Opening Up About My 'Love Life' | Past Relationships & Currently Dealing With Heartbreak

[@thriftthick]

UPDATE: this was filmed a little over a week ago so thankfully I'm doing a lot better now... still going through the stages of healing, yes, but I know that I deserve to be with someone who is willing to fight for me. My spirit is feeling lighter each day and I know my worth :) ALSO: yes, I had a bit of lipstick on one of my teeth... that's just the way it goes folks lol. Sorry if it was distracting!

[@MegaRoro16]

Thrift Thick you're so beautiful Cassie !!! Just started watching this and whenever you cry my heart breaks for some reason, you're such a kind beautiful soul. I pray that one day you find someone who makes you realise why it never worked with anyone else. Someone who shows you what real love is. I hope you find that one day. Love you Cassie !!

[@Gamer2686]

I love jelly lipstick

[@Gamer2686]

I love your eyeshadow

[@taniacanal9751]

I really hope you see this: if you need to put the acrylic nails back on it is NOT a set back. Taking 3 sets forward and 2 steps back is still moving forward. It is not a crutch it’s a tool in your coping toolbox. We love you Cassie. Take care of yourself.

[@alexandrasaadi7149]

Cassie, you are the rare combination of beauty on the inside and outside. And let’s not forget to mention your incredible intellect!!! I’m a new subscriber and I’m so happy to have found your channel! Whenever I have a few minutes to myself, I like watching your foundation reviews:) You have truly helped me get my makeup on point! Thank you! You rock girl! Much luv from California ❤️

[@MysteryCatt]

If you can “love” the wrong person this much, just imagine how much you will love the RIGHT person.

[@emilyrosebosco4612]

Woahhhhhhhh you are right

[@MoreCoffeePlease.]

Thank you, this helped me too. 💜

[@bethanycaylah7356]

Exactly!!! Just got out of a 4 year relationship almost two months ago and I’ve realized how wrong that person was for me and now I’m just waiting for that right person❤️

[@lindasegraves3376]

You are so Right, I hope Cassie says this to herself a Hundred Times or more.

[@CarolSmith_authoress_]

Thank you for this.

[@deannelanoue6105]

Cassie, when people show you who they are, believe them. If someone wants to be with someone, they will move heaven and earth. After eight weeks you know so so little of him. Better now than a year from now. You deserve someone who wants to be on the same team. You're fabulous ya know? He isn't the one. Despite the connection, he just isn't. But I get it honey, the heart wants what the heart wants.

[@SolACor]

Deanne Lanoue amen to this , I hope she reads this .

[@girltime8637]

Nicely said!

[@MissAdamLambert888]

THIS COMMENT !!!! I fully agree on the whole "when they show you who they are, believe them" best dating advice I have ever gotten in general. As someone who is 26 and never had a bf, I've still fallen in love with people who seemed like they can be "the one" and instead of believing who they are in the situation, I made excuses like Cassie and it's so sad ! People can be shit and we need to except that...best advise !

[@moonspirit2119]

So for a year straight I was on tinder hoeing around, meeting guys that I consistently thought were THE ONE. I remember keeping old sunflowers from Jay, poems that Mike wrote for me, listening to love songs that John recommended for me. These names engraved in my heart for every tiny heartbreak I’ve had in that entire year. One day, the day I had finally given the fuck UP on dating, I decided this is my last day on tinder. I was just swiping yes thoughtlessly to these randoms. Just completely let down and sad. A few minutes after swiping on this goofy, tall red head, he messaged me. He made a joke and I fake laughed and we talked about nothing serious. A few days in he said let’s hang out. I said OKAY and then told my best friend COME ALONG WITH ME ON THE DATE I DONT THINK IM GOING TO LIKE THIS GUY. So I met him the day after my birthday. He came to pick me up at my job in Sephora. I saw him, he smiled, he was the cutest human I’ve ever seen and my entire demeanor and attitude changed, I wanted to make this a good date but I was still pessimistic. He didn’t hate me even though my friend tagged along on the entire date, he was lovely and gentle like no one I’ve ever met. He was 4 years younger than me, I was 28, but he was like a pleasant old man haha only way I could describe him. A gardener, with a love of biology, puzzles, the smell of flowers. I KNEW this was going to be so special. 4 years later, we have an 8 month old daughter together, who I gave birth to a day after my birthday(our anniversary),we are getting close to saving enough for a house, we laugh all day. I am so eternally grateful to whatever made me NOT give up. I never would have imagined this being my life. I share my existence with my soulmate. I look at this video and this was me after Jay treated me like a one night stand, after dealing with johns bipolar tantrums, after every guy that disrespected my self worth. You will be okay. This is my guarantee.

[@naomim66]

This is the sweetest. I sure hope I find something like this too, was a great read 💜

[@jparekhful]

Natasha Arbelo this is beautiful ❤️😭

[@daisy78mx]

Thank you for sharing this , i am happy for you!

[@MyKindOfBeautiful]

Gurl u should write books for a liveing u had me hooked lol 😂

[@moonspirit2119]

My Kind Of Beautiful what a compliment, thank you!

[@1983simi]

Dear Cassie, I don't know if you're even going to read this, but after watching this entire video as someone who's been watching your videos for quite some years now, I feel like I do need to say some things. This comes from a 35 year old woman who's been at the exact same spot that you are a good dozen times in her life. What I am seeing you doing here is to build up theories about his character to cling onto the idea of the last few month being something of real worth and not just wasted time, that the feelings he gave you about yourself are truth and not just an illusion up and smoke, and yes, also to cling on to that last sliver of hope that he'd might step back into your life. Let me tell you this, and here is where the harsh part starts, but it needs to be, all the things you told me he said to you and the vibe you described, i've experienced it myself plenty of times and heard the same thing about friends' experiences. Yes, I do believe he liked you and being a generally thoughtful and caring person by nature he might have ended up given you the feeling that it's a lot deeper than it actually was for him. This impression must have been even more intense for you as you said you didn't feel someone caring for you like that in a long time. One harsh thing to realize about dating and relationships is, there is no such thing as 'the wrong time' or someone being 'too caught up' in some thing or the other. How many times in my life did I hear that stupid excuse just to see the same people be in a relationship or in some extreme cases get straightup engaged mere months later. If the right person for anyone roles around, they're going to create space for them in their lives. At the end of the day, a person you want to stay together forever with, you want to stick with them through thick and thin, so it doesn't matter where you are in life or what life throws your way. If someone says that, it just means 'you are not priority enough to make that space and tackle life together'. It is a bitter and harsh thing to realize, but it is important to realize, because it will help you to make a clean cut, stop wasting your energy and emotions towards a fruitless pursuit and will free you up to direct your attention ahead and not into the past. What I think happened, plain and simple, is that he figured after some month that he can't see himself in a long term relationship with you. He might actually regret he didn't restrict it to be just a friendship to begin with, but once you overstepped that boundary of being just friends, sorry to say girl, but it's basically impossible to go back from there. I do think he really liked you as a person, which is why he felt bad braking up and offering you to continue to stay friends (the way you describe him I actually do not think he was trying to just keep you around as a rebound option, which btw. some people do). Another aspect of it is that no guy likes to feel like an a*hole, especially not if they are by nature not one. But obviously he's going to end up feeling that way having to admit to himself and to you that this is just not gonna be it. So that's when you get to hear the same old stuff millions of people heard a thousand times 'It's not you, it's me.', 'I really do like you, but there is so much going on in my life.', 'I'll always care about you.', 'You're a wonderful person.' and so on. No, girl, they know they are hurting you, so they say these things to feel a bit less of a jerk while doing so. That's really all it is. Again, I am not denying that he may be a good and nice person, who was frankly considering you for some time. But for your own good do not fool yourself into thinking that this was anything but a breakup before it can get too deep for comfort with a few quite commonly used means of emotional damage control. And Cassie, this says nothing about you as a person and your value as a woman. It took me so many painful years to learn this, someone breaking up with you DOES NOT REFLECT YOUR WORTH. All it says is just that one person felt, this specific combination of people is not going anywhere, and one should rather be grateful if those people who are already having shaky feelings about you will step out of your life sooner than later. Nobody, not man nor woman, EVER are in a position where they should have to beg to stay together or hope for someone to come back. NO! Move on! You are a person who can give A LOT to a partner and if someone is not able to recognize that and stick with you through thick and thin, they're not the right person for you. I know that feeling close to someone, feeling cared for and the feeling of vibing with someone is super addictive and when it's taken from you it's like actual withdrawal symptoms. But at the end of the day a successful relationship is not only about that, at the end of the day it's about if people are willing to make each other a priority and go through thick and thin with each other. You will find the love of your life, Cassie. I am sure of it. Wipe your tears, start looking ahead, it'll all fall into place eventually. Lots of love from a fellow person with Dermotillomania and some who found the love of her life at 29.

[@rissaajane]

❤️

[@LemansSunset350]

Well said 👏!!! Don’t invest your time and energy into a man that doesn’t want to invest in you. Move on and let someone who does deserve you come into your life.

[@ThursdayASMR]

Bravo!!!

[@veronicasoto2266]

1983simi I sure hope Cassie reads this

[@ivy_swain5003]

Damn if this wasn’t the most accurate shit I’ve ever seen

[@yellowmystic]

When a guy sad I'm not prepared for a serious relation right now with some one. It means not prepared to have it with YOU actually.

[@Dia_7hom]

Amen!

[@sweetpeamcgillicuddy9044]

I don't want to sound brutal, but guys are single minded. if he wanted to be with you, he'd be with you. NO DOUBT. Ask any guy you are close to as friends - Him saying he'll never date again? He wants your sympathy, but doesn't want to lead you on. He isn't into you enough to stretch. Who wants a man like that.?? NOT you..

[@nathaliajimenez6067]

TaraLynn DeGraw she deserves better 🙌🏻

[@MoreCoffeePlease.]

Thank you, this helped me too. 💜💜

[@LilttleTeaCup]

Agree. He wants her to feel bad for him even though he's the one breaking up with her. Guys hate being the bad guys, that's why they always use cliche reasons "it's not you, it's me". She's reacting the break up the way he hoped. I doubt he's hurting as much as her over the breakup. When you are in love with someone, they are supposed to make you feel happy and excited about life. It sounds like he didn't feel the same way she did about their relationship.

[@montana1080]

They’re Soooo simple. You’re so right. It took me years to figure out that guys aren’t complicated at all. Their so simple and if they want you you know it And if they don’t (1000 excuses) they just don’t. It hurts sometimes but it’s true. Compared to my husband I know that now.

[@StarWarsThrowbacks]

Amen

[@gelseyhood8905]

Cassie. You don’t want a man who’s going to run away when things get tough! Job trouble is the least of the problems you will encounter with a significant other in life. If he retreats during that... that’s a sign to RUN!

[@LivyerLateralus]

You are not gonna find someone... someone is gonna find YOU and he is gonna find a treasure and he is gonna be the happiest man in the world, let him find you. Keep your head up so the first thing he sees are those beautiful eyes of yours.

[@ladyk3729]

Livyer Arellano such a sweet sentiment! Lovely comment 💕☺️

[@jgiard9030]

So true!

[@deborahbather7808]

Bless you...dont make excuses for him, don't let him lean on you, don't be his prop, don't be his friend. Cut him out, block him. You are better than he deserves. I'm 52 and have heard all this..i'm not ready, You're too good for me etc etc etc.... i have met those guys that epitomise the most wondrous boyf with fun, romance, best friendiness etc, then inexplicably go distant. I concluded they want the illusion of a relationship, not the actual real deal. Just wave him bye bye and crack on with your fabulous life. It sounds brutal but your kind heart will let him back in, only to be hurt again. Move away from him lovely girl and look after yourself first and foremost. He can take his issues somewhere else. Xx

[@эмэйзинг-т7ц]

you're absolutely right, miss...

[@natalyanegroni3249]

anyone else watching this in 2020 after Cassie announced she’s getting back with this guy lol

[@i.cant.sleep.anymore]

Me 🙋🏼‍♀️

[@ixtahdanielac4922]

Omg me 😝

[@jmlnursing1084]

Haha me

[@copiumforthepeople]

yes... watched it 2 yrs ago and didn't think much of it.(except what it was, I guess) watched it this time and it's really uncomfortable and alarming...

[@renee5575]

yes!

[@Ichigo-chanx]

He only offered to be friends to make himself feel better about hurting you. There are most likely other reasons he broke up with you besides problems at work. If he wanted to be with you, he wouldn't have let you go. Try to move on and someone right will come along... or maybe after cutting yourself off from him and not being so available, he will change his mind.

[@leeann6107]

As I tell my son, there is lid for every pot !! You will meet someone and they will be amazing !! Hang in there !!

[@emilystrange4694]

I have come to believe that "not at the right point in my life" is code for not interested enough. One of these days a person is going to come along who just can't get enough of you. Don't settle for anything less than that.

[@sunflowermonroe666]

So very true! 😎

[@bendietrees]

Precisely. 💯 true. It's meant to let you down easy but it's worse because women are natural caretakers and fixers and want to try to help but there's nothing to help. When a man wants you you will know!

[@darryl-annefearns3147]

I've got to agree with this! I can't understand why, if someone wanted to be with you so much, they would break up over something like 'it isn't the right time'. Surely if you liked someone enough, you would fight for them no matter what you're going through. You'd want them there with you to ease the heartache of whatever else is going on in your life. One day Cassie, you'll meet someone who wouldn't even dream of leaving and you'll know it for sure. The 'love of my life' ended things with me in the most horrific way. I was truly heartbroken, I didn't want it. I thought my time was up, I'll never love anybody else. Then I met the real love of my life - my future husband. It's been almost 10 years, we have 2 children, a house and are due to finally get married in March. The love is so different. It WILL happen, but you both need to want it more than anything in the world x

[@ob8620]

Facts

[@icansurviveuniversity.imra1405]

@@bendietrees dear lord according to your comment I am a guy with a big fat 'deal with your own shit and I am better than this'- attitude. but in the body of a female.

[@courtneythompson4655]

I was dumped out of no where in a parking lot after dinner with his parents discussing holiday plans. We had such a great relationship for a year and out of no where he told me things weren’t working out. Needless to say, I was blindsided. It does hurt, but it will get better. A year after that, I met my now husband. Your forever person is someone out there and it will happen. I am glad you are feeling better. 😊

[@GW-gz8jh]

I’ve heard the “I’m not ready” speech several times the last 2 years. Both times they were suddenly ready for relationships within a 2 week period and married within the year. Don’t focus on him. Focus on you. What makes you happy. Self care isn’t selfish. It’s healthy.

[@themartinfamily5333]

girl, he wants a relationship.. just not with you. Being friend's isn't a good idea and neither is telling him you'll just leave the door open and he can come back whenever he wants. He knows now he can have you on the back burner and saying that shows where your self love truly is... you deserve way better than this buster, seriously. He will date and he likely is. I did this too and wasted so much time doing exactly what you are doing.

[@mmanda515]

^^ this!!!! A great channel called, 'Inner Integration" & another called, "the little shaman healing" (idk why its called that tbh) do an amazing job of showing why we keep falling for this 'type'..... & why it's SOOOOO important to see them for who they really are, so that we can stop. Wasted 26 yrs of my life loving, being helpful, waiting, hoping... Spent the last 6, desperately trying to escape who turned into Jekkyl/Hyde. What's truly fkd up is that it was only at the end, seeing those videos etc.... I even figured out there was something bad going on. That I was being manipulated, played, conned, emotionally/psychologically abused. It's so subtle, but so constant..... you'll believe their words & bullshit & they'll get you to ignore, justify or reason away their actions (or lack thereof) They'll even get you to be convinced.... that the issue must be YOU. All those red flags started popping up, that had actually been there since day 1. Little things... the charm, the quick sucking in... the love bombing, but then the changes in behavior that left me trying to get the 'good' back again.. ugh. It's a 'hidden' abuse that may not leave visible scars, but does damage worse than so many other things imho. Lacking actual empathy, compassion or a moral compass.... sad thing is, they target those exact people. Those who are kind, loving, strong, beautiful... trusting..... compassionate... then use that against us. =/ I'm grateful to be out... to be alive... Our teenage son & I have been in protective hiding for over a year now & it sucks, BUT...... I have zero doubt had I stayed any longer, it'd be a "chris watts' case!!!!! That said, if someone told me that before the 20 yr mark, I would've told them they were the crazy one. They'll have ya that snowed, easily. All the while, living a double, triple, etc... life. Point being, if he wanted her, if he did care........................ he wouldn't have let her go. As much as it hurts, someday she'll be thankful he cut if off now..... rather than a year down the line, to spare her feelings. ((HUGS)) Be well.... have clear boundaries.... never beg for any relationship..... love yourself enough to know ya deserve the World!!!!!!!! :) #innerintegration

[@swtsarakc]

Yes! I spent so many years in my 20's hung up on a guy I really, really, really liked but he wouldn't ever date me. We'd just remain friends and hang out sometimes if he didn't have a gf. But once he had a gf he didn't speak to me, I finally got over it this last time he disappeared; we can't be friends and I'm not willing to fall into that trap again.

[@popdaskittles]

This might be true. But it might also not. Im saying this from a diff perspective because it is possible. I know it is because I am one of those people who plans on never being in a romantic relationship again. And for me its not about the other person at all. Its just not what I want. But what your saying is likely. Its just not necessarily the case.

[@sweetpeamcgillicuddy9044]

You did the right thing. If you stay 'friends' with him, he gets his cake and eats it too, right ? also, you would be waiting for him to come back to you and close your mind to other men.. I'm so proud of you for speaking up for yourself.. You are beautiful, and you are a catch. Its not easy finding the right person to love, but once you do find the one - its obvious to BOTH of you.. stay chill and love yourself. You are a strong woman and will do whats right. I am sending you hugs - I've been where you are and its not fun.

[@NeccoWecco]

Phew girl, you dodged a bullet. Nobody needs a flake.

[@sweetpeamcgillicuddy9044]

Simple, and yet poignant.

[@ladyk3729]

Unless it’s a Cadbury flake! However when Cassie described how he broke up with her I thought what a flake! Didn’t think anyone else used that phrase!

[@NeccoWecco]

Oh yeah, there are SO many flakey people out there. Good riddance to this guy.

[@jessicajones2414]

Lol I’m a flake. Some people just aren’t cut out for/are bad at relationships. 🤷‍♀️

[@nancymiller6301]

Cassie, I wish we could talk. I have depression and anxiety, too. I gave up on dating in my 30s. I thought I was undeserving of romantic love. I met my husband when I was 41 and we married when I was 43. We have a great relationship. When it's right, you will know it. It should not be hard. You are a good person. You will find someone when the time is right. Chin up and hugs!

[@annidee]

Yes! I met my husband when we were mid 40s. Like he said, I wish we’d met 20 years ago- but hey! We’re happy now.

[@melissarose1814]

Reading your comment really inspired me. I’m 37 and am just now putting myself back out there after two devastating heartbreaks. I question whether or not it’s too late for me, if I missed the boat on finding the one. Hearing things like this remind me that we’re on our own path and things will happen exactly how and when they’re supposed to. Thank hi for sharing your story.

[@reginarossetti8810]

Nancy Miller This comment gives me hope ❤

[@mpakribie]

I'm 40. And it clickted, like never before. I had my heart broken 2 times. The last time I thought "this is it, I'm Out of the "game". And I was. Found time to apreciate my self, how I could be well and happy on my one. Then, puff, it happen. May not be forever, but rigth now it existes. Hope you heart your heals well, and soon. Luv you!

[@happypeasanthomestead344]

Same here and I'm so happy

[@Alana8480]

I think you are giving this guy way too much credit in the emotion department. He sounds honestly like he just wasn't interested enough in you to want to go any further. He isn't some tortured soul, guys don't usually let their work struggles affect who they want to be with. This guy just wasn't meant for you. You will find the one who will let NOTHING stop him from being with you.

[@themartinfamily5333]

this is so true

[@ChelPablo]

I agree.

[@styleesthetique7207]

Yes i agree with u ..... shes To nice this ass his lying

[@leyam3752]

Very true.. I agree

[@lauramcnally708]

Being a 57 yr old woman of wisdom...i totally agree....

[@sarac3469]

Don't cry for someone who doesn't want u in their life don't worry about him anymore worry about you life is a train people come and leave when it their time. Don't worry about his job situation if he is not happy he will find another job he seems to think of himself 100% and leave when he is not happy

[@reginarossetti8810]

I know it must've taken you a lot to put your personal life out there,but I just want to say thank you. A lot of people are going through the same things and this really helps. Stay positive. Xo

[@sammibooger4784]

Cassie, my dear. The amount of time doesn’t matter. If you have a connection, you have a connection. You have every right to feel the things you feel. You have every right to grieve. I was in this situation two years ago, it was only an 8 month relationship but when it ended.. it almost killed me, sometimes it still does. I felt exactly the way you do now, listening to your thoughts... they remind me of my own. You are not alone ❤️ I also want to say, the things you are describing are love. Feeling no ill will, wanting someone to be happy, that’s love. Even if it’s not romantic love, it’s love.

[@peachwedding]

Oh girl, this was so painful to watch. Mostly because I have been there as well. I sympathize with you. However, I have learned that if a man wants you nothing will keep him away, and if a man doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. The more available and willing you are to accommodate him at this time will make him pull away even more - because he's going to feel smothered. I mean, imagine if a guy you didn't like was constantly bugging you - you would feel trapped and want to escape even more. Cassie, please read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". You are such a kind heart and I can see that you want the best for him, but asking him if he'll ever want to get back with you and wanting to be there for him and help him make you seem more desperate - and there's nothing less attractive. Just think about it from the other perspective. We find people who are "scarce" to be more attractive because they seem out of our reach. This is why men go for women who seem to be ambivalent toward them (in general). I really hope you take the advice of these lovely intelligent ladies in the comment section because you DO deserve someone who will care for you the way you obviously still care about this man. It's time to let him go, girl.

[@lyss222]

Every single woman needs to read He's Just Not That Into You. This is a classic scenario. A guy saying the timing isn't right, I can't be in a relationship right now is ALWAYS an excuse. Him having stuff going on with his job has nothing to do withit. If you're having a rough time in your life you want to be with your partner for support, not run away. The faster you are able to detach and recognize when someone is just not that into you, the faster you will recognize the right person.

[@sarahyates5141]

I absolutely love that she’s ugly crying(you’re not ugly Cassie I’m just using it as a general saying) , and being real and authentic. She’s not being overly positive she’s being real. She is so relatable and I see myself in her so much. I wish I could wrap my arms around you and give you the biggest hug. Feel better soon Cassie, I’ll be thinking of you!

[@ThatGirlJoAna]

Stop! For the sake of your own self love, stop thinking of their feelings. Also, stop wanting him to seek help. He’s an adult. So what if he feels abandoned. Feeling abandoned by someone you don’t know well isn’t healthy for adults. By the way, did you notice how many times you wished him happiness and how many times you called him a good person. Damn it! Want that happiness for yourself!!!

[@gn-fw4wj]

This ^

[@heather5391]

Yes Yes Yes - put that beautiful energy back on to you.

[@lunaclaire971]

I have said it before but.... Thank you for feeling comfortable enough to share a bit more of your personal life with us. I know it not easy. 💜

[@liberty3928]

Guys aren't tough to read. If they want to be with you they will be with you. This guy you are talking about was trying to let you down easily. Move on. You seem very intense. Maybe you are coming on too strong too quickly. Slow down. Nothing scares people away faster than coming off as desperate.

[@SuperJimtendo]

I watched the entire thing, all 45 minutes and I couldn’t look away. You have got to be one of the kindest and most genuine women I’ve ever come across. It was really brave of you to post this and really powerful watching it. That you could be so empathetic toward him when you were the one broken up with just shows what a big-hearted person you are. Don’t ever be afraid to show a potential partner this video, in fact I would highly recommend doing just that, because if they aren’t immediately impressed by this no-holds barred look into your heart, they aren’t worthy of occupying a spot in it. It’s completely obvious you are one of the good ones and I hope you find a man worthy of standing beside you.

[@jenm9099]

Well said.

[@DaemonCherry]

This. So much this. Sending hugs your way lovely, I'm very much in a similar spot myself and it sucks

[@jennthepen8415]

This is what the internet needs..RAW material. Your courage for being so transparent and honest is both acknowledged and appreciated. I would also like to applaud you for your level of self-awareness. I know it's easier said than done, but PLEASE don't blame yourself for anything...it's his own personal problem, not yours. You're just hard on yourself and as you said, you may be projecting your own feelings about yourself onto him, and you DO need to be kind to yourself...always. We know how hard this is for you and we are here for you. You'll get through this. You're strong. Take good care of yourself💗

[@sarahcolbourne9498]

Thank you for feeling safe enough to post this. It makes us closer to you. We love and respect you and you are so very worthy of real true love. It will come to you. It can't possibly not. Beautiful souls gravitate to beautiful souls. And you are a beautiful soul as well as a beautiful human. Keep on being open to love without searching for it. It will find you. I promise

[@adhst]

He is just not into you. That’s it. It’s harsh but when you get some distance you’ll gain perspective and you’ll see it clearly. And you will be OK with it. That’s on him. Word of wisdom: stop trying to rationalize these things. “He wants a relationship but he’s not ready” - that’s not how most men think. He either accepted he wasn’t that into you and didn’t want to string you along, or he met someone else. Whatever it may be. Kudos to him for actually breaking up with you, most people wouldn’t even bother. How lame is it that the standard is so low. But it’s true. Listen, everybody has their stories. I was in a relationship with a cold/hot guy who was the smartest, most interesting person I had ever met. I felt grateful for whatever time he made for me in his busy life, that’s now disproportionate the relationship was. It wasn’t timing, it wasn’t anything. He was not compatible with the person I was. I cried for days, I went to therapy, I went through every little thing to try and understand it. But I never ever called him. I saw it was never going to get better and I saw he was always going to be looking out for whatever else was out there. And I was like.. fuck this. I can’t deal with this anxiety. I broke up with him and I knew he was going to try and hang out with me again. After a week or so he called me, then texted me, always a few days apart, always just to “check in”, to tell me he missed me. I knew him. I learned so much from that shitshow. I learned about myself. He got married a couple of years after that and to this date, he still texts me every once in a while with whatever excuse he has “just to check in and see how things are going”. Good people don’t treat other people like crap. Period. I feel sorry for his wife, she’s always going to live with that anxiety. I, on the other hand, learned about myself, focused on my job for a couple of years, traveled, had fun, took care of myself, and stopped looking for things. I met my husband 2 years ago and we got married after 3 months of dating. We just knew. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. Because I married a GOOD person. Stop trying to look for mr. Right. When you’re in that mindset all pigs look like a prince. Sorry to be so blunt, but that’s the reality. He just didn’t want you. “It might be possible he’s just hurting as much as I’m hurting”? Nope, he doesn’t care. Pick yourself up and move on

[@mariecartwright3501]

He met someone else. Boom. Its very obvious. It was like "squirrel".......and he needs time to chase that other thing. Simple. Had really nothing to do with you.

[@PeachIntoxication]

I know you want to keep your private life private. But I really like you that you are sharing this bit of yourself. I think a LOT of girls can relate to you. Especially about just naming a guy to be like 'sure I got a crush ha ha' because boooy have I been there. I just didn't care back then. And you opening up about this experience will probably be really good for a lot of young people. Finding love is so hard, and you rarely see people be open and honest about the crap show that can be the dating life. Though...eventually you'll find the one who will fight for you and will love you so much because you deserve that. You're wonderful, Cassie, and someone will see that soon enough.

[@Natalie2622828]

You are such a kind and beautiful soul. I never comment, but I watch most of your videos and you're one of the few KZbinrs I follow for more than their jobs and what they offer like that...you're such a wonderful person. Someday, another person will see that too at the same time that you'll see the beauty in you reflected in them, and it'll work out and be easy. You've got this. You've always got this.

[@sophieeel4478]

i love ur profile pictureee, life is strange is the best

[@lhalo9620]

Sorry to be devils advocate but men leave women for other women. Grass is always greener for them in my experience. They like to make up stories so nit to feel quilty. I’m 51 and have had my share of dates etc Stay yourself Be strong. Express your opinions and love will find you

[@lawest63]

Want my story too? Hope so. I have 3 children by 2 different men. 1st daddy I wasn't married to, but he's been an awesome dad to our daughter. 2nd father to my 28 years old twins was a POS and we were married. Abusive doesn't even cover it. We split up finally and I dated several guys I met online, met a guy at my work and we dated for about 3 years until he got a habitual felony DWI conviction and I finally opened my eyes. Our person is out there Cassie, it just sometimes take going through Hell to find him/her. I found mine at 40 years old. We've been together for 15 years, he has helped repair hurt in my home and showed my teenage kids first thing what loving their mother looks like. I"m going through medical issues right now as well as my depression is kicked in full blown, and he's holding me up every step of the way. You will pull through this. I promise you. XOXO

[@m-6820]

Thanks for sharing Leslie. I wish you more happiness in the days ahead.

[@Chrizzobaer]

Why do people break up with people in publik? On top of being heartbroken you also feel humiliated. Guys do what you have to do, but do it in private for gods sake.

[@nfc598]

Yeah, like ask to meet at your house or somewhere private.

[@Fyrinspector]

Once the relationship is over have a good cry, feel sick to your stomach but never look back. Move forward life is hard and men are unpredictable creatures. You are beautiful and will find someone 100% better.

[@indeed2181]

That was super strong of you cutting him out your life. It's 100% the hardest thing to do but 100% the right thing to do. You're a kind soul so I understand why you want to be there for him to "lean on" but he's not willing/able to give you anything back and that's just not a balanced relationship. You deserve, and WILL get an equal and wonderfully happy relationship. Also, sometimes the "omg me too!" gets realllly boring, variety is the spice of life as they say! For the record, you are b-e-a-u-t-i-f-u-l, with a killer figure and personality to match! Sending lots of love ❤️

[@birdiebirk]

He's not and never was "the guy". From what you explained in the video...you put more into the relationship than he and sensed it and it scares him. He's not strong enough to just say what he really feels. The heartache will go away so just hang in there.."the guy" is out there.❤️😘🙋‍♀️

[@Gratitude1214]

Cassie you're beautiful. Please don't be so hard on yourself. The first time I started dating after a long time of being single, I fell deep. Then I realized the pain came from loneliness more than him in particular. I wanted him to be something he wasn't, I sort of put his ordinary, respectful behavior on a pedestal and made it extraordinary- in hindsight, to fill a void that I had to fill for myself...if that makes sense. You're gorgeous babe, inside and out; he was just a trial run for the actual "perfect guy" that's coming up in your future. Remember that, so you can ready when he comes. The universe gives us only what we are ready to receive. Cyber hugs. 💜

[@nicolemonique3770]

Every time I’ve fallen in love, it happened so quickly. No more than a week. I don’t believe in the “too soon” notion. When you find that person Cassie, you will know relatively quickly in my opinion. It will happen, it will be magical, and it will be right 😊❤️

[@Dasani9582]

Move on to bigger and better things. When you aren’t searching for love, that’s when GREAT love finds you. Any man that wants to be with you will make sure they are with you. You are caring sooo much about his feelings and is he caring about yours? Girl you need a MAN who loves you MORE then he loves himself! And he’s out there ! Pray for it and have faith in God that he will bring it to you soon. You want someone to love??? Love yourself and love God. Work on you. What can you better in yourself. What’s something new you can learn. Go to church , you will feel so much love. God bless and best of luck.

[@deendrew36]

Have you ever read the book, “He’s Just Not That Into You”? Read it. Changed my dating life. Found my love less than a year after realizing many truths, and now I am married with children. There is someone for you Cassie. It’s just not him.

[@msclaywings]

Oh sweetie, trust this really really late bloomer (my 1st relationship was when I was 30!!!). A man worth being with will ALWAYS make time for you bc he'll think ur the best damn thing to come into his life. I met my husband at 34, and learned when it's right, it doesn't hurt and there aren't any doubts about each other. Trust me, cultivate the most important relationship, the one u have with yourself. I travelled the world on my own and learned multiple languages. My boyfriend (now husband) said he never met a stronger, more well rounded, confident woman. Once he found me he said he would have moved heaven and earth to make sure I wanted him back. I was 34!!!! I was set to be alone forever.... bc i realized i was a pretty awesome person on my own. You will learn how awesome u really are, and then a man will move heaven and earth to b with u too!

[@staciemaclaughlin6239]

I’ve never related to anyone more on this platform. I felt this in MY SOUL. You are absolutely not alone, my love.

[@nicom8075]

Just to be honest...if he wanted to be with you romantically then he would no matter what. I think the movie says it all..he’s just not that into you..in that way possibly. Hope that doesn’t seem harsh..just know you will find someone.

[@audreyhempburn5306]

I will be honest Cassie regardless of work or any family problems couples that are meant to be come more together in those times they do not go distant. If he can't do that it's not worth it for you and he is probably not the guy your mean to be with. People will come and go that's how we learn who is meant to stay. If a guy doesn't know how to handle problems emotions with out hurting you or distancing then he's not someone that will be able to last in a long term relationship. You deserve the best do not give up. Breaking up sucks but at least now you know. Dry those tears and keep your head up babe. Your way to nice hunni let him go. Make room for the one you will find him. I have been there i know heart break we all have. Please let it go for your own good. Think about yourself and keep working on you. HUGS! 💖💖

[@sheenaallen8762]

Why are you doing this to yourself? You were dating. You were supposed to feel wanted and valued by this person. He wasn't scared. He just didn't find what he needed. It would not have been more kind to drag it out. This is an unhealthy amount of attachment for someone you dated for two months. Let it go. Let HIM go.

[@isabellelemieux1073]

i wonder how you know that. OMG were you there? lol

[@isabeloteroo]

I’m younger than you and I have struggled so much dating as well. It’s not easy finding someone who you connect with, specially since I relate to being so closed off and private until I feel secure and comfortable with someone. My mom recently told me “ I hope you come to realize that being alone and happy, is much better than being with someone and miserable”. Being alone isn’t always easy, but it’s never worth staying with someone who doesn’t appreciate you. I want you to find happiness and I hope you do, but I’m glad you know you deserve so much and shouldn’t settle for less.

[@shadagreen]

I don't agree with some of the people that are certain he's just not into you. That could be the case, but it is very possible he's just not in a good place right now. My situation isn't "the norm" but a guy and I dated for a few months, then he broke up with me. I hoped he'd change his mind but we had no contact. My friend did some snooping a few weeks later and found that he'd left the state. I live in Alaska, so that's a big deal. People can't just drive to the next state to see someone if they live here. So, I gave up and went on with my life. A year and a half later he wrote me a letter. I didn't respond. A month or so after that I was going to a wedding and the guy who was going with me backed out. He was the only one I could think of to ask to stand in. I left him a message. After that I talked to my best friend and my sister who were furious. So, by the time he called me back I told him I changed my mind and we ended the conversation. I went to the wedding by myself that night. I doubted that decision though. I've never ever let someone back in my life before but I wanted to. I waited about another month and called him. We dated about a year and then we got married. That was almost 16 years ago. Sometimes a person really is just going through something and needs to figure themselves out. I don't want to give you false hope. I just want to say no one knows for certain what he's thinking or feeling but him. Don't blame yourself. Keep on keepin on and whatever is meant to happen will, whether it's with him or someone better for you. Also, I just got to the end of your video. Your feelings are NOT trivial or stupid. Heartbreak hurts. Thank you for sharing with us. 💚

[@rachaelesque3]

Shayla what a lovely story and message at the end. Thanks for sharing! ♥️

[@MukinoK]

I agree with you, Shayla - I obviously don't know this guy but I myself am a very private person and it took my current boyfriend four years of being my friend before I let him far enough into my life to consider a relationship with him. It took me a long time to drop my guard enough, and I've often thought that if we broke up I would never date again because I just don't have it in me to open myself up to someone else. It wouldn't surprise me if this guy feels the same way - that he doesn't have the emotional fortitude for a relationship and, at least right now, doesn't feel like he ever will again.

[@thepeptalkplace]

Time is your friend. It will give you perspective. Just don’t be a doormat - respect yourself.

[@alejandrarodriguez5850]

When a guy says that most likely he wants to look elsewhere to have more fun and he just lost interest not that 'he is scared'. I know it's hard and I have gone through that in the past in my early 20's. Guys are simple. If they want to be with you they will stick around and don't play with ''it's not you, it's me''. Cassey you are ridiculously GORGEOUS... have you seen your face, seriously???? and smart and fun and so many positive things but you might have to work more on your self esteem :) If he doesn't want to be with you, his lose. You are a queen, you don't have to wait for him or be nice and understanding just wave him good bye and work on your self love so much that you will attract the right guy. A big hug.

[@lvnjden4ever]

I think he just wasn’t that into you

[@jenirankin5623]

Cassie... hopefully these words will save you those little tears.... He’s just not into you. Absorb that my dear, then go find that man that can’t imagine a day without you. You’re so absolutely beautiful!

[@tatianashaurova3011]

Cassie, I know this is not what you want to hear, but most likely, he realized he was not into you, there could be another girl involved. Trust me, if a guy wants you in his life, absolutely NOTHING will stop him! Us girls are way too cerebral about the relationship and breakups. Stop analyzing the situation and do not look for an explanation for his behavior other than he did not want to be in a romantic relationship with you. I am so sorry you are in pain, but it is for the better and you know it. I wish you all the best, you are a beautiful person.

[@AE-vu9rz]

tatiana shaurova yes !!

[@jenirankin5623]

Yes.. that exact thing lead me to the man that could not imagine a day without me.

[@glassysurface]

Guys hit a point where they panic in a relationship, doesn't matter who you are or they are. Sounds like he hit that point and the roll of the mental man dice didn't go your way. It sucks but it's not worth to beat yourself up over it, because this is literally a it's them not you situation.

[@scandisnowgirl3696]

Amanda B definitely not all of them. My husband was in it ALL the way from the start. No questioning it, no dice rolling.

[@caryulmer5578]

Cassie, relationships are hard & some times we struggle to get it right. I'm a therapist, (also a woman who's older than you,) so please let me pass on what I try to help people see about relationships & why they fail. We tend to approach them with our hormones, if we think the person is physically attractive, we're interested. We then tend to see in the person something that convinces us we're right to be attracted. We see the 'nice' side & gloss over the 'not what we want' side. (Later on we realize that.) This is the wrong approach, & what this guy told you amplifies that. Ironically we put more thought into what type of vehicle we should buy & if it will suit our needs than we put into what type of person we need, to be able to be our life partner. The first thing we need to do before looking for someone to date is really get to know ourselves. Even if you think you do, I'll bet like most people, you don't really. Ask yourself, what do you need from the other person? (In detail.) Do you need someone who can be there often to reassure you, (& how much is 'often'; what type of reassurance), do you need someone who needs reasurrance from you, do you need someone who gives you as much space as you need, do you need someone who can be with you constantly, etc. What's important to you in life, & why is it important? What do you enjoy doing? E.g. I always thought what mattered to me was not the activity but who I'm doing it with. Turns out that's only partly true. Things I don't like: swimming, snow, getting rained on, flying, boating, (& many other things,) & I would never enjoy them with anyone. I can't swim, am insecure about how I look in a swimsuit, take forever to get ready so don't want snow/rain to destroy my hard work, & get airsick/seasick/carsick easily. So learn to know yourself truthfully. You said you want to feel cared about, but that's a subjective description. What behavior would the other person need to do to make you feel cared about? What types if things do you want them to care about? What they think should make you feel cared about might not match up with what you think makes you feel cared about. Once you really know yourself, then think about where people who could meet your needs might hang out. E.g. If you want someone that won't want to go boating, don't hang out at the local marina, no matter how much you feel attracted to men in swimsuits. Right now you need someone who can accept that you need to focus on some of your own issues. Stay away from men who have issues of their own anywhere, past relationships, at work, family etc. And remember, you can't fix another person's problems, they have to do it themselves. You wanted to help him deal with his issues & feel loved, but did he want that or was it your need to do it? Is it that you really want to help him solve his problems, or is it really that you want to nurture someone? If it's the latter, you'll get sick of his problems & start resenting his neediness. What you think is being supportive the other person might find clingy, or pushy. It might not be what they think being supportive is. So really define for yourself what supportive means to you. Also remember that for the first long while both of you are trying to look good to the other person. We don't usually hang out in our old sweatpants right away. We also are way more agreeable than we would usually be about things. (It's called the honeymoon period in a relationship.) So don't give much credit to what you think you're seeing in the other person for the first while, what you are seeing is what they're willing to show. Same with you. The belches & farts come out later, & then you see the real person. What you are grieving is probably the man you thought he might be rather than the man he really is. In the end, he looked after what he needed, he let you get close then decided a relationship with you isn't what he wanted, so that is one of his characteristics that will show up in other ways. If you're a person who wants him to put you first, he may be someone who won't except maybe over small issues. Hope some of this makes sense for you, sweetie. You are a beautiful, kind woman, but like the rest of us, you do have your own needs in life & in a relationship. Get to really understand what they are first, & you'll meet the right guy.

[@victoriariley598]

That’s A LOT of ads....😒😠

[@IndigoRoses7]

Not only is it a shit ton of ads, they're all quite strategically placed in this video, aren't they? Was this her way to vent or was it a cash grab on ad sense. The amount of ads in this is why I can't get past the halfway point in this video it's getting annoying.

[@thehollyhazard]

Cassie: 1: I love you, you cute little muffin. If I wasn't straight and if you weren't straight (or whatever), I would downright date the crap, THE CRAP outta you. You're the cutest and sweetest. 2: Please be a bit more open, I totally relate to you and I'm proud of you for sharing. Love is hard, but without openness, how can we understand? 3: I understand how you felt bout him opening up slowly, I had to understand what it means when it comes to be slow in relationships. I think he really cared about you because he took the time for being slow. Things happen, but do not say that a few people are attracted to you. THERE ARE TONS OF BEAUTIFUL ORCAS IN THE SEA. The unique and the loving ones. You will have a partner in due time. The perfect one. Just be Cassie. That's all. 4: PICKLE RICKKKKKK!!!!

[@lindzexposure9347]

Holly Stebbin I would totally date her, too!

[@bethereasonsomeonesmilesto9493]

@@lindzexposure9347 me too lol but I'm married and straight.. ..but she has such a beautiful soul

[@TattooedLuna]

Same here. Cassie inspires me so much. We’d have to fight for her or share her!! Lol 💕💕

[@AnastaciaInCleveland]

I'm bi-sexual, and I think Cassie is beautiful. It's hard to see her hurting

[@lauraodero9675]

What a shitty thing to do, breaking up with you in a public space! The least he could do is break it to you in a place where you could process in private... men! 😤

[@mouseyman]

Cassie, I rarely comment here on KZbin, but I wanted to just point out a few things from an objective standpoint. He broke up with you, but that does not mean that you are unloveable or that there is something intrinsically wrong with you as a person. It also doesn't mean he's bad person (you didn't say that about him, I'm just pointing it out to others who might be in the same situation and feeling that way). I think it's a really good idea to take some time away from him in the capacity of a friend. He's got other friends who can support him. I do not encourage you to wait around for him. Continue mingling and going on dates. I think getting out of the house a bit more would really help you to meet new people and also find distraction from this current issue and help you overcome it faster. Take a week to cry and be upset, and then get back out there. This relationship didn't work, but you might be just around the corner to finding one that will, but you've got to get yourself out there. Be strong Cassie. ❤️

[@1114kristin]

I have had the same thing happen. You have so much to offer. Don't be with anyone who doesn't worship the ground you walk on! You deserve so much happiness!!

[@whollyrocks]

Cassie... this is bizarre... I've literally just been through the same thing. Beat for beat. Even down to the day, the excuse, the feeling of knowing it was going to happen. The joking afterwards. We've agreed to be best friends still, but you just have that worry constantly. Hearing you talk about it has made me feel reflective on my own dynamic. You're so beautiful, and charismatic, and i dont want to be like ha itll all come out in the wash! Because its horrible to hear. I just feel like its important to know that people are paralleling you 💕 sending so much love

[@racheldistefano6794]

Stay strong Cassie! 🧡 remember that when you end a relationship us ladies tend to romanticize our ex partners. If he’s meant to be with you, he will. Give it Time. But maybe he left to let the right guy in. Everything happens for a reason. I hope you’re doing a bit better now 🧡 much love to you girly 😘

[@pistypondue1611]

Whyyyyyy do people break up with people in public places??? Just go to the person's house and save them the bullshit of being emotional in front of strangers

[@michalchannellife]

This broke my heart, I know how bad that feels... Stay strong love♥♥

[@karinnamarie6637]

I'm 19 and I recently just went through something similar. The way you feel, and your reaction was literally the exact same as mine. It took me a few weeks of crying, denial and giving him excuses before I realized exactly what it was. He just was not into me. It was not timing or anything. For whatever reason, he just did not feel it. And honestly, that is okay. It is okay to not love someone. Love is not something that can be forced. Contrary to what others think, I do not think he is a bad person. I do not think he is manipulative. I think he did care about you, but not in the way that you wanted. Breakups are hard on both sides, and I think that him wanting to stay friends was his way of lessening the blow of hurting you. What would be manipulative is if he stayed in a relationship that he knew was not right deep down. Girl, I feel your pain so genuinely but you just have to keep your head up and realize your worth as a person. Rejection is one of the hardest things to face because it just makes you feel awful about yourself but you must realize that this is all him. It is nothing that you did. you are such a beautiful person and you deserve someone who will love you with everything in them! love you!!

[@Sahhrahhh]

Girl, firstly - it’s very brave to put out such an emotionally raw video like this. So thank you for allowing us into this very intimate and private part of your life. Breakups are tough for everyone. Make sure you allow yourself to feel whatever it is you’re feeling. Grieving is important. But make sure you don’t stay stuck in the mentality that you’ll never be able to open up to someone again. Because it’s not true! Life is a journey! You meet everyone for a reason. Keep your head up and just know that your soul mate is out there, searching for you, don’t give up! ❤️

[@nicoleb1023]

“Someone willing to fight for me” is such dramatic language to use when dating. It’s not that intense. There’s making it work and there’s walking away. That’s it. There’s no “fighting” for anything. I feel like you romanticize and dramatize these relationships to the point that it’s unhealthy. “I just wanna love someone”. You can. Doesn’t always mean it works out. That’s life. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@recycledhips]

I’m sorry you’re hurting, baby girl. I went through something similar last year with a guy I met on Tinder. When he ended up ghosting me, it tore me up. What really helped me when I was trying to get over it and to reflect on how I was feeling, was to stop theorizing about what he was thinking, why he did what he did, etc. If he wanted to be with me, he would have! But he didn’t. That hurts. No lie there, especially when you feel connected to someone. But you will drive yourself crazy trying to justify people’s actions or read their minds. Be strong in who you are because as cliche as it is, you don’t need anyone! I know I got so torn up about losing this guy because I was relying on him for feeling good about myself; in a way my self esteem relied on his attention. I know confidence can be hard, but I think you should spend some time with yourself, meditating, journaling, whatever you find relaxing, to work on being able to deal with your negative thoughts about yourself. It’ll take time. You can’t get from where you are now to a better place, where you deal with relationships and emotions in a more healthy way, in one day. Or even a week! You can’t step in front of a train that’s going 500mph and expect to stop it in its tracks. But don’t give up. It’s a process, and takes dedication every day. Fight for yourself, girl. When you get to a place where you’re feeling better about yourself and your life on the day to day, you might find yourself naturally attracting better people. People you want in your life! This is what I’ve found to be true for me anyway, as someone who just over a year ago hated myself so much and suffered from a lot of anxiety and depression. I’m rooting for you, honey!

[@kungchaxiong]

Ghost him for real. Not even worth your love.

[@kungchaxiong]

@Nichole Hastings I know, what I'm trying to say is if he wants to come back to her fucking say hell the fuck no. You never know. He might just lost his soul mate and want to run back lol.

[@areluctanthousewife7195]

You have such awareness and clarity whilst respecting yourself....your teaching people a lot about just being in your truth...otherwise things can spiral out of control....your a positive mental health role model and I hope you know it...I am sorry for your loss and hope its filled with love as soon as your ready x

[@neenee_marie77]

You are not alone in feeling this way. I struggle with relationships too. I'm 33 and not married or in a ltr. It's heartbreaking when they don't work out. You imagine life with them and then that prospect is gone, so you grieve over the loss of what was and what could be. I've only been a subscriber of yours for about 2 weeks but you are one of my favorites. You are sweet and bubbly with a good heart. It won't hurt forever. We all love you so much Cassie!

[@skyediona1781]

Ohhh sweetheart, I'm glad you're feeling better. You're young and there's plenty of time to find the one. I met my husband of 10 years when I was 33. I basically had given up finding the one and bam that's when I found him, when I wasn't looking! I know everyone says this but it's so true! You're beautiful inside and OUT! You will find the right guy when you least expect it. On a side note, loving the pickle Rick shirt. 😘💞🤗💖

[@naomim66]

Weird question but how did you guys meet? This is so sweet. Gives me hope 😂 x

[@nicolafarrar6890]

Hi Cassie, some how I had missed you posting this video and it makes a lot of things clear. I'm a lot older than you are (I'm a grandma of two) and I wanted to share some of my life experience with you. When dating doesn't work out don't over analyse. Don't make excuses, look for reasons just remind yourself that it's a numbers game and repeat the following "Some will, some won't, so what?" Please don't waste your life looking for reassurance about yourself in the feelings of others about you. Earn your self respect from yourself. If something doesn't work it isn't right. Doesn't matter why it didnt work. All you need to do is work on meeting the next one. They might not be the right one either but the more you play this numbers game the sooner you will win. Xx

[@shanonvasquez2035]

Cassie,you are an amazing,beautiful,funny an smart woman. Any man would be honored to have you as his own! You deserve to have all things wonderful in life!! And you will find that!! Your right,one day you will look back and realize he really wasn't the one. You aren't alone Cassie! I was 15 when I got pregnant and spent 21yrs of my life with him and that ended about 7 yrs ago. At the time I thought I was going to die...my heart and soul were crushed! I lost about 50lbs and didnt think I could get through. It took a lot of soul searching and lots and lots of tears but about 6 months later I truly found myself and who I really was and realized I deserved soo much better. I dont regret all those years of being with him because we have 3 wonderful children who are now grown and I found me!! Today i am happier then ever and I'm engaged to a wonderful man who loves me for exactly who i am. My point is Cassie that you are a beautiful person and you will find that one person who is perfect and deserves your live and it's a good thing to find out sooner then later. Hugs sent your way😘🧡🦋

[@spbg_4]

You are so talented, so real and so kind - all of us commenting down below know how much happiness and joy and love is coming your way! Just take care of yourself now, do you, and a great man will come your way! Much love

[@eyeshadowsanonymous]

I'm sorry about your heartbreak. You're an amazing person, and you will find someone who is all in and values you/sees that.

[@missgivings4269]

She doesn't miss him.. she misses companionship.. obviously she lives a lonely life.. it's obvious.. she has 'followers' but not companions 😖

[@Kayla-tf9rr]

Also, is anyone else dying to know what this guy looks like?

[@cloudnine585]

Yessssss!!!! I have all kinds of ideas. It's driving me mad actually lol.

[@Kayla-tf9rr]

Christina Williams lmao I’m dead

[@Kayla-tf9rr]

Christina Williams GIRL SAME. EXACTLY WHO I IMAGINE IT BEING 😭 when we kissed her on the cheek at that festival!

[@Kayla-tf9rr]

Christina Williams he was 🔥 if it’s the guy we are thinking of 🧐

[@ifloetic]

@Christina Williams Jacob has been her friend for many years, so it's not him

[@joycemayo9634]

Casey, don't make excuses for him if he were married and hating his job he couldn't just walk away. These are all excuses. For whatever the reason was, he wasn't into it. Chalk it up to something that just didn't work out. I'm sorry.

[@snakesonaplanerox]

I had an ex like that. We only dated for two months but we had moved very quickly. We'd been spending time with each other most days and met each other's families. Yes it was early, but it still hurt a lot when he broke up with me. It never feels good to be the one being left behind (or at least that's how it always feels for me) and not be picked as someone's one. Dating sucks, a lot of guys are single bc they're horrible to date and that's a lot of the muck you wade through to find a good person. Hopefully helpful advice, care as little as you can. Go on dates for the fun, be weird and strange and as aggressively you as you can be. Don't worry about scaring someone off, because it's better to get rid of them on the first meeting than down the road. Do activities and enjoy the going out as much or more than meeting the other person. And you may not be everyone's type, but you are someone's perfect type. Someone out there is going to love all the parts of you and help you love yourself more fully.

[@yunajoh9451]

Im here after the last date

[@anemone6260]

Cassie, wanting to support the people close to you through thick and thin is wonderful! This guy was lucky to have you. But I'm sure you realized that this tendency of his to "withdraw" from others when faced with adversity was not going to change even if you were still dating him. You deserve someone who is as caring and loyal as you are. I've gone through dissolutions of relationships I valued too and they're part of growing as a person, no matter how hard they were to go through. I've had to confront my own issues over time and it's not been easy which is why I say that thinking one can "fix" someone else's problems is often futile, we grow and change on our own, not at someone else's will. If someone's a flake thinking that your love can change that will only cause more hurt and disappointment. Think of it this way, at least you found out about this tendency of his early, so you can find someone who you'd be happier with!

[@cassw5388]

sending love to you, cassie. i’m sorry you’re feeling heartbreak, it’s really the worst. :(

[@kory4579]

What a strange way to break up with someone. "Speaking of me being a horrible person..." that must have been SO awkward for her. It was probably just his way to try and lighten the mood on it but that's such a terrible way to start XD what the heck..... also, the least he could have done is paid for her meal. i agree with cassie, when he insisted to pay separate it was an obvious red flag. that probably would've been the more logical chance to break the news. but instead he let her pay for everything and sat through the whole thing and then said "so since I'm a horrible person..." lmao wut

[@fallonboo6544]

cassie i feel you and relate to you in many ways, you have a heart of GOLD, i hope things work out for you. wether it be with him or someone else, your compassion is your biggest charm. hopefully the right person admires that rather than taking it for granted

[@sendhelp6537]

I know this is old but Cassie I had to give you some advice. If a man is into a woman, they will make it work. He just wanted out and was trying to let you down easy. Don't feel bad for him, let him go.

[@jaygarcia6338]

be strong cassie. if he cant stick around through this then he’s not ready for what you need anyways. be firm in what you want and know what you want and don’t apologize for it. i hope he finds peace and i really hope you find peace as well. it sucks when this happens but you’ve been through so much more. we all have faith in you.

[@sarahamelia600]

You’re so brave and wonderful to share so much of yourself with us - it feels good to continue to relate to you so much and watch your journey! Love you and say hi to kitties for me! 💗

[@karenterrell8843]

I’m sorry for your heartache, glad that you are doing better. I think you are a kind and sensitive person. I hope that sharing your heart was helpful to you, and I hope you find the love you deserve.

[@Samantha-wu5vn]

Dearest Cassie, you will heal from this and the person who is going to sweap your heart away is going to fight for you and honor you and love you deeply. Love is a journey, it may happen quickly , it may happen more slow, but it WILL happen. You have a tender heart and that's why it hurts so much. I see a bright future for you and you will be happy again. Thank you for opening up to us and sharing your story. We all love you. I am sorry for your pain now.

[@noodlegirl55]

Cassie thanks so much for sharing. I literally am going through this too. Met a guy online and dated for about 2 months, and then he ended things kind of suddenly. I really liked him and felt the way you did, having that constant in life with a boyfriend..and then he just didn’t feel it as much as I did. It was so hard to find it, months and months of going on dates, and it sucks to be back at square 1!! I’m two weeks post breakup and I’m still not quite over it, feels silly to be so emotional for a short relationship, but it was very meaningful. Much love to you, may we get over this quickly and find someone better!!

[@lakshp87]

I wasn't supposed to watch this, it made my stomach churn seeing you in pain. There is one thing I can say, I don't know if it will help. It is a wonderful feeling falling for someone. Personally I would even welcome the pain (please watch the father's speech in "Call me by your name"). As someone who used to have crushes all the time and fell in love twice, I haven't felt romantic emotions for the past 5 years. I tried dating people and not giving up too soon, being practical about relationships. But now I have come to terms with it. Maybe this is me now, maybe I will never feel that "feeling" again. I have even stopped hoping for meet-cutes. I am only a couple years older than you but I feel like whatever experiences I had in past, I didn't let myself feel the pain, I shut all those thoughts down and now I feel nothing. I remember what being in love or falling for someone feels like, I am happy that you have felt these emotions even if the relationship didn't last and I hope you will soon feel them again for the person who is meant to stay.

[@itsmejay8406]

Your pain is palpable in this video... I'm sorry that you're going through this. You seem like such a genuine soul, and you deserve to be happy and loved. You will find It one day, hang in there. For what it's worth tho, I wouldn't worry too too much about Shmo. This is just my opinion, but it seems like you got friend zoned. For him to leave you because he was uncertain about whether or not to stay at his job seems like a cop out to me. The fact that you asked him if he thought things could work out between u guys in the future if he figured his stuff out, and he gave you a hard no...And went so far as to say he'll probably never never date again....at 26...is dramatic. You're right. He said he wants to stay friends, but to move on and find someone else...to me that says it all. Anyways, I hope you feel better, and I hope I didn't overstep with my thoughts, just trying to offer some perspective. Sending love and good vibes your way xoxo

[@analezaa6306]

Everyone is a guide to teach us things about ourselves - our reactions and where our fears are.

[@stacieb453]

Girl just remember your self worth! You are beautifully and wonderfully made and God has a plan for you. I'm 36 years old and single. Some days it sucks, but I've made sure I've made an amazing life for myself, and the only way I'll let someone into it is if they are awesome! I have a feeling you're a bit younger than me, but the guys of my generation kinda suck too. I've learned to not make excuses for other people's behavior, or try to figure out what I did for some guy to ghost me after an amazing date. I know it wasn't me. It's them, and I'm not going to waste time or emotions on someone who certainly isn't concerned about mine. Hang in there, talk to God, and work on becoming the best version of you while waiting for the right guy. Hopefully he is out there working on himself as well.

[@warmfluffysocks1404]

It sounds like he just wanted to date, and you wanted a relationship. That's where he's at as a person, and that's where your at. Keep moving on, Cassie...power to ya!! :)