10 things men WANT for Christmas; and why women don't get it

[@steveroberts728]

Peace and quiet without drama. The most valued gift.

[@rushfan9thcmd]

🏆🌲

[@nomadpack4050]

@steveroberts728 Everyday should be without Drama..... not just Christmas, if you have a drama queen that's on you 😂 make better choices 😂😂😂

[@steveroberts728]

@ OMG ! What’s it like being so perfect.

[@nomadpack4050]

@steveroberts728 😂😂🤣🤣🤣 Who said anything about perfection 🤷‍♂️🙄 Just saying if you value peace and quiet without drama, then why would you be involved with a drama queen 😂🤣 That's assuming you commented this because of drama caused by your significant other. Obviously a massive assumption on my behalf but 🤷‍♂️

[@svr5423]

@@nomadpack4050 drama also comes from family. since over a decade, I just book holidays abroad for christmas/new year. There I meet many likeminded people who just want to have fun exploring the world.

[@TheRaiderman1]

As men get older ,the gifts of time are much more valuable than any material gift.

[@sirclarkmarz]

Time is the most precious thing there is when it's gone it's gone forever, can't make any more of it, you never know how much you're gonna have and no amount of money can buy you more .

[@svr5423]

it seems to be a hard to grasp concept for many people. If I lacked something material, I would have already bought it. Nobody needs to gift me stuff I can buy with money.

[@TheRaiderman1]

@svr5423 That is why I said gifts of time are most precious to people.

[@EVOMAN14]

Time is money. Money is time 🤔

[@GrnXnham]

@@EVOMAN14 You missed the point.

[@benvandebrake3665]

Nailed number 1. And beyond that I don't want things for Christmas or my birthday. I just want a quiet day with no bullsh*t. Just once, just one dam time

[@WilliamTillack]

@@benvandebrake3665 Stay single you will get your wish

[@josephstevens9888]

Well said sir, well said!

[@andrewpardue3324]

Skip the gifts 🎁… what most men really want… is the lady herself and to just have some stress free relaxation time with her not worrying about anything at all ! 😊

[@RobbieBobbie98]

Women complain, that’s what they do

[@remibren]

100% agree

[@valriis9745]

I dont believe for a second that happy is the man, who gets nothing on a boxing day. Dont skip the gifts.

[@PenthorMul]

Peace and joy.

[@hermann5347]

@@valriis9745 Depends on your traditions and how important gifts are to you. Personally, I don´t care about gifts at all.

[@stilettoheelslover]

Here's one: How about seeing _obvious_ and *GENUINE* joy and gratitude for the gift he got her....?

[@larryschultz9184]

@@stilettoheelslover then a flying unicorn will adopt you

[@jamesg1974a]

Yes, that’s very true. To see that what we got them is truly giving them happiness. Versus a fake happiness or no happiness at all.

[@slythawyrda]

for that, surely he would have to give something she actually genuinely appreciates, right?

[@tmike2552]

@@slythawyrda I was just about to say the same thing.

[@timothycushing5473]

@@slythawyrdanope, it’s common courtesy, to show gratitude.

[@mattandannabeltv9392]

Emily is spot on, us guys just want a stress free life, which means we need our women to stop stressing about trivial stuff, like what others moms do and think or post on social media.

[@ToddW-po4bt]

100% agree matt!

[@paulpalmer2336]

I would clarify, that we do not need a stress free life, we crave a stress free home where we can recover from the stresses of the rest of our lives.

[@AM-wi1io]

I could handle any other stress in the world if home is peaceful. Having a happy wife is the cornerstone of happiness for most men. When we get home from a stressful day and the wife is stressed about keeping up with the Jone's it feels like nothing you do is worth the trouble. Longing for the days when all that mattered was the two of you is a very lonely feeling.

[@jacobladder5556]

Are you suggesting that social media has done us more harm than good, because it facilitates all this stress caused by people poking their nose into other people's lives?

[@justinfigley3150]

You are absolutely right, many women wont understand but that was pretty spot on. We are the providers for others and ourselves. We just want no drama, no stress, and for everyone to be relaxed and happy for Christmas. A happy and spicy woman we care about is definitely an absolute bonus!

[@nanloyd4250]

OH MY GOSH! I forgot about those $ex Coupons! One year early on when we were broke, I made him a tear out coupon booklet of everything he had mentioned to me the year before. I swear to you, he talked about that for years, how it was his favorite gift. He could pull out a coupon and hand it to me. The rule was he got whatever was listed without whining, qualifications or excuses. Later in our marriage we set up a daily un-breakable appointment, same time every day, to "meet" for $ex. (Unless it happened earlier 😄.) I had read where people thought something like that was not romantic, $exy or spontaneous enough, whatever. The anticipation and thought of that appointment was very hot. It also gave me time to stop what I was doing, quit getting sidetracked, and get ready. He liked knowing what was coming - win win 💕

[@joyj3286]

I love this. Thank you for sharing

[@TeeAhhhna]

❤❤

[@michaelclark2458]

Daily? Wow. Weekly would be unheard of for me. Very fortunate husband you have.

[@LordTaos]

Just curious how the daily unbreakable appointments went. That seems... nearly impossible to keep for long term. The commitment is awesome, but between conflicting work schedules and life in general. Also, I'm not even sure I'd want sex every day. (I mean, I love chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream, but no matter how good it is, I would get tired of eating it every day.) Although, to be fair, you could just meet during that time and not actually have sex, but just share and bond. Again, that is amazing commitment to even try to do that.

[@bigjthejoker1306]

My ex-wife gave me sex coupons once for a gift. I found them recently while going through some papers, guessing they are expired now 😂

[@davidsteffen3860]

Some intimacy first thing in the morning, then her genuine comfort and happiness all day. The physical totally makes a connection that creates tolerance love and service the rest of the day.

[@tomiholma436]

I agree. As being a Finn, cured salmon is the next best to intimacy. I love it!

[@ssiegreen5292]

... and not only on Christmas... Just sayin'

[@muskokamike127]

the thing women forget is: that's how men connect to their partner. They think of it as "sex" but to us, it can be more than that. Sure, men can smash women they hate, BUT when we're with someone, that's how we connect. Meanwhile, women (some) get off on the rejection. "but what if I don't feel like it"? Me: do you think I felt like going to your sister's baby shower? Do you think I wanted to help you move 3x in the last year? Do you think I wanted to rebuild your deck on my day off from building decks? So the next time she rejected me "because she didn't feel like it" I did the same 3 days later when she asked me to come over and fix something around her house. I said "I don't feel like it" WHY are you PUNISHING ME? I'm not punishing you, if we're going to operate on whether or not we feel like doing something or not, I'm just playing by your rules. No, you're punishing MEEEEE No, I dont' feel like loading my truck up with my tools, unloading them at your place, climbing up and down a ladder 20 or 30 times, I want to come over, put my feet up, and relax ON MY DAY OFF.

[@ssiegreen5292]

@@muskokamike127 I get the "don't feel like it" and the example you're trying to set, but you are really comparing apples to zucchini there [or maybe peaches and cucumbers - I'm not sure about the current texting lingo, LOL]. I think the gravity level is not on par on your example - one is heavy duty physical work/labor, the other has to do with emotional readiness. Let me compare you refusing her deck rebuilding to her refusing to build a new website for your home improvement business. That's on a level. Or you washing her car and she sewing on the buttons on your shirt you keep popping off, and stitching the rip in the seat of your work pants. The problem with the emotional readiness is, you guys [men] look at a hot commercial or a pretty woman's pics - and you're ready and willing and able to go [assuming you don't have ED or some such stuff]. For most women it's not quite that easy - subject to the individual woman and how you go about it. For some that have a problem getting out of their head and into their body [and I am assuming here that she has a normal healthy s3xuality + appetite and is not scarred from SA, g:rape or other bad experiences in her past with other partners, AND your relationship is pretty awesome overall speaking], this can be a lengthy process and progression for her to get there. It's usually easier earlier in the relationships, when there are no kids, and you're not bogged down with work, said kids and running a household, and have both physical + mental energy to spare, AND - here's the secret and your cue - you're thinking about it a lot during the day. So unless you want her to think about someone else - it's on you to get her to think about you and doing IT with you! Texts, voicemail messages, innuendo, flirtation, sexy whispers, a nibble on her neck as you pass her by, a helping hand in the kitchen clean-up or getting said kids worn out and into bed. Go a step further and be selfless enough to pleasure her first, before you go for yours [hate to say this = many men still don't know how to get their woman off], or get her turned on before you even get close to bed time, or staircase time or elevator time, or unload the car time - think outside the box. Quickies are fun and often preferred to lengthy love making sessions - but you gotta do the prep work well beforehand. Keep it exciting, a bit unpredictable and fresh, with [again subject to the individual woman] a bit of a surprise factor or even risque location - and see if that does not get you more of what you want, without having to beg for it.

[@delarfindale5539]

Yes! My Mom would do this for my Dad. Making sure he felt he was the leader with something something for their "parent" time even after we kids were grown. It's nice to hear this from another woman who cares about her husband and helping those of us who are yet to get married to know how to treat the men to be our husbands when we meet them.

[@scottbaldwin9838]

Emily, you understand men better than 95% of women. Your videos are great at explaining to women how we actually work. Thank you!

[@standardofexcellence]

Women complicate it cause they listen to each other and play games Besides ps5 we don't want games and that is because they are visual, hands on, and emersive

[@christopherfernandez8153]

If only women watched these videos. Truth is, they don't care because they still believe in the b.s. that is "happy wife, happy life." A.k.a......only the wife matters, and what the husband says he wants is disregarded.

[@viperdemonz-jenkins]

she seems like she has many brothers, my older sister is like that also, but she is more tomboyish also.

[@Anya-p8u9c]

I agree. I've learned a lot from Emily. 😊

[@Anya-p8u9c]

Sir, your happiness does matter. I hope this holiday is very happy for you 😊

[@th232r6]

Peace is what we want most.

[@ToddAdams1234]

NAILED IT 👍🫡

[@willp133a]

i want 2 week away from all women except my sister and my nieces.

[@rushfan9thcmd]

🏆🌲

[@deksper]

TRUMP TRUMP TRUMP!

[@tdrive398]

LOYALTY is what Men want most.

[@4280blkpowder]

You nailed the last one, not necessarily sex but the intimacy between himself and his life’s companion. The ultimate expression of I just want to be next to you

[@DoJ79]

Right, if you do this, you'll stay together. As I look back, I see when this stopped, the marriage began it's gradual descent til she ended it in divorce.. 20 yrs ago. I pray this will not be your story, ladies..

[@muskokamike127]

It's that christmas song that Mariah Carey sings? (I think) All I want for christmas is you. Women SAY it, but men actually want it.

[@kenriddle3552]

Yeah good luck with that. On holidays the least important thing in the world is him and whatever selfish needs he has. She’s too busy giving the best of herself to everyone else.

[@chillijoe8264]

i don’t want anything if i want something i buy it.. but i do get a great satisfaction out of making her elderly parents feel really special, every year after they leave my wife is in tears thanking me for making them feel special…what more could a geezer ask for 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🇺🇸

[@DoJ79]

The occasional bj?

[@viperdemonz-jenkins]

that sounds perfect.

[@flatworm00]

This is a great list! being with my wife, staying at home, relaxing, eating a good meal. enioying my immediate family

[@anonygent]

Ancient Roman detected. ^^^^ 🤨

[@AG-6969]

I was married for 13 years. The first 6 years my ex was great at gifts because she paid attention to my life. after our child was born, she changed. Never could even come close to giving me a thoughtful gift. I now realize it was because she stopped caring to know anything about me or my interests. She was over the marriage , it just took her another 7 years of faking it before she found a replacement and left me. Why I didn't see it back then is probably because I was too close to the situation and I still loved her and I was in denial. never again. I pay close attention to women now a days.

[@busher69]

Men tend to keep trying to make things work. When women stop caring and they don't give a crap, they just check out until Mr. Next comes along. One things for sure, todays women don't give one flyin' flip about us and very few women out there today are worthy of a mans love. We're much better off not letting them in the door. Leave 'em where you find 'em fellas.

[@MrStudGuy]

Your first mistake was getting married and the second was breeding with her. A woman will never love a man like a man loves a woman. Are there exceptions, sure. But generally a woman will take advantage of a man’s love, kindness, generosity and patience, while giving little or nothing in return.

[@WilliamHANSEN-r6e]

I live in a Hispanic country where the most important thing for a woman is to be a mother. So when she becomes a mother she invests all of herself into the child, leaving little time and interest in caring for her husband. Then the man gets a lover on the side. Then the wife divorces the husband, and keeps the child, which is all she really wants.

[@JDT454]

@@busher69 that’s fine once these damn cell phones came out my wife’s in love with that and spends time on here talking to people all day long and texting them and sending them things. I just sit around all day, shaking my head and just walk away and find something to do, and all she does is watch videos on KZbin all day

[@NatureLovingIntellectual]

Yeah, either that or TikTok ​@@JDT454

[@DiscoveryYSC]

OK, I will give it it to you, excellent list and you nailed it. I was widowed a few years ago and am currently seeing someone who could really benefit for seeing this. What resonated with me was spending time with my son and his wife on Christmas, just them as I really don't get to see them that often. Nice list... well done!

[@nomadpack4050]

@DiscoveryYSC Awwww I hope you get to spend time with your son and daughter in law for Christmas 🎄 🤞🫂

[@WoodnetRonnie]

Watching this mesmerizing video dredges up painful memories of the recent dissolution of my 4 year relationship. The departure of my beloved, the one I adore deeply, has left me in a perpetual state of longing. Despite my tireless attempts at reconciliation, I find myself mired in frustration, unable to shake the persistent thoughts of her. Despite my efforts to move forward, I'm compelled to share my inner turmoil and the overwhelming sense of missing her here.

[@Roselinekendris]

Letting go of someone you love deeply presents a formidable challenge. I faced a comparable ordeal when my 6 year relationship ended. Refusing to succumb to despair, I relentlessly pursued avenues to reconcile with him. Ultimately, I sought solace and guidance from a spiritual counselor, whose intervention proved instrumental in restoring our connection.

[@WoodnetRonnie]

How did you discover a spiritual counselor, and what's the procedure for me to get in contact with her?

[@Roselinekendris]

Meet Suzanne Ann Walters, a renowned spiritual counselor acclaimed for her talent in bringing back ex-partners.

[@WoodnetRonnie]

Thank you for this invaluable information; I've just checked her out online.

[@Mrjohnidas]

All I want for Christmas is for my special someone to show her inner child when I give her the gifts I got for her 6 years ago I gave her a gift that made her so happy and excited that she ran up to me and hugged me super super tightly she literally held that hug for 5 minutes strait this year I hope to get that same reaction

[@Mrjohnidas]

Reactions like that are more valuable to me then anything else I love it when I get those types of reactions

[@mikeyosten603]

Men want to feel valued, something simple like telling him you want him and you love him would mean more than anything material that you could buy . Don't be afraid to initiate intimacy, don't make him feel that your private time together is a favor that she's doing for you . Last but not least value him and your children more than your friends family has to come first ❤

[@pierowmania2775]

Telling me that I'm loved and valued is a great start. When my moral/spiritual/political values are challenged, I feel those words about loving and valuing me are just that; words.

[@butchmartin2447]

For sure

[@petecam3949]

I think this is pretty accurate. I would add to number 6. If he works outside of the home, time he can spend with his family is priceless. And with number 7, it shows, too, she gets him.

[@mrcdm2605]

You are mostly spot on. I personally don't want a hoodie, but hobby stuff... I'd like tools so I can do/fix/maintain the things my wife wants/needs, or my kids.. Hell yes. Wrap my wife in a bow... 😊. I personally don't want anything from my kids other than some kindness and appreciation. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate what my kids get me, but I hate for them to spend money on me when they need the money for themselves. It makes me feel guilty.

[@rnarum]

Close to number #1, no drama, kindness and appreciation. The Holy Grail. That's all I would ever want 365!

[@larryschultz9184]

We'd be lucky to get it once a year

[@TheSulross]

A box of ammo in fav caliber is always a good stocking stuffer - ladies, make sure you know your man’s fav caliber

[@gregwatruba4541]

Yeah, I also asked for a trained T-Rex.

[@evansjessicae]

4:24 😂 Oh, my goodness! That's why my dad always "liked" the least popular flavors of ice cream. He would have the whole half-gallon to himself. ☺️

[@aljole683]

Nailed it. The BEST Christmas…lounging around the house, no drama, no rush, no worries. My wife needed things to be perfect…she took years to figure out that I didn’t care if the tree was balanced and color coordinated with the drapes, I was perfectly happy to make the turkey, or smoke a ham, and yes…a gift cert for the sporting goods store so I can get the knife I WANTED is FAR better than you buying a crappy knife, or a super expensive knife that I can’t use for fear of scratching it. And those other coupons? Yes, please!

[@donoimdono2702]

the reason for the saying, "A man's home is his castle." is partly due to men wanting their home to be their fortress and sanctuary against the chaos of the outside world. peace, comfort, and appreciation from their loved ones is the primary desire on any holiday. (of course, romantic interlude *is* a part of the "appreciation"😏)

[@bonniefoley387]

I asked what he wanted, he sent me a screenshot of what he wanted, I bought that specific thing. Baseball cards. 👌🏻Most years we stay home on Christmas because he wants it, he gets alone time with just me after opening presents, and the kids make artwork as their gifts. He seems happy with it.

[@davidpepper-ip2sm]

Not just Christmas but all year. Nothing makes me happier or feel better than my wife's smile. I've loved her for 46 years so far and 46 more would suit me just fine. 😊

[@Back2SquareOne]

It is a good list. I have to say though, that it really matters how it is delivered. Men want a true selfless act of love. If a woman makes it all about how what a big deal it is that she is showing some affection and how this means he owes her, and this better hold him over for a long time... it just kills it. I have often been surprised by women who manage making a supposed act of giving all about themselves. Give and take is essential but transactional love is not a real thing. If you really love someone, showing them how you feel via an act of respect and caring should be a joyous thing.

[@tankertom3243]

Many years ago we started a tradition for eating on Christmas. We get food the day before. Yes, left overs on Christmas. Everyone picks a few items they like, such as pizza, tacos, burritos, BBQ beef and pork, frozen foods, cold cuts, spagehettio's, subs, phillysteaks, a veggie and/or cold cut tray, pizza rolls, whatever. Go eat when you are hungry, a few minutes at the microwave at the most with a few minutes of clean-up and done. That way nobody is stuck in the kitchen doing the cooking and cleaning. Instead everyone is enjoying the day. We have always made Christmas last all day. When our kids were little we opened one present and played with/assembled it/put it on before the next. As they grew older we started to play games in between opening presents. At first Chutes and ladders, slap jack, crazy eights, math flash cards and other short children's games. Later a game of poker, rock paper scissors, Sorry until the first player gets to home then come back and play until the next person gets to home, Risk until the the next set of cards is traded in, Chinese checkers, something like that. Then the winner gets to open the next present. Each winner cannot play/or win the next game until we were down to the last person, then starts all over again. If a game is boring we start something else. This way Christmas lasts all day long. we are with each other, and lots of laughing, along with lots of thanks to God during all those short food breaks. It also helped my children to learn to be patient and appreciate our time together..

[@nevillerigby6874]

Just peace and quiet to enjoy watching everyone open their presents and a cuddle at bedtime genuinely offered regardless of weather that leads to something or not.

[@Dawwwg]

Agreed, not too many obligations is the best gift, no stress for either one, just some quality time together without a schedule. And share some champagne together, it helps with the spicey mood 😇

[@Jayellbird]

Boomer cranky old man says, One of the very few women I actually listen to. Life really is simple. Love your work. ❤❤❤❤

[@tj8244]

I already got what I wanted most. My wife is still alive after suffering a stroke back in March. How that quickly teaches you that all the other stuff, stress and fluff of the season is pointless. Of course she don't see it that way and insisted on getting me something. So to all of you out there I hope you are happy and healthy this season. Remember to hug and kiss. Appreciate each other. Shovel the stress into the waste bin as it just is not worth it. Take it from me, it can all be gone in the blink of an eye and you will wish you had just been happy and not been about the stress and drama.. Ok I will hop off my box.. Merry Christmas to all

[@GoodOldGamer]

Intimacy is super important. Kids and extended family end up front and center, and a lot of men end up set aside into the background. I think a lot of guys in relationships would rather have some quality alone time with their partner than yet another set of golf clubs or whatever. If you're gonna be too tired by nightfall, have some early morning fun instead. If you're gonna be at the grandparents, sneak away for an hour after lunch or something.

[@brucecooper6512]

I get tired of being relegated to roommate

[@michaelclark2458]

@@brucecooper6512you mean you didn’t sign up to be a bill paying celibate friend?

[@jackwalker1822]

Find a way to make it happen

[@HoldenMcGroin-bp6yz]

You nailed it. I’ve been asking for my lady in a bow for 35 years. Still hoping…

[@lorensims4846]

Fascinating! You've clearly put a LOT of thought into this list. It doesn't sound like something my first wife would have gone for, but that marriage was a train wreck so the less said the better. She resented the time I spent on my new home computer when I wasn't at school or work learning about and operating computers. I'm pretty sure my second wife would have been happy to go with this, but she died twelve years ago and I'm only now starting to become curious again. My dad told the story of one Christmas when all he got was a pair of socks. So we kids always woke up on Christmas morning to a tree just buried in presents. It would often take until mid-day for us to open all of them. He was heard of the film department at the university so he made movies of us coming down the stairs, blinded by the lights and amazed at the number of presents. I know these were his most cherished home movies. Christmas was always really big for him.

[@luciana-j4p]

When I asked him yesterday, my husband said peace ❤🤭 we have two active young children sooo... we'll try ❤ Happy Christmas! ✨

[@yachtsmanbriar3519]

Everything Emily said , but also don't underestimate the power of Respect, Appreciation, and Gratitude. These will speak love to men. Men will give gifts, compliments, acts of service, words of affection and affirmation, foot massages to their women all for the simple hope and anticipation that they will be appreciated and receive gratitude and respect.

[@kenjohnson5498]

I only want one gift and that is someone to hold that actually appreciates it.

[@nomejc13]

Same

[@KS-yb1wq]

Emily, you hit it right on the mark. Coupons and bows, yeah baby.

[@SuperStock2022]

Best list for us guys I’ve heard yet! Peace, relaxing, family enjoyment is all I need. I don’t NEED things, I have all the things I want.

[@jasonallen1532]

I like what the comic said, “show up naked, bring food.”

[@mvg2x34]

Do any women watch this channel? The women I’ve known in my life could learn a lot. You set a great standard.

[@paulch8665]

I’d said you nailed it with that list. You understand men very well.

[@brians7894]

Your advice is spot on. A few less presents, desserts, gathering time, and decorations in exchange for just a little 1:1 intimate time will make the holidays better for both of you!

[@newtpondskipper]

On the topic of chairs, I was raised that a man should have his own chair to relax on and that this was part of making a house a home. I bought my wife a couch, that she wanted and picked out, so I could have my chair. Turns out everyone in the house prefers my chair and while I don't mind sharing I bought a chair because I wanted to sit there not on a couch.

[@kevinapound]

100%! Great video, Emily. My wife and I had a minor conflict this year before Christmas because I felt she was stressing too much about having enough gifts for each person to open around the Christmas tree. (After all, our kids are adults now.) But afterward I realized I should appreciate that she cares so much about the experience being special for everyone. So we agreed that next year we will both start preparing for the holiday early, so that when the season arrives, neither of us are stressing but just enjoying each other.

[@richard381able]

You might want to fine tune #5 and this applies year round for me. I LOVE doing things with my lady that she loves, because there is nothing better to me than seeing her smiling face when she is happy.

[@jamesstone6593]

You are so right about this. One year I got a bag of coffee and I didn't even have a coffee maker! Another year I got a skillet. Really?! I now take care of myself every year for Christmas and Birthday.

[@Raj-39D]

Not that bad for the most part spot on. I’ve got a lot of useless gifts in the past that are a waste. My best gift is Amazon gift cards so I can pick out what I really want. Costco, Lowe’s& Home Depot works too.

[@monz]

Seriously? Gift cards lack any personal thought or meaning or intimacy. I am gifting my man things that are special to him and have actual value, purpose and meaning.

[@leahvolmer9210]

​@@monzAt this point in my life, I buy myself gifts and tell my parents to put them under the tree. I also have gotten gifts I dont really care for and feel guilty that I don't like them.

[@wayneandrews1022]

@@monzif you are so in tune with his wants that you know the exact make, model and specifications of the cordless trim router he wants without his spelling it out, then you are a rare gem. Otherwise, gift certificate is fine. In fact, part of the enjoyment of a GC is picking out that perfect tool/golf club/guitar accessory/bottle of whatever.

[@monz]

@@wayneandrews1022 Nahhh, I prefer to treat my man and buy him gifts that he wouldn’t normally buy for himself but would love… such as a luxury cologne, a $300 pair of leather boots, a $250 personal grooming set, heating pads to wear when he works up north in the cold outdoors, and other things… I can’t wait to surprise him this year!! It makes me happy seeing him happy.

[@wayneandrews1022]

@monz that’s awesome!

[@tbjoyrider]

I believe this list is pretty much perfect, though some men definitely will have a different order of priority. And then a bit of advice for women: if you ask your man about a wishlist for Christmas and his answer is that he want nothing, it's time for you to revisit and seriously think about your marriage/relationship. He's not giving that answer because he's perfectly happy, but rather because he knows that you aren't willing to give him any of his true wishes. In most cases he is afraid to ask, has either given up, or is close to giving up. He has started to contemplate over the possibility of divorce/ breakup, even though he knows how much it will probably hurt him. Dark thoughts aside, I wish everyone a Merry Christmas/Happy Holidays.

[@bgd5339]

Nailed it! Listen, ladies, Emily knows! 😍

[@pierowmania2775]

That is a great list. As with all lists, this one won't fit every relationship exactly "to a tee." However, the underlying ideas and themes are 100% there. As a husband of one woman for 32 years, working on the relationship (and my attitude within it) to "get to the place" Emily talks about in items 2 and 1 is the real payoff. That level of connection and intimacy on the mental/emotional/intellectual/spiritual level is absolutely a wonderful place to be. (Edited for spelling.)

[@jim2386]

Best physical gift I got one year was rechargeable batteries. I was thrilled! The rest of the time all I want is for my wife and kids to be happy and know I’m doing an ok job :)

[@David35445]

I'm so grateful for the woman I have in my life. Almost right off the bat she has checked everything on this list. Advent calendar with a different fishing lure each day. I know it was cheep but that's not the point, fishing is a passion for me and she recognizes that and supports me in it.

[@silverdale3207]

As a youngish widower #1 for me would be a decent hug, (I miss them) #2 would be some kind words. After that I'm good don't need anything else.

[@kxaxa]

I feel when I hear you that you are listening to men. Thank you. It is so rare today.

[@lioncat84]

I'd like a very special socket wrench set that has nothing but 10mm sockets.

[@thomasa7175]

YES >>OMG ..Right on the freaking Money my man. The Most Commonly used size in Industry. Sets must Come with a Second 10mm and they must be Be doubled the hardness factor !!

[@keithfarley7093]

Harbor Freight sells a socket set that is nothing but 10mm sockets in all drive sizes .

[@vernondavis561]

I told my wife to buy me a left handed monkey wrench.

[@fiatmortem5128]

All they had was 1/2" drive... I'll take it anyway.

[@jguyfletch2187]

😁

[@harrybrown6585]

Just thank him for his hard work and commitment to the family the past year.

[@suemar63]

2 comments---one-make sure the items you get for his hobby are what he specifically wants---don't buy some generic tool or hobby item to get by cheap. Make it something that is a splurge hobby item he has lusted after. I also totally agreed about a special treat JUST FOR HIM. Hubby LOVES my homemade fudge and he loves getting a batch of that for Christmas. He can't have it much as he has health issues, but he knows Christmas-he will get that batch of fudge and I will in no way nag about it. Between Christmas and New Years---its ENJOY your treat!

[@ttrep4957]

Great list! My first thoughts are that you can't do all this properly on Christmas so it should be more like Hanukkah where it's spread over multiple days. Then i realized there are an awful lot of days between Christmases so spread them out over the year. A proper relationship isn't only good once a year. It weaves these actions into everyday life throughout the year.

[@adambriscoe02]

Got word today that my son was accepted into my Alma Mater, I'm good for a long long time.

[@lewolf2884]

I think that one of the sweetest gifts I have gotten, at least from someone other than my beautiful goddess of a lady, is watching the precious way you struggle to create a banter with us guys to drive home a point in the cutest 'long way around' rather than short cutting it with as few a selection of words as possible... which is one of the reasons that I, for one, really enjoy you and your wonderful videos... Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!!! 🎄🐺

[@jbtechcon7434]

8:15 Stop saying "head" space! You know what you're doing, and so do we! 🤣🤣🤣

[@yetanotherspuart3993]

Best thing would be a hug. I want nothing more to see my family having fun. If I had any.

[@ZEROOOOOOOOOOOOOOO00]

Regarding Number 2 and number 1.......as a good man, in a good relationship with a good woman, I expect this type of selfless treatment every day of the year. If I have to wait for Xmas for those special "things" then what I really want is a new relationship with a new woman! Coupons for those special things that she "used to do but no longer does"........ Bah Humbug !!!

[@monz]

lol I found this odd and hilarious because what does she mean “used to do?” Intimacy is something that happens on the regular in healthy and loving relationships, even after many years together. Coupons for sex??? Lmao nahhh, it’s giving lame.

[@rolandhansen812]

100% agree. If I have to hand over a coupon in order to be intimate, I'd rather just not bother. I prefer sex to be a natural part of a loving relationship rather than something she "gifts" to me.

[@drozdych]

​@@monzhow lucky for you and your spouse that you have such a relationship, not all of us are so lucky

[@froggiman1]

You're correct but her description of 'used too' is correct, sadly.

[@brucecooper6512]

@@monz sounds like this one was written by a woman

[@choomanfoo157]

That hoodie comment with shorts short combo that just looks like she is wearing a hoodie was so on point, I'm impressed on the nuance detail that you understand, #5 is so true, a man likes peace, #2 was well recognized as well, #1 was also great, it's really awesome when the wife is all in and wrapped up in a bow, enthusiastic and is in the right head space to really have fun with it.

[@localshaman]

- Men buying gifts for women: "What would she like?" - Women buying gifts for men: "What do I like that he'd also enjoy?"

[@Crushonius]

more like what would i like to see him wear i dont care if its uncomfortable or not his style at all my feelings matter he has to shut up and take it

[@paulpalmer2336]

@@Crushonius I want to have input on what my wife wears, so, I think wearing something just because she likes it, is reasonable. She wants other women to be envious and I am happy to give that to her :)

[@Crushonius]

@@paulpalmer2336 that is exactly the problem look how you phrased it you want to have an input on what she wears . jeez ask your wife if you can have your balls back at least for a little bit, because just with that phrase alone you have proven that she keeps em safe in her purse .

[@RykerSchenck-l7n]

“The Lady’s just don’t think the same” Says Emily. Thank you Emily❤

[@garthwaters5756]

Peace and quiet stress free , no dramas ❤

[@Milessavestheday]

Thanks!

[@Doc1985]

You have (as usual) nailed it--you are right on track--perfect! Merry Christmas!

[@markp.7165]

I had a friend who told his new wife she never had to buy him a birthday gift all he wanted was to know it's my birthday Saturday and I know what I am getting Saturday night! Guess what! Even after him telling her that it rarely happened. She would always insist on buying him crap that he didn't need or want. Like you said, women think differently!

[@seascape35]

Points #1 and #2 are excellent. So ladies, save some energy and creativity for early morning or late evening with your hubby when the kids are tucked away in bed dreaming of Santa and his reindeer. You will give your husband something to dream about too!

[@jeanr8359]

Gave my husband a pass on family gathering…. He was exhausted. The look on his face when I told him he didn’t need to go was priceless. We don’t exchange gifts…. Takes pressure off from him to get me something. And he wants to spend time with kids on their schedules…. He doesn’t want to put undue pressure on them. For us the love language is touch…. And I still give that selfless act because he thoroughly enjoys and I enjoy giving him pleasure…. I love him.

[@davidbundesen5867]

You nailed it. Number two and number one. Both great suggestions. I was lucky enough to have a number one once. It was amazing

[@deangousse2113]

Everything about home can be combined into one. Buying the home, raising the family, watching the family open gifts and enjoy the day. This is what we live for and consider them one and the same. We would like the day to enjoy them.

[@gregorybelden3545]

Love her slide. This woman is amazing. First on my list would be a woman like this one.

[@irahartoch1075]

It took me almost the entire video to figure out what was "wrong" with you eyes! 😂 Liner under your right eye but not under your left! Having said that, pretty much spot on. The hobby one needs to be stressed more. Some women think that the "golf equipment" gift is boring and want to get you "something better". They don't look at the "quality" of the gift through your eyes, but how they feel about it. They think golf is boring so that isn't much of a gift. But if they are into gardening (and you think THAT is boring) and you get them some gardening stuff that they would really like, that is wonderful!

[@steelresilience]

The way to a man's heart: Serenity. We tame choas at work, day in and day out. When we get home, what do we want? Serenity. Simple AF.

[@DesertRat332]

My wife and I used to have a tradition of doing it under the Christmas tree at least once every year. Now we're old and we haven't in many, many years. But, that's okay, enjoy your youth. We did.

[@ssiegreen5292]

Just move the Christmas tree into the bedroom next to the bed - problem solved!

[@docgrey3826]

You are totally right on. number two hoodie and short shorts. Love Coupons for you know what. I would totally agree with you on number one when I was. younger, I definitely wanted the bow part. Now that I'm 60 the foot rubbing part Ain't half bad.

[@glenn2595]

Never thought of the hoodie, but spot on as to it has to be big on her and come down below 'the line' where you don't actually see it so it's a tease. Shorts are optional though. For me it could be number 1, making sure the kids are happy and opening presents and getting excited. In my mind this is priceless! Thanks Emily. Merry Christmas now if you don't post until Friday next week. Enjoy!

[@Mounty621]

Nailed it, Emily! I think the hardest thing for any woman to do is remember you are a wife first and a mother / grandmother second. We still see you as that, although we are so grateful you are the mother of our children / grandmother of our grandkids. Peace and relaxation is the goal.

[@DreDredel3]

Showing your man some appreciation with action and giving him a day to feel at peace & relaxed will go far, in lightyears. Men have to deal with a lot of problems at work, the home should feel like a slice of paradise to recharge.

[@frankrizzo5262]

What a husband wants for Xmas….. a coupon book. Throw in a couple n coupons for “wins an argument “ or “get out of jail free” or “sandwich “

[@etiennemuller1]

I think you pretty much nailed it. It is, perhaps, a way of being together, rather than the specifics, but the countdown helps, as it causes one pause for a moment to consider the atmosphere one wants to cultivate.

[@Whiskey_Wisdom]

1:56 - #10 3:04 - #9 3:30 - #8 4:36 - #7 5:33 - #6 6:06 - #5 6:31 - #4 7:01 - #3 7:31 - #2 9:39 - #1

[@james1795]

Dumb

[@ruudvanderzanden8013]

Why not add what they actually say? This seems incomplete...

[@t.yalford8763]

thankx

[@GrnXnham]

Whiskey thanks! Very helpful!

[@lewiscates3724]

Hun you nailed it right on the head just the simple stuff in life love and relaxation and time with your family no gifts

[@nomadpack4050]

I'm not materialistic so the best Christmas gift to me is just the joy of seeing my child excited for santa 😁 relaxing in my chair at home with my loving wife sat on my lap while we enjoy the happiness of our child opening gifts, just the joy and warmth of that moment is a gift in itself. Other gits include a family Christmas dinner spending time with my wife & child. My wife ain't a complainer or nagger though either so im lucky i guess because i don't have to wish that as a gift 😂😂

[@AlexNasvik]

I'd give anything in the world to have a life like that.

[@louisd95714]

What a sweet person Emily is. She understands us men more than anyone else I know. Whoever is her soul mate is very lucky!

[@fredsfreshbeats]

I just went Christmas shopping for my dad, and it was at the supermarket. I asked my mom what everyone wants, and she said he wants "dry-roasted peanuts." I asked because I'm autistic and I don't know. I feel bad buying for him because his wish list is more like a grocery list than a Christmas gift. I got him two jars because I couldn't bring myself to spend less than $5 on him compared to everyone else I'm buying for.

[@Time2Live.online]

Thank you, Emily. How did we survive for so many years before you started spreading your wisdom? That's not sarcasm; you truly make the world a better place. Thanks again, and Merry Christmas.

[@CraigGrant-sh3in]

Merry Christmas Emily. Thank you for what you do and the smile I have every time one if your videos comes up.

[@TheyCalledMeT]

when your job is so easy you still have the energy and urge to travel around meet lots of people and do lots of stuff .. outside of longer vacations ... good for you .. many men aren't that lucky

[@qualitydoctor7976]

At this point I'll just take a hug😢. It's been a bad year for me...😓

[@isaaccutlip5815]

I want a hug from her 😉

[@qualitydoctor7976]

@isaaccutlip5815 she's taken. I want one of my own.

[@isaaccutlip5815]

@@qualitydoctor7976 😢

[@corym.m.3084]

Simple gift for me, just spending time together on the holidays. I don’t care for small physical gifts. I have everything I need. Also for everyone to open gifts at the same time, I hate the one person at a time. Just enjoy yourself and open gifts

[@matthewpaul6904]

Normalize LEGO sets for men! I was building stuff with my kids recently and forgot how cool this feeling was. And the sets have gotten way more elaborate, makes me want to do it again.

[@bigm383]

My wife bought me the Botanical Garden, we’ve pre ordered a January release set for her.❤😊

[@jspetrak]

There are actually many Lego sets specifically designed for adults be it men or women - flowers, art, architecture, star wars, big vehicles like Saturn V rocket or Titanic cruise ship, lego technic... I have many friends or following online that actually find it cool and buy lego.

[@douglasrau5094]

Legos have gotten so damn expensive. I mean, everything has but Lego’s in particular. I say a relatively simple set the other day that I thought might be like $55 and it was $100.

[@CatFoodPizza]

I mention them all year long that I would like to build Legos and sets that I would like. Each year they don't get gifted and I head out after new years and buy them myself.

[@frankvanderstaay7564]

​@douglasrau5094 Lego - singular 😊 Like nails on a blackboard to me, 'Legos' ARGH! Merry Christmas!

[@froggiman1]

For her to wear scrunchies. And overalls. And the hoodie/short description was perfect.