10 Things Good Men Need to STOP Doing In Their Marriages

[@benj1236]

The biggest problem we have is that we "TRY" to make women happy. Its not our responsibility to make anyone happy and its out of our control. If a woman is unhappy with you, anything you do will not matter.

[@CraigWindmueller]

That’s me. My wife is NEVER satisfied.

[@thehappywifeschool]

Thank you for commenting. " If a woman is unhappy with you, anything you do will not matter." - well said.

[@mikaeltsimbidakis6980]

Give her Your cum

[@Frontline.Motivation]

Thank you. I literally had this thought 20 minutes ago....

[@QuiDocetDiscit]

It blows me away how women have NO compassion, NO empathy, NO mercy on another human being who is trying to please them. WHY do they feel SO entitled. How can they be SO unkind??? I'm extremely indignant...you can take me off the "good man" list. I'm done.

[@kaiserpuppydog7174]

They would rather volunteer for charity work to improve the lives of random strangers than show empathy for someone who has actually done things for them for years.

[@empiricalscout4537]

I believe it's some kind of a power play. If someone allows themselves to be abused in any relationship, that only reinforces the abusers mindset. Honestly it's how psychopaths think, "You deserve to be abused because I can and you're dumb."

[@johnq.public3302]

It's a rare woman that understands the word 'Appreciation' and actually shows it.

[@farkinarkin5099]

The entitlement, selfishness and lack of empathy are symptoms of sheer *immaturity.* Living very sheltered lives and decades of the constant lies from ph3m2n1st controlled media have enabled this arrested development. Generally, they feel they are not accountable, or, responsible for anything and everything. As a vvomen, she is gawd’s gift to the world regardless of how poorly she acts. She is owed a top-tier man, and, the provider she has, she “settled” for. She does not have empathy, because not only is the world all-about-her, you, as a man, are the oppressor. She is sheltered from the dangers of the world and like a spoiled child feels the servants (including her husband/boyfriend) are lucky to be in her presence and should just shut-up (or be replaced). A lot of this delusion comes crashing down once they hit the wall, and lose a lot of male attention (the validation of their preciousness that they are addicted to). Then, they become bitter and resentful. As her husband or boyfriend, you are to bear the punishment she feels mankind must face for not continuing to bow to her. You have every reason and every right to be indignant. No one deserves to be treated with the disrespect that a lot of vvomen treat men with.

[@loverofgolf]

I made it much simpler. I stopped being married.

[@GerardoDelValle.]

Wise man

[@Kristy_not_Kristine]

That's so sad... I'm sorry 😞

[@richardcastillo4328]

I stopped doing these things and will be traveling, a lot, for work. Sadly, I receive no A.I.R. Appreciation, Initiation, nor Reciprocation. This morning, I decided that I will leave when the housing market is down

[@loverofgolf]

@@richardcastillo4328 Good for you. My ex wife finally left me. I really think she was trying to get me to leave but I stood firm.

[@loverofgolf]

@@Kristy_not_Kristine Thanks but it's all good. Karyn describes my situation perfectly. Why so many wives are like this is beyond me.

[@fightingfortruth9806]

I've done all these things for my wife and she hates it because she says it makes her feel guilty. So I've stopped, and she's still angry. I give up.

[@jimjohnson394]

Guilt is a good thing. It is not pleasant, but so is pain. Guilt is a spiritual pain when you know you are doing something wrong. You are essentially digging a thorn out of her foot and she is complaining because she realizes it hurts. Get that crap out of her and she can genuinely heal.

[@ao.6916]

She is guilty of emasculating you

[@wperkins225]

Making a woman happy is like trying to fill up a bucket with a silver dollar size hole in the bottom!!

[@red7fifty]

Correction, the bottom of the bucket has a hole as big as the top, making it just an open ended cylinder. There, Fixed it for you.

[@thehappywifeschool]

Thank you for your comment. Well said.

[@histreasure3189]

​@@red7fifty😅

[@WatchfulHunter]

Due to government laws, current feminist self serving culture, and the fact that I am an experienced husband and father of 30 years, it is not a good time to be married. 1. Good men should not be servants of their wives. 2. Good men should avoid marriage and modern feminist women. 3. Good men should focus on self discipline, saving money, and buying good land. 4. Good men should not listen to women for advice. 5. Good men should not be afraid of offending a woman. Women use this to control men.

[@lovelylatina]

Although these days it's probably the minority, there are God-fearing good women who love God, their husband, and their family above all else, including a career. Who know how to take accountability, have a good head on their shoulders, and can offer their husband good advice and let him lead. Who don't care about materialistic items and would rather have the good land you mentioned. Rare but does exist.

[@taketheredpill1452]

well said

[@0patience4flz]

The government is a big component of the ruin of life in general...and on a personal level.

[@kennethschweighardt4920]

Spot on!

[@CraigWindmueller]

Yup. Take my wife please!

[@gregglass119]

I call this lady the Fountain of Truth.

[@guido20131]

God Bless

[@thehappywifeschool]

I appreciate your comment very much :)

[@gregglass119]

@@thehappywifeschool It took me two marriages to understand what you are saying it the absolute truth.

[@sethdecamp4919]

Good men need to stop getting married - there is nothing in it for them

[@user-we5mi6zl2s]

@sethdecamp4919 l didn't and l learned later how lucky l was.

[@RS-ms1bz]

Totally lopsided. It's not worth the time and energy not to be reciprocated. Men are expected to do all the heavy lifting in the relationship and all they get in return is maybe an empty thank you. Not worth it.

[@johntiggleman4686]

@RS-ms1bz That right there is my relationship with my wife. No hugs, or good kisses. No touching, nothing. I want to back off doing things for her, but after almost 50 years of wedded blitz, it's not an easy thing.

[@precisionleadthrowing4628]

no, that's what the feminists are telling you. Set your priorities straight. Family first. What's the most important for the family? Strong independent MAN that's healthy and knows he is the foundation of the family so that mean YOU need to put yourself first in everything because if YOU fail then everything is going to turn to crap. Men needs to dominate the relationship and yes that includes all the heavy lifting BUT it also requires you to be the MAN, have some balls, authority, not show emotions, knowing what to do and to tell your woman to shut up, put up, cook and stop asking her for permission. We were made to think that we are weak like women and we were told lot of bullshit about women that's not true. We are not weak, and women are not empathetic or strong. Men are the ones who are strong, capable and have empathy - that's why men are running towards danger and to save others, that's required for our role. Women are selfish, manipulative, weak creatures - but that's required for their role and survival. Just because men don't cry doesn't mean we don't have empathy. It just means we control our emotions and not the other way around - capability which women lack.

[@Timfrombristol]

So true. No appreciation or affection happened to me

[@mylesleggette7520]

The only thing women provide that men can't get without them is children. If you don't want children there is literally no point...

[@Billy-the-Kid]

@@johntiggleman4686 Dear John. No intimacy? No shopping spree for her, no holidays, no days out, no restaurants, etc.

[@SKBottom]

No man should ever have to feel he's going to "get lucky" with his own wife.

[@davidr20]

The older I get the less I care about getting lucky, so it makes me realize what I can put up with

[@drumsnbass]

My ex-wife was a crafter. She was very good at it, and I always made sure I noted that in front of others. I looked at and critiqued her work honestly, and only on a rare occasion would I tell her that I wasn’t fond of some project. For me riding motorcycles was a passion. After doing it for years, I finally took her on a short ride with me. She never showed an iota of interest in what I loved. The one ride I took her on she summed up by “It’s boring”. Claimed all I did was talk about motorcycles (not). If I had a dollar for any time I discussed riding beyond “I’m going out for a ride”, I might have $20 over 5 years. If I got that same buck for every project I was shown, every photo I took of her modeling them, every opinion solicited, etc I’d have had many hundreds of dollars. In the end, it’s all about them and will always be all about them. If you find one that isn’t self-centered it’s a rare unicorn indeed in this world.

[@precisionleadthrowing4628]

That's because you have put HER on pedestal instead of yourself. YOU acted as a weak worthless man that was pandering to her and giving her undeserved respect and praising her independence (from you). It's your fault. (and I know what I'm talking about) You need to man up, grow a pair, put YOURSELF first for the good of the family and start living in reality: Her crafting is useless. How does it help you? What she does unless it's for you it doesn't matter and it's waste of time. And you need to show that attitude ALL THE TIME. Women despise weak men and weak men are the ones they can control and manipulate.

[@CraigWindmueller]

Yup. Narcissistic to the end.

[@precisionleadthrowing4628]

@@CraigWindmueller Only women are narcissistic the way it's defined by feminazis. What feminazis describe as "narcisist" it's just a healthy successful man. FIY - Real male narcissist is someone who is displaying feminine traits = spends time in-front of mirror, obsessed with looks and self absorbed and demands attention because of appearance)

[@drumsnbass]

@@CraigWindmueller nope. Just selfish

[@TheSynergiser]

My last one even had a singlet with the words "It's all about me!" written on it. At the time, I thought it was funny. I didn't realise it was true!

[@HeavyHaul51]

They date you for some times for years. They laugh, have fun and screw your brains out. Put an engagement ring on that left hand and things change. Now put a wedding band on and now all of a sudden this need to change. She doesn't like this or like that and out right lets you know. I ask her why you didn't say something before we married.. Well I thought you would leave. Well guess what keep it up and I will.

[@jimschneider2274]

Spot on driver! They will hide their true expectations so they can claim disappointment. And they’ll get to go back to finding someone new to emotionally bleed dry. 🧛‍♀️

[@precisionleadthrowing4628]

she is subconsciously testing you for weakness. All women do that. If you fail you get what you deserve.

[@kevingillard5474]

Preach Bro! This 'bait & switch' powerplay demonstrates deceptive fraud

[@smokingcrab2290]

My wife accuses me of baiting and switching. She accuses me of lying to her about how I was when in all reality it was her.

[@precisionleadthrowing4628]

@@smokingcrab2290 You are the man in a relationship so harden up. Most guys get soft and start failing female shit tests (testing if you are getting weaker). Why do you even engage in arguments with woman? stop treating her like your equal and if you are wondering why she is not respecting you it's because respect comes from fear and there is a healthy fear of consequences from crossing boundaries. If you let you woman do whatever she wants she will hate you for it, same as if you let her do stupid stuff. And don't worry - they know - instinctively

[@Turtle_Zed]

A woman who doesn’t want and/or doesn’t like sex should not even contemplate getting married. To do so is deceitful to her husband.

[@klaaspekala6804]

According to your list, i am a good husband, yay! :) I used to think that people don´t change. But like you (if i understood you correctly), my wife changed. My once loveless, intimacy-withholding, demanding, emasculating, controlling and nagging wife changed! It´s some years now and the change is persisting. Granted, i had to threaten to leave her (and i was dead serious back then, i was inches from walking away), but she asked for some thinking time and after about a week, apologized for her behaviour in the years before and promised to change - and she did! We still fight from time to time and get on each others nerves and stuff, but all in all we get along, we respect each other, we support each other and life is good. There´s hope!

[@dominicanfrankster]

How many kids do you have?

[@smokingcrab2290]

My wife had already left me 3 times to go run off and stay with her parents. She's taken my son every time. I know if I leave it'll change nothing.

[@thehappywifeschool]

@klaaspekala6804, thank you for sharing your experience. We are out there, and there is, indeed, hope.

[@chrismoore9997]

Most women are incapable of recognizing that they are doing something they need to change. Your results are an anomaly.

[@hyronharrison8127]

That gives me hope....

[@smokingcrab2290]

My marriage is on the rocks and my wife today had the balls to tell me she wants a boat, a side by side, and a big plot of land. I told her we can't build our dream life until we fix our marriage and she said "oh so it's all about what YOU want". I swear to God I'd have left a long time ago if it were not for my son

[@Billy-the-Kid]

Buy her a boat with valves below you can open by remote...? Make her happy!

[@thesacrificialsimp7165]

@smokingcrab2290 A Woman Will request the world from you, even while treating you like shit. That is some sick shit.

[@racebannon96]

Some women are just plain delusional. I wish you well.

[@Rejectingmodernity01]

And at the same time you’re risking half of everything you’ve ever spent your whole life working for…. No thanks I’d much rather be single and alone.

[@scottm8879]

Have a friend who married a younger Thai girl. After a few years she took half of his millions. Then she wanted to date me LOL I told her women only date older men for money. She told me she already has money. They should get a percentage of say 3-5% per year until they reach 50% .

[@optimeg]

I agree. If you stay single you will see growth in your bank account, your happiness, your freedom, and peace of mind.

[@JohnDoe-g7i]

Much more than half if you consider the other irreparable damage done to career, reputation, home, friendships, etc.... ALL of these things can be taken from you by a woman almost effortlessly in todays society. All a woman has to do is point her finger and say, "bad" and there will be an army of beta males from all walks of life who will be ready and willing to conspire to ruin a man's life, or even sometimes end it.

[@smokingcrab2290]

@scottm8879, then marry her and take half her money lol

[@TheSynergiser]

Too true! I hear you brother!

[@TuerlingsTim]

When a marriage is a war why stay ?

[@matt-rw6li]

Cheaper to keep her generally

[@JohnDoe-g7i]

I still haven't heard a good answer to this. Mostly, I just hear nonsense about sacrifice and selflessness. These things can be good, but not if they're just being used to enable someone else to be as selfish and irresponsible as they can.

[@waldenmathews8059]

Because you're a warrior, obviously. Just look at all the relationship nihilists in these comments. I wonder if these are the "good men" Karyn speaks of. If so, we have a problem, Houston.

[@jcnlaw]

Experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). If you are an unmarried ambitious, physically and financially fit man reading this comment, stay single. You can still have amazing relationships without bringing state divorce laws into your life. You can thank me later.

[@leroyj3627]

Particularly if you are raising kids: to break the cycle. YES, that does require a man who is willing to serve a life of sacrifice in order that his children will grow up to be better people than they otherwise likely will.

[@ScottDschaak]

So, how many men out there are like me? You realized after years of a sexless marriage that your wife was never really attracted to you. Oh, she thought you were kinda cute, but not really that guy that got her juices flowing. Hell, you weren't even in her top five picks for potential husbands. No, those guys all got away and took a piece of her heart with them. You were just the guy she settled for, a consolation prize of sorts. No wander, she stopped having sex with you. And when she cheats or decides, she finally deserves better than the guy she sex trapped into marriage i.e. you, she's gone. You are left with a broken heart and mind, and little else. Not wanting to leave you guys feeling helpless. Here's a few words of advice, if your girl isn't chasing you, isn't making the first move, didn't tell you she loved you first, she's not the one. Plane and simple, whatever anyone says about relationships is smoke and mirrors. Did you ever settle for a car or truck just because that's all you could afford? How'd that feel? See what I mean. Now your trying to figure out how to make it look better, sound better, and go faster. But that's just lipstick on a pig, isn't it. So don't be the guy she settles for, be her first choice, or no choice at all. Because the alternative is no alternative at all.

[@1welshman]

“When pleasing you is killing me”. Dr Les Carter

[@IBNED]

He is soooo good.....recommend him to the max

[@Davebro38]

Sorry guys for all this but I must say I'm glad to see so many examples of the same thing I went through. I don't feel like so much of an idiot or I just attract the wrong women. I'm seeing its across the board now. Peace fellas

[@robdegrilla2618]

I did all of those things for 30 years and my wife was entitled, ungrateful, resentful, would not reciprocate but instead withhold, invalidating and threw herself on the ground and squealed victim to everyone that would listen. I have withdrawn everything. She still expects that she can live in “the land of do as you please” and I will be her wallet. I told her when the kids are done - so am i. i wont engage in her awfulness any longer. you cant make someone happy when theyre invested in control and unhappiness

[@0patience4flz]

@@robdegrilla2618 you can't make someone happy if they are invested in unhappiness and control.

[@smokingcrab2290]

This is where I'm at. She literally cannot reason. She literally told me "you don't love our son" and hasn't apologized. Everything I do is wrong. Talking doesn't work. Negotiating doesn't work. She doesn't want me she wants a lifestyle

[@TheSynergiser]

Guys, I'm sorry to hear how you've been treated. It's disgraceful. I had the same but got out and am finally starting to get happier and become myself again. Don't be an abused slave. When another human being treats you like garbage, you must get away from them. Life is short, so do it at the earliest possible opportunity based on your own situation.

[@mylesleggette7520]

My pregnant wife and I were arguing, and during a break I thought about how she'll probably come back and threaten to abort our child. When she came back she told me that if she didn't see the change she wanted she would put our child up for adoption.

[@robdegrilla2618]

@@mylesleggette7520 manipulative and controlling. You will change to what I want you to be or you will suffer! When you give in to keep the peace, that’s the new standard of behaviour to control you.

[@spenceregger860]

Husband here, father of soon to be three. Right at the 7 year mark, as i understand it is pretty typical for things to fall apart around this time. These videos have helped me analyze my own feelings and pin down why I am angry and frustrated. Which is hopefully my first step as salvaging this thing, had a talk but no effect as of yet. Just cant see myself going another 7 years this way. Not sure why I am writing this on here, potentially airing our dirty laundry out for all to see. Suppose its a lack of community and friends, no where to go but the internet.

[@achildr1]

I hear you bud.

[@phillipcotton833]

I've adopted a philosophy on failed relationships....for myself of coarse. First order of self analysis is what negative behavior did I allow ? What bad habit did I allow to fester? Was I too passive aggressive? Did I not love myself when it I needed to the most? Did I get lost in putting " her" needs a priority to the point of sacrificing my peace of mind? Here's why I put myself through such a review. As much as I have fought against the reality of the benefits of being " cold hearted,,& " care- free"; I can't deny that the men that adhere to those two traits are rewarded with the respect,& submission that has eluded me. As someone once stated...." water is wet",& female nature is what it is. Being a " GOOD MAN" must start with being good to yourself first,& foremost. One day.....I'll get this through my thick skull.

[@stephenkilpatrick807]

I am sincerely relieved that I no longer have to have a relationship with a woman. As you say, women can’t be happy if they aren’t happy with themselves. Just too damn much work. I’m happy on my own.

[@danielsnook5029]

If a husband is doing what the wife wants to the detriment of his wants that's not a 'compromise,' it's a sacrifice. I'm tired of women misusing the word compromise.🤮

[@milesdragicevic6256]

I tried for 10 yrs and was scared all the time she just changed and I could not live scared any more and tired of trying and getting nothing in return god bless this lady for telling them lady’s the truth❤️❤️❤️

[@RandyBass]

"Getting lucky" is such a negative way to look at it, but that's exactly how it feels often. Us men getting some action relies a lot on luck within a relationship, after that initial "start up to get you hooked" sex trial session.

[@tag_76]

I wish the algorithm that suggested your content to me somehow reached the woman I need it to...

[@vtwintora]

It wouldn't do anything. It's in their DNA.

[@1TrackSimulation]

Make QR code stickers of this video and slap them on her car or some other place where she’d be curious to follow the link.

[@tag_76]

@@1TrackSimulation hahaha. Great suggestion!

[@mgtow6287]

@1TrackSimulation Yeah, if he wants to make her angry! It’s pointless!

[@1TrackSimulation]

@@mgtow6287agreed. This type of content will only piss them off. Was just trying to be creative! LOL

[@fillthefeeder]

You can be a good man , but two points to remember: 1. You can't make her happy. 2. Women associate kindness with weakness.

[@user-we5mi6zl2s]

@fillthefeeder yes they do your right about kindness. I am alone no wife no kids bliss.

[@jimbrown4640]

Just never marry them. Then you won't have to deal with the games, the attitude and whether or not she is happy. For some strange reason, you are responsible for both your happiness and her happiness. Peace is more important than games.

[@darrellbarry3402]

Thats the thing, wondering when her discontent rears its ugly head (which is every day) is very draining.

[@herbert993]

Do 10 things that make her unhappy….so basically just breath

[@mbuchart2927]

Ten breaths will do it.

[@RobertPool-nz5ss]

Perfect 😂

[@CraigWindmueller]

Can’t hold my breath long enough……shit!

[@KevinA.Deckard-gm2he]

This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@beverlystephens6]

I am sorry about what you have been through. I have been through something similar and was almost depressed, till I contacted a spiritual counsellor who helped me get my ex back and hence my life back

[@KevinA.Deckard-gm2he]

Interesting. Who is this counsellor, and how do I meet the person?

[@beverlystephens6]

Online, you'll find shelly renee white, revered for her expertise as a spiritual counsellor. She has the ability to reunite couples and promote holistic well-being.

[@KevinA.Deckard-gm2he]

Thanks a lot. I just did. Impressive.

[@TRUTHandLIGHT4809]

Go make yourself great. In 5 years you will be a peace and never want to be with someone thar leaves for no valid reason

[@GoneWalkabout]

Thank you for helping me make the decision to leave. Talking about marital issues didn’t change anything for me. Headed for the bliss of being single.

[@xmchughs]

Remind me again why a man should do any of this stuff for a woman that isn't worth it?

[@smokingcrab2290]

No woman is. Even the ones who we think are.

[@GalaxyTabFamily]

I went through this. The woman in my past relationship did not cherish herself or make herself important to herself, so she was definitely not able to receive the way that I cherish a woman. The woman I am with now is completely opposite and she tells me all the time that I treat her like a princess and she treats me like a King. 👑 Men, if a woman is not receptive to what you were doing, it is not your fault. It really comes down to her and she needs to get right with herself before being in a relationship with a real man.

[@precisionleadthrowing4628]

bullshit and this was very likely written by a woman (or a sick simp). Never treat a woman like a princess otherwise she will treat you like a servant. Treat a woman like a servant and she will treat you like a king. And for the dumb feminists out there - Kings make queens, not the other way around. And queen is ALWAYS subservient to the king

[@stevend8785]

Most relationships run their course. She wants out but is a coward so she treats you like dirt thinking you’ll make the cut. She either doesn’t want to be the bad person, realizes you’re good and she’s not, or maybe fears DV. If she doesn’t want to be there, let her go. Her brain isn’t going to rule her heart. She’s already gone. The longer you wait, the worse it gets, the more the cost increases. There is an age where it’s devastating because you don’t have the time and vitality to recover.

[@Billy-the-Kid]

That is, if you married her... So lesson number 1 : NEVER marry them !!!

[@Steverz32]

Preach Karyn PREACH!🙏🏽

[@michaelbaker2552]

A couple of things young men need to know: First, the sex you get before marriage will be a thing of the past when you get married so get ready for that; second, when married you are never allowed to ask for what you want, that is an affront to your wife's control and authority.

[@MiGuel-oj4tb]

I stopped all of that. There's no point in doing anything for an unappreciative & ungrateful wife.

[@BrosinsMusic]

I hit the flower bed with the weed whipper this year LOL. You guys should’ve seen the look on her face.

[@CraigWindmueller]

Great idea!!!! Oops. Thought they were weeds, I got all the weeds and hit some flowers. Oh well.

[@BrosinsMusic]

@@CraigWindmueller I also stopped doing the dishes and filling up the ice cube trays.

[@johncampbell4389]

No matter what you do, you still face total greivance recall.

[@johntiggleman4686]

@johncampbell4389 Absolutely. They bring up stuff from decades ago just to knock you back.

[@darrellbarry3402]

Exactamundo, every single argument.

[@flyingfluffyhockey]

​@@johntiggleman4686my 62 year old ex is still angry about her mom asking her to do dishes at ten years old....I wish I was making that up

[@taketheredpill1452]

my mother taught me, how awful women are...

[@coffgunn1005]

same - my mom was terrible but one thing she was honest about was how dangerous and selfish they are. cuz she was all those things to my dad. r.i.p.

[@taketheredpill1452]

@@coffgunn1005 - Well said. My condolences, for our childhoods...

[@mikaeltsimbidakis6980]

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[@GerardoDelValle.]

The title is misleading. Anyways men follow your path and enjoy your hobbies.

[@anonymissed3611]

If you cared, you would look past the deceit..

[@Bookmaptrader]

@@anonymissed3611 😄

[@Florkubana]

Wow 😮you are very lucky 😊 bless your husband 🙏🏾💐

[@bud5084]

It is constantly more, more ,more.

[@williamfriar6295]

Note to the fellas: YOU didn’t make her mad. She was that way all along. Angry people are just angry, and it has NOTHING to do with what’s happening RIGHT NOW. She’s angry at her parents, her job, her weight gain, her cat, the boyfriend she had in college, the temperature, the cost of mascara, the way her shoes hurt her feet. It ain’t you. So stop living your life like you can “fix it,” get it just right, or, the Big Fantasy -make her happy. Give up now or give up later.

[@bi7235]

Exactly.

[@flyingfluffyhockey]

Most accurate comment ever and I REALLY needed to hear this right now. Thank you.

[@caseyrindal1815]

There are no plus points. No mater what i did there is no reward.

[@johntiggleman4686]

@caseyrindal1815 My father said women will say "Jump!" and the man says "How high?" She says "so high" and you do, but it's "not high enough." Or not the way she wanted you to jump.

[@johntiggleman4686]

@caseyrindal1815 I call it "Zero Return On Investment."

[@ContinuousRefinement]

I stopped trying to make her happy...I make ME happy. If she's not happy, I'm still happy. I'm not very 'lucky' as you put it, but I'm always in a state of joy and happiness.

[@AgentThursday]

I quit trying to make my wife happy years ago. I recognized that’s an absolute waste of time.

[@joeystewart4487]

Dont like the phrase, "Men are hoping to get lucky." Shouldn't be about luck. Seems to put women in a superior position, "Iff you jump through these hoops, you might get lucky." Makes sex something she alone controls and is doing you a favor. That's not meaningful or fun.

[@trumpbeats3799]

When my woman acts up, I act single. Seems to work fine.

[@jimweights8908]

I spent years trying to make my wife happy. Buying things, surprises, trips etc.. I found the presents, flowers thrown in the bin, and she wanted to hurt me and got worse and worse until I stopped. Looking back it makes me pretty sad listening to this; but I moved on mentally and immunised

[@johntiggleman4686]

Since I am treated no better than a room mate, I have taken off my wedding ring. It's been off since April of this year. I've not chucked it out as of yet, but sometimes the temptation is great.

[@racebannon96]

Gold is around $2400 an ounce. Sell it for scrap. That is what I did.

[@johntiggleman4686]

@@racebannon96 Except ours are silver.

[@kodamooshface1108]

Time to plan a desert trip. Ring toss was a sport that @scottm8879 already perfected, minus the shoulder damage. Good luck bruh.

[@kevingillard5474]

In the tv series 'Kung Fu' as said to Caine upon his catching the master's pebble:"Time for you to GO...".

[@QuiDocetDiscit]

It's not the ring that says you're married...it's your heart and the certificate. Many marriages end long before the "ring throwing" ritual. I've just learnt it's called a "silent divorce"...living with someone who is no longer invested in the marriage.

[@frankoconnor806]

I find volunteering with others far more rewarding than relationships or coaching others to be the best they can be. I just love ❤ it.

[@kennethschweighardt4920]

Statistically speaking marriage is a death sentence for men. The wise man avoids evil, while the foolish goes on and loses everything in the divorce.

[@nolan9221]

My aunts said it best - "Listen women bleed 3 months a year, give birth/breast feeding destroying our bodies then get metapause...so we're never ever happy for long it's all short glimpses of happiness".

[@per_growth]

I've been extremely lucky to be married to a wonderful and beautiful woman (31y together, 26y married). But even having experienced my own marriage, I would still think long and hard before I advise my son to take the same route. Marriage is really an outdated institution. Does it guarantee a devoted wife? No. Does it guarantee a loyal wife? No. Does it guarantee a peaceful life? No. No successful man in his right mind would knowingly risk all he has for the POSSIBILITY of a successful marriage. Marriage to the 'modern feminist woman' is more likely to be a short lived heaven and a long lived hell.

[@johngmulhatton9794]

Since the day we moved into our home after being married, I suddenly found that there were so many necessary things in a home to do, but she was unable to assist with. The basic, cooking any meal; cannot; dishwashing, I don't like doing that, disappears when the kitchen needs tidying up after cooking and washing dishes. Reluctance to allow intimate moments more often than she wants, what I refuse to do, unless she is not well, washing laundry. For the sake of my two children, I have stuck it out. No real happy moments anymore, just plod along as age is against me.

[@Billy-the-Kid]

Man up!!!

[@johnk6749]

This is ridiculous. I did all that and my wife divorced me saying she wants someone who doesn't care about her as much as I do.

[@racebannon96]

No win situation. I hope you have recovered.

[@johnk6749]

@@racebannon96 I've had a good life. She went on the get married 4 more times.

[@superdad4094]

“10 Things Good Men Need to STOP Doing In Their Marriages”. So, what Karyn just taught us men by the title, Is to STOP doing those 10 things. I agree as my roommate of 37 years wouldn’t reciprocate anyway.

[@michajastrzebski4383]

the issue being, its still a woman, femsplaining to men what they "should". Gendered hate based behavior. She has no right to direct us, she isnt one of us.

[@kelvinjasi]

No man can make a woman happy. We just try, but women have all the reasons not be happy every time.

[@edwardharfst7669]

Thank you. It is nice to know 1 woman on the planet gets it.

[@0patience4flz]

@@edwardharfst7669 she has a male mentor...she let us know a while back

[@safethamzagic7226]

Marriage is too risky.

[@fibonaccisrazor]

Do not take responsibility for your wife's happiness, you will only go down with her. Show her you are always happy without her happiness and she might, if you're lucky, slowly start taking responsibility for her own happiness. And if she can't fix it, you certainly can't.

[@mariacosta3698]

There are 2 kinds of love: 1-i want you to make me happy 2- I want you to be happy with me The real love is the number 2 ❤

[@jimjohnson394]

It is all about reciprocity and appreciation. I do most of those things, and my wife reciprocates by showing gratitude, regular sex, doing the cooking and cleaning while I'm at work, etc. I think there is a real issue with many men and women being reluctant to just show appreciation, saying thank you for working a day, having a cooked meal prepared, or whatever. Selfish pride is a big part of it. The "guys need to take out the trash because that is their job" attitude kills any desire to do it. If he takes you on a glamping vacation instead of backpacking, acknowledge it and show interest in his backpacking pictures, even though you didn't go.

[@Gl0ckb1te]

The last part is oddly specific..

[@King-ns7it]

I agree, because it's all about compromise. I know I did things with my ex that I wasn't necessarily interested in but because it was something she liked, I did it because I cared for her.

[@jimjohnson394]

@@Gl0ckb1te Perhaps, last weekend, I took our 3 boys backpacking with some of their friends. This weekend, we are going on a road trip to Central Utah and going camping with all the amenities.

[@Handlegoeshere1234]

@@Gl0ckb1te It's because it's in the video....

[@Augfordpdoggie]

you better keep that guy, because i wouldnt do half of those things......

[@anonymissed3611]

The hair in the drain bit was laughable.

[@deangerber1797]

​@@anonymissed3611he sounds like a simp and she sounds entitled

[@Gene_4160]

The idea of throwing the effort into a bucket resonates with me, but I always saw it as more of a black hole that takes and takes and is never satisfied, always hungry and consuming and not putting back out the same energy that goes in. Just my two cents, love the videos Karyn keep it up!

[@motofunk1]

You can’t make anyone have a feeling. You can only make sure they are in the best situation to let themselves have that feeling. Lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.

[@Randooo1966]

You again are so spot on ! My soon to be ex wife just refuses to get it

[@oooSoundOfLifeooo]

So... should I KEEP DOING these things, or STOP DOING them? What happens if I stop?

[@SambiniK22]

I love your heart, love that you are encouraging the "reach across the great divide" between the completely different thinking, and, basis for thinking, of men and women. If you think about the creation narrative… Eve was taken from Adam… A part of Adam that he no longer has, is embodied in her. They are two incomplete halves of a whole! When we got married, I was often commenting that "I feel complete" and 41 years later, I still feel that way. Not always easy, even difficult, it is still exciting, challenging, rewarding, fruitful, but ultimately fulfilling. Has it been always easy? Of course not. Two independent, selfish persons came into a relationship with no "Plan B" - - we were in it with no escape hatch. That will make you work on it.

[@addressingtheelephant]

Sometimes people are intent on being unhappy with you because they're looking for a way out. So the more you do to prove them wrong about their feelings about you the angrier they get. I call this mining for grievances

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

What you're explaining goes against the title of this video.

[@funcygames]

Yeah the title is goofed hopefully it gets fixed

[@colterthompson6846]

Yeah I think this video is mistitled, because she says @ 1:05 it's 10 ways good men show affection.

[@fightingfortruth9806]

Yeah, I'm totally confused as well. Guess I shouldn't be surprised, my wife confused me the same way.

[@siggmundfloyd1858]

I was thinking the same thing

[@Timfrombristol]

You are right, there is something wrong with this title. Choose matters worse, she is explaining 10 things that make a man a total Simp

[@hmurchison8123]

I purposely did not comply with everything on the wish list or honey do list. The projection is "i'm unhappy because you didn't take the garbage our or mow the lawn" but I always knew with my wife that this wasn't the case. The lists are a form of control ...once you comply with everything you are under control. The "happiness" projection is a facade, If you comply with everything your spouse has to confront the reality that their happiness truly isn't linked to these tasks and unless they understand who they are the effects of getting everything they demanded yet still feel unhappy will have deleterious consequences.

[@XenoRaptor-98765]

The root of the problem is you are the only person in the universe who is responsible to your own happiness. Happiness is a choose not a result/byproduct or an impossible standard.

[@SambiniK22]

Thank you! For encouraging women to work on themselves, and not just demand/expect that their partner is the source of their fulfillment and happiness! You have a sign often behind you in the background that says your husband cannot make you happy I love that. Yes, I can contribute to my wife fulfillment and ultimate joy. But I cannot affect her day-to-day happiness, because that is in fact, temporal. It's a dance, with incredible rewards.

[@kranzonguam]

Yup! Took me a long time to realize it, but you're dead on!

[@kenthil]

The main thing that women should take away from your videos is always the fact that if you are not happy with yourself, nothing else will make you happy. I tried for years to get my STBXW to see that. Tried to convince her to exercise, get therapy, get on medication, something to address her chronic depression and malaise. She refused every time. Meanwhile, she shut me completely out, left me begging for affection and attention in a sexless marriage, and constantly told me everything wrong I was doing. Finally had enough this year, and showed her one of your videos. She had a completely predictable response, and a week later I asked for a separation.

[@maxsparks5183]

What’s a stbxw?

[@kenthil]

@@maxsparks5183 Soon To Be eX Wife

[@michajastrzebski4383]

@@maxsparks5183 "soon to be ex-wife".

[@ethanmiller5487]

If relationships are a dance, then reality has to be made the music you both are moving to.

[@joebyedone2351]

Too much effort for minimal return. Always evaluate the deal and walk away from bad ones.

[@rbrown5621]

Title of this video is completely misleading. Thanks for wasting my time telling me what your husband does for you.

[@thetruther954]

Yeah Karyn, I don’t see any emasculation in those things. None of what I thought I experienced with my cousin. She was like Lucy holding the football, and I was Charlie Brown, trying it again. There is nothing wrong with walls. Walls are fine. Walls are good. You need your walls while you are “growing”. I never laughed at that. I would just have your “resentment radar” up. Like when my Mom (rip) asked why I was not getting flowers from her house, on some occasion and bringing them to . “Mom I said, that woman gets enough of me. I show her every single day.” I do right up to the max till I start to feel resentment. Then I’ve had enough.

[@stephensartin4074]

She is so right! She is very smart! I am proud of her

[@ElvinLeadfoot]

What about the ultimatum question? Like three different version… 1, What the hell is wrong with you Linda? 2. Are you just fried? (Mentally Compromised)? 3. Why are you so miserable? Explain that to me Linda… Why are you blaming me for your unhappiness? What’s the correct method of enough is enough? Cause unfortunately people really don’t change. It’s like they’re stuck in some weird prison of dysfunctional self induced misery. Narcissist maybe???

[@kevingillard5474]

Most DEFINITELY!!!!!!!!!!

[@racebannon96]

Misery loves company. The ex-wife's favorite saying, "If Mama isn't happy, no one is happy." Her mission in life was to make us miserable. She finally left us.

[@Mattheus217]

I did many of these things. There seemed to not be reciprocal efforts, and frequent criticisms. I wasn’t perfect, but was always pursuing growth. As you discussed in other videos, she never seemed to be happy deep within herself. That spilled over to everything else. Now looking back I realise why I was getting sad, frustrated, angry, discouraged. Each of us is responsible for our own happiness. I can’t fill a black hole to make someone else feel ‘whole.’ In the process, I lose myself and am destroyed. I am on a new path of life and healing, and will seek healthy people going forward, it’s not my job to fix others problems or to look for a ‘diamond in the rough.’

[@user-kl5zd2oe3e]

"Trying to please a lady is like swimming the oceans. Hahahaha" -Godzilla Raids Again

[@RobertPool-nz5ss]

Blue oyster cult godzilla..great jamb

[@scottm8879]

I remember vividly the day I tossed my ring into the desert. Almost threw my shoulder out doing it LOL

[@kodamooshface1108]

Legendary! There ain't a man here that won't appreciate that or thought of doing the same. Props.

[@alexinfinite7142]

Heavy like the One ring of sauron

[@spacespike6659]

Unless men and women fill the void within themselves with spiritual purpose and positive energy, the serpent will continue to whisper, leading to materialism, discontent, ego, possessiveness, and ingratitude. Both should uplift each other spiritually by putting God first, whether through Christianity, Buddhism, Islam, Hinduism, or simply being spiritual. The cycle of false identity with ego and the body will remain unbroken unless women recognize and embrace their spiritual nature. We are here to grow spiritually and help our fellow beings, period. The more we seek happiness outside ourselves, the further both sexes drift away from the spirit or soul within. We are here to use our intelligence and knowledge to transcend our biological programs Edit Your work and views are widely appreciated, and we'd love to see you tackle this topic from a spiritual angle, in addition to your usual psychological analysis. This is something our audience is eager to hear. Thanks for all the light you bring to the world! Warm wishes from Asia

[@King-ns7it]

Well said

[@MustangsTrainsMowers]

Last woman I fell in love with just wanted to settle down and have kids as she had just turned 30. Me being 19-1/2 years older than her going through treatments for chronic Lyme disease replied with I don’t have the energy to raise children or the income to support a family. I did and still do so dearly love her but she married another guy in late 2020.

[@edwardmylnychuk5774]

NOT WORTH THE SQUEEZE THEY ONLY WANT CHADS TO PLAY WITH BUT YOU AS AN ATM

[@51lodb]

THANKS SO MUCH

[@dothedewinme]

It would be a wild standard to exist for a man to do the things he didn’t want to do, to make her happy and put on a good face, and then *gasp* for her to do the same and put on a good face and do the thing he wanted to do she didn’t love. You get like 3 of those at the very beginning of the relationship and that’s it. I’ve seen women blow up relationships because he didn’t do something he didn’t want to do once that she wanted to do, and she NEVER ONCE did the stuff he wanted to do with him. However if he blew it up he’s be called toxic and this and that by everyone, but for her it’s “knowing her worth” to blow it up.

[@arturobeltran5195]

If a Man doesn't fear and trust God with everything he has he is not a good Man. Only God is Good..

[@michajastrzebski4383]

What "good men" should be currently doing, is treating women exactly how women as a group, treat men as a group. Harshly, with total entitlement, and without any mercy whatsoever.

[@richmyers6684]

If a man or a woman would go to the Bible, It would help them in their relationships, so much. The Bible tells us that a woman needs to learn in silence, with all subjection. And not to take authority over the man. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived. So she was in the transgression, for she sinned, and broke God's Law. 1st Timothy 2:11-14

[@racebannon96]

It is about power and control, that is what so many wives demand. It is against scripture. You will not hear a pastor in a church tell the wives to be submissive to their husbands. The wives would either leave or conspire to get the pastor fired. That is where we are, the end of times.

[@benjaminbrown1179]

I believe this title should have been 10 things men Do for their wives that go unnoticed, and they are not appreciated for. So are you saying we men need to stop these 10 things? I'm lost!

[@thehappywifeschool]

Thank you for your comment and question. You are correct in that the title could have been as you suggested. Good men must stop doing these things, believing they will make their wives happy. Good men should retire from making their wives happy because it is a futile endeavor.

[@benjaminbrown1179]

@thehappywifeschool at the age of 42, and enduring 26 years with my wife, I'm having a hard time understanding what it is as a man I should and should not be doing. I've watched a handful of your videos and I'm impressed at your mindset. Thanks for what you do.

[@jasonstick2270]

Awe, I get it finally. I was lost too. It was toward women who don't except a good man. Stop doing all these things with your woman if they don't accept a good man because the man is going to go crazy asking what they did wrong, just stop trying to make her happy, she won't be happy, she doesn't understand her man.

[@flashoot]

Something is just not right. Stay single guys.

[@GaryBlankenship96b40]

I waited on this women 20 years with lung disease cooked all cleaned let her do anything she liked cruising traveling. She divorces me says been unhappy for 10 years. She never said a word i suspect another person divorced in march 2024

[@ei3170]

So basically stop having a relationship with your wife