101 Things You SHOULD Say To Someone With Depression

[@grahamkakerel4183]

i feel sad because nobody will say these things to me

[@LikeKristen]

thats really why I made this video because sometimes people don't know what to say. I hope people will share this video and spread the word!

[@grahamkakerel4183]

LikeKristen yes, I'd love to have someone who actually understands how I'm feeling even a little bit. also thank you for the vids, Kristen! sad that such a small group of people talk about these topics here.

[@LetsStopThisSong]

Same here, but hey, you're a whole being, you have to be your very own best friend and tell these things to yourself, no matter how silly it sounds!

[@willowrobinson7965]

I can't choose my otp yeah me 2 😞

[@miaperfetti8748]

I can't choose my otp yes my only friend at my school doesn't care and she always forgets I have it so she gets mad at me when I am sad and my parents dont believe I have it

[@katgolightly8816]

You are going to be an amazing therapist one day.

[@dutawe]

"Take your time. No one is rushing you." Sounded like "Take your time. No one is Russian here." And then after about 20 sec of pause and thinking, I got what you said xD

[@heres_savvy5777]

I laughed so hard when I read this, because that's exactly what I heard.

[@kevinmcdougall7128]

Mr. N00dle when is that in the video??

[@heres_savvy5777]

sophie whitaker 5:15

[@LikeKristen]

this made my night! lol

[@kevinmcdougall7128]

+LikeKristen lol Xx 😂😭😭

[@conorallan8251]

6:35 is not SHAMELESS self promotion it is DESERVED self promotion, you are amazing Kristen and thank you for everything you do, you rock!

[@SilveerStarr]

"You are not a waste of space!" made me start crying. I've been feeling like a waste lately, thank you :)

[@sophiawinter4184]

I wish there would actually be peope who react that way.. but no one around me does and it just makes me feel even more lonely

[@LikeKristen]

What are some things I missed? Let me know!

[@WhitePikminPro]

LikeKristen "I know its difficult to feel like you're trying, but you really are."

[@carolinelala9818]

You're an amazing person, keep up the great work. Also, if you could pass on a video somehow to the Native American women and youth in Northern Canada that would be great. That area has a high suicide rate. Those kids feel hopeless and it's sad to know why. The media glosses over the topic when it happens and nothing gets done. I think what you are doing is incredible and so many professionals do not address these topics at all or charge for this information. What you are offering is wonderful, keep up the great work with your videos.

[@yarayugi7506]

LikeKristen Hey, I have a question. Why does this video make me so nauseous? I mean, like, it makes me feel physically ill when people tell me that they care. I don't know why; I need to- I want to feel better. It hurts so much. But, when people tell me that I matter, I can't believe them. Please help. I don't know what to do.

[@kayleeanderson3416]

LikeKristen hi Kristen if my deperission get wrost in Winter and fall and my friend make it wrose and wrose

[@Iamdusk]

LikeKristen -I know how it feels, ur NOT alone -

[@BethBoulevard]

Gosh this is lovely to hear this is a wonderful video

[@laurenmontera9516]

I like how each you was their own style of trying to help. Blue sweater wants to have fun in a goofy way. Yellow sweater wants to be the best friend. White blouse is more logical and practical about it. White sweater was the total sweetheart. It felt like everyone can have something to say.

[@winterlyrics9854]

I don't know why but I'm 2 minutes in and I'm in tears.

[@marthaloven9385]

In my experience, it's because these are things that tell us someone cares. We want to believe that somebody cares, but it's hard to do. This is only based on my personal experience though.

[@insertedgyemobandnameshere813]

Winter Lyrics same,, and I think it’s because I am wishing so hard for my family to say this to me

[@dumbo_exe]

some days im super depressed but then other days im super happy. I dont know what to do...

[@nadiahmiah3966]

I really wish I will find a person like this in my life.

[@Parasitoid_Sentimentality]

"You seem so much happier, look at that big grin" is the phrase of the month for me. Thankfully, even though hearing that hurts, them thinking Im better is the goal. I wont get better so im pretending while I tie off loose ends with those I love before I go, I couldn't stand another trip to a mental hospital

[@Parasitoid_Sentimentality]

If it doesnt work again and I can still move, i will drag myself back to the top of that bulding and jump again.

[@jasperyn4846]

since i went all my shit.. i havent cryed infrount of any of my friends. i cant let my walls down i dont know how.

[@foreversmiles179]

thanks ❤ I miss school a lot and whenever I still back my friends ask where were you? and I say I dont wanna talk about it right now please. and they respect me. my friend also has severe depression and I always make her go outside it makes her feel so much better. and in return, she reminds me to take my meds and convince me not to think anything bad or do anything bad to myself ❤

[@morganhall4956]

I love your channel and it makes me feel like I'm not alone on this depression and anxiety. Thank you ❤️

[@UniquelyPurple]

i remembered I had to fight for the people closest to be able to say these words. it took them years to finally understand that it wasn't just a phase or me being dramatic or me just having an emotional moment. my bf was an example. he initially didn't understand and rejected my diagnosis when I finally seek help from a doctor. it tooks months of the worst fights we ever had and almost got into a break up.. for him to finally understand and became of one my most supportive pillar of support right now. it takes time but keep talking to the people who care about you and never stop trying to get them to understand your situation. it definitely takes time for them to grasp what you're going through but sometimes, it's worth it :)

[@swedishfish8698]

You made me cry tears of joy I'm really depressed and this made me feel like I'm cared about

[@isprl128]

my best friend almost told me all of these.. she would always be there for me when I needed her even when I think that nobody cares about me she insists on telling me that I really matter to her.. when I told her about my self-harm she was really shocked and she hugged me and started crying so bad.. when I told her about my social anxiety she encouraged me to get therapy.... she is the reason why i'm recovering from self harm and depression.. I discovers recently that she is also already going through depression and anxiety so I promised to stay with her in this and to make helping her my daily goal because she means a lot... I know she's not gonna read this but I want to let her know.. you are the most precious thing I got and I can ever get... you make the meaning to my life.. I hope you'll stay with me forever and I will never deserve an amazing person like you..... I LOVE YOU Z.... I REALLY DO💘💘💘💘

[@emmabryant3821]

I cut and i hate myself for it and I got better last year but now it just seems worse. My closest friends know but I kinda want to tell an adult but I don't know how and every time I go to, I completely chicken out and then bc of the stress I cut. And it just feels like an ongoing cycle

[@LikeKristen]

Emma Bryant know that you are strong enough to reach out for help. I have many videos on ways to talk to your parents or adults about SH or your mental health in general. Maybe go watch those for a little courage and inspiration!

[@sarahxd6760]

Emma Bryant hopefully everything is okay, I'm always here if you need support or advice

[@LetsStopThisSong]

It's true that so many people don't really know what to say, and I just hope many see this so they can use them, they are so helpful and just showing a little love and care goes a long way when someone is depressed, just hearing these made me feel warm inside

[@chaoticgeorgie722]

This video brought some sort of light to me. I just wish people would say these things to me, they tell me to try to socialise/excersise/eat healthier or that I'm not trying hard enough and I know they've tried to help but it frustrates me more than it helps me

[@katiekilgore6918]

This video literally made me cry. I'm still crying now. I wish more people would say stuff like this to me.

[@logical8449]

CRYING....... THAT'S WHAT YOU MADE ME DO WITH YOUR INSPIRING AND BEAUTIFUL WORDS thank you I really needed to hear that...

[@SprityON]

Thank you for this. I needed to know what I can and cannot say. I also didn't know what things to say to make that person feel a little bit better. I will re-watch this many times. I repeat, thanks!

[@AJ-xt9wj]

It felt so nice to hear this. I started crying.

[@nicolasingh6948]

Thanks for this my friend started pouring everything out to me yesterday after I asked her if she was ok and that told her that she can talk to me I'd never spoke to anyone about depression before so I had no idea what to say. Hopefully I can do a better job of supporting her now

[@ethermeister222]

This is so off topic but I really just need anybody's help. I've been self-harming for a little while and have recently been trying to get better, but still consider it a comfort to have my blade with me. Earlier today my best friend took it and binned it, now I'm left here clueless on what to do.

[@ethanwakeman2578]

Any of those 101 things will make my day any day! I'm so glad I found you Kristen you're videos are so encouraging!

[@finnp5132]

This really helped my friend, i was saying these things to my friend, but i wasnt saying them in the right way. And this fized it

[@emmafreeman4663]

I love this so much! You're so sweet and you say all of these things so sincerely, it's so comforting to hear

[@shenufernando3212]

This is literally so sweet

[@fabsinsanitysderanged8625]

this was amazing i wish i had someone like this in my life. i can show that you rea,lly really care about all us people and you have really helped me in my most darkest times thank you kristin your amazing .

[@matchalvr14]

I have a friend. She's bored with his life. Now, she doesn't like things when she used to like. She's not energetic when she says she's bored with her life. She says she's not happy with her life. She needs a new activity but can't find one. So, is it a depression?

[@Cottagecorecrits]

I cried watching this video. I really need some of the people around me to tell me this.

[@Luna_Lovelace77]

i've probably only heard like 1 or two of thoses this makes me wanna cry

[@lizziep1880]

How does she not have more subscribers???? She's so amazing!

[@justanotherpxrson]

I wish people were this good to me.

[@MsEripmav]

You're like the nicest person ever. Thanks for making this video.

[@acethegeneral9549]

You made me feel so much better i literally cried thank you so so much

[@themoonlight977]

I started crying after the one about school at the end. God I hate school so much and my family forces me to go to school. Sometimes I have to fake illness just to stay home.

[@ninadaggett]

I really wanted to like this twice. I'm gonna keep this in my "watch later" list for when I wish my friends would check up on me but I'm too scared to ask or feel like a burden/asking for attention. Made me feel warm and fuzzy thank you x

[@Corvus40]

Thank you, Kristen, for making my day. If only people in my immediate surroundings would say the same words to me.

[@noelleclark5992]

This made me feel especially better. You're amazing by the way and thank you for keep your channel up and running.

[@lukehoatland]

It felt like you were talking to me the whole time, thank you.

[@zakai9603]

This video made me cry although u weren’t telling ME these things I just feel better and no one has said any of these things to me ever

[@WilliamsFamily899]

your advice is very helpful I actually dating someone dealing with depression and we had a lot problems but now I going to use your advice hopefully it works a new approach

[@carlosmunozhdz]

Oh god I am crying so much right now. This is exactly what I wanted to hear. This is nice I really needed to hear that!

[@lydiaholland4044]

I've been dealing with depression and self harm for two year and the longest I've gone clean was three days. The only people that know are my counselor and my school counselor my parents thought that I stopped and I have to hide it from them because I get grounded if they find out and they think that it's for attention. I kneed help. Please give advice

[@WhitePikminPro]

It was difficult for me to get through this video. Like i can intellectually know all this, but emotionally the words just sound fake or forced. Like whatever optimism people try to share with me won't make a difference cause instead of taking it to heart I'm too busy finding all the ways they're wrong.

[@dreamerheartisonlyhuman2090]

I love your channel

[@ahsad1]

aww there are so much of them 😍 personally im struggling with depression, but i have no idea what to say to such person. so thank you so much💜

[@JD-wp3sc]

I wish someone would tell me this

[@jasminessomewhere]

I don't know how you're feeling, but I'm here to support and listen. :) You are not a waste of space. Do you need a hug? I'm an A+ hugger! I know that you are strong enough to get through this. I hope this helps, I mean it all!

[@JD-wp3sc]

Thank you for all this support

[@jasminessomewhere]

It's just J'J Chanel You're welcome! I'm here if your ever want to talk.

[@elvelijbaart6477]

I’m happy to know What to Say to my friend, and I’m happy i know What I’m doing good, Thank you❤️

[@HiHi-gk8ep]

ur such i kind person and a life saver dont know what i would do with out u thx so much

[@mekhisagar1939]

Watching this made me cry cuz I felt like you spoke directly to me. Oh well. Thank you ^^

[@blackcatt10]

I’m so glad you exist, you make me feel less alone

[@salman4587]

I wish that I had someone who cared enough to ask me even one of those questions.

[@katetrembly4297]

This is exactly what I needed. Kristen, if you ever read this you are such a great influence to so many people around you. Thank you so much for this video

[@danalam8658]

Thank you for posting this at this time, it was like perfect timing. It hasn't been the best couple of days. It's been really rough lately. Since I don't have a supportive support system for my mental health... Or just someone who cared. Just you saying those stuff through a screen helped a lot. Thank you for being you and doing what you're doing.

[@niconicorom]

Even I don't know you, thank you

[@ceasarentila1539]

This video is great, wish I have any friends who'd really be interested to talk to me. There were some who said good things to me but didn't last that long. Sorry for bringing up post like this. Have a great day people.

[@LetsStopThisSong]

These are awesome, Kristen, we will change the world little by little!

[@mathildamokkings3210]

this made me cry

[@dougherty8732]

...am going through that almost everyday! its a battle i have to fight everyday...

[@krisatkinson2126]

I love your videos they make me feel happy and not depressed you are an inspiration to me to stay strong

[@reapersvenom2076]

Be my friend... I need someone like you.

[@gizira_leon]

This made me cry, because I have nobody to tell me these things...

[@liamodonovan8883]

I love you Kristen I always feel better after watching your videos your such an angle

[@reagansheley1004]

Thank you, I really needed this today.

[@kelleyoneal9780]

Every morning I check in with guy friend to see how he's doing. I love him so much. The most difficult part is it is a long distance relationship at the moment. I will keep these in mind and try to think of others. We both really love the same kinds of music so we send each other song lyrics. I've sent him lyric videos from KZbin. "I'll Stand By You" (Pretenders), "The Greatest Reward"'(Celine Dion), "Bridge Over Troubled Water" (Simon & Garfunkel)

[@jamiebrandligt5976]

i wish that people said these things to me because no one takes my seriously and they say it's just a phase but a phase wouldn't be 2 years long

[@sinombrerodriguez3442]

this is incredibly nice to listen to

[@rohnekkdosi1979]

Now I just need someone, who will say these things to me and mean them

[@FinDenny]

The A+ hugger one was my favorite one.

[@kokichiyoursupremeleader.1713]

Thanks for making me sad and a little happy. I’m happy that you made this because I like hearing this because it makes me feel a little more hopeful But this makes me want I cry because I know no one understands me enough to say these things. I’m too scared to tell and so I’ll probably never get diagnosed so if I tell someone about this Based on how people on KZbin act they’ll say I’m not depressed because I’m not diagnosed and that i have a better life.

[@rapidanimations6399]

Close your eye and listen to it it feels good

[@paniferrow]

I've never been told any of these by ANYONE. Except my friend who is going through the same as me. And my mother.

[@dimitrislance7508]

Something about her makes me feel safe 😊 especially with the motivation

[@Babs2704]

You are so supportive!! And btw your eyeliner is on point

[@valentina.2.0]

You're the best in the whole world ♡ so glad to have subsribed to your channel. love u sweetheart

[@diegoanzora6221]

thanks for making this video

[@rufaidahthabet]

the crying part. its so true. ive been feeling so damn depressed for almost three weeks and last week I started to have suicidal thoughts. and today when I meant my school counsllor I cried. and man I feel so much better. I knew I needed to cry but I never had the energy or the time or anything else to cry. when I cry I would cry I front of one person who I feel realyl comfortable with cz if I cry alone ill cry about the same thinf again and if I cried in public ill feel ashamed and embarrassed.

[@yashindranawanage459]

Thank you

[@kimberlytv8350]

Gosh Kristen if only I had even One Friend like you I'd be SO GRATEFUL!! I don't know why but it feels like God has segregated me in this corner of hell with NO strength to get out on my own which is what the few people in in my life expect me to do but I don't see them giving me $170 twice per c month to get help with counselling.i o/last nov 23rd and I feel it coming and don't don't know if I have any strength after this year which was was was way worse than last year. Can't go on. Keep your chins up. Hugs

[@trippykoi2614]

I wish someone cared about me enough to say these things to me

[@willdevine7748]

thank you thank you thank you

[@charliebaker966]

I wish people would notice and ask me if I took my meds

[@arjumandbano121]

I have a friend and I think she is suffering from depression she has gone off the Internet and all social media and I've tried calling her but her phone is dead I don't really know where she lives I really want to help her and be there for her but I don't know how to reach out to her

[@evalineroluahpuii5906]

Your channel is incredible. I totally love watching and listening to your advice. You're my online therapist 😊 keep up the good work Kristen

[@Raquel-2302]

You made myday

[@sailorcinnamonroll8899]

Thanks a lot for this video! This is really important!

[@yangtaileenightcore4634]

This made me smile! :) But at 4:40, someone saying that to me might make me feel a bit paranoid...

[@popsicko6493]

CAN SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME?! There's this girl I used to be friends with (we grew apart for different reasons) and for the past couple of months she has been showing obvious characteristics of depression (moving extremely slowly, acting like everything she touches is fragile; being over apologetic and apologising for things that never happened; giving away possessions and is adamant that she needs to get you presents even when you straight up refuse.). When I or anyone else has talked to her about it she just denies that anything is wrong and just says that she'll change to stop us from worrying but she never did and still doesn't. When I first noticed these symptoms I immediately went to my school counsellor to ask if she could talk to her personally after getting emails of concern about her from other members of staff. About a week later she went and talked to her and she just lied to her and said she was fine and she didn't understand why everyone was so concerned. Because you can't force someone to get themselves help or speak to someone, it pretty much ended there and now no one will do anything about it. She later developed a new behaviour where she would keep on coming up to me and coming round my house uninvited, acting like everything was normal after I would tell her to leave me alone (this was just after we stopped being friends). This is really bugging me and everyone that knows hers. PLEASE CAN SOMEONE HELP FIGURE OUT WHAT TO DO, IT'S URGENT?

[@sunbather9425]

PopSicko stop pandering to her and confront her about her problems, also try giving her advice

[@popsicko6493]

lost_ What do you mean 'pandering to her'? And I said in the original comment that I've confronted her about it and she's stubborn and won't say anything.

[@sunbather9425]

PopSicko pandering, like maybe you're approaching her too nicely when you wish to discuss serious topics?

[@popsicko6493]

lost_ Oh ok. I've tried being firm with her before but nothing is working. Now people are laughing at her for moving so slowly because she's depressed. She doesn't even know she does it.

[@sunbather9425]

PopSicko well when you say she's moving slowly because she's depressed that makes it seem more like she's faking it. i'm depressed too, but i don't fucking move like a tortoise in the hallway, i get to class as fast as i can. but i don't think recording her's the right way to go either. have you tried getting in contact with her parents?

[@BLURTHEGHOST]

Really Great! Humor could be good, depending on how close you are with the person, can say, "I'm your bodyguard. I got your back." If you can make the person smile, because i am at a therapy community, and we help lift each other out of depression. A lot of humor in the community to help lift spirits.

[@kyliefarrell4864]

I'm sorry but.....I heard these words before and they never ever came to help me they couldn't see how hurt I was.....and I feel like no one can help me.....can some one please tell me what to do to help?

[@shenk.5849]

Wish that someone told me at least some of these

[@keithsoon3366]

No one said these things to me

[@LikeKristen]

I just did.

[@corebroth8793]

I listen to this when I’m in my depressive episodes

[@missbusiness11958]

I wanna hug😭😭😭😭😭