15 Best First Date Tips For Men/First Date Do's And Don'ts

In this video, Jeff from The Style gives his top 15 best first date tips. He talks about the dos and don'ts men should pay attention to on the first date.
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[@Wolf-re3eq]

I’m watching this in my car waiting for the girl to get here on the first date. The suspense is buildings let’s go boys! I got this!

[@iconakachronic2467]

Go catch em all ash! 🤣

[@balwc147]

😂😂😂👌

[@yefrincalderon7744]

How did it go lol

[@doctor654]

How did it go?

[@waildoesstuff1393]

How did it go

[@savvylifestrategies9445]

Great info, Jeff. Tip #16: Let her do most of the talking, and she will think you are a great conversationalist :-)

[@TheStyleOG]

I like it Lou !

[@Jules_Black]

Also, if you let a woman talk long enough, she will eventually tell on herself. Listen carefully and you will find out what kind of woman she is.

[@wasabista1613]

Very true. If you want to be a good conversationalist, be a good listener. If you think about it, that's what you do when you're hanging out with your friends -- you already like them, so you're genuinely interested in their lives, so you listen. Do that with the ladies and the date will be fun.

[@iammaximus614]

Ask & listen to these?? Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams ✌️😎 As it was commented previously

[@lovebug6388]

@@Jules_Black same with you all 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@linebyline901]

1. Plan the date 2. Don't be cheap 3. Dress stylish 4. Use subtle cologne 5. Be punctual 6. Pre-plan topics of convo 7. Ask her questions about her and listen 8. Don't be too serious/heavy; keep conversations light 9. Don't brag 10. Be a Gentleman (open the door, pick up a bill) 11. Provide her a genuine compliment 12. Don't be too aggressive 13. Don't drink too much alcohol 14. Don't talk about your ex

[@mileshardeem2375]

Thanks, saves a ton of time to just read the tips instead of watching a 'perfect 10 minute yt algorithm video'.

[@jeffanco9367]

So I took a first date to one of my favorite restaurants. The server comes over and says “nice to see you both here again”. 😳 20 years later my wife still teases me about our first date!

[@TheStyleOG]

Uh oh !! Lol

[@Blodia1990]

Top 5 best comments I've ever heard lol Your wife is amazing

[@sleepinggiant575]

@@Blodia1990 def top 5

[@vexriki4265]

Why are you here if you've been married for 20 years 😂

[@louiscyfer6944]

@@TheStyleOG how do you train to have such narrow shoulders?

[@j.t.8397]

Open her door. It's seems like a given but I see fellas all of the time who will not. Classics never go out of style gentlemen! Props OG.

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute JT!

[@dwaynesides187]

Confidence confidence confidence number one in my book!

[@TheStyleOG]

that helps Wayne!

[@GamingDog20]

Very true. Girls don't like shy guys

[@bullymaguire7503]

Confidence? WE ARE AN ALPHA BUDDY

[@hughjanus2781]

@@GamingDog20 Well I’m autistic so I’m screwed

[@suttersutter4426]

Its not that we don’t like shy guys. We don’t like entitled guys who think it is our job to create a conversation and a emotional/sexual bond without them taking any effort to do so. If you are not talking and giving appropriate info about yourself, then you not shy, you are just a entitled covert narcissist.

[@23libra79]

Quick tip Fellas.... When you talk about your Ex It makes you look bad as a person. Just say it didn’t work between us.

[@TheStyleOG]

Exactly!

[@sleepinggiant575]

Braaaaa that shit kills the vibe I learned this at 38

[@georgeelder8415]

"It was dope, they all were!"

[@robertdunne7914]

Salute to everyone in the comments section 👊

[@ryancascardo66]

This one hopefully will go without saying, but: make sure you’re hygienic and well-groomed

[@TheStyleOG]

indeed Ryan!

[@TreFKennedy]

1st date tip, keep her laughing because humor equates 2 things, that your honest and that you’re smart 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽

[@wasabista1613]

Laughter is extra strength panty remover. That's why we get jealous when we're at a party with the wife or girlfriend, and she's talking to some other guy who's making her laugh.

[@TheNunakun]

I'll be sure to wipe out my dinosaur feather and give her the giggly tickles.

[@DrB187]

Yo OG that suit and shirt combo is fire!

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks D B!

[@NASSAfellow]

I'm going to put this on all the posts I watched. I watched this video the morning of my first date and it helped a tonne. Stories about my life I was struggling to think of beforehand but funny ones came to me during the date just as I needed it. If you ever start discussing something negative, always turn it positive with a funny story. Make her laugh, never sit opposite if you can. Always get there before her. The bouncers gave me one last tip before the date arrived. I was standing in the cold lol. Don't wait outside; it makes you look desperate. Also how you feel, she feels so push away nerves by talking to those around you before she arrives and familiarising yourself with the environment. Make bets with her and lose so she can buy you a drink too. Let her repay the evening with only a drink/ice cream or whatever during the same date (she should offer). Go kino EARLY. Start with a hug, she may or may not choose a peck. Be decisive but a gentleman e.g. about when to eat or do things etc. Don't ask her where she wants to go, have things planned out. Flow in conversation. Move environments, even if it's seats in the same bar. Have things planned like a competitive or team work activity that allows you to interact. Gentle taps on her shoulder whilst laughing, briefly move your hand over hers and let go whilst your both laughing. But don't go too early on this, it has to set up a relationship for a bit. So maybe an hour in if it's going well. Move in close sitting next to her. Maybe even lean close to say something funny (make sure your mouth hygiene is impeccable. Floss, Use a tongue cleaner/scraper with tongue gel and ultradex to be sure). If it's going well you should have tonnes to talk about. Someone here said FORD family, occupation, recreation, dreams. Don't reveal too much about yourself if you want a second date. Tease her a little, to break down her wall but don't make her feel insecure. Compliment something she has done e.g. hair/worn rather than a feature of her body. Never compliment makeup; the reasons for that should be obvious. If the date is successful she'd set up the second one in some way, it might be mentioning she's doing something for charity etc. Take interest in HER. Generally if things are going well, her eyes won't wander, this is why it is so important you set up an environment you're comfortable with. The worse you are with conversation, the more external focus you need e.g. bowling to fill the gaps/tour a stately home, palace together or go on a boat ride. Point out similarities between you rather than differences. Choose DIFFERENT drinks to her on purpose after asking what she's having to show you have a mind of your own. Do something spontaneous at least once during the date like do something you're both willing to do to make you both embarrassed like dance randomly for a few seconds on your way out. It will show her CONFIDENCE and fun and exciting. You'll only have confidence if you calm your nerves that's why I'll say it again, talk to people around you and make small talk to compose yourself before the date. Finally go kino again at the end, with a hug, hopefully she'll give you the peck this time. Remember the aim of the first date is NOT to get a kiss (that's a Hollywood thing), but instead, a second date with her. Hopefully it's her that sets you up. Walk her to wherever she's going to get her ride home. Be a gentleman and put your arm round her, asking her if she doesn't mind you bringing her close if she's cold. Finally after an hour or two text to ask if she got home safely, she'll probably text saying she had a lovely time before that though. Give her a chance to do it though. Resist the urge to text her the next day before she does. Resist a further urge to text back straight away. That urge will be the hardest you've done. Respond with things that follow up on things you talked about during the date. Make her feel good about herself but always make yourself the prize and like a kitten, she'll keep interest in the ball of wool. Never boast though. I learned so much in one night and can't believe how many years I feared this day... And it went beautifully. She set up the next date. I just want to thank all of you in the comments section and the creator of this video who literally changed my life. Don't be put off if it goes bad, not everyone is made for each other and it is better you break off and stay friends than force something that won't work. Take it all slow. Don't be disheartened. Perfect practise makes perfect. Good luck brothers.

[@johnlombardo7816]

Dang thanks my man that was insightful.. question.. what if I'm driving her home.. should I get out and walk her to her door? Or just get out and open the door for her hug her and send her on her way? Or .. try to see if the convo goes on at all in the car? ..

[@thetherapeuticcoacht.7260]

@@johnlombardo7816 my suggestion is: if the conversation is going well, pull up to the house and finish the conversation (during a break in thought) by saying how you’ve enjoyed her etc. as you’re preparing to get out and open her car door.. see what she does. She could ask you in or give you a clue that she is preparing to leave the car as well. Either way, be a gentleman and open her door at least and stay outside the car until she gets inside safely.

[@johnlombardo7816]

@@thetherapeuticcoacht.7260 appreciate you ❤️

[@NASSAfellow]

@@johnlombardo7816 I would open the door for her but not walk her to her door. Because she may feel pressured to invite you in and if you don't then you'll kind of feel like you're doing a walk of shame back to your car. It doesn't feel good for her either way and makes her like you a little less due to a law of psychology. If you do something for someone the brain makes you think you did it because you like them. If you even think you have hurt someone (even unintentionally) the brain tries to justify your behaviour making you like them slightly less. Keep your integrity and only go to her front door if she invites you in. Otherwise play it cool and confident and don't look needy. There is an exception to this though. If she lives in flats /quite some way/ in a sketchy area, I'd casually offer to take walk her to her door but make it pretty obvious you're genuinely thinking about her safety rather than her pants. Either way she will make it obvious if she wants you in on the first night but again don't be disheartened a case could be made for it being better if she doesn't want to invite you in on your first date. Good luck with it!

[@johnlombardo7816]

@NASSAfellow thanks and I agree.. I would likely decline the first night anyway but good point ! Appreciate ya! 👊

[@lovepink7804]

Please stop talking about your ex it's totally a turn off. If you're trying to court me then why are we talking about your ex. Great video!

[@TheStyleOG]

Tell em !

[@anth1315]

Best tip i can give...🗣 Be Yourself!!

[@TheStyleOG]

true!

[@OrangePony75]

Exception made if “being yourself” is getting you no second dates.

[@TheNunakun]

I wish I had an invisible Jeff right next to me on my first date. Life would be _fly_ . Great tips brother.

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks!

[@steveos3185]

Invisible would take your woman away lol

[@ec704]

I'm 46 years old. I thought was the last one paying for date opening doors. .thank you

[@TheStyleOG]

chivalry will never die!

[@CooLT0531]

"I watch Jeff the Style OG" "...Your place or mine?" On a serious note, very nice tips, OG! I consider almost all of these absolutely crucial that all people should follow. Some of these actually apply to women as well! My extra 2 cents: for conversation topics, just remember the FORD acronym that stands for Family, Occupation, Recreation and Dreams. These are usually safe to ask about, depending on the lady and the situation, my favs being the latter two. Salute!

[@TheStyleOG]

I like or Cool!

[@smilezdaquiet1970]

Having Fresh Breath

[@TheStyleOG]

Truth!

[@sigspearthumb2313]

That’s not even first date advice, just life advice lmao

[@littlelady3544]

So true

[@milekrizman]

Listerine

[@ChachiTelevision1979]

My first date with my fiancée was a night in Georgetown. We went to a place she raved about that she used to go to in her undergrad. Then we walked around for awhile, then around 11P, we started talking about how awesome Ben’s Chili Bowl is (a DC staple for halfsmoke chili dogs) - we spontaneously went there and talked for hours. It wasn’t extravagant, but it was awesome

[@alenferina7381]

Spot on! Love you man. Thanks for the help!

[@cliftonsledge962]

Nice tips O.G. and salute!!! But I’m married so date night for me is like Chuck E. Cheese. 🤣 lol

[@preselectdapp7495]

Great video Jeff! Thanks a lot

[@angelpassion7259]

Late but another tip is don’t always feel like the silence is a bad thing, no need to rush to find something to say. Just look at her, exchange smiles and just let the silence last for a moment then go from there

[@wasimh2104]

Great tips Jeff. I'm digging the background music, what is it? Thanks

[@Marshal_Dunnik]

All very good tips. Glad I found this channel. Keep on keepin' on.

[@lukeniwollo7680]

Style OG always on point 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@kennethhasuik8042]

Indeed I agree. Good helpful tips to remember. Salute!

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute Kenneth!

[@joshlmccall6294]

Much love💞.. thanks for the advice!😎

[@TheStyleOG]

Much love !

[@Chase_01]

The professionalism of your content is unreal love the work keep it up 👍

[@daddylong69]

I havnt been in a date in a while but I have one tonight and this video definetly gave me a good lil confidence boost and some careful reminders. 🔥 Nice video man.

[@tobe8236]

Thanks for the tips jeff..as always, great video

[@TheStyleOG]

No problem!

[@DCampusano1]

Very solid list of tips. One thing you left out is good hygiene, very important for me.. There is not a bigger turn off for me than someone with halitosis or strong body odor on a first date. (This goes for both men & women).

[@goldheart47]

Style OG you’re giving some great advice, I appreciate it keep it up 👍🏾

[@TheStyleOG]

My man !

[@CitizenOfSymphonia]

This dude exudes class. Great advice. Most of it is pretty fundamental but hearing it from a guy like this really gives me more confidence to carry it out. Thanks for the help!

[@gopnikstyle9148]

Idk this dude is how old and isn't married I'm assuming because no ring? But giving out dating advice? He could just be a dog though so who knows

[@BagsOfDirt218]

This great material, thanks for this! Great jacket btw.

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks Sean !

[@AJMacDonaldJr]

Good advice G! 😎 Thanks!

[@TheStyleOG]

You got it A J!

[@danielrus7117]

Great tips! Thanks!

[@TheStyleOG]

Glad it was helpful!

[@davidlyons6513]

Solid list O.G....salute!

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute David!

[@GankerJr]

Going on my first date since college. It's been a few years. Thank you for the video.

[@luvlabso130]

Awesome video you are correct it is such a turn-off when your date starts talking about their ex or other dates

[@RC-lo4sq]

O.G. comes through yet again with the solid info! Saaalute!

[@TheStyleOG]

I try Rod!

[@RizwanKler]

Salute O.G! Top tips dude 👍

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks Riz!

[@j.fordsr.777]

Good tips, much respect to the O.G.!✊🏾

[@TheStyleOG]

Respect Francis!

[@andybiondi195]

Amazing as always but such an important subject and you nailed it. Jeff you are a class act!

[@TheStyleOG]

Appreciate it Andy !

[@Coolman1985]

Good advice, it be nice if you made a longer version of this same video

[@melvinmckinney9120]

Great video Jeff. Sound advice my friend!!!

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks Melvin!

[@charlescollins1992]

great video, I could've used these tips last night.

[@TheStyleOG]

use them next time!

[@hugoingelhammar6163]

So, I've been out of the dating game for a while due to family trauma and healh problems. Last friday I went on a date, which I enjoyed a lot, but the girl never answered me afterwards. I was totally confused, but now I realized after watching this that I made quite alot of mistakes. So thank you for all the tips, I will alter these things and hope for better luck next time!

[@icelifter7115]

Good luck bro

[@nicanorwatts8784]

Wonderful advice

[@ShinobiVuDU]

One of the best way to not have awkward silence, is to be comfortable with silence. And to say that to her. She's equally as nervous as you are about this, it's a human experience. if you label it, mean it, and bond over it an uncomfortable silence is nearly impossible.

[@mescnick]

thanks

[@moorewhitney1979]

Thank you!! Nervous af but this helped a lot!!

[@moeblisss12]

OG you’re contributing to society immensely with these tips 👌🏿👌🏿👌🏿

[@TheStyleOG]

Appreciate it !

[@derekdauchan2741]

Agree 100 % Salute, Brother Jeff !

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute Derek!

[@supravasabat8381]

I'm a woman and I agree on wtv he said. Good points 👍

[@josepht.7937]

Outstanding tips, my brother! Well explained!👍

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks Joseph!

[@starttakinnotez]

I was texting a woman for a week. My first "date" with her was a 4 hour phone call. We spoke about our jobs first. We are both in the medical field so we clicked. Asked what our zodiac signs are. We then spoke about a lot of deep stuff. Love languages, spirituality, attachment styles, what we value in a partner, goals for the future, the difference between infatuation, limerence, and love (she knew what that is which is a huge ✔️ for me.) We are finally going to meet in person tomorrow at a movie. Godzilla V Kong. I gave her 5 options. 2 romantic comedies, a Disney movie, and 2 actions movies. That's the one she chose because the budget was the highest! It's going to be fun.

[@kizito0164]

Are you together now😀

[@starttakinnotez]

@@kizito0164 nope. I left her for my current girlfriend of over a year.

[@itsomar855]

How did it go?

[@DarthBane-zf8wv]

Zodiac signs is a big red flag

[@nandafirmansyah5026]

thanks G

[@myway73100]

Great information I'm going to use this. Question for you Style O.G. It's been awhile since I've dated. So my approach needs work. Any tips on approaching a woman whether she's alone or with other women?

[@jimmyedmondsjr9376]

Great tips as always.

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks Jimmy!

[@kimashly2412]

Great video O.G👌🏾

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks Kim!

[@jonathanrobinson9208]

Great advice on how to make a first impression !👌❤

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks Jonathan!

[@lilrockfromga5092]

Very good advice , keep it coming

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks!

[@donalddavenport7516]

What's up Jeff Donald from Cincinnati checking in as always great advice Salute

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute Donald !

[@bobbyrebholz2183]

I agree with not skimping on the quality of the first date. There's also a cool flip side to that. Sometimes, you can tell a lot about a girl if she can simply go to a place like Chipotle with you, have a good time on a casual lunch date, and you can talk about fun stuff. Ultimately that's what you're gonna be doing anyway once the initial phases of dating continues. It's like you see who they really are by just being with you without formalities.

[@damiensmith7802]

Awesome stuff big bro!

[@TheStyleOG]

Big thanks!

[@wm8673]

EXCELLENT ADVICE

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks March!

[@jerichotraxler7444]

Thank you sir !!

[@TheStyleOG]

Most welcome!

[@adamblesener2916]

Great tips that definitely helped me be just a little less nervous before my date. Still extremely nervous, but less lol

[@blewgrassboy8461]

Jeff Salute i followed all the tips and it worked way better than expected. I thought I had game but man I must Salute the style OG

[@TheStyleOG]

Glad to hear it Leonard!

[@blewgrassboy8461]

@@TheStyleOG yo man I love what you doing brother I even wore what you said to wear on the date and been doing it at work and the ladies do notice keep it up man and thanks for responding that really shows your dedication

[@jmorgan0829]

Great info.. I agree with all addition mk sure the breath is fresh.lol good video bro ❤

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks Jeannine !

[@mohammedsuleman1821]

Great vid! Big fan!

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks Mohammed!

[@davidtaylor8787]

Excellent tips for a first date Jeff! You can't go wrong with your great advice! 👍 Salute!!

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute David !

[@sli8361]

OG with some great tips.

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks!

[@obadiahthepinnacle9007]

Jeff the style OG, you ain't let me down yet with none of your videos my brother! Another great tip on that first date is * EYE CONTACT* Obviously not too much because it's as if you're staring her down too , and it can make her uncomfortable. On the other hand, definitely not too little because it makes you seem like everything you're speaking about, you're only making it up. EYE CONTACT shows confidence in yourself, and more importantly your interest

[@TheStyleOG]

Well said!

[@canelake34]

Grand Slam By The Style OG! Bruh U said that you were going new and Improved and U knocked it outta The Park! Top Notch! Top Notch!

[@TheStyleOG]

My man Terrance !

[@aerialviper5891]

Thanks man, they are minor but huge help. But you were right about fear of blank space

[@shandaj8479]

Thank you! You advised them very well. I wanted to watch to see what men are doing today because so many have lost the definition of a gentleman do’s and don’t s.

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute Shanda!

[@AnnieinKC]

Love your tips, very classy. If a man asks me sex questions on a first date, there won't be a second date. I would really like for you to review Dr. Ramani's tips re narcissists and do a video on spotting them at 500 paces! Smiles, Annie

[@OneDaySage]

First time viewer* I appreciate your classiness and you have some great advice in this video 👍🏽

[@TheStyleOG]

Welcome aboard!

[@kenneth7826]

Excellent as always salute my brother

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute Kenneth!

[@bradyfoster9603]

I think everyone needs to know how important it is to make the plan and have a plan for the date, it goes a looong way.

[@kestoner9868]

Salute and big men moves and lead by example and show her that gentleman are still around and that shivery ain’t dead cause there are still some good men out there once again brother keep up the great work cause I’m always watching and listening to you brother and thank you for your platform of work and services that you bring us!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute Darrell !

[@mindysmagicjewelry4194]

I would really like to see another video by you that will teach young black men how to treat women with respect. You have to give respect to get respect. I am using your videos to teach my young black clients with disabilities how to socialize. This is a great resource. Too many young men are getting their dating advice from hip hop videos. Thank you.

[@elijahojie32]

Thank U so much,coz i don't know where to start, now I know

[@TheStyleOG]

No problem!

[@cuthbertwchance9045]

Outstanding information jeff keep it up Big Bro

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks my G!

[@kathobbs5846]

Love the tips! I appreciate a gentleman 💯! If a guy followed these tips I’d be impressed and respect him.

[@TheStyleOG]

I appreciate that!

[@Mr.BigNate]

Good shit my brotha. 👍🏾

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks!

[@ferdinandestrada9743]

Good video! Please do more relationship videos!

[@TheStyleOG]

Will do !

[@RJ-nl8do]

Great!

[@grant9047]

Gucci guilty is a great cologne for the first date but polo red is fire after a few dates.

[@pasensyanagodbless729]

This video needs more subscriber. His tips are complete and more accurate than million views.

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks!

[@spartanmc95]

Perfect timing :) first date lined up for tomorrow

[@TheStyleOG]

good luck!

[@gamalsankara1388]

All the best mate. You got this!

[@spartanmc95]

The Flying Poro went well :) still gotta find time for second date since we’re both pretty busy and have conflicting work schedules 😅

[@thebandit6123]

@@spartanmc95 so did you find time for the 2nd date?

[@spartanmc95]

@@thebandit6123 between Covid & moving for a new job, unfortunately no haha but still was a good time

[@triple_lix7515]

First date is next week on Saturday thx for the tips

[@mst675]

Excellent advice :)

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks Taria !

[@mst675]

@@TheStyleOG YW :)

[@lwesleymckenzieiii5304]

Great date tips, not only for first dates!!!

[@TheStyleOG]

Tanks Wesley!

[@Turkeyleggggggggg]

Thanks dawg

[@TheStyleOG]

No problem!

[@1-chef-875]

Your the best...had a good first date!

[@justinjoshua8269]

Hey Style O.G, just found this gem of a video in subscribed. I just asked a girl out...I've known her for 2 years but we've always interacted through our group of friends. I joined this school 2 years ago and I fit into her group of friends. I had a crush on her since i saw her and asked her out last night on graduation. She told yes but she also said that we should know each other better. I need to know if she's looking forward for this relationship to go well. Thanks to the video i know what to do on the first date but I'm kinda insecure as to whether she wants this relationship to succeed. Counting on you as always

[@Rubydiamondtrucker]

So what happened? Update?

[@wv-ti8zs]

Your dating advice reminds me of my dads dating advice. Good advice!💪

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks William!