some feedback on mine.
@maximilian952
@maximilian952 2 жыл бұрын
2:00 one of my all time favourite shots of you and nat
@EviLilianCherry
@EviLilianCherry 2 жыл бұрын
"If it won't matter in 5 years, don't spend more than 5 min worrying about it." is what I always tell my friends and myself when I go crazy worrying about sth!
@jck01010101
@jck01010101 Жыл бұрын
This one is difficult - my mortgage rates are about to go sky high - Im worried sick -it may not be important in 5 years but it is now.
@jenn1663
@jenn1663 2 жыл бұрын
My Rule: Tell people when they do something that changes your life for the better, even if it's small. You have no idea how much letting someone know that may mean to them.
@cronoxofficial
@cronoxofficial Жыл бұрын
You just did and made me smile! Have a great day 🍀
@nirau
@nirau 2 жыл бұрын
This video is really helpful and good timing too. I start new job tomorrow, one I wanted to pursue for a year, and it's been such a stressful day idk why. I really resonated with advice # 3 - If it won't matter in 5 years, don't spend more than 5 min worrying about it, it has such a big calming effect on me like a big cold wave of cool water. thanks
@hunter.hardin
@hunter.hardin 2 жыл бұрын
Hes truly an inspiration! Hes the reason I started making my own videos! It would mean a ton if you could give me some feedback on mine.
@LEgicA5
@LEgicA5 2 жыл бұрын
So much positivity and motivation in this video!❤ Recently I love TK Coleman’s rule: Be curious, not furious! Meaning in communication, don’t start a fight if someone assumes something wrongly about you, but respond with a question: How come you think that? What made you think that? What do you mean?😊
@LEgicA5
@LEgicA5 2 жыл бұрын
@Official_MattDAvella where can I acknowledge my prize? 🤩
@shubhamghosal9336
@shubhamghosal9336 2 жыл бұрын
Stoicism/ and being philosophically sound eases the way of living a lot.
@ajbradley4617
@ajbradley4617 2 жыл бұрын
If there's one thing from this channel that had changed my life it's the 2 minute rule. Future me is always so grateful that I dealt with the small things and can focus on the bigger things.
@Manila-7
@Manila-7 2 жыл бұрын
How is this man always on top of the game when it comes to his yt videos? It's always a pleasure to watch your videos Matt, thank you
@EmanNagi
@EmanNagi 2 жыл бұрын
I really missed watching your content. Thanks for being out there.
@ahmermirza
@ahmermirza 2 жыл бұрын
Rule# 7 works. I can confirm. For smaller goals e.g. starting a workout regime, it can be like the Monday next week. When you allow yourself the time, you can do this mental preparation of what its going to be like the actual hour you're working out. This way, not only you are prepared mentally, but you also give your laziness enough time to go away and be ready when the time actually comes to jump into action!!
@debbiemclean1090
@debbiemclean1090 2 жыл бұрын
I'm disabled so I would say, be kind to yourself. If you don't manage something there is always tomorrow and if tomorrow doesn't come it won't matter xxxxxxxx
@highsol222
@highsol222 2 жыл бұрын
You're speaking the truth! And heres a bonus one from observing the big dogs: In this world execution is praised above all else. Make it happen. Make it happen. Make it happen.
@revg.reaper7523
@revg.reaper7523 2 жыл бұрын
Love how Matt has the snooze button activated when scheduling his mid-life crisis . . . Always have Hope!
@tanyawissing1060
@tanyawissing1060 2 жыл бұрын
My partner and I started something new a few weeks ago. We don't check our phones for the first 30 - 40 minutes of our day, longer if we can. Personally I find that I'm in a better mood for the day and I'm more productive because I don't start my day off looking at a screen of demands.
@theaveragegamer1996
@theaveragegamer1996 2 жыл бұрын
Here in the UK we saying taking the Mick or taking the piss as well. It's the most important tool for self development I've found. If you can't laugh at yourself or even the crappy things in life from time to time you're just gonna be miserable. Laugh at your shortcomings and you'll soon get better at them
@smilebot484
@smilebot484 2 жыл бұрын
things that helped me a lot was to realize 1. this too will pass, also 2. don't upset yourself. upset isn't in the world. you gave rise to it.
@rudriguezbauer7520
@rudriguezbauer7520 2 жыл бұрын
I have always been fascinated by investing, but without adequate knowledge on the right thing to do, I find it difficult to start. *I politely ask, what’s the best sector to invest in?*
@johnpoter9007
@johnpoter9007 2 жыл бұрын
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@orionmayhew2138
@orionmayhew2138 2 жыл бұрын
I'm glad I stumbled upon this. My wife and I works with Phoebe. Before now, we spent more and saved less. Phoebe changed that mindset and gave us a way to generate money investing in the financial market. Working with Phoebe, opened our eyes to a lot of investment opportunities, which in turn, helped us become less dependent of our earned income.
@thomaswright968
@thomaswright968 2 жыл бұрын
Dope as always! The rule that I'd add would be, unless there is a good reason not to do so, if it takes less than a minute, do it now!
@saraldl
@saraldl 2 жыл бұрын
The Art Of Possibility!! Rule no. 6 is the same one in that book !
@saikumargorantla
@saikumargorantla 2 жыл бұрын
Matt, I'm basically you when you are out of college. If I turn things around, a huge part of the change would be directly attributable to you. Thanks a lot!
@zinahere16
@zinahere16 2 жыл бұрын
I'm a fan! Just stumbled upon your channel a few days ago and love your videos - crisp, clear, inspiring...I could go on. I think your going to change my life for the better! Thanks! Keep doing what you are...
@hunter.hardin
@hunter.hardin 2 жыл бұрын
Hes truly an inspiration, hes the reason I started making my own videos! It would mean a ton if you could give me some feedback on mine.
@therobertnewsshow
@therobertnewsshow Жыл бұрын
I like the three year rule idea for big goals. Not just because you are allowed to give up if you don't succeed after three years, but because if you commit to doing something for three years you're more likely to put some effort into really thinking and feeling out what actually matters to you and what you would actually want to do for such a long time. If it's just a fleeting desire or idea, you probably won't be able to put three years of effort into it anyway.
@TakeBackYourMind997
@TakeBackYourMind997 2 жыл бұрын
Doing the first 3 minutes of a task you don't feel motivated to do is a great little hack to get you in action. After those first 3 minutes, it's almost more difficult to not carry on most of the time.
@raapyna8544
@raapyna8544 2 жыл бұрын
I generally think good of people too. It's better than getting angry at things that you can't control (other people's behaviour). If it's someone you're interacting with in your day-to-day, you can observe and if it happens frequently, take it up with them. 'I feel like you do -this-. I don't like it because it makes me feel -this-. Would you (please) consider -this- in the future?'
@pwtplanetcob
@pwtplanetcob 2 жыл бұрын
Good advice. Worrying about things out of your control is always something that brings your mind to a living hell. Aka in fear. Compassion over judgment in every situation. Kindness. Love Desiscions only! Destroy your Expectations. Wanting someone to do something they don't want to do, will only bring you straight to hell on earth. (Again thats in fear) instead. Try wanting people to do, what they want to do. Then, no matter what, they will be doing, what you want. Try new things with new people. Those are the directions that brought be Heaven on Earth, in Love with life. Hit me up when you get here and lets share an experience. The new awaits!
@fooferstree
@fooferstree 2 жыл бұрын
Rule number 11: Allow yourself time and space to feel your feelings.
@dudysv
@dudysv 2 жыл бұрын
Feel your feelings. If you feel sad, take a moment and feel sad. The more you bottle the more it builds up and the harder it will be to deal with later. Yes, if it won't matter in 5 years, try not to dwell too long...but you still need to feel it! Even if it's just something small like a miscommunication with a coworker or stubbing your toe. FEEL THE FEELINGS. Oh, and don't judge those feelings when you feel them. Observe them. Think about them. But don't tear yourself down in the process.
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