Things Not To Say To Someone With Depression

[@dense_lex8994]

The saying: why do you have depression there’s so much happiness in the world)is the same as asking why do you asthma there’s so much air in the world. It really is.

[@sadgrass3710]

Litterally tho 😂😂😂

[@xyismoon]

Or for allergic peoples OOF THERE IS SO MUCH FLOWERS!!!! WHY DONT YOU LIKE FLOWERS???? FLOWERS LOVE EVERY GIRL!!! Me is like "Yeah but one girl in this world is Allergic for them"

[@Mae-bu2wu]

Kamu but the thing is there is more negatives in this world than positive in this world really. Everyone has or suffered with depression some way or another. It’s just like how life is, not everyone is the same so people deal with it differently. No one on this planet is ever happy 100% of the time sooo.. I don’t get when people say that

[@sauge677]

haha joke's on you i have both

[@judykiny_4723]

I thought for a sec that you were trying to explain to depressed people their illness xD

[@nebula2578]

telling someone with: -anxiety to “just stop worrying” -depression to “just be happy” -insomnia to “just go to sleep” -anorexia to “just eat” -bulimia to “just keep it in” -self-harm issues to “just stop cutting” -problems to “just get over it” is like stabbing yourself with a giant knife, saying “just stop bleeding” and you’re magically healed. _thats not how it works_

[@sutomuarashi]

WIsh it was

[@boomer7318]

Dont tell other people that. Those words kinda help me but if someone else said it id be fightingg

[@ismagicgone626]

Cries Mom: stop crying

[@greenishbean7904]

That’s not how mafia works.

[@xa447]

Yeah I agree, well mostly. When I tell myself to stop bleeding it works

[@Ethereal_Moonlight]

“You’re doing it for attention” “Why you always so sad” “Can’t you just be happy” “Your not depressed your just really sad” “It’s a phase it’ll pass” These are things I hear on the daily

[@Ninix0306]

the phase thing... i hate it too cuz depression isnt a phase as it cant be cured.. u can only find ways to deal with it. people who have battled depression and come out stronger or better, didnt necessarily get rid of it they just found ways to deal with it or control it somehow. but the illness itself is always there and the symptoms and negative thoughts ALWAYS come back.

[@gabe5436]

Imma cut a hoe like how fucked up of a person do you have to be to tell these things to another *living* _human_ being ugh

[@feliciahagg829]

Please forgive me in advance but it's you're*. No offense

[@maddisonrichards7428]

I’m sorry you are an amazing person and beautiful and whoever said is stupid and dumb love you

[@maddisonrichards7428]

Also whoever is reading this I love you too and you are wonderful beautiful/handsome

[@Mr_Murdersalot]

Telling someone with depression to “cheer up” is the same as telling a person with asthma to “just breathe”

[@efishies15]

@kiloisnear the OP spelled it right.

[@kaprisun4624]

@@dontask8051 they meant like when someone with asthma is having an attack, or struggle to breathe and they just say "lol, just breathe" as if regularly breathing will help stop the condition

[@dontask8051]

@@kaprisun4624 ah okay i understand

[@satanschild1609]

Me: has anger issues and anxiety attacks People: “control your anger!” Or “ just stop worrying and panicking!”

[@deadaccount2022]

“When your choking on something just swallow it.“

[@tylerstudio9104]

I hate when people say “but you always seem so happy!” *thats cuz I didn’t want you to bloody know and there is such thing as lying*

[@greyr.4326]

Tyler Studio ikr? This happened to me when I finally got the guts to tell a friend. Another friend laughed. I need to stop telling my "friends"

[@exnsao]

I know I saw you somewhere No phun intended maybe? Sorry if I'm wrong ._.

[@icrawlforonlychrollo8638]

Samee. I always feel so misunderstood.

[@icrawlforonlychrollo8638]

But then again it's my fault why I'm like this lol

[@tylerstudio9104]

Malbiego , I like slot of different types of videos so you probably did

[@jem2043]

"It's all in your head" Well, duh. Where did you think it was? Oh no sorry, I keep my depression in my left boob instead.

[@faerieoak6259]

Really? I personally store it in my hand so when someone's giving me a hard time about it, I can punch them with my sadness.

[@ateefa9141]

This is such an underrated comment it deserves more likes

[@bubblebutt3508]

I store it inside my ass but everytime I take a shit it never comes out

[@xxx_purple_jenna_xxx6942]

@@bubblebutt3508 sounds like your constipated

[@xxx_purple_jenna_xxx6942]

@@faerieoak6259 how to deal with people 101

[@alexahealy9956]

I hate when you people tell me “you need to stop thinking so negatively” *no shit Sherlock, I wish I thought of that*

[@rmstarred8084]

Alexa Healy "I'm happy! Why can't you be?" I DON'T KNOW SUDAN, MAYBE IT'S BECAUSE I HAVE A MENTAL ILLNESS??

[@caelanraegn]

I'm pretty sure it's some law of equilibrium or whatever that when something good happens, something bad is bound to happen after.

[@sophia-yq3qh]

Ikr!

[@buckettrooper2898]

true

[@emilyhillyard2076]

My grandma literally tells me I need to look at the good things instead of the bad things. Like, I know there are good things in my life, but everything that is wrong just seems to be weighing and I am coming to your for support, not to be put down. Of couse, none of the people I am close to know I am depressed cause I can't tell them that.

[@hineraable]

"Have you tried running while crying profusely?" Ok, I feel stalked.

[@ankavoskuilen1725]

Me too.

[@DUSKvsDAWN]

"Just have a drink and forget about it!" ...That's how I became an alcoholic. Thanks. Great advice.

[@bennyton2560]

lmao seems like I'm on my way there

[@godlessbtch3284]

"hmm..lets stimulate my depression with a depressant. Sounds good to me!!" I hate when people say to drink bc im depressed. Yeah...Dying of thirst in the dessert...dont really need any sand, thnx tho.

[@phant0m0th_]

Meli haha yeah I know right.... I know damn well that I'll drink until I make myself sick (... or close to dead.) It's called no self control and impulsivity

[@DUSKvsDAWN]

First off, I want to say I'm tipsy while writing this. XD But thank you all so much for the likes. I know it sounds cheesy, but it kind of makes me feel, idk, not alone I guess? I have been struggling with this for like one and a half year now. The funny thing is that I said "IM NEVER GONNA DRUNK BLA BLA BLA" cause alcoholism is actually in the family. :/ Thankfully, I have great mentorship and we're working really hard to fix this ^^ But please. Just for the love of god. Never say "have a drink and it'll get better". Cause people like me might actually get addicted and drink a whole liter of vodka a few nights a week. :(

[@heidir6788]

Take care of yourself as best as you can and try to remember you're not alone😊 lots a love❤

[@andrewrobertson7605]

“People do have it worse than me and that’s on my list of things that make me feel shit about myself”. Couldn’t have said it better

[@areswalker5647]

Andrew Robertson i think about that everytime and end up calling me names and being angry at myself because i don't have a reason for feeling like i do. and after the rage comes the deeper slumber that makes be think i can't go out of my bedroom.

[@Octavia-nd3br]

So true

[@trapped_monkey]

that’s impossible logic: whether there i somebody better or worse off you will feel bad about yourself. You cannot have it both ways without it being contradictory

[@cdayadaya]

That's the part that hit me the most

[@michalbaruch2613]

❤❤❤

[@snails4160]

"Take a deep breath, sip some tea, sit in the sun and smile!" WOULD THAT CRUMBLE UP MY PAST AND SHOVE IT DOWN THE DISPOSAL? NO!

[@itsdashiaa7235]

『中古と虐待』Qᴜᴇᴇɴ Sᴄᴀʀ • but there not helping if your trying to help someone with depression do you research. Don’t just come out saying stuff that can trigger people .

[@5edrah]

『中古と虐待』Qᴜᴇᴇɴ Sᴄᴀʀ • ikrrrr

[@Espresso_plz]

Acrobatic Aussie I've heard "You need more sleep." And "Maybe try changing your diet." "Try exercising more." I can't just switch off the chemical imbalance in my brain. A kelo diet won't help me much.

[@whoskatelynn]

Acrobatic Aussie that would probably make me feel worse because I'm thinking lol

[@AerisNotAerith]

Toxic Rabbitania Just cause it hasn't worked for you, doesn't mean it hasn't for many others. I don't understand everyone's deal with having such a massive problem whenever someone tries to offer practical solutions. It's not like the advice is completely invalid. It's stuff your therapist will probably just regurgitate just the same. They are just trying to be of help.

[@constanzapinedo5402]

“I have to be careful with u bcse depression is contagious” Bro, i don’t sneeze a mental illness

[@sutomuarashi]

LMAO

[@maritiafeighan7129]

I sneeze mentally all the time

[@frankisnot1148]

It's like those people who think homosexuality is contagious, like, achoo, ur depressed and gay now

[@banannon]

You don't? Damn, I do. I cough on someone and they have anxiety now. It's why all of my friends have mental illness 😂

[@stefanvid8074]

Lmao i think that not what the meant, they meant that, some depressed teens share their negative emotions with a lot of people and they sometimes happen to pass them on other people.

[@screemachine1179]

One I hate the most: "Stop thinking negatively!"

[@imabrahamdc2464]

Yeah let me just tell my brain to do that.

[@kayleighdriessen]

Oh yeah, I have depression and one person told me that kind of thing and I punched him in the face at school out of anger

[@derpduckonsteroids7849]

Mark McKenna OH SHIT I NEVER THOUGHT OF THAT O_O

[@lilalin7422]

Mark McKenna or “it’s just a phase it will pass”

[@chipotle9179]

Im surrounded by negativity so...whats there positive to say

[@jackriver8385]

Once I said to my psychologist that I shouldn't complain because other people have it worse and he had a really good metaphor: if you are missing one leg, then sure, there are still other people missing both legs but that doesn't mean it shouldn't bother you that you're missing one leg. Because that's already bad enough.

[@areswalker5647]

Rose the Forest Elf i'm happy it helped you but it doesn't make much sense to me..if a person lost their leg they would have a reason to be bothered but what if i don't have any reason to be feeling like that (i have a loving family,good friends,a big house,i'm a college student that has never being a crime victim in any shape) the only things i'm losing i'm doing so due to my depression not the other way around so really i don't know. anyway i hope i'm just dense because it's good if it helped you and in no way i want to bring shit on it.

[@jackriver8385]

@@areswalker5647 the point is that your problems matter. They are obviously a big deal to you and they're keeping you from going on with your life. It's not bad to realise you've got problems and to seek help. I had many of the same thoughts when I went through a depression, and it is a big deal. I'm really glad I'm not depressed anymore and I try very hard not to slip back. Others may have it worse but that doesn't matter. There will always be someone who has it worse and there will always be someone who has it better. None of that matters because it's all relative. To you this is a big deal so that's what matters in your life. And people who love you will probably want to help you if you ask them.

[@adrianvaznaugh-sanchez2547]

Ares Walker that's how depression works. Like you said, you're not depressed because bad things are happening to you (depression is sometimes a result of negative life experiences like for me, but based on what you said i'm assuming you don't have a ton of bad stuff going on). Depression is caused by a lack of serotonin, dopamine and other neurotransmitters in the brain, and that is represented by losing a leg in the above analogy.

[@areswalker5647]

Rose the Forest Elf i liked your comment so much i made a screenshot of it to help make me feel better when i'm feeling shit, thank you. you know, i haven't told anybody how i feel because i know they will ask me why and i won't know how to answer them, don't want them to treat me differently or i don't even know if i'm really depressed or if i'm just overthinking about this and i'm ok..i'm just stuck

[@areswalker5647]

Adrienne Sanchez so it's not me being a pussy, a loser about stupid things? because people would say that i have NO reason for it and i would totally say they're right

[@niamhsheridan8556]

"It's just hormones at your age." It's been seven years, Sharon. I can't STILL be going through puberty.

[@TeethHoarderr]

Hshdhbd SHARON GOD DAMN IT

[@bingo3772]

*Karen

[@fewcuchptat7431]

Niamh Sheridan SAME

[@Marieskeez]

Same.... I'm 21 almost 22 and people still say its hormones...

[@melodiclogic9904]

Niamh Sheridan this one pisses me right off. When I was 13 I went to my GP and I told my GP everything, all my feelings and worries and tendencies, and she sent me for a blood test to check my hormone levels. Found out the levels were normal and there wasn’t even a follow up. Fun times

[@thebard7664]

"I'm sad" "Have you tried yoga?" "yes" "And?" "I'm still sad, but now im more sad because i cant bend"

[@antonluvs]

The Bard oh god I felt this

[@xdtoasty7991]

The accuracy lmao

[@isabelkloberdanz6329]

Yoga can be nice for anxiety but I don't see how it would help much with depression. I mean, stretching is nice and it can help calm you down, but my problem with depression is that I feel heavy and unmotivated, so relaxing myself doesn't help with that.

[@mackienh805]

now i’m sad and flexible skdjdksj

[@AmberWoodMusicx]

I was told to do some stretches once Mate I couldn’t get out of bed until 4pm

[@chenleschildsupport4268]

I once had someone say "It's just cause you're on your period." *I'm a boy though*

[@katillium]

Wow. They seriously need to grow a ducking🐤 brain

[@maddieurban5665]

Wowww....

[@traumatizedcookiez3376]

I have so many questions for that person

[@idontknowhowmanygroupsista8935]

Got7777

[@giakkuma]

Darralaama My mom says that to me 😤

[@taeminoutdid]

"Do you self harm?" "Oh yeah mate every Wednesday"

[@kosmic_tarantula547X]

Everyday for me.

[@ayaandzeenanahya3885]

Infinity Rain well I do

[@sylvie_on]

Zeina Nahya here, I hate physical contact, so here is a virtual air hug. 🤗

[@niklasvilhelm7247]

@@kosmic_tarantula547X stop it

[@lounthery956]

@@niklasvilhelm7247 wow amazing you just cured this person addiction by saying just stop it.. Wtf

[@aoife.]

"Why are you depressed? There's plenty of reasons to be happy!" is like saying Why do you have asthma? There's plenty of air in here!

[@alexanderfriberg8836]

Compleatly diffrent things but I get what you mean

[@talonmeier1578]

this comment is great

[@bryangaytan8373]

Aoife omg what a great comparison 😂

[@I_am_Ravenclaw]

Aoife, your comment made my day, thank you))

[@shinmie]

Yeah, it’s like telling a kid with cancer ; Why do you have cancer? There’s plenty of rashes and spots to go around!

[@Me-jc1er]

‘Some people have it so much worse than you’ That’s like getting into a car crash and someone saying ‘Some people get into a plane crash you know, you can’t complain’

[@kevinnguyen552]

A hooman bean They’re not wrong but they’re are like YOU DONT EXPERIENCE ANY PAIN

[@kierananthony25]

Or. 10 people die in one hospital, but 100 people died in another hospital... So get over it

[@puffcatco]

exactly. *some people have it better than you, Karen! you don't have the RIGHT to be mentally stable!*

[@user-we7go7ed3l]

Also ... I dont get whats their message ? Only the worst unprivileged person is allowed to be validated for their depression? Then doctors wont be paid since theyll be only seeing that one underprivileged person and theyll probably be unable to pay for the treatment and service. So...

[@user-we7go7ed3l]

Thats like saying to cancer patients: Some people are one their 4stage of cancer. You dont get to complain about it or get treatment because you're not in your last month of life yet.

[@nicole-no4dm]

‘ yoga made me more depressed ‘ lmfao me

[@zZgalaxy_hunterZz]

Nicole Cook When I first tried yoga I literally almost cried Not from pain From the yoga in general Fuck you yoga-

[@tswizzle2020]

every time in yoga, i fell asleep

[@SevasTra1900]

nicole I didn't try yoga but did try guided meditation which just made me cry hysterically. I think its a build up of frustration and depression all together. Picturing myself "walking on a beach.." just makes me want to slap the person who made the guided meditation.

[@ubeml06]

my mom has been obsessed with yoga and india and bali ever since she went to india about 5?? years ago?? she keeps trying to get me to do yoga and shes forced it so bad on me if just makds everything worse lmao wow. since i didnt do yoga she forced me to do dance lessons which doesn't help me at all stresses me out more- i have dance today lmao h e l p

[@joly5180]

Gabby try meditating it actually works

[@Sad_nuggie]

“People have it worst than you” Yeah. But when someone is happy, does that give you an excuse to say “oh, people have it better than you.” Why say it for the opposite?

[@trapped_monkey]

Maddy the Squirtle lol that’s a good one actually.

[@shivalib]

so true

[@billierayskipper7959]

"People have it worse off than you." *Thinks about starving children in Africa, war-torn countries* "Yeah, that didn't make me more depressed at all."

[@Hitsugix]

@Nigel Farage No. There will always be someone on this planet who has it worse. It does not mean that your own problems - no matter what kind - are inferior or even not existing. This is such a stupid argument.

[@epicteletubby155]

It trivialises your problems and makes you feel worse. Makes self-esteem even lower than it is.

[@iferawhite7661]

Right? I'll be talking to someone, maybe a friend, maybe a relative, and I'll say "No I haven't been feeling very good lately, my depression has seriously knocked me onto my ass," And then they'll say, "Get over it." Or sometimes they'll try to start a war over who has it worse. "Well my grandma just died and I'm not whining about being sad." Like jeez dude, yeah that really helped me see that I don't DESERVE to be sad apparently.

[@bluekat7366]

It makes me feel like a horrible person and that I should die more because I'm a disgusting piece of shit human that needs to be thrown out :(

[@lexieluu9341]

Hitsugix exactly my thoughts! I’ve heard also “you have nothing to be depressed about”. Ugh!

[@twentyshots300]

Me : im depressed My sister : *YoU hEAr vOiCes?* Me : facepalm

[@killuanatsume]

I think that she is mistaking depression with schizophrenia. How I don't know.

[@DatBoi-in2xs]

You know, the ghosts that make you cry

[@Manu-eh5xs]

"Yes, i hear voices. For example, yours. and it FUCKIN HURTS MY BRAIN" or "Yes, i hear voices. And they don't like you"

[@onyx_alagasia]

Oof

[@puzzlepizza9992]

I don't hear voices, but my brain litterally torchers me with things. Like, my pet almost got ran over, and everytime I think about him, I think about that. Others things aswell. It's pretty fricking annoying.

[@Patricia_Amara]

My depression makes me very tired sometimes. Somebody said to me: you can't be tired.. I am tired because I worked out today. And I got mad very quickly.

[@plutotrash1014]

GloomGame depression makes me chained to my bed wondering why I’m not good enough

[@Patricia_Amara]

PlutoTrash 101 im in a very good place right now.. but I can understand what you feel. Just saying.. I am hoping you will think and act differently. Because you are good enough.

[@joyin9852]

GloomGame please tell me you hit them with a chair

[@Patricia_Amara]

Jo Yin No.. I wish I did.. But she isn't my friend anymore and she is a little scared of me because I said some very rude words and I was like the Hulk.

[@DampLover]

I'd rather run a lap around the world than fighting this battle against myself. They don't even know what tired is!

[@turtlebugs2859]

“Other people have it worse that you” that makes it worse for me

[@simonneversleeps9018]

Me too

[@paddlewagons]

How you should be grateful you arent living in a third world country

[@simonneversleeps9018]

lackofInnocence Oh get out of here with that bullshit. YOU should be grateful you don’t have depression. You wouldn’t be saying that shit if you knew what torture it really is. It’s maddening. You can’t enjoy things. Life becomes pointless because nothing is able to truly make you happy.

[@christophermorris3312]

It just makes people feel worse that they have a better situation than others and still cant be happy.

[@jacg8276]

It makes me feel so guilty! And makes me feel like a bad person

[@adriana-xh4ch]

“Yeah, every Wednesday.” Why did that make me laugh so hard?

[@nolongerwoman5714]

When I was in a mental clinic there was this boy and he saw my cutting scars and I thought he would judge me... But instead he pulled up his sleeve and showed me his own scars. That made me feel a little better, because I knew I wasn't alone and he showed me, that he trusted me by showing them. We're still friends to this day and he really helps me a lot with my episodes of depression. Thank you mate, for always being there for me

[@FeralPupboy420]

I had a friend’s mom tell me, “So you take medication? You don’t need any of that! Just get off your phone and spend more time in nature!”

[@Roadent1241]

Emersonisscared I live in the middle of the countryside. Yeah, where is my happiness?

[@FeralPupboy420]

Roadent1241 Funny thing is, so do I.

[@theblackbull55]

Wow, that is really rude. Not only is it false but very demeaning to those who need medication to stay healthy.

[@plutotrash1014]

Emersonisscared medications is essential....

[@taltelina1123]

Emersonisscared JDJSOAKTBRBHWJEJFBD *LLAMA POWA* SERIOUSLY?

[@laliyaahclark6969]

"Other people have it so much worse than you" I know, that's why I (personally) feel guilty and even more depressed for having depression😑

[@itsyaboichilde5397]

I know that's like not the time and the place for that but omg Karma is my husbando (btw i can relate to this comment)

[@josiemay2982]

I know how you feel. It makes me feel selfish for wanting attention so I shut myself off and then I’m a Debby downer

[@gracely5645]

My parents say that shit to me all the time.. IN AN ATTEMPT TO CHEER ME UP? It's just like "ohhh you're upset.. that's bad.. bUT THERE ARE INDIAN CHILDREN WHO ARE STARVING TO DEATH AND WOMEN BEING RAPED ON THE DAILY AND-" like god damn and they wonder why I don't tell them anything. Woah thanks.. I feel upset.. AND guilty for feeling upset. Thanks guys, very cool!

[@onyx_alagasia]

Oh yeah. I feel weak for being depressed, and undeserving of getting help, and then I feel guilty for getting help, because so many people who have bigger problems can't get help.

[@Shefwitjah]

But I have the worst disorder out there. Unipolar depression. I can't help if I'm sad all the time and I get mad at you for no reason. People kill themselves because of this very disorder. I just hope I dont lose myself and do the same. Because I have it bad

[@naritruwireve1381]

"You're just like this because you want attention." that's another one I hate ;-;

[@plissken6427]

Juicy Pear don't even remind me godammit

[@cathythegirl101]

i hate that one so much.

[@CluelessBerk]

But sometimes I do act so partly because I want attention, because I want help and social interaction...

[@CluelessBerk]

I hate hearing this tho

[@ahmadsamman3992]

八云式 same

[@n1xian555]

"Your too young" "You have nothing to be sad about" "Other people have it worse than you" Words can not EXPRESS the amount of hate I have for these words. Like they said in the video, jee, didn't know depression was a flippin privilege karen.

[@shotaaizawa1320]

I was on the phone with a friend that has anxiety and she was talking about. And my grandma (that I live with) said "what do you have to anxiety . Your a teen". Because of that I been dieing inside for years . Both mentality and physically.

[@cronaamia6743]

Hi Spinel-

[@Unknown-fm6ld]

Anne THANK YOU. THANK YOU-

[@kathsunz587]

Bruh depression brings you down but it's so hard to express, it's like being in a pit of lava with some platforms, you try your hardest to find a platform, but you can't find any, it's a long journey to find safety (platform) but you keep touching the lava and keep drowning

[@chillfactory9000]

@@kathsunz587 _wetsandinapillowcase drowned in a pool of lava_

[@dawdle9175]

I remember my friend in middle school said “You’re not depressed! If you WERE depressed, you wouldn’t be talking to me!” Im sorry, but being depressed doesn’t always mean being by yourself and having no friends

[@frenchfries8594]

So like does their dumbass think depressed people are mute or something.

[@gabriellerwe]

Everything Awesome EXACTLY!

[@StanSwan]

That is funny. I have people say I am arrogant. If I have to squash my true feelings I am going to be a phony to the highest level.

[@ateez_stan777]

@@frenchfries8594 I swear people are stupid

[@broseidon1658]

Are they your friend now? They better not be.

[@xxyuuri4965]

Hi depressed people can still be genuinely happy sometimes

[@fluffystuff500]

Yes they can. It isn't always crying and emptiness. It's harder to be happy but we can be.

[@icrawlforonlychrollo8638]

Yup

[@artema.]

Howdy there keefers #preach

[@lay1126]

Howdy there keefers yes but it never last long 😐

[@SamirCCat]

Check out atypical depression. It's when you can emotionally react with things around you, get happy from something good etc. You also sleep a lot more, want to eat sweets all the time and has "led legs" and a very difficult time moving about because you're so tired.

[@alexsamuel5482]

I have depression. If I had 1 penny for every time someone told me "You don't have depression, you are doing it for attention!" I would be rich

[@katillium]

I know right!? How many times I've hinted at people the same stuff, and they're like "well sort yourself out then" ITS NOT THAT DUCKING🐤 SIMPLE

[@nevermindrhye]

Eli Rose sane

[@amberdenney9507]

Same!!!

[@annika-xy5zy]

Eli Rose were u diagnosed

[@trapped_monkey]

if i had one penny for every time I saw an overstatement....

[@bluekat7366]

"Just go outside and stop being lazy" Me, with social anxiety and is very tired: *_No_*

[@endieisded]

Some more I hate: "Stop being so emo!" "Yeah I've been sad too." "Oh my god saaaaameeeeee! Lmao!" "But I've seen you laugh/ smile." "Stop feeling sorry for yourself!"

[@Tay-bb1sj]

That made me mad I get these so often it’s not even okay

[@lovingtxt]

Ahh or when someone else says they wanna die and your coping mechanism, aka making bad jokes, rushes in and you just answer with „lol same“

[@akiraillustrates9853]

Endie Alt crap. I know. But i got over it. Idk what i can help you with and am probably pissing you off so ima just leave and you can reply if you want.

[@mimizukyun]

here is my reply to all those 1. i'm not an emo you stupid 2. but you haven't been depressed for years. there is a clear difference 3. 1st of all. stop saying lmao. second of all no you haven't. i'm pretty sure you haven't had someone die in your life. 4.yeah depression doesn't mean crying and being sad 14/7. sometimes depressed people can smile. 5.how about stop neglecting other people's mental illnesses. this is not about the person who posted this it's about the replies he put in that comments and i wrote this in order to write what i would say if people said that to me

[@annikadolscheid884]

I HATE "I've been sad too"!

[@IxSITxONxBABIES]

"Just be happy" Oh my gosh! Why didn't I think about this before!? I'M CURED!

[@marisolalfonso7826]

The thing that drives me crazy is that after I tell anyone then they start treating me like a different person like please don’t do that

[@Tay321cosmo]

Marisol Alfonso yeah! I told one of my friends because she had asked where I had been (I was at the doctor's) and it was like I was suddenly this fragile little kid where one wrong word would make me break down!

[@judy_561]

you ever just stare at the ceiling for hours wanting someone who can understand you and you can talk hours to without feeling like you’re not *wanted* and they’re getting bored of you? i wish i had that one friend but oke time i told my irlf and they started to pity me. like why? i dont need your pity ugh

[@tammushican4823]

same!

[@YetAnotherPianoWhore]

Ugh agreed- people seem to believe it's like a look backstage that now explains every decision ever in a new light- I have had that happen too many times (especially with "friends" who were a bit too immature and ignorant of how mental health worked to understand). And even with more genuine closer friends, you can always see them reassess your every current but also past actions through a new narrower filter. Dude, it's still me, the person you know and love! I'm just informing you of some less usual shit I also deal with every day.

[@VgodSr]

Marisol Alfonso well it's like if you want to stay depressed or get out of depression

[@alphys8399]

"It's all *your choice.* you can either choose to be sad or you can choose to be better." "You're still learning..You're at a fragile stage of life." "It's just an emotional phase, it'll pass, I promise." Just things ive heard from the same person.

[@quentashamihowe132]

Lexi Charles well it is kinda your choice Just like it’s your choice to cut yourself or stop waiting for people to tell you everything’s gonna be okay or get up off your ass and put in hard excruciating work

[@rickyli0n568]

@@quentashamihowe132 to be fair you have a point, you have control over the physical aspect, self harm or suicide, however depression is caused by chemical on balance , which isn't a choice lol

[@chavezsmith3938]

Seems like that person didn't really try to understand your situation

[@frostlightningx1636]

I've been getting that first one a lot and it makes me wanna bash my own head on a pointy object (plus, I don't see that same ''rule'' applying to them or anyone with fandom privilege)

[@fanbase4226]

All of these. Also when you are crying and everyone starts making a big fuss of saying "What's wrong?" that causes me stress and makes me cry more. I like when someone just lets me cry and still hangs out with me. Can anyone relate?

[@irahume9956]

Sierra Blake I can relate 😟😞

[@moonflowervaii]

I understand why people come to see what's wrong or whatever but I can relate because when I cry I never want anyone around me, that just makes it so much worse. 😥

[@alexz3t899]

Sierra Blake I agree. I hate when people start asking me questions while I'm crying, because well, I can't answer, I'm choking on sobs.

[@chokinonashes61]

Sierra Blake Yep, I can relate!! Also when some idiot tells me to just "pull myself together"!!

[@fayed9540]

Can relate

[@josiejeanne758]

I love how the entire comment section is just depressed people relating so hard to this

[@anildo1372]

why do you love it tho, it's actually pretty sad that so many people suffer from depression

[@sunflower-ducks]

@@anildo1372 It's sad that so many people suffer from depression, yes, but it's _great_ that those of us who do have a way of finding each other and communicating about our shared experiences in living with this illness. It makes us feel less alone in our struggles :)

[@anildo1372]

@@sunflower-ducks yeah, I do too lol

[@wihh87]

It's so comforting to have mysterious people relate so much to each other that to the point of being uncanny because quite honestly us depressed humans get along so well

[@kristykook6927]

@@anildo1372 why you getting butthurt ???

[@nxmiles]

Remember as well that self harm isn't just cutting, it can also be self neglect, poor decisions, and anything that can harm your state of being as well as your physical state

[@madting8082]

And if it is physical self harm, they don’t just do it on your wrists, their can be cuts/burns/bruises on their hips, thighs, stomach, chest, anywhere.

[@sinombrerodriguez3442]

an example of self-harm that doesnt leave physical scars could be sleeping way too much or not enough, irregular eating patterns, or a lack of hygiene

[@natalier4053]

glitter prince How is that self harm unless it’s intentional? That literally defeats the purpose of self harm. Sure irregular sleep or eating is harmful, but it’s not self harm (unless intentional) or else the vast majority of people self harm.

[@sinombrerodriguez3442]

i meant when people do those things intentionally. sorry if i was unclear

[@Schemilix]

Hooooooo yeah the sleeping one. Not sleeping enough cos you wanna punish yourself for having fun by getting more done n' shit. Self-harm isn't a list of things people do it's a mentality. Self-excoriation to either punish oneself or try to cancel out/compensate for emotional pain/emptiness. I think a lot of people forget that a bit facet of depression isn't just pain and sadness it's emptiness. The sadness is what happens when you take all the happiness away AND you're sad. Most of the time though you're just empty, or angry.

[@Urmomisdele]

the worst one: “if you’re depressed, how can you laugh and smile and stuff?” 1. i can fake smiles if i’m really depressed so no one worries 2. there’s something called *MODERATE* depression where you can still be happy sometimes

[@spaceflow1881]

Felix Felicis THANK YOU I have moderate depression and they tell me I’m faking it

[@spaceflow1881]

bts army Yeah sometimes I’m actually happy but it’s rare but like we can’t even tell others our pain without people laughing, making jokes, or telling us it’s fake and people have it worse

[@cressida08]

please stop with these i play gatcha life and i’m depressed. depression is not aesthetic and it’s not a trend.

[@spaceflow1881]

Médium rare Beans they could literally be depressed. Just because she has a gacha pic doesn’t mean she is using depression as an aesthetic.

[@spaceflow1881]

Médium rare Beans I agree that is pretty strange that most gacha people have depression but not all of them fake it. I also agree with the fact that we need to talk about but i think in a more respectful manner. It’s a toxic trend I also believe as well. As a person with depression, it can stigmatize our community more if there are more fakers faking our mental illness.

[@sofiabelle247]

I told my friend about my depression, and she never believed me. She also compared me to my other friend who’s mom unfortunately passed away. She literally even said: U need to be sad all the time to have depression. I saw it in a movie so it’s correct! Like, honestly, how stupid can people be?! 😑 😒 The next day she went around asking everyone in the grade if they think I have depression, LIKE WTF?! When people have depression they force themselves to hide it because they don’t wanna start being treated differently! And btw that movie knows NOTHING about depression! People with depression don’t have to be sad 24/7! But what can I say, sometimes people’s reactions can just be STUPID. Like freaking stupid. Edit: thanks for your support guys

[@sofiabelle247]

*laughs sarcastically* thanks for taking the time to read my comment :)

[@mimizukyun]

this is even worse with my family and friends who just ignored that i had depression and never told me anything about it. which i was crushed because i had the courage to tell my family i had depression but what they all said was no you don't or just ignored me

[@tayoodebunmi3975]

I told my mother and any time I would try to explain it to her she said "You're 13. You'll get over it." But teenagers can still suffer from depression... so that doesn't even make sense...

[@CM-uq8ro]

That's terrible! When I was a sophomore in high school I had some weird reactions too. Even when I'd be gone for months at a time to be in a psych ward. My parents didn't take me seriously till I tried to kill myself...even then they made no effort to understand it which I don't get. I know if my kids had something I'd at least Google it.

[@astrowolf1670]

Poppy TheTartz that's exactly what many of my dumbass relatives said and acted like when it came to my depression I hope your not there friend anymore they sound really toxic

[@fluffies0332]

"People have it worse than u" Me : people also have it better than me

[@waitthatsillegal6402]

fluffies 03 EXACTLY!

[@louisajefferson6150]

So true

[@claralite]

as someone on tumblr said; what if it we treated happiness the same way we treat sadness? "oh, your crush asked you out? stop smiling other people have it better! someone's getting married right now, someone just got into the best university in this state, and you've just started to see someone?"

[@physcoticteen7708]

Clara J Great quotes

[@trapped_monkey]

Clara J that’s pretty funny actually

[@CKestus2187]

Telling someone with someone with depression to “cheer up” is like telling someone with an anxiety disorder to “calm down.” It’s insensitive and inconsiderate.

[@miriamdiedrich7524]

AJ Greer Why not just go the whole mile and tell cancer patients to just walk it out?

[@melissa2146]

I have anxiety and my sister told me to get over it.. like wow if I could get over it I would. People act as though people who suffer from mental illness want to have it.

[@georgiasoaps]

It's like telling someone with asthma "just breathe"

[@Directionless.Sponge]

Not to mention it doesn't even work when they do that. So really it's just insulting AND useless.

[@shinmie]

It’s like telling a kid having an Ashtma attack : “Hey, it’s gonna be alright. Just don’t use that inhaler or anything else, and you’ll be fine!”

[@user-zk4dy5he2d]

"im not doing well mentally the last weeks i actually got worse" "get well soon"

[@xdtoasty7991]

Or Them: "Talk to me" Me: *talks to them* Them "I'm here anytime" (ignores everything i said before) Or Them: dang 🙆that💁doesn't🙋help

[@haseenabadshah5381]

"I'm*

[@ft.jackjimmy7282]

but here's the thing, are we not suppose to say anything and let them dump everything on someone? either way talking to a depressed person is a lose-lose situation.

[@jenniferwalker69420]

People think depression just goes away with some Instagram quote like ok then Susan I am now cured by you telling me to be myself but therapy and anti depressants help. Also people think that depression is a choice and that people choose to have it or when they self harm like how I did on and off for 2 years they are doing it to be a spectical and for clout when I feel depressed every day and have suicidal thoughts. I really want more people to understand that people with depression are crying for help.

[@ilovebosgc]

Ok. So. No one has said these to me because I try my best to hide it, but i can just imagine and it freaking makes my skin crawl.

[@notcats3549]

KayVlogs honesty it sucks. I have depression and anxiety which started after I went to this camp where I had a really bad experience and my sister asked about it once. She told me I should try going again because it might reverse the anxiety, like no joke

[@ilovebosgc]

GenericWaffle reverse the anxiety? Haha. She doesn’t know what it’s like, she’s just trying to help. But that’s pretty messed up yet funny.

[@artema.]

KayVlogs With me it's my mom that makes those comments. Don't your parents know? I would guess parents are the biggest offenders, or maybe it's just me...

[@tylerstudio9104]

I always make excuses and lies for everything negative I do to myself and how I look and feel. Not getting sleep is a large one for me when people ask if I’m sad and falling is my main one for self harm. I’ve only told two or three people. One never thought of it again and thinks she has it worst than everyone. One also does self harm and depression so we help each other through it. And the other one just called me out for depression witch almost no one else has and I liked it so much. It’s what I wish people could do

[@creativemuch1776]

People acc say that I’m strong mentally, because they’ve never seen me cry before. I always gets so mad inside me. You don’t need to be happy all the time and I just hate to cry in front of people

[@deethearies]

“Other people have it worse than you” Yea,that right there is WILD. My cousin’s mom said that and it’s just like,why say that? 😕

[@nolee.k7332]

Aye Bee Cee Dei agree

[@kbat942]

whenever they're happy you should just say "why are you happy? other people have it way better than you"

[@deethearies]

Kevin Brian Alexander it’s literally the same concept and maybe people have to start saying that before people actually get that it’s not okay to say that lol

[@lillyholroyd1295]

Aye Bee Cee Dei so ur aunt

[@deethearies]

Lilly Holroyd it’s not my aunt lol

[@daniinaiiara2573]

"you don't know what real problems are you're too young" 🙃🙃🙃

[@smoupnhoize]

Which is yet another reason I tell very few people and just pretend and lie to the rest. Maybe I should respond with "No, you're just too old to understand."

[@StanSwan]

I am 49, twice divorced, built a business, built homes etc. All my family cares about is me showing up for Birthdays and shit like that.

[@caoilte8097]

This can often be true. Young people are much more likely to be naive and stupid. Wisdom only comes with age

[@StanSwan]

@@caoilte8097 I see anxiety and depression the same as heart disease or cancer. Both have a level of treatment that can help for a better outcome. The difference is most people think anxiety and depression are charictor flaws and not a real disease. Without love and support over the long haul it makes things much harder. "Just go to the doctor and get some pills, you never show up at family events becouse you refuse to see a doctor". Call 25 doctors, 20 don't take my insurance, 4 that do are not taking patients, one that is can't make an appointment for 10 months. Head drops, hopelessness and sadness becomes all too real. No hope, no support, and a dose of shame and guilt from the very people you have always counted on. Vicious cycle.

[@doodle_freak]

"U dont know what real problems r ur too young" Why thank u for doubling my anxiety of knowing that when im older I probably wont be able to afford a house or bills or food to live due to the society I live in

[@gayshit2409]

Remember this: Just cause someone next to you is in a full bodycast, that doesn't mean that your broken arm doesn't hurt.

[@althe4564]

Yes! I love your comment (at first I didn't understand what you said but now I do) In other words Just because someone has it worse than you doesn't mean your don't have it bad either

[@gayshit2409]

@@althe4564 Yes exactly. It's about your feelings being valid, even if someone tells you otherwise. I think about this everytime someone says "But youve got nothing to complain about" or "a lot of people have it way worse than you". It reminds me that you can have everything but still feel like shit, and that's okay

[@althe4564]

Love you 3000 Yes some people really need to get the message and I'm so glad you shared all this ❤️

[@flatboyman3788]

I hate it when my parents tell me I'm making them sad by being depressed, thank you very much for making me feel guilty and waiting to die even more! :)

[@slotgrinder5596]

People are quite selfish really . Guilty feelings are definitely a big part of depression

[@mrcelcol9848]

it was the summer of 2001 Guess what If you die you make them even more sad how's that for a life :D

[@cookiewarrior361]

Pedro Costa what is your problem?

[@cookiewarrior361]

Ahmad Mehyar what is wrong with you?

[@mrcelcol9848]

Cookie Warrior just sick of depressed people whining

[@gracedolphin879]

asking someone who is depressed to be happier is like asking someone in a wheelchair to get rid of it because it takes up room

[@jas4568]

Honestly...

[@moniquecastelli8058]

Grace Dolphin EXACTLY

[@joggy1357]

Grace Dolphin *missing legs* "walk it off"

[@binglesnort]

I had a friend who suffered from horrible depression in middle school. I helped her through it and she's a lot happier now. In fact she's so happy that when my depression got worse, she got tired of putting up with me and told me to call her when I'm feeling better. Long story short, I dropped her.

[@MISSAPRILx3]

tut... wowwwwwwwww what a crappy "friend". Sorry you experienced that.

[@binglesnort]

Klara Isn't Real I should shouldn't i

[@ams1877]

Omg.. I'm sorry. Cos I may or may not relate to u two..

[@baraness24]

Oof, dirty.

[@Unknown-ol2uh]

I didn’t think I could lose faith in humanity any further but I just have.

[@emilyquesnel1386]

Me: *is diagnosed with depression at age 8* Mum: *doesn't do anything about it* Me: *gets dramatically worse* Mum: *insert that one Pikachu memes*

[@sludgemuffin2447]

@Emily Quesnel Flip, no-one believes how unhappy I am. I told my doctor about the time I was lying on my bed crying uncontrollably, and he was just like: “Mm.”

[@sugas_canoe_flippers]

@@sludgemuffin2447 like damn that hmm helped me so much I'mma go dance in some flowers 😒😒

[@quentashamihowe132]

Sludge Muffin yea... dude from my experiences I’m telling u right now that crying uncontrollably is not depression

[@aggressivepie6860]

My dad gave me a fear of the psychiatrist

[@maxipad6314]

I started feeling unhappy at the age of 8 it’s been 4 years and i’m seeking help

[@user-xm5jm3im8y]

me: im sad, I don't want to talk to anyone, I don't want to go out, I hate myself parents: because your always on that phone

[@xdeadrxse]

someone omg same with my parents

[@viintaqe135]

My mum is just like: You're lazy. However, before I reached the age of about 11 or 12, I used to be one of the most charismatic people ever

[@angelicgacha]

SAME

[@sugas_canoe_flippers]

your pfp matches perfectly with my facial expression rn

[@diogocoelho2314]

true

[@stardiamond_]

I don't have depression but I really hate it when it becomes a competition. Like you're texting your friends saying you had a bad day today, and then someone jumps in and just talks about all the horrible things in their life. Like, I'm sorry? I just wanna bit of comfort from my friends. I'd let it slip by if it didn't happen so much? Like I've tried comforting you but I really can't do anything???

[@lol-ic9kd]

stardiamond Honestly, I once was trying to confide in a friend, and ahe just started talking about HER life and I'm here like tf

[@stardiamond_]

princherz // uggg

[@tylerstudio9104]

One of my close friend who o wish I could leave for someone better but I can’t. Her parents are split and mine aren’t but I feel like shit and I want to die but this is how the conversations can go. Let’s call her M. Me: *talking about problems* M: oh you think you have it worst? You don’t know what it’s like to have split parents. *going on and on how her life is worst* Me: *immediately shuts right up. Agrees her life is worst and feel shit and like I want to die so much more*

[@stardiamond_]

Tyler Studio YES! EXACTLY! I also hate it when they talk about having no friends. Maybe you'd have more if you were more considerate and didn't talk about how you had no friends??

[@WindowsXPFrog]

stardiamond This x 100

[@dragonfireartstudios8051]

“Stop faking it!” “Stop being so sad all the time, you’re not depressed!” “You don’t look depressed, you smile all the time.”

[@analisapena3086]

The last one has a simple answer. IM FAKING HAPPINESS SO YOU SHUT UP.

[@amkana1871]

Keeley Brown constantly cringes

[@Queen-ei5jy]

Slap them

[@sistahgirlangel]

As a Mental health counselor, you honestly have to be conscious and sensitive when talking to people with depression or other mental illness because sometimes what you say may not only sound judgmental but also trigger that person.

[@joshuathebanana4630]

Or the iconic "But, why are you depressed?" ah mate, if I knew myself, life would be such a wonderful place

[@mahougesu170]

To be fair, people don't ask that with the intention of coming off as patronising. They ask that because they want to help you figure that out for yourself. Most people blame it on factors like "fate", so asking if you know why and then helping you to find a reason if you don't is actually done out of consideration, more often that not. Didn't mean to sound rude, just an observation.

[@unknown-wc4md]

This is what I needed... To hear people that understand me

[@wihh87]

Precisely. I'm glad we are all connected in mystery

[@ozzylepunknown551]

We just know too much and see the reality of our meaningless lifes

[@Ayesha_5782]

I hate when people say, "you're too young to be depressed" or "they're people worse off than you."

[@bennyton2560]

I have depression and anxiety since 13 so

[@emmaskagerberg1847]

People Think im overreacting just because im under 18

[@naritruwireve1381]

No, mom. It's not an emo teen phase, and I'm not just "moody" and on my period.

[@yrsabakker3554]

Okay Janice you're too old to be alive but yet here we are

[@durpddurke4633]

You're never too young to smoke yet you can be too young to "deserve" a mental illness. Mmmmmm logic.

[@LaurenT3G]

Okay, PSA real quick... _A positive quote isn't going to make me feel better about myself._ Thank you, good night.

[@Cat-tastrophee]

Please send this to my mother. TY.

[@mochisowner]

then what will? figure that out and then improve on urself. How long are you gonna spend complaining of being people being insensitive or saying "x doesnt work"? Just figure out what does and invest urself on that

[@LaurenT3G]

@@mochisowner Here's the thing. I already spend enough time on myself to make me feel happier. I'm not asking people to find solutions for me. When I feel down, telling me that I should "just cheer up" or giving me an introspective proverb is not going to make me instantly feel better. I'm not saying that people should be doing more for me. Not in the slightest. However, if by "trying to help", a person starts telling me that I should be happy in that moment because of "xyz", it's not helpful. Hopefully that clears things up, but I appreciate your reply.

[@norM_ystical]

I'm not even depressed, but I know it helps nobody. I have issues with self esteem, and like "I know literally nothing about you, but you're funny/beautiful/etc!" Yeah, read the first part. You say that cuz you don't know me. "[whatever] is beautiful!" Not to me. Or many people, actually. "Love yourself!" A'ight, how?

[@dawdle9175]

“It’s just a phase” “Just think positive” “You’re just doing it for attention” “Oh, I think I’m depressed, I was really sad this morning”

[@trapped_monkey]

excuse excuse excuse excuse

[@katietarango3903]

Everything Awesome the last one triggers me

[@iexist2126]

One time I guy in my class said “this is me when I’m happy.” And smiled really wide. “And this is me when I’m depressed” and frowned really low. I didn’t correct him on this because I was busy with my friend and her problem but another time this guy said something that was supposed to be sad but he said Depression and I corrected him and he said “Same thing.”

[@WinterStarsStudios]

don’t forget “don’t think like that!”

[@shayla.mitchell]

Man that last one I get alllllll the time

[@caller145]

"People have it worse than you" There's also people who have it better than me. That doesn't mean that every time I'm happy it's somehow invalid or not deserved.

[@amberyaa]

Wow, that was good. Like now I know, why I have deeply belief that " I am not deserve to be happy", or " I am not deserve to relax and have chill time, just watching film in bed".

[@ani_n01]

"IT'S ALL IN YOUR HEAD" thanks for informing me hun, thought it was in my left ovary

[@wihh87]

anytime someone tells me "Do you have a specific reason?" I just say " could ask you the same thing, do you have a specific reason for being happy?"... basically its occurs without much stimulation.

[@stefanvid8074]

Well there is a thing when u think u have a perfact life which causes ur depression- so it can come from anywhere mate. Also past abuses, or bullying.

[@to7869]

Should make a video on "things TO say to people with Depression". It's a very common thing and I personally am never really sure how to help my friends with Depression. I want to be there for them, but I'm not even sure if they want the company or to just be alone in their thoughts. I would love to hear from the perspective of people with Depression

[@ratherande]

Tyler O'Halloran just let them know that you’re there for them if they ever need to talk and just be there for them in general

[@tendo6385]

Encourage them to come to you if they have any issues. A recent study has shown that often saying nothing and just letting someone vent is the best thing. If they're not talking to you after you said they can come to you with your issues, don't be pushy and don't bring it up too often.

[@Veronensis]

Thank you for wanting to help. Everybody is different, with depressed people too. The best thing you can do is to ask the person themselves. But not in big open-ended questions like "what do you want me to do?" That is too much pressure on the depressed person. Try to think of things that might help them, and give them an easy choice. Ask stuff like: "are you feeling like a snack right now or just a cup of tea?", "would you like for me to come over or not?", or "would it be helpful if I did chore x or y for you?". Make sure the topic of conversation is not always about their depression, tell them stuff about your day too. Try to treat them like normal, but be understanding and respectful when they don't react normally. Depression is a tough illness that takes a lot from the person with the disease, but they don't only want to be seen as the depressed one.

[@bleumoonscott2149]

If they are your friend, you should understand how they tick and know how to approach them. This means you have been learning about them and their movements over time. How they respond and react to different events in their life will help you understand how to approach them with mild or serious situations.

[@d0r4t1n]

Sometimes it's just enough to sit and listen and not say anything, if somebody with depression has a rough moment, day, week or month (how long it lasts is always different, at least from my point of experience). For me personally it always was allot of help to just write a table with the things that were good and bad the day or month. Not really a typical diary but more a notebook with random sadness, anger and sometimes self pity whenever I feel really down. Maybe that is something that can help your friends. You can't do much more. People with depression have to learn for themselves what the signs for a bad moment are and how to get out of it. This comes through experience and practise. It's nothing you can take from their shoulders. Oh and one more. It helps A LOT to know that a friend does want to learn about depression and doesn't think their friend is weird because of it. Sorry for bad spelling. I'm no native speaker. ^^°

[@Yuna-ed5jc]

To the "other people have it worse" comment... someone drowning in a 5 meter deep lake is just as dead as someone drowning in a 20 meter deep lake, doesn't mean you shouldn't help either one. Edit: It might be a bad comparison, but what I'm trying to say is, that because someone is depressed and someone else might have something, people would classify as "worse" it doesn't mean, that the depressed person shouldn't get help (if they want help) or similar.

[@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx1127]

no that comment means that many people are living in poverty with no food , dead parents and their life being at risk at any time of the day. compare that to you being depressed because no one likes you at school is pathetic. There are people fighting for their and their childs lives everyday in syria and other war broke countries, you being 'sad' because you 'think' that your life means nothing is such a selfish thing to do. Get out of your hole and conquer your fear, i know its not easy but you just have to master the art of not giving a fuck; no one will help you. They may say they'll get you through it but at the end of the day its all up to you.

[@DrBitchcraft.]

Just.. no. Did anyone in the video look like "no one likes them at school"? I'm sorry but you really need to stop comparing. If someone is depressed because they lost their partner in a car accident, are you going to shame them from that and say stuff about war????? geez. I mean, I'm not hating on you but you comment is just... geh Everyone has different reasons and situations. It's not a competition.

[@Yuna-ed5jc]

friendly witch do you mean my comment, or the other person?

[@MoreSand12]

XXXXXXXXX XXXXXXXXX If it were as simple as "mastering the art of not giving a fuck" there would be no depression in the world. There are multiple factors that led them to this point and it might not even be because others were mean to them.

[@DrBitchcraft.]

Yuna, I meant it for the other commenter :)

[@imnotsuspiciousshh]

"Cheer up" OH MY GOD I'M CURED! YOU'VE CURED ME! THANK YOU FOR TELLING ME TO CHEER UP! THAT WAS THE CURE ALL ALONG!

[@BigBassSmallBoike]

It's just people trying to help. Calm your tumblr nipples please

[@BigBassSmallBoike]

@@imnotsuspiciousshh first. No you weren't making a joke. You were sarcasticly saying it's the cure as in.."bruhh you wet yoghurt" which is logical because it's not a very smart thing to say. But you shouldn't get so mad because they don't mean to hurt. And my nurpaloodles are calm as my sleeping cat 🙃

[@imnotsuspiciousshh]

John Wie I'm not mad. Like I said, I was making a joke. Could you, like, NOT comment again? You are wasting both of our times. There is no gain from this. You are just harassing a child on KZbin. Not cool, dude.

[@BigBassSmallBoike]

@@imnotsuspiciousshh looking at your word choice you seem quite mad. But righty then, I'll stop. (Btw how am I harassing you exactly?)

[@Sleepy-Axew]

@@BigBassSmallBoike tello g someone to cheer up isn't helping anyone, so don't even try top send it, it's stupid to say

[@breewilliams3214]

My two "favourites": -Everyone's got depression! -Having a mental illness is the new trend!

[@stefanvid8074]

Well not everyone has depression, but everyone will go throught some kind of depression someone will go thru basic teen depression and someone will go thru depression thats a lot worse.

[@jyjaeskz]

@@stefanvid8074 that's just not true, not everyone goes through depression. A lot of people yes but not everyone

[@najlamas]

Stefan Vid no. everyone feels sad yes. but not everyone has depression, and there’s no such thing as “teenage depression” don’t invalidate someone’s mental illness because of their age.

[@puzzlepizza9992]

@@stefanvid8074 Why are you litterally spreading your negative opinions on EVERY SINGLE COMMENT. Everyone feels sad sometimes, but not everyone has depression.

[@unknownloser__881]

i hate it when people say, "oh, i have depression sometimes."

[@BigBassSmallBoike]

Maybe they do though. You don't know

[@Lost-xw4if]

+John Wie You don't SOMETIMES have depression. You can be in a depressive mood, but clinical depression, the kind that is being talked of here, doesn't just come and go.

[@cookiewarrior361]

"Oh yeah, I have major depression my dad didn't let me eat noodles this morning lol" My friend said that and I got so mad, but said nothing

[@cheerycherrydoggo]

“You should smile more” makes me want to hurt somebody >:(

[@TheMedicatedArtist]

CheeryCherryDoggo It makes me want to strangle someone.

[@Octavia-nd3br]

That makes me wanna kill someone

[@pixiniarts]

I smile only with my mouth, while making my eyes relaxed unfocused and dull... After that they never ask me to smile again.

[@tavishi5829]

when someone says this, maybe they're trying to make you feel better? They don't know how it feels, and maybe they're trying to help.

[@mackenziehorse_girl1334]

Octavia 62728 get mental help.

[@pinkmonster4983]

"Why don't you read a book to help yourself?." "Just stop thinking like that, and you will be ok." "You just changed my mood because of your "depression", thanks." "Start writing things down and read them after, I think that will help." "I don't understand you, you used to be someone else, you changed." And my favourite:"It's this because of a boy, you know you can tell me!" Friends or family, it doesn't matter, the same thing every time.

[@pinkmonster4983]

NinjagirlRules funny thing, all off those are coming from people you love, respect and care about. Amazing, right?

[@streethustler1017]

I understand I suffer from sever depression

[@pinkmonster4983]

@@streethustler1017 i don't know how severe its my depression, but some people that are close to me "family" tell me that i dont have depression, that makes me feel miserable making me think that i look for attention.

[@esppupsnkits4560]

(Gives you a hug and a treat with a nice soft blanket) here, that should hopefully numb the pain for a minute at the very least! (I have it, too, hun. It’s hard to rp any other even semi-comforting situation)

[@katillium]

I feel ya... 😞

[@Mysteri0usChannel]

"It's all in your head" - "So is a brain tumor. What's your point?"

[@rickyli0n568]

It's a figure of speech, they don't mean literally, they mean it's a figment of your imagination, either way it's a shitty thing to say to someone tho lol

[@wooyeah1738]

It’s all in your head. Yeah, dude, that’s like half the problem.

[@ct83oldaccount43]

I don’t have depression but I can probably imagine how annoying that must be

[@jademoon7938]

I exercise everyday (walking my dog), I TRY to do yoga everyday (sometimes I don't do it for weeks), I've lost weight, I don't hurt myself (damn scars don't go away though), I watch videos about inspirational people, I'm on medical leave from school and trying to go back (couldn't keep up), I left a 7 year relationship, my skin is clearer, I get up in the morning (sometimes I sleep til noon), I stopped doing drugs and alcohol (except my many meds), I'm REALLY TRYING. I'm an adult who can't pay my own bills. I have up to this point managed a rollercoaster of 2 years on top of things, and then I fall apart from the stress of trying. So.. Next time you find out someone is depressed, don't assume they haven't tried literally everything already.

[@trapped_monkey]

Jade Laurel Johnson but it is a justifiable assumption to say that people haven’t tried everything because most people haven’t tried anything.

[@anxiousperson3325]

I’m really glad that you tried doing anything and everything to get yourself better and I hope you’re doing well :)

[@elyskent4792]

Thank you for your comment this is how I feel. And similar to what I've been through. I feel we should all be willing to try anything and everything that might help ourselves. Well done to you.

[@trapped_monkey]

Elys Kent just you against the world, right?

[@aquarius1986]

Man this video and these comments are such a relief to read. I'm doing yoga teacher training myself and have struggled with depression for 20 years. There are days that are much much better now than ever before - and yes, the yoga I do works - it is Kundalini yoga, which works a lot faster and more intensely than other forms - but there are still days like today, and yesterday, where I have depression. I'm so incredibly tired of people recommending me their little tips 'n' tricks. Fortunately, my insomnia and anxiety are massively less than ever before in my life but I have done EVERYTHING to get to this point (without antidepressants, yep, they were terrible for me), and have had a LOT of financial privilege for getting holistic/alternative care that the vast majority of people simply don't have access to. I'm extremely fortunate in that regard and I really feel for those who can't afford to get help. The way depression is dealt with must change and help needs to be more available. Dealing with and healing depression has been my life's story. It's not just some side problem, it has literally influenced everything and there is no simple solution to it. There is no one-size-fits-all solution. People who haven't been depressed can't really understand. I hope that as I heal I don't lose my understanding.

[@justinemichiels180]

Other people have it worse than you Thank you, like I don’t know that yet and I haven’t told that to myself yet Telling me that won’t make me feel any better

[@shinmie]

It’s like your regular discipline. Using fear to put puppet strings on them and act like someone else. It’s a kind of discipline when people get so mad at you, they scare you, and you become their puppet.

[@alexahealy9956]

Right! Honestly when people tell me that it makes me feel worse about being depressed...

[@-elle-o.o]

Yeah that’s so annoying like just because they have it worse does that make us less significant?

[@angie2989]

Justine Michiels yeah it makes me feel selfish for being depressed and then I hate myself more

[@manuelpatino7863]

Justine Michiels Yup, I loathe that one too, utterly. Is somebody else in a worse situation than mine supposed to make me feel better?

[@littlefishiesinthese]

The most frustrating thing w depression for me is; I’m an extrovert. I love going out and socialising, seeing and making friends...but when I’m in a depressive episode, I just can’t summon the energy that I _want_ to summon. I want so badly to feel like going out and doing things, but I just _don’t_ and it’s incredibly frustrating because I wish I did.

[@sutomuarashi]

and it makes us seem invalid

[@kylelowry150]

That's exactly me, it's a confusing state of mind and interaction

[@jm42o]

i also hate whenever people say “you have such an amazing life” YOU DONT SEE WHAT GOES ON BEHIND CLOSED DOORS MY FRIEND

[@amarahmariah3541]

‘Other people have it worse than you’- so you can’t be sad because people have it worse, that’s like saying you can’t be happy because others have it better.

[@amarahmariah3541]

Μάκης Ζούβας always

[@theblackbull55]

Yup that statement is just too stupid. Yeah obviously there are people who have it ''worse'' but that doesen't change the fact that im depressed, i didn't ask for it as a matter of fact id be fine without it...

[@amarahmariah3541]

theblackbull55 precisely, nonetheless...I sincerely hope things improve for you!

[@MissBlueEyeliner]

0:52 “Man up. Sort yourself out.” “Like...Oh yeah I’ll just go and fight a bear for the last salmon in the river.” 😂🙄 🐻🧔🏻🐟

[@trapped_monkey]

that’s some nice self defeatism. why don’t u try and be a little more subtle next time.

[@thearmygetton6712]

😂😂

[@soul23110]

Hyalophora Cecropia what?

[@trapped_monkey]

summer roses what what?

[@thecoolshoeshine7179]

To: whoever says "Just act normal please?" *e x c u s e m e ?*

[@wihh87]

Normal isn't a possibility

[@lost_boy_from_neverland3925]

More like; Excuse YOU

[@TsukikoLuna26]

but normal is boring...

[@lunari0n]

@@TsukikoLuna26 that's the worst way to phrase it.

[@alexsucks2411]

Oml my sister says that everyday to me when I get tics infront of her

[@seradin8029]

"You're just being hormonal" "You're just on your period" And "You're too young to have any real problems" are the absolute worst..

[@A_Strawberry]

Every now and then my friend will ask, "do you still have depression?" Of course I do, I hate my self, my brain is imbalanced, my body is actively telling me to shut it down and end my life!

[@eimearhannan6420]

Please don't , stay strong Live long💛

[@ozzylepunknown551]

You dont have to kill your self when you die anyways even if u dont want it.

[@introvertedangel8524]

Please stay strong

[@stashphl5348]

I really don’t want to kill my self I’m trying to love life. But I’m just tired.

[@anotherincidental123]

No face you're full of shit

[@elevenpoisons2484]

On my worst days of depression, I still have to force myself to be productive and people have no idea how much effort that takes. I get so mentally drained that I can't function or even talk to the family and I get called 'lazy' and 'rude' for it, only making the situation worse.

[@briannam8230]

One time, while I was really depressed, I walking into class. My teacher asked “what’s wrong?” So I answered “Life is really hard right now.” And you wanna know what she said next?! She said “Just wait till you get older, you have it easy now.” Wow, real word of encouragement. 🙄

[@sundancent2202]

Puga Chan Well she's right.

[@rusty8021]

Sundancent Yeah but that wouldn’t help at all. The fact that she has it “easy” now pretty means that the teacher said life would only get worse.

[@sundancent2202]

Glitch It's not supposed to help, it's the truth.

[@rusty8021]

Sundancent But that’s not true for everyone. There are plenty of people who had bad childhoods and grew up to be happy and successful. Also, it doesn’t matter if it’s the “truth” just don’t say it. Depressed people tend to overthink and saying something like that could have a bigger impact than you think.

[@erikadavis21]

And then they still say you have your whole life ahead of you. Really? A whole life of utter misery? No wonder i can't see any reason to continue and just want to die.

[@violettas5154]

"Everyone feels depressed sometimes, that's just part of being human" - the first and last time I went to the school counselor.

[@hachicast]

I had a coworker once say "you're depressing." Or "you make me feel depressed." While laughing. It wasn't funny.

[@calamityredgnat9356]

Volnei Woods mm I've heard some similar things before, it's really annoying.

[@wihh87]

Bummer when that happens. Totally not cool

[@Ella.L.]

*My "favourite": ,,How are you?" Me: ,,Not good." ,,Oh... um... not good... huh?..." I swear, i get that SO OFTEN! Like, don't ask me how i feel, if you don't expect an honest answer... or an actual answer, to begin with!*

[@RG-em2lg]

IKR! Others usually reply with, “oh okkk....” Well I honestly think people are just asking to be polite, not because they care lol. I don’t see the problem, but I wouldn’t say I’m not good to a person I’m not close with. If there’s something I won’t do, it is explaining how I am to a person that don’t care. It’s like talking to a wall.

[@2oohonest]

Don't forget when they say "oh...that sucks"...you don't say???!

[@Anonymous_Gambito]

I know right?!! They ask how i am, but they don't really care to know, and i know they don't really care to know, so i end up going like: "Well... hmm... I'm alive..."

[@NymphetaminexXxGrrrl]

I thought i was the only one who just answered honestly. Though once a cashier asked me how i was and i said "not so great" and they wanted to have a full psyche session, i feel they genuinely cared but it was awkward because there was a line up of people behind me wanting groceries and i kept trying to pull out of the conversation i eventually had to say thanks and run so she could serve other people. Now i'm not sure how honest i should be, so i just say im ok which is pretty vague.

[@Ella.L.]

Unique Yeah, that would be much better!

[@shori2113]

"noo you're not depressed." eHEEE wANNA BET.

[@elysewelch6961]

dreaxzii 😂

[@snehasunil2889]

Constant Domination my god, telling someone to go kill themselves is not okay. You’re literally watching a video about depression, some depressed people are suicidal. Saying that is very triggering.

[@darcyferrigno]

Also I felt it so hard when the girl with glasses in the cream sweater said "You feel like a burden already" Please, us with depression already are ashamed and are many times EXHAUSTED from putting on a front so when someone critisizes them and says something like "you're bringing me down" can be so very painful to hear.

[@mimmapierrot]

all of these i can relate too so much omg. the worst one is when i'm in a really bad depressive state my mum always says 'oh well people have it a lot worse' and when i feel unable to go places she says 'well i don't want to go to work sometimes' as if it's gonna motivate me, but in reality it just makes me feel 10x worse because i feel guilty about being depressed

[@naritruwireve1381]

My mom's like that too. She's always like "Others are going out and going to school. Stop complaining because everyone else is doing the same thing as you. I don't hear anyone else complaining. Stop being lazy!" and in my mind, I'm just like "Gee, thanks for making me feel guilty about something *you* caused, dumbass."

[@ilovekittie123]

Them: “what’s the matter?” Me: “Nothing really” Them: “No what’s up?” What am I meant to say? There is nothing that has just happened to make me really sad I am just sad. ITS CALLED A CHEMICAL UNBALANCE.

[@Ninix0306]

errr... for this one tell them u feel own and just wanna be alone... if u say nothing any person will ask again out if concern. i have depression too but if i say nothing i still make sure to tell them ill be back soon or whatever or i need time alone. not everyone knows the ins and outs of depression.

[@ilovekittie123]

Yoongi Min yeah I understand I get those too :(

[@mollyh8683]

I'm hope everything gets better and I know by saying this it won't do anything but I really do hope things get better Sincerely, fellow army

[@Anna-fp8lo]

"you're over thinking- no, I'm just thinking a lot!" MOOD

[@UndeadEyes]

"It's all in your head." Shocking! Who would have thought that an organ in the body could get ill!? Are you going to tell me next that the asthma is 'all in your lungs'? Organs can get ill and damaged from multiple sources. The brain is not beyond becoming ill or damaged. Unfortunately, the brain is much more complicated than other organs and that makes it hard to treat some of these illnesses, if not almost impossible. One of the best things a psychologist ever told me when it came to my PTSD is: "I'm not going to tell you we can fix it or that there is a cure. Our job is to find a way to stabilize your foundation enough that we can find a way for you to learn how to cope and manage with the symptoms on your worst days." My PTSD comes with many things, including making my depression ten times worse. When my foundation is set and I feel grounded, having a focus and a goal that I am achieving, I am able to cope so much better. The moment that foundation begins to crumble, I struggle to cope and have to find something new that can ground me, even if temporarily while I fix the foundation that crumbled before it.

[@Tree_The_Artist]

"You're bringing me down" Ok first off, i wasn't meant to make u feel down... I'm only wanting to get help from a FRIEND that I truly cherish Secondly, it always makes me even more depressed knowing that I'm being a burden to u and knowing that I'm a terrible person cuz I would rather not be reminded of that thank u. Yeah this is what I think when people tell me that

[@aaliyahmarie3379]

T_R_E_E :3 I had a friend say something like that they said I all ruin the mood because I feel depressed all the time

[@alexmun7391]

T_R_E_E :3 it’s like ‘oh sorry, let me turn off my depression so you can have fun’🙄🙄🙄

[@shalinipandya1886]

I like go full on Dumbledore when someone pulls the "it's all in your head" well yah it is but why should that mean it's not real. That's such a stupid thing to say like going up to someone with lung cancer and saying it's all in your lungs.

[@lucykeegan6303]

Shalini Pandya yes! Always go full Dumbledore

[@bennyton2560]

Long live Dumbledore!!!!!

[@Directionless.Sponge]

"It's all in your head" uh yeah Carol that's why it's called a MENTAL illness and not a PHYSICAL illness. (no offense to the Carols down here)

[@Banoffeenyx]

This

[@SamJanuary17]

As someone with depression, this made me smile today. Thank you x

[@carolinefiorentini3233]

Sam January Living with depression is being extremely brave because everything is so much harder. When you'll get better everything will seem really easy (Well most of the time because i'm not completely out of it).

[@Olliepotter01]

Can relate to all of these!! I always say if you don't have anxiety and depression, don't judge others because you don't know their situation and how difficult it is, having not suffered from it. If you do, then don't judge them because you know firsthand how hard it is. Even better don't judge others at all.