10 things men ACTUALLY want for Father's Day; that women don't understand

[@Julie-kl5sp]

As an adult daughter, I asked my dad if there is anything specific he wants at his father's day bbq. His response: "Just a big hug".

[@jeroenimus7528]

I love hugs

[@fivetimesyo]

Which is the right answer

[@HocDolliday]

That’s what I tell my kids for every holiday

[@dhamon-pi6os]

Miss that from mine

[@bonemagnus4271]

I’m a dad, and I came here to comment that all I want is a hug from my kids.

[@hdcvo2570]

Stay home with his mediate family, all day, take nap, and at the end of day, be loved by his wife….what could be better? That would be my perfect Father’s Day. Peaceful day to celebrate what he does day and day out for.

[@alfredsutton4412]

Gotta say you know men. Where were you when I was looking for a wife ... oh yeah, neither you nor your mother were born yet! Keep up the good work, ma'am

[@stevejorgensen5274]

I would love that. But it will never happen again. I lost my wife to cancer 3 1/2 years ago. But the idea is great.

[@gregdamario5808]

Dude, you need to get a life. Based upon what the kids and wife say to and about you the other 364 days of the year, you need to re-evaluate. Sign up for an Ohio sales convention then take your secretary to Sandals. That will give her husband an excuse for taking his secretary to Paris for the weekend. Everyone wins.

[@hdcvo2570]

@@gregdamario5808 single man, I don’t buy nothing for western females. You sound like a simp. Go watch woke content, this is not for you.

[@bigbill810]

You know what I wanted most for Father's Day? Effort. Effort without drama...effort that feels like she really wants to do it. The appreciation you mention is exactly right; when 'appreciation' comes with a feeling of guilt, just save us both the time and drama.

[@pawelhyzopski6456]

If that effort is made only once or twice a year. Im gone. Grizzle grizzle 😅

[@johnkelly4043]

You’re 100% spot on. As a dad of 2 adult sons only thing I want is to be with them and hang out naturally. Only want my wife to be relaxed and to ya know…….😀 Most of us older dads are simple creatures. Thank you ‘Em for trying to help women not over think everything!

[@the1plantguy]

I have kids that seldom get along. So a day without them doesnt sound all that bad. 😆

[@susanbeals7597]

​@@the1plantguy - My Dad used to spend a day with just the two of us, no other siblings, doing things we both loved. He did that once a year with each of us, usually as another birthday gift for us. I loved those alone time days with my Dad so much, and now that he's gone, those are some of the most comforting memories he gave me, and I treasure them all. Maybe something like that with each of your kids, during June, would work for you.

[@TomChenLife]

I just want my sons to talk to me again after being brainwashed by their mom against me.

[@TadYoelLeBlanc]

Sucks to hear that man.

[@bobdarroch5731]

Sub out daughter for sons & I'm in the same boat. She wanted to "win" the divorce & destroyed my daughter in the process.

[@the1plantguy]

If they are young, they may learn the truth and hopefully talk to you.

[@russbutton9347]

KIds are smarter than you think. Your boys will have to live with your ex and bend to her will. They won't like that. At some point, they'll start to wonder if she's lying to them. The less you fight this, the better it will be for you. Allow your sons to figure it out. They will. Just be available, make your child support payments, etc.

[@imaPangolin]

Yep. Miss my daughter.

[@sbolfing]

I just like to be remembered. A call or text saying "Happy Father's Day" makes my day! (My kids range from 36 to 44, and are parents themselves - I want them to spend time with my grandchildren's Dad!). Yes - I still have artwork my kids made when they were little, had some laminated and keep them in my wallet (the ones that say "I love you." Other than that, just a peaceful day with my wife

[@01jvb]

Hi Emily. For me you got it almost exactly correct. The last one in the bedroom is the most important. The two I would disagree with are 'hoodies / t shirts" (I don't want any clothes bought for me), and the mention of whisky and rum - I hate spirits, in fact don't buy me alcohol. All of what you said applies to any other special day such as birthdays or Christmas as well. Don't buy us presents, it's the intimacy we most crave.

[@jim2386]

A hug and a “thanks” is all I ever need

[@IChewIceCream69]

No hawk tuah?

[@susanbeals7597]

My sweet Daddy is in heaven now, and I miss him every day, but when he was alive, he loved a good bottle of his favorite single malt scotch for Father's Day. It was a pleasure he rarely indulged in, and he could make that bottle last a month and savored every drink he made from it. I loved seeing his face light up when he received it❣️ For those who still have their loving Dad's in their life - treasure every moment you have with him. Those memories will comfort you when he's gone. And give lots of hugs so he knows, without a doubt, how much you love and appreciate him. Happy Father's Day ❤.

[@BalakeHart-nh4xh]

Yea lost mine in 2020

[@jimmyglenn455]

I think you actually do an amazing job of nailing this stuff. Your list right there. No events, no gatherings, family time throughout the day with a relaxing moment or two, like a nap or movie, then as you nicely said, physical touch at night. Not the same ole same ole. But something a little more special.

[@kenbrown2808]

a day off. really. if HE chooses to do something, that's a day off, if YOU choose something for HIM to do, then there's a chance he's doing something on HIS day to make YOU happy, and then it's just another day on the job.

[@timunderbakke8756]

Chance? Try basically guaranteed.

[@randywilson9137]

No not for me. I was happy making her happy.

[@albertopa58]

Unless you play nine holes a round of golf takes five hours plus travel to and from.

[@albertopa58]

No ties.

[@albertopa58]

No chores on Fathers Day

[@livin55]

Spot on video! Been happily married to my husband for 25 years, and he described his perfect Fathers Day would be to have me make him his favorite breakfast, then for us to meet our son at the disc golf course and they play a round (he loves it when I tag along and cheer him on, the hike is nice too). Then, just as you said, he wants to relax on the couch in front of the tv, followed by a nice steak dinner that I grilled him. And yes, end the night with sex! I don't just wait for Fathers Day to do these things, I do them regularly and my man can't wait to come home from work every day. You get out of marriage what you put into it.

[@laurayarbrough4646]

Exactly! Just like men shouldn’t only do nice things for their women on Valentine’s Day but any time possible, women shouldn’t only do nice things for their men on Father’s Day, Valentine’s Day, or whatever holiday but any time possible.

[@kdanielboone]

The very thing men want!!!! A marriage for life is all these things.. Glad to hear there are great women out there. I have a great women!!

[@hdcvo2570]

@@livin55 beautiful!

[@brunomadeira8432]

My father passed away around father's day. I always like to visit him and have a peaceful day. So the suggestions are pretty good.

[@luisjdavis]

Steak , WE WANT STEAK. LOL

[@nicpage4075]

💯 agree

[@SamSamson-go9dq]

Id love a steak right now.

[@b4ph0m3tdk9]

...and muffin

[@drsloanski]

Or a hamburger. Or a burrito.

[@nicpage4075]

Mmm burrito

[@techauthor324]

l love my children. All l want is recognition without fuss. A card, or even just a text message, is more than enough. A bottle of something is always appreciated but going out for a meal leaves me under an obligation because l am the one with the 'means' to pay.

[@jonwwillis]

I think with intimacy it is important that his partner doesn't appear to be a chore because it's Father's Day...

[@Andrew_Sherman]

You can say that again! Whenever it’s done as a chore, it makes you feel like a pet and it’d be better off just not wasting the time.

[@gillm12]

What if every time she makes it a chore so on father's day it's still a chore....if it even happens

[@jonwwillis]

@@gillm12 Then it sounds like the honeymoon is over, and the relationship needs help.

[@gillm12]

@@jonwwillis couples counseling only made it worse

[@jonwwillis]

@@gillm12 Yikes. Did the counselor take her side on everything?

[@Someone-ej6ro]

We just had a camping and fishing trip for 2 days and 2 nights last weekend. There were over 25 of us shared over 3 camp grounds. We BBQed fish, chicken, hotdogs, hamburgers, made noodle soup, my nephews and nieces roasted smores over the camp fire, we told late night stories, we looked at the night stars, we went swimming, we hiked up the trail, we played board games, etc. It was so much fun.

[@petebrown6356]

Just give him a big hug, tell him you love him, and you really appreciate everything he does every day.

[@kennysmith808]

As a dad... I got nothing for Father's day.. one of my 2 kids remembered to say happy fathers day.. and that's all I ever ask for.. if you don't expect nothing your never disappointed

[@pawelhyzopski6456]

And why is mother's day so much celebrated ? Fathers have 0. All the chnges all the pushes and here we are. Swept under the carpet.

[@kennysmith808]

@@pawelhyzopski6456 because we're men.. just as simple as that my friend

[@AndrewBlucher]

Sorry to hear that Kenny. Hang in there.

[@budderflies43]

I currently do not have any women in my life, so i receive no recognition, not even from my kids or my ex. I usually end up doing nothing but work, but this weekend, i am going to the beach, or just staying home and resting, doing nothing is great for me. I work 60plus hrs a week 6 days a week with only 1 day off, and i usually spend it with my kids, so yeah m doing something for myself this year for a change, instead of sulking and feeling not appreciated as a Father, and feeling depressed and alone. 🙏👍

[@mike30680]

I appreciate you. Keep grinding

[@budderflies43]

even back in 2013 when i was still married, it was never a big deal for the family. Mother’s day was like fourth of July or having a new born baby. I mean that’s wonderful, but it doesn’t help my already low self esteem. Divorced in 2016 being married for 16 plus years, and been single ever since, i am so much more happier, and finally at peace in 2024. Im good, and i really don’t need anyone, no drama, just being as it is. After almost 10 years of ptsd from it all, I’m actually good. I can enjoy what’s remaining time i have as “ME.” I don’t have to change or be a certain way for anyone…🙏

[@sheridangatley8648]

That's a great comment - for me it was 29 years.!! I'm in a relationship - but sometimes the drama is intense. Being single is great because you win all the arguments - with yourself. Lmao

[@robstrunk817]

Prayers

[@Hairyderriere]

I hear you.

[@MrJohnnyboyrebel]

My father died suddenly and unexpectedly when he was only 53 and I was 29. I miss his wisdom and counsel. I miss his experience and skills. But most of all I miss the sound of his voice. It’s been 40 years, and thinking of all our family has missed still makes me tear up.

[@robgore3881]

I understand that. I am 51, and my dad past away in 2019, and my step dad past in Dec. 2018. I really havent been the same since. I just try to be a good dad to my daughter as possible. Shes 27. But we have a good connect even after her mom and I split when she was 5

[@adamkime5205]

Yes! What dads want is just a peaceful day together as a family. If there are gifts and such, that’s appreciated. But really, just a happy, stress-free day with a happy wife and laughing children is what is really important. This past Father’s Day, the kids and just I popped popcorn and watched a “Dad’s pick” movie that they hadn’t seen yet. It was awesome!

[@TerryBell-l4p]

#8 definitely not me. #2 YES!!! The key here I think, is peace and quiet or playing with the kids #1 (and of course his woman)

[@jamesadams2334]

You are spot on! Spending 2 hours canoeing with my kids and grand kids, some sushi ordered for supper or something on the grill, even hot dogs and hamburgers, relaxing outside in the shade, getting a chance to do a short job in the morning that will give me time during the week to spend more time with the wife, the kids and grand kids. I don't want presents, I want time with the ones I love. You hit the nail on the head. Thank you!!!!!

[@dagwood1327]

Touch is not always about sex. Although it is always nice. You nailed it when you said connection. Sharing the spirit of connection for 6 minutes makes the next 3 days wonderful.

[@1truefreedomfighter]

Sharing thespirit of connection. Well said.

[@Tom-zy6ke]

Please let us fathers be at peace for a day, no dramas, a bit of appreciation, a day where we don't have to provide / protect / worry or get nagged that chores haven't been done. With kids it's been a long and tough road and fathers day is a time to reflect on what went well, what didn't go so well, and gives you a chance to gains some perspective. A simple hug, and "you did good" means more than anything.

[@kensmith8832]

One of my favorite memories of Father's Day was sitting next to a lake with my lady, watching the sun on the water. She was resting quietly in my arms. We had no kids to push out more gray hair. A safe place to chill with no stress is all I wanted.

[@randywilson9137]

Thank you! That's all I ever wanted was for her to be happy and for me to feel a little appreciated. We were married for 53 years. I wish she was alive now. She passed April 4,this year. 8:20

[@SanchoPanza-wg5xf]

So recent! May the Lord bless and keep you. I was widowed last October after 17 years so I can relate. The first month I felt in full control, the next few months were a daze. Six months in I finally got my independent routine established, but I still feel like I'm stuck on autopilot.

[@dmkaeding]

Escape from the relatives and acquaintances who drive you crazy at holidays.

[@stephanebessette6966]

Quite amazing how often "peace and quiet" comes up 😆 And for the hoodie, yes, oh god yes, one that she enjoys, feels comfortable in, feels warm, makes her smile. And of course with socks to keep those feet warm but without pants. That's an amazing everyday gift that any man would enjoy.

[@szczurman83]

Men do enjoy gifts, but it's best to say, "Hon, we're buying you that toolset you wanted. Let's go pick it out and I'm buying!" Many women that I know don't know what their guy's interests actually are. They treat the relationship as a unit, rejecting the fact that he existed as an individual before she showed up.

[@MarkDHastingsMusic]

As a 71 year old father with two fully grown "kids", I still want time to relax and spend time with them. Happy wife - check - always. Having the kids make something for me? As adults they could make dinner, bake a loaf of bread etc... I'd say you hit several bullseyes here.

[@azkafen9306]

I as a Father really have to agree although my children are all grown up now. All I want is to relax and spend quality time with them. A great gift for a father is just a heart melting Hug. Because what we miss most is having our little ones in our arms

[@captianawesome9240]

My kids can get me whatever. No problem. As for my wife? Well...there's only one thing i want for father's day. Same as any other day. GROWN UP TIME. 25 years in and THAT is still the best gift. AND i already get that gift ALOT, ALL THE TIME IN FACT. i just that i never get tired of her.❤❤

[@HUEHUEUHEPony]

Under 27

[@Sir_Viver]

❤!

[@pastormike541]

I’m 57 and married for 17-yrs now... what is this “ Grown Up Time “ that you speak of ??? 😂

[@captianawesome9240]

@kenallen7953 53

[@captianawesome9240]

@@HUEHUEUHEPony 53

[@sirfer6969]

As a single dad with an estranged son, your videos make me cry, every time

[@redneck94chevy]

I was dating a single mom for almost a year and her kids were pretty much a big part of my life. She decided that since she wanted to be petty on her baby daddy not allowing his gf to call them step kids, that I would no longer be allowed to refer them to as my step kids. Then she vanished right before father's day and all i want is to be able to see the kids again. Hearing them yell my name and run up to me to pick them up was the best thing that i had to look forward to since i can't produce kids of my own was to love them like mu own

[@mgratk]

As a dad I have not ever wanted anything except a hand-made card and a big hug. My kids are adults now and that would still thrill me. I'm glad whenever they text me, or, most of all, I'm delighted when they call me for advice. That means the most to me. They value my opinion and can come to me for help. Things are OK. I appreciate the thought that goes into gifts, of course, but the real happiness comes from feeling loved.

[@yearningmice]

It's amazing how little it takes to make men happy.

[@JoeBurlas]

what you do for not just dads, but in the end families - is very appreciated em. Thank you.

[@Dyonivan]

Got my dad a Trika 6x carbon fiber fishing rod with a Abu Garcia Jordan Lee reel. Then I called his buddy to secretly schedule him to take my dad fishing on his boat. He went out today and came back saying quote, "This rod ain't worth a shit. I didn't catch anything." Father's day gift was a success.

[@andguent]

As a father who was abused by a narcissist along with his kids, trying to wrap my brain around any of this being a possibility makes me cry. Father's day was the one day per year I was able to fight for my right to clean the garage. The other 364 days a year were mandatory family time.

[@emorycragg4039]

No shit!!! Keep moving, stay away and work, work, work. Come on end.

[@waltthomas-s2d]

@@emorycragg4039 "till death do yo part" = life-time goal. Quit the crap, wend to a new path: MGTOW

[@spec-opsteve756]

A genuine hug from my children.

[@carlmontney7916]

As someone who didn't become a father till my mid 50's all i need is a hug and just to be told I'm a good Dad. That I'm appreciated and loved by my daughter and wife. Then spending quality family time. That's it. I dont need gifts. I already have the greatest gift anyone can get. The gift of life, my adopted daughter.

[@davidsullivan496]

We go to a miniature golf course and all of us compete.This includes our grown sons (3) and their wives and all our grandchildren .Then all the men cooking that night .( including clean up) then a night of walking the boardwalk in Ocean city NJ. With JOHNSONS carmel corn ,Shrivers saltwater taffy and Kohr Brothers ice cream. Building great memories together !

[@glrider100]

The best things ever given to me have been the small heartfelt things... A hand-made Christmas card, an unprompted "Thank-you" for something. It doesn't have to be expensive, or extravagant.. But it has to be heartfelt, and unsolicited.

[@toastyren3991]

Thank you for all your videos 😊 keep it up 😊 You seem to be an amazing human being 😉👍 It's a gift that someone like you share her understanding of men like you do here 🙂🙏

[@epmcbride]

I want meatloaf, mashed potatoes, cooked carrots, and green beans. A nice home cooked meal is all I want.

[@chrisomalley1105]

#11. To all my fellow fathers who have had the door closed to them of ever seeing their children again, due to estrangement from the ex, the court system and family. Avoid the day as much as possible, media, TV, radio,etc... stay active, treat yourself to a big dinner delivery! ❤

[@christopherhachet5184]

That's my plan. Have 5 kids, get along with 4. Still married. Taking a long, wonderful hike with my wife. But never want to see my daughter again.

[@kraythe]

My opinion as a dad is that your husband is an incredibly lucky man.

[@ShitYourself7]

She's not married, she's a bastards mom

[@martinwalker9386]

One thing I personally didn’t want was a tie with things glued on. Yes I realized that the kids wanted to do something for me, however ties are not the best way to go. Even at church I don’t care for the ties decorated in Sunday School. I try to gracefully acknowledge the gift. Father’s Day was the day for mother’s family to assemble. With 7 grown children, all the boys in the military, living in three states, overseas, 1966 was the first time in 13 years that all the children were home. Any day is a good day to cuddle with my grandchildren. With the understanding that some men do not drink and that some men go to church if they are on their feet unless they’re fighting a fire or some other 24/7 job, your list is pretty much spot on.

[@davidgold5961]

Some guys put these decorated neckties up high on the wall in a case or just on a board, kind of like a sports jersey. That way they are protected and they don’t have to do anything with them except look at them now and then.

[@TruthFundi]

Your list is dead on (especially #2). Best Father’s Day was when we ignored all chores, made a huge quilt fort in the living room, popped popcorn, and watched a family movie together in the tent laughing and eating pop corn. Simple and special.

[@gramparob]

Good list. This is my personal peeve about all holidays when everyone stresses out over preparing food. It got so bad that we started going out for Christmas thanksgiving etc. Just chill out! So thanks for putting that in your list. Thanks so much for all of your videos. Someday I hope to have a partner that watches you for ideas to sustain our relationship.

[@warrenburroughs3025]

I pretty much agree with all of these. My 2 daughters are well into their 20s now and getting to spend some time with them is very rare. The older one is engaged and the younger one has been going steady for the last 4 years (there's probably another engagement on the horizon) so there's very little time available. Also, I have a box with all of their childhood paintings, drawings, handprints, footprints and little modelled things that they created.

[@thewolf8660]

I bought my dad a couple of swords. They were the Katanas from the Highlander movie and series.

[@GloriousKev]

That's bad ass!

[@brunomadeira8432]

That is a mighty fine present. Really awesome.

[@skylinec83]

Now he can be immortal. That’s a hell of a gift

[@CaptainFutureman]

The rest of the dads are starting to feel uneasy. There can be only one...

[@stevenscott2136]

My dad was very hard to shop for. I once found an actually good birthday present -- a box set of every song Bill Monroe had ever done, and my mom once found a good Christmas present -- a massive industrial bench-vise that I could barely lift. The rest of the time, we just had special-occasion dinner, and home-made chocloate cake.

[@npenick66]

I always told my wife that for Father's Day and my birthday I just want a peaceful day at home with no demands on me. I just want to hang out guilt free, read a book, play a video game, watch a movie, etc. My wife would cook some bar food snacks and one of my favorite meals with some loving and a backrub to end the day. I don't want a big get together or a party, just guilt free relaxation. My wife unexpectedly passed away in her sleep this January from a mild flu so this will be the first Father's Day where it will just be me and our 15 year old semi verbal autistic son. Gonna be a weird day but I expect that it will be better than Mother's Day was for us.

[@robinhood4402]

God bless you.

[@mormegil84]

So sorry for your loss. And happy belated Father's day to you.

[@mike30680]

I’m so sorry. Thoughts and prayers for you and your child. I hope you are able to find peace.

[@RustyPilot73H]

My kids are grown and live in a different state. I just want a phone call. That’s it. Yes it’s really that simple. Not late in the evening where it feels like an obligatory after thought, I want a call in the morning to know I’m a priority. Just a phone call, tell me what’s going on in your lives. Yes, yes, it’s really that simple.

[@patrickvillanueva5903]

Thank you Emily. A very good list. Spot on. And handmade gifts will be treasured always. I still have a hand painted bowl my daughter made when she was in pre-school. She is an adult now .. and I still use that bowl. It's my favorite.

[@user-fq3yk5il8z]

As a dad the one main thing that I would love to receive on father's day is just to hear the sound of my daughter's voice 😂

[@fourtyplusman]

This applies to all celebratory days birthdays, father's days, Christmas etc. I don't want presents for myself. I like to give presents but I can buy anything I need by myself. It would be nice if we could do something together that I normally do alone. For me that is an mtb or a hiking trip. So no fussing around, just a normal day with a "Thank you for being you!" That is all that a man needs: To be accepted as he is.

[@Eli-uu4vt]

One of my favorite all-time gifts from my wife was a fake wine bottle that opened up like a book and had various wine tools in it like a seal cutter, a corkscrew, a pair of plugs and a few other things. I’m not a wine guy, I’d rather have mead or scotch. But the novelty was just so cool that it appealed to me.

[@jinnantonix4570]

This actually brought a tear to my eye. Emily. Well done. At the end of the day, men only want peace and appreciation. On Fathers Day, just make it happen for a day.

[@jackfenton2271]

Moms get flowers, spa, chocolate, brunch, etc. Dads get a gift certificate to Home Depot.

[@michaelclark2458]

Sportsman’s wearhouse!

[@wieggertkuik]

My wife died before the birth of our first grandchild. So now with my 7 grandchildren, 3 children, my 2 sons-in-law and 1 daughter-in-law we are going to the forest the week after Father's Day (we call it Grandpa's Day). Play games and then go out for dinner. The most beautiful Father's Day in the world.

[@joefilson5577]

All good ideas, Emily. As a dad, I appreciate your patient thought about this day. I will probably be going to a larger extended family gathering. It is because an aunt of mine hits 93 on Father's Day. 😮

[@Luthor_]

Same thing we want on every special day. Fresh new socks. And some peace.

[@matthewpaul6904]

I'm going to the movies with the kids for Father's Day, which is perfect for me. Hanging out as a family is a good time.

[@christophercattie]

On my birthday and father's day I always want the same two things. I want to be able to sleep in and I go to the park and enjoy a peaceful run alone. Nobody gets it, but the run is the most relaxing thing I get to do. I can enjoy it without worrying about who is going to take care of X while I'm gone. I come home and see my family.

[@Scorpiogirl_1029]

My Dad isn't big on grand gestures or doing too much, holidays or not. But my Mom and I are going to take my Dad out for brunch on Father's Day. Ngl, that nurf gun war idea sounds fun. I ❤ you Dad and I appreciate you for all you do for me & my Mom.

[@libertarianguy5567]

Peaceful, Relaxing, and Loved. Simple as that. I don't need the perfect present, I don't want to spend time opening gifts. I just want one day where the weight of the responsibilities is lessened for just one day and my family showing me that they appreciate all that I do for them.

[@Grigeral]

It's not even that category. I've been trying to convince myself to treat myself for the past 2 weeks... Then I talk myself out of it. Or I wind up buying a present for the misses lol I tend to be the cook in my relationship. I am happy knowing the food I make is appreciated. She cleans after I cook.

[@JohnMcClain-p9t]

I have my daughter and son in law, and his son and daughter, along with their kids, nine and seven, that's what makes fathers day for me.

[@miconis123]

All I've wanted to combine Father's Day and my 50th birthday is to get the adult kids together along with the grandkids in one place. I'm happy with a cook-out in the park. Just want everyone relaxing and talking.

[@garyhoward2490]

A group of about 8 of my buddies and I, always go away for the father's day weekend, to camp, ride our dirt bikes, and have guy time. Best gift!!! Bonus is, our collective families dont have to think about pleasing us, or getting us a dopey gift. My son always brings over, 2 full gas cans, a bottle of Scotch, and 2 cigars, before we leave for the weekend. Sooo perfect!!! 👍😀🤪

[@skycladraven1248]

My preferred day: easy, no drama, good food and that thing we rarely do or better yet, the thing we never do. then to watch a movie I have already seen a dozen times before.

[@jasongirvan6729]

My favourite thing I ever get is the shirts that my kids have made or those tacky shirts will silly dad comments. I still have every one of them that I have ever gotten and with 4 kids and rhe youngest being 20 I now have quite the collection and now get the granddad shirts. This is what I cherish because these are the things that actually show me they think or me. I do wear them when I first get them and then they all go together in a special place in my closet hung so I can pull them out to admire at anytime I wish.

[@scott9050]

Very worried about Emily getting injured by that tangle of wires by the bed. After 26 years of marriage (Today), I will add that one thing men want their wives to follow through on promises made. If you say you are going to do something, do it. For example, my wife bought new curtains for the bedroom at Christmas with the promise to put them up. It is now June and they are still in the bag. As we get older men are not all looking for sex. My wife and I only get to see each other for short times every day. I enjoy meeting up for dinner or sitting on the couch just watching TV together.

[@user-kr4ow1go8m]

You did a good job, Emily! Guys want peace! Just treat him, like he matters! Men are so easy! They are simple creatures!

[@TrussttN01]

Just spending time with my sons and grandsons will be great.

[@fatcharlierobusto8352]

Father’s Day is also my birthday, I generally get a double gift of nothing, partly my own fault , my kids are not intuitive,my wife always says she doesn’t know what to get! , so I just buy what I want when I want it! , just being able to do as I please is important without grief ! Simple

[@KyleTaylorDesigns]

About the relaxation thing, it might have to do with traditional gender roles; if the woman is primarily at home cooking and cleaning for example, then it would make sense she would want to go out, be social. The same could be said for the career working man; he is likely to feel more relaxed being in the one place he gets to enjoy the least amount of time in and/or completing tasks that he would otherwise have little time for to reduce his overall stress by having those things done. Not all relationships nowadays have the same traditional roles, but those are common mentalities.

[@kumanight]

I'll be spending the day with my daughter who I do not get to spend nearly enough time with. Just me and her all day, it'll be perfect :)

[@davidhensley76]

1) An apology and logical explanation for all her false accusations against me and the lies she told my family and friends

[@waltthomas-s2d]

Commiseration to all bereft Fathers: the human male polar bears ..."she told...to the": lawyers, judge...children, even husband... tangled webs, deceitful "fem ant ist ick" serpents A man's heart is given in vain... Quit job, = no income to disdain. Resources wasted and down the drain. Survive we the pain. Train a new life. MGTOW becomes our ain.

[@bradjarman8721]

Intimacy shouldnt need to be desired on fathers day, its better when intimacy is given freely without it feeling like you're pressuring for some. Intimacy for me personally is a daily or every other day thing. Youre right that its not just about the sexual side of intimacy, but the connection and the appreciation that it brings along with it. Aside of that, quiet time for me any day is good time. Time where i can sit down and game for a bit without being interrupted is nice.

[@steelman422002]

You are way too young to be this smart! You r spot on with most of these. I'm gonna insist my wife watch this. Thank you, young lady.

[@bill8384]

#5 is perfect! Just some appreciation! Relaxation!

[@MrParacristo]

Pretty good list. All guys are different and this list is general enough for most guys. I don’t agree with #8 due to the fact that I don’t drink alcohol. Suitable replacements might be iced tea, soda (root beer is my weakness), or ice cream. I am opting to not celebrate my birthday this year (basically the same day as Father’s Day). I am unenthusiastic about the party, the SONG, the presents (everything I truly want is too expensive to ask for, mostly tools), and the hoopla. Instead I just want to go somewhere with my wife and just hang out the 2 of us in an AirBnB exploring some area and finding fun things to do

[@seangoerling6631]

Thank you. It was just my first Father’s Day for me and I honestly just wished I could have relaxed.

[@waltthomas-s2d]

Good insight. In most cases: "NO MOTHER-IN-LAW", or other unwelcome visitors: his home = his castle!. A phone call to his father might be an option, of course, where possible; ask way in advance; each relationship is unique! You are correct about the tools as gifts: DO NOT MEDDLE IN TOOLS. At most a gift certificate, or better; some money in an envelope marked tools. Why do you curtail the time to be spent on fishing? Sometimes it takes a while to be able to relax. One doesn't want to arrive and then have to turn around and return! How about a present of a can of "spray whipping-cream" for "horizontal fun" later that night?

[@nddugas]

The only thing I really want for Father's Day is a day off...doing nothing. That may involve doing some stuff with my kids or it may just be having a quiet day in general (not always easy with 3 kids aged 5-8). Our normal gifts to each other for Mother's & Father's Day always include taking the Saturday before off.

[@zxdek]

so basically men just want to relax and be stress-free for one day. simple but practically impossible for most women to do.

[@pawelhyzopski6456]

Ive met few that made it possible every time we hang out. Rare breed.

[@fenixchief7]

Got my dad a 4 book interlinear bible set and Daves Hot Chicken, Reaper level. He loved it. I got work and he has church on sunday, so we celebrated early. Honestly, if you dont know what your dad wants, you already messed up. God bless.

[@ADHJkvsNgsMBbTQe]

A hug plus some peace and harmony.

[@kenyasinski6978]

Thanks!

[@Sir_Viver]

How 'bout for the church to appreciate the positives of fathers as much as they do mothers, instead of beating him up and telling him how much a failure he is and how they need to step up, when they already are...especially the men taking the time to actually be at church!

[@jeffjamison8614]

I've always hated that. Mother's Day is a celebration and Father's Day is a scolding. No wonder men don't like going to church. As the main caregiver and nurturer between my ex and I, Father's day (and birthday) were always obligatory acknowledgements which made me feel even less than I already did.

[@michaelcalles1124]

AMEN!

[@Trey50Daniel]

Amen to that. My pastor is unfortunately one of those cucked pastors that literally said on Father's Day last year - "Make sure you keep your wife happy Dads" instead of appreciating fatherhood. Such a slap in the face.

[@timunderbakke8756]

Man, I don’t know where you all are going to church, but it’s not like that at all at ours. If anything, I needed to remind them that I wasn’t a father and didn’t deserve anything

[@JamesKoumos]

I know- Right? It was like that in all the conferences as well. Men's conference: Always being told you need to get it together. Women's conference: Being told how wonderful you are. Being told you're a virtuous woman, price like rubies (or whatever). When the overwhelming majority of the women there were absolutely nothing like the women of the Bible. And if you're a guy who's genuinely doing right, the constant speeches of getting "admonished" is infuriating and frustrating. "Go to the men's conference, it'll be powerful!" No, it'll be some ignorant idiot who doesn't know his behind from a hole in the ground, telling me I need to tighten up. Even though I'm doing everything I know how, while dealing with angry, disrespectful women every weekend. Freaking torture!

[@paultopping7413]

All I want is a message to say happy Father’s Day - love you! That’s all I need anything more is a bonus!

[@samuelmiller-ym3qc]

I saw the title of the video and (mostly as a joke) said to myself “if ‘some goddam peace and quiet’ isn’t on this, it’s wrong.” And here I am, 5.5 mins in, and there it is lol

[@omegawolfbrony]

Not a dad, maybe someday, but I'd be happy with a hug and time to myself for relaxation.

[@RashadSims-bh3zz]

Same I don't even have kids yet but peace and appreciation is one of them

[@joshuamorin2762]

Honestly, being able to sleep in a little bit and a tasty breakfast is all I need for a good day! I am not expecting anything from my wonderful wife because she is still carrying our first child so I consider my first fathers day next year after our little guy is born lol