10 Tactics to Put a Narcissist in Their Place

10 Tactics to Put a Narcissist in Their Place. In this video, we cover 10 ways to put a narcissistic person in their place. You will learn techniques to put down the narcissist in case it's someone you can't get away from.
Do you have a narcissist in your life?
Before you embark on the journey of putting a narcissist in their place, there is one thing you should keep in mind. It will be the fight of your life. If you have been allowing a narcissist to manipulate you and dominate you for a long time, it will be a fight to change things. But you will be so glad you did. Narcissists are wired to be abusive because they lack empathy. They naturally take offense and misunderstand the needs and perspective of others. They can be rattled by the tiniest thing.
When they get angry, they may call the other person names, confront them, use slurs against them, use closed-off behavior, or the silent treatment. They can do it in a very calm and cold way, which is even more disturbing than if they’d rejected you openly.
It’s good for you to realize that the narcissist is not going to change, and you’ll be relieved when you realize you can spend your energy somewhere else. It will be the fight of your life, but it will be worth it. Here are 10 tactics to put a narcissist in their place. We recommend you stick with us until sign number 10. When you hear number 10, you will be surprised you never thought of it.
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[@Richard-vq7ud]

@Ten too the left want to take everything because to them, working hard and having anything is selfish. On the otherhand, not working, having babies out of wedlock, and collecting welfare is noble.

[@Richard-vq7ud]

@Ten too yes, absolutely. Up is down, good is bad, bad is good. Everything is now backwards.

[@elijahjames8837]

Their biggest addiction, even if they do drugs, is drama and emotional chaos! I use to say the real addiction is drama the cocaine is to keep it spinning and the booze to keep it swimming but drama is their real fix.

[@patriciajohnson9903]

@@Richard-vq7ud Give a young mom some credit. A young mother scared on her own judged by people like you. She figures it out puts that baby first before anything and everything scary diapers food no sleep figuring how to be a mom they grow become more responsible than you ever can be. The bond that's shared becomes one love. My daughter 26 grandson 7 she was the only child she was taught right but things happen when you play grown up grown up happens. She is the best mom that baby is the most important everything to her she has put him before herself wants needs even a life he comes first he is gifted and she gets hatpc(heavens angel) gamanana Seiarra. Mother Mary father Lawrence. We are the angelofGode

[@Richard-vq7ud]

@@patriciajohnson9903 im happy for you. Most women purposely have babies out of wedlock, and that is selfish. A child deserves both a mother and a father. You can call me judgemental for placing needs of a child first if it makes you feel good.

[@manfocused]

I've tried all of this, for many years, and it is exhausting. None of this will work if you're dealing with someone with pathological narcissism. You, simply, cannot beat someone with pathological narcissism at his or her own game, and you will wear yourself out trying to. The only solution you have when dealing with a narcissist is to leave. I have been planning my escape for months. I cannot wait until I'm finally able to leave. I'm not even giving any warning. I'm just leaving.

[@fervcorsica3358]

This is freaking amazing. Narcissists cannot reason, if they could they wouldn't be narcs in the first place

[@benvergus1573]

Yeah, this advice works for narcissists you have limited exposure to. When it’s an intimate partner this won’t help, best stay as far away as possible.

[@2618winslow]

The best thing you can do is to make yourself vanish from their life without notice and without a trace. Plan your escape. Tell no one. Make your escape while the narc is gone. Narcs believe they own their spouse much like any other piece of property and they don't tolerate losing control over those they own. Many become violent. Protect yourself. Be careful. Know that you deserve better! Good luck to you!

[@MaryLynnMcKenzie]

I agree, nothing will work. You have to leave before they harm you further. Mine knew I was done and instead of me calling 911 on him when he restrained me when I tried to get away from his abuse, he did a bogus tpo on me and had me thrown out to steal all of my possessions. You can have no mercy with these evil souls. Johnny Ray Cannon, Brasstown NC - I his 5th victim with the help of his pastor father, James Cannon, Spring Hill FL and our pastor at Catalyst Church, Hayesville NC and evil narcissistic attorney, Bill Schilling of Murphy and Franklin NC. We need sites to warn each other of these evil charmers!

[@gzyg2903]

These are all temporary fixes to get through the current situation or problem the Narc has presented.... Other than that it will be a repeated cycle until YOU get tired bc the Narc will not

[@lesleyewen-foster3629]

I put my narcissist in his place, out of my life. The four years I've had without him are the best I've had since I met him. Life is wonderful!

[@evilchaperone]

There you go! My thoughts and actions exactly! Kick them right to the curb and keep on moving down the road. Good for you!

[@aharry31]

Thank the Lord, that you did not waste more time on this type of individual.

[@vickielewallen3799]

Good for you. If you want to live a positive, happy life, you'll need to cut out the narcissists, they're negative, depressing, and controling. Enjoy your "new-found" freedom!

[@tiernyt2051]

Exactly, easier said then done. But, anyone you have to work that hard at getting along with, probably doesn't need to be in your life.

[@peterglodowski343]

What if the narcissist is a close family member who happens to be an alcoholic

[@Milestonemonger]

Dr. Phil advised: Don't try to fix them. It is above your pay grade. Stay away. Disengage. Save yourself.

[@magnoonmomma]

This!!!

[@justanaveragejess86]

Dr. Phil is as useful as the word empath

[@Slickhubert]

There is no gold in that mine!

[@TGSSMC]

I got 2 kids 8 and 5 with her, I cannot bail out because of their own well being. The problem is she will not seek help, she is too perfect for that. Isn't there any way to fix her.

[@chrisantoniou4366]

The only way you can put narcissists "in their place" is to get away from them and never contact them again. They are toxic and incurable!

[@chrisantoniou4366]

@@Crazy_Clown_In_Town-kx3zq Much as one would want to do that, they will only bad mouth you to others, project their narcissism on to you, and play the victim. Sadly, you cannot insult someone and make them feel like crap if they're perfect. ☹

[@kittybluett8887]

Hard when it’s your mother

[@chrisantoniou4366]

@@kittybluett8887 Of course! Equally hard if it's another family member, or your boss, or a work colleague... The point I am making is that there is no way of "curing" them or "getting the upper hand" and if you can't go no contact, you should limit contact as much as you can, and understand that the problem is them and not you.

[@kittybluett8887]

@@chrisantoniou4366 yes, I know now that my mother has a disorder and cannot help the way she is, still hard to deal with. I’m mostly as low contact with her as possible and when she gets to hard to deal with I stay away for awhile. She’s 90 now and I’m 67, I have 2 brothers who she managed to turn against me, they blame me for not being able to deal with her but they protect themselves by being mostly low contact with her.

[@brianpan6453]

This really is the best advice.

[@dinabarake6829]

1-call them by their name 2-remind them to stick to the subject 3-if they attack you, do not attack them back. No trigger with an asshole. 4-do not take responsibility for their emotion. Their emotions have nothing to do with u. 5-until they stop attacking you, do not talk to them 6-do not give them excuses 7-keep track of communication with them 8-do not be afraid and what they might do. 9-do not let let them be the center of your universe 10-do not let them rush you 11-learn to say no.

[@aasmahsohbat4557]

Thanks

[@roelinamackintosh5376]

Thanks

[@Coryraisa]

12. Make sure that you are not dependent on the narcissist in any way...socially, emotionally, careerwise or financially. If you are, find ways to break that dependency.

[@Ashdaesq]

@@Coryraisa facts….I did this instinctively and then told my narcissist off and then went no contact. Best decision I ever made in my life

[@katarzynakaczor9007]

It takes a lot of time and nervs to stop playing their game, specially when they did a lot to make you be or feel alone.

[@DBeauty82]

Block and delete them. That’s the only correct place for a narcissist. Periodt.

[@justinamusyoka4986]

I did and found my peace.

[@Sarablueunicorn]

Tell it to the children born to narcissistic parents. Those are all wonderful techniques for narcs you can simply avoid or cut off, people only think about narcissists in romantic relationships, yes they can be quite damaging, especially if they are in a position of control. But there's nothing worse than having narcissistic parents, children can't rely on techniques or block and delete. What an easy life it would be if narcs were only phone contacts.

[@katarinatibai8396]

🤣🤣🤣😘 - exact ❣ The correct place for the narc is far - far - fucking far away from you. If you do not see, hear and smell them - you done all right.

[@katarinatibai8396]

@@Sarablueunicorn It's more difficult - but you can go no contact when you are adult - they never loved you.

[@karenbialek5205]

I finally had to block my narcissistic daughter to give me some piece of mind. She fabricates stories that aren't true. For her last 5 births with husband Ricardo Gonzalez, she has never contacted me on their births or invite me to see Grandchildren and bond with. For that reason I don't know the grandkids and don't have a love for them. Quite sad that a narcissist can ruin family dynamics.

[@caralee2617]

The only way to take control from a narcissist is to get yourself from their domain first. You wont be able to figure out anything until and unless you are out of the hellish world. I will tell you one of my favourite stories. Once a King was too disturbed by everything that was happening around him. He felt as if no one was loyal to him and he was always afraid of his kingdom being attacked by perpetrators. He lost his sleep and his life had become hell. So he thought of taking a brief sojourn in the countryside. He passed through lush green fields and picturesque landscapes. The silent breeze that brushed through his hair filled his heart with joy. That is when he saw a farmer who was putting fence around his farmland. But his farmland had weeds all over and they hardly had any crops. This intrigued the King. He asked the farmer as to why was he putting a fence around the farm when the farm itself was covered with weeds. To this the farmer said that the farm was his own so he could get rid of the weeds whenever he liked. But he cant stop the stray dogs from running over his fields and destroying them. That is why he was putting the fence. To stop the stray dogs from venturing into the field. Once he was very assured about the security of his fields he can work on clearing the weeds and planting crops. On hearing this the King somewhat got the answer which he had been searching for. The human mind is also like the field. You cant control assholes from fiddling with your mind or saying bullshit. But you can definitely put a fence ( figuratively) so that these assholes cant influence you. And until and unless you dont put a fence you can never work on yourself. Once you have distanced yourself from toxic people then you can work on the healing process. Same is the case with narcs. Narcs are these stray dogs who suck your energy emotionally. They play mind games for fun because their mind wants melodrama. They hurt the very people who love them. So total isolation from these narcs is absolutely essential for the well being of your Mind. Once you are out of their mind games you can take decisions rationally. Narcs try to drain you emotionally. So everytime you respond to their low vibrations you tend to come to their level. But when you react confidently without panicking and without responding to their negative vibrations that is when you Win. When someone realises that you arent being influenced or being manipulated by their actions they will get tired of it. And after cutting them off completely from your lives you should work on your healing process. Work on clearing your mental clutter and keep yourself preoccupied. Read books and most importantly try to find your Purpose in life. When you find your Purpose you will be able to bear any pain in this World. Most importantly help others in need. When you find someone else who is stuck with a narc help them to get out of that. I feel this is the way to take control from a narcissist. P.S: I hardly find people around me who know about emotional abuse. But I think everyone should read and know about it. In today’s mean world you will find a lot of people who try to influence you or demoralise you using the sweetest of words. Its about identifying these covert manipulators and distancing yourself from them. I have immense respect for people who have survived narcissistic partners. They happen to be the most strongheaded and emotionally stable people you can come across. I learn a lot of things from them. Truly the broken will always be the most beautiful. What ever you do, don’t attempt to tail your spouse in the hopes of catching him or her cheating. Get a professional to do it for you Metaspyhub@gmail. com Ethical remote App - particularly if you need this evidence to file for divorce and damages.

[@srinithotakura1628]

Tears rolled down my eyes after i read your comment. Thank you for that supportive words🙏🏻

[@aramisy.cajigas744]

Excellent story and morale.

[@deborahrohl7690]

❤️👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@carolsiegfried3031]

Thank you for your very helpful reply🙏❤️

[@OfftheChainz]

Amazing! I used a similar analogy for myself when I was getting rid of these sick people but instead of mind, i took the garden as being my heart.

[@susanrossouw847]

I fell victim to a narcissist and then one day, I turned the table on them. I lost my fear, I locked away my emotion and took control of the situation. The narcassist did not like that one bit, but I stuck to my guns, I did call them out on their lies and I did that in front of others and that person could not handle that I did that. I was told to get out of their life. I smiled and waved goodbye and today I have peace. If I can do it, so can you.

[@Unlike230]

I believe this is what I need to do to put a stop to my years of dealing with my narcissist. Her biggest fear is being exposed but I'm a quiet person. I can't take it anymore. I know exactly how you felt to come to that point of taking a stand.

[@heatherb1587]

So very true. He didn't like when I stood my ground, he'd drag me to the bedroom to make an example of me, how dare I ever have had an opinion. Sex was where he felt most powerful, it NEVER mattered if I had a pulse or was crying, begging 4 it 2 stop, yet I didn't wanna be fussy & whiney, played my hand. I only shared truth tho, experience, real life. He took my punk rock youth & rebellion & channeled it onto Soundcloud songs as twisted & varied as he. N personality? Can't say I have ever met anyone as in love w themselves & as cold & ready to flee if he felt ill @ ease. Almost 6 yrs of that insanity & I still wanna slap myself 4 buying any of it past day ONE.

[@trishhennessey3584]

I did that with my sister. She triangulated her siblings for years. Then she moved on to abusing my mom. My sister knows people are on to her and therefore she is in hiding. She finally got what she deserved.

[@chrysalis72]

Lol doubt it was a narcissist or you'd have smear campaigns, people thinking you were the bad person, disbelief because they'd have already anticipated that. If your dealing with a real narcissistic personality they are three steps ahead of you as they've had to Forsee reactions from childhood. A master manipulate as the truly disordered cannot be even spoken to or they would call police after you left and bullshit a statement to have you arrested, questioned and held in a jail cell for hours just to prove they can hurt you. Horrible but the reality is do not give advice like this to true cases as they most definitely would frame you with something to respond.. Best to say nothing and expose in court. Don't provoke someone like a jealous person as they just play victim and over exaggerate ,they'd have it said you threatened or swore despite it being total bs. If I had my time over to replay it, this nasty piece of work I dealt with would have been used as a floor mop and then I'd have went to sleep in a cell for something rather than simply telling a particularly nasty operator to stay away from me. Simple as that,keep your mouth shut or do the job properly. Make the cell stay worth it but try to stay away and always be silent on social media too,no names no backlash.

[@queenmin5902]

@Susan Roussouw how did you turn the tables on them? I’m good at ignoring or shrugging off what they say, but I don’t know how to call them out in front of others. They love to call you out in front of others and it’s awful at work.

[@intothewoods2033]

1. Call them by their name 2. Remind them to stick to the subject 3. Don’t take responsibility for their emotions 4. Don’t talk until they stop attacking you 5. Don’t deceive yourself 6. Call them out on their deception 7. Don’t be afraid 8. Don’t let them be the center of your universe 9. Don’t be rushed or pressured 10. Learn how to say no

[@joaoomega6627]

Number 4 means = forever? Constantly being passive aggressive.

[@thequietone2998]

Thank you

[@Barrythebarnabas]

This was more useful than the actual video

[@Anna.Mason151]

Thank you:)

[@jimbuxton2187]

@@joaoomega6627.... no ! if someone is attacking you, they are manipulating you to keep you arguing to make it your fault. Passive aggressive is something else. # 4 is setting a boundary where you don't engage unless they comply. They can't argue with you if you don't argue back.

[@beach_girl1103]

I ghosted my narcissist and never looked back. One of the best decision I’ve ever made. I don’t ask about him but from what our mutual friends tell me ghosting him absolutely got his attention and put him in his place

[@samgibson684]

You were the narcissist.... Petty

[@Featherfinder]

That’s the only scenario where I think ghosting is excusable: when you’re really being mistreated. Good for you!

[@beach_girl1103]

@@Featherfinder Thank you

[@29Thrill]

@@samgibson684 Troll

[@helgaheyck2707]

This has happened with my eldest sister. Not missing the relationship.

[@sayusayme7729]

Self love stops a narcissist. We all have issues. Strengthen your boundaries. 🤍

[@MaryAnn-pd3pm]

Wow so true.

[@Joureyoffaith555]

Amen so true

[@lailachiguer6676]

Amen

[@justinamusyoka4986]

So true.

[@kiraalialeeonfairythegreenone]

Consequences are equally as important as boundaries because narcissists easily trample boundaries. Resolutely stand your ground and actively follow through with the consequence... repeatedly.

[@zindagi2851]

I couldn't believe how accurate these points are, thank you 😊. Married for 31 yrs and she hid these traits for the first 15yrs. These are wicked people and carry a curse.

[@susanq6398]

Same here. Was hidden for the first 12 years. Mask slipped. I just couldn’t understand what was going on. Blamed myself

[@mumbles215]

Wow. Mine was only hidden for 3 months. Glad she showed true colours before 15 years. Bless you.

[@epilepticwelder]

nuns and preasts, jesuit club of rome

[@epilepticwelder]

witches and warlocks of roam

[@sigaries4062]

Took me a long time to tell people no. But when I finally did, it felt so good!. People mistake my kindness for weakness, they couldn't be more wrong.

[@ganymeade5151]

Kindness is power. Keep a strong current of power to repel and banish evil.

[@jennielai2459]

Right on spot 👍🏻 It’s such a shame that one dare not be kind towards people anymore. This world has gone mad!! 🤬🤬🤬

[@conniesmith5161]

Someone said that to me, some people take kindness for weakness. But I heard a different version of this saying. Kindness is not weakness it is strength under control. This is the typical narcissistic attitude and they only see kindness as weakness. For me personally I see kindness as the best way to communicate with others. And I believe that whenever you project kindness to a narcissistic person, they see it as weakness and that's when they started pounding on you. And you don't want to say anything to them because everything you say to them is falling on deaf ears they can only hear your own thoughts and they cannot feel the pain that they cause others, because their hearts are only connected to their own feelings.

[@daedalusjones4228]

I listen to the song "FourFiveSeconds," by Paul McCartney, Rhianna, and Kanye West. A recurring line in it: "All of my kindness is taken for weakness."

[@bloggedbybrents6825]

Kindness is a super power! When the world screams screw those people you step up and help those people. Remember people are the most important asset in the world.

[@Triena524]

NO CONTACT is the only way to keep your peace of mind and put the narcissist in their place. Otherwise you will continue to be played with like a toy, manipulated and disrespected by a narcissist.

[@rosariadileone5272]

Yeah but, she's my wife!

[@krayziejerry]

Divorce her, you're in a toxic relationship, it's going to go that way anyways. Narcs 99 percent of the time do not and don't want to change.

[@parmachine470]

yo-yo man! personal name for myself 20 years ago.

[@evelina787]

“A narcissist paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. They will be offended by the truth. But what is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people’s true colors.” - Karla Grimes

[@ocupax338]

The way you describe a narcissist reminds Amber Heard

[@amberturdcoloringbook1733]

@@ocupax338 👍👍

[@DANIEL93121]

@@ocupax338 she is typical example

[@arthercamelot1140]

Thank you I've always said the truth will always come out. It can take time but just like the cream will always rise to the top

[@evelina787]

@@arthercamelot1140 God bless you 👍🍀🙏What a beautifully brilliant way you have to describe, folk reveal & shows their true colours, in the end🕊️👍🍀🙏Wondrous & full of enlightenment Sincerely hope lifes treating you extremely kindly

[@joe-qo3qi]

First step is Knowing what a narcissist is. Second step is identifying a narcissist. Third step is using effective actions to counter a narcissist. Best methods that have worked for me personally and comfortably are, ignore them, converse with others as if there not there, look straight at them calling them by name,DONT ever show or emit weakness. Be of your own will power at all times,laughter will make them self destruct. YOU have the power, keep it! Be careful whom you talk to and what you say, narcissist use back stabbing channels and are highly manipulative to weak minded unsuspecting people around them.

[@Rabswood296]

True they always take the moral high ground. You have to keep your cool. Don't bad mouth them to others. Often they come across to others as totally likeable . The covert narcs are the worst, they love playing the victim.

[@natereinhold6180]

​@Rabswood296 by far the hardest to deal with. I live with one who's got heart failure and she uses it.

[@evelina787]

“There is simply no winning with a narcissist. They will treat you so horribly that you will become withdrawn and depressed and then they will turn around and say, ‘You’re no fun anymore, you’re always so depressed. I need to be with someone more positive.’” - Susan Williams

[@luvmyangels3]

Same if your sick. You will see how uninterested in you they become. 😢💔 You become a form of baggage or burden.

[@evelina787]

@@luvmyangels3 yes concur completely God bless you I've even had one sy to me of gynaecologic problems "is it cont@gious?" No compssion or empthy just worried if they will catch something, @lmost everyone knows,,, is not contgious but just the way some women are mde to suffer Unbelievable

[@sn95_capo32]

She*

[@evelina787]

@@sn95_capo32 Sorry, i don't comprehend your messge, comment? It just pure&simple s@ys *she* ? 🤔🍀🙏

[@finwilliams4550]

Why he? Many people who end marrying a narcissist were brought up by a narcissist mother. It's not so easy to get them out of your life as a husband or wife.

[@freedom768]

Walk away don't bother putting the narc in its place, don't interact with them focus on yourself the narc hates that plus it's self empowering that's amazing feeling and it works

[@ntombifuthiyika5975]

Thank you Avril.

[@kelhow1181]

Right! 💕 I think this is good advice for dealing with a boss or coworker, or a cousin at a wedding. I like the name thing, there’s power in a name… but an intimate relationship?? When you know, you GO. You’re not going to “put” a narcissist any “place”; they live in their own world. ✌🏼

[@ntombifuthiyika5975]

@@kelhow1181 Very true. I see, a Sir Tudor fan 👌.

[@kelhow1181]

@@ntombifuthiyika5975 😁 I had a hard time listening to him when I was really in the throes of things, years ago. Now I’ve rediscovered him & totally loving the “Harry’s wife” series!

[@katarinatibai8396]

100% right - AVOID - AVOID - AVOID ! Gray rock - block - and no contact. If you have that beast at work and you can't quit yet - stone wall them. If they want talk to you - you need to go for a piss so bad - or you need to do a important phone call - right than or go to make a copy or what ever makes you move away from them.

[@jenlee4477]

Love this Put them in their place Draw the line Dont let them back in Move on with a better life

[@Raymondgogolf]

Hi Jen 👋 I hope my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your comment tells of a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment I don't normally write in the comment section but I think you deserve this complement. If you don’t mind can we be friends? Thanks God bless you….🌹

[@CatherineSwasey]

Be happy with your life... Stay back and go and go... Wiggle wiggle 👌👌👌

[@christinarichards7803]

Honestly this is a battle I fight every single day. Three years now. This video is on point! I have got to get away from this situation NOW. :(

[@KOTTUNO]

We’re probably addicted to these people and need to wein off

[@divinesoulpragatiscreativi8526]

Oho y are so strong 💪. Don't loose hope. God always be with u.

[@SuzanneOKeeffe]

yes. leaving is far better than the delusion that you'll be able to shift things. you won't and you'll just waste time and emotional energy trying.

[@KOTTUNO]

Me too! Thank the parents they know who they put out in this world

[@anteversus8471]

I hope you managed your escape and were careful not to leave any traces

[@garulusglandarius6126]

Ignore narcissists COMPLETELY with no exception, it drives them absolutely crazy but is fun to watch ! Excellent video 👍

[@Rabswood296]

All when you do this they then become more abusive to get a reaction. You have to stay strong and not react or join in with their nonsense. My abuser has even been to the police about me but he has no evidence because it is a lie.

[@rockstarofredondo]

@@Rabswood296 let them escalate. Ignore and walk away. Give their misery back to them.

[@ganymeade5151]

They go absolutely insane. Some are dangerous. Use caution.

[@The_Malaka]

Why would you want to “torture” people with a mental health problem?

[@garulusglandarius6126]

@@The_Malaka I’m not torturing anyone, I don’t say or do anything. He’s doing it to himself by way of his own unacceptable anti social behaviour ! I’m just an involuntary witness !

[@abigailmason1439]

My heart goes out to all the Victims in this world It's uncalled for and breaks my heart to know so many are losing their lives over this. The Narcissist is uncalled for. *Minslegend* , don't stop doing you we here to support you 💯%..

[@brianmaxwell1832]

That's narssistic

[@udidnseethat]

What the hell is minslegend?

[@jeffreyturcotte420]

Empath much? Lol

[@jrdhooopsxd3151]

But how about those who grew up with a narcissistic family with narcissistic older brother like I do? It's not like you can just totally cut off them, because as an Asian it's quite tough to break off them considering I am only barely college level.

[@bennyrodriguez718]

The part that’s been hard is the sympathy I have for them. I’ve been putting myself in a bad situation for 3 years. It may now look like I can be getting over that. So I’m hope so.

[@drumdad54sdl47]

#11. Get out. Get away. Go no-contact. Live your best life away from their drama & toxicity.

[@LoveGod1987]

How? With no resources ?

[@thaabeetarot1478]

@@LoveGod1987 leave anyway. Eventually they will kill you.

[@samirahahmed9431]

I agree I almost died before I did Even if no one else ever sees them for who they are You do You're important no.1 for yourself My beginning of the end was a simple question..I said ,we all have shortcomings and I was pounded on..anyone who cannot agree to their own failings is delusional..and I mean this in a close relationship..not a topic for strangers

[@TheRemnant8]

@@samirahahmed9431 you almost died?

[@angelofigueroa5099]

What if that person is my father?

[@dhd-00]

When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it’s not personal. “It isn’t personal” is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth. Narcissists don’t know how to love or be a friend; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing. They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Barryinvestigation@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..

[@gregorybeaty]

That Gmail address? Is it somebody that could possibly help me to find out if my girlfriend is cheating on me aswell? We been together going on 8.5 years now and sometimes alotta the times she's acting as if she doesn't really love me but instead somebody esle ,and she has alotta times she misses my phone calls and things just are hurting ,im in pain really bad mentally and I really need to.know so I can be sure ,my heart is hurting and I'm desperate for the lord above to give me an answer or a sign as what to do ..

[@dhd-00]

@@gregorybeaty YES.

[@stephencollins9062]

​@@gregorybeatyfix yourself. If she's cheating she's cheating and most definitely not something you should be wasting your energy on At least that's what you would tell yourself if you could see you now.

[@dhd-00]

@@gregorybeaty yes

[@neilcooper287]

@@gregorybeatyyes

[@devonnedaniel7692]

I was with a narcissist for 32 years and didn’t see it until he did something unspeakable. My family began showing me the things he did all that time. He didn’t start out that way but once we were married things definitely changed. I have been “narcissistic free” for several years now and am getting better every day. Thank you for showing people they can stand up and stop the bullying.

[@floridagirl5250]

I have a hard time understanding that you were with someone 32 years and didn't know they were a narcissist. That is pretty unbelievable.

[@Fizzy5pringwater]

@@floridagirl5250 They lie in wait. It happens. Not all narcs are the same.

[@floridagirl5250]

@@Fizzy5pringwater I realize that people do stay in abusive situations for years and years...which always puzzles me especially when a woman works and children are grown. My guess is severe codependency ...Stockholm syndrome...trauma bonding. I have a bit of trouble understanding someone who "doesn't know" they are with an abusive and disordered individual...especially a narcissist (who, by definition, have generally similar tactics/playbooks) after 30 years. I was ready to jump off a cliff after a short time with the monster I married because he was so mean and...well...monstrous! How anyone can stick around for that I just don't understand. Don't mean to be a jerk, just can't wrap my head around that.

[@raygordonteacheschess5501]

Which "loser" men did you turn down for that guy who got you with his personality?

[@raygordonteacheschess5501]

Was he a tall guy with money?

[@ZulcanPrime]

All narcissists are very good at shifting blame and have very good social skills too. They also have loyal followers who do anything for them. I am an introvert and a domineering narcissist gave me the silent treatment. It was so nice when toxic people give me the silent treatment. It was like the garbage took itself out.

[@violetviolent7980]

Agree, it worked out itself, hopefully it stayed like that permanently.

[@JaneNoordpool]

😂🤣🤦🏿‍♀️ I love this saying the trash took it self out. Its so funny.

[@Leonchuckmoutsoulas]

The garbage took itself out. Fantastic. Thank you for commenting. What else needs to be said? Great stuff. Who needs ten minute videos when you just nailed it!

[@TheOriginalRasheedat]

Definitely get rid of friends who don’t believe you or who support them. Don’t look back. And believe it at the first sign. I told a friend I was being abused by a narcissist and she befriended him even more and ran back and told him I said he was abusive. Be careful out there and definitely set your boundaries quick and fast. Don’t second guess yourself.

[@thelnepoet1]

She's probably got a thing for him herself and thought this was her in. You're definitely better off without her in your life too.

[@cindyrice5141]

They are enablers...

[@ilae.williams8280]

. .."set your boundaries quick and fast"...💯

[@tinyvr7036]

Jealousy is evil. If people are your friends, they will realize what is or has gone on, and will later come around. Jealous people twist things and it can get ugly. Stay confident and patient. 🙏

[@ronniebutman]

Not a friend ..

[@SameerAhmed-r3j]

This is a very tough phase; I have been tolerating people like this for years. My patience is on a different level, as I have dealt with a mix of lies, deceit, hypocrisy, misleading actions, manipulations, and people who portray others as bad while presenting themselves as victims.

[@potatopotato5000]

There's no winning against a narcissist. The biggest accomplishment you can achieve is to just save yourself and get yourself out before you fall in too deep.

[@mothernature88888]

You can also learn a lot from a relationship with a narcissist. One of the things is that NO ONE CAN HURT YOU, because they are just programs in your mind that you can turn off. It doesn't matter what other people say, if you are at peace with yourself.

[@DamusNostril]

one thing is for certain, none of us are narcissists!

[@alfredbenedek3398]

Oh yes there is! For one, I can testify to it, they hate the very utmost, their own medicine, their own things, what they do to their targets. Do it my @potatopotat5000 friend? It worked very well to me, just have good self control & patience, yeahh & money.

[@dougfox9649]

Winning is getting rid of them.

[@gorewings4-20]

The worst thing you can do a narcissist,is ignore what they say. Narcissists can't stand not being heard.

[@satsumamoon]

Yes, they cant stand being ignored .and that is exactly why they might change their behaviour, unless theres a pay-off such as narc fuel. Learn how to modulate your own emotions so they arent getting any fuel from their bad behaviour. Part of thar is realising that its actually our thoughts that cause us to feel bad. We can observe our selves and see this clearly, its not apparent at first.

[@jBdXULriUaVTSCgwM3uAqW]

the narcissist man who's been stalking me for more than 10 years just doesn't know how to stop and let others live in peace with their privacy. how to get rid of such animal?? ignoring them just makes him grow more and more obsessive!!! i really need help

[@gorewings4-20]

@@jBdXULriUaVTSCgwM3uAqW Get a restraining order

[@luvyatubers]

​@@jBdXULriUaVTSCgwM3uAqWdon't think a piece of paper can save you. Take a self defense class and if you are comfortable with guns, go to a shooting range for classes

[@jefolson6989]

Thats thenone I like. Let them rage , yell, scream. When they run out of steam or ask a question, say " what? Huh? I wasnt listening. I tuned you out and was thinking of something else. "

[@rehanmunshi85]

ignore ignore ignore ignore file a retraining order ignore ignore ignore that's how you deal with a narcissist

[@Joureyoffaith555]

Yup

[@Vixinaful]

My restraining order was denied..Back to the ignore..

[@pointsbeingmade7996]

Yup

[@rehanmunshi85]

Try filing a harassment claim if restraining order doesn’t work

[@lordofgingers]

This is exactly what I was about to say. Narcissists need attention and validation like a plant needs sun and water. Deprive and they will go somewhere else sooner or later.

[@RegizMusic]

I subscribed. Everything is very true. I was set free after my narcissist ex girlfriend assaulted me and the police took her to jail. First week in full detox recovery. I desire your prayers and positive energy.

[@anteversus8471]

Glory to you for flushing this vermin down the toilet, my heart goes out to you, the hardest part is over and the nightmare is behind you, and never go back, these people are good at playing the poor little things when they want to be taken back. I wish you a great life.

[@PsychologyElement]

Thank you for subscribing and sharing your story. Wishing you strength during your recovery.

[@aijazsiddique8713]

I am sending loads of prayers and positive energy your way!

[@TEXANKIDBABY]

It’s not called relationship it’s manipulationship

[@tarrasmith1341]

😅

[@XFonti-ik3ql]

Absolutely agree 👍! All about control 🙄

[@mariam3947]

I still have a long way to go bc it took me so long to realize what I was dealing with!!! I just know that I'm not "liked" anymore bc I became my own person. He cannot deal with that but he won't leave either... what makes it harder is the quiet manipulation, I could probably have blown it out of the water if he verbally controlled me. I know my stress will leave with him!!

[@Mrchoontoy]

Yes agree that

[@29g3mst0n3]

@@XFonti-ik3ql the fvlpp what store are you at Kroger vinegar q

[@jordynlee_w]

“They like to claim your accomplishments” hit in me in the feels!!!!

[@jeffyou6340]

Nothing like hearing Mr or Mrs critic alternate between stealing your own words and phrases in a false flattery attempt,. YET TELLING you you're allegedly worthless. I mean, you just can't make this crap up! After being atheist for 44 years, I am convinced that these people are agents of the dark side of the universe

[@jacquelinefroehle3583]

They lie about what you do for them and take credit for it. I used to feel sorry for them... Now I don't. They need me and I don't need them. Who the heck needs being used and lied about.

[@60secondpages]

I was complimenting a previous colleagues aptitude, and the response was "well of course, I trained them". This wasn't said in jest, it was said with absolute sincerity.

[@77RenaeSweets]

Or say "if it wasn't for me"

[@Little_Sidhe]

@@jeffyou6340 omg YES! I've realised that when in conversation this person I have in mind literally repeats things I've said word for word back to me in a later conversation.

[@williamfriar6295]

The ONLY effective action to take against an abuser is to put several hundred miles between yourself and them. Never forget that the abuser is “right” in his/her mind. You will not convince a person who is “right” that their abuse is wrong. Save yourself; there is no way to save the abuser.

[@FadeToBlackLLC]

Yes changing the subject used to drive me crazy. She would always tell me, I have to push your buttons to get a response. Yes always said I was being defensive all the time. It's just maddening! All types of abuse they show. It's just so crazy. 15 years of that madness and finally I got divorced.

[@skepchica]

Any engagement feeds them. This is literally continuing the cycle.

[@Iceis_Phoenix]

I learned this the HARD way. I will never make this mistake again

[@Richard-vq7ud]

@@Iceis_Phoenix yes,me too. It takes a lot of practice to not engage them. Gray rock is a skill

[@aijazsiddique8713]

Both positive and negative attention feeds them. The only thing that works is no contact or grey rock method.

[@diedrahelen1751]

I use to praise my narc ALL the time. He started treating me worse and worse. I NEVER knew that personal praise brought out the extra evil 👿 monster in them. Thank you for this.

[@Iceis_Phoenix]

I praised this guy i hung out with and he dropped me. He thought he could get better. He hasnt.

[@laughoncomedy2923]

@@Iceis_Phoenix fucking karma

[@ilae.williams8280]

..."the extra evil monster in them"...💯

[@sirib2563]

@@ilae.williams8280 yes 100./. True

[@a.k.7424]

Diedra--YES! And 8f you "co-parent" with one, if you do them a favor or do some extra parenting work that's normally their job, their behavior gets WORSE, whereas with a healthy person, do7ng a favor might increase goodwill. So glad that's behind me!

[@huskerfanman]

It's difficult for me because I avoid conflicts but realizing I grew up with a narcissistic parent is making it better. Standing up for myself was disrespectful so I just was keeping quiet, even to this day I have a hard time speaking up for myself.

[@BrooklynnAlexx]

Same ❤️

[@weliveinasociety1931]

That has maybe a bit to do with how they were raised too

[@xeayath8073]

I finally let my narcissistic mom have it. I brought up all the stuff she did in the past and her answer all the time was "I don't remember that" instead of just saying "I'm sorry" and I would call her out on her behaviors DURING the conversation and she would claim "That's not what happened" while proceeding to DO/SAY the very things I was talking about in the very next sentence. It got to the point where it started to get funny actually. She's the kind of person who can do and say whatever to hurt you, but then play the victim when you call her out on it. And of course I heard about her slandering me to my sister which is even worse cause my mom used to put her down the worse growing up despite my sis already having pretty low self esteem as it is. Now instead of my sis growing into a person to stand up for herself, she's allowed herself to be fed lies and be controlled by a narcissistic parent

[@lisasimpson5211]

Omg! This video was eyes opening for me. I am only 2 weeks out of leaving an emotionally abusive relationship where I was made to believe i was crazy All of my family and friends saw what I couldn't. In between all of this behavior he was amazing to me and pulled me in only to continue the abusive patterns all over again. I believe truly watching this today as I am still struggling with doubt was life changing. THANK YOU ❤

[@karenrodgers56]

In a culture of labeling and blame it is hard often to get to the nub of a problem and find useful ways to address it. This is such a clear and helpful summary.. concise, thoughtful, positive and highy practical. bless you, Karen

[@VictoriaVardazhieva]

I worked with a narcissist. She was my immediate superior. I cannot describe in words what I experienced and how I felt. At one point, I decided I couldn't go on like this, and I quit my job. I said to myself, "That was it! It's over!" I didn't want more negative emotions, dramas, unnecessary nerves, and not to be respected as a human being, unnecessary meaningless arguments, etc., just because the narcissist wants to be right, to be number one, to be the center of attention.

[@thegoblinsteed3558]

Leave asap and Never look back, that's how you deal with those toxic demons.

[@TheRemnant8]

Correct !

[@TheLace]

They DO have a certain Devil energy about them...

[@JosephACruz-by5dx]

I had a narcissist was living with me and it was harder to get rid of her and I had to put an restraining order on her so far it works game over and I'm getting back to my self again at peace.

[@thegoblinsteed3558]

@Thor Odinson I couldn't even tell you how sorry I am. Time never pays for someone taking a loved one away in such a horrific manner.

[@russellscott81299]

Its pretty hard to leave when it's your child 😕 😔 😪

[@shopmerakiboutik]

Calling them out creates an explosive argument filled with a never ending black hole of gaslighting. Narcissists will never take responsibility for their actions, so calling them out is a waste of time and energy. And when you’re in a relationship with one, you need to protect both of those things with everything you’ve got.

[@rebeccachaka8058]

I'm so glad I came across this video. I'm dealing with one at work and the situation got so bad I lodge a formal grievance against her. And she still believes I'm wrong for taking that action after 4 years of tolerating her. Thank you so much

[@Gaslighting_Effect]

Put a narcissist in their place? That's only emotional energy that serves to benefit them. The only way to handle a narcissist is absolute silence, because they're not going to understand what you have to say anyway. Their narcissism will always stand in the way

[@wayneelliott1180]

That’s right - they’ll feed off any input. They’ll twist your words and play the victim. Turn your back and walk away.

[@williamfilipkowski5228]

SssSssa#zssaazs@👏🏻

[@heatherb1587]

I'm awestruck! To know that these soulless beings walk amongst us that have good intentions & believe in truth & integrity & then there's the Narcissists that prey on tens of thousands.. I am not alone anymore I have seen thanks to the 'net & I am not "crazy" or jealous or insane... I was duped! I was strung along. I was a victim & fell so hard for lies. He stole my music taste & style & MY experiences & wrote them into his songs & dares to claim as many jerks do, that "she's a crazy B!". I am healing afa that wasted 6 years goes, I finally don't crumble when he doesn't call or show up for DAYS, I even bought his new wardrobe & gave so much of my blood, sweat, tears. Are there childhood issues & trauma like mommy issues that these love vampires have in common? Still learning about wtf really happened the last years I was in a fog of confusion & self doubt... Even when the absolute truth was in my hands, he'd convince me I was wrong

[@Defender78]

3:05 " dont respond to the narcissist". I have to sort of disagree.. if the narc is a person in your friend group, with the loudest voice and the loudest laugh, and theyve got their sights set on you... it's going to be tough. If you walk away from them if they start to dump on you (say at a table at the bar) in front of others, and you don't "fire back" somewhat, your silence will look as if you had no comeback ready , and the friendgroup will see that and look at you as if you "retreated" or "uh oh, Bill just blasted Marty again." It' s a tough battle i've had with ppl over the years :/ Silence wont stop them, only appease them. Youve got to have comebacks ready to meet them fire with fire (not heavy handed, but humorous comebacks/sarcasm can work) or they'll create a negative feedback loop.

[@Gaslighting_Effect]

@@Defender78 You see I look at things differently. I don't associate myself with any narcissist. So you wouldn't find me at a table socializing with one

[@tikaroxanne7286]

The best thing is to ignore their taunts they will try to get a reaction out of you then turn around and play victim..they have no problem using you then telling you no when you need them. Or even just say you didn’t have to help them..but you know if you said no they would have had a meltdown and you would have been the bad guy. I realized after years that I was a victim of 2 of them. I finally stood up to one when we got into a physical fight I think they were truly shocked that I did that. I was proud of myself because I kept the promise to myself if they ever challenged me and got in my personal space I would not back down like I did in the past.

[@jeffarcher3305]

At a girl!

[@gionagrace3343]

Awesome! They are very sick and twisted creatures.

[@gloriamaryhaywood2217]

Hip, Hip, Hooray! Wish I could've been there cheering you on!!😉😎

[@rhondadurbyn6363]

So true

[@1010QUEEN7]

@@gionagrace3343 yes yes and yes

[@Kyle-nl3jq]

I subscribed. It’s very enlightening to watch this video because I deal with these things on a daily basis as a disabled person who can’t get out on his own yet trapped with a narcissistic mother.

[@evelina787]

“Narcissistic love is riding on the rollercoaster of disaster filled with a heart full of tears.” - Sheree Griffin

[@PhantomLife]

Its Best, Not to Think & Speak of Narrow perspective truths; because Others will see the Great, Big picture of Absolute truth. Like when people accuse someone for a Chain reaction of defense towards Anothers Initial actions of Offensiveness. "The Lower" will try to degrade "the Higher-class" in any way (to try to uplift themselves. Like when people accuse the actual Rite-person of being a Narcissist; when of actual reality was only rejecting the Others initial wrongs done of Offensiveness!

[@Maria-jr7sy]

100% true, living with them, blow out your mind and never feel the ground under your feet.

[@evelina787]

@@Maria-jr7sy Yes it's true😔 God bless you ✨☘️🙏Hope you're not having to put up with their wicked treat ment any more

[@Maria-jr7sy]

@@evelina787 unfortunately I'm married with a grandiose narcisist for 41 years now. I always put blame on me because I wasn't never able to make him happy because I wasn't aware about the existence of narcisistic pattern, nobody warned me, even when I whent in psychotherapy for 1 year in 2008. I developed 3 types of autoimmune deseases because I somatise. Fortunately I have a strong and well constructed mind so I have a good resilience even if life is very hard some days. Now I can't leave because I'm not economically indipendent and my 90 years old parents lives in the same house (not same appartment) They deserve to live their last few years remaining, in peace. I put the trolley on me.

[@elizabethkeller6040]

😂😂. Yup, that's them !!!😅😅😅

[@ummmwhatsmyline5092]

After you’ve dealt with enough of them, it can become quite easy to permanently walk away from a narcissist.

[@LuvDaSkinUAreIn]

FACTS 💯!!!...And it's ALWAYS the BEST DECISION with these evil people 😈

[@JuxtaPositionings]

Not when they are family, very complicated. You can’t go no contact and have to employ other techniques. Very testing

[@cherylann1632]

Totally agree! They are worthless creeps anyway - they will just do you harm! Keep walking!

[@iys6890]

Yes! Limited contact or if possible none...and live your life!

[@iys6890]

@@JuxtaPositionings I will do very limited contact and enjoy my life.

[@andrujules7728]

This explains my life right now as I am surrounded by them. This helps so much. Knowing that I’m not the problem.

[@gabrielle-AVFloyd]

I was told for decades I was 'the problem', sadly I believed it for decades until recently. Through trauma therapy I've worked through things and realize through people pleasing I've condoned the abuse. It's definitely not you, toxic people project their own character defects onto other's.

[@ganymeade5151]

@@gabrielle-AVFloyd It is terrible that narcissists trash others for being good persons. Narcissists are negative and evil. Keep them out of your life. Wise Old Sayings: It is better to have a few good friends than many bad friends. It is better to be alone than with bad friends.

[@daedalusjones4228]

I have recently realized that I, too, have been surrounded by them. First, my father. Then, a girlfriend. And then, a supervisor at work.

[@soundgod8380]

Lol, now me.. apparently. You are all Marxist pigs

[@ssaini245]

I also put narcissist out from my life and now living peacefully. All of the facts provided by you were exactly right about narcissistic person that was in my life.

[@SirGolfalot-]

Narcissist makes things all about them. Even their Children's wedding. Look at me playing a guitar and singing. I'm the one you need to pay attention to, not my child and their spouse.

[@justinamusyoka4986]

They like stealing the show and showing people what to do!

[@giamehlos5087]

My ex narc officiated his daughters wedding! Plays drums at church and is pure evil!

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

@@justinamusyoka4986 Yep they know everything better... They will also tell others how to think. or.. to stop thinking ("you think to much" ). They are disrespectful to the core.

[@katarinatibai8396]

@One Fine Day They would be better of with a divers wedding - - only them and the priest with wet suit and finnes under water - what a peacefull ceremony - no narcmonster there. I would reater putt up with the sharc than the narc. 😁

[@katarinatibai8396]

The narc is allways the bride at the wedding and the corps at the furneal. The sycest pacient - the greatest victime or hero - the smartest ass in the room and the prettyest anyway - 🤪🥶🥶🥶🤮👽💩🤡 - in theyr mind - 😂

[@anon6056]

My phrase for stopping my mum's narcisissm today was this. She said "you could have just done it my way" i said "yes or i can do it MY way. Which is OKAY."

[@rianaverified0292]

Kudos to u for sticking to ur ground, its not easy, but it makes u damn powerful.

[@nomadjensen8276]

It's tough I know because you love her not matter how bad she acts sometimes, my mom was bipolar an would fly out of control and then just do things that no one should to do. But she was a very damaged and hurt woman who never got over being hurt as a little girl. It's not a justification it's just the truth and you know what to expect so you gotta make sure to always love them but keep them at arms length, never allow yourself to put yourself in their control. Don't borrow anything, or live with them and make sure you stay financial stable an stay out of them being able to control you with threats of getting kicked out. Keep them at arms length and stay strong.

[@zacharypayne4080]

You Honor your parents.. unless she was diagnosed

[@rianaverified0292]

@@zacharypayne4080 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 (Just sayin]

[@valerieharte6283]

@@zacharypayne4080 you may honour your parents. that's your right. but it's not for you to say what others should do. narcissistic parents are different from others and, depending how far along the scale they are, can be utterly unable to love their children/partners/anyone. and can be very cruel at the same time.

[@tracyhoskinson7284]

I broke up with my narcissistic boyfriend 3 weeks ago. This video is spot on. I'm so thankful I had the strength to walk away. For good.

[@lancemateer6342]

How did you find the strength to do it. I cant seem to let go of her.

[@noellealissa2206]

This been the nail to the coffin. Thank you so much!

[@tinabryant3051]

Thank you! I’ve always known I was an Empath, and this proves it. I’ve lived w a Narcissist for 42 yrs, and finally am totally done. I’m ready to move on w my life and without the Hell he has put me through. Thanks again!

[@retrogirl2443]

I know how entrenched you become because I’ve been there several times. My longest period was 30 yrs. I finally woke up, but only recently. It’s difficult!

[@Raymondgogolf]

Hi Tina 👋 I hope my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your comment tells of a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment I don't normally write in the comment section but I think you deserve this complement. If you don’t mind can we be friends? Thanks God bless you….🌹

[@boursitocard]

Wtf

[@cherylann1632]

All the best for your journey!

[@hurnidan]

Some comment about narcisists at workplace. Its not the narcisits against you. Once you uncover you will find that the narcisist only survives as long as there is no transparency. Giving selective information and keep people from being a team. Once you overcome this and create transparent info flow the power of a narcisist just vanishes! Transparency is the thing they hate the most!

[@katarinatibai8396]

💯 🎯 + document all - communicate only to e mail with them - never be allone with them in a room -

[@taniacarvajalpineda3211]

What do you mean keep people from being a team?

[@hurnidan]

@@taniacarvajalpineda3211 77 ranko said it well. Here a real life example: my boss told me that one of my peers want to do a rotation and take my position. After I talked to that person it revealed that he had told her the same about me wanting to take her position. But none of us had any intention about doing that. When we both set up a meeting with him together to discuss... guess who didn t come to the meeting? It could have ended in us both mistrusting each other if we would not have talked...

[@rongurbajr]

@77ranko You are thinking of Obama and his 3rd presidency using Biden as his puppet. Obama said he wished someone else was the mouthpiece and he just had to talk into their ear for them to do his bidding. Obama separated children at the border, but the media never told you until Trump became president then it was important. Under Trump, the US had the fastest-growing economy the world had ever seen. Gas prices were $1.50 (I bet you enjoy paying more!). Afghanistan is a complete disaster by leaving millions of dollars of high-tech equipment and Americans behind. Small businesses were hiring, yet under Forgetful Joe businesses are closing at a record rate. Your narc tendency to get socialism, then communism, here faster than any other country isn't surprising. You crave a narc's result.

[@bhazerelli7611]

@@rongurbajr bingo

[@kenjohnson3329]

And all these years I thought I was alone dealing with a nut job! Great advice!

[@bobbyeleeturnbough763]

Omg THIS is the exact advice I’ve been looking for! Ryan the Love of my life has narcissistic personality disorder, undiagnosed I myself have been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder so you see my heartache I feel empowered now in a non revengeful way like I can handle things more appropriately now again tysm this was my first experience with this channel I will now be an avid subscriber

[@KatherineGrey-pz9on]

Being with my ex narc for the past 6 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I hired a private detective *Metaspyhub@gmail. com* . Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!

[@bangboom177]

Wow seems like our narcs are very very similar. Your text could be mine. Only that i didnt finally manage to leave yet. Wish you all the best

[@kenchurches3404]

It’s like I know the same sociopathic , phsyopathic, narsasistic, piece of shit, scumbag, sex predater, drunkard, loser, what’s the chances ? Ha! Good for you! A lot of women just put up with it , to there detremint,👍

[@herhealingeverydayremarkab1513]

I left, and your message sounds exactly like my story.

[@liwelanna]

This really sounds very much like my own story. Are you better now? Does it get better after you heal from the heartbreak?

[@MarkJack-il6mb]

Narcissistic projection is an ego defense mechanism used by the narcissistic. to avoid suffering further narcissistic injury equip yourself and understand why they do the things they do and it most reason why I recommend the truth worthy and reliable service man @cyber_tech_service_tools

[@williamfriar6295]

We go through life absolutely stunned at the needless cruelty that flows from people. It is impossible for decent people to comprehend the minds of the abusers. The way some are born without sight or hearing or an appendage, some are born with no capacity to know good from evil, unless they believe evil is good, which is another impossible thing to fathom.

[@sherrybonnett4827]

Sounds like you're talking about most countries leaders. When interviewed, they are good at skirting. We are supposed to obey....

[@YoungNationWorld]

Psychologist have confirmed they know good from evil. They just choose whichever gives them the supply they crave whether it’s to fool a stranger into seeing them as a good person (good) or to be the one to wipe that smile off your face, for no reason other than being tired of seeing you smile. (evil)

[@TheHaratashi]

I recently quit my job just to get away from my narcissist boss. I was tired of being put down everyday and called names everyday and he even made fun of my race. It is sooooooooooooo good to have him out of my life.

[@jeromej5815]

These tips are game changer. I am practicing tthese advice for years. And ofcourse its not that easy once you start to realize that you're currently in the battle. But its all worth it and fullfilling once you've notice that they start to fade away then leave you alone completely and once that happens then you knew that you win

[@ejeanbrown25]

This video couldn’t have come at a better time. All ten tactics were on point. I feel so empowered and liberated after finally putting my narcissist in his place. I entertained his arrogance and disrespectful behavior far longer than I should have. But it’s better late than never and I feel great with no regrets. Thanks for this video.

[@ganymeade5151]

Even if you really loved a narcissist, it is better to leave them and be without them.

[@alvasargenti9712]

My daughter is an emotionally cruel narcissist. She is not allowed in my home now. It saddens me. But I refuse to allow her to abuse me. Thank you for your healing videos. I subscribed.

[@PsychologyElement]

It's very sad when its your own children. Thank you for subscribing Alva.

[@40kfanatics]

@GOKU Narcissism is a part of you, it's more about learning techniques to address the symptoms than it is getting back to "normal". book an appointment with a psychologist

[@N7-WAR-HOUND]

@GOKU group therapy with survivors of abusive narcissists, my mother was one to the point she used my attempt to kill myself as a weapon against my father saying if she killed herself that I would too. In group therapy we had someone who said they were a abusive narcissist to their romantic partners and was there to try and build empathy by hearing out victims, no idea if that worked for him but he at least seemed genuine,

[@colonelreb2688]

@GOKU You feign competency, you do not actually have it. If it’s the superiority you want so bad you get that by being strong, not weak. If you are truly a narcissist everything you do requires minimal effort and is not challenging at all. Being “good” is the solution. You can use your unique mind for good. You need to understand you have a choice. Actions are what matters in this life, not words. Ask yourself what you should do, not what you want to and strictly live by that. If you actually commit to that and harden your mind you will see a slow change. You will slowly get over your fears and will realize we’re all more alike than different. Even if you feel so special because you’re a “psychopath” or whatever identity you propagate, you will realize that. Discipline is how you get over it, of which you probably have none, but that’s the thing, discipline is learned no one is born with it. Start small with working out on a strict schedule or something. Purposefully do things you do not like doing. Quit being a child and grow up. The most important discipline to have and try and be a better person each day. Make that your goal you actually commit to for once in your life and you might not be a scumbag anymore.

[@MarkJack-il6mb]

Narcissistic projection is an ego defense mechanism used by the narcissistic. to avoid suffering further narcissistic injury equip yourself and understand why they do the things they do and it most reason why I recommend the truth worthy and reliable service man @cyber_tech_service_tools

[@tammyli1773]

Thank you for this. I called out a narcissist... He didn't like it. He kept threatening to call the police on me. That I'm the "mentally ill" one. Except I had been up to my doctors and asked to be interviewed by a psychologist. I passed all the tests. I'm normal for what had has happened to me in the past few years. Contracting Covid, domestic violence and learning to walk again. Plus the court dates that were adjourned and then going to court while in the physiotherapy hospital with my violent ex... I've cut all contact with him. It broke my heart but I can't have someone like him in my brand new life. So yeah, sometimes it's incredibly hard to do but you have to...

[@KK-ri2gu]

Excellent job you have only one life to live no more tolerance no more abusive life so keep it up

[@kingstonjw]

I’m in the same boat !

[@Mandolin523]

My story now

[@ForlornFreddy]

I’m work with one of these. It’s amazing how accurate this is.

[@shanakarlsen3952]

FABULOUS VIDEO, THANK YOU!!!! I have been dealing with a SUPREME narcissist for many years and it's EXHAUSTING!!! It's gotten a little better since I stand up for myself now and refuse to put up with infantile behavior. U left out one important thing.....you have to punish them for their bad behavior by denying them your time/attention and company. Lack of attention, or, time to ego trip, is like depriving them of air, lol. Do not include them in your plans anymore, i.e., weddings, parties, special events, holidays, etc. At first, it's hard to do, but, the more often you do it, the easier it is. Now, I get to enjoy when I go out. I don't have to worry about being embarrassed whenever he hijacks the conversation and turns all attention back to himself and don't have to be on edge whenever he opens his mouth, or, crosses boundaries/invades personal space. Some friends tell me I'm being mean, but, I ask them how they would like dealing with this nonsense, they claim up, lol. What's mean is, letting someone aggravate and embarrass u on a regular basis, or, trying to steal your thunder or claim credit for something that you did, or was your idea. Sometimes, the silent treatment works, sometimes, u have to get up in their face and show dominance. I deal with one that has a hair trigger temper and gets verbally abusive at times, not to mention the constant swearing!!! I don't deal with it anymore!!! Let him bang his head against the wall if he wants to inflict pain!! Last, but not least, do that to me again and the last thing u will see is my fat ass as it's slamming the door in your face. BAMMMM!!!!! As the kids say, "mic drop!!"

[@ellensc-hawley3720]

have a relative who is a narcissist in my life. I've emotionally detached from her & am at peace. good video

[@nancyermi4303]

I have definitely enjoyed this direct and simple way of putting it. I’m recovering from a narcissist mother as well as an ex husband. I will be okay. Definitely a learning curve in my life. Honestly I’m better for going through it stronger than I ever thought I could be. Especially when as you put it no one would help and several turned on me. I was alone so I thought. However my faith is what has brought me through. Wishing anyone who is going through this to stay strong it will get better if you do the work. Truly believe nothing else can match it.

[@kissmyazzbitches4wat]

Thank you.

[@aheiden8002]

I have a narcissist mother also. Literally the hardest relationship I have had to deal with in my life.

[@1885win]

I was married to a narcissist. Did not realize what was causing here behavioral cycles and her abusive ways. At 8 months being married I told her I was done. She had changed so much from before we got married.

[@michelleparra4001]

I love that comment about the zoo. “Don’t feed the animals”❤ that really puts into perspective

[@funinthekitchen844]

Don't engage with a narcissist. Don't! Whether it's a family member or a coworker or friend. I had to cut all ties with my narcissistic mother, simply to save myself and she turned my siblings against to punish me - that's the only way she could hurt me, but it's their loss. I had an associate who always talked behind peoples back, and I found out she had said a lot of shit about me (surprise!!), and I met her and she said " Do you have a second, I want to explain myself, I didn't mean to hurt you.." I just looked at her and said "No you can't, and I don't have time for your BS!" and she left really quick 🤣😅

[@nernatbentley3778]

By responding to your “associate” (albeit, firmly).., you still gave her ‘narcissistic supply’. Had you said nothing at all, then walked away, the outcome would’ve resonated loader. Instead, you gave her words to fuel her next move. Ever heard this saying?-- “Silence can be deafening.”

[@gloriamaryhaywood2217]

I think you have the exact response she needed to hear! You cut her Cold with No further conversation about it. She KNEW you weren't about to feed into or play her little shitty games!!!👏😎

[@cindyrice5141]

Amen to you....my family was the same way... My dad was the only decent one.. My mother could never say she was sorry.....

[@accesstotheredcarpet]

@@cindyrice5141 Same here. After my estranged narcissist mother died suddenly, then my aunt who was just following my mother’s wishes was to send a check that she had left me in my name for $1.00. I ripped the check up. My aunt died a few months after that. Karma got them! No fucks given. Total narc bitches!

[@aheiden8002]

I have a narcissist mother also...hardest relationship I've had!

[@hg0197]

I subscribed! 36 years of my life surrounded by three narcs, one thing I learned is that they HATE if you better yourself. Focus on yourself and see how they revert to childlike behavior and throw a tantrum, but there ill choices of what they say and how they behave is NOT your responsibility. Accept them for who and what they are and let them go and live your life.

[@PsychologyElement]

Good points. Thank you for subscribing!

[@jf1573]

Most of these tips actually give the narcissist too much attention and rob your time. No contact is the only solution.

[@ReligiousZombie]

When your boss is a narcissist, and you stand up for yourself, all your coworkers will take the coward's way out and support the boss.

[@devilsoffspring5519]

That's just business though, nothing personal about it. Remember, the only reason 99.999% of people go to work is because they need the money, and that's it. Nothing more to it than that.

[@stewartfraser2574]

Yep.

[@STho205]

Or maybe YOU'RE the narcissist and just projecting.

[@yosteve2256]

@@STho205 🤣🤣

[@jamesbrown4538]

I never knew what was wrong with my relationship with my wife of 24 years was. We are separated and I have my children cause she hurt my daughter a year ago. I have been watching your videos recently and I'm now beginning to understand. I have been focusing on my religious beliefs which has helped me so much. Your videos have put other things in perspective and helping In other ways. Just want to say thank you for the information provided. 🙏 I really needed this to make decisions I was afraid to make I the past. God's given advice thank you so.much

[@janetpattison8474]

If u haven’t already, check out more fantastic ppl on YT: Dr Ramani, Dr Les Carter, Lisa Ramano, and Darren F Magee.

[@SandyFeder]

Amen! And, exactly, yes, you nailed it.

[@sleeperno1215]

Note that you can feed their ego by arguing with them. everything you do feeds their ego so long as you give them attention.

[@1010QUEEN7]

That's so sick evil dirty demons

[@cindyrice5141]

It got tiring for me....I left my whole family behind... Never looked back....

[@veevee111]

@@cindyrice5141 same here. I spend all holidays alone but those days don't seem like holidays anymore so they're just days like any other. I stopped feeling sorry for myself a long time ago when I realized that if I had my family in my life just to spend holidays with, I'd also have all their toxicity consuming me. And the sting of all the ugliness stays and lingers until it blends into the next gathering, and on and on. What I've learned is that some folks don't like to introduce someone new to their family gatherings so in the last few years there have been fewer Thanksgiving invites (from friends) and that's ok--I do understand and I'm not hurt by it. I just make a smaller Thanksgiving dinner (roasted turkey thighs) for myself, I won't miss out on that! And who doesn't love holiday leftovers! I have found my peace and I'm better off on my own. 😊

[@DylanW13]

I subscribed, I have a narcissistic ex close friend to offended me on sending something bad and I’m a very nice person, I just have a problem with finding right words and I never been in a fight before considering being the nice sensitive guy. Most of my friends don’t even stand up for me on my own space. The way my ex friend did this to me is that these people I’ve had talks with is exposing my personal boundaries and I tried to have help from him. Instead, he joined them and put a lot of pressure on me. Thank you very much for making this video, it helped me so much on what to do at times. Sorry for showing and your time 👍

[@homiekeen23]

I am a very supportive and encouraging person, I WANT and LOVE to lift people up and encourage them and give praise. I don't want to stop being that person just because of these toxic people.

[@marlaweiss-walko2648]

Thank you for putting this out there !!! Had no idea of the Narcissist & Empath connection. As I’m an empath and had a long run with several bad & abusive relationships with Narcissistic men. This has been so helpful 🙏🏼

[@thebloxconductor1870]

Women can be narcissistic too, just say ''people''

[@sterlingforbes3872]

Same, except I've had relationships with bad and abusive narcissistic women.

[@julianmcculloch3235]

Women are not immune either. Boundaries, saying no and time to think. Having to rush to decide on something is a red flag

[@christophermichael.w.7577]

I struggle with being an empath.I have even noticed that I have a weird ability to sense other peoples emotions. It's got worse ad I have got older for some reason

[@julianmcculloch3235]

@@christophermichael.w.7577 probably the key is to remember your responsible for your emotions not someone else's. Let them vent

[@herrapelaajatm5127]

This has been my situation twice now with a girlfriend. It is amazing how accurate this video is. First girl ended up stabbing me in the leg while I was a sleep. Second one did not do anything for me in 1 year that we spent together and still does not realize what is my problem with her. I am a huge Empath from my mothers side. So these girls really did a number on me. Thank you for The video. Peace out ✌️

[@FranciscoQuinonez-tb7wv]

I was taught ignoring them is the best course of action. Your best response is no response.

[@kadoman65]

Love it..recently started doing most of these instinctively and it worked! Thank you for this video!!

[@PsychologyElement]

Glad it helped!

[@sripriyameenakshisundaram6906]

Saying no was something I learnt in the past 3 years. It has given me a load of freedom from my own doubts and anxieties. I had no idea about narcissost and the series has opened my eye and mad me understand why I suffered

[@maestephens5687]

I appreciate this video very much. Yes fear has to leave. Going no contact and telling anyone who wants to discuss that person that this is not a topic you will discus with them. And their bad choices are not your responsibility. And saying no is necessary to learn and use. This was a good clear and concise video. Again thank you for this information it is helpful content for for hurting people to start healing and move on with their lives like me.

[@CLark-yk7oz]

For someone new to this, gratitude for ALL input. Strength to all who manage this and offer insight 👏✌️

[@Dollylynn44]

To all those out there who deal with a narcissist please know you are NOT alone, they will make you isolate yourself from family and friends but know that there are people to talk to or help you get away or work through it. The narcissist breaks down your confidence to make you think thats thats all you deserve is them . they do this so you wont get up and leave. Please Stand your ground and stay strong! Break away from the abuse tust that when you do you will be able to take a breath of freedom! Lots of love and strength to you all.

[@angelacapranica7701]

The only thing I disagree with is that a narcissist can be very violent. Mine hurt me physically not just mentally.

[@melodyleiber8562]

Not just the men natrcs,the women narcs are just as bad

[@Nata-Nesa]

Yes my ex was like that- terrible temper he used to punch holes in the walls and throw stuff all the time

[@rod7177]

I'm very sorry to hear that Helen. I have a narc in my family. He is manipulative and psychologically abusive, but non-violent. I hope things work out for you.

[@melodyleiber8562]

It's true,glad you survived,just take care of you inner health,God bless🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@politicjunkee]

True. Covert narcissists are the worst.

[@kristinemorley4337]

Cut them loose , steer clear of those defective ones, find mentally healthy positive people to keep around you or stay alone.

[@rhondadurbyn6363]

So true

[@cindyrice5141]

Amen....good advice

[@markartist8646]

She's right! No fear. Find your inner strength! They are powerless.

[@Dgn404]

Transparency and keeping records were key in shutting down slander and attempts to alienate or manipulate me in the two different situations. Very good advice to follow. I wasn't really vulnerable to emotional manipulation from my former friend or my father growing up so I can't speak to some of the other tactics but those two work.

[@ganymeade5151]

Eventually narcissists are revealed. No sane or nice person wants them. The only people who can probably tolerate them are other fools. So, narcissists get their karma.

[@curiousdls34]

They come on like really sweet and nice so it is easy to get snagged in. Some are Impressionist, which is dangerous. Fools, huh? What do you do when one of those is your dad? And worse, when you do leave, you have no place else to go except back home? Fools huh? I would not judge anyone as that because No one knows what someone else is going through. *Only the Person knows and why one gets involved with such a One. I would Not call such ones fools. The Pathological liars are such deceitful ones, they look you straight in the eye and make it So very difficult to tell whether it is a lie or the truth? ❤️

[@sylviaostertagpreidelt3542]

Subscribed! I like the nailed tactics....they work! I have used some of them before I saw your video and especially love the "say no" strategy! I do grey rock on a narc in my life since around two weeks and he goes through the entire menu....from hoovering to aggression, assault and smearing. But he has no chance to get through. Recently he initiated a situation to force me to talk to him. I didn't respond on his attempts and then he tried it with "can I have your attention" while a bunch of coworkers were present. I looked him straight into his face and said "NO", turned my back on him and walked away- slowly. Effect : He us slowly starving - he looks emptier and emptier with every day

[@PsychologyElement]

Thanks for subscribing Sylvia. Glad to hear the techniques have worked for you.

[@fingsandstuff]

To anyone out there struggling that needs this. Your thoughts are more powerful than you think. You are what you tell yourself, and you create your own reality. If someone broke you and made you feel worthless. Don't let it defeat you. Don’t convince yourself that you are worthless. Don't treat yourself like you are worthless. Don't hide in shame like you are worthless. If you do that, then you are letting them win. You are giving them the power over you and thats exactly what they wanted. Be stronger than that, keep telling yourself that you won't let them break you. Keep telling yourself that you are worthy. Seek validation from within, not from outside sources. You need no ones validation but your own. You'll find when you start to believe in yourself, when you start valuing yourself. When you break free from that pain and those insecurities you will start to find worth in yourself. And when you finally find your own worth, you can begin to love yourself. And with that love you will find that you can begin the healing process. The pain that once crippled you and had control over you becomes a source of growth and strength. How others have treated you is not your fault. How you let it affect you is. Dont let the pain inflicted by others control you. Embrace the pain, feel it, accept it and grow from it. Then you can use that pain to fuel the fire inside you to go from weakness to strength. When you finally reach that point, when you realize your own worth. When you take the blame from yourself and put it back where it belongs. When you discover that you deserve your own love, respect and self care. Once you finally reach that point, you will find that you are unstoppable. Nothing can break you, nothing can take away your own pride. You've tapped deep into your soul, your inner spirit and found the courage and strength to find your true worth and value. When you make that discovery, nothing, absolutely nothing is more empowering. From there your strength and happiness will only grow. Once you learn how to turn negative energy into positive energy, you become an unstoppable beast. And from that point on, if anyone tries to break you, they will only end up breaking themselves.

[@LegitVeggies]

Hey bro do you have Instagram or Snapchat your words spoke to me in great harmony can we talk on this subject in a DM

[@Matthews-w7r]

👍

[@anneriddick2659]

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[@milkystraw15]

Sounds legit ❤ love it!

[@milkystraw15]

Do you have any books you can recommend?

[@Lee2023-yw8vg]

I came across this video, thank you, l didn't know l was dealing with a narcissist in this relationship, we broke up two weeks ago it was almost a four year relationship,

[@Christian-tl2dm]

Wow I honestly immediately started crying at *minslegend* part of honesty. Imagine sacrificing that much for your own firm's success, and being so thrilled to see them all grow. I come from a small family and can imagine recommending all of them to you but an absolute inspiration for the way to surround yourself with love.

[@darrellandsondraholden9457]

I THINK YOU'RE COMMENTING IN THE WRONG SECTION DUDE.

[@jaimebenson6102]

This was fabulous! Thank you! I've been struggling with a toxic friendship for years and finally realized I was dealing with a narcissist.

[@malissahyatt2425]

Thinking I'm in the same mess.

[@johngaulding3710]

One tip I have is never set boundaries. It only tells them how to get to you. They are like children who find breaking rules fun.

[@TheReetchou]

Do you mean don’t tell them what the set boundaries are?

[@Kingdom_of_God777]

Well that is true but only in a very limited way as long as you maintain your own self control and courage Any enemy will always look for any door (to a fortress or castle let’s say) and they will always try to breach the wall anywhere or any way they can; but at least having the wall or barrier can make it extremely difficult if not impossible for them to get to you It’s just the way things work and the more walls and barriers you put up against them the better your success will be even if they try to think of ways to get to you

[@Kingdom_of_God777]

@@TheReetchou I would suggest that you tell them exactly what and where your boundaries will be If you don’t do that you will appear weak and unconfident in your ability to resist People who keep silent about something typically have something to hide (not always and every time of course) and hiding something means you’re concerned about others discovering the truth If you’re confident and have no fear then you shouldn’t be fearful of people knowing your truth Narcissistic people cannot be transparent because they live in fear and don’t want you to see them for who they actually are inside Do not do what they do and stand firm with strength and courage and tell them exactly where you stand and you absolutely will not tolerate their nonsense and there is nothing that will change that They cannot handle nor cope with a person who is vigilant and confident and who makes themselves absolutely crystal clear

[@johngaulding3710]

@@TheReetchou I mean they are permanent 5 year olds. And if you tell them what not to do, they will do it out of spite. They know what the boundaries are as you do. They just don't care. Telling them what would upset you or what would effect you is giving them your "weakness" ,because that's how they look at it.

[@nernatbentley3778]

@@johngaulding3710, You are 1000% correct! Informing a narcissist of your boundaries BEFORE they cross them, is basically giving the narcissist ammunition against you. They’re going to cross “the line” regardless but, NEVER announce areas that affects you deeply! I did that with a past (‘Past’ is the operative word) Covert Narcissist 40 yr.old neighbor. BIG MISTAKE on my part!! However, after MANY disputes, darn near fist fights, Police calls and Court appearances..., I drove that Covert Narcissist and his enabling parents away next door, and COMPLETELY out of the neighborhood!!

[@deandrebit601]

Keep putting these out there, the3y are informative and REAL.. I am thinkin of the ONE's who fell victim to the Narcissist and don't or do not have this information!!! THEY may never get well and may never know the answers or the truth to set them free. The many are out there suffering thinkin and convinced it was their fault..