10 "selfish habits" you need to start now to have a good life!

[@haileygamba]

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[@hivyfalou1393]

I love your videos so much, they helped me start really putting my life before being drained, and I love that it's not the personal development style that only copy what others said, yours is authentic😍

[@hivyfalou1393]

I never knew how being in rush was so unhealthy, espcially if I want to do something that is important or work related, it could be damaging sometimes

[@nuninuninu5095]

I don't call it selfish; I think of it as SELF FULL

[@myprideandjoie]

I like that…perspective.

[@manibananii]

this is so real

[@janellefrickert6522]

♥ Breakdown of the 10 tips to remind yourself to : 1. Avoid answering calls/texts when busy 2. Not let people occupy your time/mind if they don't have a plan for you (ex. a guy seems interested in you but doesn't do any effort) 3. Prioritize gym/workout time 4. Dedicate one day per week just for you to reset and recharge 5. Invest in yourself when it's worth it and it really brings you joy 6. Plan in advance so you're not overwelmed 7. Stop being the "go-to" friend 8. Embrace softer and slower living 9. Create a reward system (ex. get a mani/pedi when you've accomplished a daunting task) 10. Cultivate an exciting social bubble that fits you

[@dreamer6943]

Thanks for this great summary

[@YuriSoriel]

❤

[@lizzielove_NYC]

💯💯💯💯

[@lizzielove_NYC]

Where did you get your microphone 🎤

[@syddakid4042]

yes!!! I need this! I find myself always putting someone first and over myself and then hurt when they don’t do the same for me. I know this is gonna be good😭 thank you in advance ❤️

[@KeyriEsmeralda]

Exactly the same thing happens with me but that will for sure change from now on

[@BettinaGoolsby]

“and then hurt when they don’t do the same for me!!!” THIS 💯

[@emmahunt9279]

Being an unpaid therapist to a friend / partner can wreck your mental health. I would call / message friends whilst at work, in the bath, have to put my book down whilst having my only free time a week (I’m a mum to 2 boys) to call or voice note friends back who needed me. It’s overwhelming. Becoming “selfish” and saying sorry I can’t text right now doesn’t mean you are a bad friend, it means you need to fill your cup before you can pour. Some friends may pull away when you start to try and prioritise yourself as they are so used to you being their go to friend to chat, but that just means you’re doing things right.

[@jd517]

I recently stopped texting people back and responding to any and everything. I poured into the people that can show up for me in real life and myself. I was so sick of texting people I knew I would never see irl. My phone is dry af but I've been able to fill the void with workouts, meal planning, reading and etc. I was always seen as selfish and now I don't care. I need balance and time to work on me. This video just confirmed it.

[@haileygamba]

I can relate ❤

[@jessbreathenails3747]

Yes this is me currently, it’s a beautiful place to be🩷

[@IamNobody1-o3n]

You just described my life

[@dreamer6943]

Yes! I'm thought of as weird because I only do IRL friendships (and will text/call those people to arrange to meet, so I can give them my full attention). I have no interest in pseudo-friendship that only exists via technology, I find it unfulfilling.

[@Jra16-o6t]

I thought it was just me who had these “text-only” friends. I feel so much better now that I’ve given up doing ALL of the arrangements to meet up, just for them to cancel 100% of the time. What a burden!

[@mwila5139]

I have started my unfollow spree instead of frowning when ever i come across unpleasant and negative posts

[@followingmydestinee4574]

“Sometimes it’s the boyfriend.” 😭😭😭 you so real for that.

[@Jamgirl30]

It’s such a coincidence you uploaded this today because on your ig when you posted for us to ask you questions in your stories, what popped in my mind was “healthy ways to be selfish” but i didn’t send it. We appreciate youuu ❤️

[@Jamgirl30]

Being “selfish” is a part of my shadow that I’ve been trying to work on and needed this. Thank you again 💗

[@sc1253]

I’m a 51 yr old woman who has put my family & others above myself my entire life . I was a caregiver to my beloved mum & dad my entire life . I loved my beloved parents tremendously but in the process of caregiving i lost myself , my life , my identity . Today i am searching looking with a lantern to find myself . I’m an empath , a giver , very compassionate & put all above myself . How do i start on the self love journey & learn to prioritise myself for the first time in my life 😢😢. Can someone chime in with your input . Thank you

[@frochoffthebranch]

Those are beautiful traits of a good heart. Just remember to take time to do what you love and remember that people need you less than you think but they will become conditioned to having you available if you show them that’s an option. I am the same. When You express to someone You are going to take time to do something for yourself, even in small ways, they may not get it at first but they will eventually learn to respect you even more for that and the added vitality you gain through that process will enrich your relationships going forward so they will want to them encourage you in doing those things also. It’s beautiful to be of service to others, but in our one life we must advocate for our own quality of life as well. ❤

[@sc1253]

@@frochoffthebranch . Thank you so much for responding

[@chanteserobinson]

Hi, I am the same. I have been seeking that SELF love journey, if I can just share what I’ve learned: To enjoy your me time, rather it’s cooking, shower, drive down the road… embrace that time, listen to music you like or whatever your art is… create me days … take yourself on a date, get cute, treat yourself. Etc…. Sorry I’ve been slowly failing in love with me and my me … I’m cheering and supporting you, on your journey! Also keep being great, God places some people on earth as angels !

[@justathought274]

Hard relate on so many levels. Be kind to yourself. Baby steps. It’s a process and you might benefit from the support of a therapist. There’s a lot to come to terms with and heal. That’s a lot of life giving and at 51 you can feel robbed. I get it. Good luck on your journey. X

[@_M_7]

Explore who YOU are without all of those identities. Prioritize yourself with the time to figure that out.

[@jaelasam]

Often times, dealing with the guilt associated with choosing myself and setting boundaries is truly a struggle so this resonated either me 💞

[@ziia_xx]

"there are things that need to be done and im gonna do it, im gonna do it all"

[@angeliquealamer]

The timing, baby!! I was JUST thinking about this specific word and how we sometimes can’t be selfish enough, even after seeing where we’re going wrong, and how hard of a habit it is to change!!

[@nickandchrismom]

Sometimes "selfish" is just the ticket!! Definitely trumps ppl pleaser or doormat.... LOVE

[@toaozay]

The timing of this?? I have to make the change, it can really get to a life and death point, which it did for me this past weekend. It’s a scary change but the result of not changing it is much scarier. Thank you for this Hailey ❤

[@firandcurly84]

I'm learning self preservation. I do believe self preservation is the highest firm of morality.

[@frochoffthebranch]

I appreciate the point that part of being available to others always is an inner desire to want to be needed. I didn’t realize that was part of my inclination to be there for everyone. Since having kids it’s become easier to not allow friends and family to reach out constantly, but I can see how I was training their behavior to interact with me in a certain way. I have now learned (like you perfectly described) that I need to be available less but when I have the right opportunity to be available, I will be there 100% for them. Got tired of living messy and giving my energy to people who didn’t really need me but just needed someone to amp them up instead of working on the factors in their own life that would make those changes ❤

[@dreamer6943]

I agree. I used to think oh they need me, they're calling on me so it must be serious! Now I'm aware that there's people in the world who'd have me tie their shoelaces for them if they could, for no reason other than it's easier than them bending down to do it themselves.

[@Thisisbrittanylenee]

When I say this video could not have come to me at a better time! It hit on EVERYTHING that I needed to hear. You are officially my internet big sister 🫶🏽🩷

[@marisocorro355]

Its totally awesome to be selfish, it protects you and takes you away from toxic people and environment ❤

[@miss.unimpressed]

Haileyyyy! Thank you .I kid you not I was praying yesterday and I identified a problem I have ,I tend to procrastinate because of my people pleasing habits,I give so much to everyone else I have no energy or will power left for me and my life. I didn't know what habits I could take up to counter this because I have to do better by myself ,look at God using you to answer a prayer , love you 💞

[@hoteluytihouseofmorel5541]

You are wise beyond your years and as a 43-year-old mother of 3 , I am so happy to implement the tips that you provide. Thank you.

[@desthecapricorn]

Perfect timing cause why do ppl like to talk to me as soon as I wake up omgg omg

[@sounmarkunmarkunmar]

It’s shocking how Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest isn’t being discussed. The book is full of life-changing insights, yet no one seems to notice. Time to break the trance and read it yourself!

[@sithj398]

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[@maddyG7414]

@@sithj398lol yep, I’ve seen this same comment for a bunch of weird books

[@sithj398]

@@sounmarkunmarkunmarYeah I think these are dumb robots posting

[@RaShe105]

I wish I had the 2nd point said to me earlier. Would save me so much heartbreak and trauma along the line. People and social media always tell me "PEOPLE DON'T OWE YOU ANYTHING". When in fact, they do. Especially when they approached you first. Thank you, Hailey. :')

[@KhyiaStephens]

Hailey. Ive been a. subscriber I think for a year now. Im just starting college and your videos are just perfect. Obviously anyone can take anything from your videos and apply it to their life, however I am so glad I found your videos right before my 20's. You are so wise, and I literally take notes every time you post. Your advice is so fitting for the time I am in-right now. Your amazing 💗

[@Lyfewithsamantha]

I want to cry because I take everyone’s call today was the most overwhelming I find it difficult to communicate that I’m busy or I’m not able to talk at the moment I’m so used to these people getting upset if I am not available for them when they need me and it’s sadder because it’s family I really needed to hear this

[@veritable_sisterhood]

Sis, you have to take care of yourself before you can take care of everyone else and not answering calls when you don't want to is part of self care. ❤

[@asianegri8057]

WAKE UPPP!!! THE QUEEN HAS POSTEDDD!!!

[@lillywantsheranchovypizza107]

7:55 i honestly have never agreed with this simply because ive had friends and relationships drain me but tbh, i agree when it is used in this context. being friends with people who arent trying to grow with you nor do we equally pour into each other, it’s a waste of time

[@Lyfewithsamantha]

Class is in session 🫶🏻🤌🏻

[@MsBigmille]

I’m a Cancer too. It’s crazy how we all have the same characteristics. I suffer from this and I’m tired! Just broke up with my dusty and I’m ready for a change cause nothing is making me happy. Your video came right in time.

[@MovedByHisGrace]

I am so grateful to have come across your account. Your mindset is literally an affirmation of mine and it’s so motivating. Thank you so much Hailey for having a great influence on everyone watching, you are truly appreciated❤

[@se2664]

This is so difficult as an adult still living with family… All my friends ask “whEn arE u GonNa moVe ouT” but they have no intention with helping to pay my rent. My mom always complain I’m selfish when I’m actually feel like I’m not selfish enough! I need to work 2 jobs to afford the rental prices in todays market. Which means I won’t be able to enjoy living in my home

[@mirellamfreitas]

Another video, Another slay! I loved this one because I used to be such a people's pleaser that I didn't even know how I was and my days were dedicated to others, but now... I'm called selfish by people who don't respect themselves or others and I'm going to adopt this new habits and be even selfisher and happier! Love you Hailey! ❤

[@haileygamba]

Love you back ❤❤❤

[@honesty_u]

Oh yes Queens! 🎀 I wish Hailey reminded us all how important is to know and be able to choose ourselves, and here she is, the Queen of knowledge herself, making our path easier.♥thank you love

[@tianakamil7966]

Loved this so much because I've been called selfish all my life so it's convinced me that I'm doing something wrong but I literally have been living this way naturally. I put myself first and do what's best for my benefit. My first video i saw of you and it just gained a new subscriber. Reassurance taken

[@Fayalfadhly147]

I am mesmerized by how much you have changed Hailey !!! Wow , such an inspiration !! You look gorgeous ❤ what I love about you is that I can see what you preach , you don’t just say words for clout , I can see that you really believe what you say and apply it in your life. you came a long way , you deserve this greatness and much more , I follow you for maybe 3~4 years now , I love the woman you became , you are on my list of women who inspire me now.

[@MelissaRawlings-rl6fk]

I'm 3 months pregnant with a high risk 🤰 😢 and I'm about to take your advice. As soon as the phone goes off even for toxic assholes all it does is make me feel ill and worried. Today it all changes.

[@GoddessRael88]

The 3rd video I've watched of yours back to back I'm so ready to level up and become the woman I truly am meant to be ...much gratitude to you giving out helpful tools to help move forward thru this shadow period in my life I await my blooming moment 🌹✨

[@LoomiMo]

Thankful for this channel, from a girl that was too nice and felt like I had no time for myself.✨

[@sarahwilliams1086]

Hey Hailey, I just wanted to post here that you have been such an inspiration and lifestyle guide. What you do is incredible and I really hope you never stop posting videos and podcasts because you truly have a gift. God has blessed you with the ability to speak in a way that really does allow women to be healed emotionally and get their lives on track. Thank you for being so amazing!!

[@lillywantsheranchovypizza107]

thank you for this video. so many people only support your improvement if it benefits them. this must be a sign because im almost 25 and one of your first tips is literally why im about to lose a “friend” and i felt like i was a bad friend for not texting back simply bc i have been so busy i barely have time for me. i communicated this as well and its not enough for this “friend”

[@atnicole___]

When you are super giving, this video is important.

[@amandamontes1059]

Hailey, you look STUNNING! 💕

[@cocoadiva33]

Yasss hunni. This is the platform I have been looking for. I love your realness. Subscribed and keep up the excellent content.❤

[@caitlin2264]

Your video came up on my recommendations. Watched this, and I can happily say I notice a shift in my behavior just by adopting the principles you mentioned here. Looking forward to more self-empowering videos like this! xo

[@Wolfbankz]

Currently watching you while doing my Sunday reset you make get my life back on track love you hails 🤍

[@joannefunkhouser7941]

New Pisces subscriber and I feel like the talks/topics you choose help me so much!

[@BlackFairy-zk7wl]

This is so on time I'm going back to school this semester and saying no to most invites because I WILL get on the Dean's list. This semester and beyond is personal!

[@EsterIsaacs]

Stick wid people that fits your mental quality, and that's the main thing that stands out right there🤫🥰🌺

[@EsterIsaacs]

Heaven bless you🌹😍😜

[@Lararins]

Such useful unique information. There is so much recycled content but no this. Chefs kiss

[@dasialifestyle]

I needed to hear this, especially as a cancer. Thank you Hailey! ❤

[@THEEINTIPRINT]

I went to like this video just to realize I already liked it lol can you make a video on how to shop properly and build a stable wardrobe?

[@williesmith3466]

Yes!!!! Recently, I came across a woman. She wanted to correct me when I told another woman no thank you for a free ticket. The old woman said I should have said thank you, but no thank you. Than twenty minutes later she wanted me to get her a glass of water but she didn’t say please or thank to me before or after the water. I was angry with myself that I served her. So, at the next meeting I have made up my mind not to serve her when she ask. I said all of this because I am sick of serving other people’s need and they never serve my needs. Plus, I have heart failure and most of the time I can just serve myself and really don’t want to serve anyone else.

[@lilENAA14]

Clicked soo fast, thanks gorgeous! 💜

[@madhumitabishtt]

Love Hailey to death. Been a sub since 3 years now and I’ve seen her grow through thick & thins. I can say she’s been through a self care journey❤

[@haileygamba]

🥹🫶🏽

[@staxkertmt]

I’m pretty young not even an adult yet but I’m quite mature. And honestly your content helps me so much. And I love how articulate you are as well you’re great at explaining things because I really struggle but you say much better than I can. So thank you HAILEY!!😭🩷👏🏽🌸

[@ebonidaneen5639]

Yass first thing I see when I opened youtube needed this topic !!

[@stephaniearbino3668]

I love your mindset! Can you please speak more on your financial mindset, how you were able to stop spending frivolously always trying to get a good deal, can you please make a video on that?? Thank you! Also, I thought you were vegan, am I wrong?

[@oldvintagesoul]

I needed to hear this. I wanted to be the perfect friend and be there for everyone and now my friends around me are living different lives, getting married and having kids so friendships are changing and I feel like I haven’t grown at all because I didn’t think about myself..

[@naynayzj]

Per usual this video is right on time! I got too invested into important family matters this week and failed a test for a job today😢. I am still learning how to balance it all. I remember in one of your videos you discussed dopa -hacking, and it is now some thing I live by. Having a reward after doing something tough or uncomfortable is KEY to me getting that task done. Thanks so much Hailey!! 💛

[@farfromacurse7402]

You’re really my online bestie. So grateful for you🙏🏾

[@toshonline5]

This deserves 1 billion likes

[@leah38521]

You’re looking so beautiful! Silky black hair really suits you 👌🏾

[@nessyabs]

I have been bingeing your videos lately!! I love your content so much Hailey, it's helping me get out of a rut both mentally and physically, can't appreciate you enough💗p.s. you are absolutely gorgeous!!!

[@haileygamba]

Thank you so much ❤ I appreciate you for tuning in

[@elizabethalvarenga7708]

Hailey, you just made my day. Love your message and the energy you bring to your videos. Keep up the amazing work!

[@BEAUTYINMOTIONWITHKD]

Grrrrrl grrrl grrrl!! Your number one language is BIG FACTS!!!!! I had to learn to ENFORCE all of this for the last time recently! Ppl pulling and NOT pouring ! No Ty I’m busy!!!!

[@JAYD1476]

Bless this video. I have always been selfish tho. Funny not funny but ppp have always percieved me as selfish bc i dont give my time to anyone who is not worth it. My previous boss(a selfish narccicistic person)always told me in front of other co workers that im selfish (Because while they made friends at work& went out for coffee w each other)I didnt do that. I didnt participate in their work group friendships bc i went home(lunch & the gym & shower & did my chores ,some days i spent w my grandma,& some days i did the groccery shoppng,& some days took dancing classes or even just did self care. Truth be told ,working out clears my mind and i find it useless spending my free time at the coffee shop gossiping for 2 hrs. Nope. Everywhere i go im labeled as self centered ,But hey...i already have friends frm college. I dont need new ones. Some people either are dumb or just dont wanna get it😂

[@RT-fs3tt]

My motto for 2024 was “ice princess” I ❤ selfish energy

[@Pieralee901]

Haileyyyy would you ever be open to doing a sort of Q&A where you answer questions on different life scenarios? For example how to approach certain/specific situations? Hope that makes sense lol I need your intellect in my life rn 😭💞

[@ashleyrosales1685]

I’m inlove with your videos,, I wish more people would notice how good your advice is and how amazing and interesting you are 😍😍😍🙏

[@BettinaGoolsby]

GIRL!! felt all of this. fantastic video/notes.

[@VC-pq3ui]

I’ve been doing these since I was born. This is good.

[@maddyG7414]

As always, you never come at these topics from a black and white view ❤. It’s not selfish to preserve your energy, because we do not have unlimited stores of it! One thing I’ve also realized is I tend to act as the ‘rescuer’ in friendships. I end up enabling certain people who really should learn things like self soothing, facing their problems and coping with the consequences of their actions, vs always coming to me as a sounding board. Of course you want to support your friends, but there’s a difference between someone needing a shoulder, and then not being able to manage themselves without another person. It’s a boundary I’ve had to set so I can handle MYSELF.

[@haileygamba]

Beautifully said ❤ thanks for always being here to leave a wonderful comment

[@nikkip7439]

So very relatable!! I’m always looking for tips to improve my life and while listening to your video, I’m like “yep”, “uh huh”, “omg I used to do that, too!”, then when you said “I’m a cancer” I laughed so hard bc so am I!! 7/5! ♋️ Stay beautiful fellow cancerian!!💝

[@isabelcastaneda7439]

Needed this so much right now! Your videos are always spot on! Thank you for taking the time to make great videos and great content. So grateful!

[@444sunnibiswas]

this truly came at the right time, thank you hailey :)

[@deedriawoods7609]

This is the first month I refused to schedule any hangouts. I do allow people to call, I’m single women so I like to be able to call people through out the week.

[@TheIslandempiress]

Being the Cancerian go to,lol. Same here, had to start setting boundaries years ago.

[@Tina-y4u6e]

Yup cuz if u don’t take care of urself u can’t be strong for others ❤

[@LatoyaSmythe-xj5hk]

This Video About To Make Me Cry🦋 Words I Can’t Explain The Fact You Cane Out With This Video🥹 Hailey You Is The Best Like Your Energy Your Growth Your Personality🫶🏾 You Always Give Off Rich, Classy, Positive, Peace, Calm & Baddie Fun Vibes🎀 When You Talk I Vision My Higher Self Version Of Me & I Know It’s Go Come True Look at You & A lot of Beautiful Queens Who Reach That Self Value Respect Level💋💫🐚👑🔥‼️

[@haileygamba]

You are the best thank you so much ❤

[@LatoyaSmythe-xj5hk]

you welcome Queen🎀

[@VendieSolde]

These damn phones have ruined our lives!! In the 90s nobody had 24/7 access to anyone else!

[@nkyla_e]

Thanks Hailey! This is right on time 🥹 more tips on organization pls

[@lia3111]

I’m really trying to work on not entertaining anyone that’s not reciprocal.

[@sovereigngabi]

Whewww this was definitely on point, I’m just not that good to friend anymore and that’s okay

[@loleli8]

Again, I relate so much. Thank you once again for the validation and the reminder to stick to my lane and my goals❤

[@ajinajin7938]

Such a valuable video! I don’t often promote books, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is an exception. It’s packed with insights on wealth and self-care that are not widely known. All the best to everyone

[@victoriasmith718]

Hailey! Girl, you’re looking amazing. Inspo to the max!!! Thanks for this vid Much needed ❤

[@ariannytorres1024]

One thing about HAILEY , she gonna make my life easier video after video 🙌🏽💐💐💐💐and I love that for me !!!!!!🎉

[@tiabranch680]

This episode Is so on time ! Have to run it back ❤

[@haileygamba]

I’m so happy it resonated ❤with

[@superlady2960]

You are so wise and I love the tone of your voice ❤❤❤

[@umoraothakur6562]

I’ve read a lot of books, but women’s magic truths on borlest is on another level. It doesn’t just talk about vague concepts-it reveals secret techniques that can actually help you attract almost anything you want in life. This isn’t some watered-down law of attraction; it’s the real deal. You won’t believe what you’re missing out on until you read it.

[@sithj398]

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[@DestinFo]

Hailey stay dropping them gemsss yessaaaaaaaaaa! Thank youuuuuuu!

[@InioluwaAshava]

Omg Hailey this outfit looks amazing on you❤

[@yas1348]

Absolutely love this video!!! I needed this reminder 💕🫶🏽

[@sofialeiton9322]

i love ur energy!

[@JolieLlamas]

Love this video!!! You always post what I need to hear or a refresh! You are glowing more and more in each video, beautiful!!!

[@WINTHSERIES]

Just finished listening to ur podcast, I’m excited for this episode Chile ❤❤

[@connectandignite]

Thank you for these fantastic tips Sis...much needed!!! You have really inspired me to start my own channel too. Thank you, thank you🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷

[@only1dwill]

My GWORLLLLL!!! “once the fall comes I’m buckling uppp!” I RECIEVE ALL OF THAT ENERGYYY! Yes! Get me together! 🤯❤️😍🤞🏾🤞🏾

[@Nwakaego_]

Thank you for this video, Hailey!!!❤❤❤ This is something I’ve been working on since 2022 and slowly making progress with. Love your take and words of wisdom on this topic, much needed and appreciated.