12-Year-Old’s Plea To Dr. Phil: ‘I Am Asking You, Begging You, Please Help Make My Childhood A Li…

Hear the heart-wrenching letter a 12-year-old caught in the middle her parents’ custody battle wrote to Dr. Phil begging for help for her chaotic family.
Dr. Phil tells compelling stories about real people. The Dr. Phil Show is an American daytime talk show and TV series with host and personality Dr. Phil McGraw, who offers advice from his experience as a psychologist. The show provides the most comprehensive forum on mental health issues in the history of television. For over a decade, Dr. McGraw has used the show's platform to make psychology accessible to the general public by addressing important personal and social issues. Here on the Dr. Phil KZbin channel, you will find the best moments, highlights, and segments from the TV show. We upload new videos every day, so make sure you subscribe and ring the bell for all notifications, so you don't miss a single one.
Full episodes of the Dr. Phil Show premiere every weekday on CBS, with a new season premiering every fall in 2020, 2021, 2022, and 2023. Each full episode contains an interview or multiple interviews with doctors, teens, families, parents, kids, and more. The executive producers are Phil McGraw and showrunner Oprah Winfrey of OWN. Dr. Phil is the top-rated daytime talk show attracting millions of viewers every day alongside other talk shows, including The Ellen Show with Ellen DeGeneres, The Dr. Oz Show, The Kelly Clarkson Show, and The Steve Wilkos Show. Dr. Phil makes regular appearances on The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon, Jimmy Kimmel Live, and The Late Late Show with James Corden. Dr. Phil has also done crossovers with 90 Day Fiancé and Inside Edition.
Do you want to be on the show? bit.ly/BeOnDrPhilShow
www.drphil.com
Facebook: / drphilshow
Twitter: / drphil
Instagram: / drphil
TikTok: / drphil
#DrPhil #PhilMcGraw #DrPhilShow

[@drphil]

Subscribe and ring the bell for notifications 🔔

[@hghghghghghg1491]

Done

[@pleaseenternamerequiredfie3475]

I Love you phill!!!!!!!!!

[@juliagejza8456]

@@pleaseenternamerequiredfie3475 your name is probably the best that I saw in a long time

[@ktiauwu9273]

Hi

[@rachaelcunningham5660]

No thanks

[@k.m512]

Dad's definitely HIIIIGH

[@kenzirobinson2753]

he’s on somethin that’s for sure

[@susandavey2361]

High as a kite

[@rachaelcunningham5660]

Yep

[@MrHaileycrisscross]

He's hearing the noise fer sure. To confirm, bring out a bag of doritos to pass. See where they stop and disappear. Document results.

[@killedbyshrek5109]

@@MrHaileycrisscross even sober I'd probably take at least 5 Doritos

[@admiraljamster]

How is the 12-year old magically the most mature individual in this situation (excluding my man Dr Phil of course). It boggles my mind.

[@juliagejza8456]

Because they actually tell the truth and if they're the oldest, then they feel responsibility very quickly

[@charlesbomerschein9707]

Also, everyone craves for the 15 seconds of fame. If they are on TV then the drama will undoubtedly be played up either by the show OR most likely by the "guests"

[@etgha]

*including

[@christinag.7801]

It happens wayyyyy more often than you think.

[@thatveganchef112]

@Ethan Booker No excluding

[@beaner8409]

The damn step mom looks like she cares more for the daughter than the biological father

[@jg2975]

The stepmother uses kids to hurt their mother. She interrogates them. She is abusive.

[@natashajagadhish1887]

@@jg2975 , when was that said

[@cathyaustin3219]

She s beyond whacked out. It's not caring for the kids but herself

[@uhhggg9335]

@@natashajagadhish1887 you’ll have to find the clip but Dr. Phil calls her out on it he actually kind of it loses his cool and yells for a moment it’s that bad

[@tiffymarieseestheteamarie4454]

The blonde mom crying is the real mom....the brown haired one is stepmom

[@mikescott5036]

The writing of that child is something else. Hits deep man

[@deckardcain6375]

Not really man

[@pjstayloyall_]

@@deckardcain6375 wym

[@dustinsanchezmusic5851]

Very smart little girl

[@Shuggabby75]

My son was advanced at 12, however this sounds coached

[@periechontology]

I think she had help writing this

[@prettydollvivvy]

how is the “father” not in jail?

[@rachaelcunningham5660]

Idk

[@goat0472]

Both should be lmao

[@goat0472]

@@479Derick lol classic. Plenty of abusive black or brown parents out there that haven't been arrested.

[@i12r39]

@@goat0472 what?

[@goat0472]

@@i12r39 I dont remember what they said, something about them being white

[@hollytyler2111]

Oh my god I'm crying this twelve year old is so mature and strong and brave and loving and adult enough to know about this

[@wellmindyourbusiness4409]

Boy if they went to court ...... all the kids would be taken away because their immature and addicts

[@jasonborda4145]

Living in foster care isn’t much better.

[@santricemcpherson7809]

Poor baby.... hopefully she is doing better

[@crystalrosette5522]

i hate it when guests on the dr phil show have the same first name as me... i feel personally attacked

[@Juliana-se7fi]

LMAO

[@katherines6322]

Dear Crystal: Just like crystals and gems that we find in the earth, you are a perfectly imperfect unrepeatable miracle of the universe. ❤️🙏

[@rubie1572]

I’m sorry Crystal 😭

[@mochs62512]

Lol!

[@hollytyler2111]

This child being writing that letter she loves her brother she has gone through so much and I swear to you I pray to you you precious strong girl

[@rosenbaum75]

Damn, a 12 yeah old wrote that? What a mature and insightful and articulate young lady. She's has more sense than her parents.

[@alexishendrix3364]

This baby girl is SO intelligent & has the sweetest soul...my heart breaks for her

[@mikivanduyn9630]

People on methadone dont slurr there words like this father...

[@qmeister7632]

Crazy that's a 12 year old that wrote that... while he was reading the letter I honestly got sad that she had to grow up so quickly to deal with all this. She will never get that childhood back, the father ruined any chance of that for her.

[@abbeyd991]

That 12 year old is more eloquent and mature than anyone else involved, that’s sad.

[@oraclelight5443]

What a thoughtful 12-year-old. She wrote that letter well.

[@hghghghghghg1491]

How does this only have 2 comments it’s a great video and super emotional that helps get the message out

[@hghghghghghg1491]

@Vanessa Monika thx I did not know

[@areena9702]

“YeAh CrYsTaL”

[@Micah10RKO]

Lol.

[@Neoariamis]

When Dr Phil mentions that the poor girl is cutting all the father and step-mom do is try and rub the moms face into it like "HA! She told US first! You lose!!" its so unbelievably immature

[@jeremiahdemott7783]

This guy seems high at the show

[@hollytyler2111]

She's crying out for help she knows what's going on she wants it to change

[@adorkable_clown7676]

They sound high-

[@shruti8271]

the 12 y/o is too mature for her age. The trauma she must hv endured is too sad to see. Poor girl!!!

[@mjcamck]

GOD BLESS that 12 year old girl having to pay the price for the sins of her parent(s). Let's hope, when she becomes an adult, she's able to shake off the baggage & create her own loving, well-functioning family. I did and she can too. Best Wishes to those children.

[@ringaleavo]

This is one very mature 12 year old. Even if she had help composing these letters I still applaud her!

[@user-jd7di1do4t]

Get your death note guys💀

[@lilpissboy6665]

Alr on it

[@deckardcain6375]

Yeah man I tell ya. When I find out the daughters name shes finished

[@raymondperales6612]

If this child wrote this letter she’s beyond way beyond her years.

[@arianeponicelli9115]

as heartbreaking as this is i don't believe that little girl wrote that letter completely on her own

[@lovefromwonderland]

their child just admitted that she self-harms and they’re more concerned with fighting with each other 😕

[@regularity5986]

This is really sad qwq

[@hghghghghghg1491]

True

[@christinagonz7555]

.

[@jkim6871]

LOL, the father thinks that the letter to the judge somehow cancels his daughter's pleas for help.

[@kitterglitter7777]

Sounds to me the 12 year old is the most adult one In this family

[@locapretzel12xxoxoox2]

E

[@FortheluvofGod]

Damn that 12yr old child is smart AF! So well spoken.

[@bchakrabarty8803]

THE 12 YEAR OLD IS MORE MATURE THAN THE THREE ADULTS HERE COMBINED!

[@lisaallen918]

He is high and drunk.

[@jacindal7539]

that 12 child was so mature and loving. Breaks my heart to see her go through this.

[@Ezzy_KB]

When a 12 year old wants to bring healing to a family

[@neroflower6716]

Maturity of a 12 yr old girl😢.... That "father' isn't a father! He should have gone to jail and remained single!!

[@mackinzielizabeth872]

that girl needs to get out of there and go into a better home

[@loveislove-le5nj]

That little girl has more maturity and common sense then the parents on stage put together.

[@TastemyAtrocity]

TastemyAtrocity I really am an avid and longtime viewer of the Dr. Phil show. I’ve struggled/cringed in the past to reconcile that with the negative media reports such as ranch allegations, Shelly Duvall exploitation, etc. HOWEVER, no one ever seems to leave his show without help of some sort. Dr. Phil may not have been able to cure this mother’s coldness or problems but in 60 minutes, he did prevent a child from hating herself, harming herself, and becoming another perpetrator in the cycle of abuse. I hope the Dr. Phil show can evolve over time to not invite such awful allocations. Honestly, I’ve read 2 of his books and have watched the show for years and while I don’t always agree with it, he has changed many lives for the better

[@jessicadeshpande7988]

My heart went out for this kid.. Have been in her shoes

[@qtbubblez5803]

poor young child.

[@Maceman486]

Child: "I'm cutting myself, please help me and my family." Healthy parents: "Oh my god, how do we help our daughter?" These parents: "It's all your fault!"

[@mchoffner8497]

When a young child is more grown up than her parents

[@jazminkovacs4544]

0:30 that "yeah Cristal" is like a 3 year old arguing

[@kimmichaud4064]

Wow I have a 12 year old who could never write a letter like this , this girl grew up fast like I did , this is why I baby my daughter

[@stevendempsey3179]

A 12 year old with more intelligence and empathy and love of her siblings than all the adults who are supposed to be protecting her on that stage, they are a disgrace to parenthood.

[@sharonduval3959]

That child seems more grown that the adults. So sad poor child.

[@marsp5636]

Awe the girl reminds me of myself

[@toricorene1919]

This is just awful I can't it just makes me sick 😷

[@juliecolores7955]

Ther still fighting and not even noticing. The daughters heart broken ..your children COME FIRST ! prd..

[@susandavey2361]

Why are these kids not in a Foster home? Before they are any more damaged, parents still on drugs by the look of it because they can't excerpt blame and seem to be saying their daughter is a lier 😕and that smug look on her dads face 😡

[@NoName-li9rx]

That man and the stepmom are so high. Wow. Hope they watched this BS and saw for themselves. Embarrassing.

[@zacharybrown2781]

Are we sure that this 12 year old has actually wrote this letter... I'm shocked that she would even be able to write like this.

[@wendyhardin5259]

All three of my daughters had a an extensive vocabulary at twelve. They were readers with high school reading levels.

[@yotokil2914]

i could see myself being able to write this, actually 12 writing this right now. i promise ya', there are quite a few of us young adults out there. i haven't got as much trouble as this girl in the show, or i guess i haven't been traumatized and forced to mature and even then my "mature" writing has fooled many people into thinking i'm an older teenager or even an actual adult. it sucks having practically no childhood as-is for me, and this girl has it even worse. i truly pray for this girl, she needs all the support she can get from anyone out there

[@priscillarobertson6574]

Intelligent 12 year old! I feel sorry for her. She is in the middle of the bad choices the adults in her life are making. Shame on you all! I hope she could get the help she was begging for... and that she deserves....

[@onionbubs386]

This poor little girl is just asking for a sober father to raise her and he's more concerned about being right. It hurts to watch.

[@lisamalcolm6916]

The father had zero emotion when the letter from they’re 12 year old was read….. the mom was crying the audience was crying . I’m a mom and that made me cry….this father just does not get it . He has lost his way. You take your child with you to buy drugs !!!

[@yotokil2914]

i've been sifting through a bit of the comments in this video, and all i can say for everyone who can't believe that a 12 year old wrote this is: the internet age causes kids to grow up fast enough as-is. for this girl, not only did she get hamfucked by the 'net and all the content on it most likely, but she has been dealt an even worse starting point in life with her family. as someone in a THANKFULLY toned-down version of this scenario right now at 12, it's believable that this is unedited. maybe it's dramatized, but it really is plausible that this is unedited, which chips away at my soul. i truly pray and support this girl, she deserves all the help she can get.

[@scrimshaw5647]

Live for others, you will always have peace

[@itsmeh9498]

Poor girl, this girl is 12 this girl should not be begging dr phil for help

[@moonshadowessentialssoapsn5287]

WOW!!! No children should be in any of there care! That kind is begging for help and they would rather fight then listen to there daughter who by the way is the most mature out of all of them!

[@crash6581]

So "Amy" says they were both in treatment because they were addicts "in the past". If you WERE an addict but no longer are on drugs, you don't need Methadone and/or treatment. You only need them when you are trying to kick the habit. By the fathers antics just in this tiny clip, you can tell he is on something.

[@Tallblondesmile]

That father should be arrested and throw away the key

[@cricketmachinebusiness3976]

I'm on methadone but that's only for a different reason I'm on it for my arthritis it helps with pain

[@yannhoog9753]

I couldn’t even right when I was 12

[@yannhoog9753]

Still can’t today

[@LimeLoaf]

Lol

[@itz.sefa_1296]

as a 13 year old, this hits deep

[@noemiarmas5773]

True Dearly Dreams Come True Natalie true hero her story life Hug she was loyal brave and true like Mulan

[@rebekahmcc23]

That poor girl

[@mikearvidson5584]

the 12 year old didn’t write that

[@lackerbitandersson6241]

Heartbreaking

[@dominewimbury2039]

Poor girl

[@rodney5360]

Wise you lady, this young lady is smarter than her bio. mother!

[@rabbitholegirl1]

The fact that a 12y old wrote that..

[@nevaeh9086]

wth this kids hurting i feel it🥺

[@marvinthemaniac7698]

He shouldn't be allowed in his daughter's life if he's an addict.

[@setpunks13]

Dad's on something. Sad

[@bostontowny4life744]

Since when do 12 year olds write like that?

[@yotokil2914]

since the internet age :/ - i don't think many people realize how fast you can grow up and be a mental adult. i guess it makes sense, there's very few places i can let down my guard as some mental adult in a 12 year old's body. i dunno why i even trust these comments, i suppose y'all just seem...supportive somehow? i have it better than this girl - at least my mom is OK - and i still have been forced to let go of my childhood a bit too fast for many people's tastes. it's... interesting seeing people consider a child an older teenager or even an adult. so yeah, i would say that this girl has a very real chance of actually having written this letter. perhaps it was dramatized a bit, but i would believe dr. phil's word if he said that this was completely unedited. this was written in 2016, it is definitely plausible to me being in a toned-down version of this situation -right now-.

[@hollytyler2111]

She shouldn't have to put up with this mess it's not her place to fix her parents problems it's just not oh my god just leave it alone

[@briannahacsunda4970]

poor girl

[@acetone.consumer]

man. i really wish i could get help from dr.phil or really just anyone who has a neutral view of the situation. my childhood was taken away at the age of 10, i had to start cooking and cleaning for my little brother and myself, it got better when i was 11, but as soon as i turned 12 it was the worst at rhat point, im now 14 and it has gotten increasingly worst. I have been pressured into several illegal things and i now have a total of three full blown addictions. I really need to escape. They started treating my brother like royalty, they would actually have me specifically cook for him. He has so many expansive things, and none of them are a necessary. All while i sit over in the corner with every election i own i have paid for with my own money. I had to buy myself a laptop for school, i was saving up to get out of this home asap, but all of that savings is now gone, and because of covid i lost my job. im in a tricky situation and im at the point where i feel like a sack of useless flesh

[@pluv778]

man is high as a kit

[@lisaallen918]

He is smiling .no remorse

[@chrisv.4071]

His eyes tell you alot

[@dianacalzadias1064]

He's high! No parents to help them grow up!

[@kittybennett9004]

A 12 year old little girl should be playing with makeup at sleepovers with friends, not being the parent to her siblings because the actual ‘parents’ are too busy being selfish and immature to do it themselves.

[@perceblue3976]

Estranged couples should learn to love their children, more than they hate each other.

[@tiffymarieseestheteamarie4454]

The daughter is very mature

[@katiekat8329]

Methadone is a drug and if you don’t ween off of it so you don’t need to take it anymore then you are still addicted.

[@jenniferbrownlee9547]

It's very 😥

[@maansiloves]

so there is only one mature individual 12 years old🤔

[@rhiannonbedford4039]

Why is dr phil letting her say that methadone is be on "drugs" methadone is a treatment program smh

[@dustinsanchezmusic5851]

How about they all quit arguing about who’s done what and step up and be parents....

[@donn372]

Horrible parents

[@kendrajasonstandederrick7738]

3;12,you showed no pics of inside of the house even bough u made it a point to stress you had pics

[@paigekeenor13]

aw omgg

[@DetroitFettyghost]

I hope you people on here know that methadone is LEGAL and it's not JUST FOR DRUG ADDICTS so this show is allowed wrong information to go uncorrected.

[@DylanGodor]

That part pissed me off haha. It's a good thing to be on that instead of using.

[@user-od1hu1bk4w]

this lowkey describes me

[@cutiepiev2137]

Here’s a tip in life Don’t have relationships with someone named crystal