Are You A Bad Wife? 10 Ways to Know

[@ashinch0r]

How on earth can you get a woman to honestly evaluate themselves with this? Mine just explodes in rage.

[@amikkelsen]

Pray for her. Pray for transformation and freedom.

[@jimjohnson394]

The good women who don't need to evaluate themselves will, the ones who actually need it, won't.

[@m3rdpwr]

Hide in the bathroom and lock the door. 😂

[@dothedewinme]

@@jimjohnson394now that’s damn true. The ones that DONT need it can see this and be like “yup, maybe I could be a little better about ___” but the ones that really need it will lose it

[@nerychristian]

@@amikkelsen LOL. More like exorcism

[@dougie6886]

Women will never admit that they are wrong

[@chalsfo]

Why the 19th was wrong, and forever will be

[@JamesMorris1301]

Some will, and feel ashamed of their actions. Mine did

[@asdfxcvbn746]

@@JamesMorris1301 u might wanna check if she has a twig & balls down there lmao

[@Fred-ff6bv]

@@JamesMorris1301but did she change for the better or double down in feminism?

[@JamesMorris1301]

@@Fred-ff6bv she became the women I fell in love with 31 years ago.. I am having a great retirement

[@racebannon96]

The wife promised me if I bought her a new house, she would be a better wife and mother. I gave in but we bought the new modest house based on my income alone. Two months after we moved in, the wife announced she wasn't happy and was moving out. The wife advised me that I could keep our kids and the new house. Two weeks after she abandoned us, I realized that she had given me the best gift possible, my freedom from her. I got the divorce done as quickly as possible.

[@avishill8613]

You should never barter for her to be a good wife. Buy me a house and I will be a better wife. She should want to do that for you to make you happy if she truly loves you.🤷

[@racebannon96]

@@avishill8613 Good lluck with that.

[@dennispacelli1007]

Thank her for marrying you and thank her for leaving you! Case closed! I did it!One small problem: she wants her yard boy back! IT AIN'T HAPPENING! NO WAY!

[@RobertPool-nz5ss]

Perfect freedom no matter the cost.

[@andybankston8413]

@@racebannon96 Man I envy your situation, if only mine would do the same, same story….. except house isn’t modest, my income allows it though. Mine won’t leave, and definitely won’t leave her only supply that still believers her ( our daughter is too young to know any better ), instead she’s doubled down on the unacceptable behavior. I am assuming in an attempt to make me so miserable I leave her, then she can retain her victim status and narrative that I’m the bad person , the problem. Her family loves me as they should, I put up with a lot and they know it, I work hard so she can be a stay at home mom ( big mistake), I show them the same respect I show my family, I’m Christian and conservative. If she were to leave me she would catch hell from her family….. her one weakness, her mother’s judgment. So I pretty much have all the time I need to put together a game plan, get things in order before I make any moves. It’s just a matter of putting up with some wretched behavior here and there. Back to the start of this comment though: Man I envy you, that was the best you could have hoped for. I wish you good luck and a happy life

[@tag_76]

1. Weaponizes sex or affection 2. Keeps score 3. Constant complaining 4. Contempt If she does ANY of these 4, immediately leave and go be happy. This is a person that will ruin your life and likely cannot be fixed.

[@SKBottom]

Likely? Assuredly, they cannot be fixed.

[@elguapo7754]

I confirm

[@EmilePesky-n1v]

Can confirm, life ruined. "Living" in my brother's games room at the moment. Everything I worked towards gone, children used against me.

[@dennispacelli1007]

@@EmilePesky-n1v Go find another woman, simple!

[@MarcosLopez-cu6ui]

@@EmilePesky-n1vGod bless you! Keep alive and hope you achieve success.

[@cuz129]

I knew we had a great marriage these 46 years and counting. My wife never does any of those behaviors. She's encouraging, kind, hard working and always has my back. I'm blessed!

[@karlgritsch2098]

Lucky guy you are!

[@VinceA-jq6ds]

Yes, there are good marriages too.

[@Hairyderriere]

Man, are you lucky!

[@stephenyoho148]

She's one in a million

[@kayendakatoka3497]

You're one of a few blessed men🎉🎉🎉

[@jessicakhan5406]

I am a woman who watches this channel. All of these points hit the mark 100%. I am now 23 and I got married at 19. I am still working on myself after years of marriage and after taking the advice from this channel, I am very happily married to my husband. 😌✨🙏🏻

[@lordflash4312]

Way to go young lady!

[@elguapo7754]

then you are in the 2% who take her advice seriously... She herself talked about the percentage of women who watch her channel and draw conclusions for themselves. It makes most women angry

[@MichaelOrthodoxChristian]

How rare you are.

[@dantelossantos7562]

I Wish you the best!

[@IvoZ.]

❤

[@coolguy811]

My first cousin that I grew up with died at 49 from cancer in February. I was pretty torn up about it. My wife’s response was “I don’t understand why you are so upset. You didn’t go over to visit him very much.” My Uncle just past away today. I went to see my family. My wife said “you didn’t have to go see them today. If you cared about them you would have gone to see them more often.” My wife always considers it her job to tear me down with every opportunity she gets. I put a roof over her head, pay for all food, bought her a 4Runner, cell phone, pay all bills. If we didn’t have a daughter together I would walk out the door. My wife is the coldest person that I have ever heard or read about. Everything is about her. My needs do not matter to her. It’s all about what I can do for her.

[@racebannon96]

You have a lot of company here. I went through that crap too. The wife’s mission was to undermine and criticize me every chance she got. After ten years, she walked out on our kids and me. It is the gift that keeps on giving. I divorced her. She went off the deep end when she realized that she could no longer control us or knew what we were doing.

[@SantiagoVeraLoor]

Don't stay in your marriage for your children. It will effect them negatily. Go with your wife for marriage counseling and try and sort things out.

[@GG-mb9rr]

Because…? You… let… her…

[@ColemanOutdoors]

She has undermined my authority as a father for 22 years. Been married 25. My 18 year old told me last night that mom has said several times in the last few years to all 3 of our children, "I'm sorry guys, I wish I had picked better" I'm absolutely destroyed today. I thought I was handling this. It's been a rough day. I'll rebound. Just going to take a day or 2.

[@edsmith2503]

It's not your fault

[@ColemanOutdoors]

@@edsmith2503 thank you!

[@TRUTHandLIGHT4809]

She is not teaching the children to honor their father. Unbeknownst to her, by default, she teachings the children to not honor her

[@snake57]

@@ColemanOutdoors see a lawyer asap.

[@ColemanOutdoors]

@@TRUTHandLIGHT4809 I agree.

[@starguy2718]

"How do you write women so well?" "I think of a man, and take away reason and accountability." -- *As Good As It Gets*

[@jeffreybomba]

That was an all time dead on movie quote!

[@wbtittle]

@RexJacobus-bb1vw I love that quote...

[@thane99x]

11. Blame everything on everyone else

[@ultimobile]

that's the definition of a LOSER - hmm - what does this tell you about women ... ?

[@visionary515]

12. Takes advantage of your kindness.

[@jimjohnson394]

Admitting that you are wrong is one of the fundamental steps to repentance and self-improvement. Anyone who is unwilling or unable to look at themselves and admit that they can improve in certain areas, will never improve in those areas. It is not only vital to build healthy relationships, it is vital for one's own happiness and sanity.

[@chrisbrass8930]

​@@CharlieBravo887that's a lesson I learned through the school of hard knocks

[@tnrodgers]

My only add would be Men want peace. Good Men aren’t seeking turmoil at home. Just peace and refuge to separate from work.

[@Somewheredownintexas]

Then when you ask for it gets turned on you like this is some sort of delusional request. Oh well if you want peace you’re just being unreasonable. Nuts.

[@stevesmith1493]

11. She’s a fine, kind, friendly Christian woman to everyone BUT her husband.

[@funcygames]

Amazing how we become a black hole absorbing all the animosity. It makes no sense until you remember that bullies choose their target.

[@racebannon96]

Ouch!

[@douglasgreen437]

😂

[@cur244]

So unbelievably common. In my experience Christian woman are the worst because they use sex as a reward for only the man because of religious sex shaming. Plus they always want to be in control of everything.

[@kylej741]

🤔 interesting

[@johnnygood4831]

A wise man once told his wife ,,,,,,,,,,,,,, Nothing, because he was a wise man.

[@jrank3288]

❤

[@zvonkom]

A wise man would not have a wife.

[@jimjohnson530]

*Cowardly man

[@dennispacelli1007]

Absolutely hilarious!

[@iamtheoffenderofall]

What you describe is a smart man. A wise man doesn't take a wife.

[@kenpresley45]

Shes not going first, ive changed so many things, still not enough. I'm not a priority to her, just the last option when there aren't any toxic girlfriends around to amuse each other. Court mandated counseling session in two days, last conversation after 34.5 years together. It sucks, I hate it, but time to enjoy the remainder of my journey.

[@red7fifty]

I seen these warning signs early, and forcing the exit now, so I don't follow years or decades of the same journey. Hang in there tough, you tried, now the rest is for you.

[@Archangel2020]

@kenpresley45, Place duct tape over the rearview mirrors, put your life back in drive and stand on pedal. Never look back. I was there and it was a rough road I tell ya. But this is my best advice. I'll NEVER comingle my assets nor my life with a marriage EVER again. There's no upside, ever. God speed on your healing brother.

[@deangerber1797]

@Archangel I've thought the same as this, but not going to say that. Counseling went with shes not wrong and to stay there for myself only to find i was right for a change lol. I'm starting to think that the good Book is right about we arent all called to be married because of burning in my heart for physicality!

[@dennispacelli1007]

You said it move on!Mine was 25 years and she initiated the D and looking back I couldn't imagine the rest of my life with her!

[@DelBartel0956]

Karyn gives me more understanding and affirmation in 10 minutes than my ex-wife did in 40 years. I finally told her she was wonderful at everything, but a horrible wife.

[@marke219]

I'm 61 and single. Your channel confirms what I think....yet escapes m9st women. It's all such comm9n sense . Also...you have a great delivery....a calm women is sooo pleasant to listen too

[@Oridyben]

When I’m wrong, my wife will be the first to point it out. When I’m right, she won’t say a word - which is how I know I was right.

[@racebannon96]

I don’t missed married life. I was usually alone anyway. She disappeared when the kids needed care or when chores needed attention. I did the cooking and got good at it. Our kids are grown now and it is just me and the dog. It is always peaceful in my home.

[@smokingcrab2290]

Modern vvomen are horrible teammates. All of these points boil down to on thing - partnership. Which is the ability to work together as a team. And modern vvomen do absolutely everything to erode partnership.

[@rockkstah2550]

My ex-wife divorced me to join the same team😂

[@AlexanderNixonArtHistory]

yup!

[@andrewslagle1974]

They just DONT KNOW HOW TO BE A PARTNER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@rockkstah2550]

First of, thank you Karyn for being awesome as always.. I’ve been divorced 4 years now, yes it’s sad. But I’m so glad I’m not married anymore. Maintaining a Chevy truck is much more fun than maintaining a miserable female that was already miserable before any guy met her.

[@markmartinell9654]

now just date them and have lots of sex.... spin plates never get married again. I'm 62 and I did just that saying no to the roomate situation that was presented over the years. My new GF is hot and 8 years younger and is sexy affectionate and I'm happy for the first time in a long time. Men are the prize if you are a real man Women can tell and you will be chased.

[@erikaahello0880]

😮 wow as a married woman I am so relieved that this is REAL because I could never figure out what was wrong with me … and why my marriage is failing. 😢

[@hyronharrison8127]

Im honestly shocked and equally impressed that someone who has work to do found her way to this video and admitted responsibility. A very, very solid props to you. And ALSO that goes to show how bad the climate is where everyone in society expects half of society to not be responsible and is okay with it....

[@bartmankowski241]

I wish you could tell mine how you think.

[@erikaahello0880]

@@hyronharrison8127 thank You I just dont want to lose my husband and end up alone I know hes a good man

[@erikaahello0880]

I was RED pilled 😮

[@hyronharrison8127]

@@erikaahello0880 im glad you're here! You've found the secret before it was too late! Many dont make it this far this soon!

[@oldshawneerd]

Sadly, thinking back to my Ex-Wife... she ticked of 9 out of 10 in this list. During counseling (both secular and church) I tried to allude to and/or bring up these issues... but they were summarily dismissed. And the focus was brought back to *my* "wrong" responses ... to *her* bad behaviors. I definitely felt that I was "set up" to lose. I feel that I have a great relationship with my 2 girls(16,18), and I do get to see them 1-2 times a week. And I SO desire to share with them what you have been sharing, both in this video and others, so that *they* learn to be good wives in the future. Learn what *not* to do. 😔 Hard to do without dissing their mother.

[@racebannon96]

Shortly after the wife left us, I went to my church for "counseling." I briefly was able to advise the associate pastor on what was happening. He kept talking about Reconciliation with her. When I finally got the chance to talk, I told him that I do not want to reconcile with her. I advised the pastor that she was hateful and trying to destroy me. And that I no longer knew who she was. I left there more frustrated than before I got there. I got the divorce done as quickly as possible.

[@dennispacelli1007]

@@racebannon96 You did the right move! Wasting your time with them they think they are 'Godly' but telling you to reconcile! You did with yourself! Get another woman....

[@LA-hx8gj]

Counseling is feminized bs. The one time there was an exception, and she got called on her bs, my wife conveniently didn't want to go anymore 😂

[@brickrowoutdoors1038]

I got me a very good wife. Keep looking guys....there are a few out there. This woman speaks truth btw.

[@lamarquescoleman9747]

Great job glad you have a good one, keep going!

[@jimjohnson394]

Don't be complacent though. I have a good wife too (married 20 years). Still, you have to work to improve things as you go along. Learn how to resolve conflicts, go to church regularly, be attractive, have kids, throw away the TV, take her out on date nights, etc.

[@copiertech101]

Or she's just lying to you

[@smokingcrab2290]

She may be good for now. I highly doubt it will remain but I'm happy for you if it does. Cherish her as long as it lasts bro.

[@JamesMorris1301]

@@smokingcrab2290you as a man must not give away their manhood. Women marry that person and turn the man into a weak man

[@time4jesus]

This is an absolute goldmine. Not only is it correcting women's behaviour, but also telling women what to look for in a man! We men can watch this content and ask ourselves if and how we can do better on some of these points. Subbed.

[@jrank3288]

And also good men are not weakened. We just get silent. Are voices fade and our emotions disappear

[@danielpilling9930]

I agree with your observation. But the word you're looking for is "our".

[@twotonrhinottr2877]

@@danielpilling9930it’s ok to assume spellcheck makes mistakes - especially if one is typing fast or typing at all on a cellphone. No?

[@dothedewinme]

Not about a wife but a long term GF, the walking on eggshells and “switch flip” is too too real. It’s like never knowing if you going to step on a land mine. The ironic part was after beating me down and doing all this stuff she’d complain I wasn’t the guy I was when we first started dating. The literally can’t see or understand that their own behavior can and does totally change a guy. Luckily I grew up a bit and had to end that one. But so so many things make sense I just didn’t understand after listening to this podcast

[@nerychristian]

It's all gaslighting. The only ones who changed are the women. It has happened with every relationship I have ever been in. Women will usually start off being pleasant and easy going. They will let you take the lead. But after a few weeks, they slowly begin to find ways to control you. The first thing they always do is begin to look for flaws. They will begin to criticize certain things you do. They will judge you and make you feel bad about yourself because you are content with your current life situation. They will begin to make you question yourself and your lifestyle, the way you dress, your hobbies, how you spend your free time. Then they will begin to use guilt to manipulate you. They will say that you don't message them or call them enough. They will say that you don't take them out enough. Life is so much peaceful without a woman. The thing I have learned from women is: If you want to attract a woman, you have to become a liar. You have to try to become something you are not. You have to pretend to be charming and smooth and always confident. You have to pretend that you care about money and acquiring wealth. You have to pretend that you care about romance, or having long talks on the phone, or sharing personal stuff. Anytime I go out with a woman, I start to get annoyed because she will begin to ask lots of personal questions- as if to find flaws- and she will act as if she is superior to you.

[@VinceA-jq6ds]

"complain I wasn’t the guy I was when we first started dating" Got this sentiment from the wife. I am the same guy and am reacting accordingly to the situation.

[@markmartinell9654]

NEXT.... move on to another woman who has genuine burning desire for you.

[@blatherskyt]

10 for 10 on my ex-wife. Never have I worried for someone so much after being so wronged. Not a romantic love, but a pure love that loves the person and not what they can offer me.

[@red7fifty]

She ain't going to change, I accept that fact now.

[@chadstevens6605]

Consider leaving. You can only control your own actions.

[@joelpagliaro5271]

If you know she isn't going to change, then to work on yourself you have to take the responsibility for your choice to stay with her. It is difficult, trust me I am living it.

[@andrewslagle1974]

@@joelpagliaro5271 I lived it, the kids were educated & grown . I want the person i was designed to be with .She is the coolest woman i have ever known we have been friends for over 10 years .I should have told her years ago ,she knows and feels the same .I just need to make it official with her!

[@eddiee2371]

Excellent video. My favorite comedic take of truth is when Bill Burr discusses how low a woman can get when having an argument.

[@olanderdecastro52]

My wife does every single one of those behaviors to the 10th power. It’s why we are going to get a divorce even though I don’t want one, she does. Because she can’t let go over controlling behavior.

[@racebannon96]

If you go through a divorce with your controlling wife, it will be painful at times, but you will be relieved when it is done. She will have to find someone else to control and that will not be your problem.

[@dennispacelli1007]

@@racebannon96 BINGO! MOVE ON BE A MAN ABOUT IT!

[@Bernicemaboko]

Thank you @happy wife ! I’m a single 24 year old lady , watching this so I can be a good wife to my future husband .

[@fleshvessel6193]

hmu 😅

[@Bernicemaboko]

@@fleshvessel6193 😂🙈thank you Sir, I’m in South Africa lol.

[@hyronharrison8127]

​@@Bernicemaboko that explains a lot...for example why you're watching this video in the first place!

[@hotdogg8]

I experience 100% of these! So, so, so true. When you realize you need to internally continue to grow, but your 'external' has shut down and you have isolated.

[@Cougs2894]

Good men will admit they are wrong until they are constantly attacked by their wives for things they didn’t do or things their wives perceived they did. This is how the wife conditioned the good man into a state of defensiveness. The wife will then use this against the good man down the road and accuse them of never taking responsibility when they make an actual mistake.

[@LunakieCherrie]

Thankyou for this video. Me and my bf have been fighting a lot and I’m constantly breaking down. I must confess about today, I hurt that man… he said he couldn’t do a lot for my bday as he was investing in his business and I got so upset, he busted his ass whilst I stayed at home like a brat. Our home situations aren’t great, but I ruined it all. I want to change and fix up, the things my bf got for my bday, an amazing air BNB that’s an en-suite and he got me a gift I don’t know about yet.. I should’ve been grateful instead of saying “just surprise me” and hinting at a dinner and a cake.. knowing how tight things are and expensive.. he really has busted his ass and has done a lot for me.. has surprised me in the past. I don’t want to lose this man… I really need help. Thankyou for your videos…

[@FicciónNeuronal]

Your boyfriend is a lucky man.

[@LunakieCherrie]

I love that man, he’s my first and hopefully last 💕☺️

[@Billy-the-Kid]

@@LunakieCherrie Stop the nagging. That helps.

[@kenpresley45]

Give him a big non sexual hug, and apologize. Say "I was wrong, and this is why"

[@RamathRS]

This, alone, is such a huge first step. You are better than you think; or, at least, have such amazing potential. Very few of us are right and good at the beginning. Being able and willing to change and improve will not only help yourself, but it will enable him to do the same at the drop of a hat. Best of luck. Don't give up!

[@KCville6324]

My ex wife hit 8 of the 10, but she didn't get a worse husband from her poor behaviors. She still got a great husband and still she got to walk away and cheat and I get to suffer the consequences of her failures. Don't misunderstand, I definitely failed on a lot of things, but nearly all of it was ignorance because I trusted her words and ignored her actions because I needed to pick up the slack. I was supposed to pick up the slack because that is what a good husband does. Now there is two broken people walking out the relationship because of the decisions of one.

[@racebannon96]

The wife dumped every responsibility and chore on me including me taking care of our kids. She left us after 10 years. It is the gift that keeps on giving.

[@lamarquescoleman9747]

So happy you on your own, have overcome things to be a good wife and to change and turn your marriage around. Your husband and you are on the right path to a great thing. You did the right thing. Keep going!!

[@DirkWrightxyz]

I appreciate you holding women to account in their contribution to bad marriages. However, not all "good" men are angels. We screw up. We're far from perfect. We're sometimes selfish and immature also. It takes two to really mess up a marriage after all, and the man did pick her to be his wife. It's not all her fault. He contributed to the poor quality of the marriage. I think it's important to point out that marriage is like ballroom dancing: it takes two to tango. You have to cooperate to have the dance at all. Ballroom dancing is an excellent metaphor for marriage, in my opinion. The man leads, but that doesn't mean he's more important, or more valuable, or anything like that. The man leads by initiating action, but his action has to be such that his partner enjoys it. The dance is for her pleasure, as well as showing her off to everyone else. That's why in competition, the man wears black, and the woman wears almost nothing at all. The purpose of the relationship is to make her look good, from the man's perspective. It's to support her in being the best she can possibly be, so the male lead in dancing is going to lead the steps that she enjoys and is capable of doing well. He's not going to lead her in something that she hates, or is not good at. One of the important things to say to a new female partner is "do you like to spin?" That helps him figure out which moves she may enjoy and which she may not.

[@DirkWrightxyz]

Further, there is confusion about patriarchy. It is not about suppressing women. It is about suppressing everything that is feminine. There is a huge difference there. All men and women have masculine and feminine qualities. See the definitions of yin and yang, for example, from Taoism. In the I Ching, the dominance of the masculine over the feminine is a condition of sickness. That's what we have today, since at least the ancient Greeks in 600 BC. The masculine and feminine energies have equal value. They must cooperate to have the dance at all. Thus, it falls on us to identify that which is feminine and that which is masculine and tailor our attitudes and beliefs to equally support both and not suppress, repress or otherwise incumber either of them. For example, a lot of modern feminism is about supporting the masculine side of women (equal work for equal pay, equal access to education, equal treatment before the law, etc.), which is fine, but it misses the fact that women are usually innately more feminine than masculine. Men value feminine women more than masculine ones, typically. We are turned on by feminine women, but not so much by masculine ones. Thus, to identify that which is feminine means accepting that our emotions have equal value to our intellect, for example. Our intuition, inspiration, and imagination have equal value to our ability to think logically. For most people, this is nonsense. They don't consider anything emotional, or intuitive, to be of any value at all. That is where patriarchy is really found. It's in the degradation of feminine expressions, such as intuition, emotion, inspiration and imagination. We disdain children because of their emotions and imagination, for example. We tell them that the ghost they are seeing in their bedroom is not real, when in fact the ghost is completely real and is merely a deceased person. That's how deep patriarchy is in our culture.

[@DirkWrightxyz]

What I have learned is that emotions don't have to be regulated, or controlled, as taught by the business gurus when they discuss the importance of emotional intelligence. They don't have to be put into a box, and they don't have to be suppressed in any way. What I have found is that emotions are like any other art form: the more you practice it, the better you become at expressing them. Further, the more I grieve, the less many thoughts from other people bother me. So, since emotion is a feminine quality, the idea that emotions need to be controlled and regulated is just more patriarchy. It's a judgement that emotions can become "out of control" when the entire idea of being in control is a masculine trait. The thing about emotions is that they exist in an entirely different universe. There is no such thing as a right or a wrong emotion. There is not such thing as a true of a false one either. Those terms don't apply to emotion. Not only that, emotion is mute. It doesn't use words like the logical mind. Thus, when we feel emotion, it is that part of us that is commenting on what is going on right now. Thoughts do not stimulate emotion. Think of it instead as two people, one is emotion and the other is logic. Logic goes "yadda yadda yadda" and emotion stimulates a feeling as commentary on what logic is saying.

[@oluchionyia7096]

God bless you

[@Mom_Luvs_Tech]

Wow, you just described how awful my ex boyfriend was to me……….and his girlfriend before me. However, her and I are super kind, chill, not controlling women that both tried to let him lead. He operated more like a volatile, emotional controlling jealous woman in the relationship. ☹️

[@derpderpington5433]

Contempt is game over

[@EarlSinclair97]

Bad wives won't confirm or deny anything when confronted. They also collect information, but will never share anything with you unless it benefits them in the moment. (Their heart, information, etc)

[@sameyeam5277]

I see you met my soon to be ex wife.

[@mr.e8432]

My wife only hit 9 out of 10 of these and that’s because we don’t have kids. Although it’s reassuring to hear, I hit all the qualities of a “good man”. When things got really bad,as a “good man”, the first thing I’m doing is looking at myself trying to figure out what I’m doing wrong. Thanks to this channel and a few others like it. I realize this really is not my fault. There’s nothing I can do but sit back and watch her self destruct. And why did the marriage fall apart? Because after 2 1/2 - 3 years of her neglect, I called her out on everything and she flipped out. Then we went to marriage counseling and he told us after a few months he couldn’t work with us anymore because she doesn’t do anything she’s supposed to be doing. at which point she shut down totally, we have divorce mediation starting next week.

[@racebannon96]

Good to hear you are getting out. Having children with these women changes everything. I went through this too. Once I divorced her, she went after the kids since I was no longer around. I got custody of our kids and she would sabotage her own visitations. Misery loves company.

[@kodamooshface1108]

My wife and I have gone around over "being right." I have expressed that of course I want to be right but right for right's sake and not mine. When traveling does one wish to be on the 'right' highway going in the 'right' direction? The 'right' flight? Of course! If I didn't use my weird analogies to help clarify my expressions we'd have been through.

[@DatDamnLlama]

Same

[@VinceA-jq6ds]

Mine hates being wrong and will do some amazing mental gymnastics to be right. For a time, every time I was right she would badger with, "Don't you get tired of being right?", "Right again, must get boring." and other such nonsense. Told her she might want to be glad she has a guy who knows what he is on about and leverage that for us. Boy, did I get a look!

[@t-dogg115]

My wife went for a picnic yesterday evening with 2 of her friends at 6:30pm . She came home at 11.30pm. I sent her a message at 10pm to see if she was ok and what time she would be home as one of our children was poorly. I didn’t get a reply. I asked her to show me some respect by letting me know what time she might be home. Am I wrong for asking?

[@andrewslagle1974]

NO not at all thats not how a mothere responds!

[@PoeticAmmunition.]

Is this the norm in ur culture? A man is responsible for the safety of any females in his care. U have allowed for this behaviour to become normal ( no offense) Im a female and i would never, but my husband would also equally not put up with such disrespect Be straightforward and firm not harsh and say that this is unacceptable and you wont allow it to happen again.

[@yesterdayseyes]

When we were newly weds I would get upset my husband would tell people I told him he couldn't do something. It wasn't true, I always let him do whatever he wanted. He just isnt very social, and I was his excuse not to go. I didn't want to be "one of those wives" and it felt unfair to be seen like that when it wasn't true. 22 years later, I don't care what anyone thinks, and my husband still uses me as an excuse not to go.

[@dantelossantos7562]

Good wife.

[@ThisTimeTheWorld]

You should have dealt with that early on and told him to just have a legitimate reason for going or not.

[@meredithdowty1378]

Everything on your list was my 2nd wife/and I loved her so much! She didn't even face me when she left the marriage...I got a text. I was so hurt that I said never again. That was 14 years ago and I never pursued another relationship, not even a date, I'm 63 now. I learned to see the red flags quickly and decided I'm better off getting a dog...I have 3😊

[@Z28videogates]

I watched this for entertainment - I was curious how many of these my ex wife was. Of the 10, I counted 8, maybe 9. This was a very good video you made. She discarded me but I am much happier now. Regarding specifically #8, this can be part of a smear campaign. Christian women do this more because they need to "justify" why they are leaving the marriage. Non-Christians can just say they fell out of love but in a Christian setting, they have to destroy your reputation so they can preserve theirs. Pearl actually covered this. The smear campaign even gets the husband's side own family members against him. It's basically narcissism. The old joke about narcissism, "One of the few conditions where the patient is left alone and everyone else is treated". Also, a lot of these are the #2 of the three stages of NPD relationships --- devaluation stage. Many men are devalued, disrespected etc. You can't just leave because we don't want to be Mrs. Doubtfire.

[@josephschuster1494]

I suspect you have LOTS of male friends/followers and few female friends/followers, but never fail, we guys will take good care of you! 👍😃

[@johntiggleman4686]

My "frau" is quite emotional, and mostly not in a happy way. It gets worse when she drinks a lot of wine. She's critical and judgemental, and not always towards me; much of late has been at her brothers, especially since her step mother passed a few months ago. What really makes me spit out my coffee is her saying she "doesn't keep score" about people. Such bullshit. She has things from her childhood that she brings up at least one a week, or if she has been drinking, maybe twice in a discussion. You are 110% right about women focusing on the one mistake. Been that way for 47 of our almost 50 years of marriage. #9...boy howdy! Coming up on 19 years without. I have no idea why the hell I have tolerated it. Yes, there have been mitigating circumstances, but still.

[@judd0112]

No the absolute best most ridiculous thing my wife has let out of her mouth that was almost so wrong it was comical. He would complain about how her sisters were demanding and how they expect this or that. And back story she’s still bitching about things I’ve done 10 years ago and when I complain she says “well i dealt with it for years, you can’t handle a few months!?!” So she’s talking about her sisters and I say why don’t you speak up and put them in their place, her infamous line is “you know life’s to short I don’t don’t care I just let it go I’m not gonna hold a grudge life’s too short”. So. My reply was “ So you let everything go and hold no grudges or hard feelings with everyone BUT ME! Huh!?)” I swear b I shoulda’ve been a prosecutor cause when I corner her and she doesn’t like having her wrongs and lies pointed out “ her new line “ I don’t feel like answering questions right now!?”””” Lolololol. Holy cow. Imagine if I had used that phrase during one of her cross examinations. Hopefully someone can see the irony in it hopefully I laid it out in a good dialogue bb

[@VinceA-jq6ds]

Mine likes to keep score. My score is always zero. IDGAF.

[@johntiggleman4686]

@@VinceA-jq6dsAnd mine likes to bring up stuff from my distant past while discussing a topic. I won't say what, but years ago, I had this belief in something, but as I matured, I change my mind about it. However, that does not seem to matter to her. She still thinks I believe as I did at first. Of course, I told her to stick to the current topic and leave my past out of it. I never bring up her errors to anyone.

[@ultimobile]

yesterday after my woman behaved rudely, I quietly mentioned how that would be perceived in public - she immediately turned it around and claimed that I was attacking her. Mention a fact - and she'll ignore it and blame you for hurting her feeling.

[@panfergan]

She knows women very well, and most of them suck.

[@suttonfarms2343]

So right about sitcoms showing the 'pant wearing' wife and the subservient husband. It's like a laugh track on sitcoms....once you notice it, you can't un-notice it and its so cringe-worthy.

[@snowyowlz5992]

Pain avoiders!?!? Yeah😢even as a husband trying to be Sherlock Holmes at times will not root out the problem or injury.😢

[@danstout3154]

I did go through a lot of this. Single 7 yrs now.

[@ValNanovsky]

Wow! Watching a woman talk about all this is so refreshing! There is light at the end of the tunnel, guys!

[@elhananreuven402]

I just listened to this with my wife in the room and she got so angry she moved out!!

[@Cougs2894]

Number 7. My ex got pissed about my Center Ice subscription but saw no problems with her Netflix/ Amazon Prime/ etc etc. 😂😂😂

[@jillhargrave-george4510]

Not worth arguing about, surely!

[@michaelking4578]

It's hard to invest in marriage with the current divorce rate.

[@chrisjeanneret5091]

How can you expect them to hear you asking them to take their blinders off when they're wearing earplugs?

[@robertphillips4918]

My ex would destroy the whole family before she admitted it was her fault, we went to 5 counselors she spent the whole hour arguing with them while I sat there and stared at the ceiling . When we went to court for the divorce she argued with her lawyer and my lawyer . At least with mine there was no solution .

[@racebannon96]

Who is she arguing with now? Who cares, it isn’t your problem. I’m sure it is driving her crazy that she no longer know what you are doing or controls you. Peace in your home is priceless.

[@chriscaldow1644]

The fact is, most women are not wife material….. there many decent women out there in the world, however, there are so few to go around for a vast amount of men that, most men must accept the fact that competition is fierce. The fact is there are women who would be a good and worthy wife, who would would be an asset and enrich your life and help make you happy ….. but there simply aren’t enough of these women to go around ……

[@nicolebilek9834]

Unfortunately, that's the world we live in. We're taught to be independent, and basically to be selfish. Trying to unlearn many things here. It's a long road.

[@tatumabsalon354]

How do i as a women change these behaviors? Where do I start?

[@nicolebilek9834]

I'd start with writing each behavior out and really meditating on where you fall with each one. If you are married, get your husband's take on where you fall as well. LISTEN. Don't talk back or make excuses. Ask him what is most important to him for you to work on first. And when you find yourself wanting to exhibit that bad behavior, take a step back, deep breath, and do the opposite. It's not going to be easy, but it will be worth it. God bless you on this journey.

[@jrank3288]

Good men don't just go along. That's a weak man

[@fredfrederick5607]

I went along for a decade because I couldn’t comprehend that this was happening. I still struggle to believe that another person’s mind can operate like that, but as I hear stories from others, it’s seems my situation is fairly common.

[@jillhargrave-george4510]

You need to ask permission if it's about big ticket spending items!

[@andrewslagle1974]

@@jillhargrave-george4510 I can see that but it works both ways !And the no sex thing is very hurt full !

[@malsierover182]

My husband says let me talk it over with my wife and I said it’s up to him and he says he likes to have my opinion on it too

[@RamathRS]

This is how it should be. Very good of you both.

[@mindyhooper4698]

Right, I was thinking, asking a spouse on a decision isn't necessarily one controlling the other, it's respect that a lot of decisions affected both partners and should be made jointly.

[@VinceA-jq6ds]

How it should be unless a snap decision needs to be made. If you have that kind of relationship my guess you already know what your spouses answer would be anyway.

[@joelpagliaro5271]

Great lesson here. In fact, I have seen myself start to go down some of these paths in response to how I have been treated. Thanks to this channel I can recognize them and am now on my journey to get out of camp victim and into camp take responsibility for my choice to stay in my marriage.

[@michaelbaker2552]

Another point, not mentioned, is: "Don't ask for or suggest anything. This is an affront to your wife's control and authority."

[@snake57]

After 49 years I don’t care if she is alive or not.

[@ernestoclaros-jn9vf]

You are so right I appreciate your Honesty

[@benmoisio232]

Genesis 3:16 "You will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you"

[@j.d.crouch6899]

What edition of the Bible says this? The one I use says: To the woman he said: I will intensify your toil in childbearing; in pain* you shall bring forth children. Yet your urge shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.

[@benmoisio232]

@@j.d.crouch6899 You literally just repeated it back to me. I used the NLT version which is easiest to understand. When you translate it from Hebrew the NLT version is what it is saying

[@americanbobtail1]

I dare you to quote that in divorce court and tell me later how the divorce settlement went.

[@benmoisio232]

@@americanbobtail1 well marriage is till death do us part unless there's infidelity from the other person. And just cause the court sees it one way doesn't mean it's right. Abortion is murder yet its still legal

[@americanbobtail1]

@@benmoisio232 - Marriage is death till you part just for fidelity? I guess you have not heard these three words and recommended you look up Ketubah, Get, and Beit Din. Also, it is okay for abortion in limited cases as saving the mother's life.

[@flingmonkey5494]

33 years married, and you nailed my wife on 9 out of 10 counts.

[@nomansland6376]

8:05 eventually (after trying to problem solve, long time being emasculated, never feeling heard.. etc) men will begin to wear their emotions on their sleeves. This is when women start to call us narcissists.. after they bring it out in us so they can be the victim. We don’t want to be that way at all. Eventually we snap, and women feed on that.

[@VinceA-jq6ds]

Hm. I went the other way and closed down. When we talk, we sound like coworkers or strangers in the checkout line. Fine w/ me.

[@nomansland6376]

@@VinceA-jq6ds yeah, that’s generally the next stage after you give up trying. After you have no more fucks to give.

[@balticstain7150]

My wife can't see what the problem is she's happy with life, she doesn't need sex so !!! . So what's the problem with that I don't give my husband any pleasure at all but he's not allowed to go and have sex though no no ...but she's not prepared to look at herself and say hmm I need to change something my sexual desire for myself good idea 🤔...

[@Korschtal]

Strange isn't it? They will say it's their "right" because they control their body. But if they then demand their husband stay faithful, they are demanding to control their husband's body as well. Demanding to control someone s*xually without their consent is abuse.

[@charlesfailla9834]

Thank you for this channel. All these years i thought what you are saying, but icould not explain it to anyone and i would not do so anyway.

[@kylemacarthur9863]

Zero women heard a word of this. 100% of women who saw this title went and yelled at their husband!

[@Hebrewess8]

Not true. I’m listening and learning.

[@EmilePesky-n1v]

8: my wife completely humiliated me to courts. Among her problems with me were that i play "violent" computer games(just normal games like the Witcher trilogy). She did everything she could to denigrate me. And 10: I spent countless times telling the kids to not speak to their mother disrespectfully. Of course 9: little or no sex

[@markmartinell9654]

dump her find a good one who is hotter and just better in every way. That will be good for your health.

[@ChrisMochinskiMusic]

I’m actually working SO hard since my split to avoid confirmation bias and almost exclusively consume content that is constructive and takes her side, but this video has my jaw on the floor with a level of vindication that makes me feel almost dirty. This is PRECISELY my life for the last three years.

[@larrymiller5253]

My wife, exactly! She has ruined our oldest daughter relationship with her husband. I didn't recognize it until long after...I did not stand by and let her sabotage our youngest! Now that I stand my ground and call her behavior out, she just dumps on me at not our children. I can deal better with her behavior than they can. Our oldest and son in law go to therapy and are, happily, working through it.

[@rougebaba3887]

"Our husbands can do 20 amazing things for us and if he makes one mistake, that is what we will focus on." My wife to a T. During the pandemic (summer of 2020) my wife was really concerned. She wanted to keep to the "shelter in place" B.S. to protect our kids and herself. But someone had to work. Someone had to supply the house. Someone had to make it possible for her and the kids to "shelter in place"... and, we needed toilet paper! Remember how insane that was? So I got up at 4:30 am on a Sunday, drank a couple cups of coffee, while making a grocery list, planning out everything she was going to need to "shelter in place". I was standing in line by 5:45 AM outside our local grocery store... I was going to make a beeline to the toilet paper to get our 'limit of two per customer". Then I filled my basket to the brim with food and supplies. I stood in line with my mask on. I paid for everything for her and the kids .... with the money I EARN, workin my ass off, not her. I brought it all home, packing in bag after bag while she was still in bed asleep. I wiped it all down like a fool.... because she was so damned worried about a virus. I cleared out the frig of all the leftovers and stuff past its "use by" date. While doing this, I set a cup of specialty coffee she was saving for her son on the counter, fearing I might knock it over and spill it while putting everything away. Then i put everything away. Once I was done, I saw that we were out of our homemade alcohol wipes, so i made more. Then I put a hedge trimmer together that I had bought the day before and tested it so I could do some yard work my wife asked me to do. Once done, I started a load of towels, then, before going outside to do the yard work, I wanted to clean up all those dirty dishes I had piled up at the sink. I started rinsing things down and at one point I mindlessly picked up that leftover coffee and dumped it down the sink. Oops! Dang it! That was the flavored coffee she told me she was saving! One small mistake in a whole morning of my time and money spent directly to benefit her.... while she slept! I made more coffee for him (though just regular coffee since the flavored coffee was all gone) and then I went outside to cut back the vegetation at our fence line like she had asked, trying to beat the summer heat. I had been up working for hours before she emerged from the house. She didn't say "good morning" to me. She didn't ask how I slept or how I felt. She didn't ask if she could help me in someway or if she could bring me anything I might want or need. She didn't say a single "thank you" or acknowledge in any way any of the good things I had done for her that morning. NOPE! The ONLY thing that mattered to her was that I poured out a day old cup of leftover coffee... and as I was apologizing for the oversight, trying to explain how it happened, she literally turned her back on me while I was speaking to her, walking away from me and closed the door hard behind her. There I was, sweating, tired... hours of work behind me, and hours of work ahead of me, and all of it was for her, and she managed to make me feel like a complete failure and a worthless piece of crap, over a day old cup of leftover coffee. My dignity, my pride and self respect, my manhood holds less value to my wife than a day old cup of leftover coffee. That is how little I matter.

[@carlmanis879]

With # 8,9,10 tell her your going to visit her mom. When she gets out of the car pull away and wave good bye. Go home change the locks it takes away a lot of her power in a divorce. Go to the post office and change her mailing address to her moms it makes it harder for her to take the house. She will beg and plead to get back in the house. Then if you still love her and she changes her attitude let her back in after a couple of days.

[@j.m.f.g.450]

Good content, but the only kind of women who's willing to evaluate herself is the one who lost her advantage , and not for the sake of her husband.

[@Steverz32]

Karyn, say it louder for the people in the back😊👍

[@davidcave5426]

There is a time limit before there is no going back. If it's too late, no amount of corrective measures are going to matter. The man will move on.

[@lythalmind]

Ty for creating this type of content. Someone had to do it from a loving place and i feel you doing that gracefully.

[@guido20131]

GOD BLESS. thank YOU

[@cosmiccat7651]

I'm not controlling at all.. but he micro manages me and tries to control every aspect of my life.. so much for that.

[@jacksquat4140]

Didn't you say "yes" followed by "I do"? I'm not unsympathetic, because, I, too, walked into a biological buzzsaw, but we really do need to take agency for our actions.

[@haddadiwanassa]

I am a woman and I admit I have these traits and I Wana work on myself to improve them. Karen what makes us do all that ? How can we stop doing these and start doing positive constructive things ?

[@hitogami259]

Well you’ve already done the first step of taking responsibility. I’m sure you’ll figure it out eventually :)

[@nicolebilek9834]

I think it's the culture we have these days. We're taught to be independent, we're taught that being submissive is to be a doormat, we're taught to think of ourselves above others. Read God's Word to wives and really evaluate where you stand. Ask for your husband's honest opinion (hopefully he can do so in a loving way) and LISTEN. And start little by little. When you find yourself wanting to exhibit a bad behavior, stop and take a deep breath, then do the opposite. God bless you on your journey.

[@Karll541]

Any luck? I think a lot of this learning to be vulnerable. A lot of women want to control and manipulate to feel safe in the relationship and in some ways to receive constant validation. Validation is not connection and this will tire a man out and might make him just get fed up and leave. So opening up to their man creates connection. It’ll make you selfless and honest

[@IvoZ.]

My daily dose of common sense here on this channel! 👍🙏

[@joelawson2780]

I am pleased to say that my wife has all of these qualities !

[@johngilliam9112]

❤Tks 4 all your videos they have truly blessed me 🎉❤and you are helping many people be encouraged and continue speaking the truth ❤🎉❤

[@johnryan3374]

100% true on all points. I lived this.

[@peterwinzeler2935]

Thank you. I am one of those good men. We all are human. I can admit to my misgivings yet I refuse when she isn’t willing to do the same.i desire to be with a woman I care about and trust and she is willing to hold herself accountable

[@ItalNico]

My wife scored a perfect 10...we don't have kids but she does the last one in public now and then which is unforgivable in my book. It's too late for me but I hope this video helps save marriages for others.

[@akalurch5805]

I think the whole asking permission thing is depending on the situation, if my boys are asking me to go out with them on a weekend, I thinks that’s more of making sure there’s nothing going on that my wife has planned cause as men, we forget, especially me! Lol my memory is bad. But I think for most men that’s what we are doing when we ask our wives for “permission”. Not every time but most of the time.

[@dragosnow3063]

Thank you for posting, my soon to be ex wife said she wouldn't get married again if anything happened to us, and she just happens to check all of the examples on this list 🤷‍♂️🤦‍♂️🥴

[@imgreezyful]

The thing I want most in life…is for God to say to me “Well done, good and faithful servant”. I am doing everything I can to be the priest in my home that I’m called to be. A huge part of that is sexual purity. These days it’s almost inconceivable that it could achievable. My wife is my sexual purity lifeboat!!! I don’t want to chase other women or get sucked into porn. If your husband turns to you for sex, you are taking care of one of his most basic and essential needs. It brings you two closer and is one of the top requirements for obiedience to God. It is one of the most beautiful gifts from God that he tells us to do!!!! Here’s your cake and I expect you to eat it! 😂 Change your perspective, give yourself to him with a giving heart. Pray for him, he undoubtedly needs it with what he faces everyday. Give him 1. Respect 2. SEX 3. Peaceful home. Not complicated.

[@vanfja]

Spot on with what Apostle Paul says. It’s really not hard especially if the man also follows the Apostles teachings and loves his wife like Christ loved the Church and sacrificed himself for her.

[@AmyBaldwin-dc8ty]

I came here to learn if I am a bad wife and realized that I am actually a good man 😂

[@nathanameru7654]

XD

[@guyincognito7211]

Great video! My only suggestion would be to lead with the very last line that you said in the video. Maybe even intersperse it all throughout the video, in between each number if necessary😂...

[@jdsartre9520]

How about refusing to put in the effort to stay in shape? letting herself get fat

[@michellesmith7363]

Curious are you fat? Only asking cause it goes both ways everyone should take care of their health. Also she might have a medical condition. Autoimmune issues and hormone issues are running rampant.

[@legiontepes3474]

Love your content.

[@CushRayman]

"Wife Rage" is straight from witnessing her mother react to her and her dad, whenever you said/say the truth, which is why women always say be kind meaning don't tell the truth is a virtue. And today we think demons are not real? Deception on every corner.

[@David-rs6gm]

This video should be compulsory for all wifes to be before the wedding day. My ex wife did all those things and more. I'm a good man and eventually got lucky with a woman who does none of these things. Not all women are like this but sadly, far too many 😢