It took me till the very end to realise that she never loved me.... She actually loved the fact that I loved her and used that to make me feel loved. Still trying to move on but it's not easy.
@efanalao64462 жыл бұрын
I'm in the same boat as you...
@mariog33262 жыл бұрын
Yes, totally true. Selfish and manipulative is what it's called. They just seek what was good for them.
@michaelakpabio33032 жыл бұрын
@@mariog3326 was in that kettle, Jessica n others opened my eyes. I ended that situation n with a wonderful person now. Totally moved on.
@MZAgru2 жыл бұрын
MEN YOU ARE THE PRIZE
@Perorworld12 жыл бұрын
This is exactly my situation and I have done everything to say I am sorry but no way making me question the love she used to talk about for 6yrs while she was getting her education. Difficult to move on,I cry every night cos this is my first time in love
@isaacaffram90942 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what am going through now,I even regret meeting her gosh some people are mean and selfish.thanks for this video
@dennisrobinson80082 жыл бұрын
How bad did she mess you up?
@simonmanu56962 жыл бұрын
Run for your life bro
@dennisrobinson80082 жыл бұрын
Those ones "you wish you never met her" are extremely costly, but you LEARN. Alot of that stuff you cannot allow. Being overly into someone who does not value you is extremely costly and can be life threatening.
@nana1official2 жыл бұрын
Stay strong buddy,,, I can relate
@SupaSmoothReels2 жыл бұрын
Me too bro
@t-panda8082 жыл бұрын
My ex was more in love with what I did for her than me. After watching this video I finally realize that living a single life is much more exiting and fulfilling than being in a relationship. Most relationship nowadays is all based on infatuation and financial/material convenience.
@bobaboitiz97232 жыл бұрын
amen!!
@abeikusimonson2412 жыл бұрын
✌✌
@addae_dr2 жыл бұрын
@ochomemaurice2 жыл бұрын
Otek
@oso29352 жыл бұрын
Na word bro
@notoriousm59492 жыл бұрын
2 year relationship, and everything you said, she done, besides being jealous when other girls would talk to me, not one message to see how I am, she was dating someone else within 3 months, nice guys finish last, time to play the game.
@peterkiarie51392 жыл бұрын
I think this is the finest African woman on the planet! I love her insights, her looks, her voice, her brains, her caring attitude, EVERYTHING.
@HenryLyons2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your honest commentary. I’m a natural giver who’s been burned too many times by women who just used me for their own needs but left me emotionally drained. Those relationships have damaged my trust in women which puts a damper on my current relationship. Trying to trust again once hurt is really difficult. I’m still learning to read the RED flags. Thanks again
@gsunmola2 жыл бұрын
I'm the same as you, a natural giver. It seems some women target men like us for their selfish gain. I've become more conscious now of reading the red flags and ensuring that I don't condone it anymore 🙃
@kingsam8712 Жыл бұрын
Hello Henry, thank for your comment. I am in the same situation that you experienced. I have been chatting with a woman for a while and she used me just to get her own needs. When I told her that I won't supporting her always with her needs, she stopped talking to me. It been more than 2 weeks she didn't send message to me to know how I am doing. It is difficult for me also to trust women again for another relationship..
@davidcoppotelli3957Ай бұрын
Henry Lyons, You are not alone there. There are plenty of Good Men who go out of there way please the women they want to be with. But if they are not giving back to you what we are putting out.They need to be removed from our Lifes and move on to someone much better for us.
@evanzdasilva93372 жыл бұрын
When u talk... The world listens. keep on educating us.. Respect in all aspects🤙
@oupapetermathonsi66212 жыл бұрын
Complete Truth Jessica.. You always highlight the strong points of every situation people going through relationships and marriages.. Keep showing your passion of helping us.. You are angel.. God bless you and protect you 🙏
@gsunmola2 жыл бұрын
My relationship of 5 years which I thought was leading to a walk up the aisle ended today, everything you said in this video was true about my relationship with her, now with the benefits of hindsight. I started watching your videos about 2 months ago, and they gave me insight I needed to understand that I was in a toxic, one-sided relationship and I was being gaslighted whenever I tried to complain about my feelings of not being loved by her. I'm relieved it's ended now, although I have to admit here that I've been used good and proper.
@jonahd-guitarist99752 жыл бұрын
This happens to me with d woman I wanna settle with. I so much love dat girl but I have to let her go, she failed me by dating someone, maltreating me, doesn't care about my feelings. I have to let her go, now dey are no more in good relationship with d other person.
@brainyguy67342 жыл бұрын
Same here 💔
@empathicparadox60412 жыл бұрын
Real talk fam, you probably have already done this but if not block her ass. Don’t give her any way back into your life . Keep strong brother.
@dennisrobinson80082 жыл бұрын
How long ago did it break up?
@queendara12772 жыл бұрын
Wow same was 4years
@morgynmusungah6742 жыл бұрын
You have one of the most beautiful voices I have ever heard. Warm and calm…you should consider counseling if you are not in it already. God bless
@tanyasamasuwo2 жыл бұрын
My marriage ended last year and i struggled for answers and along came Jessica. This video is the best since i subscribed
@moshar122 жыл бұрын
Thank you...I am at the crossroad, but my feelings for her is hard to let go. Need clarity, but your information is valid.
@aniexcels2 жыл бұрын
You're always hitting the right spot in your relationship talks. Thanks so much for your lessons 👍
@iandiru64332 жыл бұрын
I walked out of the relationship with a lady who took me for granted its the most painful thing that hurt me so much
@taivillechamber52032 жыл бұрын
This video is accurate and exactly what I experienced in my last marriage. And we had a child but she was so quick to be involved with another the same month she moved out. Love is no longer exist to say the facts and people should just enjoy their singleness
@anana-yy6pz2 жыл бұрын
jessica you are truly a relationship guru. I will advice any man watching your videos to heed to every point you highlight . They may have practical applications and may be an invaluable source of knowledge for men in their dealings with the opposite sex .
@Scorpion-rp5sx2 жыл бұрын
This video really hit home today… thank you… the words I really needed to hear at this time in my life!
@joshuamwanza33392 жыл бұрын
It's difficult to swallow but wow that's the truth and thank you Jessica OS 🎉
@bismarcknkansah95182 жыл бұрын
Honestly this is one of the best videos I’ve watched. Point by point everything is true. Well done Jessica 👏
@litealiteАй бұрын
I am terribly hurt . It hurts so bad . You comforted me .
@emmanuelofosusarpong70302 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much Miss Jessica this really has help me understand a current situation. Thanks
@charismakwesiviksenyagloh2 жыл бұрын
This is an icebreaker!! Mheeennn! Jess! You're deep!
@leoncomlanhekpazo43862 жыл бұрын
Facts! I've been with a lot of women and can genuinely testify I saw in most of them the opposite (luckily for me 😂😂😂) of those signs Jessica described. Love is one the rarest feelings humans beings will all the time find hard to fake. Especially women. Unfortunately, when it comes to feelings the one who cares less is ALWAYS the winner.
@felixadjei9073 Жыл бұрын
The last point is really hitting me hard....Thanks Jessica
@obscurelight2 жыл бұрын
How can a woman love when she's subconsciously always ready to jump into a better option if the occasion shows up? Use your brain.
@dennisrobinson80082 жыл бұрын
That mind cannot and does not love
@hermanlucaslucas8462 жыл бұрын
Then the point is why even get into so called relationships these days you are a fool if you want to just do for someone and not get anything in return no other relations on earth does that..
@bml20077 ай бұрын
Bingo
@LOCKSHADES11 күн бұрын
@@obscurelight if she cannot bring herself to respect you…..
@tashingasithole97182 жыл бұрын
I could feel truthfulness in your points.thank you Jessica
@malam659713 күн бұрын
nice explanations with very real and very very real.Your voice truly impressive
@justint.kennerly5780Ай бұрын
Thanks doll. And fans your all great and deserve the best
@augustinedeman21002 жыл бұрын
I love my girl , but she don't care about my feelings. This video empower me to let her go , thank Jessica. Much respect 👏🇸🇱
@yanceytarver51012 жыл бұрын
If you didn't hit the nail on the head with this one you never have!!! Case in point there was a woman once in my life who hit every point you made in this video except 2 ( which two aren't important). After a while, I realized that being alone in boredom is WAAAAAY better than being together in misery.
@elvischikwanda72962 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jessica you are the best. I feel so encouraged after having a break up 💔. All that u have shared are facts in what I was going through.
@nathimoleane69312 жыл бұрын
Thank you this is really what I needed to hear.
@spreadwings71276 ай бұрын
Thank you for opening my hearts, Jessica.
@JessicaOS6 ай бұрын
Any time!
@nana1official2 жыл бұрын
Thanks a million times for this video Jessy. A lotta guys can relate to this 😊
@malusimhleni2 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what im going through 🤦🏽♂️and she ticked all the 11 points is just crazy for me
@jorgecrowtatsrodriguez47932 жыл бұрын
I’m glad this video exist and it’s helped. I recently dated and I got hurt. I wanted to blame her but this video brought clarity. She my ex was honest w me, we still hang out and I’m learning to let go. I feel liberated and also I feel validated. I finally got through a break up without taking it personal. I will definitely use all this info for my next relationship. Much love fellas.
@EvelynAmbrose2 жыл бұрын
Yay, I’m here today
@spreadwings71276 ай бұрын
"Oh my goodness, this makes so much sense. You are a gem. Thanks! ❤️"
@judebanky12 жыл бұрын
exactly what i went through but i have moved on now i really loves this girl so so much , i regret meeting her
@sankoelasankoela7182 жыл бұрын
Hmk, now i feel free after many paradoxes of love and mixed signals from different reasons in my current relationship. I thank you Jessica
@richardmetzger68762 жыл бұрын
The cold ugly truth. I will accept this and move on. Thank you.
@ericpalmer82502 жыл бұрын
You're going to be just fine Richard.
@frankcodrington30642 жыл бұрын
I truly appreciate this video continue the good work your doing educating people out there.
@shaquillhilton55742 жыл бұрын
Your videos are a whole eye opener
@kimwillis2542 жыл бұрын
From Kenya, I love Ghanian people the home of Kofi Annan, Kwame Nkrumah, wode Maya, Jessica, Jerry Rawling there is footballer who made us proud as African during 2010 world cup I forgotten his name but salute this great men. Your city Accra, your famous old school Kumasi. I love you Ghanians one day will visit country. Jessica keep it up your good work.
@quahthamaster2 жыл бұрын
Asamoah Gyan 🇬🇭
@kimwillis2542 жыл бұрын
@@quahthamaster thank you brother. Yes Legend Asamoah
@ochomemaurice2 жыл бұрын
Did Asamoah Gyan make us proud in world cup 2010 or he broke our hearts as Africans.? Typing from Migori in Kenya 🇰🇪
@kimwillis2542 жыл бұрын
@@ochomemaurice Jambo ndugu once worked in migori county, awendo Oyani okwethi, oriri, kanga, orongo ,isabanie, sirare,tharime, sonu. I served those people 10 years ago
@ezekielnduli51812 жыл бұрын
This is solid. Lots of value, many insights.
@Kats_ronnie2 жыл бұрын
Am really going through this am literally drained …. Always on and off , never acknowledge anything, only looking at what u promised and delayed , ever considering her own things like birthdays , exclude her self from whatever u come up with ever considering her friends…… i gave up now i smash and move on no commitment. relationships now days are just a whole piece of shit 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️ am really tired ….
@harryhaizel2 жыл бұрын
Jessie all I will say Is thank you soo much and God bless you 🙏🙏🙏
@saibuyesufu68472 жыл бұрын
U re 100% correct. God bless you always
@djsplice12 жыл бұрын
It's so sad to say that only 1 thing you spoke of that doesn't apply to my situation.. but you dead on the the rest..thanks again for your help
@howellspeters11702 жыл бұрын
Am playing it back to back. One of your best video ever📹👍💯
@stu37752 жыл бұрын
I must say, you have a unique grip on the reality of the situation.
@wombathead873 ай бұрын
Thank you i needed this right now. Done everything for my gf even friends and family are telling me shes bad news and just using me. Maybe i need to face the cold hard reality and move on.
@gsupport52642 жыл бұрын
You have done a lot to us aunty Jessica, keep it up!
@adeisinta59652 жыл бұрын
These truths are an eye opener to men outside there ...Keep up Jessica
@phildavis11582 жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@JessicaOS2 жыл бұрын
No problem! Thank you too
@misterPr0x1ma182 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I am going through right now. Thanks :)
@andreadimille2378 ай бұрын
Life is beautiful regardless of how good it feels........ Love is a given .......
@headmanhebe6963 Жыл бұрын
Fantastic..... Thanks Jess, You just confirmed a lot of things I noticed, which told me, that I was not loved in the previous two relationships.... I am glad I moved on and now, I have no doubt I am in a love-filled relationship, mutual love.... Keep up the good work Jess
@miracleebuka2522 жыл бұрын
Madame Jessi , You have said it all , This are words that speaks directly to me , Indeed Bitter truth .
@dhanrajmohan701 Жыл бұрын
Thanks Jessica you are amazing. Continue the great legacy. Peace and love.
@mockapp69732 жыл бұрын
reverse engineering this, I've come to the conclusion that I was never in love with her ---reason why I was unemotionally detached for many years, finally ending the relationship with no contact for many years. Recently I just got a "hey big head " text from her, via her friend texting me. All I can tell folks is just move on, especially if you or your partner aren't exhibiting any of these features in this video. Good video, J
@divinemuoghalu94712 жыл бұрын
Your wealth of knowledge is immense, I fell victim of everything you’ve just mentioned. How do you even know all this things
@Gods-bondservant2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Jess...I enjoyed this video as it speaks to me and a situation I experienced.
@quinaardyl2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Jessica for this insightful and encouraging foresight. I got carried away in such a toxic relationship years back and everything you mentioned except maybe one was all the characteristics she displayed. With all the initial warnings and red flags, I hanged on hoping it was just a phase, but lo and behold, it got worse. My only consolation were my three boys out of the relationship. It took me years to see clearly, but it's better late than never because my kids were very important to me. But when the unhappiness became unbearable, i ejected myself out of her toxic and manipulative claws years down the line, I mean the disrespect and her aggressions became so obvious and was affecting the kids while her characters, exactly all you mentioned started getting worse and pronounced. #Freenow and never been happier
@jhica57182 жыл бұрын
It took u 20 years to leave.......come on...
@azeezmustapha59762 жыл бұрын
You really opened my eyes to many things with you videos. God bless you.
@RodneyDailey-df7sj4 ай бұрын
Great content thank you Jessica
@howellspeters11702 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jessica. U made my day
@grahamturner12902 жыл бұрын
Beautiful and perceptive as always... ❤️
@dr.bangura47222 жыл бұрын
Fantastic insights, indeed. Cheers. You gave a vivid description of the toxic,energy-draining and materialistic ex.
@ronalddaniels55792 жыл бұрын
That you Jay I needed this video.. Today, This is true from end to end.. Women do really want what they say they want.. Why is that.?
@jerellivey27682 жыл бұрын
Wow! Damn it it hurts like hell!
@stevecavusoglu1632 жыл бұрын
Hey Jessica, great video. I have a close friend you went through this. Sometimes the truth can be staring them in the face and they could still be in denial which was the case with him unfortunately. There are always certain Red Flags early on in relationships; the skill set comes into play when you are able to see through this. For example a big one also is are you always the one calling and texting or attempting to make plans-if so a Red Flag then. Do you feel she doesn't feel comfortable getting intimate-even a hug may appear like a friend is giving you one, limited eye contact-another one is not really a good listener!! She only listened if she ever does to say what she wants to say disregarding your feelings and needs. List goes on and on
@angelbwalyachate2 жыл бұрын
Wonderful video ☺️ always learn more and more 😊
@THOF4YOUTUBE22 күн бұрын
Woooow She really used me!!! i am devastated!
@MrApedrape2 жыл бұрын
You are spot on!
@matt80384 күн бұрын
She left me unexpectedly after my card declined at dinner. While I was away sorting out the problem, she disappeared. She never responded to any of my messages, though she didn't block me either. That was the only time she ever contributed to anything. I can't believe someone could be so heartless. I invested so much into what I thought was a relationship. Minutes before she was reassuring me of her deep love.
@SiyaDube2 жыл бұрын
Sadly is that one can see the signs, however, because one is in love. One tries to convince themselves about the love that is not there.
@wobudunduonesmas59122 жыл бұрын
Woooo this serious and true point out I love the flow
@papson00722 жыл бұрын
So deep 💯😔, you have said it all 💯
@Gray-Wolf-Media2 жыл бұрын
Jessica Thank You for this. I recently heard from this guy that told me that my girlfriend wasn't who she claimed to be. Instead of asking, I did the worst thing I could have ever done. I attacked her in the worst way possible. So now I have apologized and begged for her forgiveness seems like almost daily. She is still having the "TRUST ISSUES" stage, where she still doesn't trust me any longer. Again thank you.
@jonesasiamah18612 жыл бұрын
This piece is deep! ... been following your content for a while now but this one hit different.... Keep bossing it. You sharp.
@HappeeGoLuckeyDaGr8One2 жыл бұрын
You a very knowledgeable, articulate, and your eyes are gorgeous
@charlestyler27162 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this I appreciate the word I needed to hear this
@TimKerman2 ай бұрын
Very helpful. Thankyou
@JessicaOS2 ай бұрын
You're welcome!
@youngfosso43702 жыл бұрын
Much love Respect 💯💯💯💯
@Ami55ah2 жыл бұрын
You got keys 🔑 🔑🔑. I wish I had you back then. I could literally say I have experienced all of what you talk about. I am always related. Sad world, my world.
@armoussa68282 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much for your good week..
@tonylopez67232 жыл бұрын
My ex fiancé of 6 years been pushing me away saying she needs focus on herself but this weekend found out she was having sex and getting serious with a conworker she blamed me when she told me then blocked me and spend the night with him... honestly worse pain of my life and I had lung surgery,lost people, went broke...but this tops it off maybe because I was blind and lying to myself even when it was obvious and that made it worse
@siamahkasujja17912 жыл бұрын
I feel like watching it 100 times.Spot on.
@jackiedike40772 жыл бұрын
Always on point.
@ekairialosalumhense3027 Жыл бұрын
Good day Lady Jessica OS, I have been so addicted to ur channel and all ur teachings brings a reflections of my past relationships and one I'm entering into presently. I also want to apply all to every of my relationship to both genders irrespective of situations. I appreciate you so much
@shaarodmahanta24732 жыл бұрын
Every point resonates.Going through the same😔
@CTech2472 жыл бұрын
God bless you mam. After watching your video, .. I had to confront my girl only. To discovered she never loved me..
@sonnykaledi92782 жыл бұрын
Africa sees and hears virtue from you paragon! The not so discerning population of loving men out there are unmasked from their own unthinking hearts, thanks for injecting the much needed discernment, it is good for the women population too. May God enrich you Jessica 🙏!
@sundaymuchika7632 жыл бұрын
In love with the theme
@gabrielakinwale55752 жыл бұрын
Hmm... This is a very good video. You nailed it.
@emmanuelsalako73702 жыл бұрын
Words of wisdom from Jessica, she brings the facts to life, tells, teaches and makes all things relationship simple and simplifies it... Ask any man who has being there and they'll have stories to tell, Jessica makes it all bare and shares what people spent loads, of emotional, financial and heart felt moments... Wow True love is always so worth it when you find the right one and you know that all the signs and steps you have given shows that your heart is in it. One sided relationship really got me, a guy who does it all, text, call, visit, ghost mode, finally they don't love you and only love themselves.
@Gyrodicer2 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I needed that.
@quinnbeauford20592 жыл бұрын
Good information I will looks for these signs in my next relationship.
@kevincroft98482 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jessica Yes it's all true. All your points have happened to me Kevin x