10 Ways To Spot & Deal With A NARCISSIST | Dr. Ramani Durvasula & Lewis Howes

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[@plumeria66]

If you are a kind, good person and a giver, watch out. You are who narcissists are attracted to because they are takers and can use you in a million ways for their gratification.

[@melindadaniel1331]

FACTS 👌

[@lino629]

And they pretend to be an empathic, kind, generous person but its a facade! Its really hard for the genuine empath to recognize, because we think their intent is like our own.. but not so, and that makes us vulnerable! ***Sigh***

[@jimmieuajack007]

Exactly!!!!

[@Laid2Sleep]

Just learned the hard way yesterday lol

[@user-ph5zt6kj5f]

Yes, and it doesn't have to be a love interest either. Narcissists are at epidemic proportion. I swear

[@anglkisez]

I found out real quick that if you listen closely and actually pay attention, whatever they tell you is wrong with you, is actually them telling on themselves! That will be your superpower to get away!

[@GracedToWin]

YES! This person used every term on me that’s used to describe narcissists! I was completely lost especially when he went into a complete rage after I fought back. It took some time but I began to put the pieces of the puzzle together and figured out what he was doing.

[@jessie1090]

It's actually true. Whatever the narc accuses you of, is what they're doing. Projecting..... but showing all their cards at the same time

[@tanyaflanders2196]

Yes!

[@barbc7526]

Yeah, they are the masters of projection.

[@michelefaydobb7247]

Yes!

[@Greenwitch_Garden]

I’m so grateful to grow up before social media.

[@tanyaflanders2196]

The world needs this woman. So informative!

[@purplepinkycha]

I am just learning that I married a narcissist and I am so grateful to know why I was feeling so sad all the time. I gave him everything and it still wasn’t enough for him to love me. I’ve decided to love me again, and I’m ready to leave for good.

[@kathiedorion8731]

I went through counselling with my Narc Ex; it turned to I was the problem. He only went to outsmart the therapist; I will never do couples counselling again.

[@charitygoldart]

I had a narcissist friend who was very proud of the fact she went to therapy, and even weaponised it to get one-up on me because I'm not currently in therapy, BUT she would very carefully pick therapists who reinforced her view of the world. She actually fired one who she said 'stood up for other people too much.' These people will go to therapy, but only to use it for their own ends.

[@kathiedorion8731]

@@charitygoldart That's why it's so important to find a therapist that is trained to spot Narcissitic behaviors.

[@fancystreet1429]

Happened to me too. He charmed the therapist and it all got turned around to me being the problem and maybe I had ADD. 🤷‍♀️

[@lb5068]

It's possible the counselor was a narcissist too and related more to them. Had that experience when speaking to a divorce attorney. It's a thing. Needless to say I didn't hire him but I did have to pay his consulting fee!

[@nurzakiahza7368]

I totally understand! I don’t trust counsellors per se. they are human too and they can be bias

[@theleeannebrown]

7 years in a narcissistic marriage, all previous relationships with narcissists and many family members narcissists! I'm on a healing journey and now a Narcissist Abuse Specialist and Somatic Trauma Coach! I'm learning to turn my pain into my power!

[@Bob-zh6dw]

Are you still married?

[@NELLIE1LOVE]

I commend you! I'm trying to figure out who and where to go searching for a TRUSTING support system now, its been several yrs of situations. After I lost my husband (he died right next to me in bed I woke thinking he was sleep), never healed a few yrs later was pursued by a person I grew up with and had no idea how much they changed since. By the time I realized how bad it was I was already closed off to all my friends and family bc of my pride and shame trying to handle it myself, in the process lost my mother, best friend and countless other relatives in tragic ways during all these times I was emotionally and mentally abused. He was incarcerated for attacking my coworker a few yrs later I left the state for a better life for my children. I stayed single for a few yrs. Met someone another person whom was smoother at hiding who he really is but less abusive sim traits though, picking fights esp on days like my deceased mothers birthday or my deceased uncle day of death (by his son) and I have yet to really unload all that I have endured bc it just keeps on coming with no break in btwn to be able to start to heal from the 1st trauma up until present.

[@whendis.roberts9903]

Awesome

[@rochelleweinkranz8233]

​@whendis.roberts9903

[@karinajones1121]

How do you do that?I want to!

[@debraleamclaughlin6784]

Just broke off with a guy I been dating for just a year. I actually broke up twice with him before this final. I just knew something was off but I could not figure it out. Now that he is no longer in my life I’ve found this Doctor and boy did she put everything into perspective. I feel relieved and happy I made the correct choice to get away from him. I can breath again.

[@Portia620]

Yes! We can breath again!!! Pay close attention to how you were before and during the relationship!

[@mariahconklin4150]

I've met so many men that are toxic it's sad.

[@MegaRose1958]

I am happy for you! It took me five years to end my Toxic relationship, I too knew something wasn't right from the beginning, but I couldn't figure it out. I didn't know anything about Narcissistic personalities until I went into hiding when I was getting out of my relationship! I too am so happy I was able to finally get out of it.

[@lynx9704]

It sounds like you're a covert narcissist that took advantage of a guy. The woman chooses if to get in or out of a relationship with a man. You gave no context to your story, which makes your "story" very weird, incomplete and it's usually what a woman does to make herself feel better about herself. My guess is that you trashed the guy.

[@debbievoss3496]

My deal was to love this person to health, blah, blah, blah. Yeah, it's what I wanted for me & others; but, it literally set me up to be in the lion's den over & over. Now I'm older, exhausted, & am into being a recluse & little old lady. Just need to get meals on wheels going & I can stay inside & not have to deal with perpetrators around every FUCKING corner. Forget love interests. I'm just staying alive for now.

[@erkinalp]

Narcissist do change, but only towards the worse: they become more covert and more intense after each supply.

[@DashadashaPilova]

Omg

[@mariedonnelly8646]

When you understand narcissism, it’s very sad for all parties

[@bluelake6646]

How exhausting to live with a narcissistic oerson.Whatever uou do, they are not happy, they do not trust you, believe you, and love does not make them happy.They are stuck in their inner world.Their love is only superficial.

[@jessie1090]

🔥Narcissism is the opposite of authenticity🔥

[@willabestorms6059]

pure genius…

[@yukio_saito]

✍ The DEEP technique: 🚫 Don't Defend 🚫 Don't Engage 🚫 Don't Explain 🚫 Don't Personalize I love that. It's easy to remember and simple to practice.

[@paulinematthews294]

😊❤

[@abancommissariat6411]

Gonna remember! Checks all the boxes!

[@ledam2654]

I would add and DON'T RUMINATE about their pathology or harass yourself trying to figure out the delusion behind their pathology.

[@debbierobertsgodwin7495]

Thank you so much! These are really great 👍🏻😃🤓❤️

[@tanteglitter2196]

The hardest being "dont't personalize"

[@bluelake6646]

How true they are constantly angry, constantly anxious.

[@saluma1447]

Yes!!

[@Caroline-ez8ls]

YES!!!!!

[@georginafronda496]

Absolutely true..

[@CorneliaClifford]

@@Caroline-ez8lsdefe Dr

[@plumeria66]

My sister is a vainglorious, power-hungry, attention-seeking narcissist. Whenever I ask her a question about something that would be helpful to me, instead of giving me an answer, she uses the opportunity to make herself feel better than me by belittling me for asking her in the first place. I henceforth only text her twice a year: happy birthday and merry christmas.

[@AudreyTobias444]

😢

[@chrisnam1603]

@plumeria66 i soooo know what u mean! :s

[@erin5364]

😢

[@EvaArt-ud6gwari]

Good for you. Taking the supply away.

[@user-ph5zt6kj5f]

Plumeria...they cannot answer a simple yes or no question can they? Too important they are for that.

[@abancommissariat6411]

I just love this lady. Addressing a similar situation and giving me options. Please have her back!

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for being here!

[@yukio_saito]

1:29:00 The narcissistic relationship cycle: Love bombing ➡ Devaluing ➡ Discard ➡ Hoovering ➡ Future faking 🔙 Love bombing

[@theresesilvawalker8407]

Check check check CHECK CHECK

[@JudiFYd]

here's a ... 'my baď@jÖKe4♤2😅day ... Q:¿¿¿what is mean and round??? Å:¡¡¡Å viĆious ÇirÇle = ÇyclÇle!!!

[@arnhildlaurinelindkvist9444]

After 8 years alone now i'm starting to find myself... I lived with an narsissist for,31 years and we got 4 children together.He have taken over half my life,and now he have taken the children in his power... I have no contact with him,or my children because it's not getting nowhere else than more of this behaviour and i don't wont to put more gasoline in to it..,i just have to wait..,it's nothing i can do!..I need to thank you so much for this podcast 💞 EVERYTHING she said about an narsissist is tru.., EVERYTHING! Please be careful and never,ever forget what has been told today🙏💟

[@andrereloaded1425]

This fantastic woman has helped countless people understand these empty monsters we call narcissists. It helps you process the damage they've caused.

[@larondaangelo4554]

I grew up with a narcissist father.. I always felt the need to apologize for being born .. I walked on egg shells and felt fear everyday of my life.. I still loved him so much

[@alllifematters]

I had to take a class for my job and we were studying the gait and assessing one another's walk and how the foot hit the floor. It was the first time that I realized I walked on my tippy toes!!! Your heel is supposed to hit the floor, too!!! I was mind blown to discover that even after decades away from my narc parent I still walked in a way to not make any noise!!

[@ThamithaAnnable]

Same. I told him literally via message, "When you F with mom, I did not choose to come. It is your fault for having fun for making me." Then, no contact.

[@nestorcharlotte7788]

That part on apologizing to being born

[@LisaAnn-py8iq4MyChildren]

What would you tell a young woman who didn't know that her dad is a narcissist?

[@shumatsuopost]

I've dealt with narcissistic people before and it was such a draining experience. You gave great tips on how to spot and deal with them in a healthy way.

[@BigMoney23223]

This woman is amazing, I was seeing a girl a few years back who was spot on what she talks about. At first she was charming, nice, WAY too nice, there were so many traits to list I can go on for an hour of the act she put on. After 2/3 months she very slowly started turning the screws on me like she thought I wouldn’t notice cause she gave it enough time that she thought she had me hooked.I switched my schedule up 180 degrees so I wouldn’t have to see her again at work, I had a new career lined up within a week. I put my notice in while I switched my schedule up. And just quit the job completely. I’m sure it rocked her world that I put on the front of just another sucker that she could continue snapping at me like I wasn’t noticing. I haven’t spoken a word to her since I walked out of the job for the last time over 3 years ago. If I would have stayed with her who knows what my mental health would have been like today. I’m sure that’s never happened to her before and I’m sure I bruised her ego for which she deserves. She was one of the worst people I’ve ever met

[@ThamithaAnnable]

Thank you for this interview. I wish that I had found it earlier. 5 years ago, my guts told me I worked around Narcissistic people and flying monkeys. I was new. I didn't defend. I didn't engage. I didn't explain, I didn't complain, and I didn't personalize. The management went above and beyond by setting many warm meetings with me and telling me what those people said about me, and because of my work were all fine. They could not understand the issues they had. I knew there was something off about the place. I don't mind hopping to several places to find the hard-to-find "empath" boss and coworkers. People say that I am passive-aggressive and let them say what they want. I was quiet and grounded.

[@mariahconklin4150]

That's sad and I understand. Some man was grooming me at work and when I spoke up they said they would do something and they did nothing I finally just quit.

[@Scorpio12348]

I’m not ever quitting for anybody

[@roopahiremath221]

I realize that I am such a normal (beautiful heart) and better person when I am away from narcissistic.

[@Priya_the_princess]

I can listen her for hours❤❤

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for being here!

[@marcy7105]

My goodness: "You can't tell them good news because they will be dismissive or ridiculing, you can't tell them bad news because they get really angry and rage full, so all you can really talk about is neutral stuff like the weather!? Aha (nods)." 😢 to have a resolved endurance 🙏🏼 and wisdom

[@tinsheek]

Youre the best Dr. Ramani!❤ thanks lewis for interviewing her🤗 we learned a lot!💜

[@lewishowes]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@plumeria66]

If someone shows no interest in what I am saying and/or shows no empathy if I tell them about something I or someone else is going thru, it’s safe to say they are a narcissist. The most important thing is after knowing how to love myself, I now lose interest in engaging with such people and can easily move on without ever looking back and second guessing myself. Work on your self love and self worth, know the red flags, and know what to do when you see the red flags.

[@jzen1455]

I know that hollow feeling when interacting with narcissists. They tend to talk at me, and it's obvious they're putting on an act.

[@plumeria66]

@@jzen1455 That’s the only way they know how to act!

[@goodgrandma8936]

Good for you!!! Keep up the good work 👏 🙌 👍 👌 💪 😉

[@plumeria66]

@@goodgrandma8936 Thank you! We are survivors! Best wishes! 👍🙏🤗

[@mariahconklin4150]

I noticed that when I talked about someone like for instance Dr Ramni about things I learned (just giving an example) he would say, "This again? You talk about this all the time." It's like gee thanks

[@LiBRA1111]

I totally feel Lewis’s “Ohhhh my Goshhhh” 😅

[@nadiyaahmed1394]

😂😂 Me too 😅

[@LiBRA1111]

@@nadiyaahmed1394 🤣

[@angelaknight7184]

I married a narc for 25 years ,in the end I said enough ,I had it all,mind games was the worst ,

[@atirliag2833]

25 years is also the time I spent in, too long anywho lesson learned, DEEP.

[@livinggood6876]

There are so many narcissists around us. Thank you for this video. I love the reactions and questions of the host/interviewer, Lewis Howes.

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@Signal_11010]

There are way too many of them for my liking.

[@andreamarie1985]

I’ve had no contact with at least four narssacists. It’s so awesome. You can’t heal if you keep these people around.

[@jzen1455]

DEEP aka “grey rocking” or basically tuning them out and detaching from them. I’ve learned to grey rock with my mom when I was around 9 after I came to the conclusion that talking with her just stressed me out and led to her exploding with rage unexpectedly.

[@amorosogombe9650]

People confuse transactional with reciprocal. Those are two very different things.

[@JudiFYd]

@amorogombe96 in my 10-year relationship with a psychopath sociopath narcissist our relationship was not reciprocal but he did have a transactional one with prostitutes that he called that he called sex workers and literally stated it was a transaction he was helping him pay the electric bill which he just left out his illegal

[@meredysuru1521]

Also. Jealousy is a form of thought for people who are insecure. Being jealous shows you have self disbelief and lack of trust. If you have a person whos true. Youll never be jealous, you know regardless of their ideal charisma that they will be true to you. Jealousy is the fear that they may be not. Also. Jealousy is a failed form of control. Once you have full conteol of your mind and body. You let that go. The moment you become a real individual

[@larondaangelo4554]

I always look to how my date treats wait staff at a restaurant ..

[@Avogadros_number]

Lewis, let her finish her sentence. Please.

[@dawngartner1185]

Best you tube video EVER!! It covers sooooo much! It's 3hrs and 9 mins long but it's a total package of revelation of the traits of a Narcissist, how it effects you and how to heal from it and have a healthy relationship from there on out! WOW!! Wow wow wow wow wow!! You'll be saying that throughout this video. It's a 3hr jump start to opening your eyes and mind and heart up to what's really going on in your life! Thanks you two! If people REALLY listen to this and keep referring back to it they'll be a lot more better off!

[@lewishowes]

Appreciate you and your support🧡

[@attilladahun1775]

I’ve been married for 16 years and I’ve always felt like every problem was my fault

[@ollia]

"Anyone who is a doer and it's worked for them.." - yep, it'll get you stuck in a toxic relationship. If you are that, you will keep trying to make it work with a narc, while the narc's goal is antagonism, they strive for it to never work.

[@cc1k435]

A good relationship takes EFFORT, which should be more of a pleasure than pain to do, but not the force of very hard work. To me, there's a very big difference between those two situations. ❤

[@tianaforest1626]

Wow, I thought I was going to watch this in chunks, but it was so engaging that the time flew by so fast. Excellent compilation 👏

[@leslie-annreid5749]

It's been seven years, and I'm still in that single-for-the-rest-of-my-life phase. I'm not sure I know how to get out of it.

[@AprilSunshine]

I'm not convinced we ever should lol

[@suraya1224]

It's been 20 yrs for me. PTSD, from the nightmare w/him, still working on trusting my own discernment.

[@goodgrandma8936]

​@@AprilSunshine If you ever want to be happy, just leave. I did but because they are so controlling, I had to plan it carefully. With the help of my Boss, he got me a transfer out of State. We worked different hours and I scheduled movers to move me on a day he was working.

[@GeorgiaJakes7]

Me too almost. With one for 25 years and now single for 6 1/2 years. I have literally said yesterday that I plan on being single the rest of my life. A relationship seems like so much work right now. Don’t feel like I’ll change. Going through death of my father 3 months ago now. We were very close and I took care of him the last 3 years. Now I’ve got to start over my career and my social life. I don’t have the energy for a man. Lol!

[@user-de2zb3bt8x]

Just wanted to say that I am one of those "unicorns" of the universe. You melted my heart, when I heard that it is a word used to describe an empath, who is kind, loving and caring, who takes care of you if you are a friend, and sooooo much more if I like someone. The person who makes sure everything is good for you aswell as for me. But the news to me was that people find us so rare as unicorns. You made my day so much better. Thank you for that❤

[@marisamarino7596]

Every time I traveled with my ex it was a total nightmare. I ended up having to walk away.

[@wendyrodriguez8198]

Gosh you are the queen! Thank you so much for this. It just gave me so much validation and insight to the craziness I’ve been dealing with for the last 17 years !!!

[@shnixter]

Raised by a malignant narcissistic mother. I so relate to "closing the gates."

[@Debs785]

This is breaking my heart, Dr Ramini, you are describing my life, my partner is out of my life but he is love bombing, guilt tripping me on a daily basis. He never takes responsibility for his actions. I am broken now, feel alone, he is turning everyone against me. I need help.

[@ElizabethWarrenYeahYeah]

Hang in there. Stay strong and set your boundaries. Learn to say NO. Stick to the decisions you have made and don't let them persuade you to change your mind or drop the boundary. Do things for yourself not them. So if something he suggests doesn't suit you, just say no, and don't give a reason why. You don't owe them an explanation. If they throw the toys out of their pram because you don't want to do whatever, you know that is what they really feel. The love bombing is all an act. You're a known supply and he hasn't got new supply, so you're the easiest option for him. Just remember the shyte he put you through, the people he has alienated just to keep hold of you, and know that he will do it all again. They don't know how to love, it's all for their easy life, not yours. But if all of his drama and damage is what you want, then just jump right back in. You deserve better. Pop me a message or reply for support, if you wish. Best. E ❤

[@catherinepraus8635]

It’s always a win lose game with them after 24yrs had to walk away so hard I just told him you win we lose I was always put on a shelf only taken down when it benefits him

[@diane19456]

My spouse had a 57 red Chevy convertible and he is the most malignant narcissistic!!! You hit the nail on the head! At 81 he is a horrible person. Your advice has saved my sanity and ultimately my life! Thank you from the bottom of my empathetic heart!

[@cjay2658]

This describes my ex to a Tee! So glad I'm not in that relationship anymore!

[@jeanannedupratt7075]

This video/interview is a real gem Somehow, I have had my Epiphany this time. I hope you do too. May I suggest this : Run the tape when you are doing something else, like preparing a meal, dressing up, etc. The message comes through in its soft, non-accusatory, evident way that you may be able to appreciate your own libération from self blame and learn to love the person you are more. The truths here are unbiased and as clear as can be. Enjoy. 🎉❤

[@JN-bw2wp]

This is podcast is on point about everything. Hearing about Lewis having these issues in prior relationships leads me to believe that this can happen to anybody. It makes me not feel alone. Thank you. The word "exhausting" describes everything about being in a relationship with a narcissist, or in my case BPD I have a toddler with her and she's now "jokingly" blaming the toddler for things she does. If I even mention that she shouldn't be doing that, she would say "you don't have social queus, you can't even tell when I am joking". I also have been accused of having autism. Can't explain, can't argue back.

[@Starlightndust]

I once spoke to afriend, who I've never seen for at least 30 years on the phone. I told her Ihad Cancer. Her reply to me was "Now you're better". No empathy or compassion.

[@mrsks5399]

I really hope more people are getting educated about this topic before it's too late.

[@musclelegancemusclelegance5642]

This lady is amazing I love her work ❤

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for being here!

[@kault324]

Lewis, you could describe narcissism, couldn't you? Haven't you intimately experienced that personality type? Do you recognize yourself as the empath? Empaths attract narcissists. Could be a good interview topic: how does the empath keep narcissists away?

[@leilagomulka5690]

Yes. My ex was wildly jealous of men who were friends. He ruined relationships with paranoid unwarranted jealousy. Then I was the target of his wrath. When I exited the relationship it became a global smear campaign against me . Dr. Ramani , is there the possibility of love after loss, especially when my reputation has been besmirched . Will anyone care enough to get to know the real me. 💔

[@raziel5801]

Doc, I'm so happy to see, hear you happy. You are a genuinely good spirit.

[@breezyakanan7544]

I had hoped that Dr. Ramani would have spoken in-depth about adult children whom you discover late in their life that they are narcissistic.

[@DearEva.]

I love Dr. Ramani. Excellent.

[@sharlotteseiber375]

Some religions if your baptized in that religion than your baptizing your family in the religion, choices is so important in life. Taking the them away, giving them, using them, grateful for them, changing them, your choice reflects you cognitive experience with your knowledge and the wisdom and the environment and pain levels, and depression

[@MikeBarron1]

Thanks for this wonderful information about dealing with a Narcissist. 💯👊💪

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@BeachyD]

I divorced my narcissistic ex nearly three years ago, and I kid you not - he took me to San Francisco on our fourth date.

[@bluelake6646]

Dr Ramani you are super expert at this and ypu exactly know how this narcissistic people are. I know this from my experience.

[@norameehan4633]

This was extremely helpful. Thank you so much for sharing these insights, especially the DEEP awareness needed to deal with these individuals. It is the best direction to take. Great advice, do not let yourself get caught in the tangled madness of the game these individuals like to play with others hearts and minds. Thank you. . . blessings 🙏

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@leilagomulka5690]

Yes. The most endearing action a man /men ever made to me was being extremely vulnerable. There is strength in brokenness. Lovable ness. And revealing it to the one who has always loved you. Even if you couldn’t , didn’t believe it.

[@snickerzruiz8405]

Love her . He sounds like he is full of fear, and I’m glad she called him out on it 🎊

[@deef6424]

1:27:42 Boom!! She just described exactly where I am in myself, currently in a relationship with a narcissist!

[@realmseeker814]

This is 100% my daughter in law, I fell so bad for my son as she has sucked him in twisted his mind and turned him into a victim. 😢

[@jeanier.1588]

My sister is a severe narcissist! Nice to everyone until someone disagrees with her, then you become her victim for the rest of your life! Anything & everything she can do to make every day life miserable for anyone she can. Her daughter is exactly like her, they can't be around each other because they are exactly the same in every aspect. They make up things to cause havoc/harm to anyone & everyone they can.

[@barb6868]

I love this doctor! She is so intelligent. I’m a teacher, and her explanations are so easy to understand. I would love to talk to her.

[@leilagomulka5690]

Like the Billy Joel verse: “ and I would choose to be with you. As if the choice were mine to make. But you can make decisions too, and you can have this heart to break. Accepting that it’s okay for you to reject me . I won’t ever hurt you for this.

[@traetuusplays8987]

To be fair folks. Normal folks have these characteristics as well once narced to hell and back. Gotta realize narcs have to consistently perform 6 out of the 9 traits.

[@codyspinks8654]

The real stuff. Just happened to me with a coworker that acted like I was her best friend over 10 years lol

[@Kyshalise]

He says I deflect, but it’s my attempt to try to get him to change and see wrong in his behavior. I’ll say this you did hurt my feelings and you did it 2 weeks ago and then a month ago, and he says I bring up the past. It’s just me trying to show he keeps repeating behavior and hurting me

[@Blessed19191]

Can you do a video on the physical impact on the body causing illnesses with narcissists🧐🤔😌

[@CB19087]

Anyone carrying shame attached to their identity can appear narcissistic. Lack of empathy and refusing to take accountability is what to look for, as well as what she says at the beginning

[@samtorres8186]

Literally an icon. I could listen to her talk all day

[@floricadunca6909]

Thank you again to invite dr Ramani🙏❤️🌹

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@user-ph5zt6kj5f]

Gotta say...I, really, like the gray in doctors hair. Beautiful.

[@sunshine8697]

Thank you for this incredible, in-depth, full presentation Lewis! 🙏🏻🤍 Dr.Ramani is wonderful! She has been a Godsend in my healing journey from 2 very specific narcissistic relationships through radical acceptance! Her teaching therapies, coaching and wisdom have been complete game changers! Learning, listening and implementing her strategies have been responsible in helping me live a more gratifying and freeing life! Patience, fortitude, and willingness to implement change are our greatest assets in recovery! Be your best self!

[@user-oy8ok3vx2l]

Omg the guy I’m seeing just asked me to take him home from his colonoscopy and I’m so happy he cares about his health enough to take care of himself. He was embarrassed and I was happy 😂

[@katherinekelly5380]

Interesting point about the plastic surgery- i caught an interview with a plastic surgeon who said more people have a distorted view of themselves - there is a distortion of your features if you are constantly taking selfies - the lens is slight curved and it will make your nose appear bigger and Your chin recede - it really made sense of why ppl are ending up with these teeny tiny noses and chin implants

[@yaelarraiz5845]

There is a kind of Narcissist that can be a giver...but will do anything to be litter you, blame you or stress you out about things that probably will never happen.

[@anonymouscm7270]

Many thanks to both Dr. Ramani and Mr. Lewis Howes for this very very very insightful video🙏🕊🌷💝🤗

[@leilagomulka5690]

Yes. All love is conditional, transactional . The narcissist’s mantra.

[@leilagomulka5690]

Future faking. “ as soon as my tour is over. As soon as my child turns 18 “ as soon as my contract with this music company runs through. I’ve heard it all.

[@peggyllaverias5715]

Omaigashhh what a wonderful night and hours I have spent hearing today this realistic and fluently conversation thanks you both rocking 💌

[@DJ-fh7xn]

You are such a beautiful human.

[@lorrainedevlin6409]

Narcs have a terrible rage and temper when nothing goes how they want it to

[@Veroniq-444]

Dealing with so many is hard to remove myself from them. Especially when your ready to date. Thank you for this added info 👍

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@sitabhatia70]

I am living with one for d past 36 yrs n no escape can u all say what to do ? He is everything u all talk of . Please let me know what i can do as i am unable to do what ever u advise. He is 66 yrs now n getting more nacassis. U both share great information. Thanks to u both.

[@breft3416]

So nice to hear in the comments that there are some female narcissists out there!

[@plumeria66]

Tons. I think men simply don’t post about their narc partners online the way women post about theirs.

[@Rosalie-ct8mi]

yess my mother is a narcissist, a dominant woman as everything always had to go her way and I had to do things like she said otherwise the atmosphere in my home was not pleasant at all as a kid, so I learnt to please her and I was the black sheep of the family.

[@goodgrandma8936]

Me too. My appendix burst and she thought that I was faking being sick. I died on the operating table but I had a great doctor who brought me back to life. Thank God my Daddy had a big heart.

[@soniahathaway1]

My own mother and at least one of my sisters are Narcs. 😢

[@MichaelTheDenfender]

My journey for the last 17 years has been a difficult one. Being married to a person with narcissistic tendency had me questioning my own sanity. I am just now getting the inspiration to leave.

[@dmix2263]

Don’t confuse the rage you feel as the target. 46:55

[@JudeScott007]

If they wont go camping...forget it. If they hzve no sense of humor...forget it!

[@elizahutchings9290]

Do you ever explore the relationship between ADHD and narcissism

[@BerryBlondaewithADHD]

What's that relationship? I'm curious, please share

[@rahmasamir909]

Block them and move on

[@beverleybrangman2191]

This is so amazing, I feel as if you are describing what I have experienced for over 20years from 2 family members. Thank you for shining a light

[@sharlotteseiber375]

I'm so curious on your thoughts of why there is not much ppl that have that live to gift to others with their genuinely empathetic kid person? And what would the narcissistic person want from the victim? And how long does this narcissist feed on the victim? And what if there is children?

[@innatyshchenko3924]

Amazing interview! I feel really thankful