10 things i wish i knew before wedding planning | courtney capano

[@lukedaymusic4585]

I am the groom-to-be trying to self-educate. Thankyou for this helpful video. I don't want to sit around while my fiancé plans the wedding. The humble truth is that I emotionally quite sensitive so I feel huge warm feelings which bring tears. I am also quite intimidated by the process. I am however, very happy about the engagement and have taken a new view point of my fiancé's parents and things like the potential for being a parent in the future is far more of a concrete feeling now rather than a half-dream. I had a wife who cheated which broke my trust. I thought would not marry again but now I have a relationship which I believe in. My partner and I are deeply committed to eachother and it feels good. There you go. A man told you how he felt. X

[@courtneycapano]

You rock! Keep doing what you’re doing 🫶🏼

[@josephaugustinerhodenhiser1353]

Another man watching wedding planning KZbin videos!

[@pariagharibi9983]

I agree. You don’t need a wedding planner. Me and my fiancé planned and found our own wedding vendors. It’s such a fun journey. It’s also a practice for couples for problem solving and figuring things out together (an important thing that you will continue to do in your marriage).

[@leilani2258]

Thank you for discussing the topic of weight!! I am having so many emotions about trying to lose weight before my wedding, but it's true. I want to enjoy my life and not try to have a crash diet or focus on my weight this entire time. I really appreciate it!

[@courtneycapano]

Absolutely girl, I relate to you SO much on that. We should enjoy every moment of this planning process, the last thing we need to worry about is losing weight!! Thank you for commenting, so happy to have you here 🥰🥰

[@rezmuttable8605]

The last dance idea is something I've never heard of and that's super cute!

[@courtneycapano]

right?? I feel like it’s not common so I’m so excited to try something new + end the night that way ✨🤍

[@reut_golan]

THANK YOU for talking about not needing a wedding diet!!! Wedding planning is so stressful as it is. I totally agree that the time before your wedding should be spent living it up and having fun with your partner, not worrying about counting calories :)

[@courtneycapano]

YES AND YES 👏🏼 couldn’t agree with you more!! to each their own but it just makes me sad that it’s such a big focus for people when it doesn’t need to be 🤍🤍

[@Thevulcanscorpion]

I love the fact that your adding that being present, and savoring moments with your partner throughout this journey and on the wedding day is very much something I will keep in mind :)

[@jessmarie148]

Can we just mention PLEASE.. the fact that she put crash dieting in here is awesome! It’s such a great thing for women, younger women, to know that you don’t have to be a “certain weight” on your wedding day..just very nice for u to add that..it important for women to remember. I just loved everything you said☺️💕 And I’m wedding planning now literally just starting so this helped thanks!!😄

[@courtneycapano]

hi jesse!! thx so much for sharing that, I couldn’t agree more. it’s so important to be reminded that your wedding does not require weight loss! there’s so many other wonderful things to focus on instead ✨ glad this was helpful for you, congrats on your engagement - sending lots of love to you on your wedding planning journey!

[@valerielinares2068]

I would agree with a lot of what you're saying. The only think I would say is.. Yes, don't give into the pressure to keep everything traditional if that's not you're thing. But also, don't give into the pressure to keep everything trendy either. If you want to mix and match, go for it! Do whatever fits you and your style!

[@courtneycapano]

absolutely, couldn’t agree more! it’s your day just overall don’t give into pressure either way 🤍

[@kayseacamp]

The last dance idea is so sweet. My husband and I aren't dancers so we aren't having a dancing wedding but that sounds so stinking adorable for those who love to dance.

[@courtneycapano]

so sweet right 🥺, i love the idea of it! and if you aren’t dancers it might be even better for you because you’ll be alone and can just soak up the music w out an audience 🥰 thx so much for watching girly XX

[@lilareid4166]

I honestly have watched so many videos about wedding planning, budgeting, tips, decorating, so so many topics. But your videos have helped me keep things in perspective and feel really good and excited. Thank you so much for giving practical tips while keeping the eye on the real prize!

[@lilareid4166]

I subbed you not just because I like your content but because your personality has made me feel more calm and excited. Thank you.

[@courtneycapano]

this comment just made my whole week! i appreciate it more than you know + I am SO HAPPY to hear these tips have helped you & that you’re staying excited for your big day, that’s what it’s all about gal!! it’s so overwhelming on KZbin sometimes with all the varying advice so I’m glad you’ve found a safe space here to feel good about your planning 💫 again i so appreciate you watching + commenting, it makes me feel like this channel is so so worth it - so thank you! XX

[@lilareid4166]

Of course! I’m finding that because we are planning a really non-traditional wedding, a lot of things on KZbin don’t really apply to me, so I’ve been doing a lot of sifting, which is fun in its own way, but also a lot of superfluous information. I appreciate that your videos are inclusive to lots of different wedding types and you encouraged non-traditional ideas. ❤️

[@lilareid4166]

Also side note - I’m from Maine so Boston is very familiar to me and Charleston where you did your mini moon is one of my favorite places ever. Fun to have those things in common.

[@courtneycapano]

@@lilareid4166 YES 👏🏼 I love it! when is your wedding???

[@astrea79]

Two words: guaranteed minimum. Ask your caterer if they require one. Lots of pandemic weddings had to downsize and didn't notice that their catering contacts require you to have a guaranteed minimum amount of guests to feed. If they do, maybe don't give them the highest number to quote you because they can more easily adding more guests than subtract.

[@courtneycapano]

SUCH a good tip!! I’ve heard of this happening to people and that’s a really good idea to give a lower number of guests at the beginning!

[@micheleherfurth5060]

Hi Courtney! I must say you are wise beyond your years! Our daughter recently got engaged on V-day, and I'm trying to soak up advice/opinions, just like you said. I agree with most everything you've commented about but of course not everything;). I married my HS sweetheart in Vegas after dating 8yrs, and my mother gave us a reception a few months later. Been together now 41 yrs total, long-distance relationship, college and 3 kiddos out of college and all, so our first wedding to plan. He and I are very excited for her wedding for next year and am sharing your video with her. I hope everything went well for you as I haven't watched your other videos yet. Thanks for sharing your wonderful take on it all! Blessings and wine😊

[@cheresejones4249]

I just wanted to thank you. Your video has taken so much stress and weight off my shoulders. 1 min and 15 seconds in we determined we are just going to do an elope ceramony and ugh just thank you I never thought of that

[@courtneycapano]

I’m so happy you found my channel + that this was helpful for you! you have to do what’s best for YOU on your special day, so I’m glad that’s what you’re doing! sending lots of love XOXO

[@brookekilgore5937]

Thanks for this! I got engaged October 2nd and getting married next October the 14th and so far have gotten a lot of the bigger things out of the way (venue, dress, makeup artist) and I’m so exited ! I don’t know why though I have to say I want my fiancé to see me for the first time on the aisle because it gets his most genuine reaction where everyone sees and on the footage of our actual ceremony but I also totally get why many do the first looks, as a photographer / photographer assistant the first looks I have witnessed have been absolutely beautiful! One alternative I really like is the first look for the dad or special family member 🥰 great video on the timelines , ideas etc 🤍

[@jitenshaadventure]

Totally agree with challenging as many traditions as possible to make it your own!

[@brittanygreenwood7468]

Thank you for talking about not dieting!!!!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@courtneycapano]

of course, it’s SO important to remember!!

[@joselynvictor1401]

I love this video so much thanks for being so genuine with us Courtney. I liked that you mentioned that things will go wrong regardless of our vision. I think this is a great reminder. I also saw another wedding video that mentioned that the morning of the wedding the couple hired a yoga instructor the day of their wedding. They invited the bridesmen and groomsmen and did some yoga before they started their day. I think that idea is great just to relax and feel a little less stressed the day of the wedding.

[@courtneycapano]

Thank you for leaving some love here, I appreciate you!! I’m so glad you found this video helpful + WOW I love that idea!!! Doing yoga would have been SO lovely the morning of the wedding I absolutely love that that couple chose to offer that to their party 🤍

[@courtneycapano]

I can just see the stress being lifted off the day by starting that way 😍

[@ohhowkeni8709]

Though I definitely think wedding planners are a luxury and not necessary in most cases, I will say that for some people a planner can be really useful. Wedding planning is a ton of work, and if you aren’t that good at planning and organizing then you probably do need someone to help you along the way. Plus, planners have contacts with other vendors and can often find better deals on things because they’ve been in the industry for a while and have more knowledge. I’m not using a planner, however, I purchased a package made by a wedding planner that acts as a helpful guide to follow for the wedding planning process. Plus it comes with videos that delve into certain topics that might need more discussion before you decide what you’d like to do. Also, I love the idea of a private dance! Will you guys wait until everyone has left? Or will you go somewhere private for it? My fiancé and I are doing a fake send off after the cake cutting, so that people don’t feel like they have to stay the whole time just to be there for the grand exit. So I’m wondering how we’d be able to incorporate a private dance before the DJ packs up, without shooing everyone out. Love the video!

[@courtneycapano]

Hi!! Yes totally agree and I think if u do your research and a wedding planner is better for you, go for it. I just think so many people are pressured into feeling like they need one, when you definitely can do it on your own! So we just got married in June & we did the private last dance as everyone was lining up for our formal exit so you could totally do that while your guests line up for your fake send off OR you could literally wait for everyone to leave at the end of the night and do it then. Talk with your coordinator and try to create your own way of doing it that works best for you. It was one of my favorite parts of the whole night 🥰

[@devsie11915]

The only reason I’m doing the wedding diet, is because COVID caused me to gain about 50 lbs. I’ve never been this heavy and I’m not naturally this heavy, I just wasn’t able to hit the gym or be active during COVID. I would like to look like myself at my wedding instead of how I look now.

[@courtneycapano]

totally understand that!! hopefully you know you’re beautiful no matter your weight but I think if anyone is unhappy with their current health situation (whatever that may mean) then it’s great to set goals + your wedding can absolutely be that goal! I just think people are pressured far too often to lose weight + it shouldn’t be such a big concern around such a special time in life!

[@clarapark3486]

"Grab wine and drive to driving range" 😂😂😂

[@localsenpaiii]

the last dance idea made me choke up too omg i'm definitely using this because i have 9 months to plan mine and i do want to slow it down for us

[@courtneycapano]

yes! our wedding was last Thursday + the last dance was one of my favorite parts of the night, truly can’t recommend it enough 🤍

[@nikkkkxo]

Omg I don’t know how the KZbin algorithm had me find you but I’m so glad I did lol I live in Massachusetts and just got engaged after dating for 12 years…. We both want to elope and have a ceremony just us in Acadia National Park then come home and have a party with our friends. So glad I found your videos I feel like I can actually connect with you lol

[@courtneycapano]

I’m so happy you found my channel!!!

[@arthyland]

Hey there Courtney & Jonathan ; My second marriage was absolutely awesome. First off , when I first met Donna , I was a Luggar truck driver picking up aluminum and steel turnings from various machine shops. Donna was a maintenance mechanic at one of these plants. This was in 2004 , June or July , I decided to get her a coffee from Tim Hortons during work hours and get to know her better. Anyway , long story short , I asked her to be my Girlfriend in February 2005 , she said yes :) then Sept 14th 2005 I asked her to bring herself and her oldest boy David to my favorite Restaurant where I asked David if I could have his blessings in me asking his Mother's hand in marriage , .. David looked at his Mom and said .. " See I told you so " to which she started to cry which put a lump in my throat and I asked her if she would Marry me , to which she said yes. We were married on the farm , Blue jeans and white shirts and tops , on May 13th 2006 , Mother's day. I can tell you that we were very in tune with our hearts. ( Just a little story to bring joy to everyone's hearts. )

[@courtneycapano]

that is so so sweet Art, thank you for sharing your story! how special that all sounds 🥰🤍 i’m a sucker for a good love story so I’m so happy for your family! congratulations to you on almost 16 years of marriage! XOXO

[@jessicabuechler7031]

Such great advice!!!!! I just saved this video!!!l❤❤❤❤ congratulations!!!!

[@StephMonti]

Great suggestions!! I love how your challenging the traditions to make your wedding your own 💕

[@courtneycapano]

thank you, Steph! i just love when people find unique ways to make their wedding special 🥰

[@melanatedmouseketeer]

Thank you for sharing! For your ceremony music, do you mean when your guests are finding their seats or are you planning for music to play during the actual ceremony? Usually it’s a quiet time so I’m very intrigued by this!

[@courtneycapano]

Of course! So for ceremony music I mean while guests are seating yes and also while parents, groomsman + the bridal party enter! (not during the actual scripted ceremony, it’ll be quiet then) good question 🙃

[@jessicabuechler7031]

❤ When I hear certain songs they take me right back to a memory or a certain time in my life!! ❤

[@tkmax2119]

Skip to 2:25

[@giannazeringue6837]

Thank you lol

[@thebridalbra]

That‘s a great 10s list to warch before getting married, awesome video ❤

[@the_customized_coach]

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[@lizaminelli1555]

Sooo much valuable info!! And I love your vibe, thanks for posting!

[@courtneycapano]

so happy to hear that! thank you gal ☺️✨

[@Suerine17]

I love this! We are dieting for the wedding but simply because we are both rather big and not very fit and my fomo will kill me if my weight slows me down on the day or on the honeymoon 😂 we also want to try for a baby shortly after the wedding and us being a same sex couple means we are at the mercy of a doctor and we’ve already been told that my current weight will be a huge factor when going through the process and finding a Dr to help us

[@ashleymarie1512]

Hello!! I got eloped secretly in 2022. We are doing our big wedding in May 2024. No wedding planner used either. I’ve used KZbin and myself and family and friends. However, we do have a day of coordinator so its less stressful for day of. And lucky enough the day of coordinator is our DJ.

[@MarchRhyme]

20:17 Embrace the inevitable arguments 💯💯

[@courtneycapano]

right?! they are not avoidable + that’s OK!

[@linakafrancis8223]

What do you do when your parents have a different vision for your wedding and are putting a lot of pressure on you to do what they want?

[@cecilewampler]

Thank you for the great tips! I am getting married in May and feeling overwhelmed!

[@courtneycapano]

of course! I’m so happy this was helpful for you, don’t be overwhelmed.. you got this. it’s a once in a lifetime experience so try to enjoy the process amid the stress 🤍

[@refillwithlife]

I’m sooo happy I found you!! Loved your vibe right away 💖 subscribed 🙏

[@courtneycapano]

You’re so sweet, SO happy to have you here!! XOXOXO

[@MaDi-bt8wn]

Wow this was so helpful for me! I agreed with so much that u said! I will be using this advice

[@freshstart4423]

Invite the guests to greet them at the Bridal Table so the Bride and Groom don't get separated, a receiving line. They can see the Bridal table up close.

[@gindymartin8979]

Can’t wIt to hear your ceremony playlist. Hope you’ll post that after the wedding ❤️

[@courtneycapano]

I’m going to post a video soon recapping our wedding and I’ll absolutely include that!!

[@alexisrevae]

just got engaged, looking at venues, stressed, why am i crying watching this video lolol

[@courtneycapano]

congratulations!!!

[@KeyannaWeaver]

Got a lot out of this video! Thank you!

[@shainestark55]

Thank you! This list is spot on!!!

[@anesaenz4322]

Hello! I was wondering what was the app you mentioned you used to planned your wedding!

[@courtneycapano]

I used the Knot app - they have a checklist + it was EVERYTHING to me during wedding planning!

[@anesaenz4322]

@@courtneycapano thank you so much! I was looking for some helpful app I can trust on you know! I appreciate you!

[@courtneycapano]

@@anesaenz4322 always happy to help, you’ll love it I’m sure!

[@hollynaslund9356]

Thank you for the great tips! I needed this today.

[@courtneycapano]

i’m SO happy you found this helpful when you needed it babe 🤍

[@marinaelizabeth60]

So happy I found this video!! Super helpful especially when it can be very overwhelming to plane!! Just subscribed!!

[@courtneycapano]

this makes me SO happy! wedding planning can be a LOT, I’m so happy you enjoyed 🤍 my next video is around wedding essentials for the day of, so hopefully you find that helpful too 🙃

[@marnirawiszer1621]

Love the idea of the last dance! Do you plan on doing it before or after the formal exit?

[@courtneycapano]

Great q! We planned it so that we danced privately while everyone was lining up for the formal exit / it was the perfect last slow moment before celebrating our reception exit!

[@maryjuguan1174]

I got choked up listening to it too 🤗 love this video btw!

[@courtneycapano]

🥺🥺🥺 + thank you girl, that means so much! 🤍✨

[@johnrainsman6650]

What's the difference between the tasks/duties of a wedding planner and a wedding reception manager? As a matter of fact, _do_ wedding receptions have a professional manager?

[@nm4222]

These tips were so helpful! Thank you for this video!

[@courtneycapano]

so happy to hear that! 🤍

[@uncleswing4046]

Great video, lot's of gems.

[@tylermount5980]

Can’t wait to hear what the little surprises were!

[@courtneycapano]

I know! I need to eventually do a wedding recap video with all the details ☺️

[@monchaletcouture6985]

Thank you ! You're shilling good wibes !!

[@juliacallan5113]

This video was sooo helpful!

[@courtneycapano]

i’m so happy to hear that!! 😊✨

[@creationsbysimone]

Hi new subscriber 🙋🏽‍♀️🙋🏽‍♀️ great content 👍🏽

[@courtneycapano]

hi girlfriend! thank you so much, so excited to have you here 🥰

[@annarenner4102]

Can you give some more examples about what musts vs wants were for you?

[@courtneycapano]

great question! mine ranged but two examples were that I wanted to have an open bar for my guests and I wanted hand painted invitations to set the mood for the wedding. I was willing to spend extra on those things and cut back on flowers/other details, etc that weren’t as important to me

[@gabbylebrun8908]

YES about the dieting! Agree with everything you said & it’s validating to hear someone else say it

[@courtneycapano]

I’m so happy to hear that + I’m glad I could be some validation for you, it’s not necessary to diet and takes away from the fun around wedding planning!

[@jannej4301]

Steps start at 2:28

[@corrin9599]

I planned my wedding 6 months out from engagement is that crazy lol

[@courtneycapano]

NO I think that’s awesome!! Forces you to make choices quicker and not overthink anything 😉

[@JV-bc8um]

I'm currently doing the same. We have been dating for 7 years so a short engagement makes sense for us since we have the funds and a home to go to so no sense in having a long engagement.

[@courtneycapano]

@@JV-bc8um love that so much!! congrats to you and your soon to be spouse 🙃

[@JacmarieValori]

I just started wedding planning and I thought planning for fall of 2023 would give me plenty of time to book things but things around me are already booked solid 2 years out! 😭

[@courtneycapano]

I know uhg it’s so crazy out there right now!! but nothing good comes easy so it will all work out girl don’t stress just focus on the excitement of planning best you can 🤍🤍 you only get to do it once!

[@justalexjm]

I’m 16 and helping plan someone’s wedding, it’s my first time so any tips would be greatly appreciated

[@courtneycapano]

Wow good for you that’s awesome!! Hopefully the tips in this video were helpful for you! Just focus on what’s most important and support the couple the best way you can 🤍

[@carriecutshall-madison843]

Hello, New here. Watching this video. I am not entirely familiar with the Unity Candle/ Brides Family tradition. I am familiar with the unity candle. I have seen the mothers of each side light a candle, an then the bride and groom light the middle candle. I have never heard of doing it as a candle from the brides family. Could you explain that

[@courtneycapano]

hey! so it was a unity candle that my mom and dad lit at their wedding, so they gifted it to us to light at our wedding - so my husband and I lit it together 🤍

[@maevecostello2629]

Thank you! My fiancé and I just got engaged last month and we want to get married July or August 2024

[@lanepawlowski]

Do we get to know the Playlist you used yet? 😅😅

[@joceling1992]

Omg yea I might have my fiancé best friends be the flower guys lol

[@courtneycapano]

i love that so much! haah

[@agniesiag]

Can someone help me with the name of the app please?

[@juelridotcom]

Great video!😍

[@MichaelLim-ut9kt]

Who’s going to take care the program and all during your wedding?

[@ashleyalvarez9417]

I can’t find the app :/

[@courtneycapano]

the knot app? It should come right up for you, it’s white with a red K!

[@tinleyguthrie3533]

Hi

[@courtneycapano]

hi girly ✨🤍

[@fabiocoltrane]

Dear Courtney, congrats on your amazing work. I'm from Rio, Brazil. Would you be open to discuss a commercial partnership? Just let me know. All the best!!!

[@youbian]

If only we put the same amount of energy into the actual marriage that we do in planning the spectacle of a wedding.

[@courtneycapano]

both things are very important i agree 🤍

[@taylorrocheleau1192]

♥️♥️♥️

[@jessiuss_juiice]

no captions? :(

[@MissWarayInAmerica]

💕💕💕💕

[@courtneycapano]

☺️☺️☺️

[@princessleai]

I have a wedding planner. But not having to pay her

[@courtneycapano]

oh that’s nice!!

[@jasminemoore7251]

jasmine harris moore

[@cocoacrimson]

This is for anyone who is currently planning their wedding, not any specific person: I literally just got done watching a video of a wedding coordinator who made a list of “10 things your guests don’t care about” and a lot of the things mentioned in this video were on her list (as far as party favors, she even inserted a video of herself at a wedding pointing out all the wedding favors that guests left behind on the tables, floors, etc.) I’m not sure if you’ve looked into any videos like that, and of course everything in your wedding is your choice and what you want to do! But maybe just keep in mind the extra things that aren’t on your list of must haves (like mentioned in this video) will likely be overlooked. So if you can or if you want to then maybe you could save your time, money, blood, sweat, and tears and put it towards something else! I don’t mean to sound rude at all, I just wanted to offer a bit of advice🤍✨💍

[@courtneycapano]

Yes I completely agree!! everyone has to ultimately choose what’s going to be best for them 🤍🤍🤍

[@ingepyck5052]

How is the app called? Nod app? @courtney capano?

[@courtneycapano]

It’s called The Knot!

[@Sara-yk3lg]

Dang girl, I’m crying with you🥹. I love all of your suggestions about making time for little moments and will definitely be incorporating some of them into my wedding. Thank you!!