13 realistic habits that changed my life (productivity, anxiety & sustainability)

[@alexisscholtes1206]

As an AuDHDer I love routines and cannot keep them to save my life. I LOVE the idea of the menu and am actually going to do this right now.

[@camiscreatures]

Hayley Honeyman’s channel has a video talking about having an Ideal Routine, Most-Likely Routine, and Minimum Routine. I can’t remember the exact title for the video because she has several good ones on the topic of routines. I’m an ADHDer waiting for more testing, and her videos have been so helpful in getting my routines together for my own style of functioning😄 Edit: Here is the title of the main video. “Routines for ADHD that ACTUALLY WORK!🌛☀️(Morning/Night routines)” There are several videos since that video came out that I found helpful for building on other parts of routines

[@av-qf3uu]

Finch is a great app where you can raise a bird and buy it clothes by completing self care tasks!! Feels perfect for this!

[@StephieOmbre]

@@camiscreatures could you link that video down below

[@alexisscholtes1206]

@@camiscreatures thank you so much!!

[@camiscreatures]

@@StephieOmbre I tried posting the link twice but I think links in the comments might get flagged. I can’t tell if my account is glitching but I checked on both my devices and it doesn’t show either comment. Hopefully it’s a glitch but I don’t know if it’s there or not

[@dulcierobertson7828]

Lol I think I OVERdo the "romanticising boring tasks" one, I will hype up the most mind numbing paperwork by going "Ooooh this'll be so fun, I'm gonna come round, we'll make some coffee, put some music on, and ✨fill out our council tax forms✨ 😃"

[@TurtleStormer]

I can romanticize any activity it’s my superpower!!

[@jessv4300]

I feel like the perspective of “watching nature happen around you” is so underrated!! I had a yard sale last weekend and when it was slow, I watched robins pull worms out of the ground. It was genuinely fascinating, and even more so when I went to google and learned HOW they’re able to find worms so well. I love that I’ve seen more people online saying to get outside, but what really makes me feel connected to nature is learning about it and watching it happen!!

[@RoundSeal]

Using a 'trash book' to collect sudden, disorganised ideas is a huge help! Getting the thought _out_ of your head and letting it go so that you don't have to worry about it interrupting the current task, and knowing exactly where you can go to sift through them all when you're done...💯💯💯 I keep a few different journals and going through my trash book to migrate that information into the correct journal is definitely a nice, low-impact activity at the end of the day.

[@innerpeaceambientnoise1722]

Y'all PLEASE go outside, I think it's so easy to forget how beautiful clean air is. Access to clean air is a human right that sadly so many of us across the globe don't have. I'm from cancer alley, and the first time I travelled away from here, I learned what "fresh air" was (because that phrase never made sense to me). We literally get "air quality alerts" on our phones warning us to not go outside, and the summers are so intense that if I'm outside for more than 20 min at a time I get light-headed and dizzy. So not only is clean air access something worth fighting for, but like Shelby said, it's integral to being happy as humans! If you've got clean air, please go show it some love. It's my current goal to move away from here and go breathe in peace lol

[@jessv4300]

I hadn’t realized it until you mentioned it here, but the benefits of delayed gratification are SO real. I got really into sewing when I had lots of free time my senior year of HS, which also happened to be when my ADHD symptoms seemed to appear less. I’m sure there were other factors at play too, but being excited to get back to sewing after school/work had me on my phone WAY less and I really did feel more mentally healthy.

[@kolmenoitaayeet]

As someone that works long hours, I sometimes find it difficult to get outside every day. But, I've kind of made a habit of going onto my terrace every day after work for at least 5-10 minutes because I have so many plants. Taking care of them brings me so much joy! Seeing all of the buggos and borbs come by and seeing what sorts of veggies my plants have produced for me really motivates me to get myself outside. Also, I read Tippy's treats as "Catnip and Chili" and my first thought was "oh, wow, that sounds like a cool combo!" but then, my second thought was "FOR A CAT?!" lol

[@kayleighf.6599]

On my bike, pulling my kid-trailer to pick her up, in a wide bike lane, a car yelled "use a sidewalk!" Their ignorance made me so mad! 😅 Support bike friendly infrastructure yall❤

[@StephieOmbre]

im so happy your doing this video I recently got diagnosed with adhd two weeks and have been struggling so much but ive been binging your videos all week to get back into my sustainability part of my life im trying my best to do so and everything I can to be productive even when my adhd is telling me to rot in bed

[@MistressYumi]

I started doing autoships about 6 months ago, and it was a game changer. I was also doing meal shipments a few times a week but it's on break because it's bbq season in Canada and that requires much less mental energy for me - don't ask me why. I no longer have to run around, no longer have to expend energy thinking about items, AND i know what to budget for these things. Auto ship saves me time, mental energy, and money, it's a no brainer for my needs.

[@tangledkelpp]

i love delayed gratification! i figured out recently that i'm very reward driven, and if i want to play a game or do something for fun at home, then i can do something productive first and that way it feels even better when i have the reward since i removed the guilt of not having the productive thing done

[@reaganutz7887]

Thank you for speaking on how you deal with your ADHD. So many women go undiagnosed and go so long without understanding how their brains work. Loved this video ❤

[@TurtleStormer]

I use the Finch app to set goals! I get to take care of a little animated bird and there’s only incentives to complete goals, not punishments for not. I think it’s a great way to do the habit menu because I know I don’t complete everything every day but it keeps me consistent

[@annaslater11]

Yessss me too!! I was just thinking - that's where I keep my habit menu

[@alexandra1415]

I love finch + the journeys feature to keep goals organised

[@TurtleStormer]

@@alexandra1415 yes! And then I get more gems over time for them

[@Madie-Jo]

This is so cute! I have a Forest app where you set your own timer and if you complete the timer you get a tree but if you get distracted or cancel the timer your tree dies, and it creates a Forest for you. I was just thinking I wanted to get an app that does what Finch does!

[@TurtleStormer]

@@Madie-Jo yeah forest would stress me out - I like the finch app for its more inventive approach

[@missyhoman6156]

Do you have a sustainable skincare routine video? Your skin is amazing, and I'm always looking for great products that can be refilled or are easily recyclable.

[@Shelbizleee]

No but I am thinking of doing an updated routine and/or maybe favorites video?? Would that be helpful?

[@missyhoman6156]

@@Shelbizleee Yes that would be great!

[@rachelfishbein1478]

I'm so glad you posted this video today, and I had a feeling there might be an ADHD diagnosis reveal; something about the vibe at the beginning of the video. I was diagnosed with ADHD last year and have also been struggling with anxiety for my entire adult life (and apparently mild OCD, I recently learned), so welcome to the tribe of women who were left behind. I was on an antidepressant that was meant to help address the ADHD for about 6 months, but I came to realize that it had taken my anxiety and OCD behaviors to such astronomical levels that people were actively avoiding me at work, and I had no relationships outside of it. Being off it even for a week I feel like a completely different and much more content person. I am also getting ready to move into my first house (renting still, but a huge step up), and my mind is just on fire with these same considerations for productivity and general happiness (time outside, making things, utilizing sustainable conveniences that are available to me without shame). I love the goal of hosting monthly parties, and it's something I'm considering, too.

[@Scrugglebus]

Such sage advice, Shelby. Thank you thank you for posting this today. I’ve been really depressed and down on myself about not being a “productive girly” and living that “perfect lifestyle” for myself. This really inspires me to improve myself in ways that are realistic to me. Thank you so much! (The menu is happening!)

[@kalliemj]

Auto ship is so important for my cats medications. One or her medications lasts a month and takes up to two weeks to compound and her other medications come from two different sources and can take a week to compound and ship. And because none of them were prescribed at the same time or for the same amount of time it is really hard to keep track. Most of these aren’t available locally because they are specially designed for animals so apart from her insulin everything is online.

[@laurenberlin4502]

Any chance you'd do a video unpacking the ramifications of Ben and Jerry's separating from Unilever?

[@SustainablyBex]

I also used to be against the automated shipping for goods but it’s so good. I use smol and wgac, was very skeptic at first but their flexibility is wonderful to make sure you’re never without or either too much

[@peacefuldingus]

Love Tippy’s routine 😂

[@kaitydoes2185]

As always perfect timing Shelby! I’m currently in between jobs and am spending most of my time on my phone lately (since I don’t have my routine of going to work anymore) so creating new habits, bedtimes, setting intentions, etc. is a great reminder that just because I don’t have a schedule anymore doesn’t mean I should quit being thoughtful about my time 💕

[@Shelbizleee]

Good luck with all of that!! ❤️

[@cece2182]

Wow! I just found your channel and you hit the nail right on the head with daily activities!! I remember after being in UK for a couple months being sad coming back to us because everyone there is so active! It's not unheard of to ser ppl walking after work or dinner or ppl on bikes. Even running errands in day time! So j never had to "try" the way I do to get activities in. I love that!!!! ❤️ great perspective

[@heather2164]

Love the outside habit. I realized it grounds me when my anxiety is over the top. Also would you care to share the sunscreen you use. Thanks for the video.

[@Scorpio_ohno]

I’m pretty new to Texas and you’ve been recommended to me so much by the algorithm! I’m so happy! I really love your channel! Hope you have a great day! Off to make my lists!

[@jennifercole5788]

Liked this vulnerable video. You have so much in common with so many I hope you never feel alone 💕

[@Siures]

Why am I not surprised neither? A lot of KZbinrs I follow actually have adhd - although it’s not their content and in most cases I started to follow them before they knew themselves. As my son has ADHD and I see a lot of me in him I will (hopefully, it’s to much on my plate right now) seek a diagnosis. Was in a counseling about autism two years ago but since then I suspect it might be both, because I have the social stuff autistic people struggle with AND actually a quite classical childhood of someone with ADHD and high intelligence. As life gets stressful with two kids all my „systems“ broke down (like working in the middle of the night, having irregular work schedules, sports in the morning, evening doesn’t work…). I never get enough sleep. I forget appointments (something I never did in the past because I had time to just sit and think about it). I have paralysis at the desk because it’s simultaneously too complex and too much of the same. A connection of mine just came out as diagnosed with adhd and I plan to ask them where he got it… I also worked with habits for making sure I brush my teeth or something. Actually since having short hair I currently just very seldomly brush my hair because it isn’t a habit anymore.

[@marzettik]

I enjoyed this. I really like this mindset change from routines to habits. ❤

[@ericachapin2060]

I've been considering using Thrive Market and I think learning that they are actually sustainable is going to be what pushes me to finally do it

[@dominiquecummings8367]

These are all such amazing ideas. Thanks

[@Shelbizleee]

Yay I’m so happy you find them helpful 🫶

[@thatjillgirl]

I love the habit menu idea! I think most of us really struggle with maintaining a consistent routine. Things happen and you get thrown off your schedule, and then once you lose the momentum, it becomes hard to restart it. My work schedule is such that any of my healthy habits have to be somewhat flexible or else they're just not going to happen.

[@erilonearth]

i loved this video !! this was really helpful, as my brain operates so closely to the way yours does too. normalizing menus/habits vs strict routines is such a game changer ~

[@donnaadkins2429]

I have had an Oura ring for a couple of years now and I love it!! Its so helpful at tracking the little changes that we don't realise has a knock on effect. Love this habit menu idea!

[@KowaiZuzu]

My job doesn't allow me to keep a routine, so I'll definitely be trying the habit menu

[@IndiePrincessKhait]

Holy Cow get out of my head. I needed this video right now! Thank you!

[@juliadandy6019]

If you dont mind me asking, what is that face stick sunscreen uou were using? Im really icked by sunscreen texture and have never seen a more compact face stick. Thanks for all you do

[@jillianharringtonperkins]

The vlogbrothers Format in this video was executed flawlessly lol idk you intended to do The Format or not but I love it

[@evadamole]

1. habits menu 2. auto-refills (on regular orders) 3. wear sunscreen + putting things in the place where forming a habit is easier 4. go outside 5. track your health 6. activity as utility 7. get uncomfy 8. romanticize 9. make stuff 10. low-dopamine activities 11. delayed gratification 12. lists, lists, lists 13. automate habits like nighttime routine: set timers, use blue light reduction

[@charlottequincoses3231]

was looking for this comment thank you!!

[@brittaneewright]

Loved this video!! ❤

[@applebloomful]

I love this video!! Not sure if you've talked about them already, but do you have thoughts on The Rounds?

[@emmi3785]

I don't have ADHD, but I have benefitted from the combining positive rutine with something that needs to be done, but I don't enjoy. Making tea is my happy morning routine. It is mindfulness thing also. How am I feeling? What tea would be perfect for my mood? While I'm waiting water to be heated (and tea to become ready), I clean-up sone of the kitchen. This also helps with getting some household win under my belt already in the morning, making me feel better about myself.

[@rockyrodriguez3984]

Love your channel and videos. Thank you so much for sharing! You have been an inspiration.

[@gobunny8268]

these are all so helpful, thank you so much! also i am OBSESSED with your plant daddy hat! is it something i can purchase?!

[@Shelbizleee]

Thank you!! And yes I think so. It’s made by a queer artist in Austin but I’m not sure of his shop name. Maybe if you Google that you can find it??

[@gobunny8268]

@@Shelbizleee thanks so much for your reply!! and that is awesome! I'll check it out:)

[@jocelynfullmer2472]

I love your videos Shelby!

[@kaleyprice-kaleikini337]

I love this video so much

[@laurenambrose4012]

Awesome video! Thank you for the helpful ideas. Can you please share your summer bucket list?

[@Shelbizleee]

I’m making a series about it! Probably post it to shorts & tiktok 🫶

[@jewelsp4990]

I’m definitely going to check out Thrive! Ty sm for all of the habit ideas. Also, I related SO much to you sharing about having an ADHD brain, so exhausting, yay for notes!

[@passivelyobsessive5460]

Another reason I’ve come to is like routines is it can make life boring. I get tired of doing the same old thing every single day. So when I have a menu to select from I’m actually happy to do the things I choose to do. It kind of goes hand in hand with the romanticizing habit I guess lol

[@TVKAS3242]

I loved so much of what you said throughout this video!, and as someone else with social anxiety I totally get where you are coming from when it comes to comfort. I joined a bouldering (another form of rock climbing) for the girls gays theys in my city and finding a place where my anxiety isn't crazy was super hard but I'm glad I did it. 19:42, you might enjoy a tufting class! I did one to make my rug it was so fun but def makes you see how much work goes into it. 😊

[@kinakomochi_cats]

I love this! Since I got long covid I can't do even 1/4 of the things I could do and I feel frustrated, so making a habits menu seems like a great idea to not feel frustrated. Also, do you have more info about the romanticization? I think I need that for this time in my life

[@Klara_is_finding_herself]

Thank you for this video 💚 Happy weekend 💚

[@ashleelynn7094]

Omg we are on the same wavelength lol I literally just this morning finally decided to give Thrive Market a try so thanks for the code! And also I totally identify with your routine struggles (got ADHD in the family, so who knows with me too) 😅.

[@PumpkinMozie]

Not relevant to the video but I just wanted to say that I bought and used Shelby’s period underwear and it was amazing. Def recommend

[@Shelbizleee]

OMG OMG thank you so much!!

[@lillabenak8802]

Love your points! Thank you!

[@tinkgothangel]

I am sorry if you mentioned this already but the sunscreen stick you are using in your video what is that? It looks a whole lot easier than slathering liquid on your face.

[@gaablove8054]

"Eat, sleep, poop, be cute" lmao need that on a shirt 😂

[@rachelpar8478]

Wait what’s the blue and red light thing ??? Where can I buy it ????😢

[@jolenegraci]

What's the sunscreen stick used in this video? Does it work well?

[@Marsolan]

You are just so adorable and inspiring and brave!!! Thank you

[@alyssapfluger4236]

Literally all day i have to say "one thing at a time" getting ready for the day? Bush my teeth THEN get dressed, or ill get disteacted and wander around with my toothbrush in my mouth and it takes much longer. Work? I have to force myself to focus on one email at a time or it gets chaotic

[@rubyerickson9964]

What sunscreen do you use? I’ve been looking for a good zero waste alternative!

[@Shelbizleee]

I have never found a good zero waste sunscreen, so it’s an area I do not worry about the waste bc it’s medical/ health necessity.

[@skyera2213]

Needed this motivation

[@ivannavargas1249]

Could you give us a review of “Yepoda” (skincare brand) from a sustainable pov? They call themself a sustainable brand, and I want to know how true it is

[@WhattheFatisHappening]

Could you please do a review on oil pulling? 🙏🙏🙏

[@SarahsShipwreck]

Girl I was diagnosed 2 years ago! I struggle so much with energy. I chose to do meds and it helps but it still is rough! Tips??

[@Shelbizleee]

This video = my best tips 😭 it dictates my life & these things are the only things I’ve found to help me function

[@SarahsShipwreck]

@@Shelbizleee I’m going to set my lights on a timer now😂

[@DanielleFerreira-uk9yt]

I have a weird problem… I’ve decided I want to bike places more and so I got my old bike out of storage and I used to ride this thing all the time. Riding it now is so painful. My quads fill up with lactic acid and burn like no one’s business. I can barely go a mile on flat ground. My butt hurts so bad from the seat and I get back pain within 5 minutes of pedaling. I’ve been doing 1 mile 3 times a week for a month now and have seen no improvements. I don’t understand. I’m a very active person- I play soccer twice a week and I run 5ks regularly. What am I doing wrong?

[@doubles1545]

If you have a good quality bike shop near you, go in with your bike and ask if they can help you with adjustments and (possibly) a more comfortable seat. If it’s hurting you to ride, your bicycle is probably not adjusted correctly to your body.

[@lexycarrillo6270]

I thought your cat was a skunk at first glance 😂

[@user-fay1987]

Anyone know what brand of sunscreen she was using?

[@denice6832]

It looks like the beauty of joseson sunscreen stick

[@kselby4936]

i'm curious, what kind of sunscreen you use or would recommend?

[@stevedorecharley2849]

I ❤ all your plants. ❤️🪴

[@emmalleedoublev7138]

Not me pulling up my notes app as she tells me this stuff

[@ivanpadilla4479]

Hahaha #8 i’ve started to do for winter stuff about 2 yrs ago, it sounds so lame as romanticizing tho. It is very helpful I just can’t help but laugh at the way it sounds

[@11SHS2012]

What sunscreen do you use?

[@Marsolan]

Cardinals ❤❤❤❤❤

[@bananamary5907]

Unrelated but if anyone has biodegradable phonecase recommendations that’s not pela bc they no longer ship to where i live :(

[@allisonl.4247]

The cat staring ominously during the sunscreen segment 💀

[@OneDayWeAreFree]

These are great! I like to put in a clarification with going out of my comfort zone of making sure it's in the Zone of Tolerance. So that while it's stretching me, it's not something to the point of being overwhelming or likely to lead to burnout by doing repeatedly.

[@eggrat6]

Does anyone know what kind of lights Shelby is talking about at the end?

[@Shelbizleee]

It’s just an automation, there are several types of plug ins, bulbs etc it’s not specific!

[@eggrat6]

@@Shelbizleee Thank you!!

[@myja100]

Hey! Just wanted to say that sunscreen in sticks has been scientifically proven to basically not be effective. I thought you ought to know! Love these ideas 🌻

[@kayleighf.6599]

Yay Cyclist! Bikes are the best ❤

[@Kpopies_GotNoBrain]

Can anyone provide timestamp

[@vduback]

I hope you are putting sunscreen everywhere.

[@Shelbizleee]

nah just to walk outside I do not but if I actively spending time outside I typically wear UPF clothing

[@ao_qwq]

I made the habit menu for myself haha, let’s see how it goes!

[@TBAKID]

Lawn mommy

[@kaitycoups]

thank you for this video!! there’s so much effort put in🩷🧚🏼‍♀️🌷