Men should look for this FIRST quality in a woman; with 2 examples

Hey guys! Today is the first episode in a new series that can actually help you guys find and start relationships with the right kind of woman. I'm giving you an example of a woman that demonstrates this quality and an example of a woman that definitely DOES NOT.

[@troyjamesmartin]

The blue-toilet-water woman is a freaking malignant narcissist.

[@frigginjerk]

After the third day of complaining, I would have torn the toilets off of the plumbing stack, thrown them into the yard, and told her that we're shitting in buckets from now on. And she's damn well going to like it, because I guarantee there's no blue cleaning products in there.

[@johnflorio3576]

A man can turn blue toilet water into green in approximately 15 seconds.

[@rektralph6778]

Could not have said it any better myself. She's in desperate need of a therapist to work out whatever she's got going on, that would make her say, in the same damn breath: "My husband knows how to keep up a house, and even knows what Clorox toilet cleaning tablets are. I don't like blue toilet water, so I caused a problem." Paraphrasing, of course. What, lady?! That basic bathroom upkeep in my home lol. Trippin' 🤣🤣

[@katherinemccoy5376]

​@@johnflorio3576My 1st thought 😂

[@nevarius9010]

she's probably in the early stages on menapause. She needs HRT or its a divorce destined to happen.🤣

[@IronTeddyBear]

On my very first in-person date with my late GF, she decided to wear a pair of boots with very high heels. As we were walking back to my car, her heel got stuck in one of the holes in the pavement and she fell on her back. I turned around to see if she was hurt. She was making some noise and I get scared. But she wasn't crying, she was laughing at how ridiculous the situation was, and she couldn't stop laughing. I decided right then and there that she was a keeper, and I never regretted a day being with her.

[@davidturner1641]

good story, thanks

[@angela_somanythings5670]

I am sorry for your loss. It's such a hard world ... when the good people leave us too soon...

[@colinm1325]

I'm sorry for your loss. But the way you described the 'heel in the hole incident', l felt the joy and love you are telling us about her. Some other great memories as well no doubt.😊💞🌞🫂🌈☕️🍪👏👍🍻

[@norsemanshorn3988]

Happy for you that you got to love her while you could. Both your lives were better for it. Yours still is. Her memory lives on. Rest in peace...💐❤️✌️

[@JamesLong80]

How's she doing today?

[@oneiros1401]

Individuals who pick fights over nonsense like "blue toilet water" there's a much bigger underlying issue, 99% of the time, it's not about the blue toilet water. If she actually valued her husband, she wouldn't even think about picking a fight with him over blue toilet water.

[@hengineer]

It's most likely an insecurity on some way

[@chamberlain323]

Yep, exactly my thought while watching this. A normal, balanced woman would never pitch a fit over that but would instead say something like, “I recognize that you are trying something new here, but I’m just not a fan, so let’s just stick with normal clear water from now on.” Escalating things into a week-long argument is a sign of discontent with the relationship. On the flip side, he should have just chucked out the blue tablet once she started griping if he valued their relationship. Long story short, I think the countdown has begun for that marriage.

[@rolandhansen812]

Most women would be thrilled that their husband was trying to keep the toilet clean.

[@enemyofthestatewearein7945]

Spot on, I'd say it's usually a product of failing to communicate a large number minor gripes, resulting in growing silent resentment and finally a seemingly disproportionate outburst over something trivial. I would say guys do need to be careful to humbly accept legitimate criticism, to ensure that his wife isn't afraid to raise legitimate concerns, but in many cases the wife's unwarranted assumptions about the husband's reaction (i.e. neurosis) is what stops her from expressing her concerns to nip minor gripes in the bud. This was certainly the case with my ex wife, as I'm generally very laid back, but I noticed that her father had a tendency to totally loose it over any small criticism, and she simply couldn't see that I was a different person. And on the flip side, she would frequently react very defensively to any minor request that I would make, and even seemingly deliberately carried on doing various things I calmly asked her not to do (with an explanation) because it caused some genuine problem that I would have to keep fixing behind her.

[@tdrive398]

The "bigger issue" is likely that she's a cheating 304 during her "business trips" and she's stressed from feeling guilty- and is obsessed with finding something... ANYTHING... to criticize her "wonderful husband" for.

[@jaceseldom8236]

Been married 30 years, this is so true. A woman who can keep a good mood when things go wrong is worth 10 times her weight in gold.

[@Muck006]

She is focused on HER HUSBAND ... instead of HERSELF ... and gets appreciation from making her husband happy. COMMUNICATION HAS QUALITY LEVELS ... which are determined by the number of senses involved, so "getting praised by someone to your face" is worth more than hundreds of "you go girl" comments on the internet. That's why it is very rewarding to "please your husband", but feminists WANT THE "MAN VS. WOMAN" COMPETITION.

[@brianschuetz2614]

My wife has a goofy sense of humor. She keeps saying to me, "You have a silly wife." And I keep telling her, "That's one of the things I love about you." She always laughs at my stupid jokes, too. She just makes me feel so blessed.

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

You got a keeper.

[@jimibones178]

You should say "that's one of the things I love about her*"

[@NursetobeBrittany]

@jimibones178 If there were no quotation marks, I would agree with you. It is grammatically correct with the quotation marks. Without them, your way would be right :) Everyone can be right 😄

[@jimibones178]

@@NursetobeBrittany I'm a smart person, not an educated person 🤷‍♂️

[@NursetobeBrittany]

@jimibones178 ☺️ Haha all that matters is that we remain open to learning-I appreciate that you didn’t get defensive 😊 Have a great day!

[@wat5513]

Men who are not with miserable women are not miserable. *Mind blown.

[@bdcochran01]

Yes, one of my greatest achievements in life. The second greatest? The first one is enough !

[@pavlovsdogman]

It works vice versa too, hard to believe huh? Almost like both genders are humans and are controlled by human psychology? 😑

[@animal0mother]

"Happy wife, happy life." -Boomers who hate their relationship with their wives and continue to cowtow to them because the alternative is too much trouble.

[@darkgalaxy5548]

​@@animal0mother Or put another way, when mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.

[@CrimsonEclipse]

Not really it also depends on their childhood and upbringing. Some people either men or women are just miserable. They will nitpick at everything even if it doesn't even matter. And I have met a fare amount of men who are like this. If their parents are like this there is a high chance they are like this as well.

[@paulbussell922]

The second woman is just mad she cannot drink from the toliet any longer.

[@olafzalm]

Her nickname would have immediately become Smurfette. I'd bake blue cake, cook blue soup, grow a beard and ask her to call me Papa Smurf. She got that comming.

[@marbellaotaiza801]

I like where this thread is going 😂 I'll just comment to see if there's any more badass jokes.

[@lawrencewalston2272]

She reminds me of Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory, who absolutely couldn't handle change. Even if said change was for the better.

[@oneiros1401]

Guess she's disappointed her secret potion got an unexpected upgrade. Who knew she preferred her 'toilet martinis' without the blue twist?

[@lawrencewalston2272]

@@oneiros1401 Believe it or not but there is a cocktail recipe that calls for vodka, blue curacao liqueur, and a few raisins as garnish, served chilled. It's called a Tidy Bowl.

[@garywarren3600]

I was cleaning the kitchen and washing dishes. My wife came home and said I was doing it all wrong. I calmly said " ask the ladies at your work about husbands doing dishes'. She was answered with " if he is doing the dishes, leave him alone".

[@closethockeyfan5284]

I totally feel that. I got divorced because nothing ever was good enough

[@tiphainer7143]

Ladies reading: I back this! I’ve never told my man he often leaves fat marks on pans after doing the dishes…but I have NEVER had to do the dishes and tidying up after diner together. (I just quickly rewash before putting things away if they aren’t perfectly clean and that is absolutely worth never having to do the dishes)

[@bdcochran01]

thank you for the laugh.

[@raptor29aaa]

If you get him one of those smiley face scrubbers (scrub daddy), but present it as a new tool you bought him. He'll most likely use it, and that will help with those though grease stains.

[@retropyro]

@@raptor29aaa I love those things

[@terrivel11]

She asks so many times why he thought it was a good idea without actually saying why she thought it was a bad one.

[@animal0mother]

She compares it to a 7/11 and mentions that they "live in a good neighborhood". She seems to think it low-class where she may be aspirational, like Hyacinth from Keeping Up Appearances. He, sensitive to this, changed out only their guest-facing toilet so it wouldn't possibly appear low-brow for anyone they entertain, yet it still drives her crazy it remaining in their master bathroom. Also, what's the blue stuff going to harm? Corrosion? Not on the porcelain. Maybe corrode the rubber flapper or rust the chain more but I bet it's negligible.

[@rachelhoyle5728]

@@animal0motheryour comment just made my day! I know the Show and character you mentioned. I immediately thought of her too upon watching that TikTok.

[@justadreamin1004]

Would "It will make the toilet bowl more sanitary and germ-free? be sufficient? Geeeeez! If she bitches about the blue toilet water - WHAT ELSE WILL SHE BITCH ABOUT !! ??

[@shawnkroll3950]

My mom had a great sense of humor. She loved dirty jokes, finding silver lining in things, doing things for others. She was amazing mom, but also a wife. She grew up in orphanage. I have a feeling this while horrible also helped her appreciate things in life. She loved and adored my father and he her. They weren't perfect, but she enjoyed joking, being playful, and just plain enjoying each day. My father made sure to always made her feel loved and cared for. To me they were perfect. Because they loved and supported each other.

[@papidamuddafucare4699]

i'm glad u could see that & appreciate it, & i'm so happy for your parents as well! i wish that i had a wife like that! 🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯

[@Muck006]

Sarcasm AND "being able to take a joke" are very underappreciated ... because you NEED to be willing to "offend people" when joking, but in today's politically correct society that isnt allowed. Unless you make fun of men / Trump.

[@verilyheld]

"I am not being dramatic." True. She's being vile!

[@Petaurista13]

"I'm not being dramaic" here is like asking if pyrogel is too hot to use as grill starter. Sure it's not, your grill IS supposed to melt during BBQ.

[@TheDreadWalker]

The first brings and gives joy, the second steals it for sure.

[@lyianx]

stealing would imply that she would then have it. Im pretty sure she didnt steal it.. she just flat out killed it.

[@juiceortiz]

Difference between joy givers and joy suckers

[@sureimhappy]

Sucks the joy out of every happy occasion

[@seththomas9105]

My buddies and I have a name for women like the first one. Unicorns. Women who keep a sense of humor and still laugh out loud after the age of 40. Have fun, can relax, chill, drink a beer, NOT have to be "working" on something every. damn. day. Women that can just stop and ask how you doing? OR... Just be quiet for a while. Women who don't make mountains out of mouse turds, that keep things in perspective, and know nuance and context. Women who still like sex after having kids, kinda important to most guys, trust me. Women who can just... Be.

[@marbellaotaiza801]

👏👏👏

[@clamh84]

This is the woman I strive to be. I’m 40 this year with 5 kids, and I cannot comprehend women who don’t want to have fun time in the bedroom at every given opportunity. It’s definitely one of the ways that I show my love.

[@seththomas9105]

@@clamh84 Your husband is truly a lucky fella. Best wishes to both of you.

[@abnormallyawesome2062]

I honestly dont know how some people can survive life without humor... why would anyone want to survive without humor? Life sucks like 80% of the time, i feel if i didnt laugh about stuff i would actually go nuts. Lol! Im 41 and still laugh at and tell d*ck jokes. I like doing "kid" things like playing video games, watching cartoons and anime, i like toys like legos and puzzles and action figures, i love tie dye and bright colorful things as well some gothic punk stuff, i love being comfy and chilling at home not worrying about chores or whatever, and i just genuinely like not stressing over tiny things when the world and my life has enough big stressors... idk, i guess some women like being in knots all time. 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️ im not one of thoughs chicks. Life has enough BS, i dont need or want to create my own. Lol. 😅😑

[@Jan-qv8ku]

I guess I’m a unicorn🎉

[@paulatk44]

As I watch this enthralling video, it resurrects the painful memories of my recent breakup-a relationship of five years that ended just three months ago. The woman who meant everything to me decided to leave, plunging me into a vortex of heartache. Despite my desperate attempts to reconcile, I find myself trapped in a cycle of frustration and longing, unable to envision a life without her. Despite my efforts to move forward, I find solace in expressing my lingering affection for her here.

[@SusanVivian-g3l]

Letting go of someone you love deeply presents a formidable challenge. I faced a comparable ordeal when my 12-year relationship ended. Refusing to succumb to despair, I relentlessly pursued avenues to reconcile with her. Ultimately, I sought solace and guidance from a spiritual counselor, whose intervention proved instrumental in restoring our connection.

[@paulatk44]

Remarkable! How did you discover a spiritual counselor, and what's the procedure for me to get in contact with her?

[@SusanVivian-g3l]

Allow me to introduce Suzanne Ann Walters, a highly skilled spiritual counselor known for her expertise in rekindling past relationships.

[@paulatk44]

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[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

18 years of marriage for me, down the tubes, i was broken hearted. I moved on. I'm glad it is over. Rebuilding me all over again. I feel for you. Stay in God, He will help.

[@JuniperLynn789]

I started dating my husband at 22 years old. I had never flown on an airplane, left Florida, or seen snow in my life, lol! My husband had the BEST time watching my genuine reactions to experiencing all these things for the first time with him. I was like a giddy child and so easy to please. He tells me that was something he really fell in love with about me!

[@WOLF-lf8gt]

The little things. 😊

[@chrismoore9997]

The woman with the blue toilet water needs to stop having affairs with other men while she is on travel. If she wasn't stepping out on her husband, she would appreciate him instead of treating him like a second class citizen.

[@rickreeder8045]

100 percent correct

[@davidgold5961]

That’s very insightful of you and I mean that sincerely. I had not thought of that.

[@DrJamesBWood]

I don't think she is. I do think she has some sort of cluster B (narcissism) disorder. Very controlling, very into creating drama over nothing, very her way or else. . . What a miserable person.

[@user-xq1tl3pj9m]

Thanks for noticing what everyone should be able to…

[@alansummerscales3376]

You beat me to ìt. She has crossed the line and trying to ditch him, and make it his fault. Evil cow.

[@jonprince3237]

The second woman said she complained about it every day for a month until she'd finally nagged him into submission, and that it was the worst fight they'd ever had. She wasn't happy with the colour of water in the toilet, who in their right mind devotes that much energy to such a trivial issue? The man needs to get a divorce.

[@prrsd4046]

Wives DO try to wear their husbands out. Mine was nagging the crap out of me til I said stop you're wearing me out. She started crying. Oh joy.

[@zenz0ha472]

People who need to work on their inner child, those are the kinds of folks who argue and fight over blue toilet water. Her loss.

[@homiesenatep]

Women like this are so fuckin funny, I had a woman arguing with me over the bathroom once, it was so fuckin funny

[@homiesenatep]

@@prrsd4046HAHAHAHAAHAH OMG

[@ShinySilverBunny]

​@prrsd4046 its 2 way... what are you not doing to why she is asking you to do things? Is she tired from doing multiple things? There's 2 sides to every story.

[@stevec3526]

He does all the damned housework and she is freaking out about BLUE toilet water? 💦 She is freaking crazy. 🤪

[@angela_somanythings5670]

That's what I was thinking!

[@itube1893]

He’s going to seriously think twice about cleaning the house next time.

[@toomanymarys7355]

They damage the rubber and plastic parts, but she doesn't know that. I'd use them if they didn't damage things and they didn't stink. 😂

[@mrgregw]

He does the house work because he doesn't want to listen to her nag him to death. He's trying to be a good boy and stay on her good side.

[@brianburns1483]

Sounds like narcissistic, because she did not come up with the idea.

[@elizabethdowney3412]

As a lighthearted wife... it takes patience, grace, gratitude, and a hint of dorkiness to be this type of person.😊

[@photohounds]

A DOZEN things that woman #2 did are an EXTREME red flag. All she had to say is : "thanks for the thought, but can we leave it out when it wears off please? It's not my cup of tea"...

[@patriciahusch9688]

To me, that 2nd example sounded & looked a lot like a rage bait video.

[@exothermal.sprocket]

The second woman: It isn't about the water color at all. That's just the most recent item of irritation that has set a chain reaction of underlying resentments that she's held. What's the reasoning? Her preface about "he's incredible....so great...." (the things he provides) but now comes the character assassination over social media, behind his back, without his knowledge, turning to your "trusted audience" for advice, people that you've never met.

[@tommyagain38]

I was gonna say that and she's looking for any reason in her head to cheat on him.

[@exothermal.sprocket]

@@tommyagain38 It's not about a cheating act. It's about abandoning your meaningful unity and communication long before you take action on another man.

[@DrJamesBWood]

@@tommyagain38 It isn't about cheating, putting others down to make yourself look good and for likes, attention and validation is a common (dysfunctional) theme. My God she was exhausting to even listen too!

[@Lanaiguy]

@@tommyagain38 she already has cheated on him. She’s already cut another pony out of the herd he needs to bail he needs to get out now.

[@BastaGenug]

Dude poisoned her drinking water.

[@rushhell5105]

[@shieldwolf65]

🐻😰🥶👤👣🌏🙀🏊🧞🚾🚻🚮🚰 Papa Smurf for the Win.

[@lorag4664]

Well...SHE SHOULDN'T BE DRINKING FROM THE TOILET!!🤣😂🤣😂🤣

[@Road-trip-sky]

😂😂😂

[@smashers2060]

It's not about the water, it's about status. She sees the blue water as low class and she's horrified that she married a man that doesn't live up to her standards.

[@chamberlain323]

Since she mentioned that they lived in a nice neighborhood to justify her dislike of his choice, I think you’re right. Like many women though, she won’t say it out loud because it sounds shallow.

[@davidgold5961]

The thing is, it’s not low class. It’s actually very sophisticated and lots of my multimillionaire family clients have these in their toilets all over the house. It’s also more sanitary.

[@hardwired4548]

I have never even heard of a thing such as toilet water having status. WTF kind of times are we living in where toilet water matters.

[@cryptojihadi265]

It's about a raging narcissist that will come up with ANY reason to attack her husband and make him capitulate to her capricious demands.

[@silverdale3207]

@@hardwired4548 I'd love her to explain that to my grandma who didn't even have a flush toilet when she was first married and had to cart water to the house from a well.

[@fracyoulongtime8123]

Been married for 30y and I will say the most important thing is that you like your wife! Not just be married but actually like hanging out with her!!! I enjoy my wife’s goofiness and I have never been afraid to be goofy around her!!

[@tinderbox218]

Sense of humor is SO important. I don't mean a comedienne, but someone with a good nature and a supportive approach to the things that life throws at us.

[@knightcrusader]

I was married to the blue-toilet-water type of woman... your analysis is spot on. Nothing I did was ever good enough, never got appreciated for anything I did. I finally left her when she lost her shit and yelled "I shouldn't have to thank you for DOING YOUR JOB". So yeah, avoid it at all costs.

[@gc4644]

Good for you! Now you can heal and live a great happy life without walking on eggshells. I speak from experience too..

[@tommyagain38]

Tell her to take out the garbage can in the restroom because you don't like the blood and stench reeking from her tampons.

[@Cretaal]

Puts it into perspective when she makes it clear it's a job and not a relationship. Sounds like a chore more than anything.

[@Kenneth1238]

​@@Cretaaland that makes him her employee not her husband

[@Cretaal]

@@Kenneth1238 Slave. Employees get paid something.

[@danielkuttel7867]

The second women is a nightmare. Dude, get rid of here

[@user-tc3sp2yo6m]

She's cheating on her WORK TRIPS.

[@darrellwiley4288]

Woman #2 is a nightmare

[@tommyagain38]

She has the crazy eyes. Never be romantic with a speed addict.

[@htconex19062012]

Run away now!

[@BLACKMONGOOSE13]

And a cheater. Guaranteed.

[@darrellwiley4288]

@@BLACKMONGOOSE13 You know I thought the same thing. She did say that she travels all the time for work.

[@bacadesignz1067]

@@BLACKMONGOOSE13as soon as I heard her say, “ I travel a lot for work” and just got into a vile argument over toilet water.

[@1980skevin]

By the end, I was always wrong. Always. Now, looking back over the years - the red flags were everywhere. I didn't start learning until she said she wanted to leave. I learned more about relationships in the next 18 months than I learned in the first 50 years of my life. I just didn't know.

[@mrgregw]

It's amazing how much bad behavior and irrational thinking a man can ignore and rebuff. The part that blows me away is the lack of accountability and how she thinks her life is going to improve when she leaves.

[@nathanshearer30]

They keep you so emotionally off balance you can't see straight. I'm glad she bailed.

[@1980skevin]

@@mrgregw led by emotions, not reality.

[@mrgregw]

@@1980skevin Solipsism and narcissism. An overvaluing of their own self-worth and contributions.

[@1980skevin]

@@mrgregw solipsism is a zany idea! But some actually might get to that point. Crazy. She is narcissistic for sure, though.

[@bryanstumpf8643]

I 100% saw the last girl I dated when you started talking about being too serious and letting one little thing ruin her day. You nailed that one. 👍

[@joelmclean2898]

Guys want a woman that is capable of rational thought, doesn't make everything a crisis, can have fun and laugh at you and at themselves. They want a woman that recognizes your contribution to the relationship.

[@monky999monkey]

Short and to the point. Accurate.

[@JustanHonestOpinion]

Thank You ❗

[@Mortablunt]

As I said to my ex-wife, not long before we divorced “I can’t be married to an overgrown 4 year old.” She was lovely and helpful when she was happy the problem was she was very often not happy, and I only couldn’t handle even the slightest crisis or challenge, but also had absolutely no ability to handle her own emotions, which meant she always took it out on me very abusively.

[@Obsidian456]

Yes this, well put 👍

[@DrJamesBWood]

Why is finding that so difficult? I'd add loyalty to the list but you have already set a high bar with seemingly basic stuff.

[@mkline87]

The 2nd guy waits in his vehicle or dreads coming home now. He really enjoys when she is on business trips.

[@arthurchadwell9267]

Business trips-- bet it's carousel rides with her boss.

[@doyourbest7655]

Could not stay to watch “waits in vehicle before going into home”. Been that guy, who just wanted a gal to appreciate him. Never going to have a female housemate who holds the title in name only of wife. If it’s not working, let her know it’s not working and will end soon. If she says thank god, you said the right thing. Women don’t know how to end a relationship either. Life is short be clear on what you want. Help others get that too.

[@michaelbruner3511]

I was there in the mid-90s. I was stationed in misawa Japan & hated that duty station. I was in my early-20s & married to narcissistic brat. I hated reporting to duty. And I hated coming home every night.

[@jonwwillis]

It's probably the only time he can tidy the house without her telling him how he is doing everything wrong.

[@mrgregw]

I used to avoid going home at different times with different women. It started with avoiding going home while living with my parents.

[@Private-GtngxNMBKvYzXyPq]

One piece of advice I can offer to young men is take her on a trip for a long weekend. It’s inevitable that at least a few things won’t go according to plan. If she rolls with it even when she’s tired from traveling, and continues to treat you and everyone around her with dignity, respect, and civility, she might be a keeper. But if she starts acting badly, it’s a serious red flag. Anyone who can’t deal with at least a few things being divergent for a weekend is probably not going to be good at dealing with more serious stresses of real life together.

[@tommyagain38]

Good advice.

[@New_Harmony]

Exactly! And my grandmother use to say honeymoon trip should happen before getting married 😊 because true nature comes out during travel.

[@hazeltulip]

Road trip of >6 hours and a tent camping trip. People can’t hide who they are through that.

[@creatureofstyle]

Definitely great advice! I did just that. I rolled with everything and the guy I was on the trip with made everything soooo stressful. Ended up breaking up with him when we got back. I just want to be able to go with the flow and giggle and be silly. My life is stressful enough as it is, I have very limited personal time so if you take away my ability to relax the one chance I get to do so than no, you're not the person for me

[@Private-GtngxNMBKvYzXyPq]

@@creatureofstyle I hope you find a guy who can mellow out and roll with it and enjoy along with you. Too bad that didn’t work out but better to find out now.

[@danashumway7090]

Lightheartedness and a sense of humor are huge. If a woman can't laugh at herself and the crazy world around her, then it is going to be rough. I have always hated the phrase "happy wife, happy life." To me, that phrase implies that if I don't make my wife happy that life will be miserable. Look, all relationships are hard work, take effort, require sacrifice and acts of service to the person that you are with. However, if that person can't choose to be happy within themselves independently of me and what I am doing then they will never be truly happy. No relationship will ever be perfect. It will always require work and effort. Run from blue toilet water women because nothing you do for her will ever be enough.

[@isabella-dw8eg]

I like the new phrase they have now " happy spouse, happy house" because both people in relationships deserve to be happy as equal partners

[@danashumway7090]

@isabella-dw8eg I haven't heard that one before. That is much better. We still have to remember that happiness is a personal choice and responsibility. It's not the job of other people to make us happy. We can love and serve our spouse but they still need to choose their internal happiness. Thanks for sharing!

[@isabella-dw8eg]

You're welcome!

[@creatureofstyle]

One other element to this is please men.. please, if you've had a woman in your past who acts like lady #2, don't allow yourself to get so damaged by that one woman that you think all women are that way. I am like lady #1 but my last boyfriend kept treating me like I was lady #2. I was beside myself trying to understand what was going on He had done a few sweet things for me that I really appreciated but they didn't work out for reasons that were nobody's fault, and I wasn't worried about it but he acted like it was such a blow to his ego - for example he bought me a pair of vintage cowboy boots that I loved, but they were a size too small and I couldn't get them on my feet. I thanked him profusely and told him how cool the boots were and that I really wish they would have fit (no critique in any way), but he still took that as a rejection. I was so confused, it's not like I could shrink my feet. Similar things happened a couple more times, and I never had a harsh word to say, I always thought he was sweet for trying and told him so, but each time it happened it seemed like our relationship got a little damaged I had no idea what the heck was going on until after we broke up and I met his ex girlfriend! She is one of the nastiest most judgemental and critical people I have ever met... and it explained so much of our dynamic while we were dating. When we were together I felt like I couldn't do anything right because I believe that he had already decided I was going to be just like her, and his inability to see me for the unique, silly, unconditionally loving individual that I am sabotaged our relationship... Sadly his loss because I totally would have made him a mashed potatoes mountain 😂

[@esunanthony]

Nice, like your spirit... Never lose your joy and enthusiasm for anybody... None is worth your ungiddiness😂

[@rmt74358]

Biggest red flag for Wife #2. How she talks and her body language. You know immediately that she is bitter, or has a bitter side that will one day come out.

[@geonerd]

Her vocal tone and facial gestures are terrifying!

[@davidgold5961]

She’s also being overly dramatic in her gestures and being sarcastic as well. And she’s questioning his judgment.

[@Petaurista13]

@@geonerd last time I've seen this was when somebody nearly drove my pal's crush into really dark thoughts. But there's difference betwen guy going bloodloust over somebody deeply hurting somebody he cares about, then guy deciding scum is not worth effort and taking care about uplifting her is more important and woman throwing tantrum over blue water for a month, acting like she's about to bust.

[@shieldwolf65]

The Divorce when it comes will be bitter & to the death with a woman like this.

[@chrisfleming6560]

Hey maybe woman #2 makes more money than him and will have to pay alimony. Can you imagine the poor Judge that tries to make that order. Happy wife, happy life. Our First choices are important. Any woman to ask “what were you thinking” when he does all the cleaning should find her bags packed on the sidewalk and locks changed.

[@warpedreflection3650]

I'm with the husband of the 2nd woman. She was being over the top.

[@IlariLehtonen-oo8mv]

You think?

[@jejunamja]

The second woman is crazy ...

[@b4ph0m3tdk9]

Yes, and then putting it on tiktok. Terrible!

[@katemiller7874]

She’s controlling.

[@shadowalkerwho]

The first woman is crazy too, but in a good way.

[@danw8227]

If my GF or Wife posted any video or post about our personal life... it is OVER! PERIOD!

[@blynfraser]

100% mate

[@rebeccaprewett5014]

I’ve known quite a few light-hearted, joy-filled women whose husbands absolutely squashed every expression of that after marriage. One wife, for example, found herself married to a man who seemed personally affronted by any expression of happiness or playfulness on her part and, rather than sink into the sort of blah lack of emotion state he seemed to prefer, she embraced what she termed “stealth joy”. She continued to enjoy what she had always enjoyed, but ceased expressing that openly around him. But when he wasn’t around, she would literally sing and dance, laugh herself silly with friends, enjoy all life’s simple pleasures to the max - so she could return to being the subdued, outwardly bland person her husband preferred. She’s not the only one I’ve observed. But she’s one of the few wives who didn’t let her “spark” go out. I have no idea why some husbands can’t stand outwardly happy, light-hearted wives.

[@WOLF-lf8gt]

Because they are idiots. They don’t know how good they have it.

[@WOLF-lf8gt]

It’s because they are idiots. They don’t know how good they have it.

[@seandenton8148]

as a guy who grew up getting either no dating advice or terrible dating advice, thank you for making this.

[@maddoggienation]

Toilet water Woman is putting off the "Im cheating Vibe"..

[@ithinkurf]

That's my thought. He's perfect and she's done the dirty. Now she's looking for any excuse to leave him whilst making him look like the bad guy in the breakup.

[@shieldwolf65]

Yep I thought *Blue Toilet Water Lady* was over the top. Already Monkey Branching but needs hubby to be the bad guy to self justify sabotaging the marriage.

[@notavailable4596]

I think she's a business woman while he stays at home or something. Basically a reversal of traditional roles. Either that or she's a businesswoman and he has a job she doesn't respect. She compares him and their life to all the corporate people she meets in her world.

[@michaeljamesdiaz39]

because youre right, i had custody of my two children and my 2nd wife had custody of her two children. i worked nights and she worked days so it was easier for me to do the fam laundry and chores and shopping during the day when the kids were school and get a power nap before i picked them up. she was tired alot so i would also go to the field trips, room partys and parent teacher conferences for all our kids when she couldnt go because she was tired and not feeling good alot of times. so one time she went to one of her boys room partys and came home(mind you all 4 kids were at school and i was cleaning and getting done with laundry hoping we could sit down and have lunch together before school was out) and she came in the house going ballistic on me about her being so sick and tired about hearing what a great husband she had,,,,they wish their husband or partner did half the things he did,,,she says "how many of the teachers and moms are you fkg? my mouth dropped,, i said first of all i think they meant it as a compliment to us, 2nd of all where in the world do you think i can find the time to have affairs? all this stuff in our lives doesnt get done by a ghost. i felt so broken and useless i thought it was me so i went to a therapist.... only to find out she was having affairs and she maybe felt like if she was doing it that i must be doing it. i thought the therapist was nuts,,, but during the divorce i heard some things from coworkers(we worked at same company) that she admitted after the divorce,,, these coworkers knew about her involved in these affairs and things and nobody told me anything untill the divorce.. then they were spewing information like niagara falls . i felt like such an idiot.i was so humiliated.. they said she would complain to them all the time about me to make it ok for what she was doing behind my back...all these years i cant allow myself to be in a committed relashionship because once my hearts committed its for good and thats my fault, because even though the red flags are all there im in love so deep that i keep thinking it will get better. and thats not reality. i blame myself for falling in love with the wrong person. i still believe in true love for alot of people but not for people like me and i dont lie to myself anymore

[@shonmacklin9613]

​@michaeljamesdiaz39 Don't blame yourself. Narcissistic people have an amazing talent to make you think they are magical beings. They pour it in so good you think they are the one . Then they turn into their true selves and it socks the life out of you. Your life literally becomes a thriller movie.

[@neonkaiju]

"He said 'You've changed!'"; Just from the presentation alone, you can tell TikTok is where she now gets her dopamine hits rather than her own family.

[@shostycellist]

The second woman shows her level of intelligence when she says she doesn't know how to take the lid off the toilet tank and pull out the little blue donut!

[@xxkrnplaysxx1683]

I agree 100%! My wife is always too serious and thus very grumpy all the time.

[@joelfreniere7299]

Yes. I was the good man that could not make his wife happy. Now I'm happily divorced and living life for myself and my kids.

[@nonachan2205]

A lot of people forget we ourselves are responsible for our own happiness. That a companion is to enhance it. Unhappy people seeking happiness from outside themselves will never be happy. I am sorry you had to go through that. My ex expected me to be both a working person and fulfilling all the roles as a stay at home wife. He called me a terrible wife and step mom because I wouldn’t cook his two kids and him like a restaurant would. That was just one of the many reasons like I thought the kids should have a bed time not up till 1 am and so on. I was out.

[@DrBilly90210]

Married @ 25; divorced @50. Dated quite a bit after divorce. Finally distilled my thoughts on relationships down to a single question: "Is this relationship making each of our lives easier and each of us better people?" Any answer other than an enthusiastic and unreserved "YES!!!" was grounds for relationship termination. The first woman gets a "YES!!!" The second woman..... not so much.

[@abbynormalz]

I just got divorced at 52 after a 28 year marriage and I'm probably gonna be single the rest of my years.

[@KimMilvang]

When life is hard you still need to stand by your partner, even if you may have an easier life on your own. Sticking through tough time is part of the wedding wows. The attitude you present is what is causing people to get divorced just because they are bored for a while. You can demand that your partner has the desire to make your live better, and if they show no such desire you should by all means run away. But reality doesn't always give you what you desire.

[@jessicajeanfrancois9429]

​@KimMilvang I totally agree with this sentiment, relationship termination sounds cute but marriage is not just a relationship. It's not like you're dating and can bow out at anytime. People who are so fickle about it are the ones booting the divorce statics to 50% + 🙄 for better or for worse means something and it's so hard to find men and women who can stand by their words. It's so much worse when there are innocent children involved. Saying this as one of the girls whose mom stayed "for the children" and I stand by it and honor her sacrifice because I don't know where I'd be without it.

[@andrewclement1431]

Dated a woman like thus nothing was good enough, everything was questioned, I got the hell out with my dignity, self respect and lowered my stress level significantly.

[@hardwired4548]

Been there done that, when I left and moved into my new place, it felt like the weight of the world was lifted off my shoulders.

[@user-zq9vi3gj2q]

Good for you because she would never be happy with herself and thus not with you ever.

[@craigcarter400]

I married one like this 🤦‍♂️. I did get out of the state and divorced a couple years ago and everything was better. Now I am with a someone like the first one.

[@katherinecollins9636]

It goes the other way too. I've been married for 28 years to a clinically depressed man. I'm a cheerful, upbeat person and it is so draining. All he does is complain about everything and act like he is so put upon. "Woe is me" gets really old really fast.

[@hummingbird4934]

Is he being treated for it? I hope he’s not a constant drain and that there are lighter moments. As someone that struggles myself I know how hard it can be on my partner so I’ll always try and make the effort to lighten his load and cheer him up by being silly and goofy. It’s all about balance

[@hummingbird4934]

But then it also helps that we both really really like each other. That helps too!

[@jmalen123]

I just noticed that 20% of the amount of your subscribers commented on this video. That is telling. Your common sense and kindness really connect in a meaning full way. Thanks, it is refreshing.

[@kevinc1593]

The second woman: A pair of rubber gloves, reach in and take the blue tab out and flush a couple times, end of problem. I bet after this meltdown the other things he did around the house that she did appreciate weren't being done as often.

[@alansummerscales3376]

😂 you are too logical, I'm sure she twice said she wasn't that intelligent. Didn't know how to remove the blue.

[@jstample]

She wasn’t actually going to do anything to solve the problem- she was putting on a show to manipulate him into removing them otherwise she would have just done it without mentioning it to him

[@lvs1w3]

Right! She bitched a whole month over something that can be handled in 2 minutes.

[@WorldbreakerHulk1390]

Wife 1: Very thoughtful. Not my cup of tea because I can't imagine eating all of that but I would appreciate the effort and make a point of eating with her. Wife 2: I don't think that woman has a proper sense of toilet hygiene. If I was a woman, I'd be impressed he went the extra mile.

[@michaelblacktree]

Honestly, I might be a little annoyed at the wasted food. But I'd get over it. Actually, it looks like that's what happened in the video. The second chick was just a total ass.

[@christophersmith8316]

if its all mashed potatoes and gravy you could put that in containers and freeze/refrigerate it and eat it. They don't go bad.

[@KurNorock]

She didn't expect them to eat all of that. It was just for fun.

[@checkfactschecking]

This is why we have freezers.

[@davidp3727]

The first woman is wife material

[@lesseirgpapers9245]

non are. They all have blue water syndrom.

[@Totsy30]

100%. I had a similar experience with a gf in the past. I walked in the door and first thing I saw was a loaded nerf gun laying on the stairs. Then she shot me from the top of the stairs and the battle was on. That thoughtful silliness is key

[@b4ph0m3tdk9]

Is is so nice when women has humor.

[@abominablesnowman64]

yall gonna get mad at me and thats not what I'm trying to do but it would annoy me coming home and seeing she wasted so much food cause theres no way they're finishing all that and I'm sure it gets annoying having to mash potatoes for the next 1 2 weeks.

[@davidp3727]

@abominablesnowman64 nah I can see what you mean mash patato would get boring after a week but honestly would be better than getting nagd over blue toilet water

[@Portia620]

I’m a light hearted woman!!! 🥂❤️. I laugh a ton and don’t sweat the little stuff! Either you have the attitude or you don’t just some of us are a little bit more goofier than other! 😂😂. That’s the only way to roll Life’s too short have fun.

[@maximuswedgie5149]

Been married for 34 years, a guy I worked with called in and ended up in jail, kitchen burned down, domestic violence charges, total nightmare fight. They ended up getting divorced over this event. I asked him what started it and he said “ a bean went between the stove and the counter”. I never will forget this.

[@Anthony_in_Bloomington_Indiana]

. What are you writing about? Your description is so choppy. Did you smoke weed during 9th grade English class? 🌿 .

[@maximuswedgie5149]

@@Anthony_in_Bloomington_Indiana it’s about how the little things that don’t really matter can ruin everything, Kinda like reading a comment on KZbin and insulting the person that wrote it. It’s about how pettiness can ruin your life. Stop letting little things get to you so much. Be happy.

[@ricku9487]

The jurassic park music made me love her. That man is incredibly lucky. It's just a monday night but she set the week off on a VERY positive note.

[@Mikexxx531]

Potatoes and giggles every night for the rest of the month!

[@mattf3761]

One of the girls at work bought and decorated a whole sheet cake for one of our guys last days. That was so sweet I'll be thinking about that for a long time

[@rogerhuggettjr.7675]

You nailed it on goofy vs. too serious. I spent 20 years (actually less as she left me a few times) with a person whose idea of letting me lead was to judge every choice, emotion or idea that she didn't like, didn't go well or gave her the ick. I could be too unsophisticated one minute and be "gay" if I thought there was a proper way to do something. Finally at 56 I've met someone that equally appreciates private time without seeing it as an affront to her, respects my knowledge and wisdom. On the times she doesn't see eye to eye with me her response is usually, "That's interesting." She's goofy and allows me to be quirky with my puns and dry humor without getting a funny look. Things are so much better when you don't have to self-censor to avoid having to defend your personality for every word that slips out of your mouth.

[@Petaurista13]

I don't think adult perosn throwing 30-mnths tantrum over blue toilet water is "too serious". It's rather "too immature". I knew guy wh wet into battle mode for 3 days over a pen but it was last memorabilia from somebody he deeply loved. We're talking about 10 times longer over blue water in toilet.

[@jesusliebtdich1112]

Wow you have nerves! 20 years with a nagging wife… you should get paid a million bucks for that!

[@georgew.5639]

Did she not understand that that was a toilet bowl cleaner? Really! 😲 You are spot on Emily. Thank you. 😊

[@puffbot]

Absolutely vouch for this. My ex wife was initially fun but as the years passed, the mask slipped off and she became very serious with zero appreciation for anything and everything. You've nailed it again!

[@PaulGAckerman]

Mashed potato birthday ski ramp? YES!

[@tommyagain38]

It looked like a male body part to me and she wanted his dessert after dinner.

[@gravityissues5210]

With Dino-nuggies!

[@thegoblinsteed3558]

Welcome to Jurassic Park.....

[@tackyman2011]

@@thegoblinsteed3558 We spared no expense.

[@Butterflysoul1990]

More women should be like the woman in the 1st video, but they are very, very, very rare to see & have. I know I try to be like that women in the 1st video every day in my own life.

[@christophersmith8316]

that's a lot of potatoes!

[@notavailable4596]

​@@christophersmith8316Salute for the Kramer reference.

[@TheWMBWLife]

She'll never put any thought or effort into it if she just don't care. If she thinks of you often and makes an effort like the woman at the beginning, she's a keeper.

[@johnathanmason9116]

Of all the women in support of men with a channel. your explanations for life experience with women have been eye opening to me.

[@Sticks04]

Spot on, Emily. My late wife did this for me by always, always, ALWAYS meeting me at the door when I got home from work. She would let the dog out first who would run to greet me... and she would wait for me at the door with a smile, a kiss and a hug. Everyday I came home and I felt loved by her... and our dog. After 25 years... it was still as uplifting a moment for both of us as it was day one. My main objective every single day had nothing to do with my work... or money... or anything else. It was simply to get home to her as soon as I could. Never take these moments for granted, guys. One day it will be gone... so always focus on the positive and treasure each other.

[@leosthrivwithautism]

I remember long ago in my middle school days (this shows how good things aren’t forgotten). A girl back then started talking to me. I was a nervous mess. And not used to girls randomly talking to me. And many times I actively avoided here but she found a way to keep talking to me. She was nice. She didn’t see my flaws. She joked around and was quirky just like me. And most of all she made me feel normal and appreciated. She brought out the best in me. We became friends and later that developed into more. But at that age she had a mother back then that did not allow her today date till high school. And she admitted she liked me but couldn’t date me. We stayed connected and glued to the hip till one day her land line was cut and I moved. We never were able to reconnect again. And till this day I miss her. Because I haven’t come across another woman like her since. And I’ve talked to so many after her. If I ran into her by luck somehow and she was still single and remembered me there is a chance something could potentially spark. But I don’t believe it’ll happen. Most women I’ve met are like woman 2 in this video or they lean more towards woman 2. The first woman sounds like a dying breed soon to be extinct. It’s one of the many reasons I remain single. I got fed up with it. And decided to focus on my own life. Got better things to do than to spend any time thinking about relationships. Only relationships I go after today is business relationships. That’s it. If a woman like the first one ever walked into my life and showed me interest maybe I’ll consider exploring further. But actively searching is something I’m done with. And if that keeps me single so be it!

[@dannycolwell8028]

You know with the internet you could probably find her

[@leosthrivwithautism]

@@dannycolwell8028 Tried it. Was unsuccessful. Unfortunately.

[@_DejaVu_131]

If I were the husband of the second woman, I would be more mad that now everyone who has access to the internet and knows them, knows about that "problem".

[@stewvaardt7376]

She still wants validation from her friends (The Jones's) that blue water is cheap. Note he didn't fix the one that visitors won't see.

[@bdickinson6751]

Nah ! She and her stinking attitude are the "problem".

[@rawhidehat]

You’re right. She added embarrassment to the disagreement. Public humiliation is the worst thing.

[@anominousanonymous9344]

Yeah, I'd have to divorce her immediately if I was the husband. Maybe that's why I never got married... there are too many reasons I could see getting a divorce.

[@EyeOfScrutiny]

This simple example is a video that every woman should watch. It simply is so indicative of the indignation that good men need to deal with.

[@mfrank3518]

I agree 100%. Find a woman that seems genuinely happy and doesn’t need you around all the time

[@keith_hudson]

I’ve heard a woman will never lie. She will always show you the truth and we overlook her red flags. Looking back in my life….oh my this is true🤯

[@kitslagle6296]

There are women in this world that treat men horrible simply because they can, because they know they will take it and keep taking it. Somewhere they got this idea that because men by design can take a lot of punishment physically and mentally that it is ok to abuse them. After me and my ex-wife divorced we got in a conversation one day and I asked her why she treated me so bad. Her honest response was "because I can". This is the reason I have stayed single for years; that and she cheated on me with multiple men and sometimes women because like you said she was living that lifestyle before we got married and I had no idea and could not stop. She would literally start fights just so we could have makeup sex. When I would not give in to the tantrum she would go find someone to sleep with. The thought of winding up in a hellhole experience keeps me from wanting a relationship.

[@gc4644]

Damn dude, and I thought i married toxic wackjob. I hope you've healed and have a great life after living that nightmare..

[@unicornkitty8105]

You married a narcissist.

[@timesthree5757]

The first man his inner child was giddy. He's thinking oh my I love this woman.

[@purringsounds]

The blue bowl is a cleaning item which makes the toilet clean all the time. Much easier to clean. Oh my God, I really feel sorry for this man. I hope he reads this and will dump her immediately. Then I have a beer with him. Cheers.

[@tommyagain38]

Meanwhile she leaves stinky bloody tampons in the trash and complains he never takes the trash out.

[@alansummerscales3376]

That's her goal, get dumped so she wins half his stuff and can get back on the carousel

[@jstample]

It’s a bleach tablet with blue color afaik. You can get them uncolored. No need to freak out about little things that don’t even matter like colored water though… it’s non permanent and if you’re worried about how it looks to others…. Get over yourself

[@DC-se3ko]

First world problem

[@trinsit]

I think that's true for both men and women. Being joyful by your own nature is the best thing everyone can do for the world.

[@paulbrown9415]

It's sad that we are just learning all of this now. The light-hearted woman. It makes sense. Please keep up the great work you do, Emily.

[@AllWalkerB]

*gasps, clutches his arm* "Look! A bird! Isn't it super cute?" A woman who does that is a woman you bring home to meet your mother

[@stephanie-atarahrose.8149]

Enjoying little things .

[@MrByootox]

Single and free for 14 years now, the freedom is something to be savoured 😁☺️ Will never ever go back there again.

[@shj2783]

Oh no, she did. "Blue water like we are in a 7-11"..."we live in a nice house in a nice neighborhood". She just feels it is low-class and can't stand it. No reason other than "what will people who pee in our house think"?!?! Insane. For a month of endless nagging, because of her own perceived status. Ugh

[@FREEDOMGUNNER]

I have a love/hate relationship with your videos! I love them because hearing such a supportive women lightens my heart and gives me hope Sadly, I'm already condemned to the 25yrs in a ball & chain of what never was is all I get. I wish I understood that back when I could've done something about it. I recommend all guys and gals LISTEN to this young lady! If you don't, you'll be stuck in the same ball and chain of being a dutiful husband and father with no appreciation for the rest of your life. My role is to provide a home and maintain emotional stability for the family and be invisible. I thought that's just how it is. Now I realize some women, other than my deceased mother, do care about her man's happiness.

[@eddiea3251]

My guess is, she is cheating on him. She just got back from a "work trip" and he always has the house cleaned, does laundry and she has no complaints about that. So I don't buy she's a control freak. I believe she met up with her AP while on this "work trip" and now feels guilty. She has to find a reason to start an argument to justify her cheating and the blue toilet water is the reason. It will get worse from here and she will blame him for her unhappiness to the point she will eventually file for divorce. There has to be the straw that broke the camels back and something as stupid as this "blue water" is usually all that it takes. Now I could be completely wrong but who knows? Only the husband I guess.

[@delsolman24]

Yeah her guts are getting dug out by boss or IT guy.

[@IzziedeD]

my ex was like the blue toilet water lady. emily hit the nail on the head - rather than accepting that i did things differently than her, i was treated as if my way of doing it was invalid. that's so frustrating.

[@CommanderReplay]

I got screamed at once for leaving the garage light on. The problem was solved by flicking the light switch down. Needless to say we arent together, and I found a really good test to figure out if a girl is a keeper.

[@Kjustno]

@@CommanderReplay I'm glad you're free of that. I got yelled at, lied to, manipulated, and abused, and gaslit as well because she told me I was the problem at every turn. So I've shut down now and no longer want anymore relationships. I hope you find a good keeper

[@OfficialSeth]

If your girl ever hums Jurassic Park to you and offers you a dino nuggie then put a ring on her immediately. Also, I knew that Emily's second example would be the crazy blue toilet water chick.

[@dashady187]

I think it goes to show that women will always try and place their feelings of stress and anxiety on SOMETHING. No matter what you do and how much you help around the house it's never enough. The goalposts will always move because these issues are not really issues that need solved, it's just where their mind goes when they are anxious, which unfortunately is most of the time and it's not our sole responsibility to cater to women's mental health.

[@Clockwork.Lemon854]

Yep never happy.

[@Cmartgeek]

I always told my husband and kids, I don’t care how you load the dishwasher, we can run that thing 5 times in order for all the dishes to get clean if we need to, I’m just glad the dishes are getting in the dish washer.

[@jocla1]

Emily, thank you for this. You have perfectly described my siituation. I will never get married or even get involved with any woman again. It has been 10 years since the divorce and there is still nothing left in me. It is somehow comforting to know that I am not alone and that some people actually understand what has happened.

[@dbrear1954]

I'm not only familiar with that type of "control freak" woman - This video has inspired me to go to the hardware store and buy a box of those toilet "blue" water disks !

[@katemiller7874]

You can get them in the grocery store dear by the cleaning supplies

[@jomojojo6603]

Great video, Emily. Guys, if your partner nags, criticizes or complains about your jokes, it will never get better. It will only get worse. A girl who can laugh and joke with you is the kind of person you want in your life.

[@totallylegit4092]

Yeah I saw that blue water thing and I was surprised…I knew from the start of her video it was going to be something stupid…but I was not expecting it the THAT stupid.

[@markaurelius61]

Yes! Light heartedness is great. In fact, "Happy wife, happy life" should mean Choose a woman who is already happy, then you have a chance at a happy life.

[@miketacos9034]

Exactly. When people take everything the wrong way or can't lighten up, it represents a fragility or volatility in their soul.

[@keltingr2612]

This is 110% good advice, I am married to a blue toilet water woman who is never happy with anything

[@sighrd]

You are so absolutely right Emily. Like not just right, chiseled on to an ancient stone tablet right. Most men could not articulate it but we know exactly what you are talking about instintively. Most of my friends have xpressed it as "She's not like the others, she is really cool and fun to be around". I used to think it was "I don't want a girly girl/princess type". But you hit the nail on the head here, it's not about whether she is a tom boy or a girly girl, it's can she relax and be fun or is she allways picky and uptight. Unfortunately the high drama/wound tight type are often pretty good at hiding their true crazy until it is to late.

[@hummingbird4934]

Oh dear I wonder if that’s what my ex thought in the end. I was always very sweet and loving and still was after we moved in together but unfortunately our move coincided with a new job that turned out to be toxic af. I was there seven years and I became very depressed and withdrawn in that time and ended up having a nervous breakdown. Things ended between us but I still love him so much and miss him everyday. I no longer know how to look after my own happiness as people say I feel as though everything I had has been sapped out of me 😢 losing him feels like the last straw

[@hoodedchildx]

lol "omg you are being dramatic" her "no im not" continues being dramatic for a month solid lol

[@OddBallPerformance]

That first woman is exactly how mine is, and you are absolutely correct. When she feels free to show her fun and goofy side that makes me feel like I have done my job as her partner correctly. A woman that can make me smile from just being who she is - most attractive woman on earth.

[@daascia]

I was on the fence about my guy for awhile. Then one day, he was laying in bed and I was till watching TV in the living room. He got up, walked up next to me, booped my nose, and then ran giggling back to the bedroom. I've never forgotten it. That was the day I decided if he asked me to marry him, I would say yes. It was such a simple and small thing. But the fact he didn't stop to worry about if that was a masculine thing to do or not and he did it purely because he knew it would make me smile.

[@johnleca]

A woman who is generally happy because no one is going to make someone else happy. Really good video and I get you and agree 100 percent.

[@Aaron-lx2og]

Just ended a relationship where she built up a bunch of resentment without saying a word, then cheated on me. Upon reflection, the first red flag I should’ve heeded was when she complained about the way her roommates loaded the dishwasher. I have adhd and being with someone like that was NEVER going to work from the start.

[@setpunks13]

thank you so much Emily. You bring a lot of light to a lot of men. I hope you know that

[@belverticale]

Yes, yes and yes. I've always thought this - number one green flag - happiness...number one red flag - bitterness.

[@hehawseve3560]

100%. After spending almost 40 years treated like crap by women, I took a chance on a younger woman who was chasing me. She has a lighthearted,, almost innocence in her basic personality. She's already cute, but her personality makes her look so much sexier than any of the "hot chicks" that I've dealt with in the past. On top, she treats me like her "forever" and actually cares. 1.25 years later, we've not had any remotely serious problems and I have no desire to find anyone else. I'll certainly never chase that other type of woman ever again. That second woman there opened her mouth for 3 seconds and I noped out.