10 Things Elegant Women NEVER do at home! | Tips for being Elegant at Home

[@Kismet404]

I'm 70 so I was raised in the 50"s. I have to tell you that I sat watching and listening to the video totally gobsmacked . The things you where telling women to do to be elegant, I learned as a child growing up in a working class family. These habits became part of my everyday lifestyle.

[@Ad-Lo]

*were

[@Kismet404]

@@Ad-Lo I'm from the US. But my grandparents came from Poland and Ireland/English where they had learned these traits then taught them to my parents and then to me.

[@bellathereader1328]

@@Kismet404 I am a college professor and am in my 60s, and yes I was brought up with manners. Quite shocking that young people (in the U.S.) barely know to say please/thank you, yet alone know how to speak appropriately to their instructors!

[@Sozo_inc]

Beautifully said. I am way younger than you but I too grew up and was raised with grace polish and what I call as if I went to finishing school. My mum is your age hut she is the most Elegant woman I know and her mother was too. I used to tell my friends I have never seen my mum unkempt even when she came home from work. She always looked good yet she does mot wear any makeup. She does everything graciously I have never smelled her sweat. From the part of the world I cone from.people used to call them Caucasian as if She always smelt like perfume. I love the sanitary pad part and hair in the sink not just that men even your own relatives should never see this in the bathroom. Even you should never have that - dirty vlothes and the sane bed clothes was great too. Especially for African women. As fir repeating underwear that is alarming to me. Great video - great tips. Things I think you need to be taught as a child

[@reneeantwi-boasiako3974]

Ma'am, I am a 22 year-old Gen-Z , and I am shocked too

[@rejoycehealthy]

1.Eating direct from the pot_ save your food in a nice plate and eat 2.Ignoring personal and your space hygiene_ stay clean and neat as well as presentable at home 3.repeting dirty clothes and bed sheets_ wear clean clothes and change your bedsheets 4.Dumping clothes all over the space 5.Leaving a half eating plates around 6.abondoning dirty dishes in the sink for hours or days_clean them imediently after use 7.Not observing correct table manners when at home or alone 8.Going on social media to insult others 9.Not brushing your teeth regularly before meals and before sleep 10.Getting drunk

[@darrellhicks360]

In a nutshell, be clean and tidy in all ways at all times.

[@Naomily]

Wherever and whenever you are, and whoever is (or isn't) around.

[@askpam9558]

Sometimes, it’s required to break it all the way down for some people.

[@chefbperez]

I agree, my boyfriend made a surprise stop yesterday and it has been raining all week I haven't left my home or gone outside. I was a trashy mess. To say the least I was mortified.

[@faiththikazi154]

Pretend that someone is coming to your house always😊. Love your 'me'. Please when not in bed, have a bra on.

[@Passions5555]

Mmm, personally , I always disliked someone (anyone) just dropping by without giving me a heads-up first, even if they are as close as your significant other. I tell everyone not to do that. I got this from my mother, who always told me that it was rude to do this to people. My own Dad pulled something like this on my Mom when they were dating, while she was home alone one day, deep cleaning the bathroom. My mother was actually scrubbing the toilet bowl when my father just dropped in and found her like that. She was mortified and also very upset with my father for doing that, and my Dad thought it was funny to catch her in that sort of predicament because my mother was always refined and put together.

[@gospelician]

Truth. My mother taught me about the sanitary, panties, etc. My husband never saw evidence of my monthly. You are speaking truth!

[@phylis3917]

Chic.

[@nycgirl6978]

As a Boomer, When I first saw the topic I thought “really?? people don’t know this?” After a few points I felt that this could be informative to some young people. So great job.

[@fourthgirl]

Married in the early 90's. My then husband hated seeing me in sweats around the house. I was a homemaker with 3 babies! I thought he was controlling...and he was. But one day I saw several women shopping with sweats, sloppy jeans and they looked like they just gave up. I changed my look. Recently working from since 2020 and I realized early on that wearing bed clothes and house dresses doesn't put you in a good mindset for work. I now get up, wash face, teeth, meditate for 20 minutes, get dressed and start work. I am in a much better place.

[@saimaasiya99]

🎉❤🎉

[@aishwarya2016]

Thank You Ma'am 😊 You are an inspiration to us ladies. ❤

[@andream420]

YES. I CAN! 😂😂😂 ELEGANCE IN PUBLIC AND AROUND OTHERS, BUT I GOTTA GET SOME REST...🤣🤣🤣, BUT I DO AGREE WITH YOUR POINTS; ESPECIALLY ABOUT HYGIENE...

[@melodypatrick3707]

I have always maintained a pleasant and inviting home. And I have always taken care to put on an attractive outfit (even if it’s just jeans and a sweater), jewelry and practice good hygiene. I feel it’s important because it elevates myself and others even if it is only my husband and myself. I like the calm that I get when I look around a tidy home, and I also like to give my husband something nice to look at when he sees me each day! However, you challenged me with regard to eating out of a container. I often do not take the time to “plate“ my food, unless my husband and I are sitting down to a meal together. There are always ways in which we can grow in elegance, both internally and externally, and so I thank you for your channel and your challenges! God bless you my elegant sister!

[@judith018]

I’ve reached the end and I appreciate all the tips you’ve shared.

[@PhyllisSanders-u8u]

In my community it was called "Home training" and it has stayed with me. Older Black women were very stern about these things. I think people have gotten somewhat lax. I have been teased about being prissy and Suzy homemaker ... but my husband appreciates my ways and that's what matters to me.

[@dr.franciscanishatotalheal]

I do all these things only my books are always there at the corner of the bed below because my books are my best friends and I even clean while cooking so that I save the time to clean the kitchen after cooking.Nice advice to all ladies.Thank you dear.

[@phylis3917]

Me too.

[@Kismet404]

Hi everyone I have other elegant idea I would like to propose and that is IRON YOUR CLOTHES. People today look like they just rolled out of bed, all wrinkled and just plain sloppy. They have taken the causal look to the extreme. They have no pride in there appearance and first impressions count in business and social. Everyone seems to emulate the next person instead of being their own person. Take a look at the average person and actresses of the 40"s and 50"s and how unique and crisp their outfits looked and the pride they expressed. I enjoy reading your thoughts.

[@ameryek.9607]

Great that you are back! Love the tips - some of which are good hygiene. My dislike: taking food from the serving plate straight to ones mouth. 😮 True with any food- tea sandwiches, bread/rolls, meat, chicken pieces. 💙

[@elizabetharguelles4752]

I heard you! Am taking notes

[@elizabetharguelles4752]

You are right and I passed it.

[@YogaGoddess1972]

I sm Very grateful to my grandmother, godmother and birth mother, for training me early iny youth on, class, elegance, and femininity. I know that's a lot of women struggle in these areas

[@margaretforbes1234]

I’m taking notes thank you for sharing these elegant manners. I was raised in the Caribbean and etiquette training was taught at an early age.

[@OLDSCHOOLnola]

Stay Elegant and continue to influence. The world will be a much better place because of you and all these elegant ladies.❤

[@katarzynakaczor9007]

Thank you for the vidio. I have tovsay that those are exactly the tips i got from my mother! 😊 good "old school"❤

[@marydass3411]

Reminds me of my mom she never eased up on us now I'm older on my own I do alot of short cuts but the scary part is I may forget and do it in public thank you for helping me to fall back in line.

[@phylis3917]

lol - sweet.

[@Queen-ConsciousYa]

Lol I am this way with my daughter and sometimes I think I am being too hard on her. However, many people have walked up to me to tell me how great of a mother I am and I need to continue to be a woman of excellence.

[@shantakoa8596]

I love a tidy house BUT being single I can do whatever is comfortable for me and I love it.

[@bethelgrace4490]

Listening to you is like listening to a friend who seriously wants me to be my best. Thank you so much sis. Just subscribed

[@rosiesullivan2604]

😂❤ you covered almost everything 👏👏💃 excellent!!! You put it across very well, makes me smile when you dont beat around the bush , 😊 you say it like it is, well I can't leave dishes out , I clean thoroughly before bed time. Like you I clean as I go when cooking ,so I don't generate a huge pile of dishes after, just what is used at table. I.agree with all the points, I didnt do too bad Lol passed 100% But there's always room for improvement and fine tuning For sure.Thanks for your hard work lovely video take care.

[@ogechisabina6625]

I took notes of all points . Thank you vivienne If I spell correctly

[@ButtercupK]

I’m taking notes. Thank you for helping us all become more elegant ladies!

[@motivationcrochet9238]

I just love your elegance during your presentation. It makes the message sink home. As you mentioned, we are creatures of habits and mine I can say it’s out of growing up with a strict Mum. Everything you mentioned is entrenched in my daily life out of the discipline instilled without an option out - only one was acquired bad habit..because I could hide it😀. But I’ve adjusted🙏🏽🙏🏽. Thank you

[@bernadineperry8340]

Hi Vivienne, Love your channel and absolutely agree with everything you advise. This is how I was brought up and have applied all your advice to the way I live.

[@bellsbooklover]

Could you please do a video for elegance at home when unwell? I am taking notes. I have never done any of those, however reminders are always welcome.

[@888KingsDaughter]

So True. I wear a gown and decent pjamas..

[@AdammaNwokoro]

I’m glad to say I do all of these effortlessly. Let’s go my elegant women, keep doing more.

[@renahill6565]

My dear mother gave me the grace of elegance ❤ and I appreciate her so much, Thankyou for confirming that gift of elegance.

[@shahad_alsayed]

Thank you for your étiquette lesson, brief but meaningful to me. God Bless you

[@Becca-t2i]

Thanks, Vivian. I'm taking notes and hope to do better

[@octaviahicks-braye9859]

Great information. 👍 The old people would say cleanliness is next to Godliness. My great grandmother from Cambridge, Maryland was extremely neat and clean. My grandmother from South Carolina loved nice things in her home. They would tell me how beautifully grandmother would decorate on a slim budget. The bathroom and kitchen should always get more attention for cleaning and sanitizing. Your home is your sanctuary and a reflection of you and your personal taste. The common goal is keeping it organized and clean even when you have to move or remodel. Living well is the best revenge. Hard to function in a dirty, dysfunctional home.

[@phylis3917]

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[@elizabethpace1591]

Hygiene is crucial, thank you for sharing this 🙂

[@Sweetdreamz313]

Love your channel

[@rosemaryonyango3173]

You are speaking to me. Guilty as charged. Changing right away

[@teachernaomi42]

Awuoro😅😅😅

[@phylis3917]

lol.

[@Anne_Annah]

Owada!! 😅

[@naomiwinnie5202]

I like this,thank you Vivianne!

[@jumbomaryvinah3887]

I get the OCD title from friends all the time😂. But I don’t care. It makes me relax in my femininity.I’m super intentional with my hygiene . And yes! I agree, I’m a hyper OCD😅

[@milkastanojevich8357]

OCD is a serious mental disorder. Being fastidious is not OCD.

[@smilethrough-it]

I’m taking note, thanks for sharing🥰

[@clarity32123]

Excellent training! Some points are so basic that I thought women learned this growing up. If you didn’t, please learn this and teach all your children about basic hygiene and order. Thank you for these videos!🌹

[@everymomentisagift]

Thank you. ❤️ My grandmother (Italian) was very elegant and always smelled so soft snd pretty. She wore her hair in a low bun until her 80's then got it cut off to a shorter style. She was a stickler about etiquette, grace and dignity. We also were taught to never eat with food in your mouth even alone. Please yes wear clean clothes and have clean bedding.

[@deborahmuricho3079]

I totally agree. Am guilty for doing some of the habits. But looking back, I always feel great whenever am put together even in the house.

[@linmarielindseymariew8375]

Thanks Vivienne have a wonderful day 😊 I’m taking notes 📝

[@danyf.1442]

Whew, basically the only thing I have been often been guilty of is eating straight from the takeout containers...I mean if I order food to be delivered at home a great advantage of it is not having to do the dishes lol, I think there should be a bit of leeway with that. But eating straight from the pot is different and a no-no for me too.

[@MasQueVencedorasPodcast]

I am definitely taking notes!! 📝 thank you so much for your videos! Greetings from Canada 🍁

[@julieobong4989]

I have taken notes, thank you so much

[@preciousglory6735]

My mother really did a good job for me I am a good tidy and a clean woman in all areas thanks for educating …

[@jeananglin774]

Thank you very much God bless you

[@user-fh6hv4eb56]

I'm taking notes! Peace and blessings to all!

[@everythingcuteandwhimsical]

Not to mention, we are somebody.❤ So who better to impress with cleanliness and classiness than outselves.🤷🏽‍♀️

[@marymaddy7450]

I am taking notes. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏾❤️

[@gloriaanima3575]

Thank you so much for this video, you hit on some tender subjects for me. I was not raised in a way to be elegant and poised, I had to pick things up along the way. I'm 72 years old and I truly believe one is never too old to learn and apply something new. One subject I would mention is using profanity like a drunken sailor. I myself am guilty of this and am on a quest to change my vocabulary and nix the bad words and inappropriate slang.

[@debbieb4137]

Thank you for sharing clear, specific ways to live with elegance!

[@faviolafikir2181]

Thank you for this video. Not everyone had the opportunity to learn this at home at a young age. It’s never too late to learn and change!😊

[@Cheryllovesbooks]

I did watch the entirety of your video. I didn’t require notes, I do all these things. I suspect it is because I am older than you and was raised in this way. I love your gentle instruction for those that may not know these things. ❤

[@AReid-ss3kk]

Im taking notes 👍🏽

[@deatricehouston]

Thank you so much. Be blessed

[@TheMocao]

I wake up later on my non work days and I immediately get up and perform the daily bathing and makeup routine. I have a separate wardrobe of lounge clothes - clothes that I can clean my apartment in , but not be ashamed to open the door wearing 😂 Fortunately , my mother taught me most of the other rules as I grew up.

[@phylis3917]

Yes. Housework clothes. Lounging clothes (guests may come) work clothes, evening clothes, gardening too. 😅

[@Soton-E]

@@phylis3917 ….Perhaps it’s better to cultivate these good habits for yourself …. not because guests might come …..

[@CarolineWamucii-gr3ym]

I am taking notes. Thank you Vivienne.

[@Beebee192-j7i]

It's good to be reminded of these. Thank you.

[@HannahIbekwe-t4w]

I'm taking notes 🗒️. Thank you so much, Ms. Vivian for the knowledge, may God bless you

[@monicaaparecidaoliveira8063]

Excellent reminders. Thank you.

[@ShamimMunywanyi]

Thanks darling for the good lecture

[@rhodatuckey7119]

Thank ,Miss, for sharing...

[@Shika-u8]

Thankyou. It's really very helpful .

[@bellathereader1328]

You need to tell my husband to not eat out of the pot and take a sample of everything while I'm cooking, lol!

[@emmsue1053]

Tasting is needed.. The young lady stated about not eating your full meal from the cooking pan.

[@cesliberty9789]

He must love you a lot; keep the love alive, encourage him to serve on a plate

[@bellathereader1328]

@@cesliberty9789 well, what I said is more of a joke than anything else!

[@lydiawaithira3616]

Leave the guy alone😂he is enjoying having time with you don't deny him that

[@brendarudman8806]

Vivian ,please have a video how to eat different meals with a knife and fork the proper way Meals like steak ,pumpkin,rice

[@Laura-rx9mp]

thank you. ive taken notes!! cheers

[@Mimi-nn8px]

We want more vidéos like this, especially about hygiene

[@adetutuamubode9767]

Be clean is very important...we still need to look clean even when living alone but still home is your comfort

[@tobidurojaiye9014]

Thank you Vivienne. I’m taking notes

[@juanelawson9775]

Your hair always look so beautiful I thought it was your own hair all this time .I really like the style no baby hair and no glue which makes you bald eventually .Thanks for showing us how everything is done with this gorgeous wig.

[@Soton-E]

….. it is a wig not your hair - so if you had a husband what does one do at bedtime? I don’t wear wigs hence the question….

[@abigealkayode7559]

I am taking note. Thanks ma'am

[@Aprilgrant-e8f]

Guilty of not plating my food from take-out containers. (I SAY to myself that, 'I should put this on a plate'...and, then DON'T) That stops today/now. I understand The Assignment! I am taking notes.

[@Blesso2024]

I am taking note. Thank you for this video.

[@julscuisine3877]

Love this video. Thanks

[@Mercys_Table]

I like you you said “stock fish” …. Hahahaha I can’t 😂😂😅

[@guadeloupe61]

Hello Vivianne, I am taking notes. Thank you, Sabine.

[@hollylouise4513]

This is very insightful ❤I’m a newlywed and looking for ways to make my home more tidier and warm. If you can recommend similar ideas please 🙏🏽

[@phylis3917]

Yes.

[@sannyvain7196]

I am taking notes . As someone who indulged in alcohol and *orn I can admit it makes me anxious and socially awkward in public. Thank you for this advice

[@rosecouch7343]

Thank God for my mother. I went to CHARM school and I learned and I remember everything I was taught.

[@mrs.shockley]

I LOVED this and will be sharing it! Thank you.

[@ingridcuero9652]

I'm taking notes, thank you.

[@esthermutua1287]

Thanks alot for this informative tips

[@sassyperry6382]

I love this channel!!!

[@gospelician]

Truth. I confess, food nuh taste good like from the pot (my portion only). I appreciate the lesson though. Thank you for reminding us. ❤❤❤

[@alikazan24]

This is basic home training and self care. My home is my sanctuary. It must be clean and clutter free to be the oasis I love.

[@eunice.ese777]

Thank you for the reinforcement. I am taking note!

[@ogunwuyiesther1054]

Thank you so much, Vivian. This is so helpful.

[@mckenagodly2850]

Oooh i have them already luvme hair,

[@Paprika747]

Oh yes, I am taking notes.

[@LoureeDlamini]

Yes dear that is the true nature of a dissent woman .Old school ladies, thumbs-up, that is how we were brought up.

[@thulas6767]

I fully agree with you ❤

[@AlC-k2j]

So much more pleasant than Anna Bey. I'm taking note.

[@Beebee192-j7i]

The Anna Bey channel isn't genuine, like this one.

[@notinvogue4287]

I'm taking notes 📝

[@elizabethahuoyizabenjamin8008]

I am taking notes

[@patriciakhakali4200]

I am taking notes , I am in Nairobi Kenya

[@jscholtens6539]

I am taking notes.

[@adanmanwaogbe-iz8yt]

I'm taking notes.

[@LadyOFaith_M]

I am taking Notes🥰

[@carolinenkhalamba4711]

Watching this video while eating from my pot, so embarrassing 🙈 Thank you for the video ❤❤