10 Things I DON'T Let my Husband Do!!!

[@Billy-bc8pk]

Man, all of these are PERFECT! Very good rules, and absolutely necessary if you plan on having a long-lasting union. Way too many people ge lax on these things, and almost all of the stories on reddit about couples not sharing passwords with one another for "privacy" reasons are the exact same couples who end up cheating on one another.

[@bj2294]

All good points. Neither one should have opposite sex friends. They create distance between you and can cause opportunities you don’t know about.

[@michaelharvest931]

I would say this is controlling. But it’s looks like you hold each other to the same standards and rules. Which is totally fair for both of you. All the best!

[@paulcolburn3855]

this is marriage

[@martinbeland9342]

Don't ever let kids become one or the other's priority. Make sure your kid's need are met but keep the priority on one another. Your relationship precedes the ones you develop with your kids and will continue after they leave the home to live their adult life.

[@christopherkelly5198]

Those sound good to me! I love how most of the rules went both ways too! I really like how both of you prioritize the other person… it’s really heartwarming:)

[@grace_and_purity]

Ethan is such a wonderful husband. He never gives me any reasons to feel insecure in our relationship ❤ and of course is always a blast to be with 😘😉

[@frankeasterling3402]

Married 47 years. I have and have always had girl friends. Always in a group setting, never alone, always in full public view. One running girl friend over 5 years, documnetetede we ran/joged over 7000 miles.

[@bethanyray6421]

it’s giving insecure, jealous, and crontrolling. it’s on the lower end of all this (seemingly) but regardless, nothing wrong with your spouse having opposite sex friends or even keeping in touch with an ex. if you 100% trust your partner then there is no reason to have that rule. i’ve also never understood having the location of someone’s cellphone in the case of “emergencies/safety”. i will never not think that tracking location is not a bs way to keep tabs on someone. if there is a emergency and he is stranded on the road don’t you think he would call you? or at the very least, if he is late coming home from work, can’t you call him? there is no reason to have someone’s location other than issues in trust. even your kids. i will always stand by it. how do you think people used to get around before tracking your location was a thing? or before cellphones?

[@grace_and_purity]

Hello 👋 We do not make six figure salaries and thus we do not drive nice cars. I ran out of gas at an intersection the other day and my phone was out of data so I could not do anything but call him and try to explain where I was. He easily found me using my location and rescued me ❤❤ he is my hero 🎉

[@jameslung4506]

This is a great list

[@stephanielynch5146]

A little excessive with the model-less lingerie sights.

[@grace_and_purity]

Lingerie models are pretty sexy ! 😮

[@gps9308]

The husband buying lingerie from sites with images of models is wrong, but wearing tight clothes / wearing jewelry that draws the male gaze to your chest, which you do in multiple videos, is acceptable? It's strange to me you don't hold yourself to the same standard.

[@grace_and_purity]

I try to dress modestly in my KZbin videos, and I appreciate this input. There is always room to improve ❤❤

[@Wildersport]

I agree with you on the passwords thing with one exception while my wife was alive, she knew all of my passwords except for the privileged passwords I had for work because well she had no legitimate reason or clearance to have those... But for anything personal absolutely. She had every password, every code, everything she needed

[@grace_and_purity]

That makes sense ! 😆

[@DiegoFilipeCraveiroDeSouzaQuei]

This is definition of a curfew in practice. But okay, you do you 😂

[@Catechuman23]

Healthy marriage 101 is this list by default. Do #10 and you'll be happy forever. And communicate. That's it. We shouldn't need to make lists like this.

[@alexrawls7407]

As beautiful As some of those things are, the tone of the video “things I don’t let my husband do….” Demonstrates the social acceptance of a woman in control of a relationship while if a man titled a video “things I dont let my wife do….” The video would be deleted instantly and he’d be questioned by law enforcement for spousal abuse.

[@grace_and_purity]

Oh I am planning to get to the “things my husband doesn’t let me do” 😉 you may want to buckle up for that one 🚙💨

[@ZantKLW]

To comment a bit on some of the points made. Personally, I get why people struggle with others keeping their exes around, but it can be beneficial. With respect and boundaries established, an ex can be an extremely good supportive friend. That person knows you. Chances are they can look through a fake ''I'm fine''. Now when it comes to female friends, oh boy I can't agree there. Personally having female friends has helped my relationships in the past. Getting a female perspective on things or issues can be huge. Whilst you should obviously be comfortable talking to your partner, some things are just easier to discuss with a third party. Also I'm curious if this applies to you having male friends. (Not trying to point fingers, genuinely curious) Now, porn addiction is very real, and it's definitely an issue for a lot of people. I feel this is a very person-to-person thing, so I'll leave it alone. The lingerie thing has me a little confused. Clothing models are.. Just that. They're meant for you to go ''Oh wow, that could look good on my partner, girlfriend etc.'' As for the social media thing. Whilst I get the reasoning, it's literally impossible to shield yourself completely from lust, as you described it. A stroll at the beach, or even just going outside in the summer, chances are you'll see the same thing you'd see on Instagram. I'll end this by saying this was an interesting video to watch. I live a VERY different lifestyle than you, and I hope you take my written thoughts as curiosity and comments, and not as something negative. Hope you two do well in life.

[@NicheGreens]

I read your entire comment, but I have to ask, are you married? A lot of the things you are stating didn't bother me in relationships but are absolutely off limits within a lifelong commitment.

[@ZantKLW]

@@NicheGreens Hi there, thanks for taking the time to respond. No, I'm not married. But it does raise a question for me. How would these things change due to marriage?

[@NicheGreens]

@@ZantKLW keep in mind, this will be subjective so I'm coming at this from a more traditional approach on marriage itself, divorce should only be thought of as a last resort in my worldview. there's an intended sense of performance in marriage, one that elevates accountability for both people. You gain a very profound responsibility to be mindful of how your actions affect your spouse. You would end up seeing the marriage itself as an entity to be maintained, nurtured, and protected. The bonds before God (religious covenant), country (legal covenant), and family (community covenant) are made to show your level of commitment to the peace of mind of your spouse. All that's to say, not all people who aren't married aren't committed, but those that are married have shown the world their commitment and bound themselves to repercussions for failing to maintain the relationship. With all of this in mind, putting yourself into situations that have a higher opportunity through familiarity is not putting the marriage first. If you don't prescribe to the seriousness that many such as myself put onto marriage then I don't imagine this would matter as much.

[@grace_and_purity]

Hello! 👋 To answer your question, I technically do have “male friends” (and Ethan does as well) but the point described here in this video is that I do not go on “friend dates” or become intimate with men. Ethan is held to the same standard (which I attempted to explain here). There’s a lot of great guys I know, and we hang out in group settings of course but not one-on-one. And I do not go to a guy friend for a “outsider perspective” (and same with Ethan). I go to him with questions about male perspective. That being said, I understand from Ethan how male sexuality is, and I am not holding it against him obviously. But I also appreciate when he does not go searching for sexual fulfillment elsewhere because God provided us a marriage to fulfill our sexual desires and etc. but this is a very large topic that I may be able to brush the surface of one day in a video. We are very committed to sexual purity and thus we may seem to have seemingly harsh ground rules with technology but it really has helped us to grow in our relationship ❤

[@benjaminthompson2527]

From Rudy: I really appreciate your video. Also as a husband, I do not like my wife hanging out with girls who are not Christians, or even Christians who are not serious about their relationship with Christ. I also will not hang out with men or groups of buddies who are not serious about their faith in Christ.

[@austinhuber3131]

Based

[@blizbiggy]

I have Instagram specifically for the funny videos. I personally don't really see half naked people on there, but I'm sure it happens.

[@grace_and_purity]

@@blizbiggy User discretion is key, some couples do it differently and some couples feel like they need to be super careful. We tend to air on the side of caution.

[@jamesyoung1731]

keep speaking the truth against the effinist movement

[@josephrohland5604]

THE BIBLE IS THE STORY of Yahweh's fulfilled plan of redemption given exclusively to ancient Israelites cursed with the Old Covenant law of sin and death and pertains to no one alive today, soteriologically nor eschatologically speaking.

[@daanieuhejh3598]

You must be so much fun

[@MrMUSICxGURU]

Nightmare wife