100. Shut Up! How to Communicate Better by Talking Less

What does it take to be a more effective communicator? According to Dan Lyons, it starts with knowing when to shut your mouth.
As a journalist, author, and screenwriter, Lyons knows a thing or two about wielding words. But as he reveals in his book, STFU: The Power of Keeping Your Mouth Shut in an Endlessly Noisy World, most of us talk too much and listen too little. “A great conversation is about listening. And it probably involves you talking less,” he says.
In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Lyons and host Matt Abrahams explore how to stop over-talking, emphasizing the value of active listening, asking good questions, and giving others space to speak.
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[@viviennea.293]

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[@Natelch7682]

They prefer not to talk too much😂

[@tommy2064]

Nice, learned so much from your podcast! Quality stuff.

[@rohit9shrivastava]

It's a total opposite situation for me, I talk less.. And yes after watching this podcast I am now more aware of my quality of active listening and have become better at it.

[@carlosdna]

This is a great podcast. I hace learned so much about strategic comminication. Thanks profesor Matt A. Greetings from Lima-Peru🇵🇪

[@anurag-8]

Asking questions is a good habit...most people can't answer them if they are good ones...and that's the way you can know about the person 😊

[@asmnasim702]

Best podcast series ever!

[@nzeifunanya2052]

Nice podcast. Thank you for this. When you started talking less, you started to notice those who interested in what you have to saying. By just throwing a statement that requires a follow up question to get clearer, if the person was listening, they will ask. If not, save my strength and energy.

[@benjamindover4337]

Good episode

[@englishwithsamaneh]

That was great! Thanks

[@obionoshoes8111]

This video is exactly what i am looking for. Thank you!!I wanna share how i feel that i talk to much and why. I like to explain everything so clearly and i hate that people don't do this, so I try to explain each of my sentences and thoughts and reasons to the people with whom i talk as clearly as I can. Because i don't want any mistake by make. The reaction from the person who I talked to, you know is just a few words back. I don't understand, I am responsible for everything and everyone and try to make things clear but I don't feel the power I should have. I really don't understand this!!! You know is just feels that even though you are in an important position your words and your power are not as important as your identity. This makes me self-doubt the whole time. I try to understand why talk less and how to talk less. Training myself to become that "talk less" person. Wish i could be different after this video. ! Thank you!!

[@nzeifunanya2052]

Work harder my dear. This is an example. All you said now would have been capture in This video is exactly what I've been looking for. I always wondered why I don't feel the power I'm meant to feel when I overexplain things. I get now. I'll try to talk less and listen more. Thanks.

[@obionoshoes8111]

@@nzeifunanya2052 Thank you. You are right. I am working on this. I’ll take your words, try harder.

[@archimake4233]

Great Podcast! Surprised by interviewer slip up at at 16.25 when Interviewee is asked what his 5 word title would be and he says " Talk Less, Say More." to which interviewer repeats back as "Talk Less, Listen More." Ironic that he hadnt listened. Interviewee kindly doesnt create embarrassment by correcting him! And the original phrase employs a smarter play on meaning than the interviewers simplistic one. Surprised that no one else has mentioned this yet...

[@FUNnel4283]

At 16:40 you said it wrong,he said “talk less,say more” which is way deeper than “talk less,listen more”

[@pandachii6357]

I’m guilty of talking too much to pass the awkwardness and the silence. I’m working on myself to actively listen but I realise that people who used to know me as talkative person started being concerned. They asked what was wrong with me? How do I convey that I’m in progress of change to those whom have known me as a talkative person before?

[@nzeifunanya2052]

Smile and tell them you're fine. They don't need to know.

[@footrells]

Listen to this part 16:35

[@LCarefortheworld]

What would you do if someone talks non stop and you don’t know the person well enough to set up ground rules? Don’t you have to interrupt them?

[@Natelch7682]

I talk too much to make the other side more comfortable.

[@ronchilling]

For a video about talking less, this is a long video

[@sashamoore9691]

I loved barrack Obamas speeches and how he’d look when he’s engaged in listening to someone’s suggestion. This guest is smart af