11 THINGS I WISH I KNEW BEFORE WEIGHT LOSS SURGERY & GASTRIC BYPASS

[@saleemansari571]

I am an obesity doctor based in London, UK and your video is truly fantastic. I learn the most from listening to the experiences of our patients so i want to thank you for sharing your experience which is common to so many patients i see after surgery. Thank you Melissa, with best wishes. P.s., Obesity is a chronic disease which requires lifelong management, and you are managing it so well Melissa, congratulations

[@MrsMelissaM]

I just barely saw your comment Doctor. I wanted to say thank you. There are so many nuances to having this surgery. And I don't think people really understand that it's as much psychological as it is physiological.

[@omadjourney]

I wish you were not so expensive so much so that most people risk their lives going to Turkey. My gp won't even listen to me so I'm now doing my own research to go to Turkey this summer and you won't believe how many stories of botched surgery and people dying over there I'm going across during this research.

[@themightywookie351c3]

Not a real doctor! Doctors will never say this due to liabilities.

[@JenJenANDChrissy]

I am a Registered Dietitian and a post-op gastric surgery patient too. Yes, not all dietitians are super skinny, but in my 22 years in my profession have seen that all dietitians have disordered eating. This is one reason why we chose this profession. I had my LapBand placed in 2009 and I lost 83lbs total. What helped me the most was my therapist. For all patients who are thinking about WLS, know that the mental part of it is the hardest. However, with the right therapist, you can unpack some of the baggage and discover the source of your overeating once and for all. Thank you Melissa for enlightening people on this topic. I too, mourned the loss of my best friend (food) for about 2 years post op. Another thing to mention is that skin removal surgery is expensive! Start planning for how you're going to pay for it. There's nothing like losing 100lbs and still hating how you feel and look with all the excess skin dripping from your smaller frame. Clothes won't fit properly and your true size is waiting to be revealed under the excess skin. You will also look a LOT older because the fat from your face will be greatly diminished and there will be tons of wrinkles and jiggly skin, especially on the neck. It's when I got all the excess skin removed, that I truly felt skinnier. Body dysmorphia is prevalent and needs to be addressed with your therapist too.

[@PercyAcıbadem]

Hello @@omadjourney! If you are still searching for the right hospital option in Turkey, I strongly recommmend you to do some research on Acıbadem Hospital. Never go for the clinics mostly working under unproper conditions just because they have a famous doctor and successfull social media accounts.

[@teresaosburn8840]

i had gastric bypass surgery 3 years & 9 months ago, have lost 249 lbs & have kept it off. hang in there, i am for you all the way! it was the best decision of my life! it was either life or death & i chose to live. i used to wear size 32 & now i wear size 14. you go girl! i am so proud of you.. yea i got all the neg comments too, i just blow it off.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Thanks so much Teresa. I lost 125 pounds & a day July 1st is my 3 year anniversary! Congratulations to you on that fantastic success!

[@stevenwhitcomb9668]

Congratulations. That's great....

[@kinishamcconico2171]

Can I inbox u please I have questions

[@fieryhellkitten]

Did you have to get skin removal surgery?

[@LaurenJewel]

that is AMAZING im so proud of you

[@sugarfree8303]

I went from 470 down to 160. 60" waist (Sz 6X) to a 29" waist (sz 10). I was still considered "overweight" by medical standards and I looked Anorexic and felt just as insecure about that as I did about being super sized. The Peanut Gallery once were telling me that I'd be so pretty if I just lost the weight to telling me that I needed to stop losing weight because I looked sickly. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. I am 12 years out and the physical issues that I've had in the past decade due to the surgery persist. I have to wear loose clothing as waist bands and wearing bras cause tremendous stomachaches that stop whatever I'm doing until they subside. I have to have intravenous Iron infusions as I struggle with such bad Anemia that my oxygen depraved red blood cells collapse and look like flat tires under the microscope. The severe Anemia causes me to be short of breath, causes my muscles to cramp so badly that I cannot walk, causes chronic headaches and brain fog. I thought I was developing early onset Alzheimer's before I was told it was due to the Anemia, my brain doesn't get enough oxygen. Was surgery worth it? The answer is a mixed bag for me. On one hand, It saved me from dying at 32. On the other hand, the quality of my life has not improved by the weight loss. I just have different health issues to contend with. Nothing about this surgery and the journey after the fact has been easy. The greatest positive from the entire process is that I have learned to mute the peanut gallery. Nothing anyone thinks or can say bothers me anymore because I do not have to fit into that box they live in. Obesity is more a psychological issue than a physical issue. The head is the toughest opponent to defeat in my opinion.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Oh I'm so sorry to hear about everything you are going through. My prayers are with you for healing and better days ahead. I know that must be so scary. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. It helps to see all sides

[@acex8124]

I feel like a failure with my emmotional eating. Strongly considering surgery... Now, I hear you. Honesty. I don't want to have worse issues than I started with. I am over 65, have almost constant A FIB, cannot take pain meds for after surgery... Have sleep apnea without snoring, etc. Your sad experience has pushed me away from the thought of surgery. I thank you. I am sure that your story will help others too. I will be sending positive thoughts to God and to the Universe to help and to guide you. This is Mrs. Ace X, in Florida.

[@mihaelavernicu6784]

🤗❤️❤️❤️ You might want to try beef liver, for treating your anemia, it works wonders!

[@Linaskye143]

This is one of the main things that kept me from surgery. I have never met someone who has led a full and healthy life after bypass. Not totally. Most have a bunch of other issues that seem to have gotten worse instead of better with bypass, quite a few have eating disorders, and the one I know who is happiest still has to keep changes of clothing with her in the car because she gets dumping syndrome and fecal incontinence at the drop of a hat.

[@wrinklesandsprinkles]

I lost 100lbs on my own in 1 year through lifestyle changes. I taught myself about nutrition & began water aerobics 7 days a week after work. Toward the beginning of the next year I endured 2 major health difficulties & my weight plateaued. Nothing more would come off & I began feeling the effects of the health complications. So I had Gastric Bypass surgery about 2 yrs later. That was 15 years ago and I have learned allot. It is very easy to become malnourished & dehydrated! I still experience nausea & vomiting every week. Whomever says having this surgery is “taking the easy way out” has no idea what they are talking about & it aggravates me so badly. The surgery affects one for the rest of their lives.🌺

[@jom5745]

What do you take for your nausea and vomiting?

[@wrinklesandsprinkles]

J EM I take Zofran prescribed by my physician.

[@tomjones2157]

Don't assume people have no idea. I already know 3 people who bariatric surgery and regret so badly. One is dying from the complications and all 3 gained more than the weight back within 3 years. A fourth did not have complications but gained all the weight back within 2 years. Making the decision to get the Surgery is the easy way out but the after effects of the surgery aren't easy at all. I'm really glad it worked out for you and people should be nothing but supportive of peoples personal decision. It can be a life saving procedure for many.

[@MrsMelissaM]

You are so right. We've talked about our struggles and how hard it is. And yes many people do gain the weight back. I even possibly will. I hope not, but I'm old enough to know that we can't say "never". I wish you all the best and be kind to yourself my dear. Love you much

[@GracefulBeautyWithSheri]

@@tomjones2157 not tryna be nosy in the comments BUT I am. So please forgive me for giving my 2 cents. As a stranger reading this, don't you think it's a bit, ok a lot insensitive to leave such a negative comment? Melissa already had the surgery, why leave horror stories to get in her head?! You know what I mean? I'm sure you mean no harm and only sharing what you know BUT sometimes we have to think before we start typing this stuff. If it isn't uplifting or helpful, maybe just don't share the negatives. I can't imagine your comment made her feel good or helped her in any way. Not being a jerk towards you but I just wanted to share my feelings after reading your comment. I also don't think the decision to get the surgery is the easy way out at all. Melissa is brave and inspiring and I'm so proud of her.

[@lisam7511]

I had Gastric bypass in 2009. I lost 200 lbs in a 🎉 year. I never drank before surgery but with the weight loss started going out and drinking and enjoying life. I became an alcoholic and my life became very dark. It's a common problem with weight loss patients and I know several people who had the same problem. I am now in AA 2.5 years sober, PRAISE GOD! Just a warning. Dont let one addiction turn into another one that can kill you. ❤

[@MrsMelissaM]

Hi Lisa. The same thing happened to my sister. Thank you for bringing this to this feed. I'm so proud of you 2 1/2 years sober! Not everyone kicks it! You're so strong!

[@lisam7511]

@@MrsMelissaM I'm sorry to hear that. Thank you for your kind words!

[@Elite_2024_]

Intresting to read your comments. My client desparate to go for ESG and she is 81kg now and her idle weight should be less than 66 kg for her height 165cm.

[@Solidrock-jq6rp]

This happened to my brother in law too & my daughter in law & her sister became addicted to pain pills.

[@lisam7511]

@@MrsMelissaM Thank you! 3.5 years now!!!!!!

[@cathyhopkinson865]

My thought is, unless they wrote the check for it, they don’t have a right to say anything about it or even have an opinion about it. Period!

[@MrsMelissaM]

I wish everyone thought that too Cathy. Thank you so much!

[@a.l.a7901]

Thank you! I had people talk trash to me about it. Because I didnt fit their criteria of a person who should get weight loss surgery. I lost 30 on my own and the remaining 60 from the sleeve and changing my life style. I had hardly any muscle. So exercising over 200 pounds was awful. So hard and I had no stamina. I am now 134 pounds and working on toning up and gaining muscle. 💪 This is my journey. I paid every dollar myself including travel costs. My husband was so hesitant. Not me. I researched and told him I AM DOING THIS. 😁 No regrets.

[@vilamor007]

You are absolutely right, u don't owe anyone anything and as u say especially if u pay for it yourself ❤

[@carlamunne3403]

I’d have my surgery all over again. No regrets. I have experienced all of these things! I am 6 years out from surgery. I was 383 the day of surgery, and in 2 1/2 years I was at 175 ( I’m 5’8”). You’ll find out who’s really on you team very quickly!

[@MrsMelissaM]

Congratulations on your success Carla! That's awesome!

[@carlamunne3403]

Thank you! And you as well!

[@Becky-c2v]

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[@Becky-c2v]

I'm getting ready to have surgery. Congratulations 🎊 👏

[@xlightninglifex]

I am in the beginning stages of WLS and suffer from fibromyalgia and diabetes. Watching this has given me hope that one day I will feel some what normal again. I have been in chronic pain for 15 years of my life. Doctor after doctor said they couldn’t help me. 2023 is take back myself year! Thank you!

[@MrsMelissaM]

Oh Gina, I understand more than you can ever imagine. It was the best decision I ever made. Definitely get with a doctor & get all the info so you can be 100% informed & start to feel better. I'm rooting for you!

[@jagaruni]

I just had bypass surgery this week and this is the best thing I could have seen today. Thank you so much for going through this. I'm still getting over the pain and preparing myself mentally but your example has really helped me get into the right mindset.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Oh congratulations Derek! I'm so happy for you! You're going to do great! It's worth all the beginning growing pains I promise.

[@stacylbrewer]

My best friend had this surgery and I would never, ever say she took the easy way out. I saw all the same struggles that you went through. Constant nausea and vomiting was the worst. She ended up going from 350 to 200 pounds and I was so proud of her! Thank you for sharing this experience with us, so more people will understand more about the process. Congrats on your weight loss. So happy for you and proud of you!

[@MrsMelissaM]

I'm so glad you enjoyed the video Stacy! Thank you! xoxo

[@augustofernandomunozalmeid8083]

Gracias mil o milliones,

[@Becky-c2v]

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[@AngieO68]

Congratulations, I am 19 months post op for RNY. I have lost 156 lbs since surgery. Best decision of my life. I am 51, soon to be 52 and I was diabetic, on 5 blood pressure pills a day and had sleep apnea. I have been overweight my whole life. I never told many people about my choice die to negative feedback. I did the surgery so I can he healthy and live longer and be more active. I will soon have my 1st grandchild and I look forward to being able to keep up with him. There are some complication, but for me they are worth it. Now my biggest problem is I have no padding on my butt and hurts to set and I am always cold, no fat to keep me warm so I layer up. Also, I had to have a EGD to open up a structure and I did develop a bad ulcer and had to have a revision to remove the ulcer and reconnect my small intestines back to my pouch. Good luck and many blessings. Do what's best for you. Love you lady

[@MrsMelissaM]

Oh love that you shared your story. Thank you so much! And a big congratulations to you for your success! That's simply wonderful!

[@arishoosier18]

I just got my surgery date and I am super excited! I have a lot of health issues and take a ton of medication. I am overjoyed at the thought of reduce the amount of medicine I take and just being healthier! Thank you so much for giving me a realistic idea of what to expect afterward!!

[@Becky-c2v]

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[@juliannehaywood240]

I felt the same way right after surgery! Once they put a giant overhead fan on me, it calmed me down. I lost 154 lbs., 21 of them from my tummy tuck!

[@MrsMelissaM]

Oh my goodness Julianne, that's a wonderful accomplishment! Congratulations! I will probably need some skin removed too! big hugs girl!

[@missbeaussie]

Wow!

[@privateconfidential4775]

What fan?

[@johnnajackson7320]

I am trying to get as much information because I have a hianal hernia and because I have been over weight since I was a baby and since I have gerd and reflux really bad they say this would be the best thing to do while repairing the hernia .

[@leannsmith6516]

Nailed it! Top three are my top three also. Oh the saggy skin, thinning hair and those emotions messing with you daily. I didn’t know that fat cells have hormones and when they start melting away it really messes with your mind. The emotional roller coaster of losing weight and also losing your forever friend of food, just hurts. This surgery makes you tough!!!

[@MrsMelissaM]

Exactly right Leann! You described it so well! It's so nice to have someone that understands! hugs

[@shannonstrait3208]

What do you it hold hormones? Are you talking estrogen? I have been on estrogen replacement and was wondering if I would still need it or if I would require a lower dose?

[@ellietobe]

Keep your glucose levels down by cutting way back on processed carbs. When glucose levels go up pain goes up. It can be difficult. In this country we consume way more carbs than a normal human being would have consumed in years gone by. It is only in the past 150 to 200 that we have had the refrigeration needed to have all kinds of foods available at all times. It used to be that most people only had food that they could store from that year’s harvest and whatever meat they could obtain. That is how people survived for centuries. Today we have foods preserved so that they will last months on a shelf. It is not a normal diet for human beings. I was an insulin dependent diabetic until I went on the Keto diet. When I got rid of the processed carbohydrates I was able to get off insulin which helped me lose weight much faster on that diet. Insulin slows down the metabolism. Carbs are quickly processed in the body so you feel hungry again quickly. Carbs also cause your glucose level to shoot up quickly and, of course, insulin is sent into the bloodstream every time you eat. I have lost the weight I wanted to lose. I am off keto and have gone to a low carb diet. I will never go back to eating processed carbs. I have had to shut processed carbs out of my thinking. Increasing your B vitamins will help with your hair loss. You can do that by eating B rich foods of by using a food based supplement. Most supplements in this country are synthetic supplements (processed in China). Food based supplements are made from nutrients derived from real food instead of the synthetic stuff. They are more expensive but your body will assimilate those nutrients instead of excreting most it as the body does with synthetic supplements. I hope you continue to feel better and keep a healthy outlook about food. The carbs are poison to the body. You just have to begin to think like that. Those sweets increase pain levels no matter how much you weigh and that pain just increases with age. You would not deliberately cause yourself pain and yet that is what people are doing who just accept that they can eat everything they see on the store shelf. Some people do not gain so much weight but they will develop the other negative effects of wrong eating habits.

[@swannee22]

Thank you for those comments. Its all so true!!!

[@23-hours]

I am studying a master of rehabilitation counselling and my final project is on psychosocial support for post-bariatric surgery patients. I'm also focussing on food addiction in the context of obesity. This has been so helpful. Well done for doing what you knew was right for you and sharing your journey with us. Food addiction is real. I too have overcome food addiction and obesity which lead me to this career. Thanks again. I hope you make more videos and let us know how you are doing now!

[@sunitabonita1]

I would interested in reading and knowing more of your job

[@annallen8274]

I had Bariatric surgery in August 2022 and it certainly has been an adjustment and an experience that is unimaginable. Everything that you said is absolutely correct. Some people will find that it is an easy way out but it’s actually hard because the one that I still struggle with is that even though, you’re feeling full physically. Emotionally, your still wanting to eat what your body is going to reject. It is hard to concentrate and feel like your food life is over. But the truth is that it takes mindfulness and structured discipline to get through it and reach your weight loss goal. The judgements that are received due to having WLS is that due to certain health factors. It is not optional for people like be that has health issues that effect my mobility. I actually lost thirty pounds on my own for knee surgery but then hit a plateau and wasn’t physically able to loose more. This was the best option for me and yes it does has its ups and downs but I was happy that this option was available because it has definitely changed my life for the better. Thanks for making this video and good to see you doing well.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Congratulations Ann. I know it's hard, but I'm so happy you shared your experience. I wish you continued success on your journey.

[@GracefulBeautyWithSheri]

This was very interesting Melissa. You're so brave!!!And so inspiring! Oh and beautiful too!!! What if you do a "what I eat in a day" type of vlog. That may be really helpful for people considering the surgery. Or have you already done one and I missed it? That's amazing how much weight you lost! You go girl!!!

[@geel1866]

Yes, very good idea. I wondered this too. I just know, I would try to see how far in the day I would even last just trying to eat the portions she's does in a day.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Hi Sheri, I haven't done one of those. I eat so little that I'm not sure anyone would be interested, lol. Love you so much my dear friend. I remember what we went through on your channel with out 2 "Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hides". The comments here have got my stomach in knots like it was that day too. Most are very supportive, but boy it's hard to hear people tell me that they just know only people who have gained all their weight back and more. And the really hard ones are those that tell me everyone they know that has had it is dying or dead. I just told Bill that I wasn't going to post anymore of these because I can't handle it. Anywho, you are the best & I love you bunches! xo

[@GracefulBeautyWithSheri]

@@MrsMelissaM oh girl I'm so sorry. Yes I remember that week we went thru that drama with those 2 women. I can't believe people are leaving such rotten and insensitive comments. Well wait, actually I can believe it. I get rude comments all the time! Lol But I feel ya, wait till it won't mess with you if you get dumb comments. It's still so new and you need support not stupid comments from ignorant people. I bet you are helping so many women though. Easier said than done to ignore the bad comments. I'm so glad you have Bill, he's such a great hubby! If you have "what's app"and wanna chat, I can chat when I'm in a wifi zone. I'm here for ya girl!!! Love you lots!!!💜

[@angelajanelomax5540]

@@GracefulBeautyWithSheri i don't know about this, someone was berating you. Both of you. ?

[@oksanaargueta6845]

MrsMelissaM Beauty thank you for this video. I have been heavy since I hit puberty. My entire life I have watched what I ate, I exercised. Struggled with infertility and went thru years of fertility treatments which caused more gain. Then started peremenopause 3yrs ago and gained more weight. In addition to do what I always done I started medical weight loss which was low carb 900 calories a day and in 9 mos I only lost 27 lbs. i was so discouraging that I put in so much work and seen so little results. I was always thinking that was surgery is easy way out, but now I am in process of getting it done. Passed my psych and following insurance 6 mos program. Monday having my 4 mos appointment. Not all overweight people are fat because we negligent and overeat and bange on carbs and sweets. So of us, have genetics, hormone imbalance, low metabolism (mine tested at 9 out of 100). I learned a lot thru his process and ready to get a tool that can help me get to a healthy weight. Thank you for sharing your story and ignore the ignorance of other people who do not support you on this journey.

[@deannaroby9630]

Sometimes having a significant life event like this is beneficial because it lets you know who your real friends are ..... so sad that friends judged you. You look amazing and even more important seem to feel better physically.

[@fiftyfeistyandfabulous7402]

I had roux-en-Y gastric bypass surgery in 1994. Back then, there were no psychological assessments required or any preparation for dealing with the emotional changes. I’ll be talking about it when I launch my channel. It was a very hard first few years.

[@terrylappin2327]

I understand the no support and no psychological preparation. But we have survived! Being heavy and then having the courage to seek out the surgery and get off the never ending road of chasing the next "miracle diet "

[@gracefaith444]

Hi Melissa, so happy I found this video. I'm 55 yrs old and currently going through the process working up to my pre OP. I appreciate your honesty on what you wish you had known. Your Journey is very inspiring to me and You look Fabulous 🌹 Thank You for sharing! Grace and Peace, Big HugS and much love. ~Kaye

[@992turbos8]

Thank you !! I’m 4 1/2 mo’s out from surgery and I’m holding to a Bariatric based diet I’ve lost 23 lbs from month 6 to 5 and now in month 5-4 , these videos help/support and reinforce the end goal , I do want that cinnamon roll donut , the Ribeye steak the fast food but if i cave now the hard work is for nothing. Videos like this is my support therapy that keep me on track . Thank you .

[@MrsMelissaM]

Just keep telling yourself that "nothing tastes as good as skinny feels"!

[@ibelieveinangelsyesido7436]

Oh, Melissa! This was wonderful. My cousin's son had WLS a few years ago & I had no idea what he'd gone through. To hear his mother say to me (with great disappointment, sigh) that he was 'on his way back up again' just infuriated me. You covered a lot of great points. Blessings! Jackie in upstate NY

[@SHWELL11]

#11, #10, #8, #4, I am exactly 10 days out of surgery and I definitely have experienced the 4 I referenced. I think the Wake up pain is the biggest one for me so far, that was tough. I have had a few complications since surgery and it has been a bit stressful, but I will get through all of this and be better for it. Luckily my closest friends have all had this surgery and they have been an awesome Inspiration to this process for me. Since my first visit to my surgeon, I have lost 39 pounds.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Congratulations! That's wonderful!

[@pamelahayes4429]

I’m considering weight loss surgery, and you really made me think of things that the doctors won’t mention. Thanks.

[@MrsMelissaM]

I'm glad it was helpful Pamela.

[@christinan6450]

I am a registered nurse practitioner & I applaud you for helping those who are contemplating bariatric surgery & those who have already undergone a procedure. You are spot on with your recommendations /tips. Health providers can give all the factual info clients need, but it’s the well informed client who has undergone the surgery that has deep insights into what clients may experience post op & in the months to years later. While every client will not experience what you have ( and you clearly stated that) it is always better to be informed of what can happen & be prepared. I enjoyed your excellent video & I have to say you are a very ,beautiful lady & you look wonderful. Enjoy your new look & improved energy ; &’try to forgive those around you that are less than supportive. Only you know how you felt prior to surgery & all the negative effects you had to endure daily. I pray your journey continues to be successful & that good health & joy remain your new best friends.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Christina, I have to tell you that you just made my day! Thank you for your kind words. I question myself all the time on how much to share with others. But thus was the best decision I ever made & I love the quality of my life now. I'm so happy hearing from someone on the professional side that you think it will help others! Again, thank you from the bottom of my heart!

[@user-er8sf1ji7m]

Hello, this was excellent information. I am just starting my weight loss journey. I see the doctor in December to start taking to see what's possible. Thank you for all the information. 😊

[@christinan6450]

@@user-er8sf1ji7m : you are very welcome. Good luck on your journey.

[@christinan6450]

@@MrsMelissaM : you are abundantly welcome. Sorry it took so long for me to reply, I must have overlooked your post. I hope all is going perfectly for you. No matter what, pls continue to help others by sharing your story. You have real life insights that no one else can communicate better than someone who has experienced the procedure & the aftermath life you have..

[@snurfbee58]

Congratulations! Great job so far! I had the duodenal switch surgery and, except for being able to take nsaids after my surgery, I could relate to everything you said. There is nothing easy about weight loss surgery and it's sad that there are people out there without the compassion and education to understand what a sacrifice it is, emotionally and financially. Keep up the good work!

[@nicolejenkins3503]

I actually just started this process today. Your number 1 thing is the exact reason I have waited so long, years, to do this. I have been afraid of not being able to eat how I want. However, I dont want to die just to eat what I want. I need to find a new "addiction". Maybe I'll make myself the "addiction " and take better care of me and do things for myself.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Beautiful addiction Nicole, and you are totally worth it! xoxo

[@nicolejenkins3503]

@@MrsMelissaM was thank you!

[@aprilpeterman6569]

I had the sleeve done March 13 th and it’s so true how you grieve over food . Congratulations on your weight loss

[@MrsMelissaM]

Thank you April & the very best of luck on your journey too dear!

[@paulahardesty4449]

Girl you went through it. You are so brave. I’m also overweight. 53 and have fibromyalgia and osteoarthritis. It sucks so bad. I have been watching all your videos on makeup and I do love your hair shorter. Thank you for sharing everything !!!! Big hugs.

[@vickykimla2625]

Thank you for sharing your weight loss journey with us. I'm so glad to hear your pain level is better than before. I was diagnosed 17yrs ago with having Fibromyalgia but thank the Lord above my pain is minimal.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Hi Vicky, it so good to hear that your managing your pain well from the fibro. I love hearing that actually. Sending big hugs! xoxo

[@danalee376]

Melissa, it’s YOUR life sweet lady! Encouragement not discouragement! 😍 I hate thinking people (any one) would discourage you and not be rooting for you. YOUR decision- no one else’s. I wish you good health and all the happiness in the world. God Bless you! 💗💗💗💗💗😊

[@MrsMelissaM]

You're just a sweetheart Dana! thank you so much! xoxo

[@MsPeppermint101]

I'm scheduled for VSG 1/10/23 and this is SO helpful. Really loved how honest and supportive this video is. Will keep these in mind but not stress, and will know it can be managed if I encounter anything. Thank you!!!

[@MrsMelissaM]

Oh wow! I'm so very excited for you. You've got this Patricia. It's not any easy road but it's so worth it. And I was much more nervous than I needed to be. Congratulations!

[@qbabymisshall3266]

How are you doing now after surgery? I'm thinkn bout having it done

[@itschannypow1801]

I shed tears watching this video- thank you SO much for being inspirational. I'm currently going through the nutrition prep portion of my journey and hope to have surgery in November. I already have negative people around me and people have already started distancing. I'm trying to be healthy and don't understand how they could turn something so positive into something negative or how they could "punish" you (distance) because you want to do what is best for you. I don't feel so alone after watching you- Thanks for posting

[@MrsMelissaM]

Oh sweetie I'm sorry you're already going through that. You'll make new friends with your new habits! I'm rooting for you! You're gonna be great!

[@ccmay21]

Hang in there ChannyPOW I had my surgery on 6/1/22 and so much of what MrsMelissaM said is so so true, push those negative people away from you. This is your time to take care of yourself. My only regret is waiting so long to do the surgery because I was afraid of what ppl would say or think. And it only hurt myself in the end. You got this! And good luck!!

[@keletiguiouattara5944]

So, what does that teach you. Learn to close your mouth and mind your own business and not let just anybody in your private life. I’ve lived a very long time in the US and in the Western Hemisphere. The one most exasperating challenge was nosiness . American are the most nosy people on earth. And, they constantly force themselves on you. Talk randomly to strangers in the street, waiting in line in a restaurant. In my country only people with mental illness pbehave that way. Anyways, if your “friends” are no longer your friends after weight loss surgery, then, they were never your friends. Friendship doesn’t exist in your part of the world. Only interest based relations. How depressing. Happy to be back home.

[@MrsMelissaM]

@@keletiguiouattara5944 Wow! Your comment was doing the very thing that you said you hate. You just grouped an entire country into what you perceive you don't like. As I see it, in your own words, you were the epitome of the thing you dislike. Be the change you want to see in the world. "Close your mouth and mind youre own business." (Your words)

[@GriselleS23]

I just started my first visits into getting the surgery and have my closest siblings against this desicion knowing this is my last hope for me to HELP with my health. I currently have diabetes, severe sleep apnea, high blood pressure, lower back pain (it hurts when i walk up to 2 blocks) which is embarassing for me. Im constantly tired, sleepy. I thought i would get positive support from my closest but i dont. So i have to learn to block the negative words and be my own support if i want this change. This video was inspiring and so are the comments of those going theough it. I still have voices trying to convince me not to only because i dont want to go through the pain. But in order to get to something better , you gotta go through the hard times to get to where you want to be. Or where yoi are destined to be.

[@Lindah369]

Thank you so very much for this video I am 7 weeks Post Op and struggling with severe heartburn only to realize that it is due to it being able to grieve the loss of old habits. After watching your video I WILL do better and accept my new life choices. Much appreciated!

[@gertgerenser729]

Melissa, this is wonderful information for those who have the weight loss surgery but also those who have fibromyalgia! Thank you sooo much for sharing your ups and downs, for being honest! Your truly amazing! Your doing great and you look amazing! Love and hugs💞😘

[@MrsMelissaM]

Thank you Gert. Love you too1 xo

[@juliean4673]

Thankyou for addressing fibromyalgia. My friend & I also have ME/CFS & most doctors have no idea how much PEM hurts!!

[@denia1977]

I just finished watching your video and it’s like you were telling my story for a moment. I’m just one month post op and I’m on that fase where I’m craving everything but at the same time everything is disgusting. I’m having such a hard time meeting my protein intake but I’m staying strong and trying my best to do what I’m supposed to do. Thank you for sharing all of this info with the world. God bless you

[@MrsMelissaM]

Hi Denia. First congratulations! I'm so excited for you! That first month is brutal. But I promise it gets better & is so worth it! You got this girl!

[@kategolding9414]

I'm about a week or so out from getting my surgery date. Just waiting on a few tests. The closer I get, the more nervous I am. Some of the support groups I have found online almost feel like they're sabotaging a beginner's efforts by showing incredibly inappropriate foods and saying it's okay to eat them, but hearing somebody's actual experience is far more inspiring. I honestly cannot thank you enough for sharing your real life experiences. Will continue to follow your journey as I begin my own.❤

[@MrsMelissaM]

Hi Kate. I can honestly say, that it's so much worse in our mind than the actual surgery. You got this. And you're going to do great.

[@CR-ru1kw]

Congratulations, 98 lbs 😎🥂! So very happy & proud of you😉! It’s not the easy way out. It’s more complicated when you have surgery. Thanks always for the 411😘.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Hi Carol, thank you so much for this comment and your kind understanding. Sending you lots of hugs! xoxo

[@rachellepoint5042]

This was an inspiring video. I am 1 week post-op from gastric sleeve surgery and I have already felt the mourning of real food. Jello, broth, and protein shakes get old real quick. I am thrilled to add yogurt, applesauce, cottage cheese, and mashed potatoes this weekend. I am down a total of 25 lbs since my consultant visit with my surgeon and can't wait to loss more. Keep up the great work Melissa!

[@MrsMelissaM]

Hi Rachelle. It gets a lot easier I promise. Congratulations on starting your journey to better health & mental well being. Sending you lots of virtual hugs!

[@andreahutton7309]

25lb in 1 week ?? Surely that’s really bad for you

[@FedPhoenix]

How long after surgery before you can drive?

[@weinerwagon6781]

Congrats on the loss!! I lost all of my weight n first 8 months. I was sad about food for a while until I realized it does come back - you can have whatever you want BUT small quantities. I, unfortunately haha can eat sweets still but luckily I don’t struggle with that. It’s not my “fav” I’d say. So proud of you and how far you e come! It truly is life changing and I’m loving the new me - looks like your loving the new you!! Good for you!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@sharronwolfe7711]

Being somewhat new to your channel, I had no idea you had had WLS! You look AWESOME!!! I see NO sagging skin, and not only that, I would have thought you had never had a weight problem in your entire life! I am SOOO happy for you! I’m a “sister” in the weight loss drama, and I can relate to your list of 11 in that many translate to those of us who have considered but backed away from WLS as our method of choice to lose weight. About 18 months ago I was going through all the preliminary appointments for WLS, but the fact that I could never again have NSAIDS was one of the deciding factors for me against the surgery. Add to that the fact you have to drink all the protein shakes and lose weight beforehand. And the fact you must say goodbye forever to your favorite sweets. The more I thought about it, the more I knew I could not go through with it. I applaud those who do! God bless you! I know it’s not the easy way out! For me, I had been using WLS as the carrot on the string back there that I could always go back to if I really wanted to. And I realized that that carrot was holding me back from just kicking myself in the rear and doing it in my own. So 16 months ago I added the Lose It! app to my iPhone and got busy. My loss has been slow, but I found a lifestyle that works for me! And that’s what we ALL must do! I have lost almost 60 pounds using the app and much prayer. But I know it’s a lifestyle choice I can live with. Again, you look so wonderful! And I’m so happy for you that you have made the change this early in your life - you look young enough to be my daughter. And as young as you are, your skin will have minimal sagging! You go girl! Soooo happy for you!!! ❤️

[@MrsMelissaM]

Congrats on your weight loss! That is so wonderful! You should be so happy about it. I had to giggle when you said that I did it early in my life...I'm 51 and I wish that I had the surgery done 25 years ago! I hope you looked at some of my other videos and saw where I started. Here is one of those videos. kzbin.info/www/bejne/h6CwlWiLnb6omJY

[@sharronwolfe7711]

MrsMelissaM Beauty you don’t LOOK 51! I just turned 69, and I thought you were in your 40’s! Ha! I think you look great just as you are. I AM thrilled with my weight loss. I’ve lost it before but tried to lose so fast I got bored and gained it back. That’s why I’m going slow. This is long term! I have watched some of your other videos, and you are a blessing, indeed! Glad I found you!

[@swannee22]

Thank you for your wisdom and congrats on your successful weight loss! Good job! I have gastric bypass surgery 3/7/22 and am very excited but a bit scared! Please keep me in your prayers!! God bless you and all those embarking on this journey! May you have continued success and many blessings! :)

[@MrsMelissaM]

Hi Susan. I was soooo nervous. But almost 3 years later now & I'm so so happy with my decision. I'd do it again in a heartbeat! And the surgery itself isn't near as bad as I was thinking. You got this girl!

[@chamathgunathilake1589]

how was it?

[@Aprilann871]

How r u

[@christinecourtney1908]

Loved the video. Your number 1 item about preparing yourself for the loss of foods you like really resonated with me. As a smoker who quit 11 years ago. That's exactly how I felt. Good luck to you!!!

[@parkedawn]

Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your experiences. I also have fibromyalgia and a couple other chronic illnesses. I am overweight but won't be doing weight loss surgery. You're absolutely correct that it's not an easy choice. I'm happy that you're happy, Melissa. And that's how we should support one another. 💜💜

[@MrsMelissaM]

Thank you so much Dawn! hugs my dear xo

[@michelleagreedkeegan8020]

@@MrsMelissaM can you please make a new vlog on your journey

[@paulahancock7158]

I am in the process to have Bariatric Surgery. I have few more steps and hopefully I will get my Surgery date. I have Fibromyalgia and Rheumatoid Arthritis. They also sent us home to work after COVID. It’s been so difficult going through 24/7 pain and then the weight on top of everything else. The meds made me put on a lot of my weight. I started the process before but my Daughter got real sick while being pregnant with my Granddaughter. I had to step back and take care of my Family. She is 3 now and wants to do so much that I just can’t do between the pain and the weight. I am doing this for myself. I haven’t felt good about myself in so long I lost myself. Now is the time I find myself. Take care of the things I can and deal with the pain hopefully a lil better once the weight is manageable. Thank you for the great tips. Congratulations and Thank you for bringing us on your incredible journey. God Bless! 🙏🏻✨🦋

[@gigimarie2120]

I am about to have my weight loss surgery. This video was so helpful, thank you. I completely felt what you said about the food. I have compared it to an emotional break up, but one that is necessary to save my life on multiple levels.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Oh such a great way to put it. Food definitely is one of those love/hate relationships for us!

[@pandaroll2323]

That was exactly what I was thinking too - just like a break-up. Am starting a long journey too, and the emotional side of things is going to be the biggest challenge for me, breaking years and years of cycling thru so many weights. Wishing you the very best of outcomes with your surgery and your future health xx

[@learubio6813]

Thank you for this video! You are so honest and real. I truly appreciate your delivery of information! I am 7 months post-op and have lost 81 pounds. As much as I read about sagging skin, I too didn't think it would be like this. That said, I have taken up Zumba classes 3x/week and Aqua Zumba 2x/wk. I have more energy and walk my dogs 1.5miles/day as well. I have discovered a whole community of people who love to dance and have fun in Zumba, most are not fitness goddesses and are just regular folks like me. My food addiction has turned into an exercise addiction. I decided to treat myself to a "FitTrip" to Hawaii that is focused on daily fitness, swimming, hiking, and spa treatments! I love the energy I have and you're right, LESS PAIN! No more meds! I'm loving the new me, the new clothes, and my new attitude. I have encountered some negative nellies at work but I don't care. I am 61, much healthier without all the sugar, and have a new attitude! I do have moments of mourning because I broke up with my "boyfriend" Ronald (McDonald) and had to say good buy to my beloved Double Quarter Pounder and large fries for life, but it's all worth it. I will be a much healthier person in my retirement years! Yay! :)

[@MrsMelissaM]

Bravo Lea! I'm so excited for you! You go girl!

[@Qutypie22]

I looovvve Zumba!!!

[@pamrocks5098]

You look great! This sure as hell doesn’t sound like the “EASY” way out!!! Stay strong!!😘

[@MrsMelissaM]

thank you so much Pam! xo

[@Aprilann871]

My friend lost 134lbs an she eats whatever she wants. Its been about 2 years since her surgery. An she got lucky, she has had it very easy.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Wow! That's unusual

[@cindyeldridge7456]

What a great video! I feel that anyone who struggles with food addiction (myself included) gained knowledge from some of your tips. Congratulations on making a decision that was right for you and on the success you've seen!

[@MrsMelissaM]

thank you so much Cindy! xo

[@brandyelarge3890]

I am 10 years out of surgery and still struggle with the food addiction. People can't understand what I go through each day knowing there are snacks available to me at work, and my kids don't eat all I put on their plate and I want to eat it! For your #1- When I had surgery I craved the chewing motion with my jaw, so I started a bad habit of eating ice; now - I miss getting to enjoy ice cream with my kids. I have to get a kids cup and eat half of it, or I will be sick. Cheers to everyone out there going through the surgery! Which I would have done it years earlier!

[@laviniatarver7139]

I’m a vsg patient I didn’t have any pain after surgery and I have been doing great every since. I had surgery October 13th 2021 and I have lost 106 lbs. Continue your journey be blessed

[@MrsMelissaM]

Congratulations Lavinia! What an awesome achievement! Bravo sweet girl! I'm curious where you're from approximately? My best friend growing up, her last name was Tarver! It's a unique name that you don't see that often.

[@laviniatarver7139]

@@MrsMelissaM I’m from Montgomery ala

[@MrsMelissaM]

@@laviniatarver7139 that's awesome! I think her dad's family were mostly from Louisiana. And we grew up here in Utah

[@valerief1231]

Melissa!!! You really gave me some things to think about, and some things to share. Let me just say, this was my first introduction to your channel, and I already subscribed. There are lots of channels discussing bariatric surgery post op, but I haven’t had anyone address the post op pain the way you did. I knew I would be sore, my surgery will be a revision, I stupidly fell for the marketing of the LapBand 12 years ago, when I had been newly diagnosed with T2 diabetes. I was self pay, used care credit, had my initial evaluation for the band, and then 5 days later went thru the surgery, utilizing True Results. I actually thought they were doing me a favor. I had no idea. I was sent home with a paperback book written by the DR. That pioneered this surgery, and it was the best disguised sales manual I’ve ever read lol. I never learned about *head hunger* or that my new party trick would be vomiting on command. Annnnyway. I digress. Let me say that when you mentioned Fibromyalgia I almost cried. I developed this condition after the implantation of my Band. It was gradual, but now I cannot work like I’ve done since I was a kid. I love to work, I love to care for others. But I cannot accept a job and then not know when I’m going to have an intense flare. The daily body aches and fatigue are one thing, but when I’m writhing in pain, that is so intense that my teeth itch, how can I be an asset to my employer, or even myself? I hadn’t thought about the soreness I will feel FROM walking to dissipate the gas they will be using to expand my abdomen. Fortunately my surgery isn’t until 9/21/21 so I can start walking some each day to get my tolerance level up, as I’ve been in a bad flare for about 2 months. So thank you for including this fact in your video. Another thing I’d like to share is the stigma of getting bariatric surgery. You are 100% spot on. Even now, I had to really coach my husband on what he can, and cannot share with his family. I have ALWAYS been the fat girl in the room when we spend time with his family. Mom is a size 00, eldest sister is a solid size 6 and the other sister is just a regular 0. Even at my smallest, which was when he and I started dating 11 years ago, I was still a 10. I felt great about myself even when surrounded by the most judgmental people I’ve ever known. Don’t get me wrong, they’re really good at be phony, but the thing is, I hear how the speak about other people in general, so I’m confident in how they speak about me. I’ve never been able to get a relationship going with them or the other people in his family that my husband is very close to, and I’m certain I know why, it’s not that I care what other people think, but I know what I’m dealing with. But then there is a swing in the other direction, and it’s from the people that are LARGER then you. There is this “ownership” that they believe they have over the bariatric surgery genre. You probably think I’m crazy, but here it is, I wasn’t morbidly obese when I decided on the LapBand. I had an A1c of 13 and I was terrified of developing blindness, loosing limbs or digits, or developing heart disease, or kidney disease. Like the fear mongering we are experiencing now with the current health pandemic, my endocrinologist really let me have it. I was a massage therapist at the time, had always worked on my feet, and had always worked 10-12 hour days, did my own everything it takes to be a mom and run a house etc. so when I heard the LapBand was a CURE for diabetes, I jumped in with both feet. Even now you can search here on YT cure for diabetes, and the LapBand will be in the top few videos. But here is what I learned. You give your body a wonderful reprieve from the negative effects that obesity takes on your body. And you might even be able to stop treatment for a long time. BUT you are basically in remission. Meanwhile, your pancreas is still sick. So be smart and check your blood glucose regularly. If it is consistently running in normal ranges, try to make it a once a week routine to check it. This way you can be the chief of your health and stay ahead of any issues. Personally I find it incredibly weird that doctors don’t check out glucose level every time we walk in an office. They check out BP, temperature, listen to our lungs, look in our ears, and inside our mouths, but diabetes is a silent destroyer that the medical profession makes billions of dollars a year on, so no one at the American Diabetes Association wants you to know you are on a bad path, until you’ve passed all the exits that would steer you off of it. A glucometer is less than $20 at Walmart, and it comes with strips. Every household in American should have one, and every person should check their blood sugar regularly. Even their children. Elevated blood sugar can also alert you to infections and often is a symptom when you are ill. One last quick thing I’d like to share is about hair loss. So after our surgery, even thou we are not on a ketogenic diet, our body will go into ketosis. I watched about KZbinr share how she prevented hair loss. 1) she started taking a hair nail and skin vitamin, before her surgery. 2nd, every morning she drank a small amount of orange juice to prevent her from going into ketosis. (I will come back and share a link to her channel, as I can’t remember the exact title) she is more than a year out and she only experienced a very small amount of hair loss along her front edges of her hair line. She still takes her vitamins to prevent hair loss, and the best part, is they are a liquid. Melissa did an amazing job on this list, and I’m so glad I found her channel, as I am a woman over 50 and I feel I can relate so much more to her experiences. *Edit* ok here is a link to the youtuber that prevented her hair loss, I’m not sure if this exact video addressed it, but I think it did. kzbin.info/www/bejne/mZTcoKmgdq-Aopo

[@MrsMelissaM]

Hi dear. Thank you for the link. I will check it out for sure. I'm in menopause now too so that doesn't help the hair situation. I have taken a hair supplement as far back as I can remember & it helps some but it's not a total help. And as far as the orange juice & ketosis, I have 3 Type 1 Diabetic children. So I kinda have a special understanding of all that too. Remember that for anyone except a Type 1 Diabetic, ketosis is a wonderful thing, it's when we burn the most fat. After surgery, you will lose weight rapidly & you don't want to disrupt that because, after all, that's why we go through it. Of course please do what you feel is right for you, but watching my body change so rapidly was worth the temporary hair loss. I'm so excited for you & the journey you're taking. And yes please take the extra walking steps now to build your muscles & body up. It really was one of the hardest things for me, as I was coming off of 6+ years of inactivity. Please let me know how things are going afterwards. And if you have any questions at all, I'm here anytime. You can also email me if you like. [e-mail] Warmest thought & prayers for a wonderful bright road ahead.

[@debbiewagenaar933]

I'm just starting my journey and I've done extensive medical research. Yours is the first "personal" journey I've looked at and your words calm my fears. My first consultation is in 3 weeks and I almost want to say I look forward to mourning the loss of my comfort blanket called food. Thank you for being brutally honest.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Congratulations on taking those first steps Debbie! You're gonna do great. And I promise, we worry much more than is necessary. Please let me know if I can help or answer any questions you may have.

[@bconsilio3764]

Debbie I wanted to say hi. Since I too am beginning this journey! I’d love to chat back and forth as supporters of each other if you are interested. (I don’t know how to contact people personally/privately so I don’t give everyone on YT my info. Do you?)

[@redjem3333]

I was sleeved May 3rd 22. I'm 53 and suffering from Fibromyalgia too. This has been challenging process for me. I appreciate your video.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Oh goodness! I hear you! I wish I'd been younger & just done it! But for me it was all worth it. I'm wishing you the very best on your journey my dear! You got this! 💪

[@teriehr8490]

Hey Melissa - your "neighbor" to the east here. I started Keto 2.5 months ago and I am experiencing your #1 "wish you had known" = missing my best friend, food. I'm really not deprived (except for sugar) and eat enough to make me full without the nausea that you experience, but your comment about about "as any addict would experience" really hit home! That IS what I am experiencing. Mourning yes, but anger mostly! I just want my little snacks, my little feel-goods through the day and I am incredibly ticked off I can't. So ticked off that when it comes time for dinner, I don't even wanna make what I can eat, cuz it isn't what I want! You helped me see that I am throwing a tantrum like a toddler! (although all in my mind, not outwardly for other people) My whole identity was around food, known for my creations and catering. I don't know what to do without that outlet and way of giving. I have to, like you said, find another coping mechanism or creative outlet. I will, however, decry this one thing forever, tho: Nobody calls and asks if you want to meet or go out or come over for "nutrition". Food has become fun AND social - actually NOT become....it's been that way for thousands of years; people gathering around the table for a feast or celebration or even after funerals! I'm 58 years old and I don't know how, nor do I want to, look at food as just nutrition. It takes all the fun out of ...well, LIFE! I am not giving up or giving in and hopefully the tantrum/anger will subside. Thank you for your honesty and putting it all out there.

[@teriehr8490]

Nope, you are not in Yakima anymore.

[@MrsMelissaM]

I agree with you 100% Teri. It's such a mind game for every part of our lives. Doesn't sound like a tantrum, sounds like you are just venting a bit and I totally understand that dear! Stay strong!

[@franceskennedy2938]

# 1 really resonated with me and I struggle with this terribly. It sounds crazy to mourn the loss of food but it's TRUE. The mind games are horrible. I lost a lot of weight but struggle with regain. I'm trying to get back on track! Thank you for this

[@leannsmith6516]

Frances Kennedy food is our first comfort mechanism as a newborn. We are fed immediately and that sticks with us for life. RNY made me stop overeating an it’s saved my life.

[@MrsMelissaM]

It is a true battle and I understand completely! I hope it helped a little. There are so many support groups on Facebook. That has been a great help for me. xo

[@carolohara7917]

I am having a gastric sleeve in the fairly near future. I have been watching lots of videos and reading lots of literature, but your video was the most helpful thing I have seen so far. It addressed issues I’m concerned with, the biggest being mourning the loss of my favorite foods. I have, on three separate occasions, lost a substantial amount of weight, but those foods were still out there waiting for me. Each weight loss was followed by gaining back all of the weight loss and more. Thank you so much for making this video. I gained a tremendous feeling of security from it.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Hi there Carol. Your comment meant so much to me & I thank you from the bottom of my heart! 🥰

[@kazagirl]

Out of all the videos I've watched on WLS, this has been the most impactful. I am heavily considering WLS in Mexico and was able to get a surgery date for a few months from now. It's easy to look at my number one goal/desire to lose weight but I haven't fully considered the potential downsides to surgery until now.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Even though there are the negatives, I'd do it again in a heartbeat

[@oceanview5545]

Look up surgery in Mexico so many horror stories save up and do it here or really think of not doing it period. Good Luck!!!

[@oceanview5545]

@@MrsMelissaM You are lucky you still have a heartbeat after surgery in Mexico.

[@MrsMelissaM]

@@oceanview5545 I had a friend & 14 of her extended family members have had it there. I did my research extensively.

[@oceanview5545]

@@MrsMelissaM IM glad you are ok but Mexico is below standards of licensing, Surgery, infection control, etc and the horror stories are real and Nothing is worth your life or a life full of severe medical problems. Simply not worth the gamble at any cost.

[@mzpinks97]

Oh god the nausea, i'm honestly happy to see my results. I had my surgery on April 11th, 3 months ago and i was 333 lbs, now i'm 277 and fit into a size 2, slowly starting to fit into a size 1 now and this decision was the best one i ever made. Hamburgers used to be my absolute favorite and now just the thought of one makes me want to puke. I do sometimes miss the portions but then i look into the mirror and see the change and i feel proud and can say i finally truly love myself 💚

[@MrsMelissaM]

Congratulations on your success thus far! That's awesome!

[@mzpinks97]

@@MrsMelissaM Awe thank you! This Journey has really been worth it and really improved my quality of life 😊

[@richieraya84]

I know you posted this two years ago but I’m having surgery tomorrow and I’ve been through a lot with doctors nurses everything classes but what I learn from you has prepared me a lot more for my journey I had the unfortunate timing of losing one of my best friends the day before my surgery and I’m trying to be as strong as I can but 🙏 thank you

[@af1710]

Any update how is the pain ?

[@asblea8887]

And I love the fact that this journey for me is not about vanity. I really need the help. I cannot do it alone. I do have God in my life, but I need to take these steps to make it happen and I’ve tried so many alternatives glutes, tricep, Otedis, Phetamine and they all make me sick and after menopause and some depression I just cannot get rid of this weight. And I’m sure I will make a few people jealous. Lol but I just want to be healthy for my 26-year-old son. I want to see him get married and I want to see grandchildren before I pass. I am 64 years old I have a lot of life in me, I’m young at heart, I still get around pretty darn good as far as my physical health goes but I’m heading into diabetes high blood pressure sleep and I have sleep apnea because I’m so heavy that my throat gets blocked. So thanks again. I’ll be in touch!❤😂😊

[@MrsMelissaM]

It cured my sleep apnea & high blood pressure completely!

[@erlenewatts2759]

Congratulations on your weight loss this far, you are a beautiful and inspiring lady. Stay strong and remember, you are worth the battle.

[@MrsMelissaM]

thank you so much Erlene! xoxo

[@patriciawhite2556]

Thank you for talking abaut the side effects after the surgery that the doctors never say to their patients not even abaut the ulcers they can develop after they do the procedure surgery

[@MrsMelissaM]

The surgery has come such a long way, but they're still messing with the pipes! Lol It is quite common.

[@matialcaraz8507]

Thank you so much for the info! I'm on liquid diet now and it's going ok. I just get a little lightheaded sometimes! I'm having my surgery next week July 11, 22. I was expecting some of the thing's you mentioned. But this info really help's to know!! Best wishes to you on ur continuous journey!

[@MrsMelissaM]

You're gonna do great Mati. I was so nervous I made it into much more than it was.

[@aubri2180]

Hey how did your surgery go? Mines is July 25th

[@MatrixArmyOfficial]

@@aubri2180 Hey, i can tell you about mine if you like. I had a gastric bypass on 27th June. I didn't had any complications so i left the hospital pretty quick, i ate about 12 days of liquid foods and now am eating the normal food my mother is cooking for me and my family, she changed the way of cooking ofc... no more butter and as much as possible fat/suger free food so i don't experience dumpings. I can eat a pretty good amount to be honest, more then i expected. I also went from 123kg before surgery to 110kg today. But since a couple of days i feel very bad after eating and i feel dizzy by standing up even when i didn't ate also i feel tired throughout the entire day, i will go to the docter soon to have a post op check up and i will talk about it. I want you to know that the beginning is painfull but know after 2-3 days you will feel SOO much better and much more painless! Excuse me if i made some english mistakes, i speak Dutch. I wish you the best for the surgery! Let me know how it went if you remember 😉

[@jbutta6702]

How did it go? I just got approved and waiting for scheduling.

[@LillyAnneEspinosa]

@@MrsMelissaM I'll be scheduled soon, How did it go?

[@metrini]

#1 was the main reason I didnt want surgery! I knew I have the control and would conquer this weight loss by getting my mind in the right space and the body followed. Ive created a very healthy relationship with food

[@MrsMelissaM]

I'm so happy for you Metrini. You've done wonderful! xoxo

[@aprilholland5430]

Thanks for sharing your experience. I'll be having gastric sleeve surgery in 48 hours and this has been most helpful in calming my nerves. Bless you 🤗

[@mofreeman223]

How are you doing after surgery April?

[@BLACKGIRLBROKEN]

How are u after surgery

[@denisehamernik806]

I’m soooo glad I came across your video! I have a friend who had bypass surgery about 5 months ago and is experiencing the hair loss. She had beautiful thick blonde hair and now it is so thin she usually wears a wide material headband and has her hair gently pulled back so as not to be so noticeable. She’s taking the Biotin and doing everything she’s supposed to do and doesn’t understand why it keeps coming out. All of the things you have spoken about have her in such a depressive way. She continues to work a stressful job, because like everyone else, you can barely survive on a single paycheck anymore and that of course adds to her mindset. I’m going to tell her about your video, how and why it came about and let her know that it’s a positive message if she would like to see it. I’m researching now some recipes that I may make or create that is acceptable and appropriate for people who have had the surgery. Some kind of treat that makes them feel like they are cheating but that’s enjoyable and actually is helping to keep them on track. Thank you for your consideration and help with the valuable information. 🙏❣️

[@PurpleRainXLI]

No negativity from me, that is a big decision you had to make for yourself! You will be so much healthier & be able to move so much better! You are beautiful & a very strong woman for making that decision. It is really a change! Love your channel! Hang in there, sweetie! 💜💕💜 WOW!!! That weight loss is fantastic, good for you girl!!😘 I have chosen the Keto journey for my weight loss. It hasn’t been easy but I have lost 70 lbs with about 30 more to go! You are right, I know I can go back, but why, I miss the food I use to eat but it was so bad for me, the sugar & carbs! Thanks for your inspiration!

[@MrsMelissaM]

Thank you so much for being so supportive! Congrats to you on your weight loss with Keto! That's fantastic! Keep up the good work! Luv you much! xoxo

[@whereisyourfaith1454]

Thanks for your video. I'm a new sub. While I've not had the surgery, I know about the emotional aspect. I cried for 6 mos when I quit smoking, and notice the tears come when I eliminate my other best friends, sugar, pasta, and breads, etc. It's a huge part of giving something up for the long haul. But as they say, 1 is too many and 1,000 is never enough. Good for you in what you're doing. I appreciate the encouragement, esp'ly on tip #1! God bless you in your journey.

[@randig7503]

Melissa you’re looking fabulous, stay strong 💪 don’t let negative people bring you down 🌻💋

[@MrsMelissaM]

Thank you so much Lisa, it is really hard. Even after what I said in this video, there are so many negative comments. It's hard to read them, but it's my friends like you that help me keep going. You're so sweet! xoxo

[@shelleymalone4427]

No negativity here. You know yourself. I admire your steadfast determination and strength. It is clear that your journey has not been easy, but you persisted. Thank you for the detailed information. Bravo. 👏👏👏👏👏👏💕💕

[@lynncapps6155]

I cannot thank you enough for this informative, wise, and SO very helpful video. I appreciate your candor and your courage. Thank you for wanting to help others. I am a firm believer that sometimes one reason we go through things is so that we can come alongside and help others who go through the same thing. Thank you again from the bottom of my heart.

[@MrsMelissaM]

I'm so glad that it was a helpful video Lynn, thank you so much for being here with me! xoxo

[@jgiza8888]

Excellent video on what to expect after the surgery. I am on a weight loss journey through eating whole foods, no processed foods and no sugar. My goal is to drop 50 pounds and thus far lost 30. Only 20 more to go. I believe everyone must take the method that is best suited for themselves and there is no one size fits all so to speak.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Congratulations! That's wonderful!

[@annieoscar]

Melissa, I just admire you so much. I love not only that you just hold your head up and do what's right for you, but also the tremendous service you are doing by sharing so much important information. You're a hero!👏

[@gallagherchick]

Your #1 is the thing that trips me out the most about getting bariatric surgery, besides it being a permanent, irreversible anatomical change. Mourning all the things I won’t be able to eat. Protein and water, protein and water. That’s it

[@MrsMelissaM]

I eat a really good variety of foods. I'm not a huge protein lover, so I eat small amounts of different things.

[@theshetlandfairy]

Oh the struggle is real! Thank you for sharing. The mental part is a daily battle for me so thanks for sharing that as your number one. It's sooo tough! Keep being amazing! Stacey xXx

[@pamherald9597]

I said it before and I will say it again, you look awesome!! I kind of wonder if the negative people aren’t a little jealous of you. It’s your life and to see you so happy living it, who cares what others think?? ❤️

[@MrsMelissaM]

You're so sweet Pam, thank you my friend! xo

[@joanna45419]

Omg. You are so wonderful. So brave. So articulate. Sharing your experience and your analysis of the obstacles you face is so giving of you.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Thank you Joanne, for being so supportive. xoxo

[@pattithomas4537]

You're looking AMAZING!! That cute little dimple on your cheek is getting cuter by the day. I'm feelin your pain when you talk about mourning the loss of food and it does get easier especially when you knock out carbs ie flour starch etc, the kind that turn into sugar. As well as sugar of course. I had to give it all up too about 7 months ago due to glutin and many other food sensitivities. I'd become a sugar addict and couldn't stop. It was all making me very sick, with a lot of pain, bloating etc. Anyway 7 months later and repeating the serenity prayer over and over I would say my cravings are almost all gone, but I feel like a human being again, no more pain or bloating, I've lost weight etc. You've got this Melissa, in a few more months it'll all be behind you. You're doing such an amazing job and getting to reap the benefits. Keep it up gurl, lots of people like me are behind you, supporting you to the end of this journey.......

[@MrsMelissaM]

Oh Patti, I just love your comment here! thank you so so much! Sending you big hugs lady! xo

[@starholistic]

Thank you for sharing your story I just recently found you so I didn't know about the weight loss surgery. I think that you've been very brave and kind to share some of the experiences before and after. Just keep being the light that you are some of us really need to shine bright like you!!🥰

[@MrsMelissaM]

Thank you so much for your kind words Maureen, xoxo

[@alexandraadams2070]

I've been obese pretty much my entire adult life and I'm 67 now and still battling. I just can't do any of the surgeries though...they scare the hell out of me, lol!! My highest weight was 311 and I've managed to lose a little over 100 lbs with the intermittent fasting but I still have about 70 lbs to go and I'm struggling but determined to do it without surgery and I believe I can. My hat is off to those who have done it. I hope you continue to have success and are able to keep the weight off. I'm doing good and have changed a lot of how I look at and feel about food. I don't know why I am struggling now, to be honest, but I will not give up. I'm worth this victory.

[@MrsMelissaM]

You sound like you have a wonderful attitude Alexandra! That's awesome!

[@punkyt0ast3r]

My surgery is in less than 6 hours. I decided to do some final research and I'm glad I did. Thank you for posting this!

[@MrsMelissaM]

You're gonna do great! The surgery is nothing near like how scary we build it in our mind. Congratulations on starting your journey. Be patient with yourself. Everything that happens from her on is a learning curve! Praying for you sweetie!

[@punkyt0ast3r]

@@MrsMelissaM thank you!!! 😊

[@TheDutchDutchess373]

Hi Punky. How you feeling now?

[@punkyt0ast3r]

@@TheDutchDutchess373 Heya! I'm doing great. Down about 100 +lbs :) the first two weeks after surgery were very painful. Some days I have regrets but ultimately, I'd do it again

[@MimiChild-o2c]

One of my fam asked me how much fat was sucked out after losing close to 100 pounds. Imagine that right? That was 12 years ago. It takes work to keep the weight off. Gained 30 pounds and working feverishly to lose that and more.

[@SRAshley100]

Very interesting hearing your journey. I know you are a very strong woman and oh so strong for doing it publicly. Being on keto I definitely resinated with mourning the loss of comfort food. On my journey I have learned how bad the sugars and carbs are for us. My new go to “candy” is frozen blueberries, blackberries with a little stevia sprinkled on them. When I have tried to cheat it makes me ill. The good thing is the longer I go on this way of living the less I crave the sweet. I am so proud of you Melissa! You were beautiful with the weight, but even more beautiful with the weight loss, and pain diminishing. I can look at your older videos and see the pain. Many blessings and well wishes as you continue your journey and new way of living! ❤️

[@tomjones2157]

Yes I'm on Keto and I mourned the loss of comfort food.

[@MrsMelissaM]

Thank you so much for sharing your little dessert trick Sheila, I'm going to try that. And thank you for being so sweet in your comment and respectful too! Even after I said that about negative feedback there has been quite a bit here in the comments. but it's sweet friends like you that help me keep my chin up and keep going. Lots of luv and hugs to you and wishing you much continued success on your Keto journey1 xo

[@denisedowsing5254]

If a 'friend' is not supportive of your decision, I would be questioning if their friendship is genuine. I'm so happy for you xx

[@MrsMelissaM]

Thanks so much Denise!

[@Catherineann413]

Very happy for you, I’m glad you’re feeling better. You look beautiful and I know it didn’t come easy. God bless for continued good health 🙏🏻❤️

[@MrsMelissaM]

Thank you Karen, I hope you have a wonderful rest of your weekend! hugs & luvs xoxo

[@diannebrunet5428]

The only thing I didn’t know about my gastric bypass is the amount of hair I lost during my weight loss journey and the change in your facial appearance. I find that everyone that had weight loss surgery changes how your face looks once you’ve achieved your weight loss goal. I find people age, the facial skin gets looser and your face kinda wrinkles up when you wink or make big facial expressions. I personally noticed that I now have what they call “Crow’s Feet “ , it’s where you notice wrinkles around your eyes

[@juneharrop6245]

This is such a great, informative video Melissa and I think will be so helpful for people who are considering having the surgery ❤️ xx

[@angeliquelakersangeljackso8045]

I had my surgery November 14th of last year it was hard at first because I wasn't used to not being able to drink water like I wanted to I went through a lot of mental for about 2 weeks and now I'm one hundred percent better I've never been so proud of myself and just these few months I've lost 80 lb my doctor said in October she can put in for the plastic surgeon to have skin removal they are very shocked that I lost so much weight yes I do walk a lot yes I do go to the gym I won't say this is an easy thing to do because it's not your mind have to be really focused on your weight loss and you really really have to want this in order to make it work I am so proud of myself and feels good to shop in a size large and not a 3X or 4X I feel so good good luck to everyone on their journey and thank you for these videos

[@stephaniebraddy7100]

Thank you for this video! I am starting my journey this month for the gastric sleeve and I’m trying to learn all I can in the months leading up to surgery. This is a huge help and I’m sure I’ll watch it several more times before surgery day!

[@992turbos8]

First and foremost I wish you the best , I’m about the same as you , your message is a month old and I started the last week of April , the dietitian had me stop so many things I liked to eat and drink ( soda ) after 30 day I lost 23 lbs it’s so difficult , I’m sure your in the same boat . Like you I watching and learning With a lot appreciation for these videos . Good luck and I’m right there with you .

[@crazyplantlady2403]

I know somebody having the surgery in 3 weeks, I'm watching videos so I will know how to support her. I can't even imagine how messed up a person would have to be to give negative comments. I know what struggle it was just to make the decision. All my friends say good for her. I'm glad I have those type of friends.

[@Jessica-tz5cl]

You're a great friend❤

[@patkern185]

Melissa, I admire how you're dealing with your situation. I wasn't aware of all the hurdles you had to overcome. I'm sure the information and insight you shared will help someone go through weight loss surgery armed with tools to handle it. I'm so impressed by your strength. xxoo❤

[@MrsMelissaM]

Thank you so much for those kind words Pat. Lots of hugs dear

[@GYH.2023]

Thank you a million time for nearly every word The most important thing to me is how to support my youngest sister who just came out of the operation three hours ago

[@MrsMelissaM]

I'm so happy it was helpful. And cheers to you sis for being so supportive! BRAVO!

[@MariaPaulo369]

Thank you! I’ll be doing it soon and you are helping me a lot to get mentally ready for it 🥰

[@TVDNour]

I’m so happy i found you!! I’m 8 months post op and lost about 80 pounds (still have more to go) but it has been quite the journey! I did it when i was 22 and the journey was very isolating at first, especially the point you brought up about the circle around you and people giving their opinions and calling it “the easy way out” when it has been nothing but easy😅 and i’ve found out the things you talked about slowly by myself and then thru therapy because i didn’t have much of a support system other than my best friend who understood what i was going through and god was it hard, so i wish i found you before but its ok I’m now slowly becoming happier with my new lifestyle. The mourning food part is the hardest and im so glad you brought that up, it truly felt like grief and is probably the hardest part when it comes to this journey which is why im happy you mentioned that its not only a physical aspect to this surgery but an emotional one too. I’m slowly now working on some body dysmorphia that happened to me recently when looking in the mirror and sometimes not recognizing myself because of how different i look, but it’s ok it’s a slow progress and I’ll be ok! i went thru your other videos and your progress is amazing and so inspiring and just kudus to you for being so brave and amazing on partaking this lifestyle journey and i wish you all the best!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@MrsMelissaM]

I just found this comment & I apologize for taking so long to respond. Congratulations on your journey! I bet you're even feeling better & better each day.

[@dsmith6601]

Fascinating and informative! Thank you!

[@chelleec23]

I am currently considering the surgery, so it is very helpful to hear from someone who has had it. I appreciate you sharing your experience.

[@82electra]

I think you look beautiful Melissa. Congratulations on making the choices You desire. I love your channel and adore you🤗

[@MrsMelissaM]

You're such a sweetheart! Thank you so much! xoxo