10 Year College Reunion Crisis (I Have No Friends) | Chatty Get Ready With Me

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[@harloewestwood4223]

While I agree with people that say, "if you messed up a relationship it is on you to fix it", but I will add that there is a timeline for fixing it. The sooner the better. If you haven't had communication with these people in 10 years it's too late. That relationship has ended. Contacting them would be about trying to start a new relationship with the people you both are now. Also, really ask yourself if a new friendship with them is something you actually want or is it that you want forgiveness and validation from them for what happened. Sometimes we do crappy things and we feel bad about it, but no one owes us forgiveness even if we atone for what we did. Instead, we have to learn to find understanding and closure about the incident within ourselves and strive to do better in future relationships.

[@deedeeelshamy5599]

Agreed. Let bygones be bygones. Reaching out will surely be unwelcome and awkward at this point. It’s been a whole decade.

[@DX-d]

It’s not “owe you forgiveness “ we need it if we harmed someone.

[@lisawerner6993]

Disagreed. People are essentially the same person throughout life, with minor changes here and there. You are essentially now the same person you were then. (there are where exceptions) It is never too late to salvage a good friendship.

[@DanielleNicoleMakeup]

Someone once said something like this: "Comparison is the thief of happiness" and "Never compare your beginning to someone else's middle." Just a few quotes that really stuck with me. I think a lot of these things we all may worry about will decrease with age. I would imagine most people wish they were further along in life but as I always say, "Instead of focusing on what you can't control, focus on what you CAN control." That's my modo anyway 🥰 I started KZbin last year as it was a hidden passion of mine and instead of worrying about where other ppl are who've been doing it for 5-10-20 yrs, I just focus on getting a bit better every day 😊 Making S.M.A.R.T. goals is also something that's helped me really push myself to hit my goals and make small changes that will hopefully lead to large rewards down the road. All we can do is our best and learn from mistakes right 💞

[@KatieT441]

Great comment! 💗

[@Mony0425]

Great comment.

[@dfl98]

I compared my salary with my coworkers & realized I was underpaid. Robbed my happiness, but also I took it upon myself by doing something about it. 🖤

[@lucylittle2889]

Theodore Roosevelt said “comparison is the thief of joy” 😊

[@CouponFrenzy]

That IS a good quote. I have a quote journal where I write down a quote I like and where I heard it. That one is going in my journal!

[@Masterdre4678]

Honestly I didn’t care to go to my high school reunion I feel like that was a bigger thing before social media and now that there’s social media if I want to stay in contact with people I will, if not life goes on everyone grows up and goes in different directions I don’t compare myself to other peoples lifestyles

[@hannahsalisbury-carter8664]

I really feel this. I am considered objectively 'successful'. Partner for 8 years, 3 yo daughter, just bought our first home and we both have college degree jobs, but guess what? I have no real friends, no family nearby, fight with my partner, struggle with my weight, and honestly hate my job ! I watch your videos all the time and you should be proud of what you have accomplished with youtube!!

[@DX-d]

Isn’t success is about your accomplishments, so how does having a partner or kids account as an accomplishment?

[@hannahsalisbury-carter8664]

@@DX-d thats what I'm saying, Cassie said herself in the video she compares herself to people who are married and who have children when in reality it's about being happy with yourself, your life and your own accomplishments, not comparing to yourself to others

[@missjoasia123]

Having kids is amazing! I can’t wait to start a family. And it is an accomplishment . Only jealous people don’t want to a-knowledge it is. I hope maybe you can change your job or Atleast de stress from it more. We all should be more grateful for what We do Have.

[@ellef2468]

@@DX-d Having children is definitely an accomplishment because there are so many people that can't. I think it's on the top end of accomplishments especially if you give them a good, stable foundation to become amazing humans. I hate that you think it's not but I definitely disagree.

[@kellyspryszak80]

My very best friend and I had a HUGE falling out in our 20s. We had gone through so much together, too. Decades after, I decided to put hurt feelings aside and reach out. Turned out she had been feeling lousy too and now we're still BFFs :)

[@laurenp9821]

Cassie, please, you don’t have to convince anyone except yourself that you’re happy. Please look into continuing therapy !! KZbin isn’t that for you, KZbin isn’t that for anyone! Allow yourself to be happy, help yourself girl!

[@nicoledevine85]

You’re definitely in your head, I’m sure people would think it’s pretty cool that you’re a full time KZbinr and not judge you as much as you think. Also if you messed up a relationship it’s on you to fix it. Best of luck!

[@3_MDA]

Hey Cassie, are you still close to Carmen and Jacob?

[@meen0ru]

Something I say to my trainees, friends, coworkers ALL the time: “You don’t have to do what society tells you to do!!” Cos you know what? A lot of people would look at you and say that you can do whatever you want, you make your own schedule and are your own boss, your cats are the most precious cats on the internet, you could do your job ANYWHERE if you wanted to, etc. You’re not stuck in your life for reasons beyond your own control. Cassie, you are the master of your own universe. EMBRACE IT!! 💖

[@iwilson6221]

At 58, with 5 adult children, I sit here regretting that I never made friends. I spent my high school years learning English and learning how to adapt to a new culture and country. Was very sheltered and naive, so there wasn’t a high school social life at all. Went on to college, were I immediately met my now husband. Never dated, never made friends of my own. Got married while finishing college at 21! By 31 I had three babies and a full time teaching job. By 40 I was busy raising 5 children. So until now, I have not time or a life for me! I only have one friend and life is lonely. Oh, if I could do it over! I would love to be able to go out with friends and not be so lonely. So the take away to young people, take the time to make friends and go out of your comfort zone. Put yourself out there and plan for when you are done working and raising your children. So, all that to say Cassie, I have never attended any reunions

[@CouponFrenzy]

I hear you 💯 I'm 39. I have never and will never attend a reunion. Didn't make any significant ties to warrant that. I feel like by adulthood it is hard to make new friends..it seems like a lot of people just have their friends and that's it

[@jLo4sho]

I’m pretty sure I’m THE worst friend. I’ve had ppl I was super close to that for no reason that I can even recall I just cut out of my life. I DONT KNOW WHY. It’s not right but at least you’re not alone 🤷🏼‍♀️?

[@geekyvixen]

It is perfectly okay not to go to a reunion. I loved my friends in high school and college and thought I'd always be friends with them, but as we grew into adults, we grew apart. I still check in with them occasionally and I will always love them, but I made much closer friends in the past decade or so. People grow together or they grow apart, whether it's friends, romantic relationships, or family. We put too much pressure on being like everyone else.

[@Shawnne86]

1. I don't have friends either, but I also don't have time. 2. Success is subjective. It is what you feel it is. I see you as successful. 3. WHO CARES!! I THINK YOURE GREAT!!

[@fashionandbeauty07]

Well said!! 🙏🙏

[@kristinesanta6971]

Are you trying to convince us or you? You're fine. Stop worrying so much about what other people think.

[@haileyisim]

I struggled with the measure of success for a while. I had to delete social media until I was in a better head space. I think redefining success for yourself and not giving a crap what anyone else thinks is a huge help. I so wish you and I were friends IRL but we would have such good convos! Learning to only worry about you, your goals and how you're going to meet those goals without anyone else's influence or opinion is a hard place to get to, but it is possible! And I wish this for you 🙂

[@mowrydonna]

I have always said that there are three type of friends. Friends for a reason (work with /church etc)a season ( they are meant to come in your life for a short time) and for life (they are there forever and even though you don't see each other often, you alway pick up right where you were and it's natural). As for mending old friendships, reach out with humbleness and apologize for your part. Ask them for forgiveness and ask if they would like to either meet in person or over the phone to talk things over. Whatever they do or do not do, it's in their court then. And yes, adult friendships are hard to navigate!

[@BJ-yy6ei]

Ur hair has like come back to life; its really astonishing. It looks so healthy, even more so than when i watched u go through undergrad. Whatever ur doing is really helping 🥰

[@DanielleNicoleMakeup]

I keep wondering if she's still using that hair restore devise (forgot what it's called) bc I've heard many say it works but yes it looks great!

[@cakecrumb095]

Going is up to you, but being a full time KZbinr is REALLY cool! I wouldn't consider that unsuccessful at all.

[@tammyyoungmua]

I’m exactly like you, I over think everything, I had my college graduation last week and nearly didn’t go for the exact reason you’ve mentioned. I say go, put a smile on your face and go, even tell yourself you’ll stay an hour. I bet you meet back up with old friends and it feels like you’ve never lost touch, go for it cassie, your def successful in life xx

[@liberty3928]

I have learned that if you wait for anything you end up left behind. If you wonder what old friends are doing...reach out. You've got nothing to lose. 🌸

[@imscanon]

Thing about high school and college reunions is it's just about catching up with old friends. If there isn't anyone there you want to see and catch up with, no point in going. They are incredibly boring. I only went to my 15 year and it was good, nice to catch up with the peeps, but at the end of the day, I realized I was just fine not seeing any of them. lol They weren't that interesting the first time.

[@catblack4091]

Plenty of people have all the "success" things you mention and are miserable. Trust me. I just recently deleted my FB account which I was using to stay connected to people, mostly from the past. It's been hard because I have had a lot of stressful changes in life lately and really have no face to face friends... but I decided the social media connection was doing more harm than good. It looks like a lot of other people struggle with these issues too.

[@Daisy624]

This year will be 10 years for me since graduating high school. The only thing I’ve achieved is a worthless associates degree. (I say worthless because I don’t remember anything education-wise from it and I honestly wouldn’t be fit for that field anymore. Associates degrees in general are NOT worthless, just wanted to make that clear). I have an “okay” job. Nothing worth mentioning. So I wouldn’t be caught dead at any reunion. Seeing everyone else’s success on Facebook has done enough damage to me.

[@Stacey_LaValley_Lambert]

I would just go. I went to the class reunion of the high school I was supposed to go to, twice. My 30th and my 35th. I wanted to see people I hadn’t seen since 8th grade. It didn’t matter if they didn’t remember me, or if I had become successful. I just wanted to have fun.

[@evelllyn.]

I went to my high school reunion which ended up being a waste of time. Me and my friend left halfway and went to ihop lol. Ultimately it was a waste of time for me. I didn’t go to my college 10 year reunion for the same reason. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Honestly if you are feeling this much apprehension and doubt then don’t go. I found that School reunions are not for everyone. Definitely not for me.

[@wynkenblynkennod3712]

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[@ginn421b3]

I find that any type of school reunion is pointless. If I didn’t talk to them back while we were in school, chances are, I won’t want to tolerate them at the reunion. It’s a huge peacock show and I’m not about that life. As far as the old roommate, you can put the apology out there to them and if they accept and strike up a conversation again, great. If not, you can move along with your life knowing that you tried to make amends.

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Curious your thoughts on L'oreal True Match Nude Serum Foundation! Good for oily skin? Coverage w/ acne/scars? Great for light makeup days or enhances the wrong things? Seems to be a satin dry-down but have a slight pearlescent quality? Looking forward to watching this video later when more time!

[@jennzbennz]

I say you reach out!! The worst that can happen is they don’t respond. I feel good when someone reaches out to me!

[@kimberly89z]

How about you take a chance & reach out to people!

[@popdaskittles]

If you felt in the wrong. You reach out.

[@bcgrote]

This is why most people don't go to reunions until year 20. It takes a long time to get yourself headed in the "right" direction and even start making a life! You have laid the groundwork, and are doing the internal work. You are taking care of business and walking forward. Basically, yeah, just being willing to talk to someone is all you can do. If they don't respond, the answer is probably no, but be open to them coming to you in the future. I have my spouse, 1 good friend (who I can't even see rn because she's a teacher, and is either in quarantine or in fear of exposure), and several people whose company I enjoy during chorale rehearsal. And a lot of online pals. But mostly I'm still alone in my room. As an INTJ, I'm actually ok with that, lol.

[@444edens]

Ok ofc I’m talking back but I would just like to say - I loved the “she is loved” part so much. Isolated ! You could see you picking up momentum and feeling the love ! Affirmin’ yoself !

[@kierstenhutchison2954]

Cassie i freaking love those glasses frames on you!!!

[@missjoasia123]

Most all my friends have kids but many are divorced or were never married or have kids from multiple people and never married. I’ve always waited for my one and only and that’s the foundation I always had. I’m 29 going to be 30 this year, I’ve been with my boyfriend now for 2 years going on 3 ! My timeline is different from my peers at the moment but I am Better off for it. I am with the man of my dreams and only good thing will come next. I’m enjoying my life and I feel like I’m 20! I used to be depressed I’m so behind compared to my peers but I stopped doing That. I cannot change time and all i can do and want to do is enjoy my life now. 💖 so your time will come for everything! Including your other half ! 🥰

[@adri_elsker2188]

Personally speaking, all those reunion things are such a chore to me. I didn't go to my 10 year high school one and if my college had one, I have no idea, lol. I honestly can't even remember anyone from college (except one ex-friend) aside from a couple professors who really made a difference. I don't care to compare myself to a bunch of people that quite frankly aren't important in my life. As for estranged friends, I had a super good friend of mine through high school and college, and after we graduated we kind of just drifted apart. It really hurt too because she and I got super close at one point, and then she began hanging with a very different crowd. I tried reaching out to her on at least two different occasions and she did the whole "yeah we'll catch up one day" but that day never came. Alas, some friendships aren't meant to last forever.

[@papermoonchild]

Well, you had all these years to try and reach out privately to them or at least figure out if you wanted to make an effort to re-establish friendships/connection with. At the end, it is your choice and it is ok to feel a little regretful for not having made the effort, or even if you do, they do not respond. Sometimes the vibe is already different just from the years passed. And that's ok. Success is subjective. It is not about the cars, house, money or kids/marriage. It is all about what makes you happy and fulfilled. The problem is comparing one's happiness to your own and how it doesn't live up to that comparison. I think you are just so paranoid on what everyone will say, when in reality I think being adults they will most probably be cordial and civil. I find it ironic you come off as not caring on what people will say, and yet you share all this negative thoughts on what you think they will say. Which means you still do care. It is easier if you admit that instead of parading yourself as someone who doesn't. So my advise, keep it real. If you are really bothered by what people say, like your weight, job or anything, then try to do something about it. Start walking or do light exercises, improve your job, make some art etc.....put that skillshare learnings to good use. They are sponsors for your video after all.

[@bambooisgr8]

Cassie if you ever sold art or prints I'd definitely be interested! It'd be a cool way to give back to you after watching your vids for so many years. but if not that's ok too!

[@rstars6854]

Always so negative……

[@denie8]

My thing about reaching out is that it never hurts to try. If they don't want to reconnect then you can make peace with it, but if you never try... then you never know whether they feel the same or not, you know?

[@reneekerner8404]

Boy how we can look at ourselves in different ways

[@TheSiciliana]

Your hair looks so good Cassie!!

[@kathleen2958]

I deleted people that I never talk to or find myself comparing myself and life to them a bit ago on Facebook. I realized today during your video that I haven’t missed seeing any of their Facebook feeds. I feel very similarly to you about seeing people I know or going to a reunion but it helps to hear. We will just keep working on it and one day we will get there.

[@Shalin333]

I havent had my HS reunion yet but i dont think i’ll be going. I went to 2 different schools and one was freshman-very end of Junior yr. Unfortunately a lot of people i grew up going to school with just sit around and gossip about each other anyways. A high school reunion sounds absolutely dreadful. Granted i’m still in college trying to get my first degree, i’ve also had many great opportunities to travel and experience different things when i was in my young 20s that my classmates did not get. Its a double edged sword truthfully, for me at least. It would be so cool to see some if the nice kids from school and where they’ve taken their life path to. But other than that I’m cool on attending those type of things lol. Hope you feel better Cassie!

[@scentsiblesandi5913]

I haven’t stayed in touch with anyone from high school or college. Nothing horrible happened, just went different ways. It’s OK!

[@krista5099]

I think an act of kindness is never the wrong answer. If you reach out and they don’t respond then that’s that, but you’ll come away knowing you tried.

[@TheCraftingKangaroo]

If you want to reach out to those ppl I suggest you send a message and tell them you have been thinking a lot about them and what they did positive for you and how you are sorry for what you did to hurt them. Then leave the ball in their court. Keep it short and simple. Stop judging your success. I think you are doing very well for yourself. Hugs

[@ashleyrosearc]

Reach out to that friend or friends and apologize. It will help your spirit lift and even if they still want nothing to do with you, then your conscience is clear. That’s way more important than whether or not they become your friend again.

[@NickaLah]

Wow, your professor trying to teach you calculus... actually reminds me of my first semester of college when I told the graduate assistant how much I enjoyed sociology and was thinking about switching my major to it. He 100% encouraged me not to, and gave me a C- on my paper, despite getting an A in the rest of the class. Weird part is that I didn't score less than a B on any other paper throughout college even if I was so bad in a class that I failed tests... it was a pretty horrible way to start college, and unfortunately as someone that got straight As in high school, I don't think I ever fully got over basically being told I'm too dumb to major in sociology. What's interesting is I did switch my major from environmental science (there were so many difficult science/math classes I might as well have been going for pre-med) to psychology anyway lol.

[@hilowkitty]

Luckily my college pals are still my best friends and we have a Marco Polo group that we use regularly. We are ALL over the place in terms of success and all of us entered college at different ages

[@briannabagshaw3319]

Chocolate cake is good. Vanilla is SO different. But arguably equally as good. Strawberry? oohh yeah delicious.❤️ We're all good in our own ways.

[@shadowaccount123]

No offense, but you literally do not appear to have any job other than KZbin and you literally barely post. You have a Masters Degree but don’t use it. You’ve also gained weight. I’d feel bad if I was you as well. You should take this time as like a wake up call to realize that you’re already in your 30s and you should be progressing forward.

[@taraocomics2245]

Have you reached out to them before? Or has it been just 10 years? It might be a bit late/awkward to try and mend things now but like you said, worse things that happen is they say no/don't respond and then you can have closure. I had a close friend of like...15 years cut me off 'cos she fell out with our mutual friend and while I accepted her distancing from me I still reached out to her occasionally, for birthdays and such just to let her know I was still thinking of her but didn't push it. Gradually that led to her liking the odd instagram post and after like 6 years of this, we're talking again, nothing crazy (esp as I moved to another country so I can't actually see her any time soon) but it's still really nice to know that she's doing ok even if we aren't the closest we've ever been-but it took time, it wasn't one message reaching out, it was several years building back-bottom line, if you care about them, reach out.

[@MC-qt9tq]

I think instead of going to the reunion you should reach out to that friend and see if yall could catch up over coffee or something. And it wouldn't be out of the blue since you got the reunion flyer and it got you thinking. The worst they could say is no or not respond and you have your answer. Why not reach out

[@NancyEllenB]

Went to one of my high school reunions ... couldn't/didn't remember half the people there.

[@christiopseth7308]

I think you should go for it and if it doesn't work out at least you'll know you tried and can move on. Friendships are so hard, good luck!

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[@daniellemahoney5095]

Do you still do “KZbin Made Me Buy It” videos? Love those

[@tinakover385]

"Where I'm at" is utterly, completely incorrect English.

[@-danny.]

What would be a better way of saying it? Where I am? I literally can’t think of it I feel dumb 😂 Is it because at is a preposition?

[@tinakover385]

@@-danny. Haha, yes and yes! "Where I am" is correct.

[@mistylowe9100]

Girl your hair looks amazing!!!!!🖤🖤🖤

[@sashagibson2187]

I have never gone to my high school reunion because at least where I come from the truly interesting people that I would love to catch up with tend not to go to them. It seems to be just the people who still live around the area and are always reliving their high school days who go. I also think it’s normal as you get older to have fewer friends. Love the get ready with me videos!!

[@ANNABELLEROBLOX]

Your hair has been looking extra amazing lately 💖

[@MarleeCM]

I didn’t get invited to mine 🙃

[@meredithg8537]

Five whole people went to my 10 year class reunion, YES 5. Out of a…550 graduating class? I was not one of those 5, and I dont regret it.

[@genevarodriguez8523]

I would rather people judge me through social media than to re-live that again. I feel like most people that were super "popular" are usually the ones looking forward to reunions. I chose to stay somewhat connected through Facebook instead.

[@Itsjeasicanelmseverywhere]

10 year reunion from college and I am approaching 20 year high school reunion…. I feel old! 🤣

[@rodemates]

I didn't bother going to my 10 year either. Anyone worth seeing I still see and I'm not exactly hard to find. I think I had plans to go out of town anyway but even if I didn't I think hanging out w my cat in my pajamas would have been a lot more appealing.

[@CouponFrenzy]

I wanted to be in a particular sorority and then I found out that someone I couldn't stand from high school who was a year older than me had joined that sorority. And I was just like...no no no. This reflected poorly on the sorority lol 😂 also most of the people in my dorm dropped out of their sorority or frat by the following year. They felt it was too much work and forced friendships and in some cases - actual responsibilities as some of those organizations required community service.

[@remainingembers]

College was a really stressful time for me too, especially with mental health. Not so much the classes themselves but at home things were rough and money was a huge source of the stress as we were barely getting by and I wasn't in the position to be able to get a job or get my license (since it costs money too). It wasn't until I was almost done did things get a lot better and I was able to drive myself for the first time, but it was a bit too late, missed out on opportunities to make friends or maybe try out new things or change my major to something better. But despite that I graduated with honors and all that, so can say that at least lol.

[@smbarone2000]

I sat painting my nails in OPI funny bunny. Took three coats. I was nodding in agreement throughout this vlog. I did think you should call these "Heart Talks." Thank you for your openness. And yes so few of us don't have adult friends close by. Yes and amen about the comparison game. I think Charlotte Dobre said Instagram and Facebook only show the highlight reel. Well, usually. My friends show the good, the bad, and the scary. I'm not sure if it's the world, society, or what, but I used to feel that pressure that I was supposed to want the same things you mentioned in life. Measure my success in my work and paycheck. I had to let go of that when faced with chronic illness. I am married, but couldn't conceive, so no children. I have advanced degrees, too, but I had to medically retire. Depression reared it's ugly head. I went to my HS reunion (20 year) just before I left work in 2009. I couldn't very well tell people what I was doing because soon it would end. My bff's hubby told me to say I was a forensic gynecologist. It was hard to keep a straight face. Think if that was a thing -- using forensics as an OBGYN. It was hysterical.

[@smbarone2000]

Or Alexandra Anele. She might have said that about the highlights reel. Why can't I remember who said that first? There goes my dream of investigative reporting.

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Have you seen Perbelle CC cream? I keep seeing tons of ads for them and wonder if you’d do a review🙏🏼please?

[@martyjones5750]

Great reflections.. you made me think a bit about past friendships👍.. love your “List”..! write all of those marvelous things down, and pin it to your chest that night. Let them see that you have achieved all these wonderful things, which anyone will tell you is what is actually the most important!..hehehe..hey, has anyone ever told you what beautiful eyes you have?✨❤️

[@QuinceyG]

Success is personal. If you are happy and doing what you love - you’re successful. I had no interest in going to any of my reunions, maybe not for the same reasons as you, but I did not feel like I lost out at all. As long ad you’re going what you want and enjoy, you are successful. As far as mending friendships all you can do is reach out. If the other person does not respond then at least your tried. If you feel it will help you then you reach out first

[@sweetness371]

I never knew college reunions were a thing. Guess I didn't get invited to mine. 🤷‍♀

[@BitterSweetNitemare]

I had some real ups and downs in college too, but somehow I came out of it looking back on it fondly for the most part. Some of my darker times were related to friendships too, possibly similar to yours-I had my first relationship and ended up isolating myself to be with this manchild of a bf at the time (an obvious ex now). After the breakup and me working on getting myself back together, my one roommate backstabbed me and the follow year just straight up ghosted me and stopped replying to me reaching out, etc, all for reasons I don’t know, other than that maybe our friendship wasn’t as strong enough to last a difficult time as I thought. So, related to your dilemma, maybe you actually didn’t do anything wrong (intentionally)? We all have difficult times, and if you have friends who ditch you after those times, imo it’s not even worth it trying to reconnect. Relationships are a two way street, and if they didn’t do their part to mend things or keep up, then they don’t deserve your time or anxiety. Just what I think anyway :) it’s obviously still gonna be hard to think about, but it’s probably worth it not to have that kind of person in your life making you doubt yourself

[@Niseypiece]

When you see someone less successful than you do you spend your precious time thinking about how big a loser they are? Probably not! And no one is thinking that about you, either...they got their own issues to deal with most probably

[@Andrea-nu6sm]

This is such a great way to see things. Thank you. I sometimes struggle with feeling insecure about where I'm at in life and this is very helpful.

[@Niseypiece]

@@Andrea-nu6sm oh believe me so do I :) when I actually think about it I realize it's actually me just projecting the things I'm self-conscious about onto other people, when in reality no one is thinking those things about me except me! It's human nature I suppose 😀

[@tanyaevers-jordan8624]

My husband and I are going to our 25th reunion in June. I think we shouldn’t worry what other people think or judge ourselves based on someone else’s life. Things aren’t always as perfect as they seem from the outside. Be confident in who you are as a person and the awesome choices you’ve made to become who you are.

[@kimc555]

thank you for posting this - its something that so many of us struggle with - comparing ourselves and our lives against our former peers. it takes a real healthy self esteem to take that on. i went to my 10th high school reunion - i felt worse after going. went to my 20th and mentally, emotionally i was in a better place. Didnt bother going to my 25th tho.

[@FelineRM]

I'm the same as you I guess... I had made friends that I would consider family in college for the first time. But then internships started, I met my husband and we split ways. We were still in contact, but whenever we would meet up it felt different. They off course came to my wedding and one of them even was my maid of honor! It felt weird asking her but she was very important to me and I didn't really have anybody else I could ask... I could tell the whole situation was a bit awkward for everyone tho and they left pretty early that night. My husband knows ALOT of people and has a big family so there were a lot of people there but I never felt more lonely 😞 I'm just very bad at keeping contact... I isolate and am very comfortable alone. I know it's my own fault that people don't wait around for me to finally show up.

[@lanapoulliot7682]

My last high school class reunion, I just wasn't feeling it. I never regretted skipping it *it was the 25th reunion! Everyone I cared to see, I was already in close contact with so...yeah I just didn't see the point of running into the clique of bee-otches that for sure would be there because high school was when they peaked !

[@ellef2468]

What eye brush is that with the water in the handle??

[@luvmovies614]

I graduated college 12 years ago and highschool 16 years ago. I never got an invitation to any reunions. Either they didn't happen or I was an even bigger loser than I thought.

[@taraocomics2245]

Awh! Honestly, I don't think they happen as often as tv has portrayed them. My school didn't have a reunion either, high school or college and I'm happier for it. I kept in contact with the few people from then that I liked and I really don't have intentions of seeing anyone else really haha

[@luvmovies614]

@@taraocomics2245 I probably wouldn't have gone anyways, lol.

[@lsquiggles]

I hope if you do reach out that you get a positive response or least some closure. However, the person you were 10 years ago isn't the person you are now so it may be difficult to connect on that same level after such a long time! Reigniting friendships that didn't stand the test of time out of nostalgia isn't always as romantic as it sounds.

[@KpopManiac4Life]

u legit inspire me sm

[@eatit1201]

Hair is looking sooo nice and thick in this video in particular. Is there a video on what youve been doing?

[@MylifebelikeOohAah]

I totally relate to how you feel 💜

[@lisaroseuk]

Cassie, If those people were meant to be in your life now, they would be. Some friends are only with you for a season not a lifetime. If we kept every friendship we ever had we would never have time to actually live our lives :) Let it go (singing badly) xxx

[@leah9150]

Completely get it! You rock girl! Thanks for being open and raw with this one ❤️

[@larkfly9273]

I totally get what you mean. It's incredibly hard to dettach oneself from those norms and standards of succes. I have no boyfriend, no children, no job. Yet what most important to me is that I have strong inner voice that makes me always follow my heart, I am true to myself, I know my worth and I can say yes and no in my life.

[@kimberly89z]

Damn you hella put yourself down! Like damn ------

[@sarahblaik62]

Cassie, I just want to say that you are awesome and I love you and your cats!

[@lisagerson7735]

I agree about reunions, to me it seems like everyone is looking to see what people look like now! I have never gone to mine. Reach out to the friends if they don’t respond then you can say you tried!

[@okay.bruv.]

YESSSS CASSIE I ABSOLUTELY LOVE UR GRWM !!!!!! 💗 💓 💖 thanks for being consistent and trusting us with the tea 🍵 🙏

[@Susan-Don4ever]

Reach out to them. Sometimes you have to open the communication to let them know you want get to know them again. If they don’t respond, then the friendship didn’t mean anything to them. Don’t let them determine how you feel about yourself. Say everyday to yourself , “good things will come my way.”. Say this every morning when you get up. It actually works , because you are putting good vibes in the universe. Hang in there girl! You are kind and lovely!

[@missjoasia123]

Please do review on this BB cream !!??

[@BlindBabeBeth]

I was the black sheep of my primary school, heavily bullied for being overweight and shy and shortly after joining up with facebook in early high school, discovered that I'd "missed" a reunion. Not mad at all. They all deserve each other.

[@jenjenmaren]

Aww I hate when you talk down on yourself, Cassie. Everyone has their own views of success and even some of those who seem like they have it all sometimes in reality they really don't. I was literally just thinking the other day how I'm jealous of the job that you have and can work from home, while I work in a hospital doing sleep studies on people, which has been pretty stressful lately and I feel like all I do is work. I'm sure you feel the same sometimes too though. As humans we always compare ourselves to others, but everyone is walking different paths in life, so it's not fair to ourselves to do so. It's ok if you're not where you want to be yet. It just means that your journey isn't over. I personally think you are doing amazing, and I love seeing your growth over the years on youtube ❤😊

[@Thebeastbear3]

Your hair looks great 👍🏻 What did you use?

[@lngridmoore1489]

Sweetheart you need to find yourself, don’t worry about a man or perfect skin, you are an amazing person,

[@glam_byshan]

I totally understand where you’re coming from. I only have 1 remaining friend from college and only acquaintances from high school. My high school best friend and my friendship unfortunately fizzled out when our life paths went in separate directions. I was settling down, getting engaged and married and she was living her single life